From: Claudine

To: Mary Bickford

Date: Thu, 02 Dec 2004
Subject: Re: Rikki Birthday Pizza Party

> Mary,
>
> Good Morning to you....
>
> I Hope that your Holidays have brought you many joys.
> First I would like to make my reservation for the x-mas dinner on December
>21. Party of one.....lol
> Second....I need to let you and Mrs. Crow know that I am planning to have a
> pizza birthday party for Rikki as usual for her class on December 10.
>
> There will be pizza, juice and cake. I will provide all the tableware as
> well.....<:o)
>
> It is my understanding that notes need to go home with the students in the
> event that someone would like to bring a sack lunch, and also that the
> cafeteria staff need to be aware as well.....
>
> I ask that Mrs. Crow please let me know what time she would like for me to
> have the pizza there.....I know they go to lunch at 11:40 am....but I can
>have them there anytime that is most convenient for her class schedule.
>
> Again that day as I discussed with Rikki....Friday, December 10, 2004 (her
> actual b-day is the 12th)
> Please let me know what if any more that I need to do
> to make this a happy event for all the kids.....
>
> Thank you Mary......
>
> Claudine

From: Mary Bickford

To: Claudine
Date: Thu, 02 Dec 2004
Subject: Re: Rikki Birthday Pizza Party

Claudine - no problem with coming to the Christmas lunch. I will let the
kitchen know.
However, I was told through the case manager that at this time we could only
do public open events - (events that all parents are invited to such as our
special holiday lunches, school programs, carnival, etc.). I am sorry but
this DOES NOT include a birthday party in the classroom for Rikki and her
class.
Mary

From: Claudine
To: Civsol@aol.com
Date: Thu, 2 Dec 2004
Subject: Re: Rikki Birthday Pizza Party

Mr. Swartz,

Would you please clarify for me the below....

On page 2, B. line 8 of the last Order.....you recommended.

".....lunch, class parties and other events to which all parents are invited
generally."

When I had written to you prior to your final recommendation, I was wanting to
be able to continue the tradition of the classroom party to which Rikki has
every year of her life had in school, a small but large gift to Rikki to
celebrate her Birthday, her special day, in school in class that many other students do.....

Please understand that this is an event that Rikki has always looked forward
to......her father of course is always welcome to come....as he has done
sometimes in the past a few times.....he has never had a school/classroom
party for Rikki as I am the one who gladly takes this responsibility to our
daughter.

As you know I will always comply with the school and your recommendations,
which is why I am asking for your clarification......

If in fact in January 2005...we hope have a modification of supervised visitation,

in my opinion only......why not promote healthy activities publicly....?

I was denied my supervised parenting time last night, and that is ok....simply because I
love my daughter and this is something that she wanted to do....I realize that
parenting involves change and lost parenting time to better meet the needs of
the child.......However, I am asking for you to please allow this party to
take place as this is something that Rikki look’s forward to every year…!!

I am asking to keep our tradition for Rikki on enjoying her birthday

with her classmates on Friday December 10th, 2 days before her actual birthday.

Please let me know what I need to do to help to facilitate this...so that she
can have ‘her’ once a year ‘her’ day party at her school with her classmates and
teachers, as has always been done.
If this is a misunderstanding on the part of Mary, would you please let her
know? If this is a misunderstanding on my part....I truly am sorry.....that was not
how I interpreted it at all.....

Please let me know.....

I have yet to respond to Mary....but I will ASAP and thank her for "letting me
know...."

Respectfully;
Claudine Dombrowski

From: Civsol@aol.com
To: Claudine
Date: Thu, 2 Dec 2004
Subject: Re: Rikki Birthday Pizza Party

> Dear Ms. Dombrowski:

>
> I believe the birthday party falls outside of the current order.
>
> The order was an attempt to address a specific concern regarding your
> ability to attend all of those functions that occur at the school that all parents
> are allowed to attend. The birthday party is focused on Rikki and you and
> not a general event, and there for is not to occur.
>
> I appreciate the effort you are making and I appreciate the effort the
> school is making.
>
> I also note that there is an effort to move the safe visit around the
> birthday to a day closer to the birth date.
>
> Thank you for your letter of inquiry and your willingness to continue to
> work to wards improved interactions.
>
> Lloyd C. Swartz
> 800 SW Jackson ST.-Suite 900
> Topeka, KS 66612-1259
> 785-232-0545
> 785-232-0005 fax
>