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Life Balance by Sandia Nesey MTRS,CTRS rng | Satenbere. LISWMSSA c 7 4 e BRDG IDG 1 Crossing the Bridge a 2 Voices of the Past & Present u 3 Gaining Awareness Through Self-Talk 16 4 Understanding Feelings 22 5 Identifying Core Beliefs 32 6 The Process of Reframing 35 7 Limiting Beliefs and Letting Go 39 8 Experiencing the Changing Process 42 9 Exploring Yourself and Relationships 4 10 Self /Work/ Leisure : Balance > 52, 1 An Ending is a New Beginning 58 Glossary 60 Reference Guide 61 Facilitator's Section 62 ‘©1057 Wolress Reproaictone & Puaiaing, ne 600/650-9208 Reproducible Journalizing Worksheets A New Beginning Journal 10 Childhood Messages Journal 15 Self-Talk Journal at Reflecting on Feelings Journal 31 Core Beliefs Journal 34 Reframing Journal 38 Letting Go Journal 4 Changing Process Journal 46 Relationships Journal st Work Jounal 54 Leisure Journal 57 Reproducible Activity Worksheets * Voices of the Past 2 * Thoughts in the Present 1B * Gaining Insight into Self-Talke 20 Exploring Your Critical Self-Talk & Feelings 23 Critical Self-Talk & Feelings 24 Exploring Your Nurturing Self-Talk 25 Nurturing Self-Talk & Feelings 26 Reflecting on Feelings One 28 Reflecting on Feelings Two 29 + TFeel 30 * Core Beliefs 33 * How You See Yourself — Reframing 36 * [Feel Guilty —Reframing 37 Limiting Beliefs and Letting Go 40 Let’s Review How This Changing Process Works 44 Beliefs and Relationships 49 * Whats the Quality of My Relationships 50 Making Choices About Your Work 53 * Creating Leisure in Your Life 56 | * Laminated presentailon poster available (see order form - last page) Whe axl Whe do I pretend to be? What is my purpose? “Joose ae suestins many of us ak ourselves everyday but seldom do we stop to actually answer. These ate the questions that consciously ‘or unconsciously guide our choices in life. We are all searching for who we are and in the meantime pretend to be many things we are ‘not; sometimes we do this in hopes of ‘becoming that which we pretend and at other times we pretend because we know nothing else. Forimany, life is focused on the survival of each day, an exhausting strugee filled with regret and stagnation and the longing for a better tomorrow. Life however, can also be viewed as a ‘moment-by-moment process — a series of beginnings and endings and new beginnings, forever involving an evolving you. This is the “present”— literally a gift. [have found that ‘many do not fully understand this gift, for its ‘true discovery is a personal one that begins {from within. To open this gift requires us to remove personal barriers established from past ‘messages, beliefs and actions. It means peeling away many layers to find the core center of ‘ourselves. A process that requires a leting go of what hes been and an acceptance of what is. Titakes time fo get to know this person — in fact it takes @ lifetime. If you choose to take the path of self-discovery, you must remain open and willing to explore, be patent and be committed to faithfully nurturing yourself along the way. Inthe end, you will develop a truer awareness of your thoughts, felings, actions . the present, ‘The book that lies before you was written to help you begin this provess. It is just a guide, to be used when lost and refered to ‘hea in doubt. Hopefily, it wil elicit experiences, motivate you to grow and ‘encourage you to enhance the quality of Your life, I liken this to a joumey, unique ‘to each traveler, requiring you to draw ‘rom your own geography of experiences ‘ past terrain of paths you've traveled and bridges you have crossed. Rocky, ‘smooth, barten or fertile — this is the terrain of your own life, crisscrossed bby many paths. ‘Some paths are wom and dusty and have been traveled by many, whereas other paths may barely bea tal, trod on only by a few. The travelers who stick to the well-worn paths tend o fear the many unknown obstacles in life. They stant their personal growth by sticking 10 what is safe and secure, and always cling to the known, Travelers who chose the more obscure paths are souls who dace to venture into the midst of life — occasionally, even blazing a completely new tri ‘These paths, like many decisions, are not easy to choose. Often choices involve risk, like crossing a bridge, requiring you to leave your fears and insecurities on one side and with each courageous step, move closer to the unknown and new opportunities on the other side, The joumey is a personal one and you choose the ‘paths that will make this journey worthwhile. Regardless of the paths you choose, you will discoves and learn about yourself moving forward to new possibilities that lie ahead, ‘As you begin