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LOVE THY SELF NOT HATE

Author:

Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee

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The Preface
The present compendium is a collection of
some of the best Scientific and Educational
essays authored by world renowned author
Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee during the
period 2010-2015. These have earlier been
published online on internationally reputed
websites.
Heart-felt deep gratitude to the sisterbrother duo Nidhi, 8 years old & Jishnu,
10 years old for permission to include their
appealing drawings in the instant book!
We do hope that the present book shall
help broaden your intellectual vision and
enrich your life.
Enjoy Happy Reading!

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Table of Contents
1.

LOVE THY SELF NOT HATE!

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3.

WHO IS YOUR BEST DOCTOR?


HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED WHYSTEADY BIG BANG THEORIES

4.

THE HIGGS BOSON NOT THE SOUL PARTICLE/GOD PARTICLE

SCIENTIFIC REASONS.
5. THE SELF-MIRRORING - THE KEY TO SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES...!
6. ARE YOU A VICTIM OF THE SELF-HYPE...MEDIA HYPE...?
7. TEACHING YOUR CHILD ENGLISH PERSONAL INVOLVEMENT
NECESSARY?
8. TEACHING YOUR CHILD ENGLISH - PARENTAL INVOLVEMENT
9. HOW CAN MY LIFE BE SIMPLE AND THINKING HIGH...?
10. WHEN FEELING DOWN THEN BE IN CHARMING ARMS OF NATURE...!
11. UNSOLICITED ADVICE, SUGGESTION AND COUNSEL WHEN?
12. THE STONES/GEMS/YANTRAS ARE THESE REALLY POWERFUL?

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13. CONCENTRATION TO DECONCENTRATION = GITA AND


NEWTONS THIRD LAW OF MOTION!

14. ARE YOU BEING JEALOUS?


15. TREAT YOUR CHILD WITH UNCONDITIONAL LOVE!
16. THE EFFECTIVE YOGA-TECHNIQUE FOR THE FOOD-DIGESTION

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17. THE NAVEL DISPLACEMENT SIMPLEST SELF-HALP WAYS OF SWAAMEE


APRTEMAANANDAA TO CURE IT!

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18. TRUE BLISSFUL KARMA YOGA...!


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19. GREAT SCIENTIFIC INNOVATIVE IDEAS OF SWAAMEE APRTEMAANANDAA JEE,
WAITING FOR REALIZATION...!

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1. LOVE THY SELF NOT HATE!


Are you being consumed incessantly by your own
web of hatred? Hatred assumes numerous sinister
forms. Most of the times and in most cases more
often than not, its directed at others rather
than at ones own self.

Why does one feel hatred? Reasons vary. When


someone has done something that you dislike
then you start hating that person or creature.

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For example, once having been bitten by a dog
you develop lifelong hatred for all canines.
After your worst nightmare or dayhorse in
trying to procure a birth certificate, ration
card or some such other public utility
documents in terms of you having been forced to
pay a bribe to the concerned government
official or inordinate delay in issuance of the
same to you, you may start hating each and
every government servant.
You may come to have a nauseating feeling for
your boss after learning that your colleagues
have been given Excellent rating and you a
mere Good in your annual confidential reports
and yearly promotional appraisals by your
superior despite your having put in more
efforts and your having got better results than
your colleagues. Sexual insinuations and
harassment at work place may cause a female to
nurture strong hatred towards males.
Sometimes, some people hate others obviously
for no reason other than a sadistic feeling of
pleasure borne out of such hatred. Such people
shall continue hating you, no matter how much
good and nice you may remain be to them
forever! They are eternally likely to see you
and your work as useless stuff. This type of
hater may resort to perpetual leg-pulling or
even intolerable skirt-pulling of others!

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You may feel hating your own self after having
done something that you would have otherwise
never liked to do. The hatred may even be a
consequence of your own inability to control
the circumstances. Its an altogether different
matter that your hatred may not be justifiable
all the time. Even when its justifiable even
then its really not a good idea to hate.
You may ask: How can hatred towards others or
my own self harm me? Simple: It disturbs your
own well-being. You may feel momentary pleasure
and satisfaction by hating others, but in long
term, it disturbs your calm of mind and
peaceful thinking process. It creates
psychosomatic disorders beyond repair. Symptoms
like Ulcers and disease like Cancer, Asthma,
etc., are its clearly visible harmful
manifestations.
The hatred towards ones own self may even lead
the person to take the extreme step of
committing suicide. Those who hate their own
selves have been noticed spoiling their
precious lives by turning alcoholics and drugaddicts.
The hatred directed at others is factually
directed at your own self only, since you exist
in all others as the divine consciousness or
the all-pervading eternal light. When you hate
others then you actually hate your own self,

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your own eternal pure consciousness. It makes
you ignore goodness in others. That means
ignoring your own goodness!
Then, why not love others and your own self
instead of hating! When you love others then
you actually love your own self, your own
eternal pure consciousness.
True Spiritual Masters always exhort you to
forgive others precisely to ensure your own
well-being only. Of course, when they ask you
to forgive and forget then it means forgetting
the entity called the Hate. But, it also
implies that you dont forget one lesson: Dont
let get repeated the behavioural pattern that
had caused you hatred!
Its not that the whole external world shall
become a heaven once you practice the virtue of
forgiveness. But, certainly your own world made
up of your own being shall metamorphose into a
blissful heavenly entity replete with eternal
serenity, calm, peace and joy!

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2. WHO IS YOUR BEST DOCTOR?

Who is your best doctor?


Try answering this. Chances are that you will start
remembering all the names of all the specialists that you have
gone to for different medical treatments. You may find it hard
to zero in on any particular doctor as the best. You may
protest how a dietician can be compared with a
gynecologist, since their fields of specialization are so poles
apart and so on.
Is it difficult to give an accurate answer to this seemingly
very simple question? Not really!
Then how to decide who your best doctor is. Surprisingly,
you dont have to look anywhere else except your own self.

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Your best doctor is none other than your own sweet keenobserving self!
Long back, I had twitted many tweets on my twitter account
somewhat like this that You are your own best doctor
because youre the best observer of your own bodyYour
body remains with you all the 24 hoursYou just observe
your own body for 7-15 days and you will be able to find out
what is suitable for it
If you keenly observe your own body for 7-15 days, you will
be able to find out which foods are suited best to it and
which are not.
For example, in 1990s, I had been operated upon for some
illness after which I had to be readmitted to another private
nursing home where the owner cum surgeon Doctor
Changede gave me the most surprising medical advice that
no one had apparently given to me. I asked him whether I
should eat certain fruits or not because some well-meaning
friends had told me not to eat them, especially after having
undergone a medical operation.
Dr Changede had simply said, Forget about all these advice
by doctors. You yourself see which fruits get easily digested
by your body system. Keep a watch on your own body. Try
out different fruits and foods for 7-15 days. You yourself shall
be able to find out after 7-15 days as to which fruits and foods
are best for your health
True! A doctor, nurse or other paramedical person is
generally not with you for 24 hours continuously to keep a
watch on you the patient. In addition, the other human being
even if a doctor may very often be unable to know exactly
what is going on inside your body system or which
foods/drinks are best digested by your stomach.
Only you yourself know perfectly well as to what you are
comfortable with and what you are not comfortable with!
I followed his advice sincerely and found a large element of
wisdom therein. For instance, drinking the tea is considered
bad for health. The milk is considered to be the best healthy

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food. I tried both these separately for 7-10 days. Contrary to
the traditional wisdom, I found milk unsuitable for my wellbeing, since it created gastric problems. Whereas, adding a
little bit of ginger, cloves, cardamom and sugar for taste to the
milk; then boiling it thereby turning it into tea and drinking
the same increased my health and physical well-being!
Now, I go almost by my own observation of my own body for
a few days as to what to eat or drink and what not to eat or
drink.
Each individual is unique with unique sets of medical and
other problems in ones own life. The particular remedy
useful to a particular person may not be found useful in the
case of the other individual. For example, eating almonds
may improve the well-being of one specific individual, but
may cause medical problem for the other individual.
We must avoid over-generalizations and over-simplifications
of our specific problems. More importantly, we must avoid
the temptation of throwing up or accepting the overgeneralized and over-simplified solutions to our medical and
other problems.
For example, let us take the definition of normal weight or
obesity. Medical experts define a person under a certain
weight to be underweight and a person above certain weight
as being overweight. Generally, both being underweight or
overweight is considered to be a sign of ill-health. Believe me
or not, your weight is perfectly normal and healthy for your
health if your weight isnt giving you any problems at all
irrespective of whether you are underweight or overweight as
per the prescribed medical norms!
Never be swayed immediately by the expert advice [whether
free of cost or priced] of friends, experts, Masters, Guruus or
the research being quoted in the media almost on the round
the clock basis. Of course, this includes the opinions
expressed by me in this present article, too! Dont believe in
my opinions blindly.
You will certainly do well to do some amount of personal

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exploration to find out the best answers to your own specific
problem, be it medical, spiritual, social, economic, financial,
etc. This is not to deny the usefulness of the expert medical
advice.
The whole point is: There is no best substitute to your own
personal experience. The primacy must be given to the results
of the self-observation that you have concluded by observing
your own body. Only after having accorded primacy to your
own self-observation should you seek and go by the truly
true medical/expert advice of the really true experts.

