WELCOME

TO OUR CMI

JOURNEY

OF

SELF Discovery
through landscapes of

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT &

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

SO, WHERE ARE WE TRAVELLING TO ???

PREPARING US
FOR OUR WORK
IN THE SOUTHERN AFRICA REGION
WORKING WITH CHILDREN
IN YOUR REGION
YOUR COUNTRY YOUR TOWN

FOR EVERY JOURNEY, A TRAVELLER NEEDS A

MAP

and this JOURNEY is no exception

LETS LOOK AT OUR PLANNED STOPS ON THIS

JOURNEY OF SELF DISCOVERY &
INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
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GATHER AT CMI CLASS/ RECEIVE YOUR MAP & TICKET

( YOUR PERMIT TO TRAVEL)

TAKE A FRESH LOOK AT THE PEOPLE TRAVELLING WITH

YOU ON LIFES HIGH WAY (ROLE MODELS)

WHERE AM I GOING ( RE-VISIT YOUR HOPES & DREAMS)

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MAKE SURE YOUR VEHICLE IS BALANCED

(THE AREAS OF A BALANCED LIFE)

FIND YOUR GUIDING STARS YOUR VALUES

(WHERE DO THEY COME FROM , WHAT DO THEY INFLUENCE)

FIND YOUR TRAVEL PURPOSE (MISSION STATEMENT)

TEAM UP WITH & ENJOY THE COMPANY OF YOUR FELLOW PASSENGERS ON

THIS TRIP (TEAMWORK)

THE JOURNEY CONTINUES/NEXT WEEK

P
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USE YOUR TIME WISELY ON THIS TRIP (Time management & tools)

DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE AS CEF TRAVELLER REACHING CHILDREN ( your
GOALS especially for first three months)

PLAN AHEAD

MEET TRAVELLERS FROM OTHER COUNTRIES & CULTURES

SHOW THE WORLD WHAT YOU ACHIEVED ON THIS JOURNEY AS CEF TRAVELLER & WHY YOU
CAN NOW ALSO BE A CEF TOUR GUIDE (My portfolio of evidence as qualified CEF worker)

LAST STOP : WELL DONE - YOU REACHED THE FINISH LINE

CELEBRATE AT CMI BANQUET

DOES IT SOUND LIKE AN EXCITING JOURNEY!?

I SURE HOPE SO
Do you want to travel with?
Tickets Please ???
NO TICKET !!!
DONT WORRY!!

A TICKET
Has been issued in your
Name:_______________________________________
_
Also Isaiah 60

The DESTINATION is:

SELF KNOWLEDGE &
Fulfillment in the LORD

ISAIAH 60 QUALIFIES YOU FOR THIS VERY

EXCITING JOURNEY LETS READ!
(WAKE UP AND SHINE!! GET READY FOR YOUR JOURNEY!!!) because
1.Arise, shine
For your light has come,
and the glory of the LORD rises upon you.
2 See, darkness covers the earth
and thick darkness is over the peoples,
but the LORD rises upon you
and his glory appears over you.
3 Nations will come to your light,
and kings to the brightness of your dawn
Isaiah 60: 1

ARE YOUR READY ???

Well here are your tickets!!!

SO fasten your seatbelts and lets go!!!

Pause !!!

TODAY COULD BE A NEW BEGINNING FOR YOU..

MY PRAYER IS THAT GOD WILL CLEARLY SHOW YOU
HOW WONDERFUL HE MADE YOU
ALL THE TALENTS & GIFTS

HE GAVE YOU
AND HOW HE WANTS TO BLESS YOU IN ABUNDANCE
AND HOW YOU
CAN GO AND CHANGE THE WORLD

CLIP: TODAY IS A NEW BEGINNING

THEY SAY THAT

APART FROM BEING BORN AGAIN
THERE ARE

VERY IMPORTANT DAYS

IN EACH PERSONS LIFE. I HOPE THAT THESE SESSIONS

WILL REMIND US AGAIN OF THOSE DAYS!!!