this exploration, know I too have stood many times where you stand, at a ‘crossroad on life's path. One choice leading 10 2 bridge, filled with risk and the unknown, and the other to 2 well-worn, dusty, yet familiar path. Ina small farming community in Southern Idaho, [left many footprints on the country dirt roads and my spirit among the patchwork of comm fields. [lived just outside of town, across the canal, in a swall, two-bedroom house with ‘my father, mother, sister and grandmother. And ‘through the years many young people sat at our dinner table or slept in a spare bed, for my parents reached out to anyone who needed a kind word or a good meal One of my earliest memories of a bridge was of a real one, not the analogous bridges I have mentioned so far. The bridge linked our house to the town, where I went to school, Thad to build up my courage everyday to cross this bridge full of eroding planks and footsized holes. In a sense, crossing the bridge each day ‘meant leaving acceptance, security and familiarity behind at home and venturing into ‘an intimidating and foreign terzitory. On the other side row after row of cornfields stood at attention. I felt like these uniform rows of com ‘wore everything I was not. Each row fit in $0 ‘well with the rest, never veering from its ‘expected place, always creating a vast, well-planned pattem. I, on the other hand, was impulsive, easily distracted, headstrong, ‘uncertain of myself, and restless in many of the roles I was expected to play: Afterall, society, ‘your family, your teachers, even your friends have predetermined roles for you. By veering away from these roles, you are labeled by some ‘8a misfit, trouble-maker, underachiever while others hail you as visionary, creative and a leader. As I received these messages and believed them to be true, I responded. schoo| At school I spent more time in the hall than in the classroom. I found it difficult to sit still, especially with my mouth closed, when I ‘was sure my comments were as important as the teachers! Not only were these comments important, but they were emphasized with ‘greater clarity if I was standing or traveling around the classroom. “Distracting, disrespectful, and rude” are some of the terms my teacher used to describe my behavior. I soon learned who my friends were — they too Wore in the hall, or standing next to me on the playground wall Church ‘At church I spent more time on my knees asking for forgiveness than understanding who was asking. It always baffled me that on ‘Sunday all litle girls had to become ladies. Being a lady meant, wearing a dress, sitting ‘ith your legs together, no talking or singing other than assigned times and never spilling ‘your grape juice. Impossible. Obviously, being a lady was of the utmost importance. Often my mother would squeeze iy leg, just above the knee, to remind me to act like @ Iady. T always noted her relief, and ine, when our hour of ladyhood ended. 1 then returned to my juice stained overalls, belted out ‘my own version of Jesus Loves Me, oh yes he does, and jumped on the back of Flame, my litle Bay Mare, to escape all of life’s demands. social Socially I learned how to achieve. I Tesmed to channel my energies into becoming a leader, fighting the odds and standing up for what I believed. I was ‘raised ina family that subsisted on these ‘concepts. If we had a family motto it ‘would go something like this, work and work hard, nothing is free. 1 worked hard Tshowed up early and left late. My belief system ingrained in me you are what ‘you produce. home My favorite part of each day was retuming home. I would nun as fast as T could down, ‘the com rows, sprint over the no longer scary bridge, and into grandma's waiting Jap and open arms. She would listen to my day, and all my hopes, fears, and dreams. When all was said she would ‘bug me tightly and say, “My Sandy, you are @ gift” My family was a foundation of acceptance differences were allowed. For many individuals I work with this isnot the case, Often times homes ae filled with compliance and confofnity, at all costs. Children experience abuse, neglect, inconsistency and fea. Childhood is unique to each individual yet children around the world all suffer from the same societal ils, Homes are invaded by alcoholism, physical and emotional abuse, [es review the Changing Ses you have fustexpeenced: VeNT Fave ¥ STK > LiSTEN & & NGS > 2CKNOWEDC ¥ : cote expr, gentify cor, The changing process is about the moment «“ ‘ Z by-moment experiences in your life, not | Rel » BelicFs 2 necessarily the catastrophic ones. An event ovcurs, it riggers your self-talk and See eet & simultaneously your feelings, Many people 4 a this point will react, Instead