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3. HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED


WHYSTEADY BIG BANG THEORIES!
Have you ever wondered as to why you are very
much on the Earth's surface instead of zooming
out in the outer space when you take a step out
of your house for a morning walk on the Earth...?
As to why the Earth is rotating from west to east
instead of rotating from east to west? As to why
the Earth is inclined at 66.5 degrees only, to its
plane of inclination and not 90 degrees or just
plain zero degree?
As to why the geographical North Pole isn't in
place of the geographical South Pole of the Earth?
As to why the Earth's Axis is not tilted in the
opposite direction instead of the present one?

(a)

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(b)

(c)

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As to why all the planets and asteroids are
revolving around the Sun in the present direction
(a) instead of the reverse direction (b) or in the
direction perpendicular to the present plane of
revolution (c)?
The material scientist shall tell you that you are still
very much on the Earths surface because of the Earths
gravitational force [centripetal force] and the presence
of the atmospheric pressure [centrifugal force] on the
Earth when you take a morning walk!
The Solar system is as it is because all the planets
revolve around the Sun because of the centripetal force
of the Sun balancing the centrifugal force of all of
these planets!
Yet, you can see that you do have some freedom in
terms of being able to walk around easily on the Earths
surface unlike on the Lunar-surface where your weight
becomes one-sixths of what it is here on the Earth.
Those considered overweight here may certainly like to
draw satisfaction of having low weight by hitching a ride
to the Moon!
The Earth has the freedom to rotate around on its axis.
Why do the Earth and you have this common freedom even if limited?
The answer is that each dynamic material entity in this
material world has an individual consciousness of its own.

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For example, you have the Chette-Shakte or the
individual consciousness that enables you to control and
command your own human body system. When you use
the same Chette-Shakte to raise your spiritual
consciousness then you are able to achieve spiritual
salvation.
The Earth has a consciousness of its own, too. So do all
the planets, stars, Suns, Moons and other dynamic
entities in this material universe.
When this sum-total of all the individual consciousness
leaves or gets withdrawn from these physical entities
then all these become inactive and dead. Inaction is
material death only. Then the universe comes to an end.
The universe collapses into a compact mass.
The universe becomes live and starts expanding when the
consciousness gets infused into this compact mass again.
There are innumerable universes in the endless space.
While one universe is perishing [Big Bang theory says the
universe starts expanding with a big bang and then
contracts again], the other universe may be getting born
somewhere else in this space [Steady State theory
states that the universe is continuing in a steady state
with no big bang kind of expansion and contraction].
Therefore, I would like to suggest the Steady Big Bangs theory
which seems to be the correct explanation for the formation and
decay of material world in this endless space. It combines both the

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Big Bang and the Steady State theories as explained in the last
paragraph above.
Comment by SWAAMEE_APRTEMAANANDAA_JEE on
May 22, 2013 at 11:41am
So, finally, even the modern scientists have now
confirmed the existence of the multi-universes...!

Read:
"SCIENTISTS believe they have found the first evidence
that other universes exist.
The finding, based on data gathered by the European
Space Agencys Planck spacecraft, implies that our
universe could be just one of billions perhaps an infinite
number.

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Such theories have been discussed by cosmologists for
decades but until now they have lacked any evidence.
A few weeks ago, however, scientists published a
spectacular new map of the cosmic microwave
background the radiation left behind after the Big
Bang that created the universe 13.8bn years ago..."
For full article go to:
http://www.thesundaytimes.co.uk/sto/news/uk_news/Scien
ce/article126...
Comment by SWAAMEE_APRTEMAANANDAA_JEE on
June 24, 2013 at 7:08am
"1. Ancient Indian Scriptures like 'DEVI PURAANN'
clearly speak of the EXISTENCE OF CRORES
[BILLIONS] OF BRHMAANDS [UNIVERSES], each with
its own trinity of Brhmaa, Vishnu and Mahesha...!
2. So, the concept of the existence of the MULTI-VERSE
consisting of numerous UNIVERSES may be something
new to the Western physicists, it's not so for Indians.
Indians have known this concept for long... :-)"

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4. THE HIGGS BOSON NOT THE SOUL


PARTICLE/GOD PARTICLE SCIENTIFIC
REASONS

Is the HIGGS BOSON the SOUL PARTICLE/GOD


PARTICLE as has been made out in the media and
the world of the material science?

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The SOUL/GOD PARTICLE, the finest elementary particle from
which the soul/individual consciousness is made of is NONMATTER, motionless and in a perpetual state of rest. That is
why it is claimed in the Indian scriptures that the PUURNNA
BRHAMA or the SOUL/GOD PARTICLE is present everywhere,
above you, below you, in front of you, behind you, left of you,
right of you, inside you, outside you! This FINEST PRIMARY
NON-MATTER ELEMENTARY PARTICLE itself does not take
part in the dynamics of the material world.
This finest SOUL PARTICLE or the GOD PARTICLE watches
everything in the universe and is present in everything; yet it
remains unaffected by all the activities going on in the universe!
This PRIMARY SOUL PARTICLE can be imagined to be part of
a big body called PARAMA PURUUSHA [in the Indian
scriptures] pervading everything in this universe. It is present in
all the non-living things like the moving asteroids, comets,
shooting stars, the non-living things like you and even in your
pet dog; in fact in everything in and around you!
When a part leaves this body or gets detached from it and
comes into the subtle or the gross material world [PRAKRATE]
then this detached part assumes an independent identity as an
individual consciousness/soul, acquires all the properties of the
material world like energy, electro-magnetism, etc., and
becomes active!
To make it look scientifically proper, I would like to call the
above process THE QUANTUM HONEYBEE-COMB-LIKE
CUBICAL STRUCTURAL THEORY OF SPACE/UNIVERSE!
The HIGGS BOSON particle that had been postulated by the
material physicist Peter Higgs in 1964 and now claimed to have
been confirmed by the CERN on July 4, 2012, in an attempt to
explain the binding force that binds the other secondary
material elementary particles together, thereby giving MASS to
matters building blocks in this universe.

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That is to say that the SECONDARY material elementary


particles wouldnt stick together and fly away in all directions if
this PRIMARY material elementary particle were not in
existence!
For example, the EARTH wouldnt be an oblate spheroid body
without this basic binding force. The EARTH would readily
disintegrate into SECONDARY elementary particles which in
turn would fly away everywhere! There would be no SOLAR
SYSTEM with planets revolving around! There would be no
stars, no Moon, no MILKY WAY and other galaxies! Even
you yourself wouldnt be there as a live human being capable of
moving around as a single human entity as all of your limbs and
body parts like hands, legs, skull, etc., would fly away from your
physical human body!
Following are the main perceptible differences between the
HIGGS BOSON and the SOUL/GOD PARTICLE
(1) The HIGGS BOSON or the BOSON HIGGS attempts to
explain the primary elementary particle of the
MATTER/MATERIAL world. The SOUL PARTICLE, GOD
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existence of the primary elementary particle of the NONMATTER/SPIRITUAL world.
(2) The HIGGS BOSON deals with the MATERIAL science.
The SOUL PARTICLE, GOD PARTICLE or the
SATAYAGHANA PARTICLE deals with the spiritual world.
(3) The SOUL, GOD or the SATYAGHANA PARTICLE does
not get affected or perish even after the disintegration/end of
the visible gross matter entities. The HIGGS BOSON or the
binding force vanishes/ends the moment the gross physical
body comes to an end. For example, there is no HIGGS
BOSON in existence once the dead body of a person is burnt.
(4) Even after the SOUL/INDIVIDUAL CONSCIOUSNESS
leaves the gross material body the HIGGS BOSONIAN FORCE
remains in existence for some time. For example, the dead
body of a dog remains there in existence with all body parts
intact as one single entity till such time as the dogs dead body
perishes.
(5) The HIGGS BOSONIAN FORCE does not explain as to why
the universe is going on expanding instead of collapsing back
from all directions into a body of compact mass! Hasnt the
HIGGS BOSON been claimed to be the elementary particle that
binds the other elementary particles in this world? The SOUL,
GOD or SATYAGHANA particle is omnipresent irrespective of
whether the universe is expanding or contracting.
Comment by SWAAMEE_APRTEMAANANDAA_JEE on
May 1, 2013 at 8:43am
"I AM AMUSED TO READ MEDIA REPORTS ABOUT
THE SCIENTISTS AT THE C.E.R.N. REJOICING ON
THEIR OWN FALSE CLAIM OF THEIR HAVING FOUND
THE ULTIMATE/BASIC/GOD PARTICLE, by them giving

