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    7 Steps to Making Who You Are What You Do
    7 Steps to Making Who You Are What You Do
    7 Steps to Making Who You Are What You Do
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    7 Steps to Making Who You Are What You Do

    By Deborah Wise

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    Most of us are good at something. What if the thing you are good at - the thing that makes up your most marketable skills - isn't something you are innately wired to do? If that is the case, then the attributes that make the very best version of you never rise to the top and you set in motion a pattern of unhappiness because the longer you use those less-than-favored job skills, the more marketable you become in that role. This book offers 7 steps to recognize the assets and characteristics that make you who you are and how to apply them to do what is best for you.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherDeborah Wise
    Release dateMay 19, 2015
    ISBN9780692454237
    7 Steps to Making Who You Are What You Do
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    Deborah Wise

    Deborah L. Wise, PhD ("Debe") is an advocate in how psychosocial development, feedback, and neuroscience can affect self-perception. Through her company, ByteSight, Dr. Wise offers workshops, individual sessions, and online courses to help people determine the skills and attributes that make unique and how to apply that to what they do. Debe holds a PhD in Educational Leadership and Innovation from the University of Colorado and an MSIT in Global eManagement from the University of Denver.

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      7 Steps to Making Who You Are What You Do - Deborah Wise

      7 Steps to Making Who You Are What You Do

      By Dr. Deborah Wise

      Copyright © 2015 by Dr. Deborah Wise

      SMASHWORDS EDITION

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner without written permission from the author, except for the use of brief quotations in a book review. For permission requests, please email the author at: 7Steps@debwise.com.

      The information in this book is solely for general personal use and education. It should not be treated as a substitute for professional assistance, psychotherapy, or counseling. In the event of physical or emotional distress, please consult with appropriate health care professionals. The application of information in this book is the choice of each reader, who assumes full responsibility for his or her understandings, interpretations, and results. The author assumes no responsibility for the actions or choices of any reader.

      Printed in the United States of America

      ISBN: 978-0-692-45423-7

      Cover design by kzcreativeservices

      Book design by Lorie DeWorken, MINDtheMARGINS, LLC

      To my family

      My life is what it is because of you

      CONTENTS

      1. When Change Is Inevitable

      2. What Is Normal?

      3. How We See Ourselves

      4. Pulling Back The Veil: Looking Inward

      5. Where We Work: Having A New Perspective

      6. How You Are Wired: Highest Priority Attributes

      7. What You Are Wired To Do: Working With Your Wiring

      8. Next Steps: The Awakening

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      Chapter One

      When Change

      Is Inevitable

      Introduction

      There are those times in life when we see changes coming like storm clouds on the horizon. We know something needs to happen… maybe we ignore it for a while in the hopes it will go away… but ultimately we are faced with the harsh reality that things cannot stay the same.

      Something about us just doesn’t seem to fit. We possess attributes that should make us successful, but we either can’t seem to pull all the pieces together or we have some measure of success but lack any sense of passion. Life is more stressful than joyful and we are old enough to realize this is how things repeatedly happen for us. We are at a crossroads where we can either do nothing and continue to see the same patterns develop over time or do something to consciously create a path that is of our own choosing—a path that is uniquely us.

      Like you, I found myself on that path. Same pattern, different day. I would start a new endeavor with enthusiasm and energy, then over time I would lose interest, become disgruntled, and ultimately leave (or be asked to leave) because I was no longer moving in the same direction. At first I might have attributed this exodus to a lack of opportunity—maybe my employer just didn’t give me the right opportunities or know how to tap my creative and unique skill set. Over time, however, and through the countless iterations of the same pattern, I found that more often than not the problem rested with me. I had a lack of clarity in what I was looking for and what I needed in return. I also found that these same patterns carried over to my personal relationships. Something needed to change because I was tired of starting over.

      If this sounds familiar, this book was written for us. What you are reading outlines a journey over time where I researched deeply into the areas of identity and personal development, using what I had learned to craft a study that ultimately earned me a PhD and a few publishing, speaking, and consulting opportunities. More importantly, the more time I spent with this topic, the easier it became to simplify it into what you now hold in your hands. It is not only a guide to help make who you are what you do—finding a better understanding of how you fit into the world around you—it is the framework for my own changed path into the type of work I was innately wired to do.

      Let’s take a look together. Before we can know where to go we need to look at where we have been. We will look briefly at things that were beyond our control—in our early development—and the imprint they made on us. Then we will look at what happened as we formed our own sense of identity and perspective—how we view the world. Once we understand why we are us, we can look at how others view us (our personality) and determine the attributes that really define us. From there, we can begin to take steps to align who we now know we are with the things we do. Action steps will be bolded and usually appear at the end of a section. Have a journal and something to write with close by.

      This guide is a short read but please take the time you need at each step to consider your life, your path, and where you would like to be.

      Let’s get started. Things are about to get interesting…

      Chapter Two

      What Is

      Normal?

      Chip Off the Ole Block

      In the beginning there was a baby—you. What happened after the moment of your birth depends on 1) the station in life you were born into, 2) the belief system you were born into, and 3) your shrink’s favorite guru. Without delving into mommy issues, daddy issues, or everything-is-sexual issues, let’s assume two forces are at work when you are a newborn: the propensity to be something (nature) and the propensity to do something (nurture).

      I am not an expert in genetics and I don’t pretend to know anything about DNA and its effect on what we become, but I think we can all agree that people within certain families have a propensity to be something just by the nature of their membership in the group. Two parents who are doctors may give birth to a child who becomes a doctor, but they may also give birth to a child who becomes an artist. What we might be able to agree upon is that a child birthed into a particular family may have a greater possibility to become musically gifted or mechanically talented if that DNA is part of their makeup.

      Let me share an example from my own family. I was married to a man who was a particularly gifted guitar player. Really, he was good! We had three daughters together and of course music was part of the fabric of our family existence. Unfortunately, my husband and I divorced when my children were ten, seven, and five. While all of my children showed the propensity to be creative and played an instrument at some point, it was our youngest daughter—the one with the least amount of her father’s daily presence—who had enough passion to make music a profession. Whether that

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