Nguyen 1 Dao Nguyen 04/30/14 ENGL 1010-015 Prof.

Celestino IEP Final Essay -Argument Three Things in the Family Are you a lucky person in your family? Some of you will say yes, I am. But some of will say no, I am not. Lucky or not lucky is important to us. If we are lucky, we have good parents. If we dont have good parents, we are not so lucky. Although having parents are important to children, the child choice to obey or disobey can really affect the parents. A family is a group of people that consists of parents, children, and relative. Family can be the most important thing that one has in life. Having a family can influence children and help shape their future. Listening, understanding, and loving are three important things in our life that from our family. I am going to write about that. Listen to each person in the family. The first thing in the family is listening to one another. If we listen to ideas from another person in the family, the system in family will go better. For example, parents who listen to their childrens ideas will make the family like stronger. If children have make mistake, parents need to teach them why it was wrong and go to the right way. Children need to be taught what is right

Nguyen 2 and what is wrong. In the family the parents need to teach the children the right way. Which one need to do, and which one do not. Why does some family have conflict? Families have conflict because the system in family goes to bad. First, children dont obey their parents. Maybe they think their parents are not good, they do not take care them, or children only pick up on the bad things from parents. Second, parents who never listen to their childrens idea and thought or only express wrong doing. The children go to the bad way on the life.

Fig 1 mother just like to yell but did not teach good things for child. In some of countries in the world, children always listen to their parents. They listen and dont respond, although their parents may be saying wrong things. Some parents like to control their children as a result of this their children go out of family and live alone. The people in the family are not equal. The people who like to complain another one in the family, at the result in

Nguyen 3 the family have conflict. For example, if a sister always complains to her brother, their relationship would not be as strong .Today, in Vietnam most children do not realize the importance of family. They spend their time with their friends. But when they are having problem, it is the family that help. In some families, there are member who see themselves as the head of family, and are always complaining. I think they dont listen or always complain to each other. First, they are thinking that they are better than everyone else in their family, but it has two sides about that. One, they think of themselves as superior to the others. Second, they think they are smarter than the other. Third, they are seeing everyone else in family has negative and selfish. They never feel anyone in family is good enough. They dont hear other opinion because they think there are the only ones that master. The last one, they like to complain to each other for no reason. Communication is an essential aspect in the family. It is easy for family to lose tract of a family member because they do not see or talk to each other anymore. They have a lack of communication with members in the family and dont listen to each other. Need to understand family members. The second thing in the family is to understand one another. If parents didnt listen to their childrens ideas, parents would never understand their children. Good parents always try understanding their children. By trying to understand, children will obey their parents. Understanding is important in family because parents will know what their children want and help them go to the right way in the life. If parents do not try to understand, they will end up

Nguyen 4 controlling their children and will not understanding what they need. In the end, the children will not obey their parents. In order to understand others in the family, they need to express their emotions. If families do not understand their family members, they need to try to understand them. Each person in family has different ability and he or she needs to use that ability to help. Moreover, if you understand each other, family members will be kinder to one other. If you know about that, you will have success in your life. Understanding is the first step to acceptance. People never understand other, they think they are perfect person and have a safe side. They do some things wrong but they want other say true. My friend told me, Why did people in my family hate me? And say I am wrong person. I dont know exactly how they will behave toward me. I answer, Because in your family each is person thinking I am a head person in family and he or she never listen to other. If you do not listen, you will never understand them.

Fig 2 parent is a safe place for child.

Nguyen 5 Consider the problematic relationship between yourself and your family members. Suppose you hold the belief that you must be close to every family member simply because they are related to you. Perhaps you would never tolerate this persons behavior if it came from a stranger, but if the person is a relative, then you tolerate it out of a sense of duty, obligation, or your personal concept of family. To push a family member out of your life might cause you to feel guilty, or it could lead to a backlash from another family member. Ask yourself, Would I tolerate this behavior from a total stranger? And are you those beliefs really true for you? (Understand family relationship problem-essay). Give love to each family member The last one in the family is love. In family, if we didnt have listen and understand to other, we cant give love to them. Members, who have love from other, dont feel self-pity. Parents may give love to their children but not equal. For example, a country in Asia, parents to love the boy more than girl. They think the boy is the main in family and take care anything for them. The girls who do not have love from parents, they feel self-pity. Although they are living in the family, they look like they are far away from the family.

Fig 3 love from family.

Nguyen 6 Moreover, which person who didnt have love from parents, they go out of family to find another one to love. If they find a good place, their future will be good. If they have a bad place, their future will be bad. So parents need thinking about that with children. Nevertheless, parents are good place for children to live but some parents are bad place for to children live. So parents need to give love to children because a good parent should also be a good person. Parents should have a foundation of love where they actually care about the children. Parents must be able to create and sustain a good family environment and support the children for many years after their birth is just a small part of this. A good parent is someone who can provide love to for their children. If parents do not love their children there is no hope in them being a good parent. Love is the most essential quality between parents and children. When we heard about family, we know about the way we communicate with other is more love. That mean we need to spend more time to each family member and dealing with them to make friendly. Give love to another and receipt love from another are very important in the daily life because we need to watchful each member in the family. The system in the family go to good or bad is by all of the members in the family. Conclusion In conclusion, listening, understanding, and loving are three things important in every family. Parents need to use all of them to children. If in the family dont have enough three things, some person wont success in the life and difficult things will come up to the family. Listening, understanding, and loving look like easy but not easy. For all of us are very difficult to try to listening, understanding, and loving to another person we never like. Although we dont

Nguyen 7 like, we try to do it. And think another person who we dont like is us. Thus, in the living life everybody needs to have listening, understandings, and loving, use them for us and to another one forever.

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