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the reason that their HIGGS BOSON PARTICLE DOES
NOT MOVE OR HAS 'THE ZERO-SPIN.'
BUT, LET ME TELL YOU THEIR CLAIM IS TOTALLY
FALSE.
THE MODERN SCIENCE IS STILL TRIILLIONS OF
MILES
WAY FROM FINALLY FINDING THE
ULTIMATE/BASIC/GOD PARTICLE...! THE COMING
GENERATION SHALL LEARN THAT THE CERN
SCIENTISTS TOO WERE WRONG LIKE ALL THEIR
PRECEDING MODERN SCIENTIST WHO HAD
CLAIMED TO FIND THE ULTIMATE FUNDAMENTAL
PATICLE, ONLY TO BE PROVED WRONG BY THE
SUCCEEDING GENERATIONS OF SCIENTISTS WHO
DISCOVERED FAR MORE SMALLER PARTICLE...:-) "

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5. The Self-Mirroring - The Key to Social Networking

Sites...!
Self-mirroring is the key to people taking to the social
networking sites on the web like the Facebook rather
than the self-affirmation.

The concept of the self-affirmation implies the


confirmation and affirmation of the prior absence or
non-existence of something which is created or reaffirmed later on. For example, affirmative social
actions intended to uplift the economic lot of the
economic poor. In the latter case, clearly the poor did
not have any fruits of economic progress, earlier. Later
on, these fruits of economic development are made
available to them in the form of better socio-economic
infra-structure like primary health centres, free

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schooling, subsidised housing, and free ration and so
on.
If we use the notion of self-affirmation, it shall mean
that the self was non-existent and was produced by
being on the social networking sites like the Facebook.
This isnt precisely the case.
The self is already there when the person takes to
social sites like the Twitter, Facebook, Blogger,
YouTube, etc. This self consists of two parts: inner and
outer. The inner self and the outer self. The inner self
always exists in the form of the individual
consciousness that is pure, clean, loving, caring,
sharing, full of divine light and any other virtue that
you may name.
The inner self is powerful and when awakened can help
the person perform amazing wonders like clairvoyance
or the ability to see and hear at great distances, do
instant healing, know the past and the future, control
someone else thoughts and actions through telepathy,
etc.
In short, the inner self or consciousness is fully
empowered in its state of complete rise or awakening
as happens when the Kundalini gets awakened. This
makes the person feel all powerful and gives the sense
of being in full control of ones own self irrespective of
external environment.

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Most people, most of the times are unable to witness
the amazing mastery of the inner self, controlled as
they are by their outer self-connected more directly to
and influenced by the outer world and external
circumstances. The person may like to feel that she/he
is very helpful, but because of real financial constraints
may not be so in the factual real life. The social
networking sites give full chance to the person to claim
being helpful through her/his profile, without having to
bother as to whether someone would cross-check it or
not. In other words, they get full freedom to mirror
their inner self that as we noticed earlier possesses
only virtues and novices at all!
Each one of us likes our external self to be seen as
having all the goodness associated with our inner self
despite many of these being visibly not present in our
external personality. When we are able to do so then
we derive immense satisfaction, pleasure besides
reinforcing our positive faith in our self-worth. The
social networking sites precisely permit this to happen
by letting the member indulge generously in the
process of the Self-Mirroring as explained above. In
fact, the site like the Facebook itself acts as the mirror
that reflects the true inner self of the Facebookmember...!
The self-mirroring helps when done in moderation by
taking you closer to your true inner self. In this sense,
the social networking sites, especially those catering to

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specialized interests areas like spirituality, arts,
science, music, etc. are extremely helpful. If done in
extremes, it carries the danger of the person being
removed away from real factual realities of the external
self in the external realm!

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6. ARE YOU A VICTIM OF THE SELF-HYPE...MEDIA

HYPE...?
Are you a victim of the syndrome called the Self-Hype?

Are you being hyped by your own self or by others? What are
the different forms of the self-hyping? Does it have any
beneficial effects, also? What is it after all?
I would define the Self-Hype as the hyping of or unrealistically
over-stating and over-believing in the abilities or other
qualities of an individual, group or organization. It includes
the individual hyping ones own self. It may also include
hyping of the individual self by some other person other than
ones own self.

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For example, parents are often found to be hyping certain
qualities or skills of their young toddler such as her or his
amazing ability to deal with gizmos like laptops and tablets,
etc., by saying that their young one is a genius or prodigy.
What they dont realize is that the other kids of the same age
are displaying this quality, too!
Sometimes, you find that a particular individual is hyping
ones self as happens in the bio-data submitted by jobaspirants. Most job applicants hype their educational,
vocational or professional knowledge and skills. The seasoned
recruiters are able to see through this hyping, zeroing on only
the correct choices.
You notice hyping of the self in almost all walks of life. Its
not uncommon to see many spiritual or religious leaders busy
in hyping themselves. Politicians seem to be doing the ditto.
The Media is not to be far left behind in this game of hyping.
In fact, media is the leader in this game.
A cursory glance at the stuff churned out by the media is
enough to confirm this ongoing game of the self-hyping. One
day, all good qualities of a celebrity are hyped. A few days
down the line the same celebrity is curiously enough disowned
by the same media. Conversely, it goes on hyping all the socalled bad attributes in an individual for years together and
then suddenly again curiously enough one day it embraces the
same person with wide open arms by hyping all that is good in
that person!
The self-hyping seems to have become the order of the day.
To be frank, we all are doing it in varying degrees. Done

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within reasonable limits, it may act as a morale booster. But,
that too works only for a limited period. Beyond that, it can
prove harmful by making the individual, group or organization
unrealistic in their approach to their own self and the
external world they are interacting with.

Jiah Khan, an upcoming promising Indian actress recently


sadly ended her life by committing suicide. Police believe it
to be a result of her strained love relationship. But, if you
probe a little deeper, it seems that she had probably allowed
her own self to be victimized by the demon called the selfhype.

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She probably unrealistically believed in the hype created by
her own self that her acting talent alone was enough to land
her big roles. She possibly hyped about her ability to keep her
love always faithful to her. Probably, people around her
hyped her acting skills. When she didnt get roles, when she
found that her love was no more loyal to her then her heart
broke. It broke so badly that she found comfort though
wrongly in suicide.
Let us look at the media hype. In 2004, the mainstream Indian
English media newspapers like The Times of India hyped that
the timing was ripe for the BJP to go in for an early election,
by citing factors like a good monsoon, etc.
The BJP hyped its own self by unrealistically believing in its
India Shining campaign. Its leaders ostensibly are said to
have cited their desire to attract foreign investment into India
by launching the India Shining campaign. The fact remains
the BJP was clearly carried away by media hype and held an
early election. It lost.
Same way, the mainstream Indian English media hyped the
Information Technology Environment created by Chandrababu
Naidu in Andhra Pradesh. Overpowered by the media hype, he
seemed to have lost touch with the ground realities and his
TDP lost the state assembly elections.
Captain Amrinder Singh in Punjab, too fell a prey to the media
hype that had overstated the promotion of industrialization
under his command in the state. He allowed himself to be
misled by the media hype and made certain electoral blunders
out of complacency. He lost the elections, also.

