The Natural Approach Training Manual

The
Natural Approach
The Training Manual - The Natural Approach
The Natural Approach
Table of Contents
Part 1: Introduction ........................................... 3
Part 2: Where to Start ........................................ 8
Part 3: Fix and Avoid Common Mistakes . 15
Part 4: The Approach ...................................... 25
Part 5: Take Your Game to the Next Level 35
Part 6: Openers ................................................. 45
Part 7: 101 Openers ........................................ 60
Part 8: Closing Tips .......................................... 99

Part 1: Introduction

Hey guys, this Bobby Rio.

Id like to welcome you to The Natural Approach Program.
I want to go over with you, the topic of approaching and
opening women, and starting conversations with them.
This manual goes with the entire program. It is important
to go through the Mindset Strategies video and the
Training Videos along with this manual.
Everything ties together to give you all the skills to making
approaching not only easy and natural. But also
something that you do consistently and automatically.

Now why is it important to finally overcome this problem of
being able to approach women?
There are four main reasons you NEED to learn this.
1. Choice
Well first of all, your sense of choice will be completely
limited in life if youre not able to walk up to a woman who
you find attractive and start a conversation with her.
If not, youre going to be relegated to the girls who
approach you, maybe by getting set up with somebody
through your social circle or meeting somebody at work.

But youll never have the total freedom of being able to
walk up to a strange girl that you dont have any game with
and start a conversation with her.
Its important to be able to do that because if you decide to
move or relocate somewhere where you are going to be
forced outside of your comfort zone, you wont have friends
or co-workers to hook you up with women. Youre going to
need to be able to approach and talk to them.
2. Enjoyment
The second reason that you really want to figure this out is
that youll enjoy going out a lot more.
I know for a fact that when I was scared lifeless to go up and
talk to a woman I found attractive, going out wasnt that
fun. In fact, it usually the night usually ended with me
home, watching late night TV with a few of my friends,
talking about how everybody in

New Jersey sucks, especially all
the girls.
Even though I would get excited
during the week to go out, when I
got to the bar it really wasnt fun.
We would be standing in the
corner, all trying to get each
other to talk to girls as it keeps
getting later and later. One
oclock would roll around, then
two. By two oclock we would be
hammered, and maybe now that
we are drunk and are out of our
minds, we start talking to girls but it never ended well.
3. Power
You also want to able to talk to girls and start conversations
with them because its the only way youll ever have power
in a relationship.
Through a social circle back in college I got in a relationship
with a girl, Beth, who was an extremely attractive, very
outgoing, popular girl in school.
And when the relationship started it was on equal footing
because of my social circle and other factors. But as she
began to notice that I was intimidated to talk to girls, the
power started swinging in her favor.
She knew that I was scared for her to leave, because she
knew that I was going to have trouble going after a new girl
of her caliber.
And thats the thing. A girl can sense whether or not youre
nervous or comfortable talking to other women. So when
you do find a woman that you really want, shes got to be
able to see that if she leaves you, youll quickly find another
girl.
Thats why its really important that you know how to walk
up to a girl and start talking to her.
You even want to do this in front of a girl you are dating
sometimes. Its not so much trying to attract a girl, or pick
her up but just letting the girl that youre dating see you
are comfortable talking to other girls.
4. More than Getting Women

Finally, the big reason that trumpets everything else. You
want to be able to approach and open with women because
it really helps you feel like a man in all areas of your life.
Not figuring it out and always living with the fear of walking
up to a woman and starting a conversation with her drains
on you and impacts other areas of your life.
Youre going to find that when you do figure this out, when
you are able to walk up to a woman and start a
conversation with her.
Im not saying that youre going to attract her every time,
get her number or pull her into the bathroom for a quick BJ.
Im just saying youll have the confidence and the skill level
to walk up to a woman, start a conversation with her and
have it go smoothly with fun conversation.
Once youre able to do that, your confidence goes up and

you begin to have more success in all areas of your life.
Ive talked about it before but I spent time as a realtor
before I figured this out. Before I got good with women by
really working on social skills and my conversation skills.
I was an absolute horrible salesman. I worked as realtor for
six months to a year. Six months before I made my first sale
and in the entire first year I made two sales.
So needless to say it was not a profitable venture for me.
That being said, now I have spent the last five years really
harnessing my conversation skills, getting more and more
comfortable talking to people. A lot of that started from
practicing talking to women.
I feel a lot more comfortable making cold calls, or just
approaching strangers and asking them for things.
This is something that it really impacts your entire life, not
just the small area of dating.
So what does it entail? What does getting good at
approaching women entail? Lets answer these questions
and give you the tools you need.

Part 2: Where to Start

Get in the Zone

The first thing that it entails is
overcoming your fears.
The fact getting good at anything
in life takes practice and when
youre first starting off, youre
going to fear it.
It doesnt matter if youre
learning how to ride a bike or
play guitar, no matter what
youre trying to learn, theres a
natural resistance to it.
As you learn in the Mindset Strategy videos it is actually
NOT fear causing this resistance. But for the purpose of this
discussion will refer to the resistance as fear.
Youre going to have to fight through this fear, fight
through the natural resistance.
So in this guide, Im going to give you some tips to fight
through this and to help you overcome your fears.
The second thing that you need to do is develop the right
mindset.
Because being in the right state or a zone, as some people
call it, makes it easier by making you want to do it. It makes

you enjoy the process more. In this special program Im
going to give you a few tricks to get in the zone.
Youll also need to learn how to approach women.
The fact is, she makes up her mind a lot of times before you
even open up your mouth but Im not saying you cant
change it.
You want to increase your odds and give yourself the best
chance possible.
In this program Im going to give you some tips on
approaching that will help increase your odds.
You also want to know what to say to start a conversation.
Quite frankly the biggest excuse I had my entire life and the
biggest excuse I know a lot of you have is, What do I say?
I saw a woman I wanted to talk to but I didnt know what to
say to her. So in this program Im going to tell you some
specific things you can say to start conversations with
women.
Equally important, Im going to give you some tips on how
to keep the conversation flowing once youve started it. I
know that another big fear that prevents a lot of people
from starting conversations is the fear that its going to
quickly die out anyway.
Overcome Fear
I want to tell a little bit about how I came to figure a lot of
this stuff out. I think by hearing my story, you might be able
to pick up some tips from my learning experience. This will
help you put to use some of the things I will be going over
later on.
Throughout my life I suffered from a paralyzing approach
anxiety.
Its not my favorite thing in the world to do. Just like going
to the gym and running on the treadmill for an hour, you
know that if you want to lose weight there are certain
things you have to do.
When you become a man, you suck it up and you do it.
But in order, to do it consistently, and effectively, youve got
to learn how to make it as easy on yourself as possible.
You also want to learn how to make it fun.
I started going to the gym more once I started tracking how
much I was lifting.
Why?
Because I turned it into a game. And it became more fun. I
had goals to shoot for.
Dont limit your life
If you want to stay a boy your entire life being scared to do
something, youre going to really limit your life. It took me
into my early twenties to figure this out.
Every week I would be pumping myself up to go to the bar. I
would tell myself This is going to be the week, I dont care,
Im going to get there, Im going to talk to every girl, Im just
going to suck it up and do it.
And Friday night would come along, I would get to the bar
and I tell myself, One or two more beers, and then Ill talk
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to her. And it would get a little later and as I said earlier,

the end of the night would come and I wouldnt have talked
to a girl. Or I would wait until I was drunk and talk to a girl
for about 30 seconds, probably spitting in her face as Im
talking and going nowhere.
I remember there was one bar I
used to go to called Fatsos. They
had mirrors in the bathroom and I
would walk into the bathroom,
stare at the mirror and be so
disgusted with myself. I would
just look at that mirror hating
myself because I couldnt bring
myself to approach a woman.
So my fear was really twofold. I
was afraid to walk up and start
the conversation but more than that, I feared running out of
things to say and looking like an idiot.
I realized this because I would freeze when girls approached
me so it had to be more than just being afraid to approach
girls.
It was like I had this fear of talking to them or starting a
conversation even when they made the first move by
coming up to me.
(This is why I decided to include the Q and A video where I
really emphasis how to keep a conversation going)
There was even a time when I was with my friend Eddie at a
bar called Grasshoppers and a girl walked up to me and
kissed me on the lips right in front of him.
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I looked at her, she gave me a look and I couldnt say

anything. I think the best I could come up with was, What
was that for? She said, Oh, I just felt like doing it She stood
there for a second and I just said Oh, as I froze up.
I couldnt think of anything to say and she said, Well, Ill be
over there if you want to come talk to me.
I never went and talked to her. I made excuses by telling
myself Oh, she probably lost a bet, or she probably this or
she probably that. Meanwhile, I totally blew it with the girl
who threw herself at me.
If you have excessive fear of rejection (one of the 3%) then
watch the Rejection Proof videos several times.
Commit
I finally forced myself to get out there, start approaching
and talking to girls but I would do it all wrong.
First of all, I wasnt learning on the easy level. I was NOT
practicing in places that made it easy.
The Easy League videos provides you with the 10 places
that will make it easy for you to approach.
Second off, instead of conditioning myself to approach like
you learned in the Motivated to Approach videos I went
out there and tried to fight through the resistance.
You CAN NOT fight through resistance. You have to
recondition yourself.
If not, youll make these same mistakes I made.
One of the big reasons I did it wrong was because I was too
timid. I
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would go in on my heels waiting to leave. My friends

actually used to laugh and called me One foot in and one
foot out Bobby.
What I mean is that the minute I started talking to a girl, I
was just waiting for a chance to eject like I was too scared to
be there.
The minute that she gave me any signal that she wasnt
interested I would turn and walk away, always ejecting
myself from the conversation.
You hear the horror stories about guys getting slapped by
women or having drinks thrown in their face. I never had
anything like that happen to me.
There were only a couple of times where a woman was
really ever that rude to me. Most of the times the girls were
actually just pretty nice, I would just eject and never give
myself any chance to create attraction.
The reason it happened was because I didnt have anything
to follow up the opener with.
Most of the time my openers were run of the mill like, Hey,
how are you doing? or typical stuff like that.
The next phase I went through is when I began testing
openers.
This is the period after I read The Game.
I figured, Okay, now I have something to say, let me go up
and talk to them, let me try out these openers.
What I found was even when I walked up to a girl and used
an opener from The Game verbatim, like the jealous
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girlfriend or the Montel Williams opener, they got me in

conversations. I had instant success starting conversations
with the openers. I was like Holy shit, this works, I can talk
to a girl!
But now what?

