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JULY(FIRST) 2012 CONTENTS Vol 39, Issue No. 926 BUILDS HAPPY HOMES Founder: Vishwa Nath (1917-2002)
39, Issue No. 926
Founder: Vishwa Nath
Kritika Pandey
Kasturi Rangachari
20 35 TIPS FOR A HOTTER YOU! Mehak Siddiqui
Mehak Siddiqui
Sudha Narayan



Vartika Nanda

Dr Narender Kumar



Suman Bajpai




Suman Bajpai


Maharaaj K. Kaul


Maneka Gandhi



Wyn Shetty



Anoop Verma


Kasturi Rangachari


Sarita Mathur

Leena Kundnani
Mita Banerjee
Pradeep Kumar Basu
Mita Banerjee THE HOUR-GLASS FIGURE Pradeep Kumar Basu COOKERY 56 SEASONAL HUNGAMA ● Caviar Pakoras ●


Banerjee THE HOUR-GLASS FIGURE Pradeep Kumar Basu COOKERY 56 SEASONAL HUNGAMA ● Caviar Pakoras ● Vegetable
56 SEASONAL HUNGAMA ● Caviar Pakoras ● Vegetable Cutlets ● Fruity Kulfi or Frozen Moulds
● Caviar Pakoras
● Vegetable Cutlets
● Fruity Kulfi or Frozen
● Chicken in Milk and
● Cheesy Bonanza
● Relish with Mango
and Arricots
Vegetable cutlets
● Litchi Rice
a in like to
● Rasgollas with Stewed
If fruits the regular and add touch
your and to follow
a lemon and
Fruity kulfi or frozen moulds
By Roma Ghosh
Caviar pakoras
as potatoes and blender
4 500 fairly INGREDIENTS: 5 CASHEWS 1” MILK CHICKEN cardamoms cloves piece gm
a to blender taste more few
IN cut into
● Idlis in Curd and
● Soya Sticks with
Sun-Dried Tomatoes
to seconds
the heat
time. Lower
so that
the pakoras
cheese, bread crumbs,
and lemon juice and
salt, spice
chutney or
pickled onions
the chopped
piece star anise
/ 2
pieces. Blend gently with your
cups thick cream
gm fish
/ 2
fingers. Shape
the mixture into
onion chopped finely
round ‘tikkies’
/ 2
and pan-fry in less
green chillies
1 2 into pieces 1 cheese CUTLETS VEGETABLE 1
oil in
pan. Turn over
cup besan
– gramflour
sides of the tikkies
so that
are golden brown and crispy.
mustard oil
for frying
to taste
ketchup, mustard
in the cream fruits
large removing
in the to paste. and the add the to splutter.
a the
the in mixing
3 for and brown till medium Add whole METHOD salt 1 2 and tbsp tsp tbsp Heat the 2-3
your fingers. Heat mustard oil for
Mix and light of
Drop small portions
deep frying.
cut – potatoes and
in into a
cup fresh bread crumbs
of the
caviar mixture into the hot
to moulds
/ 2
oil and fry pakoras. Turn once or
tsp roasted jeera powder
/ 2
10-12 pakoras
green chillies
1 and mixing pears 2 1 Unmould kulfi METHOD without
in the colour. milk the quantity
twice as you fry
mango pulp
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Aam Pana Coconut Milk Kulfi

Stuffed Stewed Apples

Mixed Seasonal Vegetables

Bottle Gourd/Lauki in Curd

Raita with Mangoes

and Cherries

Vegetable Jamboree








Padmini Singh



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standards of board exams conducted by the Central Board of Secondary Education (CBSE) Delhi and Bihar board. In such a situation, students passing out from other state boards, where students employ all fair - unfair means to obtain high marks, will have clear edge over those who depend on diligence and intelligence only. Would it be fair for labourious and studious students to deny them their rightful place in a prestigious institution merely on the basis of board- exam marks? Certainly not. It is not that the Union HRD minister is unaware of these anomalies prevailing in Indian education system. But he has chosen to tame the IITs, which have been raised in India with foreign assistance and collaboration to groom technical talents for global competence. If Kapil Sibal has his way then even incompetent students will find way in IITs. The quality of education in these premier institutions will invariably deteriorate and they will lose their global competence and become just like any other engineering college in the country. Their gem-like status will be spoiled by the ministerʼs manoeuvre. It is an attempt to curtail the budding

talents, as failure to secure admission in IIT will lead to severe stress and devastating effect on personality and psychology of a brilliant student. One more thing that our HRD minister should not forget that he has only two years in office. Then the change in government is imminent. Prevailing situations leave little doubt that the government can go even earlier. The new HRD minister then would implement his own way and agenda in manipulating the IIT admission procedure. Looking at the way the current government is losing its credibility, Kapil Sibal may have

a plan to consolidate his vote banks. That is why, he is

adopting a policy of appeasement of all castes, religious and minority groups in the guise of bringing uniformity in IIT entrance test. But in his eagerness to revamp the system he is playing with the autonomy of IITs. Instead of insisting on his way, the HRD minister must first do away with the anomalies of Indian education system. Standards of all the education boards must be raised first or there

should be one board all over the country governed by equal norms and strictness. Only then talks of introducing some common entrance test for admission

in countryʼs premier institutions make any sense.

A fter the Indian Institute of Technology (IIT)

Kanpur, IIT-Delhi dealt a major blow to HRD

minister Kapil Sibalʼs proposed Common

Entrance Test (CET) by announcing that it will be joining the Kanpur IIT in conducting its own entrance examination. The defiance of the countryʼs two premier tech schools though means that students will have to write one more exam but it rightly defeats the political agenda that Sibal is keen to push through. It could

have a spiralling effect on other IITs. All IITs have been agitated by the ministryʼs proposal to provide weight to

the marks obtained in class XII board exams and make

the entrance test common with admissions to other central engineering institutes. The government had on 28 May announced that from 2013, aspiring candidates for IITs and other central institutes like NITs and IIITs would have to sit under a new format of common entrance test that would also take plus two (+2) board results into consideration. The IITs opposing the new format contend the proposed test will increase stress on

students instead of decreasing it, as then there will be extra pressure on the students to perform very well in board exam, too, apart from cracking the CET. As of now, students start their coaching for multiple entrance tests generally from when they are in class-X and they spend at least two years in preparation and incur huge expenditure. Just after

years in preparation and incur huge expenditure. Just after or even before taking the class XII


even before taking the class


board exams, students appear


three or four of these entrance

tests. Very few institutes give admission to students on the basis of their performance in the class XII exams. As a result, students split their attention between the class XII exam and entrance tests paying less attention to the former. There have been instances

when students qualified in IIT entrance test but failed in class XII board exams but IITs giving them admission

on terms that they would clear their board exams in

next term. Once in place, the new system of common entrance

test would haunt the students about their performance

in board exams also because they will be under

pressure to secure very light marks in board exams as, otherwise their performance in entrance test will

not matter at all. Besides, the standards of several state boards that conduct class XII exams are not uniform. Say, there is huge difference between the

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Woman’s Era July (First) 2012


Where do the funds go? By Kritika Pandey

I ndia is a culturally diverse country with a variety of differences which in turn give way to an equally varied number of problems and social evils. Though government has become more active day by day in introducing programmes to fight these social evil, the reach of the government in most cases fails

to be an all-pervading one. Indeed, it becomes sometimes difficult for the government to reach the grassroot level where the problems like child labour, maltreatment of old people and oppressions of women are more rampant. Thus, came in some NGOs with a

zest to serve the society and contribute to a noble cause. This is no doubt the sentiment behind the

formation of the Indian NGOs working in the interiors of the country. However, the saddest part of the whole thing is the fact that everything that exists has some advantages and disadvantages of its own. And the same is the case with NGOs in India. With the passage of time, along with the genuine NGOs, there came along quite a few fraudulent ones as well, whose sole interest was to make money camouflaged as noble work in whatever way possible. We all know that any organisation needs money for its effective functioning. And thus these silver papers gave birth to a lot of fraudulent activities among NGOs. No doubt, there are many people who would like to contribute in some way for some noble cause, but the question that

arises is how they determine an NGO which is genuine. Not long ago, there was a complaint filed at Dhaod Taluka (Gujarat) police station which encap- sulated 25 trustees and officials of three NGOs – (Gandhinagar-based Mahatma Gandhi Prathisthan and Samarpan Rural Development foundation and Samanvay Resource Centre. It was enquired that the NGO was paid 2 crore in 2005-06 for the project aimed at benefiting 4000 odd farmers. I was disheartened while reading a letter from one of the promising NGOs of India, which also brags of having some big Bollywood actors and sportspersons to its credit. How could an NGO adopt such cheap marketing tactics and literally try to

fool people by exhorting their money? Yes, they cited sums of money for “this and that help” instead for asking

for just help. It looks like a mockery of the non-governmental organisations and the saddest part is that, when such cases come to light, it sheds poor light even on the good ones as well. Instead of asking for food, clothes or toys for the basic sustenance of a life, the help is asked in terms of cash or cheques and, once you have done that out of your kindness, you are not even informed where your money is used. On enquiring about the investments and concerns of the NGO, it turned out to be another case

of amassing public wealth. Another incident is of a seemingly

a promising NGO named relief India

trust ( This NGO is endlessly calling people across India asking for immediate donations to help needy children for surgery. They call and play the 'emotional cardʼ to do well and get blessings. This is a typical sales strategy, whereby they make you take an emotional decision in a very short time. These people are so smart that they would sweep you off your money in minutes and seemingly vanish just after that. To prove they are legitimate, they have created a website (which itself

The calls are usually made from Ph no 01204307909 and SMS are from 8527396719, 9540331818 stating medical emergency for a poor children and requesting to donate urgently. The account details given by them is a/c no 629705015319, ICICI Bank, Mayur Vihar Ph-1 branch, code 6297 revealed a police officer refusing to be named. A few months back, there was the arrest of a gang of five, led by a woman, who misused international credit cards and stole over 15 crore

international credit cards and stole over • 15 crore THE MINISTRY CAN STRIP ERRING NGOS OF




TO RE- REGISTER. ORGANISATION’S REPUTATION IS MARRED. is very suspicious).Importantly, they mention respectable
TO RE- REGISTER. ORGANISATION’S REPUTATION IS MARRED. is very suspicious).Importantly, they mention respectable
is very suspicious).Importantly, they mention respectable organisations like AIIMS (all India Institute of Medical
is very suspicious).Importantly, they
mention respectable organisations
like AIIMS (all India Institute of
Medical Science) among their
associates. But surely it's not true.

under the pretext of running a charitable trust. Investigations revealed that Regina Seelan along with 6 other trustees established Salve Regina Charitable Trust Delhi in March 2005, obtained exemption under section 80G of the Income Tax Act in 2007, and in 2009 obtained permission from the ministry of home affairs to accept contributions under the Foreign Contribution Regulation Act (FCRA). It also launched a website, and in June 2009, approached the Merchants Services Wing of the Standard Chartered Bank, Chennai, and applied for an e- commerce gateway facility to receive foreign funds. The NGO stole credit card data online to make fraudulent transactions, and investigations reveal that the same was used to transfer cash to the trust account through the e-commerce gateway. This shocking revelation came to light after ICICI Bank, with which the NGO has a gateway facility to do international online transactions, sought service charges from the cardholders for their contributions to the trust. The account holders replied to the bank stating that the trans- actions had taken place without their consent and they refused to pay any service charges. On this basis, ICICI bank filed a complaint with the cyber crime police seeking a detailed investigation. Director General of CID said that the Salve Regina Charitable Trust had collected 15.68 crore through 995 fraudulent credit card trans- actions between 1 July and 13 August, 2011. Also, the fraud victims were mostly from the US and other foreign countries.

Filing FCRA: There are innumerable cases where NGOs have not filed (Foreign Contribution Regulation Act) returns and have been put on the prior permission list by the ministry of home affairs. Filing FCRA returns is a must, even if the NGO receives no funds from abroad. The ministry can strip erring NGOs of registration, and the organisation has to apply again to re-register. This

can take up to six months during which time the organisationʼs reputation is marred. As a matter of fact, every profession has its own pros and cons but the ugly truth is the working of an NGO. The huge number and ease of foreign donations have resulted in the emergence of several fake organi- sations with a motive to siphon off easy money in the name of develop- ment. The NGO sector is the most vulnerable to fraud and criminal practices, including the potential for misuse for the purposes of money- laundering and terrorist financing.

Terrorist financing: Some charities have been used for terrorist financing. After the attacks on 11 September 2001, charities came under global scrutiny especially in southern Asia. According to sources, in February 2008, the assets of Al Haramain Foundation's (AHF) branch in Oregon USA, were blocked because, according to the Inter- national Narcotics Control Strategy Report of 2007, individuals connected with AHF appear to have concealed the movement of more than $100,000 to Chechen Mujahideen.

It is common knowledge that international donors choose to channel is their aid via NGOs instead of the governments directly. The biggest risk is that some recipient NGOs misuse the donors' funds and fail to account for the money to the government. Under the country's laws, NGOs are required to register with the competent governmental authority, and account for their activities. The laws aim to ensure transparency in the NGO sector and guard against foreign political interference via NGOs. Whilst inter- national funding has considerably increased the resources available to NGOs, it obviously poses problems of its own. Foreign donations can raise questions about the credibility of an NGO's activities: if foreign donors are providing money for an


NGO, the question that arises is that they might be dictating goals along with it.