STOP, listen mais and acknowledge your self-talk, recognize 0; . Pare apaentar peti CHSCE “Lfee!” statements. ‘By using this information you will be able to identify the cove belief(s) that is triggering your thoughts and feelings. Review the desired outcome you wish and then, ACT by making conscious choices. The changing process guides you down the path and on to your next bridge, Let us review how this changing process works by practicing the following steps. Allow yourself to let go of limiting beliefs and create positive change in your life. 2 steps when working mp le of how thy Practice the flloning es onletting go of aliniting belek. KH ANGING «Ze roC€S9 works 1) Intemally recognize when an event occurs that triggers the belief you are working to change. Write this belief down and describe the event that occurred. © 2) Intemally recognize your self-talk regarding the event. i. Write ‘down your self talk. Selfctaths If was a s00d wother [would be at hs balsame. (tis not OK for me to miss hs activities. 3) Intnl ote your feslings around tis event, Write down your feelings. Flin: ad hr uy, frastrated and steve 4) STOP- Internally tell yourself to stop... time out! Reread what you have written. Acknowledge and accept your thoughts and feelings as a part of you. My belict system continecs to tellme ( should mect all of life's demands ... be a “Soper mom” ) 5) Repeat the following to yourself: “This isa limiting belie that stops me from growing and changing, ‘This belief is no longer helpful in my life and I choose to work toward growth and change” Now is the time to journalize your thoughts. 6) What did I learn ft this rience? ace ° (wish to increase commenication with my son. When there is sonrething he would like mre to tenn ( need te know ahead of tnte. Messing fis same is disappointing, but it does not mean (an not a carins, loving nother. “T) Next time when a similar event ocours, what will Ido siren? “Sonn my nesative, critical dag Made (am a loving, caring mother and discuss Ways With ‘wy s0n to enhance our conmanication so (can attend events that are important to hin and me. ‘C7987 Wathen Fopradiaons& Pabiahing, he BOOTSAS 9208 B rg review how , aoe ‘B Z fe ee £ onletting go of a limiting belief H8NGING FroCE99 works 1) Intemally recognize when an event occurs that triggers the belief you are working to change. Write this belie down and describe the event that occurred, 2) Intemally recognize your self-talk regarding the event. Write down your self-talk 4) STOP- Internally tell yourself to stop... time out! Reread what you have written. Acknowledge and accept your thoughts and feelings as a part of you. 5) Repeat the following to yourself. “This isa limiting belief that stops me from growing and changing ‘This belief is no longer helpful in my life and I choose to work toward growth and change” Now is the time to journalize your thoughts. _8) Wet did 1 learn from this experience? 7) Nex time when a similar event occurs, what will ! do aifeenty? ‘GiB7 Woines Rapradastons EPubiahing, Fe. BOOT EGE SEO ca ’ Refer back to these changing steps and repeat this process each time a limiting belief that you wish to change is triggered. ‘When I was a child my mother worked as 2 nurse in & doctor’s office. She would drop me off at school on her way to work and not retum ‘ome until 6:00 or 7:00 cach night. Even with these long hours she maintained a spotlessly clean home and every evening we had a dinner fit for a king. Each meal included meat, ‘potatoes, gravy, vegetables, bread, butter and milk, In our house there were no TV dinners, ‘no microwaves and no dishwashers. After inner chores were completed, mother would iron into the night, making sure we all went to school wrinkle-fee. ‘The messages I received were a good mother, wife, and woman, works outside the home, ‘prepares large meals, always has a presentable house and immaculate kids. tried living up to these demands and was exhausted around the clock. Time for me was nonexistent. I have had to leam to let go of many messages like these to find out who Iam and what works well for me. My husband says, “If it doesn’t say ‘Swanson we don't eat it” The kids were born wash-n-wear and the house gets a thorough cleaning every spring. People who spend time on personal growth ‘ave often been accused of being selfish, ‘egotistical or self-centered. Most of us have ‘been taught to take care of others before taking care of ourselves, making sure others’ needs are ‘met before we meet our own needs. To do otherwise means to feel guilty and self-serving. But I am a firm believer in, you can not teach, ‘what you do not know yourself. You have to begin giving to yourself before you