Window Shop For Women

How to Meet and Date Women From MySpace™, Facebook™ and More
Kelly Kellam & Race de Priest

Window Shopping for Women. Copyright © 2008 by Nintai
Publishing, Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be
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Window Shopping for Women

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Table Of Contents
Nondisclosure Agreement 06
Preface 08
Introduction 10
Acknowledgments 11
How To Use This Book 12
1. Getting Started 15
Why Social Networking Sites? 15
Characteristics Women Screen For 19
Beliefs 24
2. Profile Design 27
3. The AIM Method 41

4. Attract 45
First Things First 45
Messaging Fundamentals 47
Messaging 50
Transitioning To Offline Interaction 67
5. Interact 90
Phone Interaction Fundamentals 91
Interacting 97
The Phone Call 100
Locking Down The Meeting 102
6. Meet 107
Meeting For The First Time 107
Social Fundamentals 115
In Closing 124
Appendix:
Nondisclosure Agreement / Terms and Conditions 126

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Nondisclosure Agreement
The techniques revealed in this book are the result of two years
of work. Don’t steal it. It’s truly a bargain, and worth the modest
amount we charge for it. In fact, if you have friends whom you’d
like to share the book with, we’ve launched an affiliate program to
provide you with the opportunity to profit from any referrals you
make that result in a sale. Visit www.windowshoppingforwomen.
com/affiliates.php for more information.
You can get the book at www.windowshoppingforwomen.com.

Along with your purchase, you’re granted access to the members-
only forum where you can post questions for Race, Kelly and other
veterans of the method, view successful interactions, find a number
of routines to use and resources to help you create an attractive
profile. You also get free updates of this eBook for life!
This book contains a lot of strategies that are not common knowledge.
By using or reading it you agree to be bound by a Nondisclosure
Agreement and the rest of the applicable Terms and Conditions,
which are available online at www.windowshoppingforwomen.com.
The Terms and Conditions relevant to the print edition can be found
in the Appendix: Terms and Conditions. Per the Nondisclosure Agree-
ment in the Appendix, you may discuss the contents of this book
only with other people who have been granted access to this book

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by us and who are bound to treat this material subject to the Nondisclo-
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to the Terms and Conditions delete all digital copies and return
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tions contain the applicable instructions. We reserve the right to
revoke any of your access or rights to this book, our forum, or our
websites in the event you violate any of the terms and conditions
we require.

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Preface
“You’ll never guess what happened last night…”
Race calls me up and those are the first words out of his mouth.
It had been a while since I had hung out with my good friend and
someone I would call a mentor. Race called me up to tell me he had
been perfecting a new technique for meeting women on MySpace.
Haha, riiight. Ok, this is probably the first time he’ll realize that I
didn’t completely believe him (sorry Race), but I am usually pretty
skeptical about the latest and greatest idea. Race goes on to tell me
how last night he had something like six women come over just to
chill and watch The Hills…on a Monday night…women whom he
had never met before. Hmm, ok. Tell me more. So he did. Over the
past several months he and Kelly had led a crazy life where they
have met strippers, porn stars, regular girls who are really freaks (in a
good way), and more! I almost didn’t believe it; I was intrigued. I had
to try it out to see if it really worked. Well, I was actually so excited
from talking to Race, that one Friday afternoon I decided to drive up
to his house in a different city and see things firsthand. That weekend
was crazy. Every night a new batch of girls came over to party. And
party we did! Lo and behold, the system worked— for him.
But would it work for me? That weekend I began crafting my

messages and learning in-depth about Race and Kelly’s new MySpace
system. It took a little while, but after a few days I finally got my first
MySpace number. And she was a HOTTIE. As I started getting more

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practice and learning the ropes, things started to catalyze and soon
I had my first party. I’ll spare all the details, but let me just say the
first time I had girls over from MySpace there were two strippers,
one girl who was totally trying to get everyone into a huge group
orgy, and a model whose last boyfriend was an NFL football player.
I’m not talking about your ugly, fat girl from MySpace “with the
angles”. These were genuine hotties that all came to my place to
meet me for the first time.
It is an honor for me to not only write this preface but to be one

of the people who helped tweak and refine the system set here
before you. My own process of learning these techniques has been
eye opening, and as you read through these pages know that I have
tried and used these techniques myself. Yes, there will be a slight
learning curve, but it’s really not that steep. Best of all, you can
practice as much as you want, when you want. I would encourage
you to try out these techniques word for word, step by step as they
are laid out for you. There is a method to the madness, and it will
only help you out at first to do things “our way”. Over time, you
will get in a rhythm and try something different here and there, but
you should know that even I still copy and paste my responses from
the same pool of knowledge that you’re reading from.
Good luck to you as you read and learn these secrets for meeting
women online. My guess is that within a week or two you will have
the first of many numbers waiting for you in your inbox!
[renaissance]

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Introduction
There is no perfect method. Nothing will work on all girls all the
time. Becoming good with women is more about personal change.
You must become the type of man women are attracted to. Once
you become that man, almost any method you use will work for
you. This is not to say that all methods are created equal. The method
we have developed here has been proven to work for a wide range
of guys. In fact, the underlying principles are universal.
We have spent countless hours developing and perfecting this

method. We have studied many different fields including: social
dynamics, NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming), evolutionary
psychology, the science of persuasion, seduction, hypnosis,
relationship management and even Cosmopolitan! In addition, we
have been lucky enough to study under some of the most brilliant
minds in the pickup community today. Applying all these ideas and
principles to the world of MySpace has brought us amazing
opportunities, friends, adventures, and countless magical nights
with incredibly beautiful women.
Through our trials, mistakes, and eventual successes, the method is

yours. Now the fun we have had and are still having, is within your
grasp. Here is the method. Enjoy :)

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Acknowledgments
There is no way we could have done this alone. It would be arrogant

and misleading if we were to have claimed so. In many ways we
have “stood on the shoulders of giants”.
We want to thank the many people out there who are pioneering the
social sciences. Your insights, blunders, breakthroughs, and dogged
determination have encouraged and propelled us forward in our
unending pursuit of the perfection of our art. Most of all we want
to thank the countless women who have scorned us, stumped us,
taught us, inspired us and loved us. It is you who have shaped us
and it is to you that we dedicate this book. Thank you.

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How to use this book
This book was written as a reference tool. Read it more than once.
Many of the ideas may not make sense at first. That’s okay. Find
the skills, techniques, strategies you like and begin practicing them.
Then come back for the next piece of the puzzle. Eventually it will
begin to make sense.
Life is far too short to learn all we want to know through trial and error.
Success with women is not something learned overnight. Many of

these principles took us years to understand, internalize and master.
That being said, life is far too short to learn all we want to know
through trial and error. The ability to learn from other people’s
mistakes and achievements is what allows each generation to
achieve new advancements. The system we have developed will help
you significantly speed up your learning curve.
The most important decision you can make in learning the art of
picking up women is the decision to stick with it no matter what!
Once you have made this decision, failure is not an option, only a
learning opportunity. Focus on the skill set that you are building, not
on the outcome.

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Mastering the art of picking up women is like mastering a new sport.

At first your movement will feel awkward and your success rate will
be low. But as you practice, you’ll begin to fine tune your movements
and anticipate opponents in a way that becomes second nature, and
more importantly, you’ll start to have fun. And trust us, few things in
this world are as rewarding or fun as the opposite sex.

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WHY SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES?

As fun as the bar/club scene can be, I’m sure you have gone out
hoping you would meet someone, hit it off, and have an incredible
night only to come out empty-handed by the end of the night.
Just like the saying, “A bird in the bag is worth two in the bush,”
wouldn’t it be much more rewarding to go out knowing you already
have three to five women coming to meet you? Or even better, have
them meet you at your house!? These are women whom you have
already had an ongoing interaction with, you know (for the most
part) what they look like, and have a good idea what they are all
about. It takes the worry and wonder out of meeting new women
while allowing you to quickly build new social circles and manifest
new life opportunities.
By stepping out of your comfort zone and trying your hand at online
dating, you will have exciting new opportunities to meet people
you would have otherwise never met. This book provides you with

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tried and true methods for meeting people who you find interesting
and by extension helps to improve your overall social life.
We will be focusing almost exclusively on MySpace and Facebook

because they are by far the largest social networking sites. With
that said, most of the techniques and principles we share in this
book can be easily translated for use on other social networking
sites like Friendster, Hi5, Bebo, Orkut, etc.
MySpace Statistics (as of April 2007)*:

UÊ 185 million registered users
UÊ 50.2% female / 49.8% male
UÊ Primary age demographic: 14 - 34
UÊ Over 45 billion page views per month over the last 5 months.
UÊ 350,000 new registrations each day
UÊ 1 billion images on the site, 80 terabytes of space, 150,000 requests per second
UÊ Millions of new images per day
UÊ 4.5 million people on site at any one time
*http://scottelkin.com/archive/2007/05/11/MySpace-Statistics.aspx
Facebook Statistics (as of January 2008)*:

UÊ 64 million registered users
UÊ 250,000 new registrations each day
UÊ The fastest growing demographic is those 25 years old and older
UÊ Over 65 million pages views per month
UÊ People spend an average of 20 minutes on the site daily
UÊ More than 14 million photos uploaded daily
*http://www.facebook.com/press/info.php?statistics
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This means only one thing: lots and lots of beautiful women. It’s like
fishing in a lake that is constantly being stocked with new fish!
These are the same hot girls you see every night at the bars and
clubs. Except when you approach them online, they are in a totally
different mindset. The shields they have up at the bars and clubs to
protect them from boring guy after boring guy are disengaged when
they are sitting at home relaxed on their computer. This instantly
puts you at an advantage!
This is not to say that girls using MySpace or Facebook have no

filtering process. They certainly do! In this book you will learn to
understand this process and use that knowledge to your advantage.
Furthermore, meeting women online removes a large element of
doubt commonly associated with meeting them in person. When
approaching a girl for the first time, you may worry if she is going
to find you attractive, be fun to talk to, slap you in the face, ignore
you, have anything in common with you, laugh at your jokes, etc.
Through the magic of sites like MySpace and Facebook we can flip
the roles and bring about a first physical interaction where she is
well aware of her attraction to you and where she is hoping you like
her. How does this work?
By using our method you build comfort, trust and some “history”
with her which means that by the time of your first meeting she
already feels like she “knows” you. This process works in the guy’s

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favor due to differences in the principles of attraction that govern

men and women. Men base attraction for the most part on physical
appearance, sexual desirability, and some personality, whereas
females base it on things like social standing, ability to provide for
a mate, sense of humor, personality and some looks (i.e. don’t be
grotesquely overweight or have a third eye on your forehead).
Before ever meeting you she can get to know how cool and fun
you are, and based on her principles of attraction be attracted to
you. But you won’t know if you are entirely attracted to her until
you satisfy your biggest standard for attraction: seeing how she
appeals to you in person. Up to that point, you are really just hoping
she is as attractive as her profile portrays her to be, whereas she
already knows she is attracted to you when you plan the meeting.
Since one of our distinct advantages online is using techniques that
appeal to women’s principles of attraction it helps to understand
what characteristics they screen for.
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CHARACTERISTICS WOMEN SCREEN FOR
Before we begin contacting beautiful women, we must understand

what the majority of them are screening for. When you send a
message to a woman online, she is going to subconsciously pick up
on little clues that when put together in her mind will determine if
she is going to respond to or delete your message. We have narrowed
it down to the most essential characteristics and attributes that
most women must find present in order to consent to starting and
continuing an interaction with you – a total stranger:
SENSE OF HUMOR
Nothing brings a woman’s guard down like humor. When she is
laughing she is relaxed, comfortable and associating you with a
good time. When this occurs, she is no longer judging or analyzing
you. When asked what they find most attractive in men, women
consistently rank a sense of humor as the top nonphysical attribute.
Why is this? Humor indicates that you take neither yourself nor the
interaction too seriously, and seriousness is the exact opposite of the
types of emotions we are trying to elicit in order to build attraction.
In fact, there are many examples of where a woman is not initially
attracted to a man, but because she finds his sense of humor so
irresistible, ends up falling hard.
She is going to subconsciously pick up on little clues that when put

together in her mind will determine if she is going to respond to you
or DELETE your message.