Lack of transparency?: There are suspicious that, through wide- ranging frauds, some NGOs have been stealing the funds meant to help the poor or save the lives of the afflicted. Several prevalent malprac- tices include NGOs illegally transferring donated funds for their declared activities to foreign accounts abroad and later refunding the money in local currency – leading huge extra-budgetary expenditures, lack of transparency in the NGO's procure- ment management processes, undocumented expenditures, over- stating expenses by creating fake bills, inflating employee expenses, misrepresenting field activities and misreporting the financial status to donors. Thus, heartless and greedy individuals and groups fritter the donated money away into private pockets. Not only that, with or without the knowledge of donors, NGOs sometimes direct donated funds to serve their own political or social agenda. Unscruputions NGOs might use foreign funds to incite public sentiments and stage protests against government policies leading to political unrest in various parts of the country. It is galling, indeed, to think that, while some kind-hearted donors are making sacrifices, denying them- selves some luxuries in order to help the poor or support a noble cause, some scheming individuals are feeding fat on the blood of the people they are supposed to protect. most dangerous of all, their political agenda could endanger the country's safety and security.

Governmentʼs move: The Government of India is contemplating framing laws to control foreign funds flowing into non-governmental organisations as some time these organisations engage in anti-national activities. In India, despite decades of unhappiness with western NGOs, the Union government decided to

openly confront them only when it felt aggrieved over the stalling of its 15,000-crore Kudankulam nuclear power project in Tamil Nadu, and protests over genetically modified crops. Indian law bans NGOs from taking foreign funds for political purposes or affecting the security, strategic, scientific or economic interest of the states. Popular concerns over the power of NGOs, however, stem from their staggering funding, dubious agendas including religious conversions, and untrammelled powers to interfere in domestic matters. Data available with the Union home ministry shows that in the nine years between 2001 and 2010, NGOs received more than 70,000 crore. The highest donors were the US, Germany and Britain, and the most significant recipients include Gospel For Asia Inc, USA ( 232.71 crore), Fundacion Vicente Ferrer, Barcelona, Spain (228.60 crore) and World Vision Global

Spain ( • 228.60 crore) and World Vision Global Centre, USA ( • 197.62 crore). Analyses

Centre, USA (197.62 crore). Analyses of the data shows that the greatest sums out of the foreign contributions were utilised for establishment expenses (Rs. 1482.58 crore), followed by rural development ( 944.30 crore), welfare of children (742.42 crore), constru- ction and maintenance of schools/- colleges (630.78 crore) and grants of stipend/scholarship/ assistance in cash and kind to poor/deserving children (454.70 crore). You canʼt

miss out on the diminishing values. Now, if 50 to 70 per cent of the funds of any organisation are spent on establishment expenses such as buying land, buildings, Jeeps, office infrastructure, mobiles, laptops, cameras, salaries, consultancy fees, honorariums, and foreign travel, should such expenditure be tax-free when there is no public beneficiary? Huge sums are expended on conversions, which also cannot be designated as “charity” or “public service”. In the light of these experiences, many Indians feel that the country does not need foreign aid to improve the lot of its citizens, and that all social service activities can be meaningfully conducted with local donations. As India herself provides considerable assistance to other Asian and African nations, there is no merit in accepting foreign funding on the pretext of charity, and then using the same for conversions or


My maths master I bent down a little more, to peer over the path my

My maths master

I bent down a little more, to peer over the path my forefinger took in the classified column of a daily, scouting for a maths tutor for my class X son. There were innumerable bone fides but pray how do I convince myself about the credibility of unknown entities? Gone were the days when we pooled in all the notes among groups of friends and were always willing to share material with each other. At this crossroad, I am instantly reminded of Subroto, who was a genius in mathematics. And what exactly did he do to merit remem- brance at this juncture? Subroto came into my life through the old landline telephone in a believe-it-or-not

accidental cross-connection. I was engaged in a complex discussion with one of my classmates (we were in our

final year of school) trying desperately to solve some delicate intricacy in maths. We were unfortunately stuck in

a corner when a soft, ìIf you don’t

mind, I can help you outî diverted us. The initial reaction was how dare someone invade someone’s privacy

and have the guts to enter into conver- sation with strangers, but something in his meek voice let me get over the rancour I felt and – lo and behold! we were out of the mess in jiffy. My friend hung up shortly with a few words of thanks while I decided to show some formal courtesy by making polite enquiries regarding the personal details of my benefactor. It turned out he was an engineering student with a passion for numbers and

a heart of gold (as I came to know

later). He solemnly offered his telephone number for further contact for help if required but thankfully did not press for me to do the same as I

was wary under the circumstances in which we had found each other. As luck would have it, I found

myself in ‘mathematical messes’ quite frequently (on second thoughts now, I think they may have been more often than not, deliberate in nature) and I sailed through my pre- board exams and then finals with

flying colours banking on the inputs from this one-way liaison. Then, one day, he gave me the good news that he had bagged a plump opportunity for a stint abroad and bid a final farewell. I disassociated willingly still not being able to muster up the courage to enlighten him on my credentials

and that was the end of an unusual friendship. Years have passed and I am misty-eyed now as I experience the void left behind by such a selfless mortal. And I am somewhat overridden by guilt for not having acknowledged a person’s meritorious

efforts. Dear Subroto, I wish this reaches you. I am indebted to you not so much for the grades I received in


as for cherished memories of this very precious and unusual experience in life. – Shahjahan Ansari, Howrah.


Woman’s Era July (First) 2012 WHAT’S IN A NAME or surname? By Kasturi Rangachari ? A generation ago, it
WHAT’S IN A NAME or surname? By Kasturi Rangachari
or surname?
By Kasturi Rangachari
WHAT’S IN A NAME or surname? By Kasturi Rangachari ? A generation ago, it was taken


A generation ago, it was

taken for granted that a

woman would change her

surname to her husbandʼs

after marriage. The matter

wasnʼt discussed or even

given any thought – that

was simply how it was. And




protested….well no woman

did. Sometimes women of that gener- ation went a step further. When they got married, they did not just change their surnames, they dropped their first names too. So when Sita Raghav married Rajesh Talwar, she called herself Mrs Rajesh Talwar. Didnʼt she feel strange? Not stranger than a woman whose first name was changed by her in-laws as happened in many parts of our country! It is only when we today look back at this state of affairs from 20 odd years down the line that most of us even realise what the old system meant. It meant that a woman didnʼt have any identity of her own. She first took on her fatherʼs surname and identity and later those of her husband. But today many women – mainly those who are educated and city- based – are not even thinking of changing their surnames, let alone their first names, after tying the knot. I asked around for the reason for this.

“Actually, as far as I am concerned, it isnʼt a matter of main- taining my identity or anything like that,” said a newly-wed neighbour. “Itʼs just the hassle involved! Do you know how many things Iʼd have to do to change my name and how long it would all take? “Iʼd have to start off by legally changing my name. That includes going through legal formalities, seeing that the change is published in the government gazette, announ- cing the change in newspapers, etc. Then Iʼd have to get my name changed on all my certificates and degrees. “Then there are my bank documents, insurance papers, etc. My name would have to be changed for each of those too. And then thereʼs the question of my professional life. Iʼve worked for various organisations and have got experience certificates from each. But if I change my name, Iʼd have to change my names on all those so that, if I change jobs again, Iʼd be recognised as the same person! What a headache! What a lot to go through just to call yourself by another name! Iʼll never do it!” But another newly-married young friend said sharply, “Of course, I wonʼt change my name! Just because Iʼm married, it doesnʼt mean that Iʼve lost my identity! I havenʼt become another person that I need a new name and a new identity!” “Yes, when I got married, I entered into a relationship. I became one of a pair. But that doesnʼt mean that Iʼve lost my individuality!” added her friend. But a sociologist friend had another take on the situation – both on why women changed their sur- names in the past and why women are reluctant to change their surnames now. According to her, in the past, it was felt that husband and wife having the same name added to the cohesiveness of the family. The family unit also became easier to explain to children. Society too saw the family as a social unit. She then went on to explain that

the reluctance of modern women to change their surnames today is because the status and position of women has changed. Todayʼs woman no longer fits neatly into a common mould. Each has her own unique feelings and opinions. She no longer feels that, after having been born a woman, marriage and children are unavoidable. She often doesnʼt feel the necessity for these and, though she needs a man and enters into a relationship/marriage, she is actually commitment-phobic. Such women want a partner, but do not want to commit fully. They want to leave a way out of the relationship/marriage for themselves. And so they feel that, if they commit to the extent that they change their names, they are in danger of losing their identities and they are then frightened that they will not be able to summon up the courage to leave and be themselves again.

to summon up the courage to leave and be themselves again. SUCH WOMEN WANT A PARTNER,


Is this refusal of women to change their names after marriage causing some sort of upheaval in society? Well, the parents-in-law of these women may feel a little put out and wonder if their daughters-in-law will prove too self-willed to handle. But their educated and city-based sons, the male counterparts of women who do not want to change their surnames, often have no objection and do not take offence to their wives not wanting to take their surnames.


“Men are even more commitment- phobic than their female partners today,” laughed one such man. “Today, marrying isnʼt the only way we can get sex, after all! Actually, we men give up much more than women when we marry! We give up our freedom to have a roving eye and to change partners, we have to settle down to domesticity in which most of us feel shackled, we have to take on responsibilities, put up with PMS – And, while we are adjusting to all this, who has the time to smart over the fact that our wives donʼt want to change their surnames to ours? Who cares anyway?” But it is also true that many a very-much-in-love man may see his belovedʼs refusal to take his surname as a rejection of him and their relationship. This couple may get married but the man may continue to doubt her love and commitment to their marriage. If their marriage works out, the issue may subside to a sometimes-remembered pinprick of

irritation. But, if things do not work out, the man may claim that her reluctance to change her name meant that she did not commit to the relationship from the very beginning. There are many women who genuinely want to commit fully to their marriages and who love their husbands enough to want to merge their identities with theirs – to some extent. These women compromise by not giving up their maiden names and surnames but they add on their husbandsʼ surnames too, the two surnames joined sometimes with a hyphen.


There are some interesting cases of such double-surname women. Aishwarya Rai married Abhishek Bachchan and became Aishwarya Rai Bachchan. She retained both her own surname and also took her husbandʼs – though she was probably also driven by the fact that Bachchan is a surname worth having! Another example of a surname change that was welcomed as manna from heaven and which has proved very useful to this day, is the one that came about after Indira Priyadarshini got married to Firoze Gandhi and took the name of Indira Gandhi. By doing this, Indira gave herself and then her children and grandchildren a gift of unparalleled political consequence – the Gandhi name which brought with it the aura of Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi, father of the nation. No wonder that granddaughter Priyanka, even after she married and announced that she would not enter active politics, retained the surname and became Priyanka Gandhi Vadera. In the past, the surname, besides being the family name, also indicated the caste and occupation of the person and even his ancestral village. So, it was a kind of social address that was useful when it came to forming social bonds and arranging marriages. Today, it is less important for this reason but, among the conservatives it is still important because it gives one an instant idea


of the “acceptability” of a person. “Itʼs not that people without the same social address are not accep- table!” such people assure us. “Itʼs just that the comfort level with those that have it is higher. We know that they share the same cultural values that we do.” This is why many people who want to do away with caste – and occupation-based divisions in Indian society, do away with surnames altogether and their official names just consist of their first names perhaps followed by an innocuous Kumar or Kumari used not as a surname but a suffix. This will certainly help in bringing about a casteless India, but these people are often rather awkwardly called Mr





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Kumar or Miss or Ms. Kumari. A surname has another use. This is to bring a certain formality into a relationship. In offices, in the military and in other places where there is a hierarchy, men are traditionally called by their surnames alone. This brings formality into a relationship. It also brings ranking or a pecking order into it. A boss calls a subordinate by his surname, the subordinate calls his boss just “sir” and refers to him by his surname, adding a “sir” to it. Since women have entered the workplace recently, practices regarding how they should be addressed there are still developing. Surnames are less commonly used in their case. If they are older, “behenji” “akka” or the local word for elder sister is added to their first names, in smaller organisations where formality is less important. Today “madam” is often attached to their first name. In the pant-suited world of MNCs, itʼs first names for one and all from the boss down to the peon and for both sexes. Do you like your name? If you donʼt, you always have the option to change it – legally. Whether you can get family, friends and colleagues to call you by the new name is another matter! Every year, people apply to the government to legally change their names and to publish this in the government gazette. They usually do it because they do not like their old names, because they consider them unlucky, because they have converted to another religion, because they want to take their husbandʼs surnames after marriage or because they want them changed back after a divorce. Increasingly common these days is for people to change their names or the spelling of their names on the advice of astrologers and numerolo- gists! The state government earns quite a tidy sum from this. In 2010- 2011, for instance, the government of Tamil Nadu earned about two crores rupees from about 45,000 applications for name changes. So donʼt ever ask, “Whatʼs in a

name?” There is a lot!



Certain basics never go 1 out of

fashion: a classic pair of blue jeans,

plain white shirts or kurtas, an elegant black evening dress or sari, a simple salwar-kameez in a colour that suits you, a basic jacket that goes with everything – you get the picture, right?

Smoking and 2 alcohol are two

things that will ruin your looks,

whether you realise it or not. If you

have these habits, quit NOW.

Always go shoe-shopping 3 at the

end of the day as this is when your

feet are most tired and at their

largest. Make sure they fit snugly but

are not too tight. 4

To keep lipstick from getting onto

your teeth, form an ʻOʼ with your

mouth, wrap a tissue around your finger, poke into your mouth and

slowly twist it out so as to eliminate excess colour from your lips.

Change your razor or its


35 T

cartridges regularly to avoid ugly

nicks when shaving. 6

Wear a good quality sun-screen

that suits your skin type. Itʼs better to

get a waterproof one that will stay on despite sweating. Use it religiously


For the smart, stylish woman of today.

By Mehak Siddiqui

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every day even if the sun is not out as ultraviolet rays do penetrate down through the clouds too.

For ultra-shiny hair, mix two 7 table-

spoons of apple cider vinegar with a

cup of water and the juice of half a lemon. Run through your hair and rinse after a shampoo.

If you have 8 a short neck, never

wear Chinese collared tops. Instead

opt for deep necklines and long necklaces.

Keep your make-up palette 9 natural

rather than opting for too many bright

shades. The natural look never goes out of fashion.

