Love. Gratitude. Abundance. Life.

Love. Gratitude. Abundance. Life.

Justine Crowley

Copyright 2013 Justine Crowley

Published by Justine Crowley at Smashwords

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Table of Contents

Chapter 1 - The First Love: Love. Pure Love.

Chapter 2 - The Second Love: Home. Sweet Home.

Chapter 3 - The Third Love: Family Is Everything.

Chapter 4 - The Fourth Love: I Get By With A Little Help From My Friends.

Chapter 5 - The Fifth Love: The World Where You Live.

Chapter 6 - The Sixth Love: Your Temple And You Only Have One.

Chapter 7 - The Seventh Love: Show Me The Money.

Chapter 8 - The Eighth Love: Invest Wisely.

Chapter 9 - Life is Short: Live it Up.

Chapter 10 - Where is Spirituality Not?

Chapter 11 - Relationships Never Fail. People Just Give Up.

Chapter 12 - Work As Self Expression.

Chapter 13 - I Have the Travel Bug.

Chapter 14 - Challenge Me. Let My Brain Power Expand.

Chapter 15 - Be Emotionally Intelligent.

Chapter 16 - No Attachments To Stuff.

Chapter 17 - Love And Gratitude Is Everything.

Chapter 1 - The First Love. Gratitude

Abundance Life Lesson: Love. Pure Love.

Love comes from a great life. Love breeds enthusiasm, passion and energy towards your life and in achieving your life's purpose. Without love there would be no life for any of us. No opportunities to shine and be of sweet service to other people. Without love we would not have buildings, computers, airplanes, schools, books, hospitals, music, art, animals or magazines to name. Love is a choice. All of life's greatest inventions, possessions, experiences and mysteries all stem from love and gratitude.

Follow your bliss has real meaning. Life is not always meant to be a bed of roses, however with the art of gratitude you appreciate the mundane to the decadent experiences in your life as both experiences will always pass. The great news is that love allows you to magnify, and allows the sweet stuff to come into manifestation for you on a frequent basis. Love and people around us including our non-human counterparts are real blessings. The law of attraction is also the epitome of love. Love is clearly a solid force that draws people into life and incites people to take actions towards living their life and ultimately their dreams. Attraction is love...and gratitude. It's life.

Before we delve further into the concept of love, and loving life on a full-time basis (or rather at all times that surpasses the notion of full-time and full-on love), we need to be grateful for all that we have in life. What you do not appreciate in life (even the small wins and fortunes) depreciates from your world. The universe is sending you a real powerful and profound message here.

Gratitude (also meaning a great attitude) is the art of appreciation, and always brings in more support and abundance. You're in a positive frame of mind, and when you are that way inclined, you're coming from a place of love. As a result of experiencing the latter and really feeling the love of what you have actually manifested into your life; more goodies are on their way through to you through various means of unexpected abundance such as a pay rise. Furthermore the performance of your investment may suddenly improve, or you may receive some much needed help and manna from heaven which you were not expecting. The love you receive back (of which is the form of abundance the universe sends your way) can be whatever it is.

While I was a natural therapist before becoming a full-time professional writer, one of my therapy clients used to always write down at least five things she was grateful for before leaving the office after a great day of service in her relationship management role. What was amazing is that an unexpected $20 note was on the floor at Sydney's Town Hall station ready for her to pick up and show more gratitude for her life. She knew her worth while other commuters looked and did not act, while this client of mine acted in fearless faith. This was only a moment ago, as at the time of writing this. Even the simple things create miracles, and the beauty of cultivating an attitude of gratitude for your life is that it also costs nothing, yet is so powerful in attracting more love, peace, joy, abundance and prosperity into your life.

The art of acknowledging all of the great things happening in your life can be done, regardless of the magnitude of the gratitude. Gratitude can be expressed for something as massive as having a million dollars in the bank, to even something so simple that we often take for granted such as being able to drink pure water from a tap to breathing clean fresh air.

This is something I always do on a daily basis. Gratitude really improves the quality of your life.

Your day (through the law of attraction) always starts based on the mood you're in. If you start the day with a negative frame of mind without any love; unconsciously your whole day will go that way unless you change your frequency towards love and gratitude.

