Always We Begin Again: Stepping into the Next, New Moment
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Leeana Tankersley has good news if you're struggling: each new day is an opportunity to begin again. In her warm tone and with her signature humor she offers 100 short readings to encourage and motivate you to begin again in your relationships with God, your family, your friends, and yourself. Because there is always a hand reaching toward you, there is always grace available, and there is always a chance to begin again.
Leeana Tankersley
Leeana Tankersley is a native of San Diego who received her BS from Liberty University and her MA from West Virginia University. Leeana and her husband, Steve, live in Coronado, California, with their twins, Luke and Lane. Found Art is her first Book.
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Always We Begin Again - Leeana Tankersley
Praise for Begin Again
"Begin Again is a sacred invitation to walk forward in our own lives without shame or regret. Leeana Tankersley’s words stir the soul and hold space for anyone who feels stuck, overcome, or undone. I want to give this tender, powerful book to every woman in my life."
Emily P. Freeman, Wall Street Journal bestselling author of Simply Tuesday
"Begin Again is easily the most beautiful thing I have read all year. Profound and soulful, it is a book that will change everything you believe about releasing hurt and choosing rest. Charming and generous, Leeana is the type of writer who gives words to the things we have trouble saying out loud, and offers gentle wisdom that is both fresh and deep. A unique mixture of raw honesty and expectant hope, Begin Again leaves you better in every possible way. This is a book you will want to share with your friends and read multiple times."
Mandy Arioto, president and CEO of MOPS International; author of Starry Eyed
"Begin Again is inspirational, but it isn’t a self-help book. It is a treasury of grace. With humor and wisdom and a poetic voice, Leeana reminds us we are not required to fix ourselves, and every day offers countless moments in which we can begin again to receive rest and renewal. Leeana filters Scripture, poetry, and ancient wisdom through the lens of the ordinary extraordinary life she and her family live in an old California house scented with jasmine and sheltered by rustling palm trees. Leeana makes room for us in this place and invites us to join her on a journey that begins again and again, yet carries us forward with each new beginning. Now I know that beginning again is not a sign of failure. We begin again because every day offers some fresh grace blowing in as if through an open window. This book is for every woman wondering how to open that window and how to keep it open."
Christie Purifoy, author of Roots and Sky: A Journey Home in Four Seasons
Praise for Brazen
Leeana’s words have taught me how to be at home with myself.
Myquillyn Smith, The Nester, author of Cozy Minimalist Home
We all want to find our voice, feel comfortable in our own skin, and come out of hiding. Leeana is a trustworthy companion on this journey of becoming broken and beautiful.
Rebekah Lyons, author of Freefall to Fly
If you ever feel inclined to apologize for your own existence in this world, then please, please read this insightful, soulful book. A writer with as much spice and sass as compassion and grace, Leeana is the friend providing you with peace in your personhood as she shows you how to see yourself as your Creator does. This book will both unhook you from your false press as it anchors you to your true identity: You are a brazen and beloved creation worth celebrating.
Kristen Strong, author of Girl Meets Change: Truths to Carry You through Life’s Transitions
Praise for Breathing Room
Leeana says out loud the things we all feel, and she says it with grace and eloquence. I’m so thankful for her honesty and her wisdom. Reading these pages is like sitting with a friend, and that’s the best thing I can think of.
Shauna Niequist, author of Bread & Wine
A new lyrical voice in a crowded world, Tankersley tells a tale of hope, reality, and everything in between.
Claire Díaz-Ortiz, author, speaker, and innovator at Twitter, Inc.
© 2019 by Leeana Tankersley
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Portions of this text are taken from Breathing Room (2014), Brazen (2016), and Begin Again (2018).
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To my mom, Melinda,
who has, my entire life, modeled the dailyness of faith and who is with me now as I begin again.