Remember that a brown 10 blusher

is only supposed to be applied to the

apples of your cheeks, not the entire


Maintaining 11 an active lifestyle

does not mean you need to devote

hours to exercise. Simple steps really

do work – taking the stairs, doing housework, even playing outdoors

with your children or dog.

Store your perfume bottles 12 upside

down to maintain the scent better.

you want 13 to snack between

meals, eat fruit or a vegetable like

carrot or cucumber rather than junk

like potato chips.

Scarves are great accessories 14

every season of the year: wrap one


growth. The proper way to massage is to place the thumbs of both hands

on the scalp and move in a circular motion – the skin on the scalp should move, not your thumbs.

Constant wearing of high 18 heels

causes knee and back problems. Be

sure to give your feet a rest with comfortable slippers or shoes.

Do not be 19 a fashion victim but

wear clothes that suit your body type.

If you are on the fuller size, avoid

short tops, pants that are too skinny,

etc. If you have flabby arms, do not wear sleeveless tops.

To open up your eyes 20 so that they

appear bigger and livelier, place a dot

of a light shade in the inner corner of

around your hair in summer for protection from the heat, tie one around your neck in winter to keep

warm. Best to get cotton and linen ones.

Using satin 15 pillowcases prevents

hair from tangling at night

multivitamin tablet every 16 day,

especially if you are over 35, helps

keep skin and hair healthy. Do

consult your doctor first though.


Give yourself a scalp massage


before shampooing to stimulate hair

each eye. shades. longer. looks. 22
each eye.

Do not wear 21 white pants if you are


Donʼt wear leggings with 22 a kurta if

your thighs are flabby. It looks

horrible; instead opt for an Anarkali kurta that will cover up your thighs from the sides.

It is best to 23 contrast lipstick and

nail colours; do not go for the same

Use of an eyelash curler 24 can

make your eyelashes weaker; stick

to a good mascara and it should do the job.

After applying 25 lipstick or gloss, blot

it by kissing a tissue paper. Then

apply a second coat to make it last

Make sure to blend your 26 blush into

your foundation well or it will tend to

look unnatural and add the

appearance of five years to your

If you use 27 make-up everyday, you

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must cleanse, tone and moisturise your face religiously:

Keep your skin free of build-up

by using a gentle cleanser in the morning and at night. When

cleansing your face, do so gently in upward motion strokes – do not tug, pull or scrub too hard to prevent irritation.

Freshen up your skin with a

toner containing ingredients that suit your skin type.

Indulge your skin and keep it

hydrated with a moisturiser that is compatible with your skin type. Make

sure your daytime moisturiser contains SPF to protect your skin from the sun's harmful rays.

Treat yourself to an at-home 28 facial

two to three times a week. Use a mild

cleanser, then exfoliate with a gentle

scrub that contains exfoliants that are round and non-abrasive. Apply a facial mask after exfoliating. Rinse off thoroughly and get a good night's


If you have 29 under-eye circles or

any blemishes, cover them up with a

concealer rather than just foundation.

This will prevent your make-up from

looking cakey.

Choose the shade 30 of your

concealer carefully. When testing out

shades, pick one that matches your skin tone or one shade lighter. It

helps to use a mirror outdoors to see how shades look on your skin in

natural light.

To maintain 31 a flawless finish

throughout the day, apply pressed

powder using a sponge or clean

powder brush.

If you are over 30, 32 avoid

powdering under the eyes as it can

make fine lines and wrinkles appear more obvious.

For smooth, 33 soft lips, take a clean

damp washcloth and gently rub your

lips for 60 seconds before applying


For touch-ups during the 34 day or

night, carry a soft toothbrush in your

handbag or make-up kit. Be sure to brush your lips gently. Apply a lip balm or conditioner

throughout the 35 day to keep your lips

hydrated and protected from the

sun's harmful rays.




HowHow toto countercounter ByBy SudhaSudha NarayanNarayan

I t is natural to dislike failing at

things for all but, for some

children, the fear of failure

provokes such intense anxiety

that it changes their behaviour

Thanks to this fast-paced

competitive world, nowadays

more children fear failing at tests,

sports and other extracurricular

activities. Fearing failure can

cause children to avoid certain activities or to hesitate to attempt or do their best.

Perceiving the failure – Fear of failure relates to how children perceive the consequences of failure. Children also fear failure because they fear not having a sense of achievement. Fear of failing at a task can lead to self-handicapping in adolescents.

Self-handicapping is when a child purposely sets extremely easy goals so that he or she cannot fail to achieve them. For example, a child may aim to get a "C" rather than an "A" on a test to minimise the chances of failure. Fear of failing relates to perfectionism. People who fear failure become perfectionists in an attempt to avoid the feelings of shame and embarrassment that come with failure. Someone who perceives a lot of pressure to succeed from her parents is more likely to feel shameful and embarrassed if she fails. Children learn to avoid activities that might lead to failure. While this may protect the child from experiencing the negative emotions that come with failure, it also causes them to miss out on potentially valuable learning experiences because failure is a valuable part of life, providing children with learning opportunities and healthy motivation to do better in the future. Parents can take steps to reduce your child's fear of failure. Look for signs of anxiety in your child, such as feeling sick, tired or not wanting to go to school. Talk to your child if he or she seems worried about things. You can help your child by keeping things in perspective – remind him or her that it's okay if he or she fails and that the negative emotions that come with failure will soon pass.

through a few magazines or watch your child's favourite show with them. The fear of not measuring up can cause your child to simply not try. After all, you can't fail if you don't try.

Redefine failure – Try to live by this motto, "If you learned something from it, then you did not fail." As far

as parents are concerned instill that there hasn't been a situation yet that you can't learn from. You can apply this motto to anything from riding a bike, to climbing a tree, to auditioning for a part in a school play. Think about it – if your child knows that success is seen as gaining experience and helping them move towards their ultimate goal, they will be more

encouraged to try new things.

goal, they will be more encouraged to try new things. The only way to fail is
goal, they will be more encouraged to try new things. The only way to fail is

The only way to fail is to not try – Secondly, your child

needs to know that the only way to fail at anything is to not try. They don't have to be the best; they just have to try their best. There is a big difference there. We



expectations on our children. We all want our children to succeed, but what is your definition of success? If for you

success means being the best and then when your child tries and doesn't measure up and you come down on them, where is their motivation to try again, to be better, or worse to try anything new ever again? Encourage your child to do their best – that is all they can do.

Share with your child/children – Another tip is to share with your children times where you have failed, and what you did to overcome that failure or what you learned from that

failure. Depending on the age of your child it can be an eye-opening time for them. Younger children like to think that their parents are these incredible beings that can leap tall buildings

and take on every bad guy in the world. So hearing that you have not always been able to "beat every monster" you have come up against but that you never gave up, you did your best and tried again will help them see that they can try to do.

Remember you were a child once too. You were once their age, no matter how long ago that was try to think back to how you felt at that age. For, as wonderful as childhood

is, it also has its fair share of stresses and demands. Don't put adult expectations on them.

and demands. Don't put adult expectations on them. FEAR OF FAILING RELATES TO PERFECTIONISM. PEOPLE WHO
and demands. Don't put adult expectations on them. FEAR OF FAILING RELATES TO PERFECTIONISM. PEOPLE WHO


Parentsʼ role to help kids overcome fear of failure – For children, though, the very thought of not being able to succeed is enough to stop them from trying at all. So, how then, as a parent, do you help them break free of their fear and take a risk to see what they can achieve? Society is not easy on kids today. While they may not have had to grow up without video games and cable like we did, they do have a lot of peer pressure and societal pressure placed on them. Walk through your child's school, flip

placed on them. Walk through your child's school, flip Finally, don't live through your child –

Finally, don't live through your child – You may not realize that this is a tip to help them overcome fear of failure, but sometimes trying to be mom or dad is exactly what our children do. So, if they don't believe that they can do something as good as mom or dad would do it, they won't do it so that they don't disappoint you. Encourage them to try, you never know, they may do it


better then you.

Bangladeshi mountaineer Wasfia Nazreen reacts after arrival at the Hazrat Shahjalal International Airport in Dhaka

Bangladeshi mountaineer Wasfia Nazreen reacts after arrival at the Hazrat Shahjalal International Airport in Dhaka on 9 June. Wasfia, a rights-activist, writer and development practitioner, ventured out to climb the Seven Summits, the highest mountains in each of the seven continents. She climbed the summit of South America, Aconcagua on 16 December, Bangladesh's 40th Victory Day.

Aconcagua on 16 December, Bangladesh's 40th Victory Day. An artistʼs concept

An artistʼs concept

artistʼs concept Japanese toy maker Cube has a "Yube de Piano", on

Japanese toy maker Cube has a "Yube de Piano", on display at the annual Tokyo Toy show on 14 June, which has small touch sensors on the tip of each finger and sounds like a piano, and can also adjust tone.

finger and sounds like a piano, and can also adjust tone. Yube de piano SF characters

Yube de piano

SF characters perform
SF characters perform
can also adjust tone. Yube de piano SF characters perform Japanese Science and Fiction (SF) charactors,

Japanese Science and Fiction (SF) charactors, Ultra Seven (R) and Ultraman (L) perform during the men's volleyball qualifying tournament match between Japan and Puerto Rico for the London 2012 Olympics in Tokyo on 9 June. Japan beat Puerto Rico by 3-1 (22-25, 25-21, 25-19, 25-16).

This is an artistʼs concept of NuSTAR, a sophisticated orbiting telescope that uses high-energy X-ray vision to hunt for Black Holes in the universe, which was poised to be launched on 13 June.

US actress Eva Longoria poses during a photocall for the TV show Desperate Housewives as part of the 52nd Monte Carlo

Television Festival on

13 June in Monaco.

The Festival held

since 1961 ran from

10 - 14 June.

Desperate Housewives

Chinese People's Liberation Army (PLA) Air Force fighter pilot Liu Yang (L) is seen together
Chinese People's Liberation Army (PLA) Air Force fighter
pilot Liu Yang (L) is seen together with her two male
colleagues, Jing Haipeng (C) and Liu Wang (R), in their
spacesuits. The spacecraft took off at 6.37 p.m. 16 June from
the Jiuquan space base in the Gobi desert. Inset: Chinese
students are looking at a model of an "alien" on display at a
science fiction exhibition in Beijing on 19 June.
On display is toy maker Tomyʼs i-Sodog, a robot dog
which can walk and dance when controlled by an iPhone,
at the annual Tokyo Toy Show on 14 June. The 15cm tall
robot dog, weighing 400g, has 15 actuators and
recognises the human voice.
Three-seater electric vehicle
Japan's car designer Kota Nezu displays Toyota Motor's
concept model of a three-seater electric vehicle with
toy-like design body "Camatte-Daichi" at the annual Tokyo
Toy Show in Tokyo on 14 June. The small-sized electric
vehicle, in length of 2.7m and width of 1.3m, can change
its style with different body panels.
Dancing Robot Dog
Shenzhou-9 takes off






A country that stands apart as a travel destination.

By Vartika Nanda

T his seems to be an abode of butterflies. They will come, hug and kiss you and will fill you with enormous happiness. No permission is required for this exchange of sweet feelings. Welcome abode. This is Montreal - the magic world of birds, butterflies and what not! One

of Montreal's few designated bird sanctuaries, Summit Park is a


heaven for protected wildlife species. Located near Olympic Park, Montreal's huge botanical garden is recognised as one of the worldʼs largest and finest. It has an extensive collection of 22,000 plant species. It also has 31 thematic gardens, including the largest Chinese Garden outside Asia and a Japanese Garden with a tearoom and fabulous bonsai collection that make it an exceptionally beautiful attraction. The Montreal Botanical Garden attracts people from every nook and corner of the globe. This butterfly house has magic and music. The wide range of butterflies flying all over, fill the visitor with enormous happiness and take them away from the tensions of life, at least for some time. Montreal is the largest city in the province of Quebec, the second- largest city in Canada and the

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fifteenth largest in North America. Originally called Ville-Marie, or "City of Mary",[6] the city takes its present name from Mount Royal,[7] the triple- peaked hill located in the heart of the city. Its name was also initially given to the island on which the city is located or Mont Real as it was spelled in Middle French. Montreal has always been registered as one of the world's most livable cities and was also called "Canada's Cultural Capital" by Monocle Magazine. The unique design and architecture of the city also gave it the honour to be named as UNESCO City of Design. In the year 2010, Montreal was named a hub city, ranked 34th globally out of 289 cities for innovation across multiple sectors of the urban economy, in the Innovation Cities Index by 2thinknow. As a North American city, Montreal shares many cultural shades with the rest of the continent. It has a rich tradition of producing shades with the rest of the continent. It has a rich tradition of producing

shades with the rest of the continent. It has a rich tradition of producing both jazz and rock music. City also gets the opportunity to hold the comedy festival - Just for Laughs. This is the largest and most unique comedy festival in the world. Other popular festivals include the Montreal International Jazz Festival, Montreal World Film Festival, Les FrancoFolies de Montreal, Nuits d'Afrique, Pop Montreal, and the Montreal Fireworks Festival. Canada attracts Indians. Every year large number of tourists visit Canada from India. One can board Qatar Airlines from Delhi and take a connecting flight from Doha. Doha international airport is another attraction that opens up plethora of activities.