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Years ago, Sanjay Dutt starrer Rocky was hyped as 100%
super hit in the showbiz papers and magazines prior to its
release. The movie fell flat on its face proving to be a superflop.
Just do a simple research. Go through the issues of The Times
of India for the last 10-12 years. You will find the paper full of
news items and columns full of venom against Narendra Modi,
castigating him for his role in Post-Godhra carnage. The same
paper did a U-turn in 2013 and started carrying pieces full of
open praise for the same man that it had so vehemently been
talking ill about. Isnt it a curious U-turn? Should the
newspaper be blamed for it? No, its all about hyping the self.
I remember I had sometimes back twitted on twitter
something to the effect that one may dislike Narendra Modi,
but his Gujarat Model of economic development is worth
following. For the exact twit, you may research into my past
twits.
Was my twit taken seriously by any EU members? Or was it a
sheer coincidence? Coincidence or not, but curiously enough,
a few days after this twit, I read about the representatives of
the EU [European Commission] lining up to meet Narendra
Modi in Gujarat.
More curiously enough after the representatives of the EU met
Narendra Modi, The Times of India began a slew of news items
and columns in praise of Narendra Modi that neatly fit into his
scheme of promoting his prime ministerial ambitions. Again,
media has taken to hyping about an individual. The individual
is busy in hyping himself, too!

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Was I hyping Narendra Modi? No. I had merely indicated that
the country should not throw away certain positive traits of a
leader irrespective of party lines simply because of the
unfortunate display of some unwanted negative quality by her
or him. In this case, I felt that Narendra Modi had done a good
job on the industrialisation front and so, I had lauded Gujarat
Model of economic development.
It needs a bit of more elaboration. Despite having been hyped
as a villain by the media, Narendra Modi and his team had
kept cool. He kept his focus on the economic development in
the State. His administration assiduously kept developing
industrial infrastructures and supra-structures like Ahmedabad
Airport, etc.
They successfully turned West Bengals failure to retain Tatas
Nano car plant into a golden opportunity by attracting it to
Gujarat, creating more jobs in the state. Not only this, his
administration was quick enough to invite Maruti Cars to set
up a plant in Gujarat if it found going tough in a labour
problems prone state of Haryana.
But, all this doesnt mean that I deem Gujarat to be the
industrially best developed state. Other states have been
doing well too! So, why hype only Gujarat as the best
economic development model? It isnt if you go by factors like
the allegations of irregularities in the schemes meant for
welfare of the economically poor in Gujarat, etc. Allegations
have come from none other than Narendra Modis own
brother!

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I have long ago mentioned somewhere in the cyber space that
Swami Vivekananda would have been proud of Narendra Modi.
But, this too must not be hyped. All I meant was that
Narendra Modi had successfully been using the state power to
promote Indian culture. Thats it.
We arent living in the medieval India. Yet, let me cite the
case of Raja Todarmal who was a brilliant finance minister.
But, that didnt mean he could replace Akbar and become
Indias emperor. Ability to run one state does not necessarily
translate into the ability to run the entire country that
happens to be so full of diversities. Media has overlooked this
basic fact and so is busy in hyping Narendra Modi.
From where did the team of Narendra Modi get this all-time
big idea of economic development? If I remember correctly, I
had as a concerned citizen floated a group MBAISSP on the
Orkut prior to 2009 general elections on the strength of which
I was then able to reign in Narendra Modi and his team
through my postings on their mother RSS Orkut page and
successfully had stopped him from going ahead with
demolitions of numerous temples in Gujarat.
I am a spiritual, secular and democratic person. I believe in
the freedom of personal choice or Karma. No one has a right
to destroy the symbols of faith of any one.
Then, the BJP seemed to be in a dilemma having lost 2004
general elections despite positioning as champions of
economic development and was in a mood to swing back to
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pressure group of sort forcing all the political parties to
position themselves as a pro-economic development.
This page and my posts then on the Orkut had highlighted the
fact that the average Indian was least interested in anything
religious from the political rulers. What the general citizen
cared for was the economic comfort and solace from the
ruling establishment. No wonder, Narendra Modi and his
shrewd Public Relations Team did a U-turn and made the
economic development their main election agenda..!
Narendra Modi still has miles to go before being able to lead
India as her Prime Minister. Till then, he would do well not to
be misled by the dangerous self-hype. Meanwhile, he ought to
continue refining himself, overcoming his negative traits. The
country deserves to be led by the best leaders irrespective of
which political party they belong to!
LK Advani has hyped, too. While praising economic
development in Madhaya Pradesh and Bihar, he conveniently
or unintentionally forgot to realize that the problematic areas
of these two states have gone in the bags of newly formed
states of Chhatisgarh and Jharkhand. I doubt whether
Madhaya Pradesh and Bihar shall still appear to be
economically developed if theoretically the economic
development figures for Chhattisgarh and Jharkhand were
added to the development kitty of these two so-called
economically developed states!
The National Congress of Sonia is busy playing the game of
self-hype, too! It is busy in hyping about its achievements of
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the inclination to realize the enormous amount of problems
facing the contemporary India as evidenced by a spate of
highest level governmental-political scandals like Coalgate,
2G Spectrum, etc.!
What does it all mean to a person on the path of spirituality?
It means moving away from the perceptual reality of the
external self to the actual reality of the inner illuminating
self!
It simply means that the individual must hype the inner self
and the associated pristine good qualities if at all one feels
like hyping. The true inner self is pure, full of light, bright
and radiating!
The clean inner self becomes perceptually invisible under the
dust of the harmful negative traits like greed, avarice, lust,
anger, hatred, temptation, etc.!
The dust has to be removed through continuous spiritual
living, positive thoughts, holy association in terms of satsangs
and kirtans, Naam-japa, devotion to the supreme
consciousness, community service without any expectations in
return, doing your daily household and other duties with the
Nishkaama Bhaava, regular Aasanas and Praannaayaamas!

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7. Teaching Your Child English Personal

Involvement Necessary?

The Introduction
Are you the parent interested keenly in teaching your
child the English language? Is it essential or desirable
for you to become personally involved with your child
in this regard?

The English language has today become one of the essential


requirements for advancing in the life in terms of an excellent
career and the bright job prospects in the English languagedominated job market all over the world. The careers in the
medicine, the engineering, the management, the technology
and the other monetarily high-paying fields are driven by the
English language, since almost all the texts containing the
prescribed knowledge for these branches are available mainly in
the English language.

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This near-universal importance of the English language forces
the parents to try to get their children the mastery over this
language. For this, the parents put their children into the
English-medium schools, colleges, universities and other
educational institutes.
(2) The Discussion
In the case of the English-speaking countries like the UK and
the USA, the social environment around helps the child
immensely in picking up the English language with great ease.
But, in the non-English speaking rest of the world, the child
struggles generally very hard to have even the workable
knowledge of this language. In these countries, the parents go
to the great extent to get their child the proper training in the
English language. They make enormous financial sacrifices,
forgo personal comforts and use much of their hard-earned
money as the admission and tuition fees to get their child the
best possible English-Medium education.
Having ensured and got their children admitted to the Englishmedium institutions, the parents seem to become complacent
in the hope that these educational institutes shall make their
children the expert practitioners of this language and thereby
get their children the competitive edge over the other
candidates in the job market. This is where the most parents
make the grave judgmental error.
The studying in the English-medium institutions is no firm
guarantee that your child shall certainly become fluent in the
English language. The child may be speaking in this language
and yet may be fumbling badly at it when it comes to the
written and the spoken expression in this language.
It is generally very difficult for the child to get the desired
extent of the personal attention from the English teacher in the
classroom of 15-50 students. So, the children coming from the
English-speaking backgrounds may not suffer much in the
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speaking environment is likely to end up being an inefficient
and poor user of the English language.
(3) The Conclusion
This brings us to the most important aspect of the personal role
of the parents. The parents have to become involved personally
with their child and keep monitoring the child's progress in the
linguistic skills, on the daily basis.
How the parents can become involved personally with the
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8. TEACHING YOUR CHILD ENGLISH - PARENTAL

INVOLVEMENT
In todays interconnected world, English language rules.
Learning it has become a must for every kid. The new-born kid
easily picks it up in an English-speaking environment.