can give to others, and by doing so you will have so much more to give because you won't be on empty. Author Elie Wiesel, in his book Souls on Fire, says, “But where was Io start? The world is so ‘vast, I shall start with the country I know best, ‘my own. But my country is 50 very large, Thad better start with my town. But my town, too, is large, I had best start with my street. No: my home. No: my family. Never mind, I shall start with myself” ‘The first half of this book has focused on ‘your personal discovery. What you have learned here you will now pass on to others — the relationships in your life, s CHANGING 22 IRoCESS The process of endings and beginnings is ongoing. [t's really a path of stepping stones and of “ourse somewhere on the path is that bridge — probably more than one. Take your own risks by breaking the barriers af old beliefs and stepping out into a new realm where anything is possible in your life. (©1867 Vetoes Reproduction & Pushing, ne, 900/688-9200 . ox? Relalo [one summer of 193, my husband, Bob and cour two Sons, Levi and Joshua, ventared to the Sawtooth Mountains in Idaho for a week of fresh air and outdoor activity ‘One day Levi and Bob decided to take a floating trip down the South Fork of the Boise River. [eft them atthe drop-off point and prepared myself for a quiet aftermoon. Early in the aftemoon, much earlier than Thad anticipated, I viewed two water-logged drifters walking up the road. Apparently Bob’s “extra insulation” ‘grounded him once too often and Levi's patience was stretched to the limit waiting for his dad to free himself from the protruding rocks. You know those well intended family ‘outings that has everyone asking, “Are we having fun yet?” No sooner did I have the two of them safely back to camp, did Levi begin his ‘campaign to have me float down the river with hhim. The following day his persistency paid off ‘and I gave in to pervasive pleas. (But only after [made him promise to remember this when hhe was sixteen and thought his mother was incredibly weird.) ‘The next day we set off for what would be an ‘experience neither of us would ever forget. The great floating expedition began with clear ski ‘warm weather and the smell of pine trees. ‘We spotted deer, rabbits, fishing hawks and an ‘occasional water snake (we could have done ‘without the latter's company). Overhead, ‘wo bald eagles soared above ws. “Eagles are considered messengers and when they appear there is teaching, a message to be learned,” explained to Levi as we floated beneath their snassive outstretched wings. At the age of 11 he ‘was much more interested in a conversation about football or baseball than he was about his ‘Native-American heritage. ‘As we rounded the next bend together, the river tumed angry, leaving all signs of calmness ‘behind ,.. It was like a crisis in life when you least expect it. .. when daily routine is oring yours 1 of ¢ ies suddenly tamed upside down. Several trees hha fallen cross the river and had created a exp gorge. The water was swift and began to spin our tabes like clothes in a washing ‘machine. Levi was thrown from the back of his inner tube and swept into the graveyard of flea trees. In the midst of all the tossing and turing Levi's life jacket was snagged by a branch. He was pinned underwater and I saw him looking up at me. 1 jumped from my tube fighting the water util I could reach the tre. It felt as ‘though I was made of lead weight and could barely move. I began to pull, tag and jerk with every ounce of strength 1 had. The water fought against me and I began to panic fearing I would not be able to free Levi. Then came a strength from a power much greater than I, and ‘with one big pull, I freed him. The water ‘chumed us like dried pieces of driftwood, realized neither of us could last much longer — we were exhausted! I frantically ‘continued to try and throw Levi on top ‘of one of the massive pines that straddled the river. He continued to fight for his life and grab the only thing he trusted at that moment, me. As we bobbed up and down in the water I would yell for him to grab the tree and he would answer with a ruffled “No? At last we were both able to cling to a branch and wedge ourselves into ‘the roots of some floating trees. Levi gasped, “Mamma, what are we going todo? We are going to drown, we are going to die!” His deep brown eyes were gripped with fear, his lips were turning blue, and his entire body was shaking, Being a parent evokes the most incredible sense of protectiveness and strength. I hugged his trembling body and said, “We ae not going to drown buddy, we are going to float down this iver until we finda spot to {get out and hike to the road. We will work