Transactional Analysis

Games People Play

Ego
States
Ego
States
in
Man
Parental
Adult
Child

Do as I say!
Ill be frank with
you..
What shall I

Strokes the result of hunger

Structure
Hunger

Stimulus
Hunger

Position
Hunger

People hunger for recognition

Strokes
Warm fuzzies

Positive

Cold pricklies

Negative

Recognition | Attention | Responsiveness

Theories governing behaviour

Gene theory I am made that way
Make me feel theory You make me feel
You-owe me theory If only you change
Subconscious
me

theory Suddenly you got hold of

and I could do nothing.

The fate theory It was willed by Him

Types of Strokes
Conditiona
l

Unconditio
nal

Positive Youve made a fantastic

presentation!
Negative That was the worst report I ever
read.

Positive Youre a nice guy!

Negative Ive never seen anyone as
arrogant as you.

Seek out ways to give more unconditional positive

responses.
Listen carefully to positive strokes from others.
Everyone occupies a preferred basic life position (BLP).

The Power of Scripts

I won't amount to anything and I deserved to be locked up in a prison

Life Scripts Traps

Abandonment
I get desperate when someone I love moves
away

Mistrust
Im angry about what people have done to me

Emotional deprivation
I feel disconnected, even from people closest to
me

Dependence
I find everyday life overwhelming

Life Scripts Traps

Vulnerability
Something bad is about to happen

Defectiveness
Im inherently flawed

Subjugation
If I dont give in to others, they will reject me

Failure
I dont have any special talents

How Scripts Shape Life

How Scripts Shape Life

Scripting your own life

Alfred
Nobel

Armstrong

Eminem

Helen
Keller

Harbhajan

Games People Play

Greeting
Hello, how are you?
Im good, what about you?
Camouflage
Indirect hints barely perceptible
Wow, Bill lost 20 pounds. He looks great!
Corner
Damned if you do, damned if you dont

Meeting
Oh, so pleased to meet you!
Wooden Leg
Eliciting sympathy using excuses
How can I be patient with kids? I am shorttempered!!

Games People Play

Switch reversal in roles/positions

The victim-persecutor role reversal
Cross disorientation between the two when
switch happens
Payoff person getting justification for inaction
and attention

One life thats all we have. What do you want to

do with yours?