Ready, Set, Counsel: A Practical Guide to Being a School Counselor in the Real World
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Ready, Set, Counsel: A Practical Guide to Being a School Counselor in the Real World, bridges the gap between theory and practice to get the reader up to speed in doing the daily job of a school counselor, including the myriad tasks that are seldom mentioned in the school counseling degree program but that comprise much of a counselor's day. The book was written to provide practical tips in such things as organization, dealing with practices and procedures, handling difficult situations and establishing relationships with all stakeholders as well as numerous "tricks of the trade" that save time, improve visibility, build a positive reputation and increase effectiveness.
The demands on the school counseling profession and the realities of school counselor training conspire to make it difficult for new, less-experienced or struggling counselors to bridge the gap between theory and practice. Most public school systems require counselors to have taken a supervised practicum and a supervised internship course. While these courses expose the candidates to the challenges of counseling real people, they do little to prepare candidates for the real-world requirements of the job. At the same time, growing caseloads have made it harder than ever for new or struggling counselors to get time with a more experienced counselor who can "show them the ropes" and act as a coach and mentor. Ready, Set, Counsel was written to fill this void.
Unlike most of the books available on the subject of school counseling, Ready, Set, Counsel: A Practical Guide to Being a School Counselor in the Real World does not address itself to theory, curricula, or programs; nor is it limited to any grade level or subgroup of the student population. Rather, it is designed to help both new and experienced counselors at all levels become more effective by applying the book's practical ideas on virtually every aspect of the school counselor's job. It includes such topics as providing an office atmosphere that facilitates counseling, being organized, navigating district and school policies and procedures, and effectively dealing with the myriad everyday aspects of managing the job. The book also offers solid, practical suggestions on communication, conducting the counseling session, adopting effective behaviors, and avoiding those that impede the therapeutic relationship.
Ready, Set, Counsel was inspired by sessions that were held during class meetings with the interns that were under the author's supervision. These sessions, at first impromptu but soon an extremely popular fixture in every class, focused exclusively on the aspects of the counseling job not taught in the guidance and counseling masters program. As a result, the book takes a very practical, "nuts and bolts" approach that emphasizes counselor actions, behaviors and activities rather than theory or counseling curricula. True to its person-to-person origins, the tone of the book is informal and personal. Speaking directly to the reader and using the author's personal experiences as examples, Ready, Set, Counsel delivers pragmatic ways for a new or struggling counselor to take control of the job and for experienced counselors to become more effective. To quote one of the author's former students, "I have found that what makes a good counselor is the ability to deal with the everyday challenges in a practical way, and this is exactly what Ready, Set, Counsel is all about."
Joan Hoffmann EdD
Joan Hoffmann, EdD, has been an elementary school teacher, a middle school and high school counselor, an adjunct college professor and a supervisor of interns in the graduate counseling program at Lindenwood University in St. Charles, Missouri. In her various educational and therapeutic roles, Joan has combined her academic training with real-world counseling experience, designed curriculum, and found unique ways to share her practical knowledge with her students. "Here are the challenges you are likely to face," she tells counseling interns; "and here is what they don't teach you in the counseling program about how to meet those challenges." It was the enthusiastic response to this "inside information" that prompted her to write Ready, Set, Counsel: A Practical Guide to Being a School Counselor in the Real World. Joan received her master's in counseling from the University of Missouri at St. Louis and her doctorate in educational administration from St. Louis University. Although her education had prepared her to move into administration, Joan's love of counseling kept her in the field, including teaching at the college level in order to have direct impact on future counselors.
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Ready, Set, Counsel - Joan Hoffmann EdD
To school counselors everywhere; past present and future
What Others are Saying about Ready, Set, Counsel: A Practical Guide to Being a School Counselor in the Real World
"I have found that what makes a good counselor is the ability to deal with the everyday challenges in a practical way, and this is exactly what Ready, Set, Counsel is all about."
--- Jamie McHale
Elementary School Counselor
Dr. Hoffmann was an amazing mentor for my first high school counseling job. In this book, she has compiled practical, creative ideas and recommendations that make the challenging job of a high school counselor easier to manage.
--- Paul Milonas
High School Counseling Co-Chair
Ready, Set, Counsel
A Practical Guide to Being a School Counselor in the Real World
By Joan Hoffmann, EdD
Copyright 2013 Joan Hoffmann
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Acknowledgements
I owe a debt of gratitude first to the many fellow counselors with whom I’ve had the pleasure of working throughout my career, but especially at my first assignment Parkway Central High School in Chesterfield, Missouri. It was from all of them I learned the limits of the text book and the wide variety of skills that a counselor needs.