Qatar Airways is the national carrier of the State of Qatar and is one of the fastest growing airlines operating one of the youngest fleets in the world. It also has the worldʼs first dedicated terminal for first and business class passengers opened at Doha International Airport in 2006. It features a spa, jacuzzie, fine dining, meeting rooms and duty-free shopping. Stay in Canada also offers a number of avenues. One can stay at the Fairmont Hotels and enjoy the luxury of the most pampered stay. Reach Fairmont Le Château

Montebello and you will meet the most charming Monte. He will greet you with immense happiness and will be your unconditional guide. Monte is a golden retriever and was born in 2010. He is a canine ambassador who has been trained by the Canadian Guide Dogs for the Blind Association to be a guide dog, especially for blind tourists. Interestingly, the board at the hotel says:

“Due to his amazing kindness and incredible social skills, we have found Monte a new career at Fairmont where he will be able to socialise constantly.” Monte has now become an apple of everybodyʼs eyes. He has a special hut to reside. He is loved by everyone and is looked after with utmost love and care. This is a unique concept which is now followed by the Fairmont Hotels. As one of eastern Canada's leading destinations, Fairmont Le Château Montebello hotel is an exceptional Quebec resort famed for its rustic yet luxurious accommodations. Here, in the stunning red cedar log cabin, one can experience rustic elegance and a warm welcome. The Outaouais resort has hosted a number of historic meetings, including a G-7 International Economic Summit, attended by political figures including Ronald Reagan, François Mitterand, Pierre Trudeau and Margaret Thatcher as well as NATO meetings. More

Trudeau and Margaret Thatcher as well as NATO meetings. More recently, the Quebec luxury resort hosted

recently, the Quebec luxury resort hosted the North American Leaders Summit welcoming President Bush, President Calderon and Prime Minister Stephen Harper. Whether guests come to solve the problems of the world or to seek a weekend's relaxation, Le Château Montebello in Quebec offers a tranquil resort setting, flawless service and refined cuisine. Beautiful surroundings and year- round activities offer our Montebello hotel's guests more than 40 exciting adventures, including horseback riding, championship golf, outdoor tennis. Today, Fairmont Le Château Montebello luxury hotel attracts visitors from across Canada and around the world. Clearly, amidst numerous travel destinations, Canada certainly stands



Short Story

The Nose Ring

It distracted him from the real thing.

By Wyn Shetty

S wetha wore an intricately wrought nose ring on her wedding day. She was veiled, dressed in red silk, and decked with heavy gold jewellery. She sat on the carpeted floor beside Shan, the bridegroom. Seated opposite was the officiating pundit, chanting sonorous Vedic hymns over a blazing ritual fire. The bride sweated nervously;

the groom seethed with impatience. The marriage was a much-awaited occasion for the rural community of Millur. Their zamindar, Ram Pandiyan’s eldest daughter had finally got a good match. The villagers were delighted. The event would brighten their mundane lives. “She is past marriageable age,” commented a crone. “All that time wasted in studying up to college.” Some agreed, but a few thought it wise. “Her education plus a huge dowry probably helped with the marriage proposal.” “Could be, considering her looks.” The old one insisted on having the last word. The others ignored her remarks. Nothing could quell their excitement. Swetha’s jubilant parents threw open their mansion’s doors for the occasion. Everyone in the village was invited to join in the celebrations.

Relatives and friends had arrived ahead of the actual nuptials. The women among them play an important part in the week-long pre-wedding ceremonies. The bride needed their special care and advice on the choice of ornaments and clothes. There was turmeric paste to be prepared, henna designs to be selected for the mehendi ceremony and a host of feminine planning related to a typical Indian wedding. The women, for once, were in charge and in the thick of things. The mansion’s spacious courtyard served as the marriage mantap. It was now covered with a multicoloured awning, its supporting poles bound with twirls of fresh marigold, jasmine and roses threaded in colourful tinsel. The flowers’ heady fragrance permeated the air while melodious shehnai tunes played in the background. An ornate sofa for the couple stood on a red-carpeted dais, while gilded chairs, upholstered in plush, red velvet, were arranged in rows for the guests. The venue’s vibrant display vied with the invitees’ finery. The women were draped in dazzling silk saris and wore all the gold they owned for the event. The men, not to be outdone, sported their best sherwanis with glittering jewelled buttons. All eyes were on the jewel-encrusted nose ring hanging from Swetha’s nostril with a wide gleaming arc. It gave her a sensual look – a hint of suppressed passion to the bridegroom’s gaze. A learned guest remarked knowingly on the elaborate ornament. “The nose, besides being a sense of smell has other uses. It also connects to one’s emotional and sexual feelings,” he noted. “Ah, now I know why nose rings form an integral part in a bride’s trousseau. Decorative assets to enhance their marital life,” commented his friend. Others insisted, “They are just good breath regulators.” Both were debatable points. Be that as it may, the majority


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of Indian women continue to follow the ancient practice of wearing nose rings. Nostrils of female children are pierced with a thin gold wire. These graduate to plain gold rounded studs with a gemstone or more elaborate ones as they grow older. It is all about status and trend than need.

partake of the free wedding banquet. The bride and groom began to look bored and tired. The groom’s father took in the situation and was furious. He called out to the female relatives, “Hurry! Get them to the nuptial chamber.” He was that eager for his son to beget an heir. Chastened, the women bustled to the couple, and led the two to the selected bedroom with loud giggles. They shut the door on them, smirking suggestively. Everyone sighed with pleasure and relief. Now

they could feast and enjoy the entertainment offered by their host. They looked up with expectation as a group of dancing girls came on the stage. The men were thrilled, the women scornful, as they watched the gyrating girls imitating the latest dances from Hindi films. “Men are all the same,” muttered a matron, but looked on with interest. In the nuptial chamber, Shan moved towards the bed strewn with fragrant rose petals.

Ignoring the customary milk and fruits placed nearby, he looked at his bride and gruffly ordered her, “Come to bed.” He was more interested to look at what lay beneath all those heavy ceremonial clothes. Swetha, cringed at his crudeness, and tried to put off the moment. She began to frantically dislodge the nose ring, even as Shan watched her with irritation, until it came off her nose. “I just needed to get this thing off,” she explained. She then took a fruit from the tray and began to cut it leisurely.

Shan repeated his command, “Now!” Swetha could dawdle no longer and obeyed. She docilely approached the bed with the glass of milk for them to share. “Goodness, her eyes squint,” Shan muttered. Aghast! He stared at her in disgust. The nose ring had been a ploy to distract his gaze from her offensive features. He picked the ornament and flung it to Swetha shouting, “Here, keep your bait.” He kicked open the bedroom door and dashed out to confront the cringing relatives. “I am getting the marriage annulled instantly!” he shouted at them and left in a rage.

T he nose ring sparkled on the bride’s pale cheeks, eclipsing her other features hidden by the gauzy veil. Swetha hated it. Her previous

plain one would have been enough. But family tradition prevailed and the stud was replaced with this golden dangling hoop of an heirloom. Custom decreed that it should be passed on to the first bride in the family. Now, forced to wear the ridiculous adornment in her nose of all things, Swetha hoped she could sneeze and eject it. How comical it would

look if the hoop fell off right into the groom’s lap as he tied the mangal sutra round her neck! She smiled at the thought. She did not like the groom. This was the crux of the matter.

Shan eyed her covertly; trying to gauge her figure bundled in layers of bejewelled finery. The marriage had been arranged. Neither of them had seen each other. ‘She looks like a stiff puppet,’ he thought, as he continued to study her, but for the nose ring. It danced coquettishly on the bride’s face, tempting and stirring his desire. Well, he hoped she could cooperate on the nuptial bed. The whole purpose of this marriage, as far as he was concerned, was to beget heirs and please his parents. They wanted legitimate ones. It was true that several

offspring, alleged to be his, were scattered around in the village. Shan’s virility was a byword in the area. As a zamindar, he had taken advantage of many an innocent village girl. He felt it was his birthright. “I will make sure to sire one tonight,” he confided earlier to his pleased father. “Let’s hope it will be a boy,” was his father’s eager reply. The long-drawn-out wedding ritual finally came to an end. The couple bent to touch the feet of their parents for their blessings. They were then escorted to the dais, where they sat stiffly receiving the well wishes and gifts from the guests. The shehnai was drowned by the loud cinematic songs blaring from the mantap’s speakers. Children screamed, laughed and ran about unchecked. Friends boisterously hailed each other. Relatives and friends jostled on the dais, to be photographed with the couple. Guests forgot the newly-weds to make a beeline for the refreshment area. They were in a hurry to

He was that eager for his son to beget an heir. Chastened, the women bustled to the couple, and led the two to the selected bedroom with loud giggles.

S wetha breathed a sigh of relief. She was spared

the ordeal of sleeping with that philandering

monster. She brazenly locked the door and lay

down on the bed to enjoy a good night’s sleep! She would need it to face the expected ruckus in the morning.



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Is there any difference between an antiperspirant-- deodorant spray , a body spray and a
Is there any difference between an antiperspirant-- deodorant spray , a body spray and a

Is there any difference between an antiperspirant-- deodorant spray , a body spray and a roll-on? Which is better? I am a busy 28-year-old working woman There is not much difference in many cases, except for the manner of application. Antiperspirant products usually contain an

aluminium-based chemical which reduces perspiration and dampness and stops body odour. Body sprays normally contain only perfume to help you smell good. This can be spritzed all over the body. Take care to avoid getting it into eyes. Roll-on deodorants help to reduce sweating and prevent odour and is used only on underarms. After using

ophthalmologist to rule out eye infection which could be causing the puffiness.


I am a 19-year-old college student with naturally curly hair. I use an electric straightener ever morning to make my hair smooth. I find that my hair has now become dry and brittle. Please advise. The daily straightening has definitely affected your hair thanks to the heat the process generates. You should moisturise and nourish your hair very frequently with a conditioner to avoid dryness. Also, do not forget to dampen your hair before using the straightener. To avoid further hair damage why donʼt you get permanent hair straigh-


roll-on, wait for 10 minutes before

tening done in a beauty parlour? The effect lasts for a year or more, and is well worth the cost. It will also save your hair from the daily torture you are at present submitting it to!

slipping on clothes, as it can stain fabric. If allergic to contents, you can suffer from redness or irritation. In


I tan easily and now that summer is here I am going to look quite dusky. I cannot use cosmetics due to my many allergies. Please suggest some natural de-tanning treatments. Why donʼt you carry a parasol or wear a large floppy hat to shield your face from the sun? For removing a tan, a very effective method is to use plain lemon juice. If you find it a bit too acidic, mix a little milk cream in it and apply it on the face and arms in gentle massaging movement. Keep on for half an hour and wash off.

Multani mitti or Fullerʼs earth mixed with a little sugar (for exfoliating) and rose water is great for removing tan. Apply and keep on for half an hour and rinse off with warm water. Other natural concoctions for helping to remove tan are a mix of almond paste, honey and milk; mashed avocado with honey and milk is also a soothing de- tanning paste. Many swear by the efficacy of a mixture of egg and almond oil. These pastes can be used thrice a week to help in removing the effects of UVB rays on the skin.


this case, stop the application and try an alternative. If you have little time,

a body spray could be your best bet.

Although my face is fair, my neck is dark by comparison. What can I do to

I am only 30 years old but have

make it fairer? Many of us neglect the neck area when doing beauty treatments. A simple lack of proper cleaning can

noticed that my under-eye area is getting puffy.This adds years to my face. What is the cause and how can

deal with it? The skin surrounding the eyes is extremely delicate and great care should be taken right from the teen years to be gentle with it. Puffiness can be caused through eye strain, lack of sleep, allergy to eye cosmetics, or the habit of applying rich creams on this area. If you are having late nights, try to get more sleep. Stop creaming the under-eye area as this is very absorbent and becomes puffy quickly. Use anti-allergic eye make- up which will not irritate the skin. Donʼt tug or be rough with the eyes when washing and drying your


face. Chill used tea bags in the fridge and place on your closed eyes for 15 minutes every day to soothe and shrink puffy skin. You can even use slices of chilled cucumber or raw potato in the same way to reduce puffiness.

cause an accumulation of dirt and grime and skin darkening. Neck folds also tend to

cause an accumulation of dirt and grime and skin darkening. Neck folds also tend to trap dust and sweat; neck skin, being more thin, tans easily with UV rays too. Plain cold milk is an excellent remedy for a dark neck, as it acts like a toner and cleanser. Massage it gently into the neck and wash off on a daily basis. Make a paste of olive oil and sugar crystals and rub it into the neck in circular movements till the sugar dissolves. This acts like an abrasive to remove dirt and dead cells. Another massaging paste can be made with curd, a few drops of lime juice and crushed almonds. Use in the above manner and wash off with warm water. Aloe vera juice helps lighten pigmentation. Plain lime juice is also effective but never go out in the sun without washing this off as it leads to tanning. In all these methods, take care to be gentle with neck skin so that you do not stretch it.

  It is a good idea to visit an

It is a good idea to visit an



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How to be a great MIL.

By Leena Kundnani

S o it has finally happened. Your son, the apple of your eye, is about to get married. Soon you will become a mother-in-law and your son will acquire a family of his own. No doubt, a wedding is an exciting event and there is so much joy and happiness associated with it.

However, once the excitement of your son's wedding has died down, reality hits you on the face. You may feel that your son has moved away from you, and doesnʼt need you to meet his day-to-day needs. Or you may find that he seems to spend less time with you and more time with his wife. All this may be upsetting and may make you feel insecure and apprehensive. Either way, you need to realise that your son has a life and a family of his own. It is time to truly cut the umbilical cord and set your son free. The fact is that your family has grown – and you now have a new addition to the family – the daughter-in-law. Whether you think she's the best thing that ever happened to your son or the worst, your family relations will be much smoother and more pleasant COMPLIMENT HER ON THINGS SHE DOES WELL, WHETHER IT'S HER AMAZING BANANA COMPLIMENT HER ON THINGS SHE DOES WELL, WHETHER IT'S HER AMAZING BANANA


HER AMAZING BANANA BREAD PUDDING OR HER NEW PROMOTION. if you sincerely try to welcome your
HER AMAZING BANANA BREAD PUDDING OR HER NEW PROMOTION. if you sincerely try to welcome your

if you sincerely try to welcome your daughter-in-law into the family with open arms. Bonding with your daughter-in-law is an integral part of parenting. This is especially true if you are one of those lucky ones whose son and daughter-in-law will be living with you instead of setting up their own independent set-up. Regardless of whether your son has his own set-up after marriage or continues to live with you, here are some ways by which you can not only make the new member feel at home but also ensure that you are liked by your daughter-in-law.