Every morning, I don't get out of bed until I am ready to express simple and no strings attached love and gratitude for the day I have ahead of me. Apart from abundance, love and gratitude: my next favorite word thank you comes into my psyche the moment I put two feet on the floor in my bedroom, and ready to start the day. My whole day flows in a positive frame of mind unless I no longer allow a simple mishap to blow my love for people, for myself and for my day out of the water.

New age shops are fantastic. They are great resources for anyone who wants to give and receive more love and gratitude in their life on a daily basis to allow the rivers of abundance to flow to them. Rocks and crystals can be used as great metaphors to remind you to express more gratitude in your life. You only need one, and pick your favorite rock and carry it around. This is your gratitude rock, and this rock reminds you to express gratitude for all of the greatness going on in your life at any given moment. And you also receive the added time to cherish your time alone with nature. Kill two birds with one stone in upping the ante on your life force energy to become more magnetic to money, and towards other desires you wish to achieve out of life.

The universe and the unconscious mind loves pictures, and especially words. The saying that writing is a window to the soul, and as a professional writer myself I can completely vouch for the integrity of this concept.

You simply need to invest in a notebook, and to make this more inspiring to also buy your favorite colored pen. Also if you want to inspire yourself a little more, I urge you to please cut out images of the type of house you want to live in (regardless as to what type of house you're living in right now), and the life experiences you wish to enjoy, (and if materialistic, although with love less is more); then go ahead, cut out images of the type of material possessions you wish to manifest. These are the things you love, and when you express gratitude for what you're also about to receive; then you can't help but allow such goodies to flow into your life. Abundance goes to those people who love and appreciate things, and cultivating an attitude of gratitude allows you to do this.

With those images (if you went down this path) you then need to stick them to your new gratitude journal. The journal ideally needs to be used every day, or if not everyday then at least once a week. For beginners on this path, I urge you to use this gratitude journal you have just created for yourself every day. Every morning when you wake up (and also ideally every night before retiring for the night) I would like you to please write down at least five things you are grateful for. Very quickly those five things will begin to expand, and before you know it you will have pages of things to write down those life experiences and circumstances you love and are grateful for, and this is living proof that the universe has delivered, and has thus brought you more things, events, circumstances and life experiences to be grateful for, of which are all positive.

Once you have mastered writing down elements of your life for which you are grateful for, then the power of two can now come into the fore to now start putting pen to paper and writing down your gratitude intentions: on what you are grateful for what you are about to receive. Loving life experiences which you have not manifested yet is using your imagination.

The important thing is that when you are writing down, and hence expressing your gratitude in appreciation for the things you're about to receive in your life, you need to write such gratitude intentions in a way as if you are receiving them right now - otherwise the universe will pick up on your vibes of not thinking this is real to be ingrained into your unconscious mind. Size does not matter, neither to the universe or to your unconscious mind: it is all about what judgements we make on the size and magnitude of our intents due to past programming and our belief systems. Remember, our unconscious mind does not know the difference between what is real and imaginary.

Expressing gratitude in your life can be expressed in any given moment to yourself through your internal dialogue. For instance, on a recent plane trip back from Melbourne to Sydney, I started to be grateful for every element of that journey from the ground to the in-flight service to the comfort of my airline seat, right down to blessing every single person in that plane. As a result I felt incredibly light as if I was floating on air (no pun intended), and it just felt so good. Naturally the entire journey was seamless.

When you love it is law. You are going to receive love back, and hence life will be so rewarding and fulfilling for you.

All of the great things in life come from love. When we express unconditional love towards people and all objects - in other words in EVERYTHING, then we realize that those loved ones who have passed on are still alive inside us, guiding us to extra love, gratitude and abundance. With our loved ones who have deceased, their bodies have moved into another form; however their souls are still alive within us, and would have gone to heaven. However, if you are someone who does not believe this, and that heaven is not on earth for all of us to enjoy; then you really need to change your thinking quick smart to allow more love and light into your life. We are here to love all and to serve all, and to really love life as we do not have to die to leave life and to thus enter heaven. Life is heaven in an abundant and prosperous thinkers land. The creator of the universe has said this to all of us in one of the holiest texts around that for God gives us richly all things to enjoy. This means life. The law of attraction is the law of love simply interpreted. Simply put, things that we focus on, we have to love them to be able to focus on them to manifest for your enjoyment and development.

Attraction is love. Attraction is a loving force that pulls all of us to take action (the right actions with time) and pursue hobbies, careers and dreams that resonate with us. All again coming from one powerful force: love.