What about the non-English environments? The child brought


up in a non-English environment generally struggles to learn
even the workable format of the English language later in life
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How to ensure that a child placed in non-English environment
learn the English language with ease and fluency? The best
way is to start teaching it to the kid the moment child begins
responding to the external environment immediately after birth.
Initially, the child keeps crying followed later on by uttering
mostly illegible mono syllables. Then, it starts speaking words
like MUM, MOM, BUA which may vary. At this stage, you
continuously read the 26 alphabets of English aloud to the
child, on a daily basis. The childs impressionable mind absorbs
these linguistic inputs from you and develops a basic
programming for further easier learning of the complex
structures of English language like words and sentences.
Keep observing your kid keenly. When the child starts
repeating the alphabets read out by you then you move on to
simple words. These words could be like: Come, Go, Up,
Down, Climb, Eat, In, Out, Sit, etc.
How this word learning exercise works? Well, speak the words
COME and GO along with showing the associated actions to
the child when the child starts walking on feet. In the childs
presence, enact the actions with the help of some family
member. On your saying the word COME, the family member
must come inside the room and on your saying GO, the family
member must move out of the room. Repeat it many times.
After a while face the child and say COME. You will be
amazed to note that the child has come inside the room! This
should be encouraging for you. Then, speak the word GO to
the child. The child shall respond by going out of the room.
Say the word UP followed by your hand touching the top of the
table. Utter DOWN and touch the floor. Keep a glass of water
on the table, saying UP and keep it down on the floor by
saying DOWN. Ask a family member to keep up the glass by
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exercise many times in front of the child. Then, ask the child to
keep the glass up by pointing to the glass and saying UP. The
child shall keep it up! Same you can do as regards the word
DOWN.
When the child has understood several simple single words
then you move on to the combination of two words like CLIMB
UP, CLIMB DOWN. Speak these words or phrases followed
by the associated actions demonstrated by some family
members in front of the child.
Show a glass to the child and say GLASS. Repeat it many
times. The child shall come to associate the word GLASS with
the object identified as a GLASS. This exercise can be done
for all household objects and other external things like flowers,
buds, leaves, etc., also.
If its not possible to take help of someone else, you can do it
all by your own self. Speak CLIMB UP and then climb up the
bed. Speak CLIMB DOWN and then climb down the bed. After
having done it several times, look to the child and say, CLIMB
UP. You will pleasantly be surprised that the child has
responded to your verbal command and climbed up the bed!
Then, give the verbal command, CLIMB DOWN. The child
shall climb down.
The two word-combination exercise can be followed by still
more complicated combinations like small sentences such as
IT IS CAT, THAT IS RAT, etc.
Then, you move on to reading out stories from childrens story
books in English to your child. While doing so, go on making
each concept, associated with the words used in the story, fully
clear to your child. The child must be able to relate the word
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The whole point is that you interact verbally with the child by
demonstrating the action associated with the particular word,
phrase and sentence. You have to gradually move on from
simpler format to the complex one.
The children are quick observers and responders. After some
time, you will find that your child has started even speaking the
same English words, phrases and sentences as spoken by you
with the same accent as yours.
The speed with which the child follows the demonstrator and
learns the English language varies from child to child. Some
children are quicker while a few others are slow. No need to
worry. The child shall ultimately be able to learn it as if ones
own mother-tongue.
The basic English-teaching regime discussed above can be
followed by the use of other teaching tools like letting the child
watch cartoon films on visual media like TV, laptop, etc.
If possible, ensure that your child interacts only with the English
speaking people till the time child is able to speak English as
easily as a duck takes to water. Once the child has begun
speaking English language as mother-tongue, you can expose
the child to non-English speaking members of your family.
The exposure to non-English speaking members shall lead
child to learn non-English words, but it shall not interfere in
childs English language skills. The childs mind shall not forget
the fluent easy use of English language basically programmed
as it has become to learn and speak English.
It may be useful to point out here that the English-teaching
strategy discussed here can be applied in case of any
language. Also, this strategy shall help the child learn English
language much quicker even in an English environment.

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In my last article Teaching Your Child English Personal
Involvement Necessary?, published on the 10th of December,
2010 on the www.trcb.com, I had delved into the question as to
whether parental involvement is necessary in teaching English
to the child and I had promised that How the parents can
become involved personally with the child's linguistic journey
shall be the subject of the next article. I have fulfilled my longpending promise by having written the present article.

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9. HOW CAN MY LIFE BE SIMPLE AND THINKING
HIGH...?
Saints like Swami Sivananda and other philosophers have
often exhorted the true spiritual disciples to follow the
dictum of simple living and high thinking by saying,
Develop simple living and high thinking. You will realise
God in this very birth.

You may very well question, Swami Ji, Its fully understandable
that I have high thinking. But, I cant comprehend as to how I
can lead a simple life style. I live amidst luxuries which have
become necessities for me. I have a big palatial house, latest
car, sophisticated household gadgets like refrigerators and air
conditioners, a coloured T V, a laptop. I cant do without the
internet connectivity.

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I cant remain without enjoying my daily dose of modern food
and beverages. I cant give up on modern life saving medicines.
In the name of simplicity, I will find myself conceiving more
children if I dont use modern birth-control contraceptives!
You may go on adding many more material commodities and
services that may be defined as not being simple.
You may end up in exasperation, Swami Ji, how can then I
give up all my material comforts and lead a simple life? Arent
you asking me to regress to the old cave-age devoid of any
modern amenities? Isnt it sheer non-sense?
Its not your fault. Most of us take the wise words of the great
seers and sages literally without trying to understand their true
spiritual import. The end result is that we throw up our hands in
despair saying, No, no. Its too difficult for me to follow this and
that spiritual teaching of the spiritual master.
Saints use the words simple living to mean not that you give
up modern means of comforts and healthy living. They arent
asking you to move out of your luxurious 2 BHK flat and live in
a hut in some far away rural area. They arent advising you to
throw away your washing machines. You arent being coaxed
to give up your internet connectivity. In short, they arent asking
you to go back on your material progress.
Then, what do the Saints mean by the use of the phrase
Simple Living? Well, what they do essentially mean is that you
remain simple in your thoughts, habits and actions even while
making use of the latest sophisticated luxurious tools of living.
They wish you to be not carried away by your material
opulence.

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Therefore, dont let the fact of your being more fortunate than
others sink deep into your head and swell it with unwanted
pride. The unreasonable sense of pride is a sure recipe for
spiritual disaster. So, always remain grateful to the Almighty for
your having received all this bounty in this birth.
I know of many successful Hollywood actors like Angelina Jolie
and Brad Pitt who have earned tremendous amount of money,
goodwill, name and fame. But, if you closely observe them, you
will find they are ever humble never showing it off. They live like
any other ordinary person.
Or you may take the case of Barack Obama, the current USA
President who carries no airs of being the highest authority and
the politically most powerful person on the Earth today. He
remains as ever humble as before becoming the President.
You can find him enjoying food and beverages at cafes or
restaurants sitting amongst other common American citizens
unlike elsewhere in the world where no ordinary citizen is
permitted to enter the cafe, restaurant or hotel till the time such
a high political dignitary like a Prime Minister or President is
there inside.

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The concept of The High Thinking is more readily
understandable to any average person. It means that you think
positively about your own self and about others. It means that
your thoughts should be good and not bad. It means that your
thoughts always should consist of feelings of love and
compassion for your own self and others around. In brief, it
means that your thoughts always should be such as that would
help in your spiritual evolution.
In nutshell, you will realise the Supreme Consciousness or God
in this birth itself if you develop simple living and high thinking.

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10. WHEN FEELING DOWN THEN BE IN THE

CHARMING ARMS OF NATURE...!


Why does a feeling of peace envelop us when we
are amidst nature? Why does a snow-clad
mountain peak brighten up our soul?

Why does a mere look at buzzing butterflies and


fresh dancing flowers make our hearts glow with
Joy?

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Why does an enchanting waterfall with its sweet


musical notes transport our tired souls to an
altogether different dimension full of heavenly
peace?

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In short, why does any scenery have so much
profound soothing effect on our minds, hearts
and souls?
The plant and animal kingdoms co-exist in
perfect balance with each other in natures
scheme of ecological cycle. Nature is in a
perfect harmony by its very nature. Nature
quickly returns to normalization even after
every upheaval like an avalanche, tornado,
hurricane, earthquake or volcanic disruption,
etc. So, we witness an amazing presence of
unparalleled, unexcelled and unheard of
serenity in the natural surroundings.
We modern maanavas [human beings] live in an
age that is clearly superfast. We hardly have
any time for our own selves. Right from waking
up in refreshing morning to retiring into
tiring night every day, we are preoccupied with
our daily mad rush. This maddening rush takes
many hues and shapes. Almost each one is an
overdrive to accomplish ones chosen
materialistic desires, needs, ambitions and
goals.
The mad scramble creates a conflict between
scarce personal, societal resources and the
individual, leading to disharmony within the
individual itself and also amongst different
components of a given society.

