Preface

All these ages, Women have been given lots of importance in perspective of sensuality, deity with divineness and a family propeller. Women have that sensitiveness quotient which is touchy in their emotions and fragility. Their smile in that second, is followed by a sob in the very next second states the fickle mindedness of them. Though this transient nature is considered as a negative character but it apt the women much and adds to the sweetness of their nature. Woman is like a honey-bee, who showers the sweetness of honey to her man if she is caressed otherwise she can stab, the mans skin with the thorns of emotional anger which is not a good sign in a relationship. Every woman wants love. She is a Love-Seeker. From her tender age, the quest for love starts in her heart. She gets the required love from her mom, dad and siblings which drive her childhood phase. In the later phase of her life, that physical and emotional love is obtained to her from her husband. If the sufficient amount of love and care is not provided to her from her family, she tries to get it from the outside world in the form of friends and lover. Though the woman gets older year after year, her craving for getting that love doesnt subside. It remains the same. In most of the Asian countries, its perceived that Destination of love is Marriage but actually its not. Most of the girls, after being in relationship for long eventually getting married later with the same guy, said that the guys change after marriage; they do not shower love as they used to do before marriage. Honestly, speaking thats correct. Once a guy gets the girl he thrived for, as his wife, his priority changes by then, takes for granted that she is his woman and cant go away from him. That thought declines the love upon her. Remember, women are good in comparisons. They compare the persons, situations, moments and scenarios. Men are very careful in western countries where the divorce rates are high because women are financially independent and have freedom to walk away from the relationship whenever they want, if they feel that they are not being loved and cared as per their individual standards. Unlike Western culture, Asians especially Indian women cant do it and thats when the whole story of holding the relationship starts. I dont say that Asian men cant love their wives but they get busy in other stuff and ignore to give love and caress to their wives. As renowned ancient poets said, women are quite difficult to understand. I would say not to try understanding them lest accept and love them as they are. Women are strange creatures; they dont express much but expect their men to know their wants and desires. Thats where the real logic gets applied and immediate pulse to be caught. Woman wants to be treated as her mans baby getting the attention always and expects him to cuddle and hug her in his arms all the time. Thats the intensity of love a wife expects. A Husband should hold his wifes expectations and submerge the chemistry of love and make her think he is the only world to her by not saying it verbally but by making her feel that aroma of Love. The husband is said to be Mr. Right by his wife when he manages his personal and professional life without any complications. Let a woman smell the odor of love, taste the feel of love and hold the memories of love. This is when a wife is wholly a mans woman. Simple logic to keep a woman happy and contended is to love her as much as one can. Now a question comes, what is this word love, how can one love a woman? This book provides the answers to all the unanswered questions pondering in your mind with illustrations of some scenarios.

Listen to a Woman while she talks

Women seek attention, hence its primary part of a husband to give his wife the required attention and listen to her for what she says. On top of this, a husband got to remember the things, which she says with more enthusiasm and emotions; so that he can use these pacifiers to calm his wife when shes not in good mood and upset about some or other things which is very common with women. If a man thinks its too much of effort to remember the likes and dislikes of his wife, its not at all a bad idea to make note of them on a paper and recall them for few days until they get submerged into his brain after all its a onetime effort because its the same woman he is going to stay with, for the rest of the life. Listen to her ideas and thoughts and make her feel that her ideas are given some importance and value. For instance, when a couple goes out for a shopping, man got to compromise some times on the value and Quality of the goods which his wife prefers. Unless her choice is too devalued, its good to pick her choice. Even though her choice is not of great value in terms of Quality, man has to not say No to it directly but has to first tell the reasons and then make her say NO. This is a thumb rule in a relationship. By Chance, any argument creeps up in the relationship; try to address that problem on the very same day and find a solution for that and nail it down and get to compromise notes because those small arguments might lead to big tumors if time passes on without addressing it. Women have emotional strings attached in them. Men!! Do not get surprised if they tell you about their family all the time. Though it might be boring to you but put your eyes focused on her and concentrate on her words. Women are clever, they would even go ahead asking questions of what they are talking about to know if their man is focusing on their talks. One thing men need to know is that the bodily pleasure, a wife gives to her man is directly proportional to the reaction of the feelings in her mind. When a man is able to get hold of his wifes heart and mind, thats when the congregation goes well with love. Unknowingly, Most of the men ignore the wifes family but men should understand that her family is as important to her as his family is to him. Respect to each others families should be mutual and hygienic. This is also one of the main clues to win the heart of a wife. Men should not hurt the feelings of their wives because the feelings of her are reflected more in the love she gives to her husband. Those hurt feelings are very unhygienic in the relationship. Let her feelings be pure and get that pure and fresh love from her. Husbands might crack some pranks upon their wives which might hurt them. Its never too late to say sorry for that prank which came out with uncertainty. Most of the women love to talk and tell their men about how the day has been and what she has done the whole day before she retires to the bed. After such a long tiring day, husbands dont like to listen to that gossips from their wives but its stated to men to stretch their patience for few more minutes to listen what their wives say so that women are happily retired to asleep with contentment. Women when slept with happy notes get up the next day with stabilized heart and feelings.

Comfort a woman with sweet words

Words are the symbolic form of