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SOCIAL PROOF
This simply means you must have (quality) friends and be accepted
by both men and women in a social environment. She will scan
your comments for what people say about you. She will look at
your pictures to see what type of people you hang out with. She
needs to see that other people have a great time around you and
that others approve of you. As social creatures, humans have a
strong tendency to follow the motto: if others are doing it, then it
must be ok. This is the psychological principle behind social proof.
We will show you how to build the type of social proof women find
very attractive. One of the biggest elements of social proof is where
a woman screens you based on what other women think of you
(especially ones similar to her and/or higher on the social scale than
her). If another woman likes you, it validates you in her eyes and
makes her comfortable with having feelings for you.
COMFORT, TRUST AND SAFETY

One of the most important aspects of contacting a woman online
is that she perceives you as safe. This is one of the major stigmas of
meeting people online. There is always the fear that someone is not
really who they say they are. She needs to be confident that you
are not some creepy stalker old man. This is accomplished through
a variety of methods covered in this book.
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SUCCESS AND AMBITION

This in no way means you need to have a huge bank account or
drive a Ferrari. All you need is to appear to be working toward
something. You need to have goals and be actively pursuing them.
You do not need to already be successful, only show the potential
of being so. If you have not already determined goals or ambitions
for yourself, now would be a very good time.
BE ADVENTUROUS, CHALLENGING AND MYSTERIOUS

Women want a man who is challenging, which is not to be
confused with being confrontational. You do not want to get into
arguments. You want to be a puzzle she has to figure out. To do
this you need to cultivate an aura of mystery and depth. She has
to sense that there is more to you than meets the eye. Women
need a challenge. If they think they have figured you out, they get
bored. However, become too challenging and she gets frustrated
and walks away. You can’t give away all your information for free.
She has to work for it. At the same time, you need to give her
enough to keep her chasing you. Although tricky to perfect, we
will give you proven ways to keep her wanting more.
BE DIFFERENT AND HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER

If you don’t already know, attractive women on MySpace and
Facebook get bombarded with messages from guys that all say the
exact same thing. We will give you examples of these types of
messages later on in this book. What does this mean for you? It
means you need to show that you are different in some way. You
are not generic or boring. She needs to feel as if you have something

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to offer and that she can learn something from you. This does not
mean you have to show her right then and there, but you do need
to convey a uniqueness about you that hooks her interest. There
are a multitude of ways to do this, many of which are covered in
this book.
UNDERSTAND HER WORLD AND COMMONALITIES

The old adage: “birds of a feather flock together,” rings true. In
order to create chemistry, she must have a way to connect with
you. You must demonstrate an understanding of her world. There
has to be some commonalities between you and her to bridge the
gap. The more unique the trait or life experience that connects you,
the stronger the chemistry will be.
ABSENCE OF DESPERATION
This is one of the most important and yet hardest attributes to
cultivate. Think about it, if you already had a life full of amazingly
beautiful women would you really care if an interaction with a new
one failed? Hell no. You would care less. This is the type of
attitude that drives women wild. This is one of the major reasons
that 10% of guys get 90% of the women out there. You must come
across as non-needy and be willing to walk away if she does not
live up to your standards and expectations. We cannot emphasize
this enough: you must release your attachment to the outcome.
This is one of the biggest reasons MySpace and Facebook are so
great for meeting women. There are so many new women joining
everyday, you can afford to mess up, learn from it and move on.

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SECTION REVIEW
UÊ Have a sense of humor!
UÊ Surround yourself with quality people that have a high regard
for you;
UÊ Be comfortable, not creepy;
UÊ Have ambitions in life and communicate them with unapologetic
excitement;
UÊ Be spontaneous;
UÊ Be a puzzle she has to figure out;
UÊ Give her just enough information to want more;
UÊ Don’t be a “normal guy”, set yourself apart;
UÊ Make her feel as though you have something to offer to her life;
UÊ Find commonalities to show you understand her and her world;
UÊ Never act like she is the only women in your life; be busy, be
desired.
This may seem like a lot to digest at first, but don’t worry, by the end
of this book you will have all the skills and knowledge necessary to
come across as the type of man women desire. Now that you know
what women look for, let’s take a look at one of the most important
steps toward filling your life with beautiful women: your beliefs.

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BELIEFS
Your beliefs dictate everything you do in life and how you choose
to react to challenging situations. All the decisions you have made
are based on the beliefs you hold. Your beliefs color the very way
you look at the world around you.
For example, if you believe the world is out to get you, you will
constantly dwell on this fact and a strange thing begins to happen.
Your mind begins to look for supporting evidence. It will ignore all
the facts to the contrary and focus on the facts that fit your beliefs.
During a typical day, one hundred good things could happen to
you, but you will only notice the three bad things. In so doing, you
confirm your negative beliefs and miss out on all the amazing op-
portunities that come your way.
The same thing applies to women. If you think you are lousy with
women and don’t believe you deserve to have beautiful women in
your life, that is exactly what you will get. You will miss the many
opportunities throughout your day to meet, interact, attract and
build relationships with amazing women. Do not be this person.
This is easier said than done. Here are two resources that have
helped us tremendously with our beliefs: The Four Agreements, by
Don Miguel Ruiz and The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne. You can find
both of these at your local bookstore or order them online.

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Here is a set of statements we want you to say to yourself as you

look into your eyes in the mirror. Say them out loud three times every
morning when you wake up and three times every night before
you go to bed. Say them until you begin to feel them:
UÊ People want to be around me.

UÊ I can have any woman I want.
UÊ I can express any thought I choose to.
UÊ People want to hear my ideas.
UÊ I am unapologetic for my desires as a man.
UÊ I see failure as an opportunity to learn.
UÊ I am equally important to the people I look up to.
UÊ I let go of my past, I will only concentrate on building my future.
UÊ My emotions are unaffected by people’s actions. I choose how
to respond to people and their words.
You create your reality by the beliefs you hold and the thoughts you
allow yourself to think. Be careful to think only positive thoughts
and believe you will have whatever it is you want without question.

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Your profile says a lot about you. From your profile alone, a girl can
figure out if you have any attractive qualities, what kind of job you
have or what you do, what type of lifestyle you have, your hobbies,
your interests (i.e. favorite movies, books, and music), what kind of
friends you have, if other women are attracted to you, what you
look like, and somewhat of how popular you are. This is huge!
COMMUNICATE YOUR LIFESTYLE AND PERSONALITY

1. Have several pictures of you doing interesting, adventurous, and
amazing things. If you don’t have any pictures that fall in these
categories, don’t you think it’s time to do something about that
anyway?
2. Have comments from friends, men and women, regarding cool
things you are doing, have them post pictures of you doing
something wild, etc. If you are just starting and don’t have many
friends, don’t worry. We’ll teach you how to instantly get sexy
comments from hot girls.

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3. (MySpace only) Have an interesting background that pertains

directly to you. Create your own, if need be. There are hundreds
of sites that are set up specifically to help you personalize your
MySpace page.
HELPFUL TOOLS
These sites offer many good pre-made profile layouts along with
generators to create your own style:
www.pimp-my-profile.com www.myspacemaster.net
www.freeweblayouts.net
These are sites which make it simple to host pictures and create
slide shows for your profile:
www.photobucket.com www.rockyou.com
You can find

PICK A NETWORK (FACEBOOK ONLY)
Facebook organizes its members according to networks, which can
additional resources
be a region/city, work place, high school, or college. This gives
Facebook members a way to find each other. Click on the Networks
and guidelines
tab in the navigation menu at the top in order to select the network
you wish to join.
for creating an
BORROW SUCCESSFUL TECHNIQUES (MYSPACE ONLY)

attractive profile on
In our opinion, it is better to use a generator to create your own
style instead of using a pre-made layout. So many of them are
our website at
cheesy and are a sure way to repel the types of women you are
www.windowshoppingforwomen.com

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looking for. Don’t make your profile too busy with random stuff
everywhere or psychedelic colors that would succeed only in
distracting or overwhelming her. When in doubt, find profiles of
guys who look like they are doing well with women, who have lots
of pictures with and comments from hot women, and just copy
their style. This is what we did when we first started out, and it
helped us tremendously. Another idea is to go to a hot girl’s profile
and copy her wording. This is called stealing her frame.
KEEP YOUR GOAL IN MIND

Remember to create a profile that is appealing to the type of girl you
want to attract. If you want a bad girl with tattoos, you need to create
a profile that connects with that type of girl. Once again, if you are
unsure, go to the profiles of the types of girls you want to attract
and copy their style or the style of the guy friends they have.
BE DIVERSE
List a variety of music, movies, and hobby interests. Be goofy. List
movies like The Little Mermaid, and music by artists like the Spice
Girls. Show her you are not a tool. When writing it is better to be
brief yet have variety and keep her guessing, than to write your
whole life story and bore her. You can even leave out your interests,
giving her more reason to search for a connection with you. Going
back to the characteristics women screen for, you want to be an
enigma she wants to figure out.
When writing it is better to be brief yet have variety and keep her
guessing, than to write your whole life story and bore her.

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BE CREATIVE
In your About Me section, be creative. Don’t say “I’m new to this
whole MySpace / Facebook thing” or “all my friends are on here
so I figured I would create an account.” Talk about things like, “I
love meeting new people” or “I surround myself with positive, fun,
spontaneous, and outrageous people.” It doesn’t have to be long.
Again, we need just enough to intrigue her, but not so much as to
bore her. Make her curious to find out more about you.
USE DISQUALIFYING STATEMENTS

Create a small list of disqualifiers. A disqualifier is any statement that
demonstrates you have standards by declaring that the recipient is
unqualified or ineligible for you. Having standards indicates abundance
and a strong sense of identity. You know what you want and you
have enough options so that if a girl does not match up, you can let
her go. Here are a few examples of disqualifying statements:
Rules for being my MySpace/Facebook friend:

UÊ No liars (unless you are flirting)
UÊ No flaky people
UÊ No granny panties! (unless you are actually a grandma :) )
UÊ No psycho stalker chicks! I don’t care how hot you think
you are!
UÊ No BORING PEOPLE … You must be fun

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Another option is to put up a qualifying statement on your page.

Here is one that we have used and has been very effective placed
under the Who I’d Like to Meet section on MySpace or the About
Me section on Facebook: “If you are cute rather than hot, clever
rather than cool, petite rather than slim, then I would like to meet
you.” You must show that you have standards. Women like men
who know what they want. If you do not know what you want,
now is the time to sit down and figure it out.
PICKING AND ADDING APPLICATIONS (FACEBOOK ONLY)

Installing applications on Facebook is a great way to help communicate
what kind of person you are and provide you with opportunities
to demonstrate playfulness and other attractive qualities. There are
thousands of applications available on Facebook so determining
which applications to install can potentially be difficult. Here are
some questions to ask yourself when going through this process:
1. Does this application help communicate your attractive qualities?

2. Does this application allow you play fun games or engage in
other interactive activities that will help you build attraction?
Here are a few applications we recommend adding to your profile:
Super Wall
Like the Wall, the Super Wall allows you to post multimedia elements
(i.e. pictures, videos, music, etc.) along with a comment.

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Where I’ve Been

Create a map that shows everywhere you have lived and traveled
to and the places you want to visit. It is a great way to demonstrate
the adventurous side of your personality.
Friend Pokes
Gives you options to pinch, poke, hug, tackle, go ninja on, and
even throw a llama at girls. This is a fun way to initiate or continue
an interaction with a women.
Hatching Egg
Give a digital egg that hatches over the course of a few days. It will
make her think about you every time she logs into her profile and
gives you something to role play or joke about.
Example:
You know I thought our baby would have been cuter, he must have
gotten your genes...lol :)
Hows our baby {insert the animal name} doing?
Bottom line is it gives you another outlet for fun conversation.
As you get more comfortable with Facebook, feel free to add other
applications you enjoy and share them with your friends. To find
new applications click on the “edit” link next to “Applications”
on the navigation bar located on the left side. Once that page has
loaded select “Browse more applications” on the top right.

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USE MUSIC
Music is a great way to connect with girls. You can find music on
MySpace in the Music section, which you can get to from the main
navigation bar at the top of the page. Using a playlist is even better.
That way you can have a whole variety of music. We have received
so many comments on the songs we have chosen. This is just one
more way for her to connect with you. The playlist tool we use is:
www.projectplaylist.com.
USE PICTURES
The pictures you choose to use on your profile are vitally important.
In most cases, these will be a woman’s first impression of you. Why
not make it as good as possible? The following are some guidelines
to follow when choosing what pictures to use:
UÊ Use a variety
You want to have pictures depicting you doing a variety of different
activities. You don’t want to have twelve pictures of you drinking
beer with your buddies. It is as if each picture is showing off a different
side of your personality. As we have already learned, women like
a man with some depth to him. They want a man with a sense of
mystery, a challenge to figure out. Your pictures can make her curi-
ous, and that is one of the most important first steps to attracting
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UÊ Choose only the best

Choose only the pictures in which you look the best. If you upload
ten pictures and you only look good in three of them, then the
other seven are creating a bad impression. It would be far better to
only have those three in which you look your best. If in doubt, put
your pictures up on a photo-rating site like www.HotorNot.com,
and see which ones receive the highest rating.
UÊ Embed pictures into your page (MySpace only)

We have found that actually embedding pictures into your MySpace
page is the easiest and most effective way to make a great first
impression on girls. This allows a girl to get a snapshot of how
exciting and fun you are. Remember, your page is your way of
demonstrating how cool and how socially desirable you are. Use a
range of pictures showing different aspects of your personality. Have
some action shots, some travel shots, some of you with your niece
or your dog, some partying with hot girls, some doing something
goofy, etc.
To do this, the first step is to upload your pictures to an image hosting

site like www.photobucket.com.
Next, paste the following HTML code into any section (i.e. About
Me, Interests, Who I’d like to Meet):
<img src=”http://www.imagehost.com/images/sample.jpg” />

<br />
<div><font size=+2>Sample caption</font></div>

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Where http://www.imagehost.com/images/sample.jpg will be

replaced with the URL pointing to your image and Sample caption
will be replaced with your caption.
Make sure to resize your images so they are not too large. If you
don’t have a program to resize images, you can do it online for free
at www.resizr.com.
UÊ Main profile picture

