6-Step 'Reframing'

1. Identify the problematic behavior.

"What is the behavior or symptom you want to change?"

2. Establish communication with the part of yourself that is responsible for the
behavior.
"Go inside of yourself and ask the part of you that creates this behavior, 'Please give
me a signal if you are willing to communicate with me.' Pay attention to any internal
words, images or feelings that might be a signal from that part of yourself."
2.1. If you do not get a clear signal, ask the part to exaggerate the signal. You may
also use the symptom itself by asking "Please intensify the symptom if your answer is
'yes'."
2.2. If the part is not willing to communicate, ask "What is your positive purpose in
not wanting to communicate with me?"
[If you have continued difficulty establishing communication with the part, you may
want to try a different change process.]

3. Separate the positive intention of the part from the problematic behavior.
"Go inside and thank the part for communicating with you and ask, 'What are you
trying to do positively for me or communicate to me with this behavior?'"
3.1. If the intention of the part seems negative, keep asking "And what will that do
positively for me? What is your positive purpose?"

4. Find three other choices that satisfy the positive intention of the part but do
not have the negative consequences of the symptom or problematic behavior.
"Go to the 'creative part' of yourself and ask it to come up with at least three other
ways to satisfy the positive intention of the problematic behavior."
5. Have the part that creates the symptom or problematic behavior agree to
implement the new choices.
"Go inside and ask the part responsible for the problematic behavior, 'Signal me if you
accept the alternative choices."
5.1. If any choices are not acceptable, or there is no signal, go to step 4 and modify or
add choices.

6. Ecology check. Find out if any other parts object to the new choices.
"Go inside and ask, 'Do any other parts object to these new choices?'"
6.1. If yes, identify the part and go to step 2, repeating the cycle with that part.
implement the new choices. "Go inside and ask the part responsible for the
problematic behavior