Self-Love: How to Love Yourself Unconditionally
By Cylon George
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Do you wonder why you never seem to have the confidence to pursue the things in life you truly want? Do others always seem to have it better than you? Do you struggle to express your desires and needs to others? Are you dogged by negative thoughts and self-destructive habits? You're not alone.
If you're looking for a new path forward, this book is for you. You'll learn how to overcome negative thinking, grow your confidence, and transform your life and the lives of those around you.
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Self-Love - Cylon George
Introduction
To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it.
—St. Teresa of Calcutta
Are you struggling to balance the expectations of others with your own needs and desires? In your desire to be selfless, do you consistently prioritize other people’s needs over your own? Have you lost the motivation to pursue the things you once loved? Have you fallen out of love with yourself?
A good majority of us have been socialized to be suspicious of self-care. In our homes, at school, and in our houses of worship, we were taught to value service to others above all else. We the selfless are doctors and nurses, moms and dads, teachers, religious leaders, volunteers, policemen, and firefighters. We the selfless can be found in every profession and walk of life.
Though you do so much for others and the community, the good work you do may be in jeopardy if you’re not keeping your own lamp filled with oil. If you’re exhausted all the time, on the verge of burnout, or constantly blowing your fuse over slight annoyances, you may already know what I’m talking about but haven’t been sure where to turn.
As a child, I was shy and had a severe stutter. I was regularly teased for my speech impediment, and I internalized the negative words people said about me. After enough teasing, staring, and jokes at my expense, I became sensitive.
I began to interpret every remark, look, and laugh as a personal attack. The world felt unsafe, and it was hard to be in public, especially if it meant speaking.
My emotional sensitivity remained as I grew. Even after my stuttering subsided, I was still sensitive to how others perceived me. My inner critic was born to protect my childhood self from the humiliating experiences of my condition.
I thought that if I could get people to like me, they would accept my imperfections. I thought that if I followed the expectations of others, catered to their needs, and remained silent when those needs conflicted with my own, I would be respected and thought highly of, even loved.
I thought my path to freedom from my suffering was to become totally selfless.
But my path to self-denial actually deepened my preoccupation with myself.
When it comes to self-love, we either choose the path of total self-indulgence or self-denial.
However, the spiritual teachers, sages, and mystics down the ages have shown us another path. The Buddha, after experiencing both extremes in his own life, came to enlightenment by forging a middle path. Jesus spent much of his time ministering to the poor and healing the sick. He also often withdrew from the crowds to pray and renew himself spiritually.
The journey on the middle path takes us deep inside ourselves. But this journey is not for the faint of heart. We’ll navigate the emotional and spiritual minefields that cause suffering. By going directly to the source of your pain, you’ll finally have the opportunity to free yourself from the beliefs and habits that keep you from loving all of who you are unconditionally.
I know. This approach is very different from others which seek to navigate you around the pain rather than through it. If you’ve tried these pain free
methods before, you’ll undoubtedly know that the relief is only temporary. The freedom you will find on this journey will last much longer. Instead of dreading future storms, you’ll have the confidence and tools to navigate your way safely through the challenges. You’ll find peace and well-being, even in the midst of storms. And by learning to love yourself well, you’ll transform your life and the lives of those around you.
Chapter 1
The Case for Self-Love
The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.
—C.G. Jung
Conflicting Messages
We live in a society that has grossly distorted the idea of self-love. We struggle to truly love ourselves because we’ve absorbed the message that doing so means being self-indulgent or neglectful to others. We struggle to extend loving-kindness to ourselves even as we strive to extend it to others. Sometimes we even treat this type of emotional self-denial as a badge of honor.
Ironically, one of the main forces driving our collective aversion to self-love is our individualistic culture. We live in the age of selfies and i
devices. Companies make billions by figuring out and catering to our personalized needs. We’re constantly told: Follow your dreams