For your main profile picture, if you are going to put up a picture
of just yourself, make it either a really good/professional picture
(no wannabe modeling pictures with your shirt off please), or one
of you doing something exciting like surfing, rock-climbing, pos-
ing in front of the Eiffel Tower, dancing, etc. Otherwise make it a
group picture with cute girls in it. If you don’t have any, go out to
a club and tell the hottest girl you can find that you need some
new MySpace/Facebook pictures to make your ex-girlfriend jeal-
ous. Girls love to make other girls jealous!
Caution: If you are going to put up a picture of you with your shirt
off, make sure you are in good shape and doing an activity where it
is appropriate to have it off (i.e. at the beach, playing football, etc.).
But just to be safe, don’t put up a picture of you shirtless…EVER!
APPEAL TO A WIDE RANGE OF WOMEN

Since online dating, just as in person is a numbers game, you may

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want to change your age to 99 years old so you can appeal to

a wider range of women. Some women use age as one of the
determining factors when they are deciding to respond or not. By
changing your age to 99 you avoid this. This also gives them
another aspect of you to be curious about. On MySpace, you do
this from your homepage by clicking on Edit Profile > Basic Info and
changing your birth year to the earliest year possible. On Facebook,
you cannot change your age but you can hide it. Go to Edit > Basic
and under your birthday there is a drop down menu where you can
select how you want to share your birthday information. We recom-
mend you select the “Show only month & day in my profile” option.
This way girls can find a connection with you based on their zodiac
sign and leave you comments on your birthday.
HIDE YOUR FRIENDS LIST (MYSPACE ONLY)

If you are just starting and have no friends, you can place this code
in any section to hide your friends list:
<style type=”text/css”>
td.text td.text table table table, td.text td.text table br, td.text td.ztext
table .orangetext15, td.text td.text .redlink, td.text td.text
span.btext {display:none;}
td.text td.text table {background-color:transparent;}
td.text td.text table td, td.text td.text table {height:0;padding:0;border:0;}
td.text td.text table table td {padding:3;}
td.text td.text table table br {display:inline;}
</style>

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We recommend you do this anyway. If she can’t see your friends and
sees a number of comments from gorgeous looking girls, which you
can get using the technique we’ll cover next, she will definitely wonder.
If she ever asks you why your friends are hidden, just say something
like, “They all kept getting jealous about who was #1” or “I am a secret
agent, and I don’t want to put my friends’ lives in peril.”
ADJUST YOUR PRIVACY SETTINGS (FACEBOOK ONLY)

There is far more of your personal contact information available to
the general public on Facebook than on MySpace. Facebook also
lists all of your recent actions on the site through a system called
Mini-Feed. You can modify your privacy settings by clicking on the
“privacy” link next to the “logout” link in the top right corner. We
suggest that you remove all of your personal information such as
email addresses and cell phone numbers. You don’t randomly give
your personal contact information to people you don’t know, so
why do it online?
While the mini-feed makes it convenient to see what your friends

are up to online, they can also see what you are up to. By default it
lists all kinds of information like who you wrote to, what you wrote,
comments you made, comments you received, and even when you
add a friend! For the simple fact that you are going to be messaging
multiple girls, it would be counter productive for them to see that
you have messaged other girls with the same or even similar messages.
For this reason, we recommend you configure the privacy settings

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for News Feed and Mini-Feed by unchecking (i.e. turning off) most
if not all of the notifications.
CREATE INSTANT SOCIAL PROOF

To get sexy comments on your MySpace page or Facebook wall
from beautiful women just use this message:
Subject: I was wondering …
Body:
My ex is stalking my profile. Could you leave a comment to make her
jealous? You know how it is…haha.
Thanks,
- {your name/screen name/nickname}
These comments will give you social proof. So when a new girl
looks at your page and sees all these other attractive girls writing
sexy things about you, she will wonder what makes you so sexy.
This mystery builds attraction. It’s brilliant!
Make sure to use this technique with girls outside your area. This
adds an air of mystique and ensures you don’t tap out potential
girls in your area.

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SECTION REVIEW
UÊ Your profile should communicate what you’re all about;
UÊ Achieve social proof by getting sexy comments from girls utilizing
the technique covered in this section;
UÊ Design your profile with your ideal girl in mind;
UÊ List all kinds of music and movies, do not be a tool. You can
display humor even in this section. Show her your ability to like
different things;
UÊ Have a list of false disqualifiers. This shows that you have standards,
and as she reads your profile she will subconsciously try to qualify
herself to you before you ever interact;
UÊ Have pictures of you doing a variety of activities. Your pictures
should portray you as fun, sweet, crazy, surrounded by women,
surrounded by cool men, a leader, artistic, adventurous;
UÊ Embed several pictures in your profile page (in your Interests or
About Me section) as another way to advertise your personality
and show the activities you enjoy.

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We have spent the last two years of our lives messaging thousands
of beautiful women on MySpace, Facebook and other social net-
working sites. Over time, we began to figure out a pattern of what
works and what doesn’t. Through this we developed and refined
the AIM method to guide you through how, when and what types
of things to message girls. If you do things out of order, the girl
The AIM method
simply loses interest and stops responding. If this keeps happening
to you, don’t worry, it happened to us a lot in the beginning too.
revolves around three
But now that we know the pattern, we can get almost any girl
to not only respond to our messages but give us her number and
primary principles of
be excited about meeting up with us. We literally have new girls
showing up at our doorstep every week!
online dating: building
The AIM method revolves around three primary principles of online

attraction, continuing
dating: building attraction, continuing the interaction, and transitioning
to meeting. When used correctly, you will effectively transition women
the interaction, and
transitioning to meeting.

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from girls online to girls who are sexual partners, girlfriends, friends,
or whatever you are looking for.
Here is a brief outline of the AIM method:
ATTRACT
This section covers the online interaction from start to finish including
how to write an opening message, set hooks, use role-playing, play
games, and ultimately get her number.
INTERACT
This section covers how to successfully transition from online messages
to offline texting/phone interactions and techniques for setting up the
first meeting. Attract
MEET
Your First Physical Encounter With Her
Interact
She shows up, now what? It is important to re-affirm her attraction
to you by upholding the same personality you had throughout the Meet
Attract and Interact stages. We will show you how to do this by
level-setting comfort within the first five seconds, beginning physical
contact, reviving your role-playing, and making arrangements for a
second meeting.

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Social Fundamentals
Here we introduce a few essential principles to ensure a successful
in-person interaction including: using time distortion, telling stories,
isolating to build comfort, and escalating physical contact.
In the following chapters, we will break down each component of the

method, give you examples you can use today and explain the mechanics
behind why they work. Once you get comfortable with the underlying
principles you can create your own material. You can also find more
examples on our website at www.windowshoppingforwomen.com.

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UÊ You must be different

When you are approaching a girl in person or online, your social
value, intentions, and some of your pre-selection value (i.e. do other
girls want you?) are easily perceived by what you say, how you say it
or phrase it, and your body language (only in person obviously). On
average, women are approached or hit on in person about 10-25
times per day. On top of that, they get home and go on to MySpace
or Facebook and receive up to 40 random messages! Out of 40
messages, 2-4 guys will actually get a reply, and maybe one of those
guys will be able to hold a conversation with the girl to the point
of meeting. Every single one of those guys doesn’t realize that he
is filling her inbox with the same message 38 other people already
sent that day.
IT’S A NUMBERS GAME. Although the AIM method is highly effective, nothing will work on
every girl all the time. Just as in person, online dating is a numbers game. Try not to message
more than 20 at a time when you are first starting, 5-10 a day should be fine and message
a variety of girls in all different age ranges to get the best results. You will get significantly
better as you master the system, and you don’t want tap out your area before that occurs.
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For example:
You’re hot. We should hang out sometime.
You’re pretty hot. Do you have any sexy pics?
or even the nice guy method,
I just wanted to let you know you look interesting, and I’d like to meet you.
It looks like we like the same movies. We should get together sometime.
LAME LAME LAME!

If this sounds like the messages you have been sending out, don’t
worry. That is how we started too! This is why you are here: to
learn from our failures.
Before you can
WHO ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?

logically “look” for
Ok, now you have created your profile and are ready to start
window shopping for women. On MySpace, the easiest way to
a girl, whether it
start looking is to click on the Browse section in the main navigation
bar. On Facebook, you click on the Networks section in the main
is online or in person,
navigation bar, select the network you want to browse and in the
“People in {selected network}” box in the top right corner, click on
you must define
what you want.

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the Browse link. On both sites this takes you to the place where
you can choose the attributes you wish to search for. However,
before you can logically “look” for a girl, whether it is online or in
person, you must define what you want. Get out a piece of paper
and list ten qualities the girl you want must have.
For example:
Non-smoker Blond or brunette

Slim/athletic build Outgoing/outspoken
Able to party, but not a party girl Between 5’0” and 5’8”
Funny Share a common hobby
Good attitude Between 20-26 years old
Those are just a few of ours. You can actually specifically search on
MySpace—as well as most social networking sites— for six out of
those ten requirements we listed! It’s like ordering your next date
from a catalog.
INCREASING YOUR ODDS. Because this method helps you come in under the radar, it will
work on all different types of women. However, to increase your odds, why not message girls
who are single or divorced and actually looking for a relationship? At the same time these
are the girls who get the most messages, so it is that much more important that you be unique
and creative. But don’t worry, that is exactly why you are reading this book in the first place!

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That said, you must be able to turn down opportunities with women
that do not meet your criteria. Never sell yourself short! Remember,
women want you. You are the prize! So why not get the ones you
truly want?
SPOTTING FAKE PROFILES

There are many fakers on MySpace. Sure signs that the hot girl’s
profile you are looking at is fake are:
UÊ only one picture (probably the biggest indicator)

UÊ has a link to naughty pictures she couldn’t put on MySpace
UÊ has no friends or way too many friends
UÊ the only comments she has are from lame ass guys saying, “Hey
sexy”, “Happy Humpday” or “Hey babe … thanks 4 the add”
UÊ her location is set to China or USA instead of a specific city
If you see any of these signs, just move on as it is a fake profile and
you are wasting your time.
COMMON PITFALLS TO AVOID

UÊ Avoid asking too many questions. Just as in “real life” no one
wants to be bombarded with questions. This would show you
have way too much interest in her. Why do you want to know
so much about a total stranger? Remember, she needs to feel

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like she has earned your attention. Instead, create opportunities

for her to talk about herself through fun, interesting or chal-
lenging statements (hooks), and games. It is vitally important
UÊ Avoid compliments early on. It is vitally important to not give

to not give any blatant
any blatant compliments to a girl until she has earned them.
One of the most important concepts of online dating and dating
compliments to a
in general is that a girl must feel as if she has earned your attrac-
tion. Otherwise she will think you are attracted solely to her looks
girl until she has earned
which, although it boosts her ego, causes her to lose almost all
attraction to you. This is especially important for meeting girls
them. One of the
online, because the fact that they had to win you over sets you
apart from the creepy guy who doesn’t even know her but wants
most important concepts
to meet up with her. Only compliment her after something she
has said is something you like or interests you. Make it a mini
of online dating and
compliment at first by adding “kinda” in front of it, or giving her a
reward like a “MySpace/Facebook hi five”. We will show you how
dating in general is that
to use these later in the book.
UÊ Don’t decide to message a girl based solely on her main picture. a girl must feel as if
Actually look at her profile. Is she actually a girl you would be
interested in? If nothing else, check to see if it is a fake profile. she has earned your
UÊ Don’t send messages with misspelled words and improper
grammar. Nothing says low value quicker. This is a sure fire ticket attraction.
to the trash can. Try using Firefox or download an add-on to
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UÊ Don’t write your life story. She doesn’t know you, and until you
have demonstrated qualities she finds attractive, she has no reason
to want to know you.
UÊ Don’t brag about how much money you have, your cool car, the
private jet you just flew in, how you can take her on an exotic
vacation, set her up at the VIP table of a club, etc. A very small
majority of girls out there will respond to this and those who do
are the gold diggers who couldn’t care less about you. Is this
really the type of girl you want? We will show you much more
subtle and effective ways to show off your attractive qualities.
UÊ Don’t send a friend request without a message first. We will
show you when to send out a friend request to guarantee she
will accept and how you can use it to your advantage.
IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL

Remember at all times IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL. If you ever open your
inbox and see a message from a girl you’ve been talking to and
start to get nervous (we’ve done it too), take a deep breath, and
remember IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL. Her response says nothing about
you. She cannot hurt you, upset you, reject you, or even make you
happy. That is up to you. You are in control. She is a picture and a
few lines of text. Nothing she says has anything to do with you. It
is her response to the fun, playful, and charming messages you are
sending. If she doesn’t want to be fun and playful back she is not
the type of girl you would want to meet up with anyway. There are
millions of girls on MySpace, Facebook and others. Just click next.

