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Dear Therapist: I Can’t Stop Thinking About My Therapist’s Grindr Profile

I now know intimate details about his sexual preferences, and feel like I can’t interact with him normally.
Source: BIANCA BAGNARELLI

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Dear Therapist,

I am an out gay man in my late 20s. Last weekend, while scrolling through Grindr, I came across my therapist's profile. Although his profile pictures don’t show his face, I was able to tell that the profile belonged to him from some contextual clues and a distinctive tattoo I recognized from his publicly available Facebook pictures.

What really threw me for a loop was my therapist's “About Me” section: In it, he described in explicit detail the kinds of sexual encounters he was searching for, as

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