together, we are going to make it as a tear” In the swift water we dragged our bodies behind the tube to slow us down, Through the calm water we walked arm in arm until at last we could see the road. Across old rusty barb wire fences, into fields of thistles and kockleburs, we dripped along. Being away from the water calmed us both. ‘We trudged along the road vatil we spotted a Bronco — I know it was ours for my youngest son was hanging out the passenger window ‘waving us down. As we heaved ourselves into the truck, my husband asked, “How was it and where have you been?” Levi answered in his quiet and polite manner, “We had a litle trouble” Ido not know to this day if it was rouble or the eagles message! I had nearly lost one of the ‘most precious relationships in my life, my relationship with my oldest son. Before this trip was out of balance, working long hours, going to school, skimping on relationships. I was not finding time for myself, T was out of shape and ‘eating poorly. The relationships in my life were suffering and I knew I was losing myself. ‘That night a8 we all began to crawl into bed, Levi came into my room and quietly sat down beside me. “Mom” he std, “Thanks for going with me today?” As he began to rise he leaned forward and threw his arms sound my neck and said, “Oh Mom, thanks for being there today! Thanks for being there” Often that’s all anyone really wants — they just ‘want someone to be there, to truly connect and care for and about them. You can not be there if ‘you lack balance in an over-stressed life. look beck at those moments rushing down the river and [can equate the chaotic churning to my own life. It’ like those times in life when you get so caught up in obligations, responsibility ‘and stress. Itis important to remember to regularly pull yourself cut ofthis overwhelming ‘current of life, so you can be there for yourself and others important to you. Hundreds of relationships cover the landscape of your life. Fach one filling a different role and colors the terrain — husband, wife, child, parent, co-worker, neighbor and friend, All of ‘these people know you in different ways and at different depths. With some people you are ‘more open than with others: your partner ‘may know your fears and dreams whereas ‘your neighbor knows your gardeaing habits. Relationships of all types are important elements in your life. Some fulfil a social need whereas others fill a deeper need to be understood and loved. ‘We are social creatures. Think how much you interact in a day and the effort you make to spend time with others. The nature of that interaction is based on how you feel about yourself, Remember your beliefs will affect hhow you view yourself as well as how you relate to others. ‘The relationships in your life are very important to you — they are a big part of who you are. ‘We truly do very little alone in life. Many people have played a part in helping you artive ‘where you are now, for better or for worse. People have the capacity to touch your life, teach you and help you grow. For some, family relationships are key parts of their life, while others rely on friendships. Author, Metle Shain, in the book, Wien Lovers Are Friends, made the analogy that friends are like windows. A person looks out into the ‘world through friends — relationships. Those friendships then reflect back. So who defines us? Who creates our perception of self — those in our relationships or ourselves? Sounds a bit like what comes firs, the chicken or the egg? ‘There’s a fine line, so fine that there is an overlapping. Relationships should provide a support system and help nurture your belief in yourself. So if friends are windows make sure ‘you can see out as well as in this window. ‘That is why it is important to explore your relationships and what they bring into your life. ‘Throughout this exploration there are many ‘ridges to cross and paths to take — wonderful ‘ones and sometimes painful ones. B 7 What you bekeve 1teé fs ia n bout youselF shout yourself as an p? ¢ individual affects your : relationship wth others. RelahONSHiPS == | believe in my family, | am I believe in my friendships, lam... [ believe in my workplace, | am. What you belie about yourself wil guide your thought, feelings and actions in regards to yourself and others. This includes the positive or negative roles relationships play in your life. Arre the individuals in your relationships nurturing, promoting and caring or negative, critical and devaluing? (61967 Wolness Reproductions & Pushing ne, 600/669-9208 0 is the quality COLUMN, Line the en most att DS. See iw fey ioc ee x * Ke | al oO NS ry , R 2 SOUL Tenet ° relationship most often J J Nurturing and