Beruflich Dokumente
Kultur Dokumente
Spring 2015
COM 2110
Hom
Personal Change Proposal
As far as unwanted communication habits go, I have several
obvious ones. Ive become a very quiet person when I used to be the
exact opposite prior to moving to Salt Lake City. Im very anxious, and
at times notice that I habitually or instinctively avoid social contact or
engagement. I avoid phone calls from my parents often, I sometimes
dont respond to texts from friends or loved ones, and Im having
trouble being a consistent and present communicator with my
girlfriend who lives in California. I think its due to anxiety and low selfesteem along with depression, but its also due to simple isolation from
living up in Park City and not socializing much for 2 straight years.
Goal
I want to become a stronger and more reliable communicator with
family and friends. This means ensuring my relationships are honest
and strong. I want them to know and see from my improved
communication skills that I care about them as much as they show
they care about me. I can be more other-oriented in order to observe
and notice what it is that my family and friends hope for from me. If I
do this, I will probably become less overwhelmed and realize they just
want reliable contact and to see positive achievements in my own life. I
also want to make new friends and have a healthy social life. If I stop
being so self-absorbed with unchecked negative emotions from the
past, I think Ill achieve my goal.
Rationale
When Im self-absorbed with negative emotions, I tend to avoid contact
and communicative situations because I dont want to share with
anyone why Im in a poor mood. Depression is a catch-22 force where
it makes it difficult to take the steps necessary to escape its grip. When
I ignore calls or texts from family and friends I avoid the very people
who would most readily and effectively cheer me up, and I increase the
likelihood that our eventual next conversation will not start out on a
positive note because I have been ignoring them. It makes me want to
avoid those subsequent calls. Also, with having a girlfriend in another
state, she feels neglected and disrespected when I take so long to
answer her texts or fail to answer her calls. She feels unimportant and
it hurts her feelings. When Im self-absorbed I hardly realize or
acknowledge that she is likely upset I simply do whatever it is I want
to do to distract me from my negative outlook or frame of mind and it