Beruflich Dokumente
Kultur Dokumente
by
Sven Boden
back cover
2010
Index
1 Oral Sex............................................................................................................3
1.0.1Full body massage...............................................................................................................5
1.0.2Useful positions ..................................................................................................................5
1.0.3Vaginal massage.................................................................................................................6
1.0.4Tongue to lips......................................................................................................................7
1.0.5Oral exploration..................................................................................................................7
1.0.6Intense clitoral stimulation..................................................................................................8
1.0.7The tongue's the one...........................................................................................................9
1.0.8Oral sex rhetoric..................................................................................................................9
1.0.9Positions..............................................................................................................................9
1.0.10Tongue excercise............................................................................................................10
1.0.11The statistics....................................................................................................................10
2Places Women Want To Be Touched................................................................11
2.0.1Hair....................................................................................................................................11
2.0.2Nape of her neck...............................................................................................................11
2.0.3Clavicle.............................................................................................................................11
2.0.4Small of her back..............................................................................................................11
2.0.5Behind her knees...............................................................................................................12
2.0.6Palms of her hands............................................................................................................12
2.0.7Earlobes.............................................................................................................................12
2.0.8Feet....................................................................................................................................12
2.0.9Inner thighs.......................................................................................................................12
2.0.10Pelvis...............................................................................................................................12
2.1Do go there...............................................................................................13
Cunnilingus Guide 1
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1 Oral Sex
Women often complain about men's ability to perform cunnilingus or, as it's
more commonly called, oral sex. This is why this text on the subject was
written. But it's not just the complaints that have spurned this text. it's also the
hundreds of men asking for advice on how to give great oral sex. I can only
imagine the millions of others who stand like a deer caught in headlights when
it comes to the task.
The following oral sex techniques are a simple guide to teaching all of you the
basics of "eating out," and I'm not talking about fine dining. But first of all, if
your lady is giving you explicit instructions for oral sex, follow them and ignore
most of the specifics in here.
If you're not much of a vaginal vacuum and are hesitant to try oral sex
because of odors or whatever other preconceived notions that you have,
ensuring that she has just come out of the shower will ease your tension and
you'll be able to let loose orally. There are men who stand their ground and
absolutely refuse to perform oral sex; I suggest you get over yourself, because
your girl likes to receive oral sex as much as you consider a good blow job a
part of foreplay.
Performing above-average oral sex on a woman takes some skill and an
understanding of women’s bodies. There are several things that can go wrong,
however if you understand what’s required to send her over the edge, you can
become a master of oral sex, and be talked about, fantasized about and
remembered for the rest of her natural life. The beauty of oral sex is that it
doesn’t matter how big your penis is, how cut you are or how ugly you are;
when your face is covered in her, neither of you will care. The rule? Ladies first.
First rules:
• Never a dry finger in a hole
• Never touch a clitoris with anything else than your tongue, and even
then not from the very start.
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Male preparations:
• General male cleanliness: take a shower upfront
• Cut your finger nails as close as you can
• Shave your facial hair as close as you can, you don't want your lady to
get a rash on her thighs because of your facial hair. But also be careful
not to cut yourself.
• Brush your teeth. If you're not in a committed relationship using
mouthwash alone may be a better option. Using a tootbrush can cause
small bleedings which is not so good SOA-wise.
• Good oral sex is done without dental dam. A little risk for a SOA, but you
only have 2 hands and you need both for other things than a dental dam.
Environmental settings
• Darkened room with small light(s) on the ground (lower than the bed).
Even the most beautiful woman has some insecurities about her body.
This kind of lighting like makes a woman feel less insecure about being
naked.
The prequisite for good oral sex is that the woman is relaxed, feels safe, that
you enjoy cunnilingus yourself and that you know how to do it properly.
Start with a full body massage:
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For a massage summary: with the woman undressed and laying on her front:
massage oil
• Massage her neck, her back, her arms and legs.
• Flip the lady
• Massage stomach, arms, and legs
You can also bring her behind to the edge of the bed while you give her oral
sex. Have her rest her feet on your shoulders or on the edge of the bed as well,
and you'll have plenty of access while you kneel in front of her love cave. This
position will also give your fingers full access to her vagina.
Another good option is to have her lie back on the bed with her butt near the
edge, her feet resting on the edge of the bed, and you kneel in front of her.
These are not the only options, but they are good for starters.
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How long should this take? Not that long, depending on the lady, after a little
while most women will want you to move on.
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Keeping the pressure light will make her hot with anticipation, which is exactly
what you want for the majority of your exploration. She will realize that you
are not going to hurt her, so she will be able to relax and enjoy it.
Any licking, gentle sucking or all-around moisture from the mouth to the
vaginal entrance, or the labia (lips) will surely make you popular with your
flavor of the evening.
When you begin to give oral sex, it's important to start slowly. Women like it
when a man takes the time to appreciate her and her body. What she won't
like is an over-achiever who jumps right in with an aggressive tongue. Pretend
that her entire vagina is an ice-cream cone with three scoops of your favorite
flavor; if you don't like ice-cream, I'm sure you can appreciate the metaphor.
Use your tongue to lick her vagina from its entrance up to the clitoris (but
excluding the clitoris for now). Remember to chill out and relax; enjoy yourself
and don't get tense.
Use a flat, soft, limber tongue and let your tongue roam from bottom
to top of her outer labia on the left and right hand side. Repeat
between her innner and outer labia. This while still excluding the
clitoris from direct contact. You can do this a couple of times, but also
not too long.
