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    Why Marriages Fail
    Why Marriages Fail
    Why Marriages Fail
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    Why Marriages Fail

    By Daniel Mburu

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    One thing that has complicated marriage is changing roles for both men and women. The man was the bread winner; whereas the woman was the baker. The men went out to work in the emerging towns while the women remained at home taking care of the children. It would appear that everyone knew what was expected of them. There were clearly defined tasks for men and those of women. Men were traditionally supposed to be strong, competent, unemotional, problem-solvers, good providers and protectors. Women were supposed to be good cooks, baby sitters, housekeepers, nurturing, social and religious. As long as each played their expected role, the marriage relationship was smooth.
    With the technological advancement, women liberation movement, increased education among women; these roles have changed. Women are doing virtually everything the men have been doing. Since both sexes are equally able to perform nearly all of the tasks required in a marriage, neither has to depend on the other. The issue of having children is no longer necessary for marriage. Today women can choose to have children or not and can have children without husbands.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherDaniel Mburu
    Release dateMay 17, 2012
    ISBN9781476437545
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      Why Marriages Fail - Daniel Mburu

      Why Marriages Fail

      Published by Daniel Mburu at Smashwords

      Copyright 2012 Daniel Mburu

      Smashwords Edition License Notes

      This ebook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This ebook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please return to Smashwords.com and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.

      ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS:

      Special thanks go to those many married men and women (including close family friends); who volunteered to me their experiences of marriage. Without them, this book would never be.

      Thanks to my wife Mary Wairimu; for allowing me to use our experience of marriage in this book. To Josephine Wawira for encouraging me and Martha Kinyanjui for partnering with me in publishing this book. Finally, to my son Eric and daughter Claire: for having given my life a purpose.

      "Marriage is a book, in which the first chapter is written in poetry and the remaining in prose"

      Beverly Nicholas

      FORWARD

      As I read through this book, my eyes opened to those petty little things that may be the making or breaking of a marriage. I view marriage as a contract between a man and woman. African traditional marriages were based on conditions like bearing of children. Women and children were seen as wealth; the more wives a man had the richer. This popularized the concept polygamy among many communities in Kenya. Christian, Moslem, Hindu and Statutory marriages were based on differing terms of contract.

      Looked at from a Christian perspective, marriage is ordained by God. From the beginning, marriages were never meant to fail. Today all over the world; failed marriages are a reality we cannot shy away from. Many people desire weddings; few are ready for marriage. In this book, Daniel uses his own experience and those of others; to explore the realities of marriage today. He confronts those delicate little things that bring down marriages; in a rather straight forward, matter-of-factly manner, that is rare.

      Whether one is contemplating marriage, going through marital bliss or strife: all may find this book educative with kind counsel. Yet again, Daniel exhibits courage and dynamism; in exploring the mine fields of marriage.

      Dr. Kevin Ongeti,

      University of Nairobi.

      "Chains do not hold a marriage together, it is threads: hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people through the years"

      Simone Signoret

      INTRODUCTION

      More than half of all first marriages end in divorce; 60 percent of second marriages fail. In the Americas, studies show that half of all the couples marrying today will end in divorce. This was not the case before our generation; where men and women remained married until death. Understandably, marriage is far more complex as compared to fifty years ago.

      One thing that has complicated marriage is changing roles for both men and women. The man was the bread winner; whereas the woman was the baker. The men went out to work in the emerging towns while the women remained at home taking care of the children. It would appear that everyone knew what was expected of them. There were clearly defined tasks for men and those of women. Men were traditionally supposed to be strong, competent, unemotional, problem-solvers, good providers and protectors. Women were supposed to be good cooks, baby sitters, housekeepers,

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