We need to love and bless people. I send loving blessings to people who I cross paths with, and if they do not consciously pick up on such unconscious gestures of loving braces (this is expected, not many people will - again depending on how spiritually connected they are), then they will pick up on it subconsciously, and they will gravitate to your pull and love you back; which you will also pick up subconsciously, if not consciously. This is a give and get world. People go to where they achieve a sense of 'increase,' and thus this 'increase' only comes from love and gratitude.

You need to give in order to receive, and you cannot give what you do not have. In order to live a rich, fulfilling and abundant life, you need lots of love for yourself. If a client rings me (I know I have attracted this phone call as people go subconsciously where they get a sense of increase), I give them unconditional love. I think those loving thoughts in my head, and I receive a client. Love makes the difference. Even if I don't receive a new client from this exercise, I feel amazingly better for giving love in my life to this person, and my love tank is full again.

Give to others as much as you can. Say for instance you help a friend or family member move house, then chances are that help will return to you at lightning speed in a myriad of ways. Does it matter in what form this help is received? Not at all. Say you help someone pick up their groceries at the supermarket car park, when they have fallen out of their plastic bags, and your boss gives you tickets to a sporting game; interestingly enough we don't connect such generosity and giving to our receiving, however we always receive love and abundance when we give out love and abundance to other people unconditionally.

Conversely when you're at the dinner table, and you and your guests are speaking about the negative events in the news that night, and then you have an upset stomach. Again we receive what we have given out.

There was a pessimistic woman from church who worked in sales, and all she complained about was poor times in this economy, while her colleagues refused to entertain her thoughts. On the other hand her colleagues focused on abundance and all being well. Surprisingly those abundant thinking colleagues received healthy commission cheques, while this woman's hours were cut from full-time to part-time; the opposite of which she did not want. Likewise if you gossip and talk about people behind their backs (the true and polar opposite of love), you will attract back problematic and difficult clients, and other lost opportunities denying your choice to choose, and ultimately your freedom, love, abundance and prosperity in your life.

This concept really works, regardless as to whether or not you fully comprehend its power.

Recently I was able to help one of my nieces with her reading, and she was now able to pronounce words at the end of reading this particular book, and as a result my accountant completed my tax return in perfect timing, and yet I received an unexpected mammoth tax refund which gave me that much needed boost to my accessible savings. Hence the power of love and gratitude for your life.

The law of attraction here again, or I should start saying the law of love to really drive this concept home. If you constantly think and believe that life is really great to me like I personally do; you will attract good people, circumstances and events to ensure that life continues to be great for you. And vice versa. Without fail, even though the universe is busy, it (our intelligent, friendly universe) always acts as a filter to our thoughts and circumstances. You always (without fail) receive back your circumstances in life based on the thoughts you have given out. What we want comes from love. Only focus on what it is you want. You always only want something because you love it.

The problem is that so many people focus on what they do not love without consciously realizing that they are wearing a blindfold shielding themselves from this beautiful thing called life. These people need to give themselves permission to actually love life, yet they don't understand why such unloving and unwanted experiences show up in their world. Your thoughts from your conscious mind dictate your life experiences and beyond.

Love is a real manna from heaven for all of us. Even in the simple stuff which we need to express sincere gratitude for, and to not take for granted. There is a friend of one of my previous therapy clients who wanted to catch up for coffee with her as she had not seen her for a few months, and it felt so right. Thus this therapy client of mine sent love, gratitude and blessings to this friend not too long ago. On the very next day this client of mine happened to be in the City (and the canny thing is that these two people live in the same suburb), and had bumped into this friend. This was only a day after she sent love and blessings to this friend of hers, and thus these ladies were elated and so surprised and happy to see each other. The universe clearly conspired to my previous therapy clients song, and thus moved all elements to ensure it happened. They caught up and had the best coffee over a two-hour chat ever one week later! And even more loving is that these two friends now plan to do it more often.

Always focus on love, and embrace change as change also comes from love and from loving life!

Many lessons to learn about life, and so often it is a real shame that many people always (usually on autopilot, thanks to the power of the unconscious mind) focus on what it is they do not want in life and on lack. They are then surprised as to why the same mundane and (in most cases unfortunate) experiences always (in most cases) show up in their world. The key is to always focus on what you want, hence love and love will manifest the way you intended such love to manifest with some unwavering and full-on faith in yourself, and in the universes ability to deliver your joy and abundance to you. Imagine, feel and receive your goodness of love!

