When Money Is Not Enough: Fulfillment in Work
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Eileen R. Hannegan
Eileen was one of the first Organizational Development consultants to introduce coaching into business in 1989. Author of two books and numerous articles, she has coached many business professionals, executives, teams and managers, and has mentored numerous coaches. She has more than twenty years of consulting and coaching experience. She has held positions on the national board of the Professional Coaches and Mentors Association (PCMA) and was the founding president of the San Diego Chapter of PCMA. She is a faculty member of the Executive Coaching Division of Cornerstone International Group and Lead Trainer with the Cornerstone Institute. Eileen has a bachelor of science degree in organizational behavior and a master of science in human resources and organizational development from the University of San Francisco. She is the principal owner of San Diego Master Coaches, LLC, which is an Approved Provider for Continuing Coaching Education Units (CCEUs) by the International Coach Federation (ICF).
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When Money Is Not Enough - Eileen R. Hannegan
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Copyright © 1995, 2011 by Eileen R. Hannegan
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data:
Hannegan, Eileen R.
When money is not enough : fulfillment in work / Eileen R. Hannegan. — [Rev. ed.]
p.cm. — (Business of life)
Includes bibliographical references.
1. Work and family. 2. Codependency. 3. Interpersonal relations.
I. Title. II. Series.
HD4904.25.H36 1995
650.1¢3—dc20
94-44136
ISBN: 978-1-88522-314-2 (pbk)
ISBN: 978-1-4516-5429-5 (eBook)
The corporate mission of Beyond Words Publishing, Inc.: Inspire to Integrity
Dedication
This book is dedicated to the men and women who are courageous in unraveling and resolving the mystery of co-dependency in their personal and professional lives, believing that wholeness, balance and personal fulfillment can be a reality in all facets of daily living.
This book is for every organization that is committed to providing the healthiest work environment for its employees, while trusting that bottom-line results will reflect that commitment.
This book is for every working person who wants his or her job to be an extension and expression of self that adds value to the community and supports him/her in a quality lifestyle.
This book is dedicated to providing insights, techniques, strategies and innovative systems that assist employees, organizations and consultants in establishing and maintaining healthy work environments that break the cycle of dysfunction and co-dependency.
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments
Drawing Exercise
Introduction
Chapter 1
When the Self Is Lost
Chapter 2
Who Defines My Career?
Chapter 3
The Lost Self at Work
Chapter 4
Team versus Terrorism
Chapter 5
The Transformation at Work
One Woman’s Story
One Man’s Story
One Company’s Story
A Word to Consultants
Bibliography and Further Reading
About the Author
Disclaimer
All of the cases and examples I refer to actually occurred and are accurately represented. However, I have changed the names, locations and identifying details to protect the privacy of the individuals involved.
Acknowledgments
A special thanks to Nancy Lynch, who supported the vision of this book and encouraged me in the months of labor to bring it to birth.
To Kim Cook, who mentored me in the work and creativity of becoming a writer, I express my deep appreciation for her humor and drive.
I would like to thank my clients, students and colleagues, who cheered me on through the high and low times, keeping the vision bright.
I offer a most sincere thank you to Rusty Broderick, whose devotion, support and hard work, mixed with his refreshing humor, gave me constant encouragement and inspiration during the writing of this book.
My daughter Brenna’s understanding and support was a breath of fresh air during long periods of separation due to my work and the writing of this book. Her constant refrain, Mom, I know you can do it,
and going together to matinees on Sunday afternoons kept me balanced and refreshed during this time of growth and transformation.
Drawing Exercise
Yourself at Work
Before you begin to read this book, take a few moments to draw a picture of yourself at work.
As you draw this picture, practice being aware of how you are feeling during this exercise, as well as the reactions in your body.
As you look at the picture of yourself at work, answer these
questions:
1. What is the title of this picture?_____________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
2. How does this picture make me feel?________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
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3. What is the best part about this picture?______________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
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4. What is missing from this picture?___________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
5. What are my bodily reactions to this picture?__________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
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6. Is this picture of myself at work really who I am?______
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
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7. Do I:
Love my work? _____
Like my work? _____
Just do my work? _____
Dislike my work? _____
Hate my work? _____
8. What would I like to eliminate in my work?___________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
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__________________________________________________
9. What would I like to keep in my work?_______________
__________________________________________________
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10. What percentage of my work is an expression of my real
self? ___________________________________________
___________________________________________________
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___________________________________________________
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____________________________________________________
Yourself at Home
Now draw a picture of yourself at home.
As you draw this picture, again practice being aware of how you are feeling during this exercise. Also, remember to be aware of your bodily reactions.
As you look at the picture of yourself at home, answer these questions:
1. What is the title of this picture?_____________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
2. How does this picture make me feel?________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
3. What is the best part about this picture?______________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
4. What is missing from this picture?___________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
5. What are my bodily reactions to this picture?__________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
6. Is this picture of myself really who I am? _____________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
7. Do I:
Love myself? _____
Like myself? _____
Put up with myself?_____
Dislike myself? _____
Hate myself? _____
8. What would I like to eliminate in myself?____________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
9. What do I like and want to keep as part of me?________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
10. What percentage of my living is an authentic expression
of the real me? __________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
Now, compare and contrast the person in each of the pictures.
1. How are they alike? ________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
2. How do they differ? ________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
3. Where do I feel most comfortable? ____________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
4. Where do I feel most alive?___________________________
__________________________________________________
__________________________________________________
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5. List the positive aspects of both pictures:
6. List the negative aspects of both pictures:
7. Is there a common theme that is expressed in both pictures?
What is it? _________________________________________
___________________________________________________
___________________________________________________
___________________________________________________
8. What are three things that would give me more satisfaction
in my work?
1. ___________________________________________________
___________________________________________________
2. ___________________________________________________
___________________________________________________
3. ___________________________________________________
___________________________________________________
9. What are three things that would give me more satisfaction
in my life?
1. ___________________________________________________
___________________________________________________
2. ___________________________________________________
___________________________________________________
3. ___________________________________________________
___________________________________________________
10. On a scale of 1-10, do I experience fulfillment in my work?
11. On a scale of 1-10, do I experience contentment in my life?
Introduction
Making the Pieces Fit
In 1983 I was one of the first alcohol/drug counselors in the United States to provide community education and support groups for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Claudia Black’s book, It Will Never Happen to Me!, had launched the movement of Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) seeking recovery for themselves. The word co-dependency started to gain serious attention.
I was a bit confused in those days. This information applied so well to my own struggles with co-dependency, yet my parents did not abuse alcohol or drugs.
Even though I did not officially belong to ACOA, I worked well with this group and could identify with the issues it addressed for its members. I secretly believed that co-dependency had far-reaching effects into other family dynamics that were not necessarily affected by alcohol or drugs.
As my personal and professional journey continued, I decided to pursue my education in organizational behavior with a master’s degree in organizational development. It was like watching an old familiar movie with new actors: I kept seeing the same