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Part 3: Fix and Avoid Common

Mistakes

Conversation Skills

What I began to realize was that
it wasnt so much my fear of
opening anymore that was the
problem.
As you open more you quickly
realize that fear was just an
excuse to do avoid dealing with
the real problem.
The problem now was that my
conversation skills sucked.
So I would open these girls up
with something interesting like
The jealous girlfriend opener.
The girls would be into it, then the opener would die down
and Id have nothing to say to them.
So then the next phase I went through was when I really
began working on my conversation skills. This is when I
started seeing a lot of success with openers.
You start to realize that its all about creating a conversation
right from the start.
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Im going to repeat this:

Its all about creating a conversation right from the start.
When you think of an opener as an opener, like its a
separate entity from what the conversations going to be
once that opener ends, youre going to shit your pants and
have nothing to say when youre done with the opener.
Instead, you have to start looking at it as the tool that
initiates the entire interaction in a way that bypasses the
boring small talk.
Thats what Im going to talk about.
It is how to start a conversation in a way that bypasses the
small talk. (HINT: the entire Swiss Army Opener videos
teaches this method)
Dont be Shy
I first wanted to start off by warning you of some of the big
conversation starting mistakes that you might be making.
The process of making approaching easy and natural is
more a process of elimination.
What I mean by that is that right now your natural
response to approaching is filled with mistakes.
Just simply eliminating these mistakes will be like taking
weights off of your shoulder. Making the approach come
more effortless. And easy, since youll be getting a better
response. You will be more motivated to keep practicing.
A lot of these are based on the mistakes I made and saw my
friends make.
Many of them are also based on the mistakes Ive seen in
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boot camps Ive done training guys on a more personal level

helping them correct these pitfalls.
The first was my biggest one and maybe you guys may have
a similar problem with timidness. If you do have this issue,
when youre approaching a woman she can smell your fear
and its extremely unattractive to her.
If she thinks youre nervous to talk to her then she
automatically sees you as lower value. Before you even
open your mouth, she has already made up her mind that
you are a little bit lower value than she is.
Now that doesnt mean you cant overcome it and change
her mind. What it does mean though, is that youre putting
yourself in a rough position to start.
Visual Cues
A lot of this comes from two things that she sees.
The first is your facial expression.
The toughest thing about facial expression is that you dont
know what your facial expression looks like.
Its very hard for you to see what you look like because
unless the place is covered in mirrors, you very rarely see
what you look like when youre talking to a beautiful
woman, or to anybody for that matter.
The second is body language, which is also a hard for you to
see. You can kind of get an idea of your posture but most of
the time its unconscious and you dont even realize what
youre doing.
You need to consciously work on these two things, your
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facial expression and body language.

The first thing I recommend doing is having a friend observe
you as you are talking to a woman and as youre
approaching her.
Have him tell you what your face looks like and tell you
what your body language looks like. Maybe even have him
jot down some pointers for you.
Facial expression is something that youre going to have to
practice in the mirror. Youre going to have to get in front of
the mirror and practice on achieving a very relaxed kind of
look. There are two things guys tend to do, either the look
deer-in-a-headlight scared look or they come in with an
overly aggressive smile that makes them look like an idiot.
So you want to get the right facial expression down. Every
one of us has different facial muscles and different ways of
contorting so you have to find whats right for you.
Dont be afraid to ask people. Get a buddy and ask them,
What is the right way?
Another thing that helps is a little harder to do but to video
tape yourself in field, in front of women talking to them.
Then youll get a real good idea of how youre coming
across.
This isnt a body language program, so Im just going to say
two quick tips.
Dont unconsciously hide. When youre out there, dont be
afraid to be there.
Like I said earlier, I was one foot in, one foot out, ready to
leave. I didnt want to invade her space too much but thats
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not confident.
You dont want to non-verbally apologize, which is sort of
what I was doing, giving her a look like, Am I interrupting
you?, Is it okay to talk to you?
The Primal Attraction Walk bonus video goes into more
detail on body language.
Right and Wrong Ways to be Personal

You want to just come in with a dominant, powerful
persona.
Having said that, I also want to say that coming on too
strong is also a mistake.
Now this is the guy who comes in complimenting her right
away, buying her drinks, and by doing this he is taking away
the challenge.
You really dont want to take come in this strong, take away
the challenge and put yourself at a disadvantage.
If you do compliment her, make it about you. If you are
going to walk over and you tell her she smells good, say,
You smell good, it totally reminds me of the beach. I had to
talk to you.
Your reason for the compliment has to link to you otherwise
you can come across as being low value.
You dont want to say, Oh, you have beautiful eyes, I had to
come over and talk to you. It has got to be something like
You reminded me of something and you got me thinking
and I had to come over and talk to you.
Another mistake that you might be making is invading her
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personal space.
Women hate close-talkers, they hate when youre invading
their personal space.
Now I said earlier, dont be afraid to take up space and
dont unconsciously hide. But you dont want to take up her
space by moving in too close to her. You dont want to start
invading her personal space until you have achieved
rapport.
Once youve achieved a rapport and are getting on the
same wavelength with her, then you can move in a little
closer and kind of talk in her ear.
But if you come in right away, especially in a loud nightclub
leaning in to talk in her ear, its going to just freak her out.
Quite frankly it freaks out guys, its weird for us too if
somebody does that. Granted, if a beautifully hot chick
started doing it to us, we probably would continue talking
to her but we would still be a little bit weirded out by it.
Understand Your Status

Im assuming most of you guys are not making these
mistakes but I have to throw them in to make sure. This
would be cheesy lines and buying girls drinks.
Now is buying girls drinks definitely going to kill your
chances?
No, its not.
And in fact, if youve been talking to a girl for awhile its
completely OK to buy her a drink.
You shouldnt use buying a drink as your opening line
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though.
There are times when it works but buying drinks is much
more of a high status technique. I dont mean that it makes
you look high status but rather if you legitimately high
status in the situation you can get away with buying drinks.
By this I mean if youre the owner of the nightclub you can
buy patrons drinks and look cool doing it, or even if youre
the DJ.
If you have a lot of status its okay to buy drinks but if you
dont have the status then you want to avoid buying drinks.
You shouldnt be using cheesy pick up likes but they also
have their place for certain people.
Some guys have the personality that can pull it off. They can
go in and use a really ridiculous pickup line, give the girl a
smile that lets her know that he knows its cheesy and just
playing around. Thats possible but I wouldnt recommend
it.
Talk to Her Friends

Another big mistake that you might be making is avoiding
her friends.
When you avoid her friends you put her on the spot. You
make her like the center of attention and this puts her
guard up. It makes her aware of the fact that youre this
strange guy talking to her.
She doesnt really want to seem too easy or into you in
front of her friends so shes going to get weirded out and
will probably close herself off.
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Ignoring her friends is also most likely going to lead to you

getting cock blocked.
Women hate, especially fat girls, when a guy just starts
talking to the hot friend. Within minutes the fat girl is going
to start saying, I want pizza, lets go, or shes going to come
up with some reason shes got to leave.
So if the girl your approaching is out with the girls or even
with guys, you want to start off the conversation talking to
everybody.
It also makes you seem cooler and more social if you can do
that.
Mental and Physical Energy

There are two final mistakes that I want to address.
The first is getting overwhelmed before approaching. By this
I mean that before you even walk up to her you build it up
way too much and try to plan every detail.
You start thinking entirely too much about it. Girls pick up
on that quickly. Shell know if youve been building up in
your mind what youre going to say.
So you dont want to build it up, dont want to let yourself
get overwhelmed.
The truth is if you have been sitting there staring at a
woman for an hour, trying to think if you should talk to her,
dont anymore.
Just forget about her and talk to the next girl you see.
Youve got too much mental energy invested in the girl
youve been staring at and its going to come across to her.
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The final mistake that I wanted to talk about is energy level.

You want to go in and match her energy level. This helps
you achieve rapport.
You dont want to come in as a downer. You dont want to
be the timid guy who comes into a group of people who are
having fun because its going to throw off the balance of the
energy.
On the same token, you dont want to come in super high
energy.
If you watched The Pickup Artist, the show that was out on
VH1 a couple of years ago, the winner, Simeon, Mystery
kept telling him Tone your energy down.
He had that super energy talking to a girl. If a girl is not in an
extreme party mood or really drunk and you come in really
high energy, thats going to throw her off and weird her out
too.
So you want to match her energy level, maybe be a little bit
more energetic than her. Wherever she is at, you want to
be one notch above her, just to bring her up to your level
and get her more excited to talk to you.
Heres the thing, when you come in and present yourself as
a normal, confident guy she will work with you. She will
provide you with what you need to make the conversation
successful.
On the other hand, when you come in scared and timid, she
resents you imposing this on her, and will NOT work to
make the conversation flow.
So, the first step to making it easy is to come across as the
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type of guy she wants to talk to.

This is not nearly as hard as you think.

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Part 4: The Approach

So the next thing Im going

to talk about is the actual
approach. How you can
approach on the right foot.

So lets talk about
approaching women. What
you want to do and what
dont you want to do when
you approach a woman.
Be Decisive
First off, as I mentioned
earlier with the mistake
regarding getting overwhelmed, is you dont want to linger.
You dont want to walk over towards her and be in her area
for a while and not talk to her. Girls will notice the
hesitation.
Now, you might have heard of something called the Three-
Second Rule. Im not going to go to that extreme but the
rule is that you have to talk to a woman within three
seconds.
You dont want to stand by a woman for 25 minutes
garnering up the courage to talk to her. She is going to
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notice and its going to seem worse. Plus, talking with her
quickly helps your delivery not sound so rehearsed.
If youre sitting or standing around thinking about it, its
going to come out like a programmed conversation.
I used to feel that the girls going to know that I am trying to
pick her up and thats exactly what happens when you
linger too long before you do it. Because you are trying too
hard, its going to come across. So when approaching a
woman keep proximity in mind.
Proximity means being close to her.
(I covered good spots in the easy approach video)
http://www.motivatedtoapproach.com/special/easy-
approach

The fact is the closer you are to her, the easier its going to
be to turn and start talking to her.
Sometimes theyll even open you. I have had several
encounters where I would be standing next to a girl, and she
would turn and start talking to me.
It also allows you to use situational openers.
Now, this means that if you notice something around you to
comment on it to her.
For instance if youre standing near her and some drunken
idiot does something ridiculous, you can just turn to her and
say, Did you just see that? Oh my God, did you see what
that guy just did?
And right now youre in the middle of a conversation.
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Whereas if youre not near the girl that you want to talk to,
and youre on the other side of the bar staring at her, its
going to be much more difficult to gather up the courage
and do that long walk towards her.
Plus, shes going to see it. Girls notice everything thats
going on in a bar. So if you and your friend are sitting on
one side of the bar and you keep looking at her, they know
it.
And then when you walk over they know whats going on.
Theyre waiting for you to come over so youre better off
when you see a girl that you want to talk, to just go near her
quickly, and get into conversation faster.
You also want to keep in mind to be spontaneous.
I keep pointing out that women can read your energy. They
can tell if youve been sitting there working up the courage
to talk to them or if it seems spontaneous.
Now, in a romantic comedy in which women are sort of
programmed to see their life as, all these are chance
encounters. Most of the two leads meet by chance. They
walk into an elevator and the guy starts talking to her. Or
the girls car breaks down and the guy stops and helps her.
Thats what women are ideally looking for.
They would rather think it was fate than think that you sat
there for an hour gathering up your courage to talk to them.
So the more spontaneous you sound, the more likely
theyre going to think, Oh, it was just a spur of the moment
conversation, and not that you were some guy hitting on
her in the bar.
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Sounding spontaneous doesnt mean that you cant have an

opener and some things to talk about already in mind
before you approach.
Ill get into that more when I talk about openers and
conversation starters.
But even if youre using a canned opener you need to use it
spontaneously. (For those of you who might not know what
a canned opener is, its just a pre-planned opening line
youre going to use.)
So if youre sitting there saying Im going to use the jealous
girlfriend opener, Im going to go over there and ask her if
its okay that my friends girlfriend got jealous, or whatever
your opener is. If youre planning it out too long its not
going to come across right.
You want it to seem as if youre just in the middle of a
conversation with your friend and you just happened to
turn to her and use the jealous girlfriend opener.
Its going to seem like it was just a spur of the moment thing
so you want to make it spontaneous.
Now, I use a completely spontaneous type of opener I call
the Swiss Army Opener which youve got an entire video
on.
Dont Wait for Permission