THEY ARE

Thank you for this opportunity to facilitate a few sessions

on INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
Most of you got to know me already but I thought it a
good idea o tell you just a little bit more about myself
and show you some
of the important people in my life
THE PEOPLE I have a close INTERPERSONAL relationship
with

THIS IS MY SON, JEANDRE

I started my ministry with CEF on a Monday - 5 March 1995 and he was born on that
Friday the 9th of March 1995. So its always easy for me to remember how many
years I am involved with CEF

To me Jeandre, is one of my biggest blessings among my INTERPERSONAL

relationships. I am more of a Social scientist where he takes a lot after his mother
being more of a Physical scientist. We have endless and wonderful conversations
about life
INTERPERSONAL LESSON LEARNED FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP:

WE ARE NOT ALL THE SAME, THAT IS PART OF THE BEAUTY OF

LIFE, lets respect that

AND THIS IS MY DAUGHTER

Her name is Minette

She is named after her two grandmother s
Mildred and Nettie
Being my daughter, she knows exactly how to wrap me around her little finger ;)
She is 12 and one of her favourite quotes to her brother is:

the reason why a girl must get more pocket money is quite easy, its simply because girls know
how to spend more!!!
INTERPERSONAL LESSONS LEARNED FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP:

Look out for people who wrap you around their little finger- unless
they are your daughter

AND THIS IS A FAMILY PIC WITH MY WIFE

We are already married for 19 years +

Like all married people we sometimes have our UPS and downs
But Antoinette is the person
I have the most respect for in life
she is a wonderful mother to our children
And a blessing to my life.

INTERPERSONAL LESSONS LEARNED FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP:

Love and respect goes hand in hand

AND THIS IS MY DAD!!

We, my three sisters and me, are so privileged to have had a

because he so completely believed in

DAD like him

our abilities.

One day in std six.

He told me, you dont have to win, justROLE
show up and do your best!!

MODEL
Thank you Dad, your believe in us still motivates me every day
INTERPERSONAL LESSONS LEARNED FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP:

Be thankful for the people who believe in you find them and cherish them

AND THIS IS MY MUM

She passed away in 2008 but she was truly a woman of God
Her motto in life was:
God prepares every step for us and His will is perfect for us.
It was the way she lived and the way she died.
Indeed God undertook for her in everything her life and unwavering trust in God
truly is one of my biggest inspirations.
ROLE

MODEL
She always reminded me:
My child I often pray for my you and your familyand always remember that I will
be gone one day but the power of these prayers will remain as God remind us in
his word.
And indeed I feel the strengths of those prayers still many a day in my life
INTERPERSONAL LESSONS LEARNED FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP:
Surround yourself with Godly people who can be a true inspiration to you
& Gods will is perfect for us simply TRUST IN HIM

AND THIS IS SOME OF MY CEF COLLEAGUES

CEF: 18 YEARS OF JOY & GROWTH

IN THESE 18 YEARS, I SERVED AS

DIRECTOR: LITERATURE

ASSISTANT NATIONAL DIRECTOR CEF RSA

ACTING NATIONAL DIRECTOR CEF RSA

DIRECTOR: FINANCE & HR : CEF RSA

MEMBER CARE DIRECTOR CEF SAIOR

DIRECTOR FINANCE & HR SUPPORT CEF SAIOR

Yes, It is my privilege to serve with CEF since 1995 but I did my CMI in 1992
I was touched and blessed by many CEF colleagues during the years each co worker
played a part in my life
I am so glad for all these wonderful

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
INTERPERSONAL LESSONS LEARNED FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP:
Sometimes the people you work with can become almost more close than your family
be thankful for your CEF family, treat each other with DIGNITY, LOVE &
RESPECT.

