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    Come Back, Julia!: A Tale of Love, Loves Lost, Abuse, and the Come Back!
    Come Back, Julia!: A Tale of Love, Loves Lost, Abuse, and the Come Back!
    Come Back, Julia!: A Tale of Love, Loves Lost, Abuse, and the Come Back!
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    Come Back, Julia!: A Tale of Love, Loves Lost, Abuse, and the Come Back!

    By Vera V. Ross-Holley

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    IF one day you notice that the eyes of a family member or even a friend show signs of sadness or confusion, just stop whatever you are doing and give that person a hug. The hug probably will not make things better; but if the very next moment ushers in the beginning of a journey into the mysterious world of Alzheimers Disease or dementia, the hug will have lasting memories. Come Back, Julia: A Story of Love, Loves Lost, Abuse and a Come Back, takes you, the reader, into such a strange world. Its a story about those unpredictable encounters that life tends to throw into our paths. Then again, some may see this as a story about lifes ups and downs with no simple solutions for dealing with the difficulties that often kick us down. For those who have been charged as the caretakers, you will find in this book that your faith will help you to understand your calling as you struggle to fulfill your obligations to those who may be in need of someone to just hold their hands and whisper, Everything will be all right!

    Readers, who have family members, friends, or neighbors with dementia, may find this reference to resources valuable. Physicians, who are treating patients with dementia, may also find this reference book useful as they explore the lived experiences of Julia, a person with dementia. There is much to learn about dementia or Alzheimers disease; and there is probably no better way to explore the disease further than by observing and interacting with the person with the disease and his/her caregivers..

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisheriUniverse
    Release dateOct 27, 2011
    ISBN9781462058808
    Come Back, Julia!: A Tale of Love, Loves Lost, Abuse, and the Come Back!
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    Vera V. Ross-Holley

    VERA V. HOLLEY, a former principal in the Baltimore City Public School System, and the product of that same system, has devoted the past seven years to taking care of her mother indirectly and directly. Prior endeavors have included a commitment to impacting the lives of children through organized club activities for twenty-three years. In recognition for her dedication to children, she was nominated for and received a Channel 13 Salute. As a retired administrator, Vera is now preparing and bracing herself for a return to school settings with the goal of informing decisions related to disciplining children in public schools.

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      Book preview

      Come Back, Julia! - Vera V. Ross-Holley

      Contents

      Introduction

      CHAPTER 1

      A Woman in Control

      CHAPTER 2

      A Crash Course

      CHAPTER 3

      A Glimmer of Hope

      CHAPTER 4

      Julia, the Best Grandmother Ever

      CHAPTER 5

      In the Midst of It All

      CHAPTER 6

      A Fifty-Nine-Year Prison Sentence

      CHAPTER 8

      Early Signs

      CHAPTER 7

      Gone Are the Days

      CHAPTER 9

      Progress

      Daily Tools

      This book is dedicated to the memories of Bernice and Daniel Ross, Julia’s parents. Daniel Ross left impressions upon Julia that helped carve the person that she became. He gave his very last dime to his children, grandchildren, and friends. Julia was equally generous.

      He worshiped the ground that his children walked on, and Julia worshiped the ground that her children walked on. He did not back down from anyone, and neither did she. Bernice knew that, no matter what, Julia (Tyding) was going to be there for her, come what may! If you messed with Bernice, you had a fight on your hands … a fight that you could not win!

      Thanks to my husband, Lettie Holley, Sr., for encouraging me.

      Thanks to Angel and Jersie, my cousins, for keeping the lights on!

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      Julia and the Loves of Her Life!

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      Wow! Mother and Daughter!

      Introduction

      Come Back, Julia! is a story about a beautiful woman whose life changed when doctors diagnosed her behaviors as symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease. When you encounter someone who has Alzheimer’s disease or dementia on the street, in the grocery store, in the mall, or in a crowded hospital emergency room, it may be hard to understand why the person keeps repeating the same thing over and over.

      If, in reading this book, you get a better understanding of Alzheimer’s disease and how it impacts not only the life of the person with this disease, but also his or her family, then the work that went into penning this account will be well worth it. The purpose of this book is to bring about a better understanding of the disease and make people realize that there is a real person whose original personality is locked inside of a brain that has become tangled and mangled, a brain that just does not work the way it used to, hiding all of the curveballs that life may have dealt the person, whose whole life seems to have come to a screeching halt.

      As you read about Julia, you will see a woman who lived life to the fullest when she was younger. This is a story about a mother, a wife, a daughter, a cousin, an aunt, a niece, a friend, a grandmother, and a great-grandmother. She occasionally went to church on Sundays. She worked to take care of her children. She loved cabarets, New Year’s Eve parties, going to the beach, and going down the country. She wore shorts and high heels and lots of make-up, and she dyed her hair. She let her grandchildren take baths in the rain and shop in the Goodwill stores to buy any toys their hearts desired. She took in the homeless and children who were motherless and fatherless. She washed the cancerous sores on the legs of her dying grandmother when it was just too difficult for anyone else to do. She was ready to fight anyone who disrespected her mother. She adored her father. She would give her last dime to a stranger. Her daughter tries to put it all into words from the beginning to the beginning.

      When you finish reading this story, you will be asked to make an observation based on the contents of this text. Was Julia’s condition really Alzheimer’s disease, or is this a story about the abuse of an elderly person who lost control of a life that was weighing her down, and because of the abuse, caved in when she thought that all hope was gone?

      This book takes you into the life of a real person, and the intended audience is the millions of families who may have loved ones who look and act like Julia. Since reading about the experiences of others has always helped me, I hope that Julia’s story will help you, the family member, or you, the caregiver, manage a very difficult life with someone who will need you around the clock. This person will need you to take care of almost every aspect of his or her life. Will it be impossible for you to do? You decide!

      One morning, when Julia woke up, nothing mattered in the whole world. Only her heart remained the same. Even her eyes had lost their smile. Come Back, Julia!

      As you read about Julia, you will find that before dementia (Alzheimer’s disease) took control of Julia’s life, she was a working woman who raised two of her four children as a single parent. She spoke perfect English—including the use of expletives. She possessed beautiful penmanship, believed that a woman

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