Beruflich Dokumente
Kultur Dokumente
1. Describe what happened. Write what you did as if a VCR camera and tape recorder were capturing it. Just the facts as you remember then. There will be a place later to tell what you were thinking and feeling.
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2. Describe your understanding of the victim’s reaction to what you did and what happened. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
4. Which of their needs/values do you think were not honored by your behavior? Examples of needs/values are: safety, trust, respect, honesty, equality, peace, physical nurturance, harmony, order, community, kindness, compassion, stability, independence.
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5. What might they feel now in relation to what you did and what happened? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
7. Describe what was motivating you (needs/desires/hopes/wishes…you were meeting) to do what you did.
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8. How were you feeling at the time you decided to make the choices you made?
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9. Describe how you are feeling now about what you did, or what happened? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
10. What values were you raised with (what is important in your home) and did your actions reflect those values? What values are important to you personally? Reflect those? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
11. What made you choose this particular person or place to do what you did? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
12. Describe your understanding of the community’s reaction to what you chose to do and what happened? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
13. Which of the community’s needs/values (safety, trust, respect, honesty, etc.) were not honored by your behavior? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
14. What do you think the collective community might be feeling now in relation to what you did and what happened? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
15. What do you think they want from you now? Be Specific. __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
16. What have you learned from what you did and what happened? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
17. If you are in a similar situation in the future, how do you plan to meet your own needs in a way that also honors the needs/values of others as well? Be Specific. __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
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The material contained in this worksheet was adopted from Kris Gibson and Kate Kendrick, based on the work of Marshal Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication.
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