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    Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape
    Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape
    Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape
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    Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape

    Written by Peggy Orenstein

    Narrated by Peggy Orenstein

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    The author of the New York Times bestseller Cinderella Ate My Daughter offers a clear-eyed picture of the new sexual landscape girls face in the post-princess stage—high school through college—and reveals how they are negotiating it.

    A generation gap has emerged between parents and their girls. Even in this age of helicopter parenting, the mothers and fathers of tomorrow’s women have little idea what their daughters are up to sexually or how they feel about it. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over seventy young women and a wide range of psychologists, academics, and experts, renowned journalist Peggy Orenstein goes where most others fear to tread, pulling back the curtain on the hidden truths, hard lessons, and important possibilities of girls’ sex lives in the modern world.

    While the media has focused—often to sensational effect—on the rise of casual sex and the prevalence of rape on campus, in Girls and Sex Peggy Orenstein brings much more to the table. She examines the ways in which porn and all its sexual myths have seeped into young people’s lives; what it means to be the “the perfect slut” and why many girls scorn virginity; the complicated terrain of hookup culture and the unfortunate realities surrounding assault. In Orenstein’s hands these issues are never reduced to simplistic “truths;” rather, her powerful reporting opens up a dialogue on a potent, often silent, subtext of American life today—giving readers comprehensive and in-depth information with which to understand, and navigate, this complicated new world.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherHarperAudio
    Release dateMar 29, 2016
    ISBN9780062209788
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    Peggy Orenstein

    Peggy Orenstein is the New York Times bestselling author of Boys & Sex, Don’t Call Me Princess, Girls & Sex, Cinderella Ate My Daughter, Waiting for Daisy, Flux, and Schoolgirls. A frequent contributor to the New York Times, she has written for the Washington Post, The Atlantic, Afar, The New Yorker, and other publications, and has contributed commentary to NPR’s All Things Considered and PBS NewsHour. She lives in Northern California.

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    • 5/5
      A must read for all of us. Informative, rich, and respects and paves the way to empowering individual sexual choices, from waiting till marriage to casual hookups.
    • 5/5
      Yes!!! I’m going to recommend this book to everyone I know! Parents of girls, parents of boys, women, men, everyone should read this. It gets to the root of the #metoo movement and rape culture by taking an honest look at the related social research.
    • 4/5
      I found this a helpful book, with insightful interviews backed up with on point statistics. While the chapters are somewhat freestanding, Orenstein builds a strong case for matter of fact but detailed sex education for students in their teens. All of the chapters were strong - no longer than necessary, but with plenty of information; chapter 6 on consent and chapter 7 on sex education and a better way forward struck me as particularly effective. This will be a book to revisit as a reminder in a few years.
    • 5/5
      It was so eye-opening and relevant. (I am an 18 year old girl.) I honestly think it should be read in schools by all genders. I know she also has a book called Boys and Sex, and I think students could pick to read one of the two, and they'd be better off. Highly recommend, especially for book clubbing!
    • 5/5
      I loved this book so much. It is full of #yesallwomen experiences that are so, so prevalent, and yet, rarely talked about. Orenstein also talks with individual young women about their experiences with everything from fellatio to sexual assault and gives us valuable information about how technology is changing these experiences.
    • 4/5
      Peggy Orenstein has written a great book that parents of both boys and girls should read. It has its limitations; her pool of interviewees is imperfect, for example (with only about 70 girls, it can only do so much). Parents should steel themselves not to panic and start generalizing from stories; I started doing that.

      The value of the book is in the way it asks us to reconceptualize how we discuss and present sexuality to teens, especially girls. Orenstein takes the expected shots at abstinence only education and purity, but she's also skeptical of sexuality as empowerment: the girls interviewed still use it in a performative way that is about the desire of those (usually boys) that they wish to attract. Is that really so empowering? The overall theme is how the girls haven't really been given the tools and encouragement to seek out sex and relationships on their terms, and to do what they want, when they want, with whom they want. They don't have adequate education about sex and sexuality for the most part--and what they do have is negative. They know how to avoid HIV and pregnancy, but they don't have a positive image of what they do want. Meanwhile, the boys have acquired the attitude that they are entitled to sex and that their own desires and pleasure is what counts, not that of the girls they see.

      The final chapter is devoted to discussing what we need to do to change this and give our kids lessons about sex and sexuality that will lead to true self respect (not chewing-gum metaphors) and respect for their partners. We need to get past our own prudishness about talking about sex.

      I'd give it 4.5 stars if I could.
    • 5/5
      Recommended Reading for all females from sixth grade to age 96. Should be required reading for all Preteens, Teens, Millennials, their Parents & Grandparents.This book rings true. It makes me both sad and furious for any girl or woman of any age who lacks the sex education and self-confidence to demand a fulfilling and joyful sex life. This book is both a wake-up call and a sexual bill of rights for females. Good sex is a reciprocal act. It is not a performance on demand. It does not require acting, faking orgasms, or servicing men (or women) who show no consideration, interest or knowledge of your needs or wants. The best & most enjoyable sexual contact (of any kind) is when sober and is fully consensual. If you feel the need to be drunk or drugged in order to have sex, that's a serious red flag.
    • 3/5
      Girls & Sex is an incredibly approachable book with a candidness to it that I think is essential for a text on such an uncomfortable topic. However, it is a very informal study and exploration which really only begins to skim the surface of such a complex, sensitive topic. One that, while compelling and emotional, presented me with a number of misgivings.

      The objectification of women, sexualization of young girls, the issues of consent and sexual assault, and double standards surrounding women and sex are all topics I have strong opinions on. Yet when I read nonfiction I expect and look forward to being challenged. Girls & Sex touches on all of these important subjects, but in a manner that was primarily only validating to me, a reader that likely already agrees with Orenstein on most of these issues. My other primary concern with Girls & Sex is the limited scope of Orenstein's sample population. While she acknowledges a limited diversity in the ethnic and social backgrounds of her subjects, it gave me the impression in reading that this study was narrow and offered a picture of only a very specific sample of young women in America. Also problematic for me was Orenstein's decision to forgo any sort of in text citations. This is not only bizarre, but incredibly frustrating when wanting to clarify her references.

      However, despite weak areas, Orenstein's reframing of how we discuss sexual development and intercourse with young people is critically important. Girls & Sex is flawed, but its messages on our need for fostering more open communication between parents and children while tackling issues of self-respect and lack of agency in young women are not.
    • 4/5
      Depressing and scary; Orenstein focuses on college-bound girls, a demographic close to my own heart, and finds that they don’t have a good vocabulary for figuring out what they want or a solid understanding that they have the right to enjoy sexual encounters. For the ones who have sex with young men, giving blowjobs is standard and even a way to keep emotional distance, as well as a way to avoid intercourse, but reciprocity is rare. At the end, Orenstein talks about how to teach girls that they deserve pleasure, and suggests that practicing scenarios—or even just figuring out in advance what you want and don’t want, and how you will say no and yes—can help them avoid regrets, even though they won’t necessarily avoid broken hearts. I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention alcohol, because Orenstein emphasizes how girls can use alcohol to navigate the highly culturally policed line between slut (wanted to have sex sober!) and prude (doesn’t want sex at all!) in ways that are harmful and leave them more vulnerable to coercion.
    • 4/5
      This is a very interesting read for anyone who works with young adults. It has some thoughtful insights that helped me to understand some of the behaviors of my students. I may end up recommending it to some of my college freshmen.