Accept your new daughter-in- law for who she is. : Accept your daughter-in-law as she is. Remember, your son (and of course you too if it is an arranged marriage) has chosen her to be a part of your family. Believe that she has some special qualities that drew your son and perhaps you to her and try and focus on her positive qualities. Also, keep in mind that your daughter-in- law has a need to ʻbelongʼ from the day she becomes a part of your family. If you want to win her over, refrain from criticising her clothing, past behaviour and career decisions. Also, avoid criticising her family, her upbringing, and her likes and dislikes. Instead, compliment her on things she does well, whether it's her amazing banana bread pudding or her new promotion. Unexpected gestures of love and kindness go a long way in strengthening the bonds of your relationship. Kalika Shah, a 30-year-old married woman says, “Ours was an arranged marriage. I came from a more well-to-do family as compared to my husbandʼs. As a result, I was used to the finer things in life. This was known to my would-be in-laws prior to marriage. While I went all the way out to adjust myself, forgoing all the things I was used to, my in-laws kept taunting me saying that my demands were never ending and that I had only learnt to ask for things all the time. On rare occasions that my spouse indulged me by ordering my favourite dishes from a restaurant, my MIL used to get terribly upset and angry. As a result, even after seven years of marriage, we are just not close and silently resented each other.”

Share family stories with your new daughter-in-law: Sharing anecdotes about all your family members is the best way by which you can make your new DIL feel a part of the family. Tell her about the time your son opened a lemonade stand as a child, or about the times he got into mischief in school. Share stories about the other siblings at

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home so that she develops a bond and understands them better. At the same time, donʼt portray all your children as saints, share both – their good and negative aspects. Remember – the more she knows about your family, the more she will feel like a part of it. Neha Mehta, a 55-year-old lady looks back as she remembers her experience as a DIL. Her SIL, three years her senior, went all out to make her feel completely unwelcome. “Whenever my SIL came to visit on her annual visit from Singapore, the family would gather in the living room to gossip. However, all the chatter would stop the moment I would enter the room, she rues. My SIL would curtly ask me “Yes, Neha, do you want something,” much to my embarrassment. I used to then leave the room, not knowing what else to do.

And, on rare occasions, if I did swallow my pride and sat in the room, all the chatter would stop and all family members would glance uncomfortably at each other. “Till date, she says, ”my SIL monopolises my husband whenever she comes to visit us. Itʼs unfortunate but true,” she sighs. “My MIL was a completely different breed, “says Delhi-based Anjana Singh. “Whenever there was some disagreement at home, she would pass comments like “What will others think?” or ʻDonʼt say anything in front of her.ʼ All these made me feel as if I was the outsider, she reminisces.

Cut the umbilical cord: This is one of the most important things you need to do to make yourself acceptable and popular with your DIL. Indian parents are known to be extra-possessive of their sons. They just donʼt want to let go of their sons and feel that no girl is worthy of them. If you want your son to be happy, you need to cut the cord. Give the couple some space. Donʼt interfere or dictate what you feel the young couple should or should not be doing. When they have children of their own, give

suggestions and advice when asked but allow the younger couple to rear their children in the manner they want. Sonia Singh, a 30-something homemaker shares her experience. “My MIL was extra-possessive of her son. She truly believed that no girl was worthy of him. She would hover around me when I made his breakfast and packed his tiffin, worried that I would serve her son less food or worse, starve him,” she reminisces. “My in-laws were very possessive and didnʼt want to let us out of their sight,” says Delhi-based Mahek Sharma. “They resented it when we went out to the movies and dinners on weekends. And, if we decided to stay at home, my in-laws never allowed us to be at home alone. While they used to go out together every evening, they used to take turns to go for their evening walks if my husband and I decided to spend an evening at home.” Shalini Ramani from Mumbai has

a different story to share. “My spouse

was an only child. And yet, my in- laws were far from possessive,” she reveals. “My in-laws used to encourage us to go out on weekends, leaving our two children with them. In fact, on several occasions, my FIL even went out of the way to get us movie tickets for the latest blockbuster in advance. They have always given us space and privacy and have allowed us to live our own lives, even though we all live under the same roof. As a result, I am very close to my in-laws and love and respect them a lot,” she confesses.

Plan an outing together: There

is nothing better to break the ice than

planning an outing together. It could be to the latest pizza joint or to a movie but planning an outing with your DIL could make you popular with her. It is also an opportunity for both of you to get to know each other. Of course, you should take into consideration your DILʼs tastes and

preferences while planning the venue of the outing. “My MIL and I are on very good and friendly terms,” says Mumbai- based KhushbuIrani. “We often go out on shopping sprees and lunches. While we both have our friendsʼ circles, we are also part of the same kitty group, and this fact amazes some of my friends,” she chuckles.

Understand and respect her views: It is important that you demonstrate an understanding of your daughter-in-lawʼs behaviour, intentions and views. Seeking her opinion makes her feel part of the family. It could be a simple thing like

asking her what she would like for dinner or what colour the living room should be painted. Be sensitive to her feelings at all times. This paves the way to a long and meaningful relationship with your daughter-in- law. Using these simple ways you can surely make yourself accepted and

liked by your DIL.

Born again My eyes were closed, my head was inside the MRI machine and I

Born again

My eyes were closed, my head was inside the MRI machine and I was trying to shut out the irritating reverberating noise of the machine. Extremely severe headaches and several visits to the doctors had landed me at Bombay Hospital a few years back. “There is a big shadow at the base of your brain,” said my doctor examining the CT scan I had undergone after a battery of other regular tests, “It could be a tumour but it is at an inoperable place.” This verdict suggested that there was no cure and that my life could be counted in days. The blinding headaches I was

undergoing were terrible and unbearable. My children were young, still in school and my busy executive husband knew nothing about the home and hearth. What would happen to them if something happened to me? “You have been a very good daughter, wife and mother,” said a friend in whom I confided my worries, “If you have to go away, go with a peaceful mind.” But was I ready to go? Could I leave my family to fend for them- selves? And could they? The answer was a big and resounding, “NO”. As the MRI scanned my brain, my mind was active. I relived my life, the happy occasions, the highs and the achievements. I still had a lot to do, a long way to go before I called it a day. As my brain was being scanned, I came to a decision: I HAD TO LIVE. I COULD NOT AFFORD TO DIE. My mind was made up. I resolved to live,

fight out my illness and survive. The results of the MRI were startling. The so-called tumour shown in the CT scan had now broken into bits and there were some six to eight small shadows at various places in my brain. “It is difficult to say exactly what they are,” said the brain specialist, “By drilling your skull and scooping out one of them and analysing it, we could probably find the problem and then a solution could be attempted.” I shuddered at the very thought. “Isn”t there any other way?” I asked. “There is,” he said slowly, “You can be put on a broad-spectrum medical course. The medicines will be strong, your stomach and its lining will be tender. These medicines cover a large number of illnesses, right from tuberculosis to infection and the rest. You must also have a full body check-up. -Veena Adige, Mumbai.


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My 12-year-old son develops ulcers in the mouth off and on. They begin with a

My 12-year-old son develops ulcers in the mouth off and on. They begin with a tingling and burning sensation, are followed by a red bump that turns into a yellowish ulcer. It is painful and he experiences difficulty in eating. Sometimes there is more than one ulcer. They heal in a weekʼs time. Please tell me why does he develop ulcers and what should we do to treat them. Mouth ulcers occur due to a variety of reasons ranging from digestive problems, allergies, stress, fatigue, illness, injury, deficiency of vitamin B 12 and folic acid. Good oral hygiene is of paramount importance both in the prevention and treatment of the disease. Avoid spicy and salty foods and drinks as they may aggravate the condition. Strong mouth washes may irritate the existing ulcers and are best avoided. Local applications and pain- killers help alleviate the symptoms but do not cure the disease. Please do take him to a doctor.

There is a constant flow of clear liquid from my babyʼs right eye that is worrying me. He is just one month old. The constant flow of tears occurs due to blockage of the passage that carries excess tears from the inner end of the eye to the nose. A gentle massage with a finger, beginning from the inner end of the eye downwards along the nose bridge, usually opens up the duct and cures the condition. A paediatrician will show you the correct method of doing it. In case this does not work your baby might need a minor operation that involves opening up of the blocked passage.

it. In case this does not work your baby might need a minor operation that involves

I have a six-month-old son. Please tell me what are the advantages of massaging a baby and what is the right way of going about it. Research has shown that regular massage benefits the growth and development of the baby. It moist- urises the skin and scalp, promotes mother-child bonding and enhances the psychological well-being of the child. You could begin by massaging the scalp with a mild oil and then move over to the body. Rub some oil between your palms, hold the babyʼs foot with one hand and move the other hand from his buttocks to his foot. Follow the same motion with the other hand. Alternate both hands in this way taking care not to squeeze the leg. Repeat this motion in the reverse. You can flex and relax the foot and roll the babyʼs leg between both hands. Repeat with the other leg. Now, place both your hands in the centre of his chest and move them outwards around his chest. Next, place one hand on his belly button and move it gently downwards. Follow with the other hand. For the arms, place both hands on the centre of the babyʼs rib cage and move them outwards over his shoulders, upper, lower arms and hands in a smooth motion. As for his face, put both your hands on his forehead and slide them down the

Could you tell me what is caries and how I can prevent it from occurring
Could you tell me
what is caries and
how I can prevent it
from occurring in my
daughterʼs teeth.
Caries are
cavities in the teeth,
caused by bacteria that multiply in
the mouth due to poor oral
hygiene. Food particles that remain
overnight in the gaps between the
teeth, lead to a growth of bacteria.
These bacteria produce a lot of
acid that destroys the enamel of
the teeth. After some time the
damage progresses further down
right up to the pulp causing a lot
of pain. If not checked even at this
stage the infection spreads to the
rest of the body through blood.

sides of his face with your thumbs massaging the sides of his nose. Lastly, make small circular motions over the babyʼs cheeks in front of the ears, loop around the ears and chin.infection spreads to the rest of the body through blood. I have a two-month-old son. Though

I have a two-month-old son. Though I wash his hair regularly, he has crusty flakes on his scalp that I canʼt get rid of. Please tell me why are they present and how do I get rid of them. Is this due to some skin disease or due to lack of adequate hygienic measures? I am very worried. The crusty flakes that some babies have on their heads, is called cradle cap in lay language and seborrhric dermatitis in medical parlance. It is a form of dandruff common in infants. The greasy scales usually respond to a brisk massage with oil, followed by a thorough shampoo that removes the crust along with the oil. Those cases where the flaking is heavy and present as brownish patches or yellowish crusti- ness need more vigorous treatment. Daily use of anti-dandruff shampoo after an oil massage should be made. Make sure you keep it out of the babyʼs eyes. Ointments with anti-dandruff preparations can be applied afterwards. Since the condition worsens with sweating, make sure you keep your babyʼs head cool. Occasionally, the cradle cap may persist throughout the first year but as the condition causes no problems and is only cosmetically unappealing do not get unduly worried.

My seven-year-old son has started developing white patches on his body. The hair over that area has also turned white. I am very worried. Is it leprosy? Please tell me what to do. Your son is most probably suffering from vitiligo or leucoderma. This is not a variant of leprosy as most people fear. It is non-contagious and non-life- threatening but can cause a lot of emotional trauma on account of the disfigurement. It occurs due to loss of melanocytes – the pigment-forming cells. Till recently there was no effective cure in allopathy and more and more people turned to ayurveda for this disease. Nowadays, laser has shown promising results.

– Dr Amrinder Bajaj, MD. .

more people turned to ayurveda for this disease. Nowadays, laser has shown promising results. – Dr


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Eyedrops need to be used with caution.

By Dr Narendra Kumar

M rs Sabharwal rings me up and says, “Iʼm not in a position to come to the clinic; Iʼm having watering in one eye. My neighbour, Mrs Sharma, visited me last evening and gave Tropica Plus and Ciplox eyedrops as first aid, but thereʼs no improvement in

watering and redness; can you suggest some eye drops?” I replied, “We can only advise any

treatment after eye examination, and you need to take an appointment; in the meantime, while Tropica Plus must be stopped, you may continue the use of Ciplox prior to coming to


Tropica Plus is a mydriatic (Tropicamide + Phenyephrine) commonly used for dilating the pupil to perform refraction and examine the

posterior segment of the eye; and itʼs


offering it as a first-aid medicine for the problem of watering. Most commonly abused eyedrops include mydriatic and steroid preparations as these are leftovers having been prescribed for a family member, the parents are usually asked to put mydriatic drops in the eyes of their child at home prior to coming to the clinic, and steroid drops are usually prescribed for the ocular ailment specially meant to be treated with such formulations.

However, itʼs dangerous to stock the leftover medicines to be used later on as first-aid products. Eyedrops are medicines for topical use in the eye; and may contain steroids, antibiotics, antihistamines, non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs, mydriatics, miotics, topical anaesthetics or artificial tears etc, depending upon the condition being treated. As compared to oral medicines, eyedrops carry lower risks of side- effects; and it is generally recommen- ded that these should not be used after three weeks of the opening of the bottle for fear of their losing potency. Following are the various

types of eyedrops:

Eye cleaning drops: The main constituent in these drops (e.g., Optrex with an eye cup) is normal saline and these are primarily used


anyone for eye rinsing.
for eye rinsing.

grave mistake by

Steroid eyedrops:

These contain organic compounds and are used to treat eye infection. Also having prophylactic properties, these are used to prevent infection after ocular surgery, and should be used only as per the directions of the eye doctor.

Antibiotic eye drops: These are also used to treat eye infection as well as to prevent infection after eye


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surgery, and must be continued for full treatment periods as otherwise the infection may relapse.

Glaucoma eyedrops: These are used to manage glaucoma, the silent thief of vision (as vision once lost due to glaucoma cannot be regained by any means), and help to drain eyeʼs fluid (aqueous humor) better and decrease the amount of the fluid made by the eye, in order to reduce eye pressure.