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For example, you may be aspiring to buy a
house. But, you find that your salary is hardly
sufficient enough to allow you to book a flat,
since you cant even make the first down
payment, leave alone paying any EMIs [equal
monthly instalments]. And here is your nagging
spouse who constantly is breathing on your neck
deploring the fact the neighbour has moved into
their own flat, whereas you are still living in
a congested rented two-room flat. Result is
mental disturbance.
Take the case of a company executive who is
under continuous tremendous pressure from the
boss to push the sales higher up if the
executive wishes to see a salary-raise, bonus
and or retention in the company. The executive
may have nightmares trying to push the sales up
in an over-tight market in the face of stubborn competition and economic slow-down! Quite
naturally, such an over-burdened executive
shall come to have feelings of mental tension.
Take another example where both spouses are
software engineers and working in an IT Firm.
Each one is busy with ones own office life.
Working in a 7x24 environment hardly leaves
them any extra time to meet even their simplest
marital obligations like taking care of each
other. This may cause marital tension, discord
and disharmony leading to even short-lived
marriages.

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What is the way out then for people overpowered
by feelings of frustration, helplessness,
anguish and other mental-tension-causing
factors?
There are many ways. One of the best ways is to
take some quality-time out for your own self
from your tight daily routine and move into the
comforting arms of nature, alone or with your
spouse, family members and friends. Hence, go
on a trip to some mountains and hills, a safari
through forests, cruising on the mighty high
seas aboard majestic liners and so on!
Natures relative calm has a definite
positivity about it besides the placebo effect.
This natural positivity gets transmitted to
your being the moment you are in its company.
Also, with the hustle-bustle of modern life
left behind, your mind gets removed far away
from your daily-life tensions. The sum effect
of all this is that you are physically
reinvigorated in the fresh natural air. Your
mind is filled up with renewed positive
thoughts and energy. Needless to say, your soul
too rediscovers itself, wholly pleased.
Even looking at the paintings, pictures and
photos of nature also has a distressing effect
on the mind and heart.
So, the next time when you feel down with
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pain, etc. then do look at any refreshing
serene scenery if you are not in a position to
retire for a while in the charming golden
refreshing arms of Nature....your heart will
have become peaceful...!

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11. UNSOLICITED ADVICE, SUGGESTION AND

COUNSEL WHEN?

When should you give your wise advice, suggestion or counsel to the
others? Should it be given without being asked for it? Or should it be
given only when the other person requests you for it?
Consider following simple examples.
[1] Some of you may recall the time when you tried to help your dear ones to sell
off their shares in the share market at the right time, saying, See, this is the right
time to sell your shares. Prices have gone very high. If you dont sell now, you will
not be able to get profit later, since prices shall dip very soon very soon, remain
so for a long time. Your money will remain blocked and you will lose if you sell then
at lower prices!

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Chances are that you might have received replies to your unsolicited advice, like
this, You know nothing about share market. Dont teach me. Or Why dont you
yourself get into the share-market and do what you want to do? Its a different
issue that a few days later you are proved correct and your dear ones regret
having ignored your timely advice!
[2] To give one more example, you say in good faith though without being asked for
an opinion, to a permanently childless couple in your locality, Why dont you
people make a Will/Deed nominating clearly as to who shall inherit your bank
balance and property after death? Are you not aware of the legal problems to the
nearest relatives in such cases where no Will/Deed exists?
You are likely to become red-faced by hearing angry replies like this, Dont you
have some other worthwhile work to do? Why are you praying for our early
death? Why are you having an eye on our money? Earn your own money. You are
funny. We are not going to die so soon.
Hearing such replies may leave you sad because you never ever had wanted this
couples money. It was simply that you had felt that you ought to give them correct
advice in such matters!
[3] In another case, the parents looking for a well-settled groom for their
marriageable daughter chose a boy as their daughters life-partner. These
parents say to you, See, this boy is having a good job in a bank
You ask them, Have you visited personally and seen where this boy is employed?
First, go and visit his work-place.
You are likely to receive this response, No, but, we are sure of the boys job. We
dont wish to lose this good groom by giving the wrong impression that we are
spying on the boy by visiting the boy in his bank-branch. The boys side has told us
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The intermediary relatives who have suggested this match have assured us that
the boy is well-employed.
Then, you say, The whole story told by you makes me suspect that the boy is not
employed. You have been told a big lie.
But, the girls visibly proud parents tell you, You dont tell us wrong thing.
Its a different story altogether that you are proved right once the girl lands into
the house of the groom after her marriage!
Conclusion
So, don't give your wise advice/suggestion/counsel to anyone if you are not
requested to give your such wise advice/suggestion/counsel because the other
person's unreasonable ego may not like it and in turn the other person may simply
make a fun of your such wise advice/suggestion/counsel and instead you may find
yourself being lectured by the other person who is likely to ask you to look into
your own life rather than giving your wise advice/suggestion/counsel to the other
person...!

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12. THE STONES/GEMS/YANTRAS ARE THESE

REALLY POWERFUL?
The Introduction
The general population is seen having full faith in the things like
the stones, gems and yantras to ward off the evil, to attract the
good, peace, prosperity, happiness and other good things in
life. You find numerous spiritual peddlers like astrologers,
swaamees, experts, spiritual masters and others marketing
their wares through different mass media channels like the TV,
Internet, mobiles and newspapers, etc.

Have you ever given a thought as to - Do these really repel the


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come someone who use these stones, etc., find their lives for
better and obviously get their desires fulfilled?
Very Simple! Psychologically speaking, it is their belief
system that helps them. How does it happen? Well, a persons
belief system may be that By using a certain yantra/stone
only will she/he be able to succeed in life! Now, this person
comes to have positive feelings of self-confidence, initiative,
enthusiasm, etc., after getting that yantra/stone and then starts
working whole-heartedly to achieve her/his goal, finally
succeeding in the given task!
Such a fatalistic person shall be found giving credit for her/his
own success to the yantra/stone used by her/him if you ask
her/him the reason for her/his stupendous success.

THE BELIEF SYSTEMS ARE GENERALLY HARD TO BREAK


The belief systems of a given person are generally really hard
to break if not impossible. For example, a famous astrologer in
Pune had once told me that the stones/gems/yantras are
actually of no real use except boosting the given persons
psychological confidence.
He told me how he himself had to buy a stone worth Indian
Rupees 5,000 sometimes back then for his own son who
wanted to wear it on his own finger for better life and career
prospects! This son of his then worked as a scientist in a
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I was told also that he couldnt persuade his own son against
the basic inefficiency of these stones.
Then, he showed me his own fingers which had no rings/stones
on them, since he had found these of no real value in their own
right!
He explained to me as to how instead of going in for stones,
etc., one could easily find simpler remedies like one could
overcome the bad effect of the planet Mercury by offering any
white colour flower to the deity Mercury on Wednesdays. What
a fabulous simple cost-effective remedy!
HOW DOES A STONE/GEM/YANTRA WORK?
1] The possession of a stone, gem or yantra infuses and
restores the self-confidence in a person, thereby triggering the
chain reaction leading to the desired end-result.
2] Some people energize or get energized the given
stone/gem/yantra by someone else through the chanting of
hymns and prayers (spiritual energy). Such energized
stone/gem/yantra may come to have powerful energy (but not
necessarily always) for a certain period usually lasting 6 to 12
months at the most, after which it need be re-energized!

THE QUESTION
If some human being is required to energize a given
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to get activated to be able to give any help to its user, why the
hell not one energize/get energized ones own human body
itself which remains with oneself always? After all, one carries
ones human body with ones own powerful soul all the time
during ones life-time unlike the stone/gem/yantra which it may
be impossible to carry with ones own self all the time.
Well, the answer seems to be Any fully energized
stone/gem/yantra remains active till its discharge and as such
can help its user even when its user is unaware, i.e., in times of
danger from the evil spirits, etc. Whereas a mantra/yogic
energy or the awakened-Kavacha of a deity saves a person
generally only if the person is chanting the mantra, is
performing the yoga or reading the awakened-Kavacha
regularly when such a danger befalls one!
For example, the great saint Paltu Sahib was burnt alive to
death by his detractors in the night while Paltu Sahib was
asleep. Paltu Sahib was a great practitioner of the divine
current/melody called the shabda-dhuuna. But, the shabdadhuuna did not come to his rescue. Why? It happened because
at that point of the time, Paltu Sahib was not in touch with the
divine current/melody.
If Paltu Sahib had been wearing any energized
stone/gem/yantra in the sleep, such a stone/gem/yantra might
have alerted Paltu Sahib of the impending danger or warded it
off altogether, thereby saving Paltu Sahibs precious life.

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3] Some astrologers/pundits/spiritual peddlers possess the
SEDDHE [supernatural psychic power] called the VAAKA
SEDDHE .The word VAAKA means the faculty of the
speech/spoken word. Whatever word/sentence is uttered by
such a person, that uttered word/sentence comes to be true.
The stone/gem/yantra given by such a psychic-person with the
promise of the desired result happening on the use of such a
stone/gem/yantra actually does not deliver the desired result.
The desired result following on using such a stone/gem/yantra
is actually because of the VAAKA SEDDHE of such a psychicperson!