Contents
Cover 1
Endorsements 2
Half Title Page 3
Title Page 5
Copyright Page 6
Dedication 7
Introduction: You Make the Path 13
1. The Sacredness of Beginnings 16
2. To Open Up 18
3. Here, God 22
4. Tending 24
5. Held, No Matter What 26
6. Led by Listening 28
7. Believe, Don’t Bully 30
8. Every Wall Is a Door 32
9. Burn It Down 34
10. Acknowledge the Agitation 36
11. Love Is a Battle Cry 38
12. Pull Up a Chair 40
13. Commemorate 42
14. The Messy Middle 44
15. Submit to Support 47
16. Not Today, Soul Bullies. Not Today. 49
17. Restless 51
18. Unless a Grain of Wheat Is Buried 53
19. New Life Starts in the Dark 55
20. Waiting for Faraway Things 57
21. Scared-Sacred 59
22. Let Me Write This Story 61
23. Your Body Knows 63
24. A Real Relief 65
25. Sabbath = to Stop 67
26. Start from a Place of Honesty Instead of Hiding 69
27. You Are the One You Have Been Waiting For 72
28. A Reliable Observer of My Own Life 75
29. You Weren’t Consulted 78
30. Treating Ourselves as We Would a Dear Friend 81
31. The Mystery of Transformation 84
32. Starve the Stray Cats 87
33. Speak Louder 90
34. Threshold 92
35. Bring Her to Me 95
36. The Third Way 98
37. The Comfort We Crave 100
38. Love Anyway 102
39. New Normal 104
40. Who Is Holding Hope for You? 106
41. You Are Not Your Circumstances 108
42. Homes for the Homeless 111
43. Approval Isn’t Love 114
44. Offering Everyday Life 116
45. Twilight Comes Twice 118
46. What It Means to Be Human 121
47. It’s a Distraction—Nothing More, Nothing Less 123
48. Who Has the Energy? 126
49. The Spiritual Discipline of Disappointing People 129
50. The Only Person in Your Way Is You 132
51. The Altar 135
52. Checking Out versus Real Rest 138
53. Scouting Beauty 142
54. Why Am I Struggling If This Is What I’ve Always Wanted? 144
55. The Worn Path 148
56. From Void to Validation 151
57. Warrior Sisters 154
58. We Are All Heartbroken 157
59. Breathing Room 160
60. This Is Not an Urgent Matter 162
61. Healing Instead of Fixing 164
62. Borrowed Prayers 167
63. God in a Box 170
64. Practicing My Humanity 173
65. What Has Christ Asked You to Carry? 176
66. Making Amends with Myself 179
67. Desire Is a Tricky Thing 181
68. Either Superhuman or Subhuman 184
69. Come to Me 187
70. You Don’t Need to Be Reasonable 189
71. Lifelines 192
72. Things Won’t Always Feel the Way They Do Right Now 195
73. You Are Not Where You Were 198
74. No More Bad Pants 200
75. Don’t Go Back to Sleep 203
76. OK, I Get It 206
77. Offering Ourselves Permission to Do Things Differently 209
78. Making Commitments to Ourselves 211
79. Posture of Plenty 215
80. The Wandering Isn’t Futile 217
81. This Is Our Story 219
82. My Lovability Is Not Contingent 221
83. Not Dying Isn’t the Same Thing as Living 224
84. 20 Minutes of Soul Time 226
85. Don’t Fight the River 229
86. Expand Instead of Edit 233
87. Keep Casting Your Nets 235
88. What in Your Life Is in Need of a Resurrection? 238
89. I Love Every Version of You 241
90. The Power of Self-Possession 243
91. What God Has Done 247
92. Perfect Freedom 250
93. You Are That Girl 253
94. This One’s for All of Us Who Have Lost Something Sacred 257
95. Stop Apologizing 260
96. Brazen 263
97. The Long Way Home 265
98. Will You Let Me Help You? 267
99. Welcome It All 270
100. I’m Coming 272
Acknowledgments 275
Notes 277
About the Author 279
Back Ads 280
Back Cover 284
Introduction:
You Make the Path
I’ll show up and take care of you as I promised and bring you back home.