AND THIS IS JUST A FEW OF MY OTHER

COLLEAGUES

AND THESE GUYS: (SEE IF U CAN SPOT ME)

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YES APART FROM CEF, I ALSO WORK WITH:

THE UNIVERSITY OF STELLENBOSCH (LECTURING , PROGRAMME DEVELOPMENT)

VARIOUS TRAINING INSTITUTES
HOPE FOUNDATION
HOPE IN A CUP/ HOPE TEAM
EJFI & Associates
TEAM OF HOPE
SERVING ON THE BOARD OF THE UNITED LIVING CHURCH
SERVING AS ASSESSOR & MODERATOR FOR SAQA
AND AS COMMITTEE MEMBER FOR AN INTERNATIONAL ACCREDITATION BOARD IN
BELGIUM
SERVING AS ADJUNCT FACULTY PROFESSOR WITH HOHENHEIM AND WILLIAM CAREY
ISAE
WORKING WITH EMPOWER PLASTICS AND CAPITAL TRADE AFRICA
CO FOUNDER OF WORLD TRAINING INTERNATIONAL ETC.

SOME OF THESE PROJECTS IN PICTURES

SO WHAT IS THE GOLDEN THREAD ?

THE CONNECTION BETWEEN ALL MY PROJECTS IS THE FACT THAT I KNOW WHAT MY
VISION AND CALLING IS

MY CALLING IS:
TO HELP PEOPLE REACH THEIR FULL POTENTIAL
AND I HELP TO DOAND
THISMANY
THROUGH TRAINING

ROLE MODELS
TO INSPIRE ME

AND RENDERING SUPPORT SERVICES

AND EACH ONE OF THESE PROJECTS HELP ME TO FULFIL MY CALLING
SO EACH PROJECT BRINGS A WEALTH OF PEOPLE

PEOPLE TO CONNECT WITH

PEOPLE TO LEARN FROM
PEOPLE TO HAVE INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS WITH

IN A SIMILAR WAY
YOU TOO

HAVE VERY IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIVES THAT INFLUENCE YOU.

WHO ARE THEY ???

LETS DO
PEOPLE WHO INFLUENCED MY
LIFE worksheet
WORKSHEET

PEOPLE WHO INFLUENCED YOUR LIFE

SHARE
THREE TO SHARE ON ONE SPECIAL PERSON
WHO INFLUENCED THEIR LIFE

ROLE MODELS
True role models are those who possess the qualities
that we would like to have and those who have
affected us in a way that makes us want to be better
people. To advocate for ourselves and our goals and
take leadership on the issues that we believe in. We
often don't recognize our true role models until we
have noticed our own personal growth and progress .
.DONT MISS OPPORTUNITIES TO LEARN FROM
SOMEONE

ROLE MODELS
LOOK AT YOUR ASSIGNMENT AGAIN:

TWO

MAKE SURE YOU HAVE IDENTIFIED AT LEAST

ROLE MODELS
&
IDENTIFIED WHAT YOU can LEARN FROM THEM
DONT MISS OPPORTUNITIES TO LEARN FROM PEOPLE
AROUND YOU

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS ALL

FALL INTO ONE OF THE FOLLOWING
CATEGORIES:

WHEN WE TALK ABOUT ALL THESE INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS THEY ALL FALL
INTO ONE OF THE FOLLOWING CATEGORIES

A. Acquaintancespeople you meet or see. You

may or may not know their name or very much
about them

WHEN WE TALK ABOUT ALL THESE INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS THEY ALL FALL
INTO ONE OF THE FOLLOWING CATEGORIES

B.
Friendspeople that you care about and
you share a common interest with. You know
their name and a bit about them

WHEN WE TALK ABOUT ALL THESE INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS THEY ALL FALL
INTO ONE OF THE FOLLOWING CATEGORIES

C. Close Friendspeople you really care

about. You know lots about them and they
know about you

WHEN WE TALK ABOUT ALL THESE INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS THEY ALL FALL
INTO ONE OF THE FOLLOWING CATEGORIES

D. Intimate Relationshipsthe closest people

to you. You are committed to them. You can
speak about anything with them and they with
you

WHY ARE INTERPERSONAL

RELATIONSHIPS IMPORTANT?
A. God made us to have
relationships with others
B.