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13. CONCENTRATION TO
DECONCENTRATION = GITA AND NEWTONS
THIRD LAW OF MOTION!
Do you really think that you can calm your mind
simply by de-concentration? Do you really think
that you can just sit and make your mind
absolutely silent by wanting nothing, hoping
nothing, expecting nothing and doing nothing?

For nearly each spiritual-seeker, the process of


calming the human mind is generally a gradual
process with the sole rare exception in the cases
where a fully spiritually enlightened master
makes the spiritual-seeker sit in ones front and
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spiritual-seeker into the higher realm of the
nothingness!
If you think that you can simply sit down, close
your eyes and move your mind into nothingness
at one go, you are a fool. Why? Simply because
the human mind by its very nature never remains
static. It always is dynamic, throwing up one or
the other thought.
As any spiritual-seeker who practices meditation
shall tell you bluntly, the moment you sit for
meditation with your eyes closed your mind
becomes hyperactive in the sense that you start
recalling even those things or events that you
thought you had almost forgotten. The mind starts
following the Newtons Third law of Motion that states
that every action has an equal and opposite reaction!
The more you try to focus the more distracted you
feel...l.
For example, you may start remembering where
you exactly kept your that costly pen that you
otherwise had thought you had misplaced and
been unable to find for the last one month
despite best of your efforts!
Yet, you have to concentrate or focus your mind
somewhere to silent it slowly. Usually, you do
this by concentrating on the third eye centre
located between both the eyebrows on your
forehead. In addition, you try to focus your
attention there by visualizing something like say
a beautiful flower, etc. Slowly, your mind gets
removed from all the distracting thoughts and
fully focused into the big peaceful realm of
emptiness or nothingness through this process of
visualization.
This is exactly what lord Krshhanna means in the
Geetaa when he says that you have to perform action

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and yet you dont have to perform or be attached to
any action. By concentrating on the third eye centre,
you are performing an action. This again shows the
Newton's Third Law of Motion at work...!
By achieving the desired result in the form of
nothingness, you reach a state of consciousness
where you are performing no action! You reach
the realm where you are no more concentrating
on anything.
Once you achieve this state of nothingness, your
mind becomes fully still and you are in the real
company of your own real-self in those real
moments of the inner silence characterized by
nothingness. Your physical, mental, emotional,
sentimental and spiritual battery is recharged
and you feel refreshed fully ready to handle the
daily challenges of your life most meaningfully
and peacefully.

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14. ARE YOU BEING JEALOUS?

ARE YOU BEING JEALOUS?


When you say or write something without an ill-will towards
someone then you are being totally fair and impartial. When
you say or write something with bad intentions towards
someone even when the other person has caused you no harm
then you are simply being jealous! Dont be jealous!
Your act of jealousy eats into your spiritual vitality. It makes
deep holes into and through your innate basic goodness. It
takes you away from the Supreme Consciousness into the
ocean of blunders.
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your inner and external peace is snatched away from you.
Your mind becomes occupied with the thought of harming
the other person this way or that way. You get busy wasting
your time in pondering over unnecessary issues instead of
using your precious time, energy, money and other resources
for your spiritual well-being.
Your preoccupation with the jealousy creates numerous
psychosomatic disorders which in turn may cause painful
bouts of illness of several kinds to you beyond your personal
endurance. For example, you may develop ulcers of various
types and even the cancer because of the incessant
unhappiness flowing from your act of jealousy.
So, why do you wish to invite mental and physical diseases
by being jealous of others for no obvious reason? More
importantly, why do you wish to slow down your spiritual
progress by embracing the jealousy?

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15. TREAT YOUR CHILD WITH UNCONDITIONAL
LOVE!

Do you beat your child on your child throwing tantrums? If yes, you
probably have little or no control on your own anger...! Learn to say
to your own self - "I love my own self, my child is an extension of
me only, I therefore cannot beat my own self through my own
child....I love my own self immensely....I love my own child
immensely too....I will not beat my child even when my child throws
tantrums....I will handle my tantrum-throwing child politely
through my unconditional love and affection....!

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16. THE EFFECTIVE YOGA-TECHNIQUE FOR THE
FOOD-DIGESTION

The Introduction
Generally, liquid is digested more effectively
when the breath is more from your left nostril.
The solid food is better digested when the breath
is more from your right nostril. But, practically
speaking, you may not get all these ideal Yogabreathing conditions all the time, especially on
your fixed/scheduled meal timings.
So, the following Yoga-Technique is used to
digest effectively the food irrespective of which
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The Well-known Most Effective Yoga
Technique for Digestion of the meals
After having eaten your food/meal, do the
following steps
1. Lay comfortably on your back on a comfortable
plane surface/mat.
2. Inhale and Exhale alternately slowly 8 times
from both the nostrils. This helps the movement
of food down the stomach.
3. Then, turn to the right with your left arm on
your left hip. Close your right nostril with your
right thumb. Inhale and Exhale alternately slowly
16 times from your left nostril. This helps in the
digestion of the liquid part of the food eaten.
4. Then, turn to the left with your right arm on
your right hip. Close your left nostril with your
left thumb. Inhale and Exhale alternately slowly
32 times from your right nostril. This helps in the
digestion of the solid part of the food eaten.
5. Then, get up slowly, go out and pass out your
urine. This helps remove excess heat from your
body.
Now, you can do your other daily activities.
Comment by SWAAMEE_APRTEMAANANDAA_JEE on
December 16, 2011 at 5:50pm
There are two breathing positions
1. The air is inhaled with the chest going up from
abdomen towards the neck and then the air is exhaled

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with the chest going down from the neck towards the
abdomen.
2. The air is inhaled with the tummy bulging out/expanding
out and then the air is exhaled with the tummy shrinking
inwards towards one's back. We may call this position the
TUMMY POSITION.
DURING THE FOOD-DIGESTION YOGA-TECHNIQUE,
YOU HAVE TO USE THE POSITION NUMBER 2
[TUMMY POSITON] described above.
Comment by SWAAMEE_APRTEMAANANDAA_JEE on
December 17, 2011 at 10:12pm
1. First you inhale, then you exhale - this act of inhaling
and exhaling makes ONE TIME. So, it should now be
easy for you to understand what we mean when we say
- slowly inhale and exhale 8 times, 16 times or 32
times...!
2. This YOGA-TECHNIQUE FOR THE FOODDIGESTION has been observed to be HIGHLY effective
remedy in cases where the person has POOR
DIGESTION, LOOSE BOWEL SYSTEM, PASSES OUT
STOOL TOO FREQUENTLY...!
3. ALSO, it helps remove toxicity from the body through
the act of passing out the urine.
4. A person can save a lot of money on the medical bills
by having a sound digestive system through this
technique...WELL, YOU CAN OVERCOME AND
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DISEASES IF YOUR DIGESTIVE SYSTEM IS FULLY
HEALTHY...!
5. EXPAND AND CONTRACT YOUR TUMMY ONLY TO
THE LEVEL THAT YOU ARE PHYSICALLY
COMFORTABLE WITH.
6. It is HIGHLY ADVISABLE TO LEARN AND MASTER
THIS TECHNIQUE UNDER THE ABLE GUIDANCE OF
SOME FULLY COMPETENT TRAINED
TEACHER/INSTRUCTOR/GUIDE OF THE YOGA...!

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17. THE NAVEL DISPLACEMENT SIMPLEST SELF-HALP
WAYS OF SWAAMEE APRTEMAANANDAA TO CURE IT!