—Jeremiah 29:11
At my church, there is a stained glass in the front center of the sanctuary. I look at it every Sunday as it rises up behind the pastor’s head. The stained glass is two figures—an angel and a person. The angel is holding the person and they are looking out to the horizon together, the person with her hand above her eyes as if straining to look out and see.
Most of us are looking for the path, some kind of clarity, and it’s practically impossible to see at times no matter how hard we look, how hard we strain for answers. It’s just not yet materializing exactly.
The most recent season of my life has been marked with significant endings and beginnings. I have been navigating the end of my marriage, which was not my desire. As a result, my three kids and I have moved across the country from bustling San Diego to a quiet town in central Virginia, which has been nourishing and also very new. And now we wait for more to be revealed.
What happens when the path is just entirely unclear? What do we do when we cannot see much of anything at all?
Where is the path, exactly? Where is the person or people I thought would be with me on the journey? Who will accompany me going forward? When will they arrive? Where are we headed, if you had to say? What am I supposed to bring with me? What am I supposed to leave behind? I get into a fit about every third day over these questions.
I recently heard these beautiful lines by Spanish poet Antonio Machado:
Pathmaker, there is no path
You make the path by walking
By walking, you make the path.
I find such great comfort in these words. The path appears as we walk, one step at a time. By walking, we make the path. We step into the very next, new moment and then the next and then the next. We begin again, despite all odds.
The path does not arise or clarify because we run faster, think harder, or work more efficiently. The path arises and clarifies one grace-filled, love-filled, faith-filled step at a time. This is how we will make the entire journey.
And so we will need courage, strength, peace, resolve, patience, faith, grace for ourselves and for others . . . all the things we do not naturally come by on our own. In other words, we will need reminders of who we are and who God is.
I’ve collected some of the reminders I return to over and over again, the truths that have sustained me. Here they are, a collection of daily readings that I hope will companion you as you step into each new moment on your particular path.
You’ll read about New Normals and Messy Middles and Soul Bullies and Come Aparts. You’ll read about the wall and the Soul Voice and Warrior Sisters and being brazen. Somewhere in the midst of it all, I believe you will find what God has for you.
And, like the image in the stained glass, you will remember that even in our greatest uncertainties, we are held. It’s all held.
May every word whisper to you . . .
There is always a hand reaching toward you.
There is always grace available.
And there is always a chance to begin again.
Love upon love,
Leeana
day 1
The Sacredness of Beginnings
Make me brave. Lead me into the enormous space of becoming.
—Sue Monk Kidd
Ten years ago, I was a brand-new mother to boy/girl twins, and everything felt enormous. My love was enormous. My fear was enormous. My self-contempt was enormous. My exhaustion, enormous. The pile of empty Diet Coke cans, enormous. The babies’ beauty, enormous. The weight of how perfect it all was, just waiting for me to mess it up, enormous.
I could not cut a path through the extraordinary landscape. It was all just huge. And so I felt nailed to the couch, floating, in love and entirely anxious. Like I wanted to crawl out of my own skin. Of course, you have no idea what I’m talking about whatsoever.
It was in these very early days of motherhood that I read the line from the Rule of Saint Benedict, which transformed into not just a line but a lifeline and has been with me every day since those winter days over a decade ago:
Always we begin again.
Benedict’s rule for monks called out the holiness of repetition, even the spiritual efficacy of it, though our culture preaches only the opposite. It gave a certain grace to beginnings.
Because that’s all those days were: one beginning after another. And let’s be honest, that’s what so much of life is—learning how, and learning how again, over and over.
Each day is brand new, after all. We’ve never lived this day before. It is certainly difficult to not get impatient, even contemptuous, with ourselves over our utter noviceness in life. And the difficulty of being new and inexperienced tempts us to become experts, or in some cases pretend we are experts, long before we actually are.
Beginning again is permission to be unaccomplished, to be a beginner, to be brand new. More than permission too, a sense that we are right where we should be and that the beginning space