Only talk about what you want and do not gossip. Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. (Proverbs 16:24)

Only talk about what you want to bring love to you. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:8) What you want out of life is true because this is what you love. You will know the truth and the truth will set you free. (John 8:32)

Like a gratitude journal, it is also a great thing to create a love journal. Therefore in addition to writing down all of the things you are grateful for in your awesome life to date, and also being grateful for what you are about to receive, and therefore to really magnetize love to you, it would also be a great idea to spend some time and write down all of the things you love from your skin to your career for instance. How you feel in each area of your life from your finances to your health and relationships is a reflection of what you have been giving out. At least once a week (or once a fortnight), take some quiet 'you' time and write down EVERYTHING you love about your life - from what you perceive to be the simple to the outright miraculous. Feeling good brings positive circumstances, events and experiences into your world. This is law. Abundance cannot flow to a person who is not feeling good.

A change of feeling is a change of destiny. - Neville Goddard.

If you happen to not be experiencing all that you love in your life at this time, does not mean to imply that you're not a loving person. All you have to do is tip the scales from fear (which can paralyze all of us) to love. All negative and unpleasant experiences and circumstances are eliminated from love.

Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned. - Buddha

Nothing comes from without. All things come from within. - Neville Goddard.

As the popular saying in astrology goes As above, so below.

Life is not happening to you, life is simply following you. You simply choose your goodness and abundance, peace, joy and happiness in love by giving that all powerful love out; the ultimate in positive energy and feel good emotions. You cannot receive what you cannot give, and you cannot give to others what you do not have within yourself. It is perfect to love yourself and then you will naturally begin to and will fall in love with life. You have to give out and radiate love for what you want in life, from a great job to that amazing house. When you say YES to those things that you love, even if you don't have those things in physical manifestation just yet, you soon will because you are choosing them.

Knowing your values brings abundance and prosperity to YOU.

In a nutshell your values convert energy and spirit into matter. Over the last five years of my studies on the mind and personal development, I have found that there is absolutely nothing missing in our lives, and only a perception of what is. In other words a perceived void that we perceive something to be missing or incomplete in our lives. Every individual on this planet lives their life according to their hierarchy of values, in other words what is most important to them. Of which is usually perceived as that most missing element of their life, yet truth be known that which is most important to you is where you have the most abundance in your life.

Your hierarchy of values clearly dictates your destiny. You are wealthy and abundant in the area of your life that is most important to you, and hence the money you attract to yourself as a byproduct of your thoughts immediately gets spent on what is most valuable and important to you. For instance, say your highest value is your children, yet therefore if this was true the money and abundance that comes into your world is spent on children's clothes, education, food, toys, games and trips to name, and say if saving money and building wealth, abundance and prosperity for yourself is at least outside of your top 10 values, or maybe even lower than that; you're going to have more month at the end of this month, than money at the end of this month. This is why many people perceive themselves to be broke in a general sense, and hence normally live from paycheck to paycheck. Your children in this instance is where your wealth is at this moment.

Before you can begin to manifest the abundance you want to manifest into your life, you first and foremost need to identify your values, and if you want to make a shift in your values to manifest more abundance in your life, I will show you how to do that as well.

We are really spiritual beings that have an intellect and live a physical, human existence. That which is highest on your values hierarchy at any given moment is your spiritual quest. As we do live in a physical body on the physical plane nothing is permanent, and hence the law of impermanence applies. This is really important to really get if you wish to manifest more abundance and prosperity in your life. Things do not stay constant; we are either going backwards or moving forwards towards that which we want. The universe likes movement. Life is an influx of change, and hence so is your values system. Human beings change, grow and evolve which can be a fantastic thing, and especially if you're congruent with and living out your highest values with dignity on a daily basis.

Your values in life determine how you also live out your life on a daily basis. You are reading this book as you clearly want to live a more abundant and prosperous life, unless you have been forced fed to read this book or else, or even to become more abundant and prosperous. There are no accidents here. You must have some value on abundance and prosperity to show up into your physical existence, otherwise you would not have taken the relevant actions to be reading this book right now. Human beings behave according to their hierarchy of values. Wealth and prosperity will not show up in your life if it is low on your hierarchy of values.