It is said, the student becomes the teacher.
That has been true in my experience as well. Students taught me they don’t necessarily fit any text book model, but rather each one is a special case. They have different ideas, baggage
and ways of processing that may not fit any particular model. Students helped me grow by showing me that I would have to adapt many of the principles I was taught to apply to their unique situations.
Teachers and other coworkers showed me the value of team work. A counselor can’t stay closed in their office. The relationships that are formed with the rest of the school staff provide greater insights, not only into the issues and problems of students, but also into the staff interactions with the students and each other.
Parents love their children. There is no one more important than their child. They taught me to always keep this fact in mind, even when the parent was being demanding. My interactions with parents underscored their critical importance in being part of the team that educates their child. When home and school work together, the child is most likely to succeed.
I have to thank my students at Lindenwood University in St. Charles, Missouri. It was through their eyes that I saw the need for this book and it was their eagerness to learn that gave me the enthusiasm to write it.
Special thanks to Bobbi Linkemer who showed me the process to move from concept to completion. Without her mentoring, this book may never have come to fruition.
My gratitude to Brian Hutchison, PhD, NCC, Coordinator, School Counseling Program, University of Missouri – St. Louis. By encouraging me to publish Ready, Set, Counsel as an ebook, he enabled me to make this book accessible to future counselors.
Finally, thanks to my family for their encouragement and support.
Table of Contents
Foreword
Introduction
Preface
Chapter 1: Your office
Physical layout
Lighting and amenities
Chapter 2: Your desk
Organization
How to set up your fingertip filing system
Cheat sheets
Confidential files
Chapter 3: Keeping track
Keeping track of students
Keeping track of feelings
Keeping track of achievement
Keeping track of schedules
Keeping track of privacy
Chapter 4: Procedures
Maintaining confidentiality
Talking with students
Talking with others
Getting and giving information
Sharing information with divorced or unmarried parents
Looking at files
Releasing students
Handling homeless students
Managing suicide threats
Using the hot line
Chapter 5: Recommendations
Documentation
Value of keeping copies
Chain of command
Outside speakers
New students
Client triage
Mediation
Death
Location, location, location
Your safety
Smiles
Chapter 6: Communication
Presenting yourself
Avoiding How does it feel?
Facilitating
You can only control yourself
Letting the client decide
Providing choices
Is it really ok?
Chapter 7: Behaviors
Sharing
Owning the solution
Giving advice
Making promises
Qualifying
Reflective listening
Mixed messages
Interrupting
Being a support
Being defensive
Being human
Staying calm on the outside
Maintaining the counselor face
Chapter 8: Student Contacts
Counseling all students
Believing in your students
Finding privacy anywhere
Oopsing
into students
Working outside your office
Advocating for your students
Helping students reenter
Providing positive strokes
Knowing before you ask
Touching
Passing notes
Giving special attention
Chapter 9: Skills
Establishing a comfort level
Keeping busy
Clarifying
Using a sense of humor
Buying time
Using silence
Challenging and confronting
Breathing deeply
Handling tears
Looping
Whispering
Applying worst-case scenario
Asking questions, but not too many
Looking for an opening
Avoiding I don’t know
Losing the student
Setting goals
Ending an idea or session
Chapter 10: Becoming an effective counselor
Contacts
I want to give you time, but…
Flexibility
Follow through
Availability
Personal notes are important
Set your limits
Time for yourself
Monitor yourself
Students’ files and tests
Gossip
Onion sandwich
Brad’s story
Observations
Discipline
Memory aids
Extra hours
Small gestures
The person in your office is your priority
Trust
Evaluation
Chapter 11: Who else will you see?
Staff
Teachers are vital
Special education
Be a team player
Respect teachers’ time
Group time
Need to know
Know what I heard?
Principal relationship
Your peers
Support staff
Respecting the counselor
Your ally, the nurse
Parents
Complaining
Helping parents
Fielding special requests
Handling professional referrals
Chapter 12: Final thoughts
Appendix
Foreword
As school counselors, our jobs are constantly evolving to add new responsibilities and expectations, but we all start in the same place- sitting in our new office praying we can meet the needs of all stakeholders while maintaining our sanity. We are green to say the least, and the crash course in what it truly means to be a school counselor is about to start. Often times we might find ourselves reflecting back upon a particularly uncomfortable event and thinking, I don’t remember learning how to deal with that in school!