Artificial teardrops: These are lubricating eyedrops for the management of dry eye, the common debilitating condition that results in irritation, redness, itching and discomfort.

Allergy-relief eyedrops: These are non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs having anti-allergic constituents to control ailments like allergic conjunctivitis.

Pink eyedrops: These antibiotic eyedrops (e.g., Ciplox) treat the red eye due to conjunctivitis.

Mydriatic eyedrops: These are used for the dilatation of eyeʼs pupils to facilitate estimation of the refractive error as also the examination of the inside of the eye (e.g., Pilocarpine).

All eyedrops, especially steroid and antibiotic preparations, and mydriatic and miotic preparations, must not be used indiscriminately; these should be used as per the

advice of the eye doctor.


Long Story Part-20

Alice in Cyberland

Taking digital swords by roller coaster.

By Anoop Verma

The story so far

Alice and her friends meet the fogy squirrel who is actually the principal of their school. After introduction they tell the principal that they want to save the world by defeating the evil duo. The principal is delighted and discloses to them that he knows the way to access the source codes of the evil duo and he will show them the method.

N matter how powerful the evil ones are, in


the end they always get beaten at the hands

of the virtuous. The Emperor of the Internet and the Lackey were seemingly the most powerful in Cyberland, but even they were not unbeatable. “The evil duo is shielded by


very potent digital firewall, which is

impossible to access by normal software hacking techniques,” said the principal to the audience comprising Ashish, Alice, Rajat, Rachna, Pinki, Timmy and the friendly lion. The spider was sitting under a nut tree munching some succulent nuts. “The only way to break that digital firewall is by cutting it down with a special digital sword, which is forged from a very potent software system. Using the sword won’t be easy; the evil duo will use every trick to defend their digital lives. The fight against the evil duo is going to be a fight to the death, which in Cyberland means deletion.” “Mr Principal, where will we get the special digital sword with which we can access the digital firewall of the evil duo?” asked Alice. “I will give the sword to you,” said the principal. “Since I became trapped in the cyberworld I have been working on forging swords which can break the digital firewall of the Emperor of the Internet and the Lackey. I have succeeded in creating five such swords. I will give one sword each to Ashish, Alice, Rajat, Rachna and Pinki. All of you can use

your swords to fight the evil duo and their cruel minions. Timmy, the friendly lion and the spider will use their claws and teeth to do the fighting.” “When can we have the special digital swords Mr Principal?” asked Rachna. “I too am eager to have the special kind of digital sword,” said Pinki, wondering what the sword would look like. Would it match the colour of her dress? Would she look more beautiful carrying it? “Hurrah to the principal and to his sword,” said the friendly lion and Timmy. “I am so pleased that we will soon be on our way to fight for saving the world,” said Rajat with a brave smile. “I am not eager to be on my way to fight for saving the world,” mumbled the selfish spider by herself, even as she partook of another mouthful of nuts. However, as no one learnt of her secret thought, she escaped from being scolded. “We are eager to destroy the forces of evil so that we can return to the real world,” said Alice enthusiastically. “Yeah, we are all eager to return to the real world,” said Ashish. “Hurrah to the real world” cheered Timmy and the friendly lion. “From my house, I will get the five special digital swords, which all of you will need to defeat the evil duo. I don’t want to keep all of you from your mission to save the world,” the principal said getting up from his chair. “Where is your house, Mr Principal?” asked Alice. The principal laughed and said, “Look up, girl, among the branches of the tree under which you are sitting.” The youngsters looked up and saw perched between the branches, a small but immaculately built tree-house. “But how will you climb up to your tree-house, Mr Principal?” the spider opened her

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The evil duo are shielded by a very potent digital firewall, which is impossible to
The evil duo are
shielded by a very potent
digital firewall, which is
impossible to access by
normal software hacking

mouth full of nuts to ask. “How can you ask such a silly question, girl? Don’t you understand that I climb to my tree-house like a squirrel,” reposted the principal. So saying, the principal started climbing his tree-house by slithering up the nut tree just as a squirrel does. The principal slithered down the nut tree only moments later holding five digital swords in his hands and these he gave to the five youngsters. “I am glad to receive this sword,” Ashish said examining his sword gleefully, “I am sure it makes me look like a medieval prince. I feel great.” “Oh, I am so, oh so delighted to have my sword,” beamed the absolutely delighted Alice. “The silver colour of the sword matches so wonderfully with the silver colour of my dress,” delightfully said Pinki. “I am sure I look like some medieval princess,” said Rachna. “I feel stronger than ever with this sword in my hand,” said Rajat. But the envious spider was overwhelmed by envy when she saw her friends receiving the beautiful swords. Out of sheer spite, she said, “Carrying a sword is no big deal. Only hairy and ugly men carry swords. Pretty women always carry a parasol.” This is just what she should have said to make Rachna lose her temper. “Shweta, you monstrous six- legged spider!” she screeched. “How dare you speak such cruel words? Apologise, or I will tackle you with my new sword.” Fearing that Rachna may actually carry out the threat and hit her with the specially made digital sword, the spider hastened to apologise, “I am sorry Rachna,” she gulped, “I didn’t mean to hurt

Mr Principal, where will we get the special digital sword with which we can access
Mr Principal, where
will we get the special digital
sword with which we can
access the digital firewall of
the evil duo?

anyone’s feelings.” That was a lie of course, she had meant to hurt the feelings of all those who had received a sword from the principal. Nevertheless, she was forgiven. “I must now seek your permission to leave, Mr Principal,” said Ashish pompously, holding the sword’s hilt firmly and proudly in his hand, like a medieval prince. “There are many battles that I have to fight and many dangers that I have to face before I finally succeed in achieving my real aim of saving the world.” “Yes, Mr Principal, our mission to save the world cannot be delayed any longer and so we must leave,” said Alice, with her head held high, looking like a very pretty medieval princess. “But we have hardly given any thought to how we are going to reach the lair of the evil duo,” said the friendly lion. “We don’t know the way to that place.” “Oh no, that’s true,” Rachna gasped desperately. “We don’t know the way to the lair of the Emperor of the Internet and the Lackey.” “I didn’t realise up till now that none of us knew about the way to the evil duo’s lair,” Rajat said with apparent frustration. “What are we going to do now?” said Pinki. “How are we going to use our special digital swords on the evil duo, if we don’t even know where to find them in this vast Cyberland.” “Mr Principal, can you suggest some way by which we can reach the evil duo’s lair quickly?” Alice asked, looking expectantly at her sword. It was clear that she was itching for a battle against the forces of the evil duo. “Of course, I know of a way that can take you to


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In my nut forest I have a digital roller coaster, which is capable of travelling
In my nut forest I have a
digital roller coaster, which is
capable of travelling right up to the lair
of the evil duo. All you guys have to do is to sit
down on seats of this roller coaster and then
you will be off on a topsy-turvy, tumultuous,
riotous, thunderous and screaming
ride to the evil duo’s lair.

the evil duo’s lair in moments,” the principal said, with a smile. “You do?” Alice said happily. “But why didn’t you tell us about that earlier?” “How could I unless somebody asked me?” said the considerate principal. “Please tell us how we can reach the lair quickly,” Ashish said eagerly. “Listen very carefully, for I shall say this only once,” said the principal. Everyone listened very carefully to the words of the principal, who never said anything twice. “In my nut forest I have a digital roller coaster, which is capable of travelling right up to the lair of the evil duo. All you guys have to do is to sit on seats of this roller coaster and then you will be off on a topsy- turvy, tumultuous, riotous, thunderous and screaming ride to the evil duo’s lair.” “I am terrified of roller-coasters,” the spider wailed feebly. “Sitting in roller

coasters gives me a feeling of emptiness in the pit of my stomach.” Now, the wily nut-

of emptiness in the pit of my stomach.” Now, the wily nut- munching six-legged spider had
of emptiness in the pit of my stomach.” Now, the wily nut- munching six-legged spider had

munching six-legged spider had again said something that was sure to get her a well-deserved rebuke. And that is what she got from the principal. “She is just making an excuse by saying that she is terrified of roller coasters because she does not want to fight to save the world,” said Rachna, who had an axe to grind against the spider. “What is it to you if I am lying?” asked the sullen spider taking another mouthful of six nuts. “You are only jealous of me and that is why you are making up all sorts of stories about me.” “I am not jealous, I am speaking the truth,” Rachna said peevishly. “Since when did you start speaking the truth?” sarcastically asked the spider. “That’s enough,” interjected the principal. “I am of the opinion that Shweta is making up stories about being terrified of roller coasters as she does not want to fight to save the world. Do you know how I punish girls who refuse to contribute their mite to saving the world from the nefarious conspiracy of the evil duo?”

N o one felt any pity for the wily nut-munching

spider since her punishment was entirely well

deserved. “Enough of this melodrama, girl,”

the principal hollered. “My decision is final, you are going to ride the roller coaster in the front seat – and that’s it.” The realisation dawned on the spider that her wailing and pleas for mercy were not going to have any effect on the principal and so she resigned to her fate. She lapsed into a morose silence and continued with her nut-munching activity. “Mr Principal, can we now depart for the lair of the evil duo?” asked Ashish eager to do battle with

activity. “Mr Principal, can we now depart for the lair of the evil duo?” asked Ashish
activity. “Mr Principal, can we now depart for the lair of the evil duo?” asked Ashish
activity. “Mr Principal, can we now depart for the lair of the evil duo?” asked Ashish

We will succeed in saving the world, Mr Principal, have no doubts on that regard.
We will succeed in
saving the world,
Mr Principal, have no
doubts on that regard.

forces of the evil. “Of course, of course, I won’t hold all of you back from the momentous undertaking of saving the world,” the principal said brightly. “Come with me, all of you, I will show you the roller coaster.” At the other end of the nut forest there was the colourful digital roller coaster, whose digital tracks seemed to go on and on into the cyberspace and melt into infinity. “What a pretty roller coaster,” Alice exclaimed happily. “I will enjoy riding in this roller coaster.” “This roller coaster looks too good to be true,” Ashish chuckled. “Hurrah to the roller coaster that will take us to the lair of the evil duo,” cheered Timmy and the friendly lion.

T he spider without waiting for anyone, quickly jumped into the rear seat of the roller coaster, hoping that no one would order her to vacate

this seat and move to the front seat. But she was obviously underestimating the principal’s determination to severely punish her. “Not so fast, girl,” the principal admonished, glaring at her through his pince-nez. “Didn’t I tell you that you are going to ride the roller coaster on the front seat, which is the most frightening seat in any roller coaster?” “P…ple…please don’t make me sit on the front seat,” the spider said shivering with fright. “Alice can occupy the front seat.” “And why should I?” Alice asked peevishly. “Maybe Ashish can occupy the front seat,” said the spider still shivering. “And why should I?” asked Ashish sullenly. “Rachna, Rajat or Pinki can occupy the front

seat,” said the spider with fright. “Why should we?” said the three youngsters. “It is you who has misbehaved all the time since we arrived in this nut forest.” “Maybe the friendly lion or Timmy can occupy the front seat,” the shivering spider ejaculated in a last ditch attempt to avoid sitting on the front seat. “Boo to the front seat,” Timmy and the friendly lion said in unison. “Only girls who are being punished by their principal are supposed to ride the front seat of roller coasters and not others.” “Your delaying tactics don’t seem to be working, girl,” the principal said. “There is no way you can avoid having a place in the front seat. It is time you vacate the last seat and come to the front.” The spider stayed put on the last seat with her teeth chattering and body shivering. The principal finally and rightly decided that he had had too much of nonsense from this disobeying spider. He simply resorted to picking her up by the six spindly legs and chucked her unceremoniously into the front seat which, as we all know, is the most terrifying seat of all. “If you utter another word of protest, I will see to it that you always ride in roller coasters on the front seat,” the principal said angrily. “Even after we are back in the real world, you will be forced to ride roller coasters on the front seat only.” The spider gnawed at the nails of her six feet, shivered and her teeth chattered, but she did not utter any word for fear that the principal would make his new threat come true. Ashish occupied the second seat, Alice the third, Rajat the fourth, Rachna the fifth, Pinki the sixth, Timmy and the friendly lion settled down on the seventh and eighth seats respectively. “We are on our way to fight the evil duo, Mr Principal,” Ashish said with pride. “We will succeed in saving the world, Mr Principal, have no doubts on that regard,” said Alice enthusiastically. “We will win, because we are fighting for liberty,” said Rajat, Rachna and Pinki. “Hurrah to our mission to save the world!” said Timmy and the friendly lion. The spider was too busy shivering and feeling frightened to say anything. “Best of luck boys and girls, may the world be saved,” said the principal. “Hurrah! Hurrah! Hurrah!” chanted Ashish, Alice, Timmy and the friendly lion. “Hurrah! Hurrah! Hurrah!” chanted the principal and then he pressed a digital button that said “Click here to send the roller coaster to the lair of the evil duo.” The roller coaster was on its way with the brave digital souls, on whose young shoulders rested the mantle of saving the world.

(To be continued)


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Caviar pakoras


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56 Caviar pakoras SEASONAL hungama If you like to use seasonal vegetables and fruits in your

to use seasonal vegetables and fruits in your regular diet, follow the recipes to add a different and exciting touch to your food.

By Roma Ghosh




250 gm fish egg

1 onion chopped finely

2 chopped green chillies

1 cup besan – gramflour

mustard oil for frying

salt to taste

METHOD Clean the eggs removing the skin. Place in a large mixing bowl and add the remaining ingredients, mixing gently with your fingers. Heat mustard oil for deep frying. Drop small portions of the caviar mixture into the hot oil and fry pakoras. Turn once or twice as you fry 10-12 pakoras at

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one time. Lower the heat to medium so that the pakoras are crispy. Serve with ketchup, chutney or pickled onions or aachar.