Personal development is an ongoing process. You will never get fixed which is an illusion anyway ,as things are already perfect just as they are. There is no right or wrong, it is just how it is. You will always breakthrough to new levels after a plateau, and therefore you are in a perfect place and space to renew your mind constantly. Your values need to be reviewed once every couple of months in ensuring that you're on track, and you know where you are heading. This is how you evolve. Your values hold your vision, mission and life's purpose which I will also cover in this book, as well as your financial destiny.

In order to determine your hierarchy of values, I would like you to spend some time answering the following determinants so you are crystal clear on your values as they stand today. If you would like to make a shift by either changing and/or re-prioritizing them, I will also show you how to do that as well. Also you are taking the first and most important steps in taking more responsibility for your life. You will not achieve abundance, prosperity, joy, peace and freedom in your life if you do not take any responsibility for where your life is at right now - that's right responsibility for what is and isn't working in your life right now. For what you have and haven't accomplished in your life to date, you are responsible for this too.

Please write down the first and top five responses that come to mind straight away when addressing these values determinants. If you're on a question that does not flow for you in any given moment, then please move on to the next question and come back to that particular question. Look out for any consistencies, there are no right or wrong answers, and ideally your responses need to come from your heart, and not from your head. Your responses should resonate with you, and be prepared to learn and discover amazing things about yourself that you never knew about yourself until now, of which could be your meal ticket to more abundance than what you are currently manifesting. Inner peace comes from appreciating where you are at right now in life in this present moment.

Your values are your physical creations such as your health, relationships and finances for instance. You hear many people and corporations say I value integrity, honesty and reliability. This is not what I am referring to here in relation to your values. Integrity is an ethical and moral code, and you will soon discover that having and acting with integrity in your world is another critical concept you need to grasp, in order to enjoy abundance and prosperity in your life at any level.

Firstly you need to ask yourself, how do I fill my space, either at home, or if I work in an office, at the office? If you see photos at someones cubicle where they work with photos of their children, then it is safe to say that that person values their family and their children. If someone has trophies at their desk, then chances are they value playing sports. No different to someone who has pictures of themselves in various places in the world, it is fair to say that they love to travel. When one of my past therapy clients asked herself this question, the following came up in the following order: spiritual ornaments such as the buddha (spirituality), photos of herself traveling (travel and lifestyle), photos of herself with her family (family), books on investing (finances), and books on personal development (mental).

Secondly you need to ask yourself, how do I spend my time? You always have and make time for those things that are most important to you. I have another past therapy client who finds at times if that her friends ring her up to go out, she sometimes says to them that she does not have the time, which isn't entirely true. Deep down she could make the time if she wanted to, however through conducting this process with her, she got that she doesn't value her friendships as much as her business, and that is fine. However, there are times when she also says yes to going out with her friends as life is meant to be balanced as well. This client of mine gets and accepts that, and furthermore she is at peace with that, and good friends realize the importance of this. When you pick a time that both of you are in the mood to go out, you all have a really terrific night out. Even though this client of mine has about 180 friends, she clearly doesn't have the time to see them all at once. Therefore it is not uncommon in her situation to see some of her friends only twice a year as socializing is clearly low on her values. Even if you may not be liking your job right now, however if you still spend some of your time at work, then work is important to you because it helps you fill your highest values such as money for your children's shoes and education, and so on if children are high up on your hierarchy of values. Remember there is nothing wrong with this, it is just whats so.

Conversely, if you do housework as opposed to hiring a cleaner to clean your house for you, your home would be important to you.

When this same past therapy client asked herself this question, the following came up in the following order: working on her business (finances), studying (mental), meditating (spirituality), pampering such as massages, day spas and pedicures (travel and lifestyle), traveling/flying (travel and lifestyle), and reviewing her income/expenses/savings/assets/liabilities (finances).

Now you need to ask yourself how do I use my energy? You will (with rock solid certainty) have energy and vitality for those things that are highest on your values, and conversely feel tired and fatigued for those things lowest on your values. You thus get bored, restless and distracted. When this same past therapy client of mine is out at parties drinking and with friends (not always, however sometimes) she gets really tired, fatigued and bored. Conversely if this same client is at an airline lounge drinking, she feels absolutely fantastic. When you're engaged in work that you absolutely love, you can't wait to get out of bed every morning. You're alive and on fire!