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Part of having the attitude of a powerful, attractive male is not

to be affected by other people’s opinions or responses. You know
who you are and what you want. If you do get an apparently negative
response, just use phrases like, “Wow you sure are a feisty one,”
“Calm down there cowgirl, I’m just having some fun. You’re kinda
cute when you’re all riled up.. haha” etc., and then just push on
towards your desired outcome. Every now and then, you will
receive a blatantly angry response with something like, “Why are
you writing me?”, “I have a boyfriend,” “I hate guys like you,” etc.
This has nothing to do with you. It is her personal problem. Delete
the message and move on. If you get a significant number of
messages like this, then you may need to re-evaluate what you are
doing and fine tune it.
MESSAGING FUNDAMENTALS
Before we get into the first section of the AIM method, Attract,
there are a few basic messaging fundamentals you will use in
almost every message. Learn them, use them, and eventually they
will become second nature.
COMMUNICATE DISINTEREST THROUGH PLAYFUL INSULTS

It is a good idea to drop a little playful insult every once in a while.

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Keep it light. You want it to seem like you did it unintentionally;

like you didn’t even realize you did it. This helps lower her defenses
even more. A typical guy who was interested in her would never do
that. In her mind, it also temporarily lowers her status in your eyes,
and she will feel the need to gain back her standing. Be very careful
with these, as it is easy to go overboard and say something mean.
Never directly insult a girl. They are used to that from all those other
guys who get their feelings hurt when she says something mean or
when she doesn’t talk to them. You are not one of those guys.
Examples:
You are such a dork!
That is an interesting outfit you are wearing in your pictures.
I’m going shopping today, do you want me to pick you up a sense of humor
while I’m out… haha
You seem fun and kinda cute.
You remind me of my little sister.
Make sure to never end a conversation with one of these. You

want it to be in the middle somewhere, as if you didn’t give it a
second thought. Immediately afterwards, move on to another subject
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USE EMOTICONS IN PLACE OF TONE AND BODY LANGUAGE

Since most in-person communication is done through non-verbal
cues such as body language, tone of voice, facial expressions, etc.
it is critical to use emoticons and other conventions to create the
mood you’re intending to create. As you will see in many of the
examples, we will end a statement with: haha, lol, ;), :), etc. This
lets the girl know we are being playful, and lessens the sting of an
otherwise overly cocky statement. Get used to doing this a lot. It
transfers over to text messages as well.
ESTABLISH FRAME THROUGH TEASING

AND MISINTERPRETATION
You never want to put a girl on a pedestal. You are starting out as
equals. In fact, it will work better if you come across (in a fun way)
that you are slightly better than her. Make it seem like she is the
one trying to pick you up. Find ways to tease her. Call her funny
nicknames like “nerdball,” “dorkalicious,” “twinkle toes,” “butter-
bean,” “snuffuluffugus,” etc. When she writes something about you,
misinterpret it to seem like she is trying to take advantage of you or
trying to win your approval. You can do that by saying things like,
You don’t have to impress me, I already think you are cool just the way
you are ... haha
Is that your best pick up line? I prefer something like, “Are you from
Tennessee? Because you are the only Ten-I-See!” Haha.
If she is fun, she will be feisty right back. With this technique you’re
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Messaging
Now that we’ve gone over all the fundamentals for attracting
women online, it’s time to start messaging some girls.
The primary goal of

THE OPENING MESSAGE
The primary goal of an opening message is to be read and to
an opening message
receive a response. Nothing more. You don’t need to show her
how funny you are, or how cool you are, or anything else. In fact,
is to be read and
you are better off showing no interest at all. This is not to say that the
direct approach does not work. It just works far less often because 40
to receive a response.
other guys are trying to do the same thing that day. You just need
to make it through all her shields and generate enough curiosity
NOTHING MORE.
to get a response. Once you receive a response, you can transition
into a conversation that demonstrates what a great, fun and excit-
ing guy you are, but without the initial response, you have no
conversation. Remember the only purpose of the opening message
is to get the conversation going. Soon, she won’t even remember
how the conversation started because she’s having too much fun
talking to you.
In addition, there is a powerful psychological effect that occurs

when she sees RE: in front of the message when you write back.
In her mind, she responded and has already decided to talk to you,
so she will continue to do so as long as everything is going well.
Humans have an overwhelming desire to be consistent with the
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Examples Of Opening Messages

Typically, it doesn’t matter what your subject is. However, a good,
off-the-wall subject header could help put her in a better frame
before she opens your message. Basically, it is the initial point off
of which you can set yourself apart. Follow up by starting your
message in mid-sentence to finish the thought that was started
with the subject.
Subject: I’m not sure but…
Body:
I think you know my friend?
Subject: NO way!!!???
Body:
You look very familiar. Did we go to elementary school together?
Subject: Caught You!!!
Body:
Hey you are that girl who molested me at the {club, bar, anywhere
she would most likely go} the other night…naughty naughty…haha

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Subject: Way too long…
Body:
Holy Moly. I didn’t even know you had a MySpace page! How
have you been nerdball?!
TIMING CONSIDERATIONS. Don’t send out opening messages on a Friday or Saturday night
when you should be out doing things with your friends. This communicates a lack of social life.
The same rule applies if you are already in an interaction, but here you have some flexibility.
If you must send a message on one of these nights, you can either end the message with a
“gotta go” phrase, which we’ll cover soon, or demonstrate an understanding of her world by
saying something like “I don’t know why I am writing you back on a Friday night. I should be
out with my friends partying again but sometimes I prefer to just stay at home, watch a good
movie and recharge. Partying can get old sometimes you know?” Then continue with your
message. Almost every girl we have talked to can relate with that statement.
These are just some examples and you can find more on our website at
www.windowshoppingforwomen.com. Feel free to use the canned
messages as you start out, but as soon as you feel comfortable,
develop your own. There is nothing worse than messaging a girl
who responds by saying she just received the exact same message,
or worse, doesn’t respond at all. You don’t want the game to be
over before it even had a chance to begin.

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The anatomy of a good opening message is as follows:

UÊ Show no interest
UÊ Keep it short
UÊ Make statements or questions that require more information
As you can see, these examples show no interest at all from your
side. You are simply curious about something you may or may not
have in common. And yet more often than not, they will generate
a response because it is a commonality she can neither confirm nor
deny without additional information.
Another reason this approach works so well is that in most cases,

every girl’s first impulse is to go to your profile and see if she knows
you. This allows you, through your profile, to already indirectly
demonstrate many of your good qualities. This is very powerful. It is
a form of third party verification. You didn’t say, “Go check out my
profile,” which would have been trying too hard and thus lowered
your social status in her eyes, but instead, she found out on her own
accord. And by using the tips in this book to create an adventurous,
fun, and appealing profile, she may just go from saying, “How do I
know this guy?” to “Wow I really want to get to know this guy!”
THE INITIAL RESPONSE

Realize her response matters very little. What is important is that
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Typically her response will be very basic like:
Who is your friend?
What? me when and where? lol
Which middle school did you go to?
Do I know you?
At this point if she adds in anything such as “cutie,” “honey,” “I like

your profile,” “I wouldn’t mind getting to know you though,” etc.,
this indicates that she has already engaged and begun to show
interest in you. Game on!
So how do you transition from a typical response to a full-blown

conversation full of flirting, fun, and eventually getting her number
with plans to meet up? There are many great techniques we use
to accomplish just that.
FIRST TRANSITION
Now that she has responded, she is waiting for you to give her the
information she requested. Here is where we can start demonstrating
some personality and setting hooks for her to bite on.
Hooks are statements that create an opportunity for her to engage

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UÊ Example 1
If she were to respond to the “Hey you are the girl who molested
me at the club the other night...” opening message with “what?
me? when and where? lol” you could reply with:
I knew I shouldn’t have left the house that night looking so cute…will I ever
learn?…haha…If it was you, you claimed you were a good dancer…I ’m
telling you right now to forget about it! I haven’t lost a dance off in 7 years.
I even won a trophy once for doing the “Roger Rabbit” and the “Robot”
at the SAME time. I still go to sleep with it in my arms every night…haha
UÊ Example 2
If she were to respond to the “I think you know my friend” opening
message with “Who’s your friend?” you could reply with:
Tom…haha j/k {insert fictitious or real guy friend’s name; first name only}
If it’s you, he said you are cool and kinda nerdy (from your pictures you do
seem kinda nerdy in a fun way...haha.)
He also said you are pretty good at thumb wrestling ... I ’m telling you right
now to just forget about it. I haven’t been beat in 7 yrs. Took all state in ‘99.
I go to sleep every night with the trophy in my arms...haha.

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With a reply like this, you have set several hooks while demonstrating
how fun you are. On top of that, you have issued an indirect
challenge, and as we all know, women love challenges.
It is generally a
It is generally a good rule to answer any questions she has early on
in your interaction; avoiding them looks shady. However, you don’t good rule to answer
have to answer the full question, or spend more than one sentence
on it, depending on the question. As you can see, we told her our any questions she
friend’s name, but not his last name. We have answered her question,
but we’re still not giving her all the info she needs to know. The has early on in your
goal is to engage her in a conversation within the first three
messages totally independent of the opening message. interaction; avoiding
As you can see, she can engage you in conversation about thumb
them looks shady.
wrestling, the fact you think she is kinda nerdy, or your friend she
supposedly knows. Usually, she will engage you on all three. Now
you have a whole range of topics to talk about. Congratulations,
you are in a conversation.
STAYING IN CONTROL OF THE CONVERSATION

You should always start a conversation with a desired outcome in
mind. This means that no matter how she responds, it is always
your responsibility to lead the conversation back on track toward
the ends on which you have decided. This is easy to do using
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At the same time, have fun with the conversation. Enjoy the unique-
ness and spontaneity that each new girl brings. With practice, you’ll
quickly learn to control the flow of the interaction like a pro.
Ending with “Gotta Go.”

Another technique for demonstrating your value is to end an interaction with “gotta go” or
“gotta run”, then add a short reason why.
For example:
Gotta run! My friends are taking me on a surprise trip to the lake to go waterskiing. ttyl :)
Gotta go! My friend just got into town and is coming over to cook me dinner. Talk
to ya later gator :)
Make sure it is something you’re actually going to do. This is an indirect way of letting her know
you do cool things, you have cool friends, and you have a fun life full of interesting activities.
Using Transitional Phrases

Transitional phrases are the single most important tool used in
keeping control of the conversation. Phrases such as “OMG (Oh
My God),” “Check this out…,” or “You’ll never believe what
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onto any topic you want. Usually, these will be used to tell stories
that make her laugh, portray you in a good light, or to play fun
games that encourage her to invest in the conversation and subse-
quently provide you with an opportunity to compliment her based
on how well she performed.
Comfort is an absolute must when it comes time for a girl to decide if she will actually
meet up with a guy she met online.
Role-Playing To Create Shared Memories

Role-playing is one of the best ways to build comfort. Comfort is
an absolute must when it comes time for a girl to decide if she will
actually meet up with a guy she met online. She will not meet up
with you without it. Since you can’t actually create real experiences
with her out in the world, get her to imagine some. An imagined
experience is just as powerful as an actual experience. Here are a
few examples of role-playing:
You’re kinda fun… I think I’m going wrap you in bubble wrap, pack you in
my suitcase and take you to New York with me. We’ll go shopping and get all
dressed up and pretend like we own Central Park.
You are so funny. I’m going wrap you up in bubble wrap, pack you in my suitcase
and take you to Italy with me. I’ll dress up like a priest and you’ll dress up
like a nun. We’ll run around everywhere holding hands and goosing each
other while we make out, just so we can see the reaction on people’s faces.

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And then we’ll go eat some sushi, because I love seafood, and I’ve always
wondered if the sushi is any good in Italy :)
If you were to take me on a surprise vacation anywhere in the world where

would you take me, and what would we do? Wait until you hear my answer!
As demonstrated in this last example, adding “wait until you hear

my answer” at the end of any question engages her curiosity and
drastically increases the odds of her complying and answering the
question herself. Even if she doesn’t really want to answer it, she
will because she wants to know what your answer will be.
Using Games
Fun little games are a great way to engage her in the conversation.
It is also a great way to learn about her and find opportunities to
compliment her. Remember, if she is having fun, she will stay in the
conversation. Use a transitional phrase to lead into a game at any
time. Here are a few examples of some fun games to use:
UÊ Example 1
Guess what? I’ve devised a test to tell how creative someone is. It took me
years of study and research to develop it. I’m warning you…it’s very difficult!!!
Very few have ever had the strength to complete it.

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Finish this poem:
Roses are red

Violets are blue...
good luck :)
UÊ Example 2
OMG I just read this today in a girlie magazine.
Would you rather…have an amazing singing voice but never be famous, or

be famous with a crappy voice, and that’s what you were famous for?
be invisible, or be able to fly?
have one year of amazing, toe-curling, neighbor-calling-911 sex and the next
year of no sex, or would you rather have two years of so-so sex?
Good luck :)
Notice that you’re not asking her to play a game (i.e. a direct
question) because she can either say yes or no to that. You are
simply presenting the rules and adding “Good Luck :)” at the end
of the statement which is another indirect way of compelling her
to comply. Also notice the use of third party verification (i.e. “I just
read this today in a girlie magazine”) which removes responsibility
from you.

