June 2009

Have you got game?

April 2009

By Kevin Abdulrahman- Mind Nutrition Expert

Tips About Taking On Life’s Challenges By World-Class Mind Coach
Kevin Abdulrahman

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“If only you could see the potential I see in you”-
Kevin Abdulrahman
The first question anyone will ask upon meeting with you
for business is ‘Have you got game?’ Now they may not use
the exact phrase, and they will certainly not say it aloud, but
within seconds of meeting with you, they will want to know,
‘Have you got game’?
So, have you got it?
When you are presenting your products or services, have
you got the right confidence to, first of all sell yourself, then
secondly, what you have on offer? No one will want to buy
from someone (what ever the product/service is- including
yourself) if you are not confident about it. If you lack the
confidence in what you have, how could you expect others to
have confidence in you?
What underlies this confi-
dence?
The confidence you have
is set by the beliefs you
hold of yourself, what you
do, and where you plan to
go. Speak to any confident
person and you will find
that they hold empower-
ing beliefs about them-
selves and what they do. It
is because of these beliefs that they enjoy playing their cho-
sen game and also get rewarded well for doing so. In short,
they know what they stand for and are unwavering about
what they need to achieve.
In my line of work, I come in contact and coach some already
highly successful people in life, business, relationships and
sports. What I find common with all of them is that their be-
liefs are the reason they got there in the first place. They be-
lieved that they can play at a top level and therefore their ac-
tions were in line with their beliefs. The results were simply
a by-product of the actions they took. The reason they hire
me is their desire to further breakthrough their results to the
next level. This usually comes with a requirement to further
enhance those beliefs. If they believed that they were good,
my role is to help them find it within themselves that they are
great. If they think they are the best, my role is to help them
see the possibility of being best with yet another 100%.
You must understand that your beliefs will create an aura
about you. That aura can attract potential partners to help
you achieve your goals and deflect anyone who even attempts
to get in your way. Think of your aura as a magnetic field that
will attract everything you need and deflect everything that is
of no value to you.
The worth that others place on you is a reflection of the self-
worth you have for yourself. Your self-worth is determined
by your beliefs. For you to have a high self-worth you need
to have beliefs that are empowering and high of yourself. If
you think low of yourself, your self-worth is affected and in
Success
turn your value to the world is diminished. Those who have
great influence on others are those who have high self-worth
Unfortunately, many of the beliefs held by the majority are
limiting ones. These limiting beliefs hold people back from
having amazing results. It’s not their environment or the
people that get in people’s way; it’s really the beliefs they
hold of themselves that stops them. I have found that in
most cases, even those who have done well, are performing
far well below the greatness they can truly achieve.
What kind of beliefs are you armed with? Do you believe you
can do it? Or do you believe you can’t? Do you believe that
you deserve it? Or do you believe that you don’t? Do you be-
lieve that you have game? Or do you think your competitors
have and will always have one over you?
Henry Ford said, ‘If you think you can do a thing or think you
can’t do a thing, you’re right.’
Why does Henry’s quote
hold true? Because we
are what we think about
most of the time. What
we think about most of
the time becomes our be-
liefs. Our beliefs then lead
us to take certain actions.
These actions have their
consequent results and
depending whether the
beliefs were empowering or limiting, so will be the nature of
our results. You simply can’t think that you are destined for
failure and at the same time expect to build a lucrative home
based business. Your beliefs must be in line with what you
want.
Up until 1954, the four minute mile was seen as an impos-
sible feat. Then came Roger Bannister and shredded that be-
lief. Since then thousands of people from around the world
have bettered the four minute mile. What happened? Did
they gain more seconds in each minute? Have they reduced
the length of a mile? The only changing factor has been the
beliefs people carried with themselves since that event. Prior
to 1954, the belief was ‘it’s impossible’. Shortly after Roger
broke the barrier, the belief in some people was transformed
to ‘if he can do it, then I can to’
Here is a hint: Copy and practice the beliefs of those who
already have what you want. Be who they are (by way of be-
liefs), do what they do (by way of actions they consistently
take), and have what they have (destination, eg. A lucrative
home based business).
Where ever you are in life, whether you are achieving or
not, there is always room to improve, there is room to play
on another level, there is room to break through and chal-
lenge yourself to higher grounds. Just when you think that
you can’t, remember that there are others who were in your
shoes and have done it. Just when you think you can’t take
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it anymore, believe in the fact that the challenges in your life
are there because it is you who can conquer them. Just when
you think it’s not worth fighting for what you want, think of
the price you will pay living the rest of your life in regret won-
dering ‘what if’. There is always room to take one more step,
there is always room to push for more, as long as you carry
the belief that if anyone can, then indeed, YES YOU CAN.
Will the road to your destination be smooth? Definitely not.
Expect a bumper ride because that’s what life is all about.
Developing empowering beliefs help people see the opportu-
nities in every crisis because they know that doing otherwise
will not aid in their purpose of moving forward. You bet-
ter learn to have fun through your journey. We are all often
hit with opportunity, hit with disaster, hit with happiness,
sadness and disappointment. What is the reason there is a
variance in results amongst different individuals and teams
when faced with similar challenges?
It is not what we are hit with, but how we deal with the hit.
It is not what we are we are hit with, but how hard we can
hit back. It is not the size of the person in the fight, but size
of the fight in that person that will determine whether they
will make it or not. And what underlies the size of your fight?
Your beliefs are what will give you the confidence to win your
fights.
Strong empowering beliefs also reduces the feeling of uncer-
tainty that is experienced by many. Most people are unfor-
tunately gripped by the fear of uncertainty and remain in the
doldrums not achieving anything. Empowering beliefs help
reduce the uncertainty because you will know that it’s all part
of a process. There is nothing personal.
When you believe in yourself no matter what, then the most
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difficult of times will only be seen as a process. Your belief
will help you see any downturn or rejections as mere obsta-
cles that need to be tackled and dealt with. Those lacking
belief will focus on the obstacle where as those with strong
beliefs look through and past the obstacles focussing on the
vision of where they want to go. They know that all setbacks
are temporary and every failure and mistake is a lesson to be
learned from on the road to success. Those with empowering
beliefs have their focus not on the road but on their destina-
tion.
Where ever you are in life, I guarantee that you can take it
up a notch.
If it’s going to be you against the world, then so be it.
If you have enough belief in yourself and decide to never ever
ever ever give up, then the world is yours for the taking.
About the Author
Kevin Abdulrahman is The Man Inspiring Millions. He is an
International Author of a series of books under THE BOOK
label, Inspirational Keynote Speaker, Mind Nutrition Ex-
pert, World Class Mind Coach to the elite and an In-Demand
Trainer. Kevin helps organisations, universities, sports
teams and individuals create leadership from within and
achieve breakthrough results.
If you want to go to The Next Level, you can contact Kevin
Abdulrahman on
“http://www.MeetWithKevin.com”
or email his team at
info@MeetWithKevin.com”