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Etiquette
ELAINE DECKER & GWENDOLYN MOSIER
Education
Social living and decorum was a part of their
learning curriculum
Was needed for success, social standing, and needed
to enter the upper class
Books on conduct rules for women and men were
available
Mothers sometimes taught their children to read and
write while the fathers would teach their sons Latin
As children grew older, governesses and tutors were
hired
Boys could be sent away to school
Manuals,
The Habits of Good Society: A handbook of
and leisure
Social lives would include teas, dances (balls),
visiting friends and family, going on walks, sports,
etc.
If you didnt converse well then you wouldnt have
very many friends or social invitations
Etiquette of Women
The Basics
Stand up when you introduce yourself to someone
Girls would curtsey and men would bow
Never turn your back to someone; ask to be excused
Emotions had to be hidden because people always
assumed the best in people
Etiquette of Women
People without manners/ bad manners were never
socialized with
Needed to have a positive attitude
They were not to discuss the prices of items because
in those days it was considered bad taste.
Etiquette of Women
They were to be grateful for the compliments they
Etiquette of Women
Bad language and the use of slang was frowned
upon
Not to show affection to other women in public
places
Gossip was not acceptable
They were required to have a manual about
etiquette protocol
Etiquette of Women
Appearance
No came down to breakfast in their bedtime attire
A womans hair was always up in a bonnet unless
they were still young
Dressed modestly and with girly colors as well as
lace, beads, and ribbons
Womens beauty should be natural
Etiquette of Women
Posture & Poise
Women were taught how to carry themselves, lift
their dresses, how to stand, sit, walk, and how to take
the arm of a man escorting them
They were taught to have poise and to gesture gently
and to never be in a hurry
This was thought as part of a womans beauty
Etiquette of Women
Proper Female Conduct
After having acquaintance with someone of lower
rank they could still cut ties with them if they so
wished.
Single women were to never go outside unchaperoned
Etiquette of Women
While at home, a women and unmarried man could
Etiquette of Women
Impure conversations were not to be held around
single women
Future wives were expected to be innocent and have
no sexual contact before marriage
Lastly, it was considered improper to them to dance
with the same man more than three times at a
gathering.
Etiquette of Women
Women had to be chaperoned at gatherings such
Etiquette of Women
For women, overall, their jobs were marriage and
Etiquette of Gentlemen
They were to stand when a lady enters the room and
Etiquette of Gentlemen
When walking in the streets of the city, men had to
Courtship (Dating)
Courtship is like dating, but with proper etiquette!
Women could turn down their first proposal since
marriage was a huge commitment for women.
If the wife outlived her husband, her father would
have already created her a jointure which would
take care of her
Courtship (Dating)
Once business aspects were taken care of the
Courtship (Dating)
Once any of the rules were broken the engagement
Marriage Ability
Young women and girls learned their educations
Marriage Ability
If a woman didnt marry, she was considered to be a
Wedding
After the wedding it was customary for the couple to
& Marriage
If your wife died you were not to marry her sister;
& Marriage
Husbands took control of their wifes money and
Divorce
Women could only divorce their husbands when they
committed adultery.
Even though they could use adultery as a way to
divorce their husband, they had to prove they were
engaged in incest or cruel
Divorce
Men were thought to take care of their wives and
Divorce
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Family Life
Mother
spent time calling friends and planning events
didnt cook, clean, or take care of the household
believed that children must be taught the difference
between right and wrong
also believed it was right to raise decent children
Family Life
Father
head of the house
children gave him respect and he was often called
Sir
made the money in the family
Family Life
Children
saw very little of their parents
brought us by the nanny
spent most of their time in the nursery
expected to rise early because sleeping in was
thought to be both lazy and sinful
Family Life
at the end of the day, children were usually allowed
Servants.
only upper and middle class families had help in
their households
butler waited on the family and answered the door
cook was responsible to buy and cook the food and
was helped by scullery maids
maids were responsible for cleaning
Servants.
Servants had to learn etiquette as well
Servants: Must use the terms maam and sir and
& Nannies
nanny was responsible for taking care of the
Working Class
afraid of ending up in the workhouse
workhouses split families up, gave them uniforms,
Upper Class
Upper class: Rules on what to wear and proper forms
of address
Upper and Upper-middle class: Their lives were
surrounded by dos and donts. One little mistake
and their reputation could be ruined