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A great place to find fun games, quizzes, or stories to tell is by actually

reading girlie magazines like Cosmopolitan, Seventeen, Vogue, etc.
In fact, if you don’t have any, go pick up copies of these magazines
right now. It is a great way to gain insight into a woman’s mindset
and you can exercise that knowledge in your interactions.
IF YOU GET “CAUGHT” USING THE SAME MESSAGE

It is bound to happen. You’ve messaged a girl and she replies that
either you or some other guy sent her the same message. There
are several ways to handle this. The easiest is to just click next and
move on. However, the fact that she responded means she is still
interacting with you. As long as she is doing that, it is possible to
bring her around. Remember, the opposite of love is not hate, but
indifference. Here are some examples of things you could say if you
sent her the same message:
I must have really wanted to talk to you…haha {change subject}
My mistake. I hit my head while {something silly i.e. mud wrestling, cliff diving, etc.}
Let me make it up to you. Here is a joke my nephew told me today…
I just wanted to give you a second chance to make a better first impression…
haha…j/k {change subject}

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If she received the same message from someone else you could use
any of these:
I can’t help it that so many people want to be like me…haha {change subject}
Really? Which one of us is cuter?…haha {change subject}
That was my evil twin. I swear I’m the good one…haha {change subject}
WHEN TO ADD HER AS A FRIEND

When talking to a girl, add her as your friend as soon as possible.
We usually add her as soon as she says something that makes her
fun, cool, etc. and therefore have a reason for adding her. You
can try experimenting with doing this at different times throughout
your interaction. You can even do it as a mini reward by saying
something like:
Wow you’re kinda fun :). I am going to add you to my MySpace circle of friends
on a probationary basis. But if you start causing trouble (you do seem like a
bit of a troublemaker) I’m sending you straight to Tom…haha

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WHY DO YOU WANT HER TO BE YOUR FRIEND?

Once you add her, she is now in your personal network and will
see your bulletins, mini-feeds and other notifications. It’s not un-
common for us to have girls respond to our bulletins and end up
giving us their numbers even when they had previously stopped
responding to our messages. Another reason to add her is that
you’ll show up in her friend’s list which builds your social proof and
gives people another opportunity to find you.
USING BULLETINS, BLOGS, AND NOTES

Posting interesting, fun, playful, or controversial bulletins, blogs or
notes is a great way to re-initiate conversations with girls who
have previously dropped off. It is also a useful tool to further build
attraction and manage conversations with multiple girls at once. The
type of bulletin you post can demonstrate a wide variety of attractive
characteristics.
UÊ
Facebook has developed a feature called Notes that is basically a cross between
a blog and a bulletin. Because Facebook is developed with more privacy in
mind, when you write a note it is not automatically posted on a public board
notifying all of your friends. You have to actually select/tag which people on
your friends list you want to be notified of your posting.
To use this feature simply click “more” under the list of Applications on the
left side of the page and then select “Notes”.

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One way to come up with interesting bulletins is to copy short

quizzes, statistics, or quotes out of a girlie magazine like
Cosmopolitan. Another way is to simply copy bulletins girls
have already posted. Remember to fill your bulletins with the
topics girls love to talk about (i.e. relationships and the
unknown). Here are a few examples of bulletins we have had
great success with:
UÊ Example 1
Subject:
Do you have what it takes? GIRLFRIEND application
Body:
GIRLFRIEND application
Guys, you’re welcome to repost this Girls, I would prefer it if

you replied to this in a message, but if you want to post it on
here so all the other girls can see it and be jealous,
that’s cute too ;)
The Basics:
UÊ Name?
UÊ Age?
UÊ Where do you live?
Looks:
UÊ What do you like about your looks?
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UÊ What don’t you like about your looks?

UÊ Do you shave your yoo-hoo?
Tell me about yourself:

UÊ What do you like about yourself?
UÊ What don’t you like about yourself?
UÊ What is the last cd you listened to?
UÊ What is the last movie you watched?
UÊ Are you a party girl?
UÊ What are you wearing right now?
UÊ What are your hobbies?
UÊ What are your dreams/goals?
Important Questions:
UÊ How do you feel about guys’ nights?
UÊ Would you have to know where I am every second?
UÊ Would you want me to call you every day?
UÊ Would you be okay with me having girlfriends?
UÊ If we made plans to go on a date and 30 minutes before the
date your best friend calls you crying, begging you to come over
because she needs someone to talk to, what would you do?
UÊ If I got drunk at a party and made out with an ugly girl what
would you do?
UÊ If I got drunk at a party and made out with a really attractive
girl what would you do?
UÊ How would you act if my best girlfriend stayed the night at
my house?
UÊ Are you adventurous in bed? explain…
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UÊ What would you do if I bought you a shirt for your birthday and
you thought it was ugly?
UÊ What do you like about me?
UÊ Anything else you want to tell me?
UÊ Last minute things you wanna say to impress me?
UÊ Example 2
Subject: Are YOU a good kisser?
Body:
According to Discovery Health: “A simple kiss can be a highly
effective method of analyzing how prospective mates stimulate
pleasure centers in the brain. More importantly, kissing can also
be a delightful experience!
By mixing touch, sight, smell, and taste senses with powerful

physical attraction and emotions, kissing can be one of the most
delicate, but often complex, activities shared between two people.”
What do you think about kissing?
Are YOU a good kisser?! If you were to kiss me, how would I rate
you on a scale of 1-10?

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Transitioning To Offline Interaction
FUNDAMENTALS FOR PLANNING AN INVITE

After five or six messages she should be fully engaged, bantering
back and forth, playing your games, and role-playing with you.
The number of messages varies between girls. Some engage right
away and you can set up a meeting within three messages. Some
take a while, and it might take twelve or more. As you gain more
experience with the AIM method, you will begin to calibrate where
you are in the interaction and act accordingly. When she is fully
engaged she is ready to entertain the idea of meeting up with you
in person.
Before you extend an invitation or even drop hints, you must know
what you will be inviting her to. For the first meeting, invite her to
an event that is closely related to something you have in common
(you’ll discover things you have in common through your interaction
and possibly by looking at her profile). Through your online
interactions with her you established a certain level of comfort.
The combination of this and the commonality you share will drastically
increase the odds of her agreeing to meet up with you.
Avoid the typical movie, dinner, or coffee house as the first meeting,
unless she has suggested it, because it’s associated too closely with
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On top of this, we recommend that the first meeting take place at

a public event or other social engagement where multiple people
are present which will further increase her comfort level. So she
doesn’t feel singled out it is advisable that you have friends with
you and/or other people you’ve invited (possibly other girls you’ve
met online). We invite girls to parties, local comedy clubs, concerts,
bowling with friends, etc. Use the newspaper, website or whatever
to keep up with local events. This way you’ll always have something fun
to invite her to. Avoid the typical movie, dinner, or coffee house as
the first meeting, unless she has suggested it, because it’s associated
too closely with the “nice guy” first date.
From your perspective, you need to invite her to do something you

will be fine doing with or without her. If this is not true you run the
risk of subconsciously communicating desperation or dependency.
When you are detached from the outcome, you’ll portray yourself
as having an exciting life full of fun events and the fact that you’re
inviting her is just her opportunity to experience your world.
PLANTING THE SEED FOR MEETING UP

Now that you know what you’re inviting her to, the next step is to
seed the invite. This is done by posing a strategic question.
There are two characteristics which makes it strategic:

1. You ask her if she likes certain key things associated with the
event you have in mind;
2. You word it in such as way that her saying yes is almost guaranteed.

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UÊ Example 1: Taco Tuesday

Do you like tacos, margaritas, good music and great company?
UÊ Example 2: Comedy Club

So do you have a good sense of humor and like laughing so hard you
pee your pants? (ok don’t actually pee your pants…that’s gross…lol)
When you actually extend an invitation to her she’s more likely to

say “yes” having already agreed to liking the things associated
with the event.
USING DISQUALIFIERS
It is helpful to use a disqualifier while dangling the possibility of an
invitation before her. It insinuates that she can only meet up with
you if she meets certain criteria and will enhance her comfort level
even more because it communicates that you do not invite just any
girl. Behind the scenes you should hold the belief that only girls
who are fun, exciting and have something to add are worthy of an
invitation to hang out with you. Remember, a girl likes a guy with
standards. Here are a few examples:
UÊ Example 1
I’ll invite you as long as you promise not to be some crazy MySpace/
Facebook stalker chick who’s gonna make fun of my G.I. Joe collec-
tion (hey he is a REAL American hero)…haha

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UÊ Example 2
You do watch “The Hills” don’t you?! Actually you would have to love
making fun of stuck up rich girls’ drama on tv and pass the rhyme test in
order for me to invite you.
Only girls who are fun, exciting and have something to add are
worthy of an invitation to hang out with you.
UÊ Example 3
You can come to our party as long as you promise not to steal our furni-
ture (we just re-conditioned our couches) and eat all the marshmallows
out of our Lucky Charms…haha
GETTING HER NUMBER

There’s a reason we talk about setting up the invite before getting
her number. You never want the thought to cross her mind that
the point of your intention was to acquire her number. This won’t
happen with our method because you only need the number as
a logistical tool to set up the details of the event you’ve decided
to invite her to. Although her number is a key component in the
next section for setting up a solid meeting, right now it is only a
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has earned. In order to give her the details, you need her number.
The number is not the focus; it is the fact that you are meeting up.
The following is something you could say:
You passed…barely ;) As a result, you scored an invite to come to {some event}.
Shoot me over your # and I’ll text you the details. Plus we get to become
text buddies :)
The important thing about this message is that you inform her that
she’s scored an invite based on her passing a test or proving herself
worthy in some other way. This makes her feel like she’s earned it
and is therefore more likely to comply and send you her number.
When she writes back with her number, give her yours in return:
Here’s my # (you seem safe enough...lol)
one.two.three-five.five.five-five.six.seven.eight
I know I never answer unless I know the #. Also lucky for you I am gong to txt
over the funniest joke I just heard.
This makes the first text pretty easy as she is expecting you to send
her a joke (remember 4th grade humor is still funny). Here are
some examples of jokes we use:

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Q: What has a bottom at the top?

A: Your legs
Q:
Q: What did the fish say when it swam into a wall?
A: Dam
Q: What kind of bees make milk?

A: Boobees A:
Q: What did one saggy boob say to the other?
A: We better get support soon or people are going to think
we’re nuts
Another way to get her number is to say something like,“This

MySpace/Facebook thing takes too long. I am going to be away
from my computer for a while but would really like to continue
this conversation. Just text me instead.” The funny thing is, she
does not have your number yet, so she will have to address this in
the next thread of the conversation.
When she asks you for your number, give it to her. A method we
have used that makes it more fun is to write out your number. For
example, if your number starts with 858, write it as eight, five, eight.
In the case where you give her your number, make sure you say
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ease by communicating that you don’t just give out your number to
anyone. A girl feels much safer if she feels as if she has earned it.
Every now and then you will come across a girl who says she
doesn’t have a cell phone, her phone is broken, or she doesn’t give
out her number to strangers. If this occurs, chances are you have
brought up the issue of her number too soon; you have not built
enough comfort and trust. Don’t worry. Remember, IT’S NOT A
BIG DEAL. Just throw out a comment about how you are relieved
(i.e. “phewww…good…I was afraid you were going to give it to
me and expect me to call you to check in all time…haha”), or
tease her (i.e. “it’s cool if your parole officer won’t let you talk on
a cell phone…I would hate for our friendship to be based solely
on conjugal visits…haha”) and go back to building more comfort
and ask again later.
If you ask for her number and she completely ignores the issue, it
could be because she either was so intent on answering another
part of the message that she totally missed it, forgot, or she just
needs more comfort and trust built up. Once again, just continue
having fun and bring it up again later.

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PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER: SAMPLE INTERACTION

Here is a real life interaction from start to finish to help you see
how all the pieces fit together.
More sample interactions can be found on our website at

From: Race
Date: Aug 22, 2007 3:46 PM
I think you know my friend? :)
-Race
From: Girl
Date: Aug 24, 2007 6:02 PM
Hi! so...who of your friends do I know? :)
Ness
From: Race
Date: Aug 24, 2007 6:10 PM
Tom...haha j/k John
He said you are cool and kinda nerdy (you do seem kinda nerdy
in a fun way...haha) He also said you are pretty good at thumb
wrestling...I’m telling you right now to just forget about it. I
haven’t been beat in 7yrs. Took all state in 99. I go to sleep every
night with the trophy in my arms...haha
From: Girl
Date: Aug 24, 2007 6:50 PM
Wow...you know my secret shame! All state huh...impressive!!

lol...so how does this John you speak of know me?
From: Race
Date: Aug 24, 2007 7:38 PM
Why thank you! I can’t remember where he said he knows you

from? You seem kinda fun and creative so I read these today in
a Girlie Magazine. Would you rather:
1. live in a mansion on the lake or a shack on the beach?

