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Samantha Gibbs
COMM 1010 P. Skousen
4/13/2015
happy with the outcome. In situations where I figure that the other persons viewpoint is right in
a conflict, more often than not I let my pride take over and I wont back down. I use a competing
method of dealing with this particular conflict. Meaning I stand my ground and refuse any
compromise even if I know the other solution may be better. I will improve in this by using an
accommodating approach. By using this approach to solve a conflict I would be able to admit I
am wrong, not letting ego get in the way of negotiating an issue that may not be as important to
myself as the other person can be extremely beneficial. On page 126 of the text book it talks
about ego/identity issues. We are constantly trying to show desirable attributes in accordance
with how we show our face. When we feel threatened by another we then to gain an ego and
forget professionalism. Conflicts should looked at thoroughly before jumping to a conclusion
and using a method of solving the conflict with may not be suitable for that particular situation.
Learning and utilizing these things in my daily life will be extremely successful in becoming and
remaining successful.
Earlier on I mentioned how I have a hard time relaying messages clearly. At times coworkers will take things the wrong way especially when I am trying to give constructive
criticism. I tend to point out their faults and forget to provide a solution for whatever problem I
am addressing. On page 114 of the text book it goes over defense-reducing and defense-arousing
messages. Some of the defense-arousing messages that I have notices I use are evaluative,
controlling manipulative and superior messages. Though I may mean well in some situations
looking at some of the words and attitude I use while providing feedback or criticizing is not
constructive in any way.
On page 114 in the text book it explains that using defense-arousing messages brings out
the worst in others. By trying to force them to be what I want them to be and being pushy when
I am giving feedback can create conflicts between me and my co-workers. There are a few
different things that I can do to improve this and become a better communicator through my
feedback. I can start by being totally honest, in the text book on page 115 it talks about how
dishonesty and being manipulative is almost guaranteed to bring out defensiveness in others.
When that is eliminated I can give them exactly how I feel and make sure I show concern for
them and what they are doing. When I give them a suggestion or constructive criticism I can
make sure that they know that I am concerned for them and not only for myself. This way they
can understand that I view us as equals and that I am giving solutions for a situation that I may
not agree with and that I can recognize the strengths. Something I can keep in my mind that is
also good to go to one of my superiors and express my concern and feedback about another
person to them. It describes on page 116 of the text book that in some situations it can better if
constructive feedback is given by someone who is more credible to give that criticism. That way
the person is more accepting and understanding of the situation. Something else I can watch out
for is adding other topics onto the criticism I am already giving. When I can focus on one thing
and explain in a kind and diplomatic way that person will be more accepting of that topic, rather
than being bombarded with other inapplicable feedback.
By learning from and using the suggestions from the text book, I can create a better
situation for myself and others in the workplace. Communication is a crucial aspect of everyday
life, when I cannot express myself and effectively solve conflicts I am creating an unbalanced
and toxic work environment and social life. My every day is affected by my ability to
communicate, learning how to improve will improve my every day life. I know I can become
more successful utilizing the things I have learned.
Samantha Gibbs
COMM 1010 P. Skousen
4/13/2015