One thing that you must avoid doing is waiting for the okay
from your friends. Do not wait for your friends to give you
permission to open.
I dont mean literally say, You have my permission, but a
lot of us sit there looking at a girl telling our friends how
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much we want to talk to her. Its almost like we look at our

friends like a coach and we want them to push us to do it.
You cant do that.
Youre going to miss way too many opportunities if youre
constantly waiting for your friend to give you permission.
You want to just take charge.
It will also seems much more genuine when friends arent in
on it.
If you and your friend are sitting there both looking at a girl
and are just talking about how much you want to talk to
her, by the time you do, shes going to sense the hesitation
like I keep mentioning.
Shes going to be thinking, Oh no, these guys are coming to
talk to me.
But if your friends not in on it and he doesnt even know
that youre looking at her, you can turn to talk to the girl
and it taking him by surprise.
Its going to seem a lot more genuine to her and a lot more
like that chance encounter that Im referring to.
I used to always wait for a friend or someone to push me to
go open so I know how difficult a habit this can be to break.
I used to think that if I showed somebody I liked to my
friends and I talked about her enough, I would magically be
drawn to her.
But the fact is, the more time youre talking about a girl, the
more energy spend, the less likely you will ever be to get
her.
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The more shes on your mind and youre not putting your
energy into hitting on her, youre decreasing your chances
with every minute that goes by.
Thats the harsh truth. I have seen this play out repeatedly
in my own life and observing friends.
Body Language
The next thing is body language as I briefly touched on
earlier. Its the first thing youre being judged on. You want
to eliminate any nervous tics like hand fidgeting. You want
to get your hands out of your pockets.
I know that I used to have my hands in my pockets, and Id
be playing with coins in my pockets as I was talking to a girl.
Touching your face, etc, these are all things you got to
eliminate.
They show insecurity and nervousness and women can pick
up on it.
Make Yourself Part of the Group

I also touched on this earlier but lets get into more detail
on becoming part of the group.
In marketing theres an expression, Either youre a
welcome guest, or an annoying pest.
You want to come in as the welcome guest to the group.
Now, if youve been in the dating seduction community and
you have studied different methods you know there is the
risk of becoming the dancing monkey who is trying to
entertain everybody.
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Im not saying that you have to entertain everybody.

What I am saying is that you want to acknowledge and be
friendly with everybody so that youre not just talking to her
and putting her on the spot.
This is true whether youre meeting a girl at a party, in a
class, at a bar, or at your work.
So its better if you can come in and talk to the group first
and make it known who youre interested in.
Im not saying you have to Neg the target play that whole
game.
Use your own personal style and find works best for you.
But make sure to be social to everybody.
Approaching Review
Lets take a quick inventory of what we talked about
regarding the approach.
You dont want to linger.
You want to get close to her as quickly as possible. Y
You want to be spontaneous so the minute you decide you
want to talk to her just let it flow out of your mouth.
Even if youre talking to somebody else, for example I was
talking to a group of girls and a girl that I wanted to talk to
walked by.
I brought her into the conversation by having her join me
and the two girls I was talking to, to answer an opinion
opener based on a conversation I was having.
It was completely spontaneous.
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The girl walked by and it worked out perfectly. Now that is

the ideal way you want to do it spontaneously.
You also dont want to wait for your friends permission to
open.

You want to watch your body language.
Eliminate nervous tics and gestures.
Be conscious of your facial expression.
Be friendly to everyone she is with.
State of Mind Overview

Before I get into actual openers and conversation starters, I
wanted to review of the state of mind you want to be in.
Because state of mind is really important and the closer you
are to being in the zone, the better chances you have of a
successful opener.
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The first piece of advice I want to give you is to be curious.

Take the mentality of curiosity.
What I mean by this is when you go to talk to a girl, look at
it like a learning experience. You should be thinking, What
am I going to learn from this interaction?
You should be thinking about learning what you are doing
right, what you are doing wrong, also learning about her
and the experience of meeting a new person.
To have the right mindset, you should also be thinking
about what value you can provide instead of what you can
get.
When youre meeting somebody for the first time, if youre
just looking to get something out of it like a phone number
or youre just looking to hook up, youre not really going to
be communicating with her.
You will just be looking at her like another object thats in
the place.
You should see the woman as a completely blank slate that
you want to get to know.
By doing this, youre giving her value because most people
dont look at them that way. Most people have the
mentality of What do I want? and How can I get it?
They dont really think that the other person is another
human being with their own fears, insecurities and
frustrations.
So be conscious of the fact that shes a human being, not
just a name and number or a pretty face.
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Also, have a genuine sense of curiosity to peel away her

layers like an onion.

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Part 5: Take Your Game to the

Next Level

Chunking

The next mindset step that I want you to understand is this
idea of Chunking.
If I was naming different things that have really helped me
step up my game with my openings, Chunking would be
towards the top of that list.
Chunking means you look at things one step at a time.
Now I talked earlier about the feeling of getting
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overwhelmed. Getting overwhelmed comes largely in part

because you are thinking of everything at once.
Youre thinking about having to walk over to her, your
thinking about your opener and then what youre going to
say next.
Youre also thinking about how youre going to gauge if
shes interested in you, what to do if you run out of things
to say and how to deal with her friends.
You get so overwhelmed with all the possibilities of Whats
going to happen? that is what brings on approach anxiety.
But by chunking it, you just look at one step at a time.
Whats the first step that I need to take if I want to talk to
that girl?
The first step is walking in her area or getting close to her.
So you have to walk over to her. Thats the first step, easy
enough.
The second step you have to do is thinking of what youre
going to say to start a conversation.
Now in the next part Im going to give you openers and talk
about them but all you have to do is say something.
Dont worry about anything else except starting the
conversation.
Once youve started the conversation, then the next step
becomes, getting rapport.
And the next step after that is building attraction.
But dont think about each step until you get there. You
cant worry about creating attraction or building rapport
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until you have opened her. And you may not get past the
opener.
You may walk over there and start talking to her and her
boyfriend walks over. Then you have got to eject and end
the conversation.
So if youve jumped ahead and started thinking about step
three when youre on step one, you may be wasting energy
thinking about a step youre not even going to get to with
that girl.
Dont worry about anything until you open.
And just look at it as one step at a time.
Youre going to have to learn and get better at each step.
Youre going to have to learn how to walk over in a cool
way. Once you walk over in a relaxed, cool and confident
way, the next step is to get good at opening.
Once you get good at opening, the next step is to get good
at creating rapport.
And the next step is getting good at transitioning from
building rapport to establishing attraction, and then even to
sexual attraction.
But its one step at a time. And the next thing is you want to
jump in the water and learn to swim.
Jump In
What I mean by this jumping in the water and learning to
swim is that youre not going to get it perfect right away.
In fact, if you think that reading this is going to get you
perfect, or reading anything is going to get you perfect, its
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not.
Just like the learning how to play guitar example I used
earlier, youre not going to get good at playing guitar by
listening to music. Youre going to get good at guitar by
picking up a damn guitar and forcing yourself to play.
Trust me, I went through the process of trying to learn how
to play a guitar back in high school. Its not pleasant when
you sound like shit and your fingers start hurting from trying
to hold down the chords.
Youre thinking Oh my God! Im never going to get good at
this. When you play a song for someone you can see that
they think youre awful.
You dont sound anything like the guy you want to sound
like.
So then to make yourself feel good, you go and put good
music on and you think Oh, Im going to listen to how its
going to sound, and it feels good and youre comfortable
again.
Its really uncomfortable trying how to learn to play a
musical instrument especially in the beginning.
Opening a woman up and starting to talk to her is going to
put you out of your comfort zone and youre not going to be
good at it if you havent done it a lot.
But you got to just jump right in and just open a girl up. Just
start talking to her and you dont know whats going to
happen.
(This is why it is VERY important to practice approaching
woman in the easiest possible environments. Watch the 10
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Easy Places videos for the places I recommend to get

started in)
I was out with Mike Stout, my former partner at TSB
magazine, and this was very early into our time trying to get
better at cold approaching and I was still nervous as hell.
So we went out and we had a list of openers we were going
to use. And he very quickly opened up a set of women. It
went alright but not great. I think they were with guy
friends and he wasnt confident enough at that point to
handle being in a group with the guys.
Now he came to me and hes like Its your turn.
He said Im not opening another set until you do.
And this was about 11 o clock at night. From 11 o clock
untill 1:30. I made excuse after excuse why I couldnt open
and why it wasnt the right time or the right girl.
I was deathly afraid of starting the conversation.
Well, at about 1:45, he said to me Fine, lets just leave.
And I just had this feeling like Oh my God, I am a failure to
the biggest extent of being a failure.
I went to the bar, paid my tab and turned around and saw
two girls sitting there.
I opened up my mouth, and I said, Do I look gay? and
theyre like What?
And I said Yeah, the bartender just assumed that I was gay
for some reason.
And theyre like No, you dont look gay.
And my friend saw me talking to them so he turned around
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and next thing you know, at 1:45 at night, right before the
bar was going to close, we sat there and talked to two girls.
They werent the hottest, not my first choice, but better
than average looking and we talked to them for the next 20
minutes before the bar closed.
We went outside, got alone with them and while one of the
girls was smoking, kept talking to them. They offered us
their numbers and we said weve got to leave.
Now that was jumping in the water and learning to swim.
Now that was a good experience to go through and learn
from.
It happened that it worked out well for me that night.
Now there have been many other times Ive done the same
thing and it hasnt worked out as well.
Ive jumped in the water, used an opener and gotten a
weird look. The girl sort of answers my question and then
goes back to talking with her friends. But the key is to just
keep jumping in the water.
(Like I said earlier, if you have an intense fear of rejection,
the Rejection Proof videos will help out a lot.)
When you jump in the water for the first time, the water is
going to feel really cold. But then as you come in and out of
the pool, each time you jump in youre going to get more
and more used to the water. Eventually youre just going to
be more comfortable in the water than you are out of the
water.
Thats how it is talking to girls in bars. Now, ideally you
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want to be practicing in the Easy League locations.