2. be 3’7 or 7’3 (keeping the same body proportions)?
3. have a year of amazing, mind-blowing, toe curling sex and then
no sex for the next year or two years of so-so sex?
Good luck :)
From: Girl
Date: Aug 24, 2007 9:15 PM
And what Girlie Magazine and why were you reading it?! Oh
whatever...to answer your silly and random questions, I would
want the mansion on the lake...more room to live with, still have
all the fun on the water, and beaches are always so crowded. I think
i’d rather be 7’3...im short already so being tall would be fun and
i’d still be able to ride the big rides at six flags, and definitely the
year of mind-blowing sex cause that would give me something to
think about in the year you’re not having any sex. Who just wants
so-so sex...?
How did I do? :)
From: Race
Date: Aug 26, 2007 7:13 PM
You passed...barely. JK :) I actually picked 1 year of mind-blowing,

toe curling, 911-calling sex because you do that the first year and the
second year you can just cheat ;)
OK, according to the officially sanctioned rules, you now have to

come up with a “Would you rather” question and it can’t be any of
the three I already asked.
From: Girl
Date: Aug 27, 2007 1:31 AM
well I guess thats good that we agree on the sex question of the
“would you rather” game :) this is kinda fun. I found some that are
interesting ... would you rather...
always have to say what’s on your mind or never speak again?
be stranded on an island alone or with someone you hate?
be rich but hate your job or make less money with a job you like?
good luck!! :)
From: Race
Date: Aug 27, 2007 11:32 AM
Hey you are kinda good at this :) What else are you good at...wink
wink. I can bake 30 min brownies in 29 minutes!..haha
I would always say what’s on my mind but I would learn a bunch

of different languages (like pig latin) so when it was something
mean or embarrassing I would just say it in a language they didn’t
understand
I would rather be stuck on an island with someone I hate because

make up sex is the best!
make less and love my job, then meet a cute esthetician online
and live in her mansion on the lake and watch the hills on mon-
day nights..haha
you do watch “The Hills” don’t you?! Actually you would have to
love making fun of stuck up rich girls drama on tv and pass the
rhyme test in order for me to invite you
From: Girl
Date: Aug 27, 2007 3:32 PM
Rhyme test? You never said anything about a test :) Yes...not too
many people know but I do watch The Hills...not regularly though,
if im home... :) Now you know that and about my thumb wrestling
skills...im out of secrets.
Thats pretty sweet about the 29 min. brownies...you’ve impressed

me yet again...smiley face!!
From: Race
Date: Aug 27, 2007 3:50 PM
Don’t worry, it’s a really easy test (well, not really. It’s actually
pretty hard but I wanted to make you feel better about it).
Finish this poem:
Roses are red

Violets are blue...
Good luck! :)
From: Girl
Date: Aug 27, 2007 4:00 PM
Roses are red

Violets are blue
Sugar is sweet
And so are you
classic :)
But the Roses are wilted

The Violets are dead
The sugar bowl’s empty
And so is my head
haha!! Also, why is it that violets are blue? shouldn’t they be violet
(purple) ? :)
From: Race
Date: Aug 27, 2007 4:16 PM
you passed the test...barely :) j/k you are a quite clever. I like that.
Well you scored an invite to come to my “The Hills” Soiree. We
have so much fun!
Shoot me over your # and I’ll txt you the details. Plus you get
these bonuses:
a new joke my nephew taught me today

and
we get to become txt buddies :)
wow how lucky are you?!?!?
From: Girl
Date: Aug 27, 2007 4:00 PM
ohhh so lucky!! I love jokes :) Im very excited I passed...im not a

good test taker.
(XXX) XXX-XXXX

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SECTION REVIEW
First Things First

UÊ Make your message stand out as she goes through her inbox.
Do not open with compliments or interview style questions;
UÊ Define what you are looking for and message girls who fit those
requirements;
UÊ Weed out fake profiles;
UÊ Increase your odds by messaging women who are listed as not
in a relationship (i.e. single, divorced, swinger);
UÊ For the most part, use correct spelling and grammar in your
messages;
UÊ Keep your initial message short;
UÊ Avoid any form of bragging;
UÊ Wait to send a Friend request until she has earned it;
UÊ Always remember IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL.
Messaging Fundamentals
UÊ Use playful insults to lower her defenses and communicate
disinterest;
UÊ Use emoticons in place of body language i.e. :) ;) :( :-o ;
UÊ Set the conversational frame through teasing and intentional
misinterpretation.
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The Opening Message

UÊ Use an off the wall message subject (i.e. My little Pony) or
incomplete sentences that generate curiosity (i.e. I’m not sure
but… or NO WAY!!!);
UÊ Show little, if any, interest in her at the beginning until she has
earned it;
UÊ Make statements or ask questions that generate curiosity and
require her to get more information from you.
Her Initial Response

UÊ How she responds matters very little;
UÊ Answer her questions, if any, very briefly. Do not provide all the
information necessary to answer her question fully;
UÊ Start demonstrating personality;
UÊ Set up playful challenges (i.e thumb wrestling);
UÊ Set conversational hooks she can use to engage you.

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Conversation
UÊ It is your responsibility to guide the conversation where you
want it to go;
UÊ Use transitional phrases, role-playing and games to build a sense
of comfort and increase attraction;
UÊ Do not force it. Each girl will reply in a slightly different way.
Flow with it;
UÊ If she does not want to be fun and playful back, she is not the
type of girl you want anyway;
UÊ If you get a negative response, use phrases like “wow you sure
are feisty” or “you sure do have some sass there don’t ya.”
UÊ Again, avoid complimenting her early on, wait until she will feel
like she’s earned it;
UÊ Mini compliment her when she does or says something that
actually interests you with phrases like: “you might be kinda fun
after all :)” or “myspace hi-five!”;
UÊ Show some disinterest in her, or some things she does (i.e.“you kinda
remind me of my little sister” or “You are such dork aren’t you”);
UÊ Disregard girls that reply to you in anger (i.e. “i have a boyfriend”
or “why are you writing me”). Delete it and move on;
UÊ Do not bombard her with questions, ask very few. Create ways
for her to talk about herself through hooks and games;
UÊ Use transitional phrases to help control and direct the conversation.
This creates ways for you to tell stories that raise your value, make
her laugh and make her want to invest in the conversation;
UÊ Role-play to build comfort and shared memories. An imagined
experience with you is almost as powerful as an actual experience
with you;
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UÊ Use phrases like “Wait until you hear my answer” and “Good
Luck :)” to increase compliance;
UÊ Play games (i.e. “Finish this poem: Roses are red, violets are
blue…” or anything that has her fill in answers). Don’t forget
to add “good luck” to make her want to comply and play the
game. You can make more games out of quizzes from Cosmo
or Seventeen;
UÊ End your messages with “Gotta go …” and add a fun, cool reason
why you have to go. Even if you make it up, she’ll get the impression
that you’re busy, you do cool things and that people enjoy your
company;
UÊ Add her as a friend as soon as she responds in a fun, playful or
interesting way;
UÊ Use fun, playful, or controversial bulletins to generate conversation
or re-engage girls who have dropped off.
Transitioning To Offline Interaction

UÊ Throughout the conversation use disqualifiers such as “I’ll invite
you as long as you promise not to steal our furniture” or “as
long as you’re not some myspace stalker, feel free to tag along”
so she knows you are safe and have standards;
UÊ Only invite her to things you are already doing. Do not invite her
to dinner or drinks alone;
UÊ If you find a commonality between you associated with an event,
especially one that you are going to, plan to meet up at it;
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UÊ Have her help with ideas for a themed party, she will feel compelled
to come to it.
Getting Her Number

UÊ Seed the invite with questions she will almost certainly say “yes”
to (i.e. “Do you like tacos, margaritas, good music and great
company?”);
UÊ After she plays along with one of the games or quizzes say, “You
barely passed :) so i guess you scored an invite to {an event},
shoot me over your number and I’ll send you the details … plus
we get to be text-aholics together! how lucky are you! lol.”;
UÊ Tell her you’re tired of myspacing and ask her to text you. In
response she’ll ask you for your number. Reply with “you seem
safe enough :) … ok here it is… xxx-xxx-xxxx.”

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Succeeding in getting a girl’s number online is a major indication that

she is interested in you. It means she is comfortable and attracted
enough to accept you as a normal part of her everyday life. Now it is
up to you to maintain that interest and meet her as soon as possible!
Always keep the momentum and excitement you

have built up going, or another man will.
It is best to meet her within a week of getting her number. The target
is to meet her within two to three days, but sometimes people are
legitimately too busy and you need to continue interacting with her
to maintain the excitement about meeting up. When she sent you
her number, she wanted to meet you. If you let too much time pass,
she will no longer be excited about meeting you, and you might as
well forget about her. Always keep the momentum and excitement
you have built up going, or another man will. You have to remember
that the women you are interested in have more men after them

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than you can count. This is why you must continue to differentiate
yourself through the beliefs you hold, the attitudes you portray and
the words you use.
Phone Interaction Fundamentals
MAINTAINING ATTRACTION THROUGH PHONE

GAME UNTIL MEETING
This stage of the AIM method is not very different from the Attract
stage. Each stage of the method is more intimate and immediate than
the last and you will use many of the same principles learned in the
Attract stage to reaffirm her attraction and continue moving forward.
So how do you transition from online communication to the first

meeting? Your new weapon is your phone. Most modern phones
provide a text messaging feature which we recommend using first
for several reasons:
UÊ It’s a more natural transition from messaging online;

UÊ It’s not as intrusive as a phone call;
UÊ You’re not as likely to freeze up or come off as needy or too
strong because you have more time to formulate your responses
without the pressure of realtime conversation.
We recommend you add unlimited texting to your phone plan, as

you will quickly be sending and receiving hundreds of texts. If your

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phone doesn’t have texting capabilities, don’t panic. We included

an entire section on how to handle phone conversations.
DYNAMIC CONVERSATION
Whether it is texting or talking on the phone, do not bore her
with typical uninteresting questions. It is more effective if you act
almost disinterested with her at first. Here are some interesting
conversation starters or fun statements to text to her after you’ve
gotten her number:
You totally tried to pick me up off MySpace/Facebook! You don’t do this all the
time do you?
I saw someone that looks just like you today… Woman, are you stalking me
already!? Lol :)
Hey I heard you were in the wet t-shirt contest at {name a local club or bar here}
last week! Wild child huh? Gee wiz! My mom told me to watch out for gals like
you! … haha
USING FALSE DISQUALIFIERS

Sporadically inject false disqualifiers into your interaction in a
playful way. When a girl feels like she has been disqualified in your
eyes she will start doing things to try and get you to accept her. She
is now chasing you! While it is possible to start a conversation
with a disqualifier, we find that we get more consistent results

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when we use them within the context of an interaction. A perfect

opportunity to use a false disqualifier is any time she voices her
opinion about something. Here are some examples:
UÊ Example 1
You like {something she said she likes} too?! We are way too similar…we
would fight all the time and you’d be bummed cause I’d
always win…haha
UÊ Example 2
Wait, you were born in {any month}, right? So you’re a {associated birth
sign}. Damn it! I knew it. Oh well, I guess i’m just gonna have to break
up with you then and i’ll be asking for my CDs back! Lol ;)
UÊ Example 3
Wait! Are you a dog, or a cat person?
After she answers, one way to respond is like this:

Too bad. We won’t work out, because I am so a {opposite animal of what
she answered} person.
Be sure to deliver disqualifiers in a lighthearted manner and be

sensitive to whether you are offending her or not. Sometimes

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you can unintentionally strike a nerve and hurt her feelings. If this
happens, don’t be overly apologetic. Casually apologize, say you
were joking, and redirect the frame of the conversation by talking
about something less serious.
DON’T ALWAYS BE AVAILABLE

Don’t always reply immediately when she texts you. Taking some
time to respond communicates that you have a lot going on in your
life and that she is not that important to you (she doesn’t want to
feel important to you until she has earned it). On the other hand,
don’t take this to the extreme and wait hours to respond to each
text. Bottom line is you want to make her think you are busy even
if you’re not. By utilizing techniques like this you eventually will be
busy…busy with other girls.
Taking some time to respond communicates that you have a lot

going on in your life and that she is not that important to you
(she doesn’t want to feel important to you until she has earned it)
IMPLYING THE MEET UP

Just as described in the Attract stage, she needs to have thought
about meeting you a few times before she actually does. Some
girls will naturally be more comfortable with the idea of meeting
up with someone they met on the Internet, but either way, it is up
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you. Your best strategy for avoiding the problem of her resisting
an in-person meeting is to anticipate it. You need to remove her
hesitation from meeting you before she ever has any.
Throughout your interactions, playfully say things that imply that

you and her will be hanging out in the future. This realization will
force her to start imagining herself hanging out with you or being
around you and your friends. This way, when you ultimately invite
her to meet up, she is likely to be much more comfortable with the
idea as she has already played out a ton of scenarios in her head.
Here are some examples of how to do this:
How am I supposed to introduce you to my friends with that kinda attitude,

Miss sassy pants!? Haha
Whoa, whoa… Watch your tone, sugar pants! I might have to misplace your
invite to this week’s {name of event}.
DO NOT OVER-TEXT/CALL HER

Just because she doesn’t respond immediately to your text messages
or answer every call doesn’t mean you should text or call her again.
She might be at work, or not have her phone on her. The last thing
you want is for her to get back to her phone and see three missed
texts or three missed phone calls from you. Not only will this annoy
her, it will destroy any attraction you worked to create since this
strongly communicates neediness. Maintain a careful balance of how
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Here are some key indicators that will help you calibrate whether
you are texting/calling her the right amount:
You’re texting/calling her too much if…

UÊ her response time is consistently slow
UÊ she doesn’t engage you in conversation or latch onto your hooks
UÊ she consistently gives you one word replies
Just because she
UÊ she doesn’t initiate text/phone call interactions
You’re texting/calling her the right amount if… doesn’t respond
UÊ she initiates text/phone call interactions

immediately to your
UÊ she responds to text/phone calls quickly
UÊ she readily engages you in conversation, latches onto your hooks text messages or
UÊ she propels the interaction forward by asking questions
answer every call
Keep these in mind so you’re in tune with whether you are texting/
calling her too much and so you have an idea of her interest level. doesn’t mean you
If she stops showing interest in you, do not just continue to text/call
her day after day without a response. In this case, you want to take should text or call
a step back and use techniques from the Attract stage to build up
her attraction again. Send her periodic messages online and text her again.
messages for a couple weeks. If she doesn’t respond favorably after
this, cut her off and move on.
If she hasn’t responded for over a week you can text her
something like “R u still alive?” or “Haven’t heard from
you in a while, is this still your number? I’m deleting #s to
clean up my phone :)”
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Interacting
THE FIRST TEXT

Do not think of every message you have had back and forth with
a girl as individual messages, but as an ongoing conversation. That
being said, the transition from communicating online through the
phone has some important considerations. There are a few things
that you should not text your first few times, such as:
Hey, what’s up?