Vitality is the key to your abundance, while low energy slows you down and keeps your abundance away from you. We naturally spend more time engaged in activities that energize us the most.

When this same past therapy client asked herself this question, the following came up in the following order: working on her business (finances), studying (mental), meditating (spirituality), pampering such as massages, day spas, pedicures and getting her hair done (travel and lifestyle), traveling/flying (travel and lifestyle), reviewing her income/expenses/savings/assets/liabilities (finances), and shopping (travel and lifestyle).

This next question and determinant of your hierarchy of values is a real breakthrough question, where many of my previous coaching clients had received massive breakthroughs in their finances with massive lightbulb and ah-ha moments. Crunch time: time to honestly ask yourself how do I spend my money? Truth be known you will always have the money for the things that are most valuable and important to you, regardless of the price of a relevant item. It is quite common in love based relationships where both couples present their values onto another person, and hence this is where arguments over money come to the fore. It is easy to say I can't afford it one minute for those items that are low on your values, and yet you move heaven and earth in most cases to find the money for those items that are high up on your values. Please avoid the belief of I can't afford it, even though you clearly can for certain items that are most important to you, and hence dictated by your hierarchy of values. It is much more empowering to say to yourself I choose not to buy that item, as through the law of attraction the universe will give you more of can't afford it, and thus can't afford it will show up in your life experience over and over again in pushing the abundance away that is rightfully yours.

For example, one of my mentors Dr John Demartini was a consultant to a Doctor who made $6.27 million a year, yet had to borrow $327,000 to pay for his taxes as this man had a low value on saving money, building wealth and paying taxes. At the top of his values was fancy cars, fancy homes and so on. Therefore all the phenomenal wealth that came through his hands went towards his lifestyle. Clearly his lifestyle was at the top of his values hierarchy way before paying taxes. No judgements here, this is whats so. Prosperity, wealth and financial independence only goes to those who value it as one of their top five values. Meanwhile this same man employed a secretary who was earning $24,000 a year, around $2,000 per month before tax, yet she was able to save $400 of that every month. This woman is much closer to wealth, prosperity and financial independence than this Doctor is on a salary of $6.27 million a year.

There is light at the end of the tunnel. Success, abundance and prosperity has nothing to do with how much you earn, but everything to do with how you manage it; in other words how you manage the cash that comes through your hands. You will always spend your money according to the hierarchy of your values.

For example I once consulted to a coaching client of mine who was frustrated as she wanted to buy another investment property for over four years, and yes you're right, the second investment property did not manifest into her world. Reason being is that travel and lifestyle showed up highest on her values, while saving money and building wealth was just shy of her top 10 values. This previous client got that when she began to save a percentage of her wages every week, she started to understand and get a breakthrough as to why her hard earned savings went on her overseas trips instead. She just shifted her values to ensure that building wealth in tandem with saving money came before her lifestyle, and shifted up to her top three values as she wanted to keep her health up there as well. As a result this client has stopped paying attention to frequent flyer points and travel packages in the place of reading property reports to get her into the vibration of buying her second investment property. Furthermore, it is great to know that this client of mine has increased the amount she saves every week slightly to accommodate for this shift in her values. This is an awesome result.

When this same past therapy client asked herself this question, the following came up in the following order: investing - margin and home loan repayments (finances), pampering such as massages and day spas (travel and lifestyle), traveling/flying (travel and lifestyle), study materials such as books (mental), shopping (travel and lifestyle) and saving (finances).

There is absolutely nothing wrong with when and where you are spending your time, money and energy. Do not beat yourself up about it. What you have spent your money on the most to this day is your wealth.

The next determinant to ask yourself is where are you most organized and ordered? Those areas of your life where you are organized the most is what is highest on your values, and those areas of your life where things are chaotic are areas that you value the least. For instance I know my flight and trip itineraries are always in order before anything else. I know fight times and dates at the top of my head in tandem with how many frequent flyer points are sitting in my frequent flyer account at any given moment, and then my financial house is in order. Clearly my travel and lifestyle is winning in the areas of time management and organization.

When this same past therapy client asked herself this question, the following came up in the following order: travel itineraries (travel and lifestyle), at work (finances), at home (spirituality), in meditating (spirituality), clothing/her wardrobe (travel and lifestyle), and personal beauty (travel and lifestyle).

