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matters are unavoidable between married couple and also able to influence their
relationship satisfaction. When individuals think that their spouse does not handle
money well, they show lower levels of marital happiness (Britt et al., 2008).
Next, Cohabitation will be a preliminary step before marriage and it can give
the full picture about the marriage life. It gives the relationship a trial run before
marriage with less pressure. In this respect, living together is seen as a less
committed version of marriage, where couples who feel they are not yet ready for
marriage can cohabitate as a test to see if their relationship can withstand the
intense intimacy and sharing that cohabitation brings (Glezer 1991; cited in
Maldonado, 37). In other words, premarital cohabitation is a real life learning
experience of loving and adjusting on equal terms with lover. It is just one of many
possible tests for a potential partner. Furthermore, a couple with the intention of
getting married will take a lot of financial burden off and this is helpful for them to
raise money for wedding. They will split the cost of living such as rent, utility bills, or
maintenance fee, food expenses or some expenditures that cohabitating might bring.
In this way, they can save more money than they spend when they live separately
and make good use of the saved money for wedding preparation.
However, in terms of divorce, it is a controversial topic related to cohabitation.
It is often argued that living together before marriage offers couples higher possibility
of divorce later on. A study shows that couples who live together before getting
engaged and/or married are more likely to get divorces than those who dont move in
together until engagement or marriage (Rhoades, Stanley, and Markman 2009; cited
in Baklinski 2009). On the other hand, refuting previous researches that overstate
the risk of divorce for cohabitating, a study illustrates instead that what leads to
divorce is when people move in with someone before having the maturity and
experience to choose compatible partners and to conduct themselves in ways that
can sustain a long-term relationship. Early entry into marriage or cohabitation,
especially prior to age 23, is the critical risk factor for divorce (Kuperberg 2014).
Thus, what really affects the chance of getting divorce is not the fact that they do
cohabitate before marriage but the age of beginning relationship.
To sum up, when couples live together before getting married, they get to
know more about their partners who they will commit to marriage. For example, they
might notice some unknown habits including living or spending pattern, which are
hard to find. Moreover they will try to respect each others habits. Secondly,
premarital cohabitation is a practical attempt showing how marriage will really be
like. Without too much pressure on marriage, couples learn how to handle the
matters that probably happen in real life after getting married. Additionally, it
financially takes a major stress off both partners by dividing the costs of maintaining
a home. Lerner states, A relationship is like a dance: to stay close without stepping
on each other's toes takes practice (1989). Not only any relationships but also
marriage is up to lots of individuals efforts. In conclusion, living together has some
beneficial advantages for those who take their first step toward the marriage.
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