The first time you talk to a woman, its just like jumping in
the cold water.
And so what a lot of us do is we try to get our feet wet,
maybe dip a toe in without just taking the dive.
When you do that you just look like a pussy. Y
ou want to be the guy that just jumps right in and deals with
the fucking cold weather for a little bit.
Training yourself how to do this is in a way that makes it as
easy as possible is covered in the Driven to Action videos.
Be Social
The next step to getting the right state of mind is getting
social beforehand.
That means dont sit around with your friends, lonely and
bored, chatting about how much you want to talk to girls.
Have a good time from the minute you meet your friends to
go out. Just get in a real laughing mood. Start making fun of
each other, quoting movies that you find funny or whatever
you and friends do for a good laugh.
Doing anything to get into a really fun, vibrant, social mood
works wonders.
I have told this story before but recently I was out at a bar
with a friend having a conversation.
I had talked to him on Skype and email but hadnt been out
with him in an actual bar situation in a while.
We were in such a good mood, were talking about an
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upcoming bachelor party that were going to and I turned

right in the middle of the story with him and started talking
to a couple of girls, brought them into the conversation we
were all having.
The girl actually said to me that she was waiting for me to
talk to her.
She said, You guys were having such a fun conversation, I
was dying to know what you were talking about. S
he was like Me and my friends were wondering: what could
be they talking about, they seem to be having so much fun.
That is the right mentality.
Know That Youre Good

Now the final step to getting into the right state of mind is
something I learned from a pickup artist by the name of
Cajun. He put a post in my 31 Days to Better Game
Challenge, about the Inner Game. He said The biggest
realization about inner game is that you cant be asking
yourself when you are
going to get good at
getting women? He
said you need to be
thinking, I already am.
Thats the mentality
you want to have, I
already am. Now
theres a fake it till you
make it type of
mentality. But in that
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mentality you know that youre faking it. You want to

already be good. Play the role of the seducer. If you were
good, how would you act, right? If you were completely
confident, how would you walk up to a woman and act?
I have recently been going to a public speaking meeting,
Toastmasters.
I still have a decent fear of going up there but I find that
when I go up there and I tell myself that Just act like a
confident speaker, just how would a confident speaker act?
Then there is a voice in my head saying But youre not a
confident speaker, you have to let them know that you
dont think youre a confident speaker.
If they think that you think youre confident, theyre going
to be like, who is this guy to think he is to be so confident?
But see, all thats just chatter in your own head.
Thats just your ego fucking with you.
The people that youre talking to, whether it be an audience
that youre giving a speech to or a woman that youre trying
to open, have no clue whats going on in your mind.
So if you act like youre good then you play the role of a
good seducer and you will be a good seducer.
You probably notice in your life that a lot of times youll be
really good around friends who think youre really good.
I know for me, there are certain friends I hang out with and
Im on fire every time we go out meeting women because
they have a perception that Im really good.
On the other hand, there are certain guys that I know from
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my high school when I wasnt good. They still see me as that

guy who was quiet and shy. So when Im around those guys
I tend to be more nervous and shy. So you want to hang out
with people who make you feel like youre already good.
Those are my tips for state of mind. Be curious, chunk it
down, jump in the water, get social, and already be good.

[Mindset is covered extensively in the Mindset Strategy
Videos. Those videos will show you how to change your
perception of yourself so that approaching comes
naturally.]

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Part 6: Openers

So now I want to get into things to say to actually start the
conversation.
In the dating community these are called openers.
A lot of people still refer to them as pickup lines.
Theyre just icebreakers, things to start a conversation.
I classify five different ways to start a conversation.
One is using a direct opener. The second is using an indirect
opener, split into opinion and statement openers. Third is
using a gimmicky type of opener. Fourth is a situational type
of opener. And fifth is inviting her into a conversation youre
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already having (Swiss army). So lets talk about the different

kinds of openers.
1. Direct Opener
The first is direct. Now what a direct opener is, is youre
letting her know your intention immediately.
There is no hiding the fact that youve come over to hit on
her. You can do this by saying something like Hey, youre
giving off an incredible energy and I had to come over here
and see what youre deal was.
Now obviously youve got to be smoother than that but you
say something along those lines. For instance, Hey, I
wanted to come over and just flirt with you. You can just
say anything. you can make it funny or be serious. Any way
you want to do it but youre being direct. Youre stating
your intentions right off the bat.
One of the pros of being direct with a woman is that your
intention is known.
This means that youre not going to talk to her for an hour
and shell be thinking Oh this was just a nice, friendly guy.
Shes going to know right off the bat that youre flirting
which gives her a chance to get out quickly if shes totally
not interested or if she has a boyfriend.
Now youre going to get blown out quicker with this kind of
game but youre also going to eliminate a lot of girls that
might have just wasted your time talking to you for 25
minutes and then saying Oh I have a boyfriend, or Youre
just not my type.
At least when being direct, youre going to force the issue
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quicker.
Not only that but being direct displays massive confidence
assuming you deliver it in a confident manner and not in
that weak, timid manner that I advised against earlier.
Most guys dont have the balls to walk up to a woman and
say something along the lines of, Youre giving off
incredible energy and I had to come over here and see what
youre deal is.
So when a woman hears that it floors her for a few seconds.
She thinks Wow, this guy is frigging confident. So it pre-
selects you in her mind as being confident.
Now there are two major cons to this approach as well.
It takes balls.
And if youre not confident yet its going to be really hard to
pull it off.
Also, it gives you less time to build attraction. Youre putting
her on the spot. Youre forcing her to make up her mind
about you very quickly.
If youre a naturally good-looking guy and you have a lot of
social status to begin with, shes feeling really lucky that you
came over and complimented her or opened her and
showed such interest, its going to work out for you.
But if youre sort of below average looking or youre not
that confident a guy or you dont have a lot of social stature
at the place youre at, it might be a little tougher for this
method to work.
Im going to go through each of the types of the games and
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give you examples of each.

Im not going to go into hundreds of examples because in th
next section you get 101 examples of different types of
openers.
Theyre the best ones Ive found over the years. My
recommendation is after you read this, go through and grab
a few of the ones you feel are the best style for you.
2. Opinion Opener
Lets talk about indirect openers.
Indirect is either making a vague statement or asking her
opinion on something.
Youre basically starting a conversation in the same way
that you would start a conversation with anyone else at the
bar.
Lets say there was a guy that was standing there. You could
just as likely ask the guy the same thing.
Thats the best way to explain indirect. Its the same new
way you would start a conversation with anybody, not just a
woman youre attracted to.
For example, asking an opinion on something.
An example of that is, I said earlier, Do I look gay? T
hat got a conversation started with the girls.
Another one is, if you ever saw the Keys to the VIP video
with Cajun is, Do I look like a drug dealer?
Or you can ask something along the lines of Hey, is kissing
cheating?
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Those are all opinions that youre getting. You can make it a
little bit more elaborate and say Hey I got to ask your
opinion on something. My friend is having a bachelor party,
and his wife wont let him go to Las Vegas. So do you think
thats fair or do you think you should trust your fianc?
Now lets look at the pros of indirect opinion openers.
First off is that they are easy. We like easy J
It doesnt take a lot of courage to use an opinion opener
which is whats great about them.
You can just use them and there is no pressure right away.
The second reason is that not only is there no pressure on
you, but theres no pressure on the girl which means that
there is a lot more time to build attraction.
So if youre not her type physically or you dont have a lot of
social stature her immediate impression of you is not to be
attracted. By asking her an opinion on something, you now
have time to weave in attraction building techniques.
Shes not making up her mind so quickly because she just
thinks Oh this all just a friendly conversation.
Now you can start Chunking as I talked about earlier.
Now that youve got your foot in the door, now your next
process is to begin getting rapport, then to begin getting
attraction. Youve bought yourself time to work on each
one.
The main cons are that you come across as friendly and
non-threatening.
The girl oftentimes doesnt know youre hitting on her. So
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unless you offer up a statement of intent or show her some

level of interest sexually or even on a more intimate level,
she may not even know that youre into her.
The other risk you run is that if youre not a great
conversationalist and you dont know how to follow up the
opener the conversation will die out and you wont know
what to say.
I know for me when I first started Id be great at saying,
Hey, do I look like a drug dealer? and then using that little
topic for a bit but then the minute that died out, I would go
into boring small talk.
If you have downloaded my Small Talk Tactics Report at
MakeSmallTalkSexy.com, you realize that small talk is where
youre going to have to step up your game.
After the opener it goes into the small talk and you have to
be prepared.
3. Vague Statement Opener

Another example of an indirect opener is making a vague
statement.
This means you say something to the girls like Hey, you girls
look like youre having a lot of fun tonight, or You girls
dont look like youre from around here, are you?
So youre making a statement and not expressing an
interest yet.
She may know that Hey, this guy is obviously talking to me
for a reason, but at the same time, thats just as much
something you can say to your grandma. You look like
youre having a lot of fun tonight, Grandma, or You dont
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look like youre from around here, grandma.

Youre not saying anything that makes her go Oh God, I
have to make up my mind about this guy really quickly.
It allows you to buy more time and had the same kind of
pros and cons as using an opinion opener.
The one thing an opinion opener gives you that a statement
doesnt is an initial thread.
An opinion opener gives you something to have her respond
to but when you say something along the lines of You girls
are having a lot of fun tonight, they may say, Oh yeah, its
fun.
Now you have got to come up with something a lot quicker
than if you use an opinion opener. Where youre going to
have at least a few back and forth of her opinion before you
have to switch threads, now you will have to think of
something quickly to say to follow the statement opener.
4. Gimmicky Opener
The next type of opener is a gimmicky opener.
Gimmicky openers are something that require a certain type
of personality to use.
Now I dont know if you guys have ever seen Brad Jacksons
Hiroshima opener video. Thats a prime example of a
gimmicky type of opener. Youre basically using an outside
source to start talking to a girl.
The pros of this are you differentiate yourself from other
guys. Its pretty easy to use and it captures her attention. An
example of a gimmicky opener would be telling a girl that
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youre taking a survey of girls opinions of guys or

something to that extent and you need her opinion. You
walk over to her and say, Hey, Im doing a survey, and you
have to fill this out. But at the end of the survey it says, Do
you find me attractive? You know, something corny but it
gets your foot in the door.
The cons of this are that you need to have a quick follow up.
You need to be able to respond and be a good talker. And
the fact is, with all of the openers, you need good follow up.
You need to be able to carry a conversation and keep her
attention moving from step to step of the attraction.
But those are the main pros and cons of gimmicking.
Im going to be honest. Im not a guy to use gimmicky
openers. I dont have a lot of experience with them. Ive
used direct openers, indirect and Ive used the next two Im
going to talk about, situational and inviting her in.
I very rarely use gimmicky openers.
It just doesnt seem to match my personality. But I know a
lot of guys do use it and have a lot of success with it. So you
might want to check out Brad Jacksons Hiroshima as an
example of what a good gimmicky opener is.
5. Situational Opener
The next type of opener is situational.
Heres an example of a situational opener. I was at a charity
auction that a girl I knew was putting on. It was like a
bachelor and bachelorette auction for charity. It was a
dinner and a bunch of girls would go up on stage and then
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everybody in the audience would bid on them and then

guys would be bid on, something fun for charity.
I was just there to support my friend who was throwing it
and I wasnt going to bid on anybody. I was with my brother
at the time and we were chilling by the bar. There were two
attractive girls that we both noticed. They didnt seem to be
part of the whole bachelorette auction type thing.
So as we were sitting next to them, we turned to them and I
said something like, Hey, you guys going up there to be
auctioned? Just a quick, casual comment on what was
going on, and she was like, Oh, no. So I said, Yeah, I dont
know if I could do it either, having everybody bid on me,
what if I got a really low bid?
I just took what was going on around me and turned it into
a conversation.
From there, me and my brother both wound up talking to
the girls and getting in contact over Facebook and it turned
out good. Actually, my brother flew out to France because
the girl went to study abroad and he was out in France
banging her for a little bit.
Here is another example of a situational opener that
actually happened recently to me.
I was at a bar for another charity event. Some girls I know
were putting on something to raise money for a girl with
cancer. There was one point in the night when a bunch of
girls got up on the bar to dance. They were dancing on the
bar and some guy was sitting in the first row staring at the
girls obnoxiously ogling them.
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There was another girl sitting next to him who I noticing

that he was ogling them. I went over and I exaggeratedly
ogled the girls on the stage to make fun of the guy that was
doing it.
I got the girl laughing and next thing I know were in a good
conversation.
Thats an example of taking something thats going on
around you and turning it into a way to start talking to girls.
The pros of situational openers are that they are kind of
easy. It seems natural and definitely has that romantic
comedy effect that I brought up earlier. It seems
spontaneous and not like you were trying to hit on them.
However, the cons are that you could be waiting forever.
There could be way too much hesitation if youre going in
with the intention of using a situational opener.
There is not always going to be a good situational opener to
use. So you dont want to go to a bar and thinking youre
going to use a situational opener because theyre perfect
when the situation arises but the situation doesnt always
arise.
6. Swiss Army Opener

So the last one that I want to talk about is inviting her into a
conversation youre already having.
Youve gotten an entire video on how to use this opener,
which I also refer to as in media res opening.
This is by far, my favorite style of opening.