And next you need to ask yourself, where are you most disciplined and reliable?

For instance if you're always late showing up to something, then that something has to usually be the lowest on your values. There was a work colleague of mine in a previous part-time role I held as a contractor who used to ring in sick a lot. This means that in some cases work was not that important to her, even though she kept saying that she needed the money. Did she really? Interesting observation, especially that this job was her only source of income at the time.

The next determinant is what do you think about the most? What you think about the most thanks to the law of attraction shows up in your life. Thinking alone does not bring abundance and prosperity to your door, while thinking and doing does the latter for you. You inner most dominant thoughts are your outermost energy and reality. More thought energy goes towards what you think about the most, and the more you think about that same thing, the more the law of attraction will move heaven and earth to bring it to you, whether wanted or unwanted. What thing you think about the most is on your highest values guaranteed.

When this same past therapy client asked herself this question, the following came up in the following order: pampering such as massages and day spas (travel and lifestyle), traveling/flying (travel and lifestyle), her business/her work and calling (finances), her finances/current financial position including thoughts of more abundance and prosperity (finances), and her health (health).

And furthermore you need to ask yourself what do you visualize about the most? In other words what you envision for your life the most is up there at the top (or close to) the top of your hierarchy of values. If you visualize yourself running a marathon from the start to the finish line with ease and grace, then your health and sport would be up there on your values list.

When this same past therapy client asked herself this question, the following came up in the following order: various successes in her business (finances), traveling/flying (travel and lifestyle), ultimate prosperity in her finances (finances), her home (spirituality, home and family), going on holidays (travel and lifestyle), and being famous through her work (finances).

Now you need to ask yourself what do I internally dialogue about the most?

You are your internal dialogue, in other words we all talk to ourselves mentally, although a few people do this out loud. I know I always talk to myself about abundance and prosperity, and this is why it shows up in my world. What do you talk to yourself the most about?

When this same past therapy client asked herself this question, the following came up in the following order: her finances and healthy thoughts to boost them (finances), traveling/flying (travel and lifestyle), her work and business (finances), her health (health) and her personal possessions (travel and lifestyle).

And conversely you have an internal dialogue, that is you talk to yourself, and naturally regardless as to whether you are introverted or extroverted, you would talk to other people as well. You would express and share (in most cases) your innermost dominant thoughts to them. For example say you're at a party, and what I have found through my study of human interactions and behaviors is that I find that people will have a strong desire to bring the conversation in a social circle to what is highest on their values hierarchy. If this particular person who is speaking at any given moment in your social circle talks about things that are in line with your values - you will be alert, wide awake and switched on to the flow of the conversation. You would definitely be listening attentively to this person, and would be in rapport with them. Conversely if the conversation is not about something that is high up on your values list, you will feel withdrawn, tuned out, disinterested and sleepy.

When and if people smile and laugh, and in the case of the party above say to you (the host, pretending you are so to illustrate the point I am about to make) something along the lines such as that was a great party - this means that the conversations in various social circles at this particular party were predominantly dominant towards that which supports such attendees values. If people smile in a conversation with you directly based on what you say to them in many cases, their smile is a gesture of rapport and thanks because you are supporting their highest values.

When this same past therapy client asked herself this question, the following came up in the following order: traveling/flying (travel and lifestyle), personal development and having a superior mindset (mental and in her case also financial as this relates to her work/business as well), personal possessions (travel and lifestyle), health (health), shopping (travel and lifestyle) and family (family).

Now you need to ask yourself the following determinant what are you inspired about the most? if something is really inspiring to you, then it must be high up on your hierarchy of values. You are motivated to act.

When this same past therapy client asked herself this question, the following came up in the following order: traveling/flying (travel and lifestyle), her finances (finances), home and family (spirituality and family), her business/her work (finances), her clothes (travel and lifestyle), her jewelry (travel and lifestyle), and other material possessions (travel and lifestyle).

And finally the last determinant what do you set goals towards the most?