Make sure your partner understand you like eating her out. That's there's no
deadline on her having an orgasm, or that you will consider it a failure if she
doesn't orgasm. Most women need to feel relaxed before they can come.
Do explore, keep it gentle and soft, experiment a little with techniques and
positions, and read her signals. 7186
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Now we're switching to the clitoral part. With your left hand on her mons pubis
push it up and keep it there... This has as effect that the clitoris is moved
upwards and that it already feels some pressure.
One of the tricks usually proposed is to write the alphabet with your tongue on
her clitoris, but this is not necessary and there are better ways. Write a “cross”
on her clitoris, move your tongue up and down 2 times on her clitoris, followed
by moving your tongue 2 times from left to right and back. You don't need to
do this superfast, but you need to be rythmitic. Required speed will differ
between women (but not by much), you can gauge her reactions or she may
even tell you.
When this has been going on for a while, keep the left hand on her mons pubis
pushing it up, but retract your right arm from under her leg. Lubricate your
middle finger with saliva or lubrication, and insert that one finger in her vagina
(but only that one finger). The finger should flex upwards.
While still licking the cross on her clitoris, repeat a “come here” motion with
the middle finger.in her vagina. Your finger should hit the “back” of the clitoris.
The spot there will feel a bit different than the surrounding area, more spongy.
Important here to remember is that this will only work if your lady is
lying flat, if she has her back arched e.g. you will hit her bladder that
way and that will only make her want to pee, and not get excited.
And important to note is that it should be done softly. Guy talk: you
may like your penis stroked, but you usually also don't like your penis
being yanked very hard.
Change the licking of the crosses to licking 2 crosses followed by sucking in her
clitoris and releasing it (kinda french kissing it). And then repeating the whole
cycle.
Keep doing both licking/sucking and the rubbing until she comes. Important
here is to keep the focus on the clitoris keeping the same steady
rythm. Don't pay attention anymore to other body parts, don't start
talking, … The moment you lose your focus most women will lose
their built-up momentum which usually annoys the hell out of them.
Eventually she will come with a mind blowing orgasm, practically 100%
guaranteed but it may take between 5 and 20 minutes: what you're doing to
her is more stimulation then she usually gets during intercourse.
When she's close to orgasm you'll feel her stomach twitching under your left
hand (which is pushing up the mons pubis).
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Lastly, and I can't stress this enough, never bite any part of the vagina.
Not only can it cause physical harm, but you'll probably get thrown into the
dog house. If you're a woman reading this you know what is meant, if you're
man, how would you feel about someone biting hard in your penis.
1.0.9 Positions
There are other positions available for cunnilingus than described in here. But
there are not a lot that will get women to orgasm consistently.
• 69 would still be a good one, although you have to reorientate and you
can't lick that intensively.
• Doggy style cunnilingus
• women standing with her back against a wall.
Of most of the others the problem is twofold:
• Unability to get your hand in the right position to make a “come here”
movement, e.g. When facesitting
• The woman getting cramps. E.g. With facesitting, or with her legs raised
high.
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We all know which female body parts men most frequently like to explore, but
there is more to her than a vagina, breasts and butt. The largest amount of
nerve endings may be packed into those areas, but she has pleasure sensors
all over her body, and getting her in the mood may be as easy as stimulating
some of these often-neglected parts. Incorporating touching these places into
foreplay and sex, or just giving her some pleasure after a hard day, will
definitely earn you some brownie points.
2.0.1 Hair
Maintaining their gorgeous locks isn’t the only reason women go to their
hairstylists so often. The process of wash, cut, color, and styling can actually
be quite a stress reliever. Running your hands gently through her hair is a
surefire way to send tingles down her spine. Let your fingers massage circles
from her temples to the nape of her neck and she’ll be putty in your hands.
2.0.3 Clavicle
A well-defined clavicle, or collarbone, can be very sexy on a woman. Why not
show your appreciation for its beauty with your touch and kiss? Pay attention
to this body part while she’s still fully clothed, unbuttoning her shirt just
enough to reveal the clavicle and no further. You can always come back to it
once the clothes have disappeared as well to remind her of the anticipation it
created when you started there.
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2.0.7 Earlobes
Touching, kissing and even lightly biting the earlobes of your woman will up the
bliss factor for her. These delicate, soft lobes are very sensitive and most
women thoroughly enjoy the sensation of having a man’s lips on them. You can
nibble around the outside of the rest of her ear as well, but for courtesy’s sake
avoid jamming your tongue inside her ear.
2.0.8 Feet
Pulp Fiction taught us that rubbing the feet of another man’s wife may be an
offense punishable by being thrown out a window, so the sensual appeal of a
foot massage is obvious. There are few better ways to help her relax than to
give her feet a good rub, especially if her job requires her to be on them all
day. Do it right and grab some massage oil or lotion. Don’t forget to pay some
attention to her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet too. Some women really
enjoy having their toes sucked, but others find it repulsive, so asking first is a
good idea before putting them in your mouth.
2.0.10 Pelvis
Concentrating some affection on her pelvis is a great idea, however, you’ll
have to resist the urge to slip down to her vagina while you’re so close. Like
teasing her inner thighs, kissing and licking around her pelvis will excite her
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until she’s begging for more. Prolong the sensation by leaving the region to
focus on another body part for a while.
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Every inch of her body is covered with nerve endings that could be stimulated,
but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have some no-go places. Some women
can’t stand to have their faces touched, while others find it unbearable if their
hands are tickled. As you explore, you’ll learn which places your touch has the
best effect on and which you should avoid.
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