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This is sort of a mixture of all the other types of openers.

What youre doing here is, you and your friends are having a
conversation, and youre just pulling her into it.
I put out a video that you can find MakeSmallTalkSexy.com
where I talk about it.
I call it the Conversation Fast Forward.
What happened to me was I was out at a bar with a couple
of friends. We were having a conversation about my friend
who was getting text messages from a girl he wasnt
interested in any more and Im giving him advice on what to
do.
Then I see out of the corner of my eyes some girl I knew
from college.
Now I hadnt seen this girl or talked to her in probably 10
years. I didnt have much to say to her even though she was
attractive, I wasnt super-excited to even have a
conversation with her because I didnt want to go through
that How have you been for the last 10 years? Do you still
talk to so and so?
I decided to do was to open her up by immediately getting
her involved in the conversation I was having.
So when I caught her eye I went over to her and I said, Hey,
how is it going? Come here real quick, I need you to give
your feedback on this. Todd here has been getting these
really weird text messages from some girl and wants to let
her down but he doesnt know how to do it. What would
you as a girl think would be a good message he should send
back to her?
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By doing that we completely skipped the entire get to know

you portion of the conversation and went right into inviting
her into the conversation we were already having. It really
worked well.
Since I cover this style of opening in-depth in the video Im
not going to say much more about it now.
The Importance of Openers

So now I just wanted to talk a little bit about why I think its
important to have pickup lines, openers and gimmicks ready
to use.
I know you think that this might be going against the whole
spontaneous thing that I talked about earlier, but its not, as
youll see.
Its important to have them ready because it takes the
thought out of it.
If you always have an opener on the tip of your tongue,
something that is reliable that you know you can say, youre
not going to sit there and debate for 25 minutes to half an
hour over how to start a conversation. You just have
something that you know works, something that youve
used before.
Now, obviously when it comes to starting a conversation my
favorite methods are situational bringing her into a
conversation youre already having.
But a lot of times these are impossible.
So having an opener allows you to start a conversation with
any woman at any time.
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Right Openers for You

Once you find one that you feel comfortable with you can
use it repeatedly. Have fun with it. Its usually something
that you truly do care about if youre going to use an
opinion opener, I think a lot of the reasons why guys in the
past have had bad experiences or got discouraged about
opinion openers is because they take a question that they
read some other pickup artist used and they try to use it
themselves.
So lets say, using one of the ones from the book The
Game, Neil Strauss uses the pet dog one, My neighbor is
getting two pet dogs and he wants to name them after an
80s pop duo. What do you suggest?
Well, the fact is that if that doesnt entertain you, if you
dont enjoy coming up with funny names for dogs, its not
going to be a good opener for you.
You want to use an opener that gets you in your best state
of mind.
So you want to find one that youre comfortable with.
I talk about this a lot and I use about five different openers.
One of the ones that I use a lot is the drunk I love you
opener.
I dont know who invented it but whoever it is, thank you.
Maybe Savvoy, Ive heard him talk about it but I dont know
if he invented it.
It has gotten me so many girls I cant even begin to tell you.
But that may not work for you.
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When I say Hey, do you think it count when a girl says I

love you when shes drunk or when you say it when youre
drunk? I start talking about it and we get into it. The reason
I enjoy this so much is because I genuinely want to know
her opinion.
I like to hear everybodys point of view because Ive had
several times when a girl has said I love you when shes
drunk to me.
I still wonder sometimes because the two girls that have
said it when they were drunk to me never said it sober. I
never said it to them either. But Im still always wondering
did they love me or was it drunkenness, or does it count? Or
should I have said it back? I find it a really fascinating topic
and I love hearing girls opinions on it.
I love that I can easily transition into What about during
really good sex, does it count if you say I love you during
really good sex?
I love how that gets the sexual element into the
conversation and it does it in a very playful way, its not too
big of a transition.
Even though it works really well for me, I have a friend who
it bombs for because he doesnt really care. He doesnt have
any interest in the topic so it doesnt work.
You have to find a few that work for you.
In the next section Ive included 101 different openers for
all different types of situations and styles.. There are about
175 different openers. What you want to do is go through
there and write down maybe 10 to 20 of them that you
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really like. Then narrow it down even further finding maybe

5 that you like. Start with those and test them. See how you
enjoy the conversation that flows out of them.
No More Excuses
The other reason that its important to have openers is
there is no excuse any more. There are no missed
opportunities. I cant tell you how many times in my life I
missed great opportunities with women because I didnt
have something to say and I didnt know how to start a
conversation.
Can you just imagine being next to the girl of your dreams,
the woman a perfect girl looks like, maybe youre
somewhere like a bar, lounge, or youre in a bookstore. But
wherever you are, maybe youre in a clothing store, or food
shopping, no matter where you are, imagine seeing the girl
that youre just completely infatuated by her looks.

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Part 7: 101 Openers

I know that sometimes its good to have a few openers

that you can use.

So, even though I highly recommend practicing and
perfecting the Swiss Army Opener.

Ive decided to include a bunch of openers that Ive
compiled over the years.

1. I Almost wore that
Here it is; the principle is very simple: Girls HATE showing up
to a party wearing the same thing as other girls. So, as she
walks by, point to something on her, then make eye contact
and say:
You know, I almost wore that EXACT SAME THING tonight.
That would have been SO embarrassing.
If she looks stunned and doesnt laugh right away, ask her
what color it is (Particularly in a dark club or if you have
shades on). I always lean in and say Is that blue, or is it
green?? Kino escalation by touching whatever it is shes
wearing.
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Oh, its green? My dress/teddy/negligee/coon skin cap is

blue, so its not that bad. Which naturally leads into
Have you ever been at the same
club/party/restaurant/coon skin cap with another girl in the
same dress but different color? Is that less embarrassing?
If shes not amused and intrigued by this point, shes Helen
Keller or youre doing it wrong.
2. Bubbles0069
Go up to your target
You: hey I'm finally here! Traffic was horrendous! And I
admit, it took me some time to decide on what shoes/belt
to wear.
Her: Puzzled look on her face
You: waityoure not BUBBLES6969? The pic she sent me
looks EXACTLY like you!
Her: blah blah (hopefully a laughter and smile if delivered
right)
You: wow.talk about embarrassing moments, huh?
Of course you arent embarrassed and you can just stack
forward from there appearing unphased by the
embarrassing moment
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3. Mischievous Girl
Walk by a hot girl whos standing/sitting by herself or
slightly away from her group of friends, and deliver this over
the shoulder:
You: So why are you standing/sitting there trying to look
mysterious?
Her: (smiling and/or puzzled) blah blah
You: Yeah, seeyou got that mischievous look on your face
like you just did something bad and got away with it
She should be smiling and laughing by then if delivered
right. Stack forward either with another opener or a story or
if her friend comes into the set, do the Mystery technique
of saying hello hello. Ask how the two know each other
then do the best friend's routine.
4. The Test
Guy: Congratulations
Girl: What, why when?
Guy: You pass my first test - you look (you dress) interesting
which made me come here and start to talk to you. Now I
want to know if you are fun.

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5. Polar Bear
Me: great big polar bear
HB: What?
Me: That's a great ice breaker don't you think?
6. Jen or Angelina
ME: Hey I need your opinion about something, If you were
Brad Pitt, who would you choose? Angelina or Jennifer?
Them: (whatever although its usually Angelina)
ME: How funny, my friend said Jennifer, he said shes
safe but who picks safe over sexy right?
This works great if there are two+ girls in the set. When one
of them becomes an obstacle, you can tease her about
being the safe one.
Me: Oh I get it! Youre the safe one! Im going to call you
Jennifer from now on (laugh)
Hey Jennifer, Im going to hang out with Angelina for a bit,
shes the fun one.
7. The Five Oceans
Hey guys I know this is going to be the weirdest question
you get asked all night, but I need some help. On the drive
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over here on the radio, they were doing that are you
smarter than a 5th grader thing and asked a question, not
ONE person could answer it correctly, and I didnt hear the
final answer, and its driving me crazy not knowing, like
when you hear a song and cant remember who sings it, but
anyways, what are the names of the five oceans?
..pause
I know I know, its stupid, but I could only think of four.
8. The Jealous Cat
"My friend has been going out with a girl for about three
months and they get along really well, they love each other
heaps, but her cat hates him. Like whenever he tries to pet
it, it will just look at him like he's an idiot and walk off and
one time he left his shoes by the door and it pissed on
them. What do you think he should do? We've thought of
four things:
Just be nice to it even though it's going to hate him.
1. Ignore it.
2. Say to his girlfriend: It's me or the cat.
1. When she's not looking 'accidentally' (two fingers motion)
run it over with his car ..."
9. Magazine
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Grab a magazine, picture, newspaper, item, anything! Then

just examine it, and turn to her and ask, "What do you think
of how X looks?" or "Can you believe X!?" or "What is your
opinion about X?"
This is a great, simple, mindless way to open, and then keep
things moving.
10. My Sister
"I had to come over here and ask something quickly. Girls
seem to know more about these things than we do Okay
Im going get straight to the point Im REALLY REALLY
attracted to my sister How do you think I should go about
telling her and my parents about this?
Wait for the girl to give you a look of utter shock and
disbelief then change topic and try having a normal
conversation afterwards.
If she is calm about the whole situation then smile and say
That was all bullshit but since you handled that story You
might just be cool enough to handle me *sly smile*
11. Roosh Vs Gym Opener
What you have to do is go to the machine she is working out
on and ask if you can work in. Do it early in her set so she
doesnt say, I just have one left. After you do a set, say
something. I would go with a light sarcastic joke, like, I can
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usually do ten times as much, but Im taking it easy today.

Say this with a smirk or smile.
If she smiles or laughs, thats your green light to continue
the conversation. Since youre at the gym, I would ask her
questions.
How about, I think I saw you doing cardio. Im wondering if
I should do cardio first or weight lift first. If its going well,
hit her with another joke. Before you part ways, exchange
names. A simple By the way, whats your name? will
work.
Once youve had that first conversation and can talk to her
again like you know her, its just a matter of finding out
what shes doing after a workout to get a smoothie, where
at the end you exchange numbers and take her out on a real
date with alcohol.