We need others

C.

Others need us

DONT BE UNSETTLED

THATS WHY GOD MADE YOU

IN A VERY UNIQUE WAY
AND GAVE U SPECIAL GIFTS
GIFTS, THE WORLD CANT DO WITHOUT

HOW CAN YOU UNDERSTAND YOURSELF (AND OTHERS)?

A. Discover (and value) your strengths

B. Realise (and work on) your weaknesses

C. Discover your personality style (MORE ABOUT THAT A BIT LATER)

WHY DO YOU NEED TO GET ALONG WITH OTHERS?

(Philippians 2:3-4)
(Philippians 2:19-21)
(Philippians 2:5-11)

WHY DO YOU NEED TO GET ALONG WITH OTHERS?

A. God has called you to think about the needs and interests of others, not just of
yourself (Philippians 2:3-4)
1. Its not easy to think of others (Philippians 2:19-21)
2. It is possible to think of othersfollow Jesus example and ask God to help you
(Philippians 2:5-11)
B. God has placed you together with all the Christians in the Body of Christ
C. God has commanded you to reach out to the unsaved

HOW CAN YOU GET ALONG WITH OTHERS?

A. Know your own personality and how you normally
relate to others
B. Be willing to be flexible (adapt) to meet the needs of
others

1. Identify a persons personality by observing how they

respond and react in different circumstances

WE ARE NOT ALL THE SAME

BECAUSE
FOR INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
TO WORK WELL
THE FOLLOWING ARE NECESSARY
YOU MUST KNOW YOURSELF
YOU MUST KNOW YOUR VISION IN LIFE
MY VISION again:

TO HELP PEOPLE DISCOVER

AND REACH THEIR FULL POTENTIAL

WHAT IS YOUR VISION / CALLING ??

Because ONCE YOU KNOW

YOURSELF & YOUR CALLING (or VISION)

MANY THINGS START TO MAKE SENSE
AND FALL IN PLACE..

IT BECOMES MUCH EASIER TO UNDERSTAND

GODS WILL FOR YOUR LIFE
AND TO LET GO OF FEARS AND WORRIES
ONE LEARNS TO APPRECIATE YOUR OWN ABILITIES MUCH MORE

AND ALSO LEARN TO EMBRACE SOME OF OUR WEAKNESSES AND TURN THEM INTO
CHALLENGES

I BELIEVE THAT GOD

HAS A FULL LIFE
WITH RICH BLESSINGS
IN STORE FOR YOU

BECAUSE IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO

JUST BE
BECAUSE GOD MADE YOU

VIDEO

WHO AM I WORKSHEET

I AM WORKSHEET

WE CAN ALSO LEARN A LOT FROM OUR

HOPES AND DREAMS

HERE ARE INSPIRATIONAL IDEAS ABOUT HOPES &
DREAMS

WHAT CAN WE LEARN FROM THE FOLLOWING SLIDES

(WRITE DOWN)

HOPES AND DREAMS WORKSHEET

WHAT DID YOU LEARN FROM YOUR WORKSHEET

??????
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DID YOU GET SOME IDEA OF THE DREAMS & HOPES IN YOUR LIFE ?

DID YOU FORGET ABOUT SOME OF THESE DREAMS ?

ARE ALL OF THEM ON TRACK ?
DO YOU HAVE A SPECIFIC PLAN OF ACTION TO MAKE THEM COME
TRUE ?
DO YOU THINK YOU THOUGHT ABOUT ALL LIFE AREAS E.G. FAMILY /
CAREER/ PERSONAL ?
WHAT ELSE DID YOU LEARN ?

A BOUQUET OF NICE SMELLING FLOWERS

LETS READ:
2 Corinthians 2:14-16
New International Version (NIV)
14 But thanks be to God, who always leads us as captives in
Christs triumphal procession and uses us to spread the aroma of
the knowledge of him everywhere. 15 For we are to God the
pleasing aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and
those who are perishing. 16 To the one we are an aroma that
brings death; to the other, an aroma that brings life.