1 cup grated paneer – cottage cheese

1 green capsicum cut into small pieces – seeds removed

1 cup beans stringed and cut into very small pieces

2 boiled and mashed potatoes

1 1 / 2 cup fresh bread crumbs

1 / 2 tsp roasted jeera powder

2 chopped green chillies

Vegetable cutlets
Vegetable cutlets

1 tsp more lemon juice as per your taste

salt to taste

METHOD Place the beans, grated capsicums and mashed potatoes in a blender and run the blender for a few seconds so that all the ingredients mix into each other. Remove to a mixing bowl and add the grated cheese, bread crumbs, salt, spice and lemon juice and the chopped green capsicum pieces. Blend gently with your fingers. Shape the mixture into round ʻtikkiesʼ and pan-fry in less oil in a non-stick pan. Turn over so that both the sides of the tikkies are golden brown and crispy. Serve with ketchup, mustard sauce or pickle.

Fruity kulfi or frozen moulds
Fruity kulfi or frozen moulds



2 cups mango pulp

1 cup thick cream

2 tsp powdered sugar

1 cup fresh fruits like apple and pears cut into small pieces, without removing the skin

METHOD Mix all the ingredients in a mixing bowl. Pour the mixture into kulfi moulds or any other moulds and keep in the fridge to freeze. Unmould to serve.



500 gm chicken breasts cut into fairly large portions

freeze. Unmould to serve. CHICKEN IN MILK AND CASHEWS INGREDIENTS: 500 gm chicken breasts cut into

Chicken in milk and cashews

Cheesy bonanza
Cheesy bonanza



of water and pressure-cook or



cook in a pan covering with a lid so that the chicken pieces are tender. Lace with the remaining cream and serve. You could use less of the cream and skip the last step if you want less quantity of

10-12 pepper corns

1 piece cinnamon

1 / 2 piece star anise

1 1 / 2 cups thick cream

1 1 / 2 cups milk


tbsp cashew paste

the cream. Serve with rotis or


tsp pepper powder

romalis or parathas.


tbsp ghee

salt to taste

METHOD Heat the ghee and add the whole spices and allow to splutter. Add the chicken pieces and fry on medium heat, adding salt to taste, till the pieces are light golden brown in colour. Lower the heat and mix in the cashew paste. Fry for 2-3 minutes. Mix in the milk and half the quantity of the cream. Stir gently. Add salt to taste and the pepper powder. Add one cup




200 gm paneer – cottage cheese


cup grated mozzarella cheese


tbsp Feta cheese


tbsp oil

200 gm peas

1 / 2 tsp haldi powder

1 tbsp coriander powder

2 tsp jeera powder

1 / 2 tsp red chilli powder

2 tbsp tomato puree

salt to taste

METHOD Heat the oil and fry the paneer pieces which have been cut into cubes. Remove once the pieces are light golden brown and keep aside. In the same oil add the peas and stir-fry for a minute. Lower the heat and mix in the spices and tomato puree. Cook on low fire for a further 2 minutes. Add half cup of water and bring to boil. Cover

the lid and cook for a minute

more. Now, mix in the paneer pieces

and the Feta cheese and mix gently. Remove to a serving dish and top with the grated cheese.

Serve with rotis.

pieces and the Feta cheese and mix gently. Remove to a serving dish and top with

Litchi rice
Litchi rice




cups cooked basmati rice


tbsp litchi juice

1 tsp oregano

12-14 litchies

METHOD Mix the cooked rice, oregano and litchi juice in a mixing bowl and then lay out on a serving plate. Top with the litchis and serve as a pulao.



Rasgollas for serving

For the stewed apricots:

3-4 apricots

1 cup sugar

1 / 2 tsp cinnamon powder

Rasgollas with stewed apricots
Rasgollas with stewed apricots

Idlis in curd and cucumber

METHOD Cut the apricots into quarters and remove the seeds. Boil the sugar in 1 cup water adding the cinnamon. Boil till a sugar syrup forms. Add the apricots and boil in this sugar syrup for 3-4 minutes on low fire. Remove, chill and serve with rasgollas.



8-10 steamed idlis – rise or semolina

1 cup curd

8-10 curry leaves

2 tbsp of oil

1 tsp mustard seeds

1 / 2 tsp red chilli powder – optional

or semolina 1 cup curd 8-10 curry leaves 2 tbsp of oil 1 tsp mustard seeds

Aam pana coconut milk kulfi

2 green chillies

1 1 / 2 cups cucumber – peeled and cut into small pieces

METHOD Heat the oil and allow the mustard and curry leaves and red chillies to splutter. Cut each of the idlis into four pieces or more as per your requirement. Lower the heat and mix in the idli pieces, the curd and the chillies and stir gently. Mix in the chopped cucumber pieces and serve as a refreshing snack.



2 cups full cream milk – chilled

Stuffed stewed apples
Stuffed stewed apples

3 tbsp aam pana – ready made

1 / 2 cup cream


Mix all the ingredients together

and fill kulfi moulds and freeze till solid. To serve unmould by running the tip of a knife around the rim to loosen the kulfi.





2 apples

1 cup sugar

1 / 2 tsp cinnamon powder


the apples into halves and

remove the seeds, scoop out


slightly to form a ʻdepressionʼ for filling. Boil the sugar in 1 cup water adding the cinnamon. Boil till a sugar syrup forms. Add the apples and boil in this sugar syrup for 3-4 minutes on low fire. Remove, chill and insert half a gulab jamun in the scooped out portion and serve. You can use different fillings like mango pulp, Mysore paak or any other sweet.




300 gm soya sticks

like mango pulp, Mysore paak or any other sweet. SOYA STICKS WITH SUN-DRIED TOMATOES INGREDIENTS: 300

1 chopped onion

1 tsp ginger-garlic paste

2 tbsp tomato puree or tomatoes chopped

1 / 2 tsp garam masala powder

1 / 2 tsp haldi powder

2 tbsp coriander powder

1 tsp jeera powder

2 tbsp oil

3 tbsp sun-dried tomatoes

salt to taste

METHOD Remove the sticks from the ʻsoya sticksʼ and cut into 2-3 pieces each. Heat the oil and add the onions and cook till translucent. Mix in the ginger-garlic paste. Now, mix in the soya pieces. Stir-fry for 2-3 minutes adding salt to taste. Mix in the remaining ingredients (except the garam masala) and stir gently. Add one cup of water and lower the heat and cover with a lid. Cook till the soya sticks are tender and then sprinkle the garam masala and stir gently. Now, mix the sun-dried tomatoes and stir once again. Serve with rotis.




400 gm lauki

2 cups thick curd

1 tbsp oil

1 tsp fennel powder – saunf

1 / 2 tsp red chilli powder

1 / 4 tsp haldi powder

oil for deep frying

METHOD Peel the lauki and cut into circles half-inch thick. Heat the oil and fry the lauki pieces a few at a time till light golden brown in colour. Remove and keep aside. Remove most of the oil except 2

Raita with mangoes and cherries

tsp. In this oil add the curd and the spices and half cup of water and bring to boil. Add salt to taste and mix in the fried lauki pieces. Stir gently. Cook for one minute more and serve with steamed rice.

Bottle gourd/lauki in curd Soya sticks with sun-dried tomatoes
Bottle gourd/lauki in curd
Soya sticks with
sun-dried tomatoes



500 ml whipped curd

4 tsp sugar syrup

1 cup sweet mango pulp

100 gm cherries – or less or more as per your choice

2 tbsp aam papad cut into small pieces – optional

METHOD Place the whipped curd in a serving bowl. Mix in the sugar syrup, mango pulp and stir gently. Add the aam papad pieces and decorate with cherries. Chill and serve as a refreshing raita.




300 gm green saag – pui saag or any other green

Vegetable jamboree


gm red pumpkin


gm brinjal

1 potato

1 onion – chopped

2 cloves garlic

1piece ginger

2-3 tsp mustard oil

1 / 2 tsp panch phoran mix

2 chopped green chillies

1 / 2 tsp haldi – turmeric powder

1 tbsp coriander powder

1 tsp roasted jeera powder

salt to taste

METHOD Cut the saag into one-inch pieces with the stems. Cut the remaining veggies into one-inch pieces. Heat the mustard oil and add the panch phoran spice and allow to splutter. Lower the heat and mix in the veggies and the ginger and garlic. Cover with a lid and cook on medium heat for 5-7 minutes. Mix in the spices and lower the heat and cover and cook on low heat till the veggies are tender and the preparation has only little water. If you are using vadis then fry the vadis in another pan with one tsp of oil and fry till light golden in colour. Sprinkle on top of the saag preparation and serve with steamed rice.





300 gm green mangoes –

peeled and cut into strips

100 gm dried apricots

1 cup musk melon, peeled cored

and cut into small pieces

1 apple peeled, cored and cut into small pieces

1piece cinnamon

2 cloves

3 cardamoms

METHOD Boil 100 ml water and add the

whole spices. Lower the heat and


in the green mango pieces


allow to cook for 3-4 minutes.

Now, mix in the remaining fruit pieces and cook over low heat till the fruits are tender and mushy. Add the sugar and continue to

cook till the preparation is less liquid. This will depend on the

thickness you desire for the chutney. If you want the chutney dry



allow the water to evaporate. a semi-thick consistency is

2 dried red chillies the best and will last for 3-4 days 1 cup sugar
2 dried red chillies
the best and will last for 3-4 days
1 cup sugar or more as per taste
in the fridge.
1 / 2 tsp red chilli
Relish with mango
and apricots
Woman’s Era ● July (First) 2012



TEE TEEN ACHE C HE I am my parentsʼ only son and child, born after
I am my parentsʼ only son and child,
born after several years of their
marriage. Because of this, they take
great pains to see that I have the
best of everything in life, even if it
calls for sacrifices on their part. We
are a middle-class family but I am
studying in a high-profile public
I am a normal fun-loving boy, quite
average in my studies, but what
makes me depressed is that my
parents have such high expectations
of me that I feel guilty and inadequate
all the time. I am never able to live up
to their goals. They are tense, I am
tense – I just want to run away from
home and be free
It is unfortunate that your parents
are unwittingly putting such a lot of
pressure on you with their
expectations and dreams. Is it
possible for you to have a calm
discussion with them – to let them
know how unhappy and stressed you
If they know, they will surely lay
off the pressure and allow you to be
just what you wish to be. Often,
simply because we fail to talk and
reveal our true feelings, we
unnecessarily suffer a lot.
You could also enlist the support
of an older tactful relative to talk to
your parents. Even your school
student counsellor could show them
that success comes in many forms;
you have to be happy with your
achievements and not avalanched by
the tension of living up to their
Relax. Running away will not
solve any problem. Once you get
advice and support, both you and
your parents will be more relaxed and
I am a 17-year-old girl studying for
her BA degree. I am very fond of
acting and long to join an acting
school. Is it possible to do this even
when I am in college, or should I wait
to finish my graduation? I live in
Naturally, you will not be able to
I am a 16-year-old attractive 12th
class girl who has two boys vying
to be my boyfriend. The problem is
that I cannot decide who to favour.
One boy is bold, adventurous and
always ready for excitement. The
other is comparatively staid and stiff
but sincere and honest. I know I
cannot depend on the first one he
is a bit of a rogue, but I enjoy his
company. He is great fun. The other
boy is good but so stodgy and
boring! My friends are warning me
against the first boy, saying that he
will cause trouble, but I am drawn to
Why should you decide between
the two of them? You are too young
anyway to have a steady
relationship, so tell them that you
will want to be friends with both of
Women (and girls) are often
attracted to the “rogue” because he
promises thrills and excitement. But
all this may come at a cost,
because such boys usually hate
commitment and tire easily of a
relationship. They keep flitting from
girl to girl. If you are willing to
accept this, you may quite enjoy his
But when you are ready to
settle down with a lifetime partner,
the real qualities of honesty,
integrity, character and
commitment play a big part in your
happiness. All things considered,
enjoy yourself in group friendships
at present. There is time enough
to go on serious dating in the
coming years.
do a full-time acting course now as
this will make you miss college,and
your attendance could fall short.
There are, however, several evening
classes in theatre which you can
attend. This will expose you to the
acting world and also help you get
some roles on the stage.
Sahitya Kala Academyʼs National
School of Drama is a renowned
institute for acting courses, which
affords great stage opportunities as
well. You can contact
the institute for details.
Recently, the
prestigious Jamia Millia
Islamia University has
announced plans to
launch a post-graduate
course in acting in its
Mass Communication
Research Centre, which will be a
one-year diploma course. The
critereo for application is graduation
in any discipline (10+2+3) and not
less than an aggregate of 50%
marks. This promises to be an
exciting course, which you can
consider after graduation.
There are several smaller, lesser-
known acting schools too but never
join unless you are assured of their
credentials and reputation.
This column is especially for teenagers.
Adolescence can, we know, be a trying and
confusing time. There are so many
questions which seem to evade solutions. A
wrong decision, or an indiscreet move, can
spell disaster and ruin a life. Share your
problem, worry or doubt with us and WE
will help you find a way out — to a
happier, healthier and more successful
adult life. Send your problems to:
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The woman who wouldn’t stop searching

What happened to a seven-year-old runaway.