positive (N) or ‘Citica and devaluing (O). COLUMN): Place an Mor nding on whetherin this relationship you nost often weara Mask (M), pretending to be some- ‘one you are not or allow your Real R) self to come forward, COLUMN + Note appro. rately how nay haus perweck gov spend wth each person, MR HOURS PER WEEK PERSONAL REFLECTION Are you spending quality time with people who are nurturing, positive and caring? Do significant relationships reinforce you, and allow the real you to be present? Or are you spending more time with individuals who are critical and devaluing, people who ask you to wear a mask and who they want you to be, instead of your real self? ©1807 WelneseResrodurtens &Pblating, he. 800060-208 = Consider the changes you wish tomakein your current relationships Bring your truc self forward into relationships and encourage others to do the same. (©1097 Weness Reproductions & Pubtshing, Ie. 800/689-9208 Bt Jest bate imo your diye wi kop ‘you in touch with yourself. Achieving personal ‘balance happens when you feel capable and ‘worthwhile in many areas of your life. This encompasses all kinds of individual roles including pareat, spouse, child, employee, citizen — a balancing actin itself Balance -keeps your perspective in check. “Attaining balance may require effort and risk, For example, if you have never allowed time for self-discovery, then you may fear what you will find or what you will need. Yet, if you persevere in getting to know yourself, and begin to nourish yourself, you will create a more fuliled individual — you, Some people -may have to let go of cectain responsibilities in their lives in order to establish time for ‘themselves. This may come with guilt or may be perceived as selfish, but when you've found ‘what you personally need you'll find there is ‘more for othets, without leaving yourself ‘empty, Balance relies on an ever awareness of self, an enjoyment of work, and a healthy leisure lifestyle. Self For each of us, life is about our-SELR. Teas a personal experience. Everything that happens is ‘in some way related to how it affects you, the individual. Whether an event happens directly to you or thousands of miles away, itis filtered ‘through your intecnal system of belief, thoughts and feelings. So, when thinking about the SELF in relationship o life balance, realize you are the pivotal point. There is no life without YOU. ‘Balance is necessary so you can enjoy a quality life. Remember, quality is defined by you and ‘thus you also define what is necessary in order to create life balance, The more self-awareness ‘you develop, the more you can identify what is important to you, and define what life ‘means to you, ‘The purpose of this book has been to inerease ‘your self-awareness ... 10 allow you ‘opportunities to become intimately acquainted ‘with your-SELR, However, this is just a beginning. Throughout life, there are many ‘opportunities to continue to grow, bat ‘without maintaining a sense of internal balance growth can stagnate. Creating a time to nurture yourself, solitaire time to be your own best friend, is vory important. It can be a time to reflect or a time to express yourself. The choices are as unique as your desires, ‘passions and interests; meditation, walking, sewing, writing, running, painting, or a long hot bubble bath. Self- care, respect, patience and understanding are key for life balance. Make time on a daily basis, to enjoy who you are. Work ‘Work is often viewed as the culprit creating the lack of balance in our lives. ‘The fact is work, that time desigmated for an individual to create, to produce, to feel competent and capable is of equal ‘importance in lifes balancing act. Being productive, accomplishing goals and ‘interacting wit others all increase feelings ‘of self-worth. Many people gain their sel ‘deotity primarily through their work. However, if you work in an environment with litle support, filled with intimidation, jcism and contradicting messages you will ‘be inhibited. You will lack creativity and fail to tuly produce, Research estimates that 81- 87 percent of the American Work Force are working in jobs that are notin their best interest. This incongruence creates an imbalance and added stress. m a kin g ‘Asgoctoakst your work... answer these questions. CHOICES” “bout your work ‘C1087 Wolnes: Repoduatans & Pasa, ie BDOTSES SIDE =. Does your work allow you to create and enhance you? (©1997 WanessReproduotons& Pobiaing, ns BOGI668-SEDS Leteure “As leisure dectines, people become under pressure of time...tress increases and human relationships suffer. The family, school, ‘community and volunteer efforts lose out and time moves back to money,” writes Joliet Schoor in her