12. Dinosaurs
Hey, what's your favorite dinosaur? (High energy, playful
attitude, smile.)
Her: "T-Rex"
YOU: C'mon, that's lame. You only said that because you
remember that name. that's what everyone says when they
can't think of a good dinosaur name. It's so common, and to
think, I thought you were unique and different from the
other girls. I want a good one, and a reason why it's your
favorite dinosaur.
Back Story: My favorite dinosaur would have to be the
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triceratops (pick one). When I was little I used to get gummy

snacks packed in my lunch box and the triceratops were the
oranges ones. And well, orange is my favorite color.
Eventually though, I graduated to Ninja Turtle gummy
snacks with Michelangelo being the new favorite. But yeah,
don't worry about me being some immature guy obsessed
with dinosaurs. Because I mean, come on, Ninja Turtles are
way sweeter. (You can change the color to purple and say
Donatello. Hell, You don't even have to use Ninja Turtles,
use Scooby Doo, or Power Rangers, have fun with it.)

13. Vince Kelvins Greeter Opener
Walking in the store I waited for her to say it
Girl: Hello
Game On
You: Wow..seriously? That was ALMOST the best greeting
Ive had all day!
Girl: *Suddenly bursts out in a laughter of flattery.*
You: That was such an amazing greeting Im almost inclined
to do it again.
Girl: Gives another flattering laugh, this time more genuine.
You: ..You know what? I will do it again.
Girl: Laughs even more I go outside and stop in the middle
of the walk way and look around as if Im biding my time. I
deliberate stay in view of her so she could see me. I could
hear her laughing even more.
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Most importantly, I can tell her day was being made. This
was the most interesting thing happening to her all day.
I walk back in.
I repeated my first entrance into the store.
Confident dominant alpha body language. looking at
everything in the store but her.owning the place before
taking 8 steps in
I waited for her to say it
Girl: Hello
You: Wow! What an amazing greeting!
Girl: Laughs even more.

14. Nice ass opener
Hey a girl just commented that I had a nice ass; its hard to
tell myself. Give me a look at your ass. (make her turn
around, might not be a good idea if you have a hole in your
back) What makes a good ass?

15. No Attention
I know you probably get no attention from guys
whatsoever, so I thought Id come and make some
conversation with you.

1. Look Familiar
You look familiar, did we have sex? (more than likely youll
find it funnier than she does)
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1. Hit On?
Which of you guys gets hit on the most? (for a set of two
hot chicks)

1.
Thoughtful Eyes
You have thoughtful eyes. I think you have a lot going on

inside here. (touch head) this is to be used on a girl standing
around looking bored.
1. Confident
Are you confident enough to accept a sincere compliment?
Good, so am I, you go first.

1.
Very Direct
You are so Damn sexy, (Pause) and I am going to get to

know you (Pause) so tell me something about yourself
(smile)
Delivery here is crucial. If you deliver good, in most cases
they get shockedand they are like so what you want to
know? Me : Everything, but lets start with music.. what
kind of music you listen From here go into Rapport (Wide
& Deep), as this opener will provide you with lots of
attraction. Its very easy to transition to any other topic. As
frame you created allows it

1.
Bank Robbery
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Hey girls, are u good drivers? Me and Friend, are robbing

bank across the street, and guess what (pause). Driver
screwed us. All you need to do is picks us up at XX.00am,
and drive to airport. You get 3%.
This always leads into good conversation, with good energy.
This is my opener number 1# right now. They always want
to negotiate their %. And they will ask for 5%
If you want to create more drama here, start opener with
this:
Hey girls, let me ask you something, can you keep a
secret? Girls :yes You : OK (opener)
Delivery must be Playful. Be prepared to get lots of IOIs.

1. Oral Sex
Hey girls, Let me ask you something (pause) Oral sex on first
date (pause) Yes or No?
This is my new one. They get shocked because you are so
bold. I usually fallow up with a story :
See, they did study about this in Cambridge, and they found
out that couples that had oral sex on first date, stayed
together very very long time. Some of them even got
married. And I have this date tomorrow, and I would like to
have something with her, but, I really dont want to get
married. Do you believe in this bullshit, or you fallow your
instincts?
Changing topic here is very easy. No need to transition to
direct, as you are already there.
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1. Chick Flick
Guy: Can I ask your opinion?
Girl: Sure.
Guy: I've been thinking about seeing x-movie (out in
theatres, or new on DVD) but my friends said I would be gay
if I went to see/watched the movie. What do you think...is it
ok for a guy to watch romantic movies?
Girl: Of course it is. Why not?

24. Best Friend Just Died
Hey girls, let me ask you something, my best friend just dies,
and his girlfriend started hitting on me.. how long should I
wait before I start dating her?
This one is so much fun.
Usually they say wait 6 months
Me : really? Because she started hitting on me after funeral,
and guess what happened yesterday, I received FedEx
package with her panties and they were still wet. I mean,
thats to much for me. Dont get me wrong, I would do her,
but I just cannot imagine my best friend Mike looking me
from above saying and that was my best friend Change
topic after few minutes, and get to know them.. If they are
coming back on opener, transition to direct
Actually, I didnt came here to talk about my dead friend, I
came because you are so damn sexy, and I am going to get
to know you so tell me something about yourself.
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25. Bored Girl
C'mon it's not that bad, it's a Friday/Sat night, the music's
good, the dance floor's pumping, why aren't you up there
having a good time? (Maybe expand a little to suit the
environment. Then, stop, as if to think about what you've
just said.) Don't you hate it when people do that, you're
sitting here minding your own business and someone comes
up forcing you to have a good time. Like, I was at work the
other day standing by the water cooler/coffee machine and
this girl came up to me and said "Smile, it might not
happen". I was just thinking, why doesn't she mind her own
business, I was minding my own. (Then stop again thinking
about what you've just said.) Well... I've pretty much just
killed my own conversation, so unless you have any
questions for me I'll be getting back to my friends.
26. Does Size Matters?
Hey girls, lets me ask you something.. does size really
matters?
Girls : yes/no
You :Interesting, because friend of mine has this huge, huge
(pause) car, and he gets none, while my other friend has
this tiny, tiniest ( pause) Vespa and he gets all of the girls
what's up with that?
This opener will always get them think about..hmmm but
thats why you move to something else. I found it very
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effective after 3 minutes, to transition to direct

Actually, I didnt come here to talk about my stupid friend, I
came because you are so damn sexy, and I am going to get
to know you so tell me something about yourself
When you open with something like this, and conversation
either stays too long in that topic, OR each time you try to
change topic, they go back on opener, use this above
transition. Its very Powerful frame destroyer. Wide & deep
Rapport from here (so what kind of music you listen)?

27. Make Up
Guy: Hey, can I ask you something? (Ask your opinion)
Girl: Sure???
Guy: Ok, I can't stand here and talk for you forever, so make
it quick but, Should a guy wear makeup?
Girl: BLAH BLAH
Guy: Ok, well I have a friend who wears make up. He is not
gay or anything. And every time we go somewhere, people
are laughing at him behind his back. And I really want to tell
him that his makeup is goofy, but he thinks he is expressing
himself. How do you think I should tell him? I really don't
want to piss him off. He is very sensitive.
Girl: Blah.
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Guy: Yeah, I remember this one time, we were invited to a

classy party...and my friend
Finish the story. Just make sure it's funny.
Neg: (Look in her eyes.) You know he does the same thing to
his eyes that you do to yours.... it looks very funny.

28. Conversation Starter
Depending on how high-status she sees herself and the rest
of the environment, you may need to use this sort of bait. I
had a girl walk up to me one night at a club called Le Souk,
looking for an exit (it is a labyrinthine place). Her eyes
started to wander as I was talking (loudly) so I had to bait
her with the following:
Her: Hey, wheres the front door in here, Im lost
Me: Its right up in that direction, towards the (now her
eyes are wandering behind me in the opposite direction Im
pointing) hey look, just because youre beautiful doesnt
mean you can get away with a shitty pickup line.
Her: But I wasnt trying to
Me: (interrupting her) Oh my God you dont have me fooled
for a second. Here, Im going to give you a good line to use
then well find a less assuming guy for you to practice and
get good with before coming back to me.

Fashion Openers
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28. I love your style. Youve got a great look - you must be
very creative.
29. I have to say - the way youve put your outfit together is
so creative. I love your sense of style.
1. Your style really stands out amongst everyone here, and
I had to get to know the person behind such a great
outfit.

31. Blonde Hair
I don't know of an opener that I've seen open more than
this.
YOU: Guys.. get this.. I need an opinion.
THEM: What???
YOU: I'm thinking of dying my hair, TOTALLY BLONDE.
THEM: No.. yes... no.. (They debate.)
YOU: How about like this.. streaks.. etc
This transitions easily into "I'm going on TV.. Ricki Lake
show.." or many other routines.. just pre-plan it, and it can
go ANYWHERE.

Openers for Groups
A mixed set is a set that has male as well as female
members.
32. Its interesting that when you have a group of four or
more people together like this, the tallest always stands
across from the shortest. - alter as needed.
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33. Who are you people?

34. Who is the leader here? (They all point) Say playfully
to leader, What qualifies you to be in charge? Do you
know what alpha means?
35. Do you guys want to see a magic trick? Alright, close
your eyes. (Take cute girl by the hand away from the group
while everybodys eyes are closed. Do not return.)
36. You see that group over there? They said they are
more fun than your group. Please prove to me they are
mistaken.
1. Where have I seen you guys before? Were you at so
and sos party? The one where the stripper gave a lap
dance to the clown.
38. I bet I can use my Psychic powers to figure out how
everybody knows each other. Mmmmm lets see. I am
getting a vibe. Yes there it is. You are all members of the
same nudist club. I can tell because you are very
comfortable with each other but not comfortable with your
clothes. (Whisper to girl) Which guy is the biggest?
Really, I would have never guessed. Of course it is what
you do with it that counts. Which would you prefer? A guy
with a big dick or a guy with a medium dick and five years of
massage school?
39. You should know you are standing on sacred indian
ground. The legend is that the Nodrogyar tribe used this
very spot to sacrifice virgins. Where you are standing
sir(point) is where the tribal women would prepare the
honored girl by rubbing her bare body with scented oils
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40. Approach one group member. Make friends. get that

person to introduce you to everybody else.
41. You guys arent a bad looking group but you could be
better if you applied some Feng Shui.
42. Hi, Im (name) (Shake the hands of those closest to
you - but not everyone) So what are you guys talking
about? Do this right and they will all presume you know
someone else in the group. If you get called on it you just
look like a bold confident man.
43. Okay, whos been naughty and whos been nice?
44. Count the number of people in the group (say N)
Say out loud:
Don't you guys know that N is an unlucky number?
Then add Good thing Im here otherwise you would all be
cursed to damnation

1. Gym Opener
What you think about when you're working out?
Ive been watching you and you seem to really be thinking
about things.
Do NOT ask for the #. Find out what her workout routine is
and see if youd like to share your workout time together.
Then you can say,
Ive been thinking about something in particular lately
whenever I workout. Most people I bet just think about how
they are going to have this great body and all, others think
about how they are going to make their next million. What
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do YOU think about?

Then talk about how You've been thinking about the way
the brain works. How life is a lot like working out.

1. Man Humor
(1). Girls, check this out... I once knew a guy who could burp
for 15 seconds!! Isn't that AWESOME?!! Girls: (Disapproving
laugh.) Why can't you girls be more like men? Huh? Why
can't you do cool things like US? Hey you, the blonde -I bet
you can't even squish an empty beer can on your forehead!
(2). I was playing X computer game the other day. I was
shooting people with a crossbow. One of the bad guys was
very close to a wooden door, so when I shot him, the bolt
pinned him to the door... so he was hanging uprights like
that... and wiggling his feet in agony... and the door was
swinging open with him pinned to it... Isn't that
AWESOME?! Girls: "Umm, no?" You guys don't know what's
cool.