I had noticed in my coaching and consulting career is that when people write down their goals, dreams and desires, they are quick on the ball and fast with those goals that are in alignment and are focused on areas that are high up on their values hierarchy - that is on the things that are most important and valuable to them, yet these same people struggle and don't put pen to paper that fast in setting goals in areas of their life that are low on their hierarchy of values. One of my friends has noticed that when she set goals that relate predominantly to her lifestyle, particularly travel and revolve around her business and investments being her finances. However, when it comes to love based relationships at this time she really struggles. For instance, for those of you who also love traveling like this particular friend of mine does, it would be easy to write down the following for example: It is now the 31 October 2013, and I am so happy and grateful that I now travel the world flying first class three times a year. I am away two months at a time in exotic locations, being transferred in limos and staying at top five and six star hotels. Whereas with her love based relationships for instance, even though this same friend sets goals as to when she will meet her soulmate, what tends to happen is she meets him and very quickly breaks up with him. This is because relationships in this form is clearly low on her hierarchy of values.

Case in point. What you don't appreciate depreciates out of your life. In business, if you do not appreciate your clients they die. Same with wealth creation. If you don't have a high enough value on saving money and building wealth, it just won't happen, and the wealth and money will therefore go to those people that appreciate it the most.

When this same past therapy client asked herself this question, the following came up in the following order: business and finances (finances), traveling/flying (travel and lifestyle), personal development (mental), health (health) and falling in love/meeting her soulmate (relationships).

How did you go? Definitely a revelation in itself. When you really spend a bit of time out, say 5-10 minutes per determinant is a good guide, you will begin to see your life from another perspective. Some of you may need longer to answer those questions I asked you, and that is absolutely fine. For a more accurate hierarchy of values list, simply put an alphabetical letter code next to each value that comes up in order. For this past therapy client of mine I used as an example in answering these determinants, she would put an 'A' for spirituality as you remember that spiritual ornaments came up for her first in the first determinant. Naturally she would keep going until she has no more letters of the alphabet to use up. You will then need to keep a tally of how many A's and B's, and so on you come up with, and then rank them. That letter that has the highest tally is your highest value in life.

Then create a list, like I have done for illustrative purposes with this particular therapy client (aim for 5-10 top values - she got 7), so this is where her wealth currently is at at the end of July 2013:

1st: Travel and lifestyle

2nd: Business/Finances/Wealth Creation (saving and investing her money for this purpose to bring more abundance and prosperity into her life)

3rd: Mental/study/growth/personal development

4th: Home and family

5th: Spirituality/spiritual evolvement and growth

6th: Health

7th: Relationships

Remember, to work out your hierarchy of values is to set priorities for your life. As you know when you travel on a journey, and the vehicle or a variety of vehicles themselves (plane, car, bus, train and even by boat/ferry) are a means to the end of your destination. Therefore your extrinsic (means values) are valuable as a means to an end such as money in the cash flow form. Spirituality and relationships are great examples of means to achieve an end.

The polar opposite of extrinsic is intrinsic (ends values) being your values that are valuable for their own sake such as personal development/learning, happiness and adventure through traveling. Money is a means value as it helps you meet one of your ends values. Therefore it would be fair to say that this particular therapy client of mine would need money to travel, and to invest more in her own personal development.

We also have systemic values that are absolute and universal such as love and gratitude. Your mission is most congruent with your highest values. Your were born to live these out. Meeting your top hierarchy of values is nourishment for yourself and for your soul. Living them all out as regularly as you can will bring you massive abundance and prosperity into your life. It is wise to please check and see if your selected values (after having answered the determinants in order and then ranked your responses accordingly) are also your greatest voids; that is what you perceive to be missing the most. Make sure that what you perceive as most missing in your life matches up to your highest values. Your perceived voids give rise to your highest values.

What you sabotage in yourself is when you sabotage what is most important to you in your hierarchy of values. If it was not for all of the personal development, abundance and prosperity thinking I have been doing over the last five years, I would not be an abundant and prosperous person who can afford the luxury of frequent travel and lifestyle with money coming in frequently from all sources. Appreciating both of these values (again a means to an end) is what brings abundance and prosperity to you. I am not intending at all to bring my most highest values onto you from what I just elaborated on. If your values are different to mine, (and from one of my past therapy clients in answering the determinants as an example) that is perfect, and if your values are similar to mine or to this particular past client of mine, then that is also perfect.

You need to check those values that you have written down are in order and are true to you, and you can do this by asking yourself the following question. I asked this same past therapy client this question: If you had more time and money would your (1st, 2nd and 3rd values) still be your highest values? She received