book, The Overworked American, The Decline of Leisure. Your relationships become associated with money. Asking ‘ourselves what can Tbuy to make up for not being there. “Honey, I'm sorry I haven't been listening —T have been preoccupied with ‘other things. Here's some money for the ‘movies or a new CD” Sound familiar? Your relationship with yourself can take the same tum... trying to make up for the Iack of self-nortaring with an immediate solution. You splurge on a new dress, a new stereo, a pint of peanut butter and chocolate ice cream, Society engages in a work-and-spend cycle. National surveys say the number one leisure activity in America is shopping, followed closely by watching television. People may start slowly on the treadmill of work, but soon are running full speed to churn out more ‘money. The irony is they are spending more time making money and less and Jess time enjoying the fruits oftheir labor. We live in & society focused on material acquisition, We invest in the inanimate when investing our ‘energies into the animate — others, ourselves, nature — would offer greater rewards. Leisure should be as much a priority as work. ‘Why? Because it is a state that puts you in connection with yourself and in tur is reinvigorating and satisfying and may be spiritually uplifting. To achieve this, you need to participate in recreation, whether itis ‘walking, reading, cooking or hiking. This time reminds you of the importance of balance and ‘provides an outlet for negative energies. If calling it leisure time doesn’t sit well with your conscience, try calling it re-create time. It is an outlet that will cleanse the mind of stress and tension and help you feel and see clearer. A state of leisure is created when you participate in activities that encourage the following: time with self, time with others, a variety of experiences, daily participation in recreation activity and/or experiences that promote, reinforce and nurture yourself and relationships = : @ z A n if Your t 7 specific recreation ‘Name of person(s) ‘The last time activities I most who I most often I participated in enjoy are... articipate with, this activity was... ‘including self)’. When you are emotionally and physically healthy and relaxed, you are more Heely to make tine for tears purauts, which add to the quality and enjoyment of fe. This experience promotes my Emotional, physical, intellectuah social, spiritual needs . . “0 (Gia97 Waliness Reproancione& Pubisting, Ine. @00/650.0008 Adapted trom Project [BIL \ Bolove im NO™ |S1857 Woinons Reproductions & Publaling he) OO/SEE-REOE ae aw ending is q n Cn [ise is an eer evolving experience, ‘You can not truly be part ofthat ‘experience if you do not know “you.” ‘The understanding of self begins inthe reflections of your childhood. As a child ‘you receive countless messages of who you are and who you will become. As an adult ‘you come to recognize that those messages ‘may not traly represent your real sl. But, the messages sil le deep within, reinforcing your innermost thoughts and feelings, limiting the quality of your life. In order to make positive changes in your life you must identify your limiting core beliefs. These are the beliefs that you know to be true, that stop you from risking in order to grow and change, With awareness of these beliefs you can lear to let go of ‘that which no longer fits and create anevi, ‘This is an ever-changing process that requires your continuous involvement. But, you are not slone in the process. Your relationships are vital, They are affected by, and contribute to your growth. If those relationships are promoting, nurturing, and reinforcing they will broaden and not narrow ‘your life. ‘The balance in a person's life is the key, however, to increased quality. An integration of your internal and the external. .. the self, the selfs creation which is work and the sels rejuvenation which is leisure. But remember, itis all about personal growth which is only possible when you choose to take new ppaths and cross your bridges. We have all stood on the path of life, staring at @ bridge asking, “Who am 1? Who do T pretend to be? What is life” IBSG'NNING What is Li e? Life is many things... Tes about me and mornin, night : challenges opportunities id a bridge to cross. Tes about me and carin Frustration beginnings endings here i And new beginnings. les about me and . children marriage fad Friends And relationships. It’s about me and football games swimming reading writin And awalk in the mountains. It’s about me and jeb ‘commitments committees board meetings And purpose. Je’s about me and being a woman stron; <, sensitive And vulnerable. —) The most memorable day for me was tie — - a