1. Mentos
Go up to a girl with the BIGGEST CHEESIEST SMILE you can
put on your face and just sit there and look at her smiling
until she says, "What?" Then pull out your arm revealing a
pack of MENTOS in your hand. It always kills them if they
have seen the commercial and it usually starts a
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conversation too. Plus it is fun as HELL to do.

48. Mime
You: I need an opinion on something. (Kino on the elbow to
get her attention.)
Her: (Leans in closer.)
You: I'm thinking about quitting my job and becoming a
mime.
Her: (Smile or Crack up.)
You: When you see me doing my thing, will you put a dollar
(say "euro" if you want to appear well-traveled) in my hat?
Her: I don't know are you any good?
You: I'm the best. I have an edge on all the other mimes out
there. (pause + eye contact) I talk!
Then go into how you're going to spirit her away to some
exotic foreign capital where you will mime while she picks
the pockets of onlooking tourists....add that after stowing
the loot...you'll both streak through fancy museums all
jacked up on Red Bull and ecstasy... By this time she
should've been laughing her ass off.

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49. Blind Date

Walk up to a girl or a group of girls. (no guys in the group
preferred you will know what I mean) Say loud and clear,
hey, I need your opinion on something. I am going on a
blind date with some girl and I am very nervous about it. Is
there any tips you can give me so I dont look like an idiot. I
dont really know how to dress to impress or act the right
way (Act as AFC as you can to disarm the bitch shield)
NOW some girl would just tell you be yourself you
should reply with C&F line or expression. What I did was I
made a very serious face and said like this? which cracked
them up. I then put up the serious face again and said, I
need to know, and then change to a happy face and said
come on, tell me the secret to girls hearts, and how do I
dress to impress. If you were going on a blind date, what
would you like the guy to look like.
At this point at least one girl would volunteer to give you a
few tips, and then more will follow. You can then ask all the
questions you want to those girls until they go dry (EV). Or
you can run some patterns and move in to your routines.
Depends on how well you spin it, you might be able to get
one of the girls out shopping with you or more. The danger
of this opener is, they might give you advices to be AFC, i.e.
buy her flowersblah blah blah. It is your natural ability as
an ASFer to filter out the useful info from the AFC ones.

50. Self Empowering Class Opener
Me: Real quick, you guys think it's a good idea to take self
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empowering classes?
Her: Y/ no / whatever response
Me: I got a buddy that just ended a X year long relationship.
And was thinking about taking a class. But I'm telling him to
just go out meet people and socialize, w/o any pressure of
anything else. To just go out and have a good conversation.
But my roommate SHE thinks that guys meeting girls out in
public is hard and next to impossible. She also thinks that
classes for empowerment are ironically lame. Then again
she really had no problems attracting people with her job....
Her: What did she do?
Me: Shes ...get this...brace yourself...an exotic dancer
double majoring Business and Psychology. She dances to
put her thru school but I don't know what to make of it. It is
her life, I'm just glad she's still in school.
Bet you're in school aren't you?

51. Cologne Opener
In a mall put on a different cologne on each wrist and ask
girls which one smells better on you. Go back and forth
several times between arms and make cute faces when you
do.
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Have something queued up and ready to go immediately

afterwards.

1. Hot Women (only to be said to 9's and 10's)
Hey do you know where me and my friend can find some
really attractive women?

53. Compliment Opener
Compliment her on something shes wearing or her hair or
just style in general. The trick is compliment openers are to
never compliment her on her physical beauty.
You have an incredibly energy about you You have an
artless grace Thats an incredible whatever-x
accessory/garment

54. Magic Trick
You: I want to show you a cool magic trick
Then go into the middle of the two set. Then plant your
arms on their shoulders like arm rests.
You: Thanks my arms were getting tired.

55. Dating for Dummies
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Go find the Dating for Dummies book. Its bright yellow and
black. I forget the exact page (78 maybe?), but find the page
that has NEVER USE THESE LINES on it, and keep the book
open to that page.
Walk up to a girl BLATANTLY and hold the book up in front
of your face so she can easily read the title. She might start
laughing, depending on how you do it.
Then slowly lower the book and read the lines. So come
here often in a super player voice. She will crack up and
answer you. Break your smooth look on your face and
quickly bring the book back up and read the next line
Whats your sign?. She will laugh again and probably
answer.
Then I usually say Wow this works great. Your turn. It
puts her on the spot. You can flip to random pages and do
tons of role-play the breaking up stuff is great.
Eventually just stack with a relationship related opener, and
youre in. Ive done this a ton of times and it never fails to
open.

56. Eyes opener
Hey let me look at your eyes, they say that you can tell
everything by someoneseyes. The small lines in someones
eyes tell you how strong their constitution is. If they are
weak and far apart they tend to get sick often, and if they
are tightly packed and strong they are a leader type of
person. Let me look at your eyes, hmmmm.
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57. Direct Opener
Hi, I like you. And Id like to get to know you. Hey, Whats
up? Where are you going? Youre cute, are you
friendly/interesting? You guys are so adorable. You have
such a cute group dynamic going on. I want to meet you
guys. My name is x-name How are you? You look like
someone Id like to meet. etc (I have a lot of successes
with these on girls that are HB7 and lower or older women)

Coffee Shop Openers
58. Ask, "Do you believe in ghosts?"
59. Hi, I've been sitting her for the past ten minutes trying
to think of some opening line to talk to you, but I'm drawing
a blank. So I'd just like to say, my name is John and I think
you're very beautiful. What's your name?
60. Excuse me, do you think smiles are contagious?" and
give her a big smile until she smiles back. "See I knew it
they are! What's your name?"

1. Hey does coffee really stain your teeth? My friend
drinks this coffee through a straw to keep his teeth
white. What do you think- should we be worried?
Cause I love coffee.

62. Dental Floss
Hey guys, I need to get your opinion on something. Its very
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important, and we need a womans perspective. Its a

matter of life and death.. My friend and I were having a
debate and your answer could completely change my entire
life.
Do you brush before floss or floss before brush? No one
knows

63. Mime College
Hey guys, my friend wants to go to MIME College...how the
hell do I convince him not to go??? I don't have a clue what
to say!!! I didn't even know they had colleges for mimes. Do
you get your BA in walking against the wind!!!

64. Dont Touch Me
When a girl bumps into you in a crowded club tap her on
the shoulder and say dont touch me have something to
immediately follow up with.

65. Shoes opener
Hey they say you can tell the exact mood a girl is in by the
length of the heel on her shoe. If its really tall, even if she
doesnt realize it, she wants hot sex, and if its really low
shes not feeling very sexual. Hmmmm. (Continue and
100% correct by the way), hey look her shoes!

66. Drug Dealer
Used with a wing at night, with funny, just-got-done-
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laughing tonality. Hey, I need your opinion on

somethingdoes my friend here look like a drug dealer?
(chicks usually either laugh or look quizzically) Because we
were outside and some dude came up to him and touched
him on the shoulder like this (cheap kino on girl) and
asked, Hey man, you got some E? Ideally you will use this
with a wing who doesnt look too straight-laced.
Ive done this where my wing will open with this and Ill pipe
in with Since Ive changed my look I get asked, do I party
like all the time. I think theyre looking for cocaine. Another
thing Ive noticed is about 10 times a night Ill get someone
coming up to me and asking can I bum a cigarette I dont
smoke but Im seriously considering carrying around a
pack but not like regular cigarettes like Virginia Slims
120s then Ill just pull one out and hand it to the guy and
hell be all like WTF? etc

Campus Openers
67. Hey, I need your opinion- I'm going on a blind date with
a girl and I'm nervous. Are there any tips you can give me
so I don't look like an idiot?

68. Hey, I'm new here- could you show me where the library
is?" Once there, tell her you're not really new, you just
needed an excuse to meet her- and invite her for coffee.

69. Hi, I'm looking for models for a campus magazine you
look like you might have what I need. Do you have any
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modeling experience?

1. Hey, I'm cramming for a test- can you quiz me on these
questions for a few minutes?

71. Eighties Music
Hey guys, help me out, I have this song stuck in my head ALL
day and I cant remember who sings it. it goes you spin me
right round baby right round like a record player right
round, round round, etc. who sings that???
(blah, blah, blah)
I was talking to my mom earlier today and she said its Lionel
Richie but I KNOW that isnt right!
Then later in the night you can like reopen with Dead or
Alive This works with any one hit wonder 80s music.

72. Mother's Day
You: Hey, give me some advice: Tomorrow is mother's day
and I need a present. What do you suggest?
Her: (Wants to answer.)
You interrupt: (C&F) But please, no mama's boy presents.
Her: Blabla...buy her flowers.
You: Hey dork, I said NO MAMA'S BOY PRESENTS, right?
Her: Blabla...I don't buy a present for my mother.
You: Whaaaat? Oh you are a BAAAAAD GIRL!
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From here you can either spank her, do a mini cold read or
whatever. Easy, simple!

73. Elvis Opener
Did you know that Elvis dyed his hair black? What was his
natural hair color? Dirty Blond. Did you know that Priscilla
Presley also dyed her hair?
I dont know what her natural hair color was, Im not Cliff
Claven, but can you picture that these two every couple of
weeks would dye their hair black together around a dirty
sink in some sick mass-appealing ceremonial ritual? I bet
people never considered that before did you?
Alternative: Did you know that all Elvis had to do to get a
shag was look directly into the girls eyes and smile?
Then look into the chicks eyes and smile.

74. Motorcycle
I need a female opinion. My buddy (put hand on wingman's
shoulder) wants go get a bike (motorcycle). Could he get
more chicks with a crotch rocket or Harley?
BANG! Each girl has her opinion and at least one will answer
directly to the wingman, while the others start asking what
you ride. They all want rides and you can always get a
number close.
I know what you're thinking. "But I don't have a bike!" It's
not a problem. When she asks, "what do you ride?" (And
she will) just pull back with a humble, "Oh I'm just learning. I
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can't take you out yet." Then switch to, "So girls jump on
the back of strangers' bikes all the time, but getting in a less
lethal CAR with a stranger is 'dangerous'. What's up with
that?"

75. Expensive Clothes
Hey guys, I need a female opinion we were just Saks
today, and there were all these 600$ collared tee-shirts
when chicks see guys wearing 6bill shirts like that, do they
think its classy or try-hard? (Thats the skeleton obviously
use your own speaking mannerisms)
Then you can use what info and opinions they give you to
bust on them, using all the usual stuff.

76. Fat Elvis
Hey guys, if you were going to hire an Elvis impersonator for
your friends birthday party, would you hire a young Elvis or
a Fat Elvis?
blah, blah, blah. (if she says young Elvis bust on her for
being shallow)
Get this, my roommate lived in Graceland for a year and he
said the craziest thing. He told me that the fat Elvis
impersonators always got the hottest chicks, and the young
Elviss were always alone. I couldnt believe it at first, but I
thought about it, and it kinda makes sense. I guess women
just lose all control when the see a fat Elvis impersonator
doing hunka hunka burnin love.
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77. New Pet
Hey you guys, I need a female opinion...I want to get a pet,
but I've got a bunch of criteria, so listen up. It needs to be
clean, I don't want to have to clean up after it every day, it
needs to have a lot of personality so we can become good
friends, but here's the thing...it needs to die within a year,
because I don't want to commit to something for 15 years
Or: But it has die within a year, because that's when I'm
moving to Italy!