By Kasturi Rangachari

P admapriya heated up milk, poured it into a tumbler, added sugar and stirred it. She then put it on the table next to a plate of biscuits. Seven-year-old Krishna was always in a hurry to go out to play after he got back from school and he’d run off to play without eating anything if his milk and a snack weren’t

already on the table when he came home. Next, Padmapriya tidied up the room which was strewn around with snippets of cloth and spools of thread around the four sewing machines her tailoring students had used during their afternoon class, along the wall. She glanced out. Krishna wasn’t yet back. She sighed. It was difficult to bring up a boy alone, even when a woman had her sister living with her and helping. But she knew that she should consider herself

lucky. For one thing, after her husband had died in an accident while working in the factory that produced small motors at Kharagpur, she had received a sizeable amount of compensation which she had invested wisely. The interest on this money and the money she earned from her tailoring classes, ensured that she had no financial problems. And then there was the fact that her elder sister Devi lived with her and that both of them provided support for each other. Padmapriya had been offered a job in the same company her husband had worked for, after his death, but she had only finished her matriculation before getting married and so was told that she could only get a peon’s job. But her elder sister Devi had graduated from college and was eligible for a better job with good promotion prospects. There was also the fact that a childhood accident had cost Devi her right leg besides leaving her with a scarred face. “When we grew up, I was married off by my parents, but Devi akka decided not to marry. She wanted to work and be independent, but was finding it difficult to get a job. So I decided to ask the company to give her the job in my place,” Padmapriya explained to me when I met her in Kharagpur. I stared at the short, rather dumpy-looking woman and nodded. What she had decided to do made sense. “The GM agreed and also allotted Devi akka the same quarters in the company colony that had been allotted to my husband. Akka, my son Krishna

allotted Devi akka the same quarters in the company colony that had been allotted to my

and I lived there – and life went on. Four years ”

passed…Krishna was then seven

The evening it all began, Padmapriya waited with growing impatience for Krishna to return. Devi came home. She used crutches and walked to and from work every day. “What? Krishna hasn’t come home as yet?” she asked Padmapriya in surprise. “No, he hasn’t,” said Padmapriya, her eyes on the gate. Krishna’s friend Rohan was standing motionless there. Devi turned to see what her sister was staring at. “Rohan!” she called out. “Where’s Krishna? Didn’t you come home with him today?” To the surprise of the two sisters, the boy turned and bolted towards his own home. “They must have quarrelled,” Padmapriya said to Devi, a frown on her face. “But where is Krishna?”

T he sisters went in leaving the door open and

Padmapriya made tea. They sat and sipped it, both glancing repeatedly at the gate.

inspector asked Rohan. “Did any teacher scold either of them? Did they do badly in some test? Did they say that they had been scolded at home?” “No.” “Then why did they decide to go to Chennai?” “Aise hi. Just like that!” “Aise hi? All right. How did they plan to go?” “By train. By the Coromandel Express. Which comes to Kharagpur and then goes to Chennai.” “And did they get on the train?”

“Yes, they did. I went to the station with them and saw them get on.” “And why did you go to the station with them?” Rohan cast a terrified glance at his mother. “To see them off!” he said. The inspector turned to Padmapriya. “Has Pronoy’s mother been informed?” he asked. “No. I don’t know her and Rohan doesn’t know where Pronoy lives.” “We’ll have to get his address from the school.” Pronoy’s mother was as shocked and terrified as Padmapriya and Devi had been to hear

Suddenly Padmapriya stood up. “Rohan’s mother is bringing him here,” she said, her tone anxious. “Something must have happened. She looks worried.” She rushed to the open door and Devi followed more slowly on her crutches. Rohan’s mother hurried up the path from the gate, dragging a terrified-looking Rohan behind her. “Rohan is saying that Krishna has run away with his friend Pronoy!” Rohan’s mother gasped. “Run…away? What do you mean, Rohan?” exclaimed Padmapriya.

Rohan burst into tears. “They went away…by train, aunty!” he sobbed. “We…nt…away?” Padmapriya asked blankly. “Where? Why?” Rohan looked even more terrified. “To Chennai. Krishna said that he wanted to go to his mama’s house and Pronoy said that he would go with him…” “But why?” Padmapriya knew that Krishna was very fond of his uncle, the only close relative that they had besides Devi, but why had he taken the sudden decision to go to see him? Rohan shrugged his shoulders. “Aise hi,” just like that he said in a faltering voice. And he burst into tears. Padmapriya went with Devi, Rohan and his mother to the police station and there Rohan told the police how Krishna and Pronoy had decided to get on a train and go to Chennai where Krishna’s uncle lived. “But why did they decide to do that?” the police



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what had happened. Her husband was quickly summoned from office and all of them sat in the police station as the police questioned them and worked out what steps to take. “After Kharagpur, the first big station for the Coromandel Express is Cuttack. Could the boys get off there?” mused a police officer. “But they are headed for Chennai. Why would they get off?” asked another. “Suppose a TC in the train caught them? He could make them get off at the next station.”

“That could be any station, not necessarily a major one.” The group of policemen talked on, and then Padmapriya interrupted them impatiently. “We have to do something right away!” she said resolutely, a burning intensity in her eyes. “We can’t just sit here talking!”

T he senior policeman there looked affronted. “We will do all that is needed,” he said stiffly. “We have a lot of experience in looking for

runaway kids!” “But…but…please hurry! Something could happen to my boy!” “We’ll contact the Railway office. Ask them to send a message to every station asking the station master to look out for two boys without tickets.” The police talked on and Padmapriya began to feel more and more panicky. She got up and the inspector looked at her. “Yes, all of you should go


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home,” he said. “We’ve written down your complaint and now we’ll do all that is necessary.” Padmapriya, Devi, Pronoy’s parents and Rohan and his mother all left the police station. Pronoy’s mother was sobbing hysterically and her husband helped her into their car and drove away. Rohan and his mother left in an auto. Devi looked at her sister. “We’ll take an auto, but we’re not going home,” said Padmapriya in a determined voice. “We’re going to the Railway office. By the time the police get off their asses and make a move, the Coromandel would have left this Railway Division and it will be much more difficult for railwaymen here to trace the boys!”

T he sisters took an auto and went to the

divisional railway manager’s office. They knew that the DRM was the most senior Railway

officer in Kharagpur. “We want to see the divisional railway manager,” Padmapriya said to the office superintendent. “You won’t be able to see him today. He’s in an important meeting,” the OS replied. “This is an emergency! The safety – perhaps the lives – of two little boys is at stake! I have to see the DRM!” And, before the OS could prevent her, she strode over to the door of the DRM’s room, opened it and went in! Devi followed her on her crutches. The four men sitting there in animated conversation turned in surprise. The man

behind the desk, who was obviously the DRM, frowned. The OS spoke in a rattled tone from the door. “I told them that you were busy, sir!” he exclaimed. The DRM opened his mouth to speak, but Padmapriya spoke before he could. “Sir, I am sorry to barge in like this! But I am a terrified mother who needs your help.” The frown on the DRM’s face disappeared and he gestured to Padmapriya and Devi to sit down. “Tell me what the matter is,” he said. Padmapriya told him what Krishna and Pronoy had done. As she spoke the tears flowed down her cheeks. “Please, sir, help us!” she said finally. “The boys are just seven years old…and…anything could happen to them!” The DRM rang for a peon and asked him to first bring water and then hot tea for the two women. Meanwhile, the other three men turned to them. “Madam, please give us a description of the two boys,” said one of them and Padmapriya described her son and Pronoy.

“Sir, the Coromandel will now be between Cuttack and Bhubaneswar,” said another, speaking

to the DRM. “We’ll ask the section controller to pass on messages to the station masters of each one of the stations between Kharagpur and where the train

is now to find out if the two boys have been caught

by any TC for travelling without tickets.” “The station masters should also ask station staff if

boys answering to their description have been seen in the station since they could have alighted

anywhere,” said the DRM. “And when the train reaches the next station it should be searched. If it is Bhubaneswar, there will be enough time for a good search. If it stops at a smaller station, the train should be detained and searched. And if any controller gets any news I should be informed immediately.” The DRM turned to the two women. “Are you going home now?” he asked. “If you are, please leave your address so that you can be

If it is Bhubaneswar, there will be enough time for a good search. If it stops at a smaller station, the train should be detained and searched.

informed… ” “We’d like to stay here and wait for news,” said Padmapriya at once.

The DRM nodded and had her and Devi taken to a room near the control room. “I’ll give you news as we get it,” the OS assured them. In the next hour, news came in from one station after another. No, no TC in that section had caught two boys without tickets. No, no member of the station staff had seen any schoolboy in school uniform wandering about the station. And then there was news from Cuttack! When the Coromandel had stopped there

a TC had seen two schoolboys in an unreserved

compartment. They had got off the train and begun to run as soon as they had seen him. But he had chased them, collared one of them and taken him to the station master when it had become clear to him that he was a runaway! “What was the name of the boy the TC caught and what about the other one?” Padmapriya croaked, her stomach clenched so hard that she could hardly breathe. “The name of the boy who was caught is Pronoy…” Padmapriya and Devi both let out choked wails and the OS who had brought them the news paused, looked down and then went on, “We don’t have any news about the second boy and Pronoy doesn’t know what has happened to him either. The DRM has arranged for Pronoy to be brought back –

luckily a train was coming right then in this direction.

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be back soon was given to his parents and they were there with Padmapriya and Devi at the police station when he was brought there by a Railway employee who had been entrusted with the task of escorting him back from Cuttack. Pronoy’s parents hugged their son and then Pronoy’s mother Meenakshi, her eyes red from weeping, came and hugged Padmapriya. Padmapriya did not cry. She looked haggard but determined. “Krishna too will be found and he’ll come back to me,” she said. “Let us talk to Pronoy now.” Pronoy, looking terrified, stammered out his story to Padmapriya and Devi. “We got into a crowded unreserved compartment because we thought that there was less chance of the TC catching us there,” Proloy told the two women who were hanging onto his every word. “Krishna had no money with him. Did you have any?” Padmapriya asked the boy. “I had 10 rupees…”

P admapriya made a helpless movement with her hands. “You both thought that you could get to Chennai with just 10 rupees? And how did you

plan to find my brother’s house? As far as I know Krishna didn’t know his uncle’s address!” “He said…he said…that he could find his way to his mama’s house….” Sevi burst into tears. “My goodness! Oh my God!” she wept. “Find his way to Gopi’s house without knowing the address? In crowded Chennai?” Padmapriya did not cry or even look at her sister. “What happened after you got into the train?” she asked. The boys had been excited and had laughed and chatted. Then they had felt hungry and bought themselves groundnuts at a station. No TC had come to their compartment. But when the train came to Cuttack, they had seen one heading towards their compartment and had got off the train and begun to run. The TC had chased them and they had got separated. “We had decided to get back on the train after the TC left the compartment – but he caught me…” “And…and…Krishna?” whispered Padmapriya. Pronoy began to cry. “I don’t know what happened to him!” he sobbed. Padmapriya and Devi went first to the police

Pronoy began to cry. “I don’t know what happened to him!” he sobbed. Padmapriya and Devi

station and then to the DRM’s office. The DRM met them at once and they discussed the situation with him. He advised them to wait till the train reached Chennai later that day because Krishna would probably have got back on the train at Cuttack. Though the train would be searched at every station and station officials would keep a lookout for a scared lone boy, there was a chance that they would miss him and he would reach Chennai.

T he sisters rang up their younger brother, Krishna’s Gopi mama. Gopi was shocked speechless when he heard what his nephew

had done. “My goodness!” he said numbly. “My

goodness! Akka, the train wouldn’t have reached Gudur as yet. I’ll take a train and go there…no there won’t be time! I’ll drive down and search the train for him…” “No, Gopi, you may not reach there in time and anyway, we have people searching the train at every station. You be at the station when the train reaches Chennai…” “Yes, you’re right. He’ll probably still

be on the train. I’ll have my friends all along the platform and at every exit and…and…we’ll find him!” The Coromandel Express reached Chennai without anyone finding Krishna at any intermediary station. And Gopi and his friends, didn’t find him at Central Station in Chennai either. “So, what shall we do now?” Gopi had spent the next day scouring nearby stations and Chennai for his nephew in vain and had then come to Kharagpur to find Devi absolutely broken and Padmapriya looking as if she were possessed. Her eyes burned

with an almost frightening intensity and she couldn’t keep still. “What do we do? We keep searching for Krishna of course!” Padmapriya impatiently replied to Gopi’s question. “Of course!” exclaimed Devi and Gopi together. “But what will be our plan of action?” “I will start from here and go to each and every station on the way from Kharagpur to Chennai. I’ll get off and search not just the station but also the town! I’ll spend as long as I think is necessary!” “I’ll come with you!” declared Devi. “No, akka. I can do it alone and besides, if you come with me, you will use up all your leave and then have to take leave without pay. And we cannot afford that because I will need money for my search and you and Gopi must give it to me.” “We will!” echoed her siblings and Gopi added, “I’ll search the stations and towns near Chennai and

Chennai itself again…” “We must go to police stations and file complaints. And talk to as many people as possible. We must take copies of Krishna’s photo with us. Another thing, we must print posters with a picture of Krishna and put them up at railway stations, police stations and in towns. I’ll do that starting with places on the way from here to Chennai. Will you do it in Chennai and places near Chennai?” “Of course I will, akka. And I’ll send you as much money as I can.” Gopi was young and unmarried, but he had a good job and Padmapriya knew that she could rely on him as firmly as she relied on Devi Akka. “You must,” she now said. “And remember that now we have to do all the searching ourselves because the Railways are no longer involved and the police can’t be expected to do much more…”

he search for Krishna began. Gopi returned to Chennai and, true to his word, took leave and spent two weeks searching areas near Chennai and the metro itself for Krishna. He had posters printed and paid young boys to put them up everywhere. He visited police stations, filed complaints and gave the police bundles of posters. He also talked to people and showed them Krishna’s photo, but he soon began to feel helpless, as if he were looking for a needle in a haystack. There were so many villages, towns and suburbs to be searched besides the metro and there were so many people everywhere! How could he possibly hope to find one small boy – who might not even be there? Gopi joined duty and life went on as

before. But he didn’t give up. During the weekends, he walked endlessly searching the streets of Chennai and also went to police stations and reminded them about little Krishna. But even as his eyes restlessly searched for the little boy, he was fast losing hope. Devi too went back to work. As for Padmapriya, she was hardly at home and even the few days in the month that she was, she looked as if she were under a spell. There was a scary intensity about her eyes. She hardly spoke, unless it was about Krishna and her search in various towns and cities; she hardly ate and never seemed to sleep. During the nights Devi would hear her pacing up and down on the verandah. Whenever Padmapriya came back, Devi gave her as much money as she could and Gopi too sent money every month. Padmapriya’s tailoring classes were now at an end and money became tight, but there was no question in any of their minds. Every