It’s me.
I hope you’re having a great day!
Those types of texts are lame and put you into the lame category.
Our goal is to stay as far away from that as possible. If you used the
routine that set her up for receiving a joke from you, send it. No
need to explain that it is you, the guy from MySpace/Facebook. You
will be the only guy sending her a joke from an unknown number
that day. If you used the other technique of having her message
you first, respond to it jokingly. Remember that 4th grade humor
is what works on girls. Lighthearted, super-silly jokes win women
over. NEVER BE TOO SERIOUS!
More examples of text messages and interactions can be found

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Another way to open in the first text you send her is to tell her you
think you have a new nickname for her.
You:
I think I might have a new nickname for ya :)
Her:
Oh yeah? What’s that?
You:
I think {place your nickname here, i.e. snuffuluffugus, nerdball, twinkle toes, sugar pants
or something that you can make fun of pertaining to her} fits you well...lol
Her:
Oh really, Why’s that? I think {nickname} fits you…haha
or even
I love that blah blah blah…
You:
{here you would continue teasing her choice of nicknames, or just kindly poke fun at her.
One or two more text replies, and then delay your response time by a few hours.}
Now that you’ve gotten the first text interaction out of the way, con-
tinue messaging her using techniques you learned in the Attract stage
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the beginning of this section. Now that you are a regular part of her
life and thoughts through texting, there is a more delicate balance
to consider (see: DO NOT OVER-TEXT / CALL HER section for more
details).
CONTINUE THE INTERACTION

It is entirely possible to never speak to her on the phone before
you meet her. However, you still have to interact with her in a way
that builds attraction and comfort in order for her to meet up with
you. You do this by utilizing the phone interaction fundamentals
we covered previously.
Here they are again briefly:

UÊ Converse about fun things and be playful;
UÊ Use false disqualifiers periodically to continue to build her
attraction to you as well as put her mind at ease about what
your intentions are;
UÊ Use games throughout your text interactions to keep the
tone of the conversation playful;
UÊ Use emoticons in place of vocal tone and body language to ensure
the meaning of your message is conveyed to her;
UÊ Continue or even start new role-playing to allow her to create
and build shared memories with you;
UÊ Don’t always be available;
UÊ Sporadically imply that you two will be meeting up.

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The Phone Call
There will be a point in time when you may talk to her on the
phone. It may be right away, or it may be only right before you
meet her. Either way, comfort is the key. It is important to establish
the frame of her being a girl you have known for quite some time.
This will allow for more comfortable and natural conversations
because she will take on your frame and begin to believe that you
are someone she has known for a while.
This will be the first realtime interaction you have with her. You
will have some anxiety, as we all do when we are interested in some-
one, but do not let this get in the way and deter your progress.
Throughout the conversation she will subconsciously be process-
ing everything you say and testing it for congruence with who she
thought you were based on previous interactions. Do your best to
be consistent with the tone you set previously (i.e. joke around the
same way, tease her the same, etc.). The following are some critical
points to remember during the phone call:
UÊ Regardless of whether you call her or she calls you, set a time
constraint at the beginning of the conversation. This removes
any anxiety in relation to how long you will want to talk and
gives you control of the conversation. For example:
Hey, what’s up {funny nickname}? I can only talk for a little bit. Do you
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UÊ This communicates that you aren’t going to be able to talk long,

and asking if they have a second makes them stop whatever
they are doing to give you their undivided attention.
UÊ Start by making her laugh. If you ask what she is doing and she
says she is at work, you can reply with “Oh… so you’re a working
girl, huh? I thought more of you… Jeez…” and say it in a playful
manner. If she says she is just hanging out, you reply with, “Well
put it away... Gosh. You’re an exhibitionist aren’t you!?”.
UÊ Be lighthearted, and chat with her about fun things. Recall
the techniques you used in the Attract stage and modify them
slightly to work over the phone.
UÊ Be conscious of the speed at which you are speaking. Speak
slowly and pause often.
UÊ Speak clearly and audibly.
UÊ Tell her what you want. Don’t ask her what she wants.
UÊ If she doesn’t answer, only leave a one-line voice message such
as, “Hey {pause} it’s {your name}. Will chat with you later.” DO
NOT go into detail about what you were going to chat about.
Keep it short with no information and imply that you will talk
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Locking Down The Meeting
Throughout the Attract and Interact stages you built attraction by

being fun and communicating that you have a lot of interesting
things going on. You also increased her comfort level with the idea
of meeting you by implying that you would invite her to things if
she lives up to your standards. At this point, she knows you’re fun,
safe, and have random fun events that you host at your place and/
or go to regularly. She is also under the impression that you have
your own social circle outside of her. Here are some examples of
how to properly invite her:
Hey {silly nickname}, some of us are going to {some event/fun place}. If your parole
officer will let you, you should tag along! :)
If it’s pretty early, like five in afternoon, say something like,
If it’s not past your bedtime, a group of us are going to {some afternoon event}.
You should put on something cute and join us!
And when she shows up, joke around and be like,
I thought you were gonna wear something cute?
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Taco Tuesday {or whatever event} is at 9 tonight at my pad! As long as you

promise not to steal my furniture (I just re-conditioned the couches), you
should join us. Will be a fun group! Feel free to bring a few friends, but
they must be fun!
or
Taco Tuesday {or whatever event} is at 9 tonight at my pad! As long as you

promise not to stalk me later, you should join us. Will be a fun group! Feel
free to bring a few friends, but they must be fun!
The idea is to invite her to do something she knows you were

already doing and will be doing regardless of whether she shows
up or not. It must also be clear to her that it is not a one-on-
one meeting. Knowing that there will be other people there will
make her feel safe. She will appreciate this kind of invite because
it preemptively addresses concerns she would naturally have about
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SECTION REVIEW
UÊ Meet within a week of getting her number.
Texting
UÊ Write to her as if you already known her or with a very playful
message/joke;
UÊ Reaffirm her attraction to you;
UÊ Be playful, lighthearted and not serious;
UÊ Use 4th grade humor;
UÊ Keep her attention by being exciting and playful;
UÊ Continue all texts (no matter the time between them) as one,
ongoing conversation;
UÊ Don’t always be available to reply to her texts;
UÊ Use playful disqualifiers (i.e. text her something like “I saw a
gal today that looks just like you, woman... are you stalking me
already!! JEEZ! lol :)” ).
Phone calls
UÊ Open each call with a greeting immediately followed by a time
constraint (i.e. “Hey! I only have a second to chat but …” );
UÊ Have stuff going on around you, and have to step out in order
to talk to her, even if it means having your radio loud when
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UÊ Recall the techniques you used in the Attract stage and modify
them slightly to work over the phone;
UÊ If there is no answer, only leave a one-line voice message without
any details about why you were calling;
UÊ Use nicknames;
UÊ Be consistent with the tone you set in previous interactions;
UÊ Set hooks to help transition to meeting up;
UÊ Say things like “when we go to {wherever} …” so that she will
have to imagine herself out with you.
Locking down a meeting

UÊ Make sure the timing is right. Take into account if she is into you
by analyzing your interactions (i.e. are they frequent, does she
initiate them, does she engage you and respond quickly, etc.);
UÊ Use playful jokes about her in your invite (i.e. “if it’s not past
your bedtime…” );
UÊ Invite her to something that will happen whether or not she is
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Meeting For The First Time
You have successfully engaged a girl online and made her

comfortable and attracted to you enough to meet you. So you did
everything right up to this point.
This stage is different than the previous two because it incorporates

many more principles of attraction, such as: body language, vocal
tone, congruence, true social proofing, push away/pull back, time
distortion, changing locations, playful teasing, Kino, and story
telling.. We cover these in the Social Fundamentals section.
You have been a really cool guy up to this point,

now it’s time to lock in her comfort
You will use these principles to validate the feelings she wants to
have for you. You have been a really cool guy up to this point, now
it’s time to lock in her comfort and continue to build her attraction
to you.

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HER ARRIVAL AT THE MEETING LOCATION
The Environment
The environment that she is exposed to, the one you invited her
to, must be exciting, comfortable, and fun. If you have a bunch
of boring people there and nothing going on when she arrives, it
will translate to you being boring. Even if you need to start out by
doing group activities at events that are already taking place (i.e.
concerts, festivals, other peoples’ parties), that is fine.
Everything that she experiences and encounters in your home will

reflect positively or negatively on you. Take care to invite the right
kind of people there, set the appropriate mood with activities, and
ensure that the house is clean and has a decent smell throughout.
If the initial meeting is taking place at your house there are

additional things to consider. Everything that she experiences and
encounters in your home will reflect positively or negatively on you.
Take care to invite the right kind of people there, set the appropriate
mood with activities, and ensure that the house is clean and has a
decent smell throughout. The following is a list of some activities
and mood enhancers we use at our house:
UÊ Hookah and tobacco (used in association with the Hookah

Method this is very powerful; this method, and others mentioned
in this list are explained on our website at
www.windowshoppingforwomen.com)

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UÊ A Beer Pong table or some collection of material that can be

used for a makeshift Beer Pong table;
UÊ A party playlist on that helps to set mood (something unique we
do is include funny movie quotes at random times throughout
the playlist);
UÊ Dimmers on the lights to set the appropriate mood;
UÊ Fun games like Catch Phrase, cards for fun drinking games, and
other games that can engage everyone in a fun group activity;
UÊ Fun reading material on coffee tables and in the bathroom such
as Guide To Getting It On, The Cosmo Kama Sutra (which is great
to use to play sex charades), and other fun reading material.
Be busy when she arrives

When she arrives, greet her by saying, “Hey what’s up {stupid nick-
name},” but then go back to being busy with something you were
doing for a moment. Busy yourself with anything, even if it’s finish-
ing up in the kitchen, telling a funny story to a group of people,
acting like you are fixing the stereo/campfire/hookah, or even act-
ing like you are on the phone giving directions to wherever you
are. The point is to make her wait between thirty seconds to a
minute to get your attention when she arrives. After that, give her
your undivided attention for a small period of time. The idea is that
you don’t want to be immediately available to her. This starts your
physical interaction with her wanting your attention, which is a
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The first five seconds with her

The first five seconds when meeting a girl are critical. During this
period of time she is consciously and subconsciously scanning you
and the environment for all sorts of things. In analyzing this minutia
she will validate or invalidate any feelings you and her had built up
in the previous stages.
YOU MUST NOT INTRODUCE YOURSELF TO HER! Doing so will

destroy the veil of comfort you worked so hard to create when
building shared memories through role-playing.
You must not introduce yourself to her. Again, YOU MUST NOT
INTRODUCE YOURSELF TO HER! Doing so will destroy the veil of
comfort you worked so hard to create when building shared memories
through role-playing. Even though these memories are “fake”, the
fact that she has an imaginary history with you will make her much
more comfortable when meeting you. The way you present yourself
in the first five seconds will dictate her comfort level. She will wait
to see how you act in order to gauge how she should act in this
situation. If you act weird, she will feel awkward and therefore act
weird as well. Act as if you are old friends (i.e. call her a fun nick-
name and give her a hug), or better yet, tease her as if she’s a bratty,
little girl. In either case she will feel more comfortable because you’re
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Joking with her like a bratty, little girl has the extra benefit of putting
her in a position where she feels disqualified and will therefore make
her feel compelled to work to earn your good favor.
IF SHE SHOWS UP WITH A FRIEND

This is ideal; one more girl to choose from. It is important to give
her friend attention in order to win her over. Do not attempt to
separate her from her friend until 1) you have won her friend over
to liking you and 2) another person or group at the meeting location
is engaging her friend. These dynamics are important because the
length of time she stays is not only dependent on her own fun but
on whether or not her friend is enjoying herself. Her first priority is
to her friend and if her friend is bored, they will both leave.
Know that if she came with a friend, she will leave with a friend,
so her staying the night is probably not in the cards. This is ok. Just
make progress and plan to meet up again.
INTRODUCING HER TO THE OTHER PEOPLE THERE

It’s a good idea to have friends at the event so you can introduce
her to people who already know you and think you are cool. This
enhances your social proof. You do not want to introduce her as
“the girl I met on MySpace/Facebook.” You need to introduce her
to people as someone who is and has been a part of your life. A
good way to do this is to come up with a funny “backstory” with
her before she arrives (just let her know you don’t want to introduce

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her as the girl that totally picked you up online) or you can just
make up a story on the spot. Here are some examples:
UÊ She’s your ex-girlfriend, but you had to break up with her.