Following are the two simplest ways to cure Navel


Displacement
1. Make the patient lay comfortably on back, chin up and both
feet closed together with tows pointing straight up. Observe
closely both the tows. One of the tows shall be lower than the
other if the patient is suffering from the Navel Displacement.
The normal person not suffering from Navel Displacement shall
be found having both tows equal in height. Now, at a distance
of 4-6 fingers from the ankle towards the knee, press the points
4-6 times along the sheen below the bone with your both
hands. Do it to both the legs. Observe both the tows again. You
will now find both the tows having equal height..! The displaced
Navel has come back to its original position. Ask the patient to
turn slowly on one side and get up smoothly. Then, make the
patient eat some light snacks or food.
2. Lit an earthen lamp or the lamp made from the wet flour. The
wick must be placed in the centre of the lamp. Preferably use
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need not use the mustard oil and the wick, just lit a small piece
of Camphor [KAPUUR used in the puujaa]. Make the patient lay
comfortably on back, chin up and both feet closed together with
tows pointing straight up. Now, place the lit-lamp on the navelcentre of the patient. Cover it with a glass made of steel.
Remove the glass after 2 minutes. You will find that the lamp
isnt lit anymore. The patients displaced navel has come to its
original position because of the pull resulting from this process.
Ask the patient to turn slowly on one side and get up smoothly.
Then, make the patient eat some light snacks or food. This
method is very useful when you are alone and suffering from
the Navel Displacement.
HOW TO AVOID THE NAVEL DISPLACEMENT
1. Dont lift any object with a sudden jerk.
2. Dont lift heavy objects on an empty stomach.
3. Walk smoothly. Dont put whole pressure on one foot/leg
while walking.
4. Dont lift the weight beyond the capacity of your physical
body.
5. Dont remain empty-stomach for long durations.
6. Learn the Yoga-Aasanas and Praannaayaamas properly
under the guidance of some competent Yoga-practitioner
before doing any Yoga-Aasana on your own.

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18. TRUE BLISSFUL KARMA YOGA...!
True bliss in blissful thoughts, blissful words, and
blissful actions may be offered to others by your blissful
self blissfully only after you yourself blissfully have
received the blissful bliss. Real blissful bliss comes only
from deep within your own blissful souls blissful eternal
fountains of eternal bliss!

True bliss has no restrictions. True bliss is free flowing. True


bliss knows no bounds. True bliss comes effortlessly, painless,
easily, blissfully.
Varied blissful people have blissfully varied blissful opinions.
View these multiple blissful opinions with complete blissful
detachment. Nobody can demean your blissful self. No mortal
has powers to downgrade your blissful nature.

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Rejoice in bliss being experienced by blissful others. Other
blissful ones are only a blissful natural cumulative extension of
your own blissful self or Ahm! And your own blissful self is
blissful Brahma or blissful Ain al Haque!
No one else blissful can fathom blissful depth of true bliss being
experienced by your own blissful self. No one else blissful can
measure blissful length, blissful breadth of blissful bliss being
showered on you blissfully by blissful nature. Only your blissful
self knows all its blissful dimensions, as it is blissfully your own
blissful self who is in your own blissful state of blissful mind,
blissful soul, blissful heart!
Watch blissfully daily unfolding blissful melodrama of blissful life
without being blissfully sucked into it. Observe blissfully rhythm
of blissful day, blissful night. Marvel blissfully at blissful beauty
of blissful springs, blissful summers, blissful autumns, and
blissful winters.
See blissfully how blissful Moon, blissful Sun, blissful stars,
blissful Milky Way are all blissfully full of blissful bliss. Note
blissfully blissful notes being struck blissfully by blissfully
singing blissful birds. Ponder blissfully over blissful petals
opening out from blissful bud, blossoming blissfully into blissful
enchanting flower!
Enjoy blissfully blissful beauty of blissful serene mountains,
blissful cool clouds, blissful inviting vales, blissful tempting
rolling meadows, blissful humming springs, blissful gyrating
rivers, blissful Moonlight-lit serene sand dunes, blissful
refreshing oasis, blissful silent sea-beaches, blissful deep blue
ocean!

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Look blissfully into blissful eyes of blissful new-born child.
Experience blissful bliss by feeding blissfully, clothing blissfully,
sheltering blissfully destitute, poor, needy!
Gaining bliss is blissfully so easy. Offering bliss to others is
blissfully so simple. Your blissful self already has blissfully a
large blissful kind heart. Just let blissfully your blissful heart do
blissful bidding. Just let blissfully your blissful self-eschew all
your jealousy, anger, hatred, lust, greed, all your negativities for
a blissful while.
And blissfully a new whole blissful world shall open up to you.
You will blissfully see your true blissful self. You will blissfully
shine in your blissful shining positive self. You will blissfully
sparkle in your blissful crystal-clear blissful clean sparkling self.
Nothing less blissful. Nothing more blissful. Just blissfully your
own blissful omnipotent blissful self. Just blissfully your own
omnipresent blissful self. Your blissful self-pervading blissfully
whole blissful creation.
Blissfully no twos. Blissfully Neither Creator. Blissfully nor
Created. Blissfully just one blissful. Absolutely one blissful self.
Blissfully everyone in your blissful self. Blissfully your blissful
self in everyone.
Youll blissfully love everyone. Youll blissfully love your own
blissful self. Yet youll blissfully love blissfully one blissful self.
And, Lo blissfully! Youll have blissfully plunged into
blissful state of blissful trance. Youll have blissfully
moved into blissful steady state of Samadhi even while
blissfully walking around, blissfully talking around...!

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19. GREAT SCIENTIFIC INNOVATIVE IDEAS OF

SWAAMEE APRTEMAANANDAA JEE, WAITING FOR


REALIZATION...!
GREAT SCIENTIFIC INNOVATIVE IDEAS OF SWAAMEE
APRTEMAANANDAA JEE, WAITING FOR REALIZATION...!

Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee has following great scientific ideas


which naturally are a copyrighted material belonging to Swaamee
Aprtemaanandaa Jee only. No one else other than Swaamee
Aprtemaanandaa Jee can claim to have originated these following
ideas!
[1] CAMERA WITHOUT A GLASS EYE/OBJECT PIECE
According to Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee, its possible to
manufacture a camera having no eye piece or object piece made of
glass. The cameras that we use today have inbuilt eye piece or object
piece made of glass that are easily breakable if these cameras fall

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from a height for any reason like slipping from the hands of the
person carrying the camera or shooting a scene with the camera.
This problem of breakable eye piece or object piece made of glass can
easily overcome with the help of infra-red sensors or some such
technique. In this technique, some remote sensors shall pick up
signals from the surface of the object being photographed and
convert them into pictures on the LCD [Liquid Crystal Display] or
Screen of the camera.
The user would be able to click the desired photo of the desired
attributes with the help of the display on the Monitor or Screen of the
camera. Thus, your mobile cell phone shall have no eye-piece or
object-piece made of glass! So, even if your camera falls from a
height, you need not worry about the problem of eye piece or object
piece breaking as these shall not be a features of such remote-sensing
mobile cameras.
HOW SWAAMEE APRTEMAANANDAA JEE GOT THIS IDEA
Two days back, Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee saw a vivid dream in
which Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee saw the functioning of such a
remote-sensing based cell-phone camera!

[2]MONITORS/SCREENS ACTING AS THE CAMERA


HOW SWAAMEE APRTEMAANANDAA JEE GOT THIS IDEA
Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee had a strange experience on the
Twitter some day in the first quarter of the year 2010. One night,
while using the Twitter interface, Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee
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desktops screen were wiped out for a few seconds, leaving a blank
screen.
What followed was more baffling! A strong spot-light or flash of
light emanated from the desktops screen and fell on Swaamee
Aprtemaanandaa Jee. It was same as happens when flash light is used
for greater clarity while taking photos with the help of traditional
cameras! This incident was repeated 4-5 times.
Immediately, Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee wrote to the Twitter
about this strange phenomenon asking it to clarify whether someone
was trying to take snaps of Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee through
some inbuilt remote-Controlled software technology via Twitter.
There was no reply from Twitter as obviously it too might have found
it confusing!
THE BIG IDEA
But, this experience made Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee realize that
there indeed exists a technology based on some Trojan software
programming whereby it is possible to convert Monitors or Screens of
Laptops/Desktops and such other platforms into cameras without the
knowledge of the person using such cyber-interface!
This technology has enormous possibilities.
Positively, it may help spies nab anti-social elements by capturing
their snaps or their environments with the help of Monitors belonging
to such social elements!
Negatively, it may help capture details of you or your surroundings
thereby harming you. For example, you are a young girl clad in halfdressed, relaxed, surfing your laptop in the night & suddenly the

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Monitor turns into a web-camera without your knowledge. Your
private pictures are taken by the Monitor-turned-Web camera and
these nude or semi-nude pictures pass on to some unwanted antisocial people!
This technology shall be more advanced than the present selfietechnique of taking ones own pic. In this new technique, you will
have no control over the hidden software that turns your monitor
into an automatic remote-controlled camera!
So, dont forget to give credit to Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee when
some day in future some scientist succeeds in manufacturing a cellphone camera without an eye piece or object piece made of glass &
instead based on remote sensing principles. Also, dont forget to give
credit to Swaamee Aprtemaanandaa Jee when some day in future
some scientist succeeds in manufacturing remote controlled software
that converts your Monitor into a camera without your knowledge or
control!

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