I was lucky my first year as a counselor. I had just finished Dr. Hoffmann’s internship class when I found out I had landed my first school counseling position at an elementary school. While I was terrified to be the only full time counselor in the building, I had learned so much during my internship classes. It was the one class during graduate school that I looked forward to every week, and it was all due to the tips that Dr. Hoffmann would share with us. While listening to discussions in class, Dr. Hoffmann would often say, Here’s a tip. Write this down,
or Here’s what they don’t tell you,
and the pens of twenty-something eager graduate students would hit the paper. It might be something about note-taking, writing thank-you notes, or how you can hang up on a person who is yelling at you (but of course you tell them, I’m hanging up now!
). These are the things I have found most valuable since becoming a school counselor, because they were the things future school counselors weren’t being told yet had to deal with regularly. I told Dr. Hoffmann in my last paper that I would use her tips as a bible to school counseling, and I have met many successes as a result. I had the upper hand and was prepared in ways my counterparts were not.
Before I was a school counselor, I was a middle school teacher, and Dr. Hoffmann was a counselor at my school. Although I never got to work with her before she retired, the man I would eventually marry had worked with her every year she was at that school. When talking about the impact of school counselors on his job for the last nearly twenty years, Dr. Hoffmann rates as the best in his book. Her everyday practices as a counselor and consideration for all stakeholders, teachers included, resonated with him. She was always organized, understood the teachers’ points of view, and looked at the big picture before making a final decision. These are the things that made Dr. Hoffmann an amazing school counselor, and that’s what you can find in this book.
When I started reading through this book, I found myself going back to my notes from the internship class and saying, Oh, yeah!
quite a lot. I can still hear Dr. Hoffmann talking about these things as if she were right here with me. Even today, this information continues to help me gain insight on new situations and provides reminders of how I could have better dealt with older situations. I have found that what makes a good counselor is the ability to deal with the everyday challenges in a practical way, and this is exactly what Ready, Set, Counsel is all about.
Jamie McHale
School Counselor
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Introduction
People become counselors for a variety of reasons. It might be because their friends or family told them that they were so easy to talk to or that they would make a good counselor. They may be driven by a desire to change the world or they may simply be the type of people who want to take care of others. Possibly they were in counseling themselves, and moved by the value of counseling and the difference it made to them, they decided to make counseling their life’s work.
Those who are motivated to pursue a career in school counseling typically first complete a master’s program in counseling. The program covers a range of topics, most of which deal with the theories that underpin the practice of counseling. At the end of the program, candidates complete an internship supervised by a faculty member of the university, which is designed to provide them with real-world experience before they enter the field as professionals. Ideally, this experience exposes the candidate to two counseling realities; first, clients aren’t nearly as cooperative in the flesh as they are in the texts, and second, the counseling job includes a great deal more than just counseling students. For a variety of reasons, the internship may neither fully represent both of these realities nor offer adequate solutions if it does.
This book was written to fill these two gaps. I intend it to act as both a coach in further developing your counseling skills and as a mentor to help you deal with those demands within the school counselor’s ever-expanding role that go beyond the counseling of students. Unlike most of the books available on the subject of school counseling, Ready, Set, Counsel: A Practical Guide to Being a School Counselor in the Real World does not address itself to theory, curricula or programs, nor is it limited to any grade level or subgroup of the student population. Rather, it is designed to help both new and even more experienced counselors become more effective by applying the book’s practical ideas to virtually every aspect of school counseling.
Ready, Set, Counsel begins with the basics of organization. Chapter 1 will help you set up your physical environment in the way that is most conducive to your comfort and that of your clients. Chapter 2 helps you get your office organized with tips that will improve your efficiency and help protect confidential information. Chapter 3 will assist you in dealing with one of a counselor’s key concerns: keeping track of virtually everything.
In Chapters 4 and 5 you will find guidance for dealing with a variety of typical issues that you will confront. The issues include those that are impacted by law and the policies and procedures of your district and school, as well as those for which you must rely on your own judgment.
Chapters 6 through 9 provide coaching on counseling skills. This section of the book covers the topics of communication, your behaviors, relationships with students, and techniques that you can use to improve counseling sessions and promote a therapeutic relationship with your clients.
Chapter 10 will help you take the next step to becoming a truly effective counselor. It covers the behaviors, practices and attributes that separate the outstanding counselor from the good counselor.
Chapter 11 discusses the counselor’s other stakeholders: school staff and parents. While the counselor’s job is to focus primarily on students, it is impossible to be successful without effectively serving the needs of both of these groups as well.
The book ends with Chapter 12, which contains some personal thoughts on what we counselors do and why, and an appendix with some examples of helpful resources that are available for school counselors.
To make the best use of this book, I suggest you first read it through to get a feel for the