She just wasn’t providing for you sexually. Don’t get me
wrong. She’s wild. She was just into different things, and I
mean different things…
UÊ You two were in a River Dancing class in the 6th grade together
and she would always try to hit on you, but you thought she
had cooties, so she finally got tested. Thank God … no more
cooties.
The point is to make it kind of funny (obviously not true) and tell
the story in a very lighthearted, fun manner. In addition to having a
funny story to how you know each other, add a fun little tag to the
end of the introduction. Here’s an example of how an introduction
may go:
You:
Hey Mike, this is {her name}.
{Her name}, this is Mike.
Both:
Nice to meet you… {blah blah}

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You:
It’s so funny how we meet. We were in River Dancing class together in 6th
grade. She always tried to be all over me, but obviously, shit, I thought she
had cooties! Well, she finally got tested, and thank God… no more cooties.
Haha.
Anyway, we have to show her a good time. She just got out
of the slammer! lol!
CONGRATULATIONS
You’ve done it! You have successfully picked up a girl and/or girls
from MySpace, Facebook or some other site! Always remember that
every attraction and interaction process happens a little differently.
Try to learn something from each girl and refine your skills. It will
eventually become second nature to you.
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SECTION REVIEW
UÊ Be busy for thirty seconds to a minute when she shows up (i.e.
giving directions on the phone, telling a joke/story to a group of
people, etc.);
UÊ Hug her and greet her like you are old friends. Do not introduce
yourself to her!;
UÊ Have something going on wherever she shows up to meet you
(i.e. music playing, group games, Beer Pong tournament). If you
are meeting out somewhere, just be with a group of exciting
people;
UÊ Use big and exciting body language;
UÊ If she brings a friend, take time to win her friend over;
UÊ Introduce her to the group;
UÊ Have other girls there, even if they are just the friends of other
people in the group;
UÊ Use a funny role-playing introduction;
UÊ If you’re meeting at your place make sure you invite good company,
have fun things to do and that it’s clean.

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Social Fundamentals
Now that you have a girl you’ve met online at the meeting location, it
would be negligent of us to leave you without some further guidance.
Here are a few fundamental principles that will help you in any
social situation. These are guiding principles that physically build
attraction between women and men, as well as help you secure
a second meeting with her. This list is in no way exhaustive. There
have been many books written on these subjects that go into far
more detail. We highly recommend you read them. We provide a list
of these books on our website at
BODY LANGUAGE AND VOCAL TONE

Now that you are with her in person she will subconsciously take
note of visual and tonal clues to piece together your personality.
Here are some things to keep in mind so that you come across as a
cool and confident guy:
UÊ When you speak, be sure to look people directly in the eyes;
UÊ Be a little over-dramatic when telling stories;
UÊ Use big hand and body gestures when speaking;
UÊ Stand up straight with your shoulders back;
UÊ Do not put your hands in your pockets or cross your arms. These
are visual signs of weakness and you close yourself off to the
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UÊ Speak loud enough for people in other conversations to hear

you, but don’t yell. What you have to say is important;
UÊ Speak with a deep, firm voice, and do not get over excited and
speak a million miles an hour;
UÊ Move around from group to group. Be social. Don’t be fidgety.
People can form
TRUE SOCIAL PROOF
Now that she is there with you in person, she can take note of how
their entire opinion
other people respond to you. This tells her a great deal about you
as a person. Do people respond to what you say? Do they laugh at
of you based on
your jokes? Do they seem closed off after you enter their group?
Make sure that she sees you talking to most of the people there
how others respond
and that people respond to the things that you say. This also transfers
over to everyday social situations.
to you.
PUSH AWAY, PULL BACK

Spread Out Your Attention
Like we said before, do not smother her with all of your attention
now that you are around her. Spend a few minutes with her and
then give some other people your attention. Even if you are in a
situation where she is the only person you know there, branch out
and meet new people. This demonstrates confidence, social savvy,
and strong leadership skills. Women find this very attractive. In
addition, this leaves her actively seeking your attention and builds
your social proof.

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Maintain Your Own Identity

Do not agree with everything she says. She might be testing you.
Many girls do this to see if a guy will stand up to them. Guys often
disregard their own beliefs and preferences by agreeing with the
girl they are pursuing in an attempt to create a fake commonality.
They believe this will make her like them more. This is not the case.
She will find you weak and assume she can walk all over you. It
is better to disagree with her sometimes, and there is no need to
apologize for it. However, do not disagree with her just for the sake
of arguing because then you become annoying.
Her:
Do you like U2?
You:
Not really
Her:
Really I LOVE them!
You [incorrect response]:

Yah I guess they are pretty good
You [correct response]:

Oh you are a U2 girl huh? What’s wrong? You still haven’t found what
you are looking for? I’m right here sweetheart...haha

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As you can see in the example above, maintaining your own identity
also creates opportunities for you to tease her.
PLAYFUL TEASING
Be sure to make fun of her periodically in a very playful manner.
For example:
You:
You are a rich girl, right?
Her:
Haha no, but I sure am nice.
You:
That’s too bad. I’ve been looking for a sugar mama. Haha.
Or even mix false disqualifiers and funny insults into a statement

like you did when you messaged her. This keeps her laughing, lets
her know you’re not being too serious, and keeps her on her toes
wondering if you actually like her or not.
Another way to use playful teasing is to intentionally misunder-

stand her in a playful way. What this means is to outwardly assume
that when she says something good, she is directing it towards
you. For instance, if she is looking at another object or person and
pays it/them a compliment you should just respond as if she was
talking to you. Here are some examples:

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UÊ Example 1
Her:
Oh! How cute! {looking at a little puppy, or anything really}
You:
ah…Thank you, but this is actually my better side
{turn your head and make a silly face, or do a playful pose}
UÊ Example 2
Her:
I’m going shopping later…
You:
You are so sweet! what are you getting me!?
UÊ Example 3
You:
How was your day?
Her:
I’ve had such a good day today…
You:
You must have really thought about me a lot today then huh?...
When using these misinterpretations always smile big and

laugh at the end of them.

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KINO
Kino is the art of touch; when to touch, how to touch, and where
to touch. Use this technique to start confirming attraction, building
her comfort with physical intimacy, and escalate your relationship.
Be sure she knows every time you touch her it is deliberate. Touch
her with authority.
You want to start kino the moment you meet her. Start with a hug
and then gently push her away. When you talk to anyone, you
should be touching them throughout the conversation (i.e. grab
their shoulder, nudge them in the arm when they say something
silly, etc). As time passes, escalate the amount of kino and how you
do it. Start with nudges, shoulder grabs, and move to holding her
hand. Then let her hand go periodically. Take her hand and place it
on your leg. Take into account whether she leaves it there or pulls
it off. If she leaves it there, take her hand off your leg after a few
minutes, or push it off and say. “That is all you get for now.”
Remember, everything is done in a playful manner.
If you’re having difficulty with kino, you can play simple games that
will force you to touch each other such as hot hands, thumb wars,
patty cake or teach her a secret handshake. As you grab hands,
joke around about how cold or hot her hands are. Also, you want
to play all these games while looking directly into her eyes. And
remember to smile and laugh! You are the one that sets the mood,
so make it a fun one.

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All of this gets her used to having you touch her, puts you in control
of the situation and escalates your physical relationship. Remember,
this is all stuff you do within the first meeting.
CREATE JEALOUSY
“The fear of loss is much more powerful than the hope for gain.” - Unknown
Simply by introducing her to other girls present and by talking to the

other girls periodically, flirting or not, creates a small but powerful
sense of jealousy.
This tactic plays with emotions and in a way the girl will not even
notice. Simply by introducing her to other girls present and by talk-
ing to the other girls periodically, flirting or not, creates a small but
powerful sense of jealousy. Women want what they can’t have.
This being said, when a girl who is not sure if she likes you or not
sees you talking to other women, her jealousy will cause her to
acknowledge any attraction she has towards you. Therefore she
will like you more than she already did. Be careful with this tactic
though. Do not intentionally try to make your girl jealous, as it will
be very apparent and thus unattractive. Just be a cool guy who
talks and kind of flirts with everyone in a lighthearted manner.

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TIME DISTORTION AND CHANGING LOCATIONS

This is a psychological phenomenon. By changing locations you
can distort time you can distort time or make a short period of
time seem like a significantly longer period of time. You want to
make the girl feel as comfortable as possible with you, as soon as
possible. Your goal is to have the girl tell you that she feels like she
has known you for so long or forever.
When you move around to several different locations quickly with

someone you’ve just met, it blurs the timeline in their head. On top of
that, it forces them to build trust in you almost immediately, because
they are trusting you to take them to other locations safely. This even
works when moving between different rooms in the same house.
The fact that they have been in several different rooms with you
makes the timeline in their head seem much longer.
A quick way to time distort someone is to have them go to the

store with you to get more food and drinks an hour or so after they
show up to the event.
STORY TELLING
Telling stories is a great way to communicate your attractive qualities
in a way that is entertaining and natural. You can talk about the
travels you have been on, the daring white water rafting trip, how you
rescued some orphaned lambs, or protected your little sister. Don’t say

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something obvious like, “When I was having lunch with Tom Cruise…”.
That is a turn off because you are trying to impress the people around
you. Instead make them entertaining, short and funny.
ISOLATION
If you want to have any chance of moving the relationship past a
certain level, you are going to have to isolate the girl you are interested
in. This doesn’t mean taking her into your bedroom (she will get
creeped out unless you are at that point in the process), but go to
a place where she can easily hear your voice, or where you two can
carry on a one-on-one conversation. At first it is better to keep her
within eyesight of her friends or other people to help her ease into
the idea of being alone with you. You can isolate her by simply telling
her you have something cool to show her or teach her. This is when
the true magic happens.

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In Closing
These are the main principles of building attraction and maintaining

it. A lot of these principles can be applied throughout a relationship
as well. Make sure to not take any of these too seriously, and
remember they are only here to guide you. For the most part,
people respond the same way to these principles, although some
people react completely differently. If something is not working
for you with a particular girl, work around that by trying out some
of the other tactics. Different girls will respond differently to different
tactics. Generally speaking though, these principles are applied across
the board.
The bottom line is to be in a fun/joking mood. Treat her as if you

have known her for a long time. This can help ease your own tension.
You do not want to pass your tension off to her. Have fun and enjoy
the things that you do, and people will naturally start to gravitate
towards you. This is your life. Make it what you want it to be.

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cover every scenario possible. However, we have provided you with
all the necessary tools and tactics to enable you to respond in the
best possible way in any given situation. In addition to the informa-
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advanced techniques (updated weekly), and an open forum where
you can ask questions, discuss your contributions, post field reports
of your exploits, and even seek one-on-one coaching from us.
We wish all of you luck and success.

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How to Meet and Date Women From MySpace™, Facebook™ and More

Kelly Kellam & Race de Priest

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3. The AIM Method 41

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You can get the book at www.windowshoppingforwomen.com.

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“You’ll never guess what happened last night…”

But would it work for me? That weekend I began crafting my

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We have spent countless hours developing and perfecting this

Through our trials, mistakes, and eventual successes, the method is

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There is no way we could have done this alone. It would be arrogant

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How to use this book

Success with women is not something learned overnight. Many of

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Mastering the art of picking up women is like mastering a new sport.

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WHY SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES?

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We will be focusing almost exclusively on MySpace and Facebook

MySpace Statistics (as of April 2007)*:

Facebook Statistics (as of January 2008)*:

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favor due to differences in the principles of attraction that govern

CHARACTERISTICS WOMEN SCREEN FOR

Before we begin contacting beautiful women, we must understand

She is going to subconsciously pick up on little clues that when put

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COMFORT, TRUST AND SAFETY

SUCCESS AND AMBITION

BE ADVENTUROUS, CHALLENGING AND MYSTERIOUS

BE DIFFERENT AND HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER

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UNDERSTAND HER WORLD AND COMMONALITIES

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Here is a set of statements we want you to say to yourself as you

UÊ People want to be around me.

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COMMUNICATE YOUR LIFESTYLE AND PERSONALITY

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3. (MySpace only) Have an interesting background that pertains

You can find

BORROW SUCCESSFUL TECHNIQUES (MYSPACE ONLY)

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KEEP YOUR GOAL IN MIND

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USE DISQUALIFYING STATEMENTS

Rules for being my MySpace/Facebook friend:

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Another option is to put up a qualifying statement on your page.

PICKING AND ADDING APPLICATIONS (FACEBOOK ONLY)