78. No Job Three Girlfriends
You: Hey guys I'm trying to figure out something here and
maybe you can help. See, I have this friend and he has no
job and no apartment. However, he has three girlfriends
and he takes turn staying at each of their houses, and they
cook for him and look after him and they don't ask anything
from him. What do you think about that? Them: "Blah,
that's terrible blah." So would you date someone like that?
Them: "Blah, what a jerk blah, no way."
You: So what I can't figure out is this... if it's so terrible, how
is he able to do this? Maybe you ladies know because I'm
stumped!
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Them: "Blah." (This part gets interesting because they may

actually start to ask you stuff about the three women and
the guy, and play little miss detective.
Now, you can describe any of the women and the guy any
way you want. Say one of them is a 40 year old lonely
woman, and another is an 23 year old party chick alcoholic.
It doesn't matter. You can neg the women for being Nancy
Drew if you like.) Well I think you might be right, but you
know, now that you mention it, I think it's because he isn't
really able to look after himself well, so women feel sorry
for him and look after him.

79. Khaki Opener
Hey, guys, my friends and I were making fun of some frat
boys, and got into an argumentis khaki a color or a
fabric? The correct answer is that khaki is a color, and most
girls know this. You can go into, See, I was thinking it was a
color, but the thing is that you never see a khaki car or
wallpaper color or anything like that! then fire into your
next routine

Bookstore openers
80. Pull out a random book from the shelf and open it:
"Wow cool this book is so awesome this is bad this
the shit Is what you're reading as good as this?
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81. Read a book nonchalantly next to the girl. Shake your
head and say, "I just can't find what I'm looking for. How is
that book of yours- is it any good?"

82. Ask her "Have you ever read a Harry Potter book?"
Whatever she answers playfully express concern, "I don't
know if I read it I think it would convert me to withcraft or
wicca"

1. Excuse me, do you know any good books on
relationships? My friend wants to spice up her sex life
what you would recommend

84. Kino Openers
Pushing girls, grabbing drinks out of their hands, lightly hip
checking them, snapping bra straps, grabbing hats off
heads, poke her, tap the opposite shoulder, etc(these
require no memorization are easy for newbies)

84. Mystery ESP Opener
Walk up to a girl and say, Do you believe in ESP?
Remember to SMILE or you may startle her. Just think of
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the first # that pops into your head from one to four. Dont
say it. Just think it now take that # and imagine that it is
drawn on a blackboard in your head. Have you done that?
She says OK
Whats so neat about imagination is we both have it
On the blackboard, I see the number three.
Whether you get it right or not reply.
Alright, lets try this one more time. This time think of a
different # from one to 10. Got it? Picture it in white chalk
on the blackboard you are thinking of the number 7.
If you got the first wrong and the second right, you look like
you finally got it a 1 in 10 chance. If you get BOTH right (a
90% chance seeing as it is a psychological trick where most
north Americans naturally choose 3 and 7 as their first
picks) thats a 1 in 40 chance and of course I dont stake
my reputation on mere chance.
If you get the first right but the second wrong or both
wrong, say PROOF! ESP does NOT exist! Then start to
laugh like this Mooa ha ha ha ha ha ha! And you believe in
ESP! a good neg hit to start. If she mentions that most
people pick 3 and 7 (most girls won't know this though) just
say, really? Hmm didnt know that thank you Cliff
Claven. (From Cheers)
If you take the wording I have and do this EXACTLY as
stated, you will be surprised HOW well you will do. When
they ask HOW, tell them I DONT KNOW. Tell her you can
SEE the #s on your imaginary blackboard. This is NOT a trick.
You hate magicians. If she wants you to do this again, tell
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her dont be greedy now.

Speaking of greedy if a girl kisses you on the cheek and
goes to kiss your other cheek, tell her, Only one dont be
greedy. This is a good NEG HIT. Mild but a neg hit
nonetheless. If she says, Yes, but Im French, you reply,
Are all French girls as greedy as you?

Concert Openers

85. In a loud concert, stick up your hand and have her high
five you. Say "You're awesome!" and do this to all the girls
immediately around you.

86. To a group- "So which one of you wants to get in bed
with one of the band members?" Find out which band the
girls wants to sleep with then tease her about it.

87. If a girl accidentally bumps into you, "Hey that'll be $10
please. You can't just touch this for free. What's your
name?"

88. Walk up to the girl, look her up and down once, narrow
your eyes, tilt your head, step back, step forward again, and
finally give her a big "HI"

1. My god! Did you see the two girls fighting outside the
concert over the short guy? One pulling the other's hair,
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the other drew blood with her nails!

90. Female Roommates
Ive been offered this *SWEET* place in (x place).. I want to
live there, *BUT*.. I have to live with FOUR girls. Like
*FOUR*. Im going to get 4 times the boyfriend complaints;
Ill never get in the fucking bathroom Im gonna have to
start showering at the truck stop, and you KNOW theyre
gonna synchronize. (Smile knowingly) Heck, Ill probably
start *MY* period. Im going to have to leave the house for
5 days a month!
Did you know thats why primitive civilizations developed
camping? All the women in the tribe would synchronize and
the guys would look up at the moon and be like The
antelope are moving now, we must HUNT.
Also living with all those girls, I could get RAPED. Did you
know that 95% of guys that get date raped commit suicide
in 6 months? Girls are such sexual predators (sexual
predator routine stuff below).

Openers for the park
91. Hey- I know this may seem unusual- but I saw you
walking by and I just had to come up and tell you- that you
walk with- the most incredible energy!

92. Tell a girl walking by, "Hey, I noticed something
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interesting about you" Then don't tell her what it is but

read her palm instead.

93. Ask her, "So do you think I look better with my
sunglasses on or off" Put them on "On" and then take them
off "Off?"

94. It's a great that this park is here so easy to just let go,
relax and forget about everything for awhile what makes
you feel that way?"

1. "Hey this might sound like a silly question- but if you
could be an animal in the park what kind of animal
would you be? Would you be a dog or a squirrel? Then
start debating what the best animal would be.

96. Notice
"Hey I noticed X, Y?" For example, "Hey I noticed you have a
Gucci watch, is that the new style?" "Hey I noticed you're
drinking a Purple Hooter, are those any good?"

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1. Plant and Stare

Just walk up to girls and just stop. Like plant yourself in
front of them. Give them kind of a boyish playful smiling
face like you're about to do something cocky or thought of
something funny you're about to say, and they start
giggling.
The key is to stop abruptly, and make the fun face, so they
giggle. Then reach out to shake hands with them (introduce
yourself to the HB8s and lower), and maybe do the spin
move. Or just sit there until they giggle and say, "What??
Whaaaat??? Whaaaaaaaaaaaaat???" Say "I can't tell you,
we haven't known each other long enough". You can do this
to girls at tables, and then wait until they start asking you
questions. Then say "I can only stay 30 seconds" and sit
down. Then stay as long as you want. You convey a lot of
alpha "I'm not intimidated by you" characteristics by not
even saying anything as your opener. Also, it's very playful if
done properly.
You can also just use this as a style to lead into any opener
that you want by following the plant-and-stare with a
standard opener. Make it a playful one though.

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Im lost I cant find my friends and Im scared Remember

when we were kids and you could just make new friends
whenever you wanted and you said want to be my
friend? Do you guys want to by my NEW friend?

Gym Openers
99. "Excuse me, but I was curious- how to you keep in such
a great shape? What's your secret?" They'll be happy to
talk about themselves.

100. Position yourself as an expert on a weight machine
next to hers. Start grunting like it's incredibly tough- with a
smile. "Boy- I'm a little out of shape! What about you-
workout often?"

101. With a playful smile say "You know, you kind of look
like that lady from Ms Fitness- I can't remember her name-
hey maybe you are her- wow this sooo cool a real
celebrity.

102. Hey I need a female opinion- do you think guys look
better in tight gym clothes that show off her bodies or
casual, loose clothes?

103. "Excuse me I feel kind of foolish asking you this- but
can you show me how this machine works?" Then strike up
a conversation about the exercise form.
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Part 8: Closing Tips

Capitalize on Opportunity
Now, you dont want to let opportunities slip by. Im not
sitting here saying youre going to be able to get her. Im
not one of those guys that tell you, You can get every girl
every time. but you want to give it a shot. You want to step
up to the plate and give it your best fucking swing. You
dont want to let her slip by and regret it for the rest of your
life.
Having an opener lets you take the swing. It eliminates the
excuse of I couldnt think of something quick enough to
say. Having an opener for every situation gives you a bat, it
gives you a chance to hit it out of the park. And you dont
want to miss that chance.
Your Worst Enemy

The biggest battle when it comes to opening by far, the
thing that youre going to have to fight is not going to be the
women rejecting you. Its not going to be situations, its
going to be yourself. The biggest battle is going to be with
yourself. Its going to be with you having the balls to start a
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conversation with a woman.

You having the balls, the knowledge and the skill to keep
that conversation going is the biggest hurdle. Having good
openers that you feel comfortable with gets you in a state
of mind to keep a conversation alive. It gives you something
to say and eliminates your excuse.
So I want to highly recommend, if you havent already
grabbed my free puaopeners ebook. Its got free right in the
name, freepuaopeners.com. Grab it now and take a look at
a 175 different openers, pick the ones you like the best. If
you think a drunk I love you is going to work for you, try
that one out. Hell, it worked for me plenty of times.
Come up with your own openers too. Thats the most fun
part, when you find something of your own that works and
you use it a ton of times.
Be Interested
So the last thing I want to talk about is starting off the
conversation with interest.
Im going to give you a quick rundown of how to start a
conversation off with interest.
The first thing you want to do is quickly banter to show her
that youre cool.
(Grab a free book of banter lines here)
http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/cheat

What I mean by that is avoid interview mode, just get right
into the flirty, laughing kind of behavior.
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The next thing is the 90/10 rule.

You want to be prepared to talk for a majority of the
conversation in the beginning.
If you dont have things to follow up with and you ask her
questions and expect her put in more of the conversation,
the momentum is going to die out quickly.
Anytime you ask her a question you want to have a
statement ready. You want to make it almost like everything
youre asking her is rhetorical, and youre ready to talk
about whatever you bring up.
You also want to use a time constraint to ease fear. You
want to give off the impression that you can leave at any
moment.
Complicate the Interaction

This is something that I learned from Paul Janka.
You want to complicate the interaction. This is mainly good
for those street pickups or when youre using a question
like, Hey, do you know where the local Starbucks is?
opener.
Thats going to die out really quickly if she says Yeah, its
around the corner, and you dont know how to keep it
going.
You want to complicate it by saying, Whoa, I cant go to
that one because my ex-girlfriend works there and I just
dont want to see her right now. And then say, Do you
know another one? and now youve complicated it and you
kept the conversation going.
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That works really well on the situational street approaches.
Conclusion
I hope I have inspired you to go out and use these methods.
Once you get a few openers, try one out. If you read any of
my stuff, you know that I mention over and over again that
using an opener, even a canned opinion opener, really can
change your game because you start to realize Wow, it is
not that hard to talk to women.

Additional Resources:

Free Book of Banter lines

http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/cheat
Amplify the Attraction:

www.amplifytheattraction.com

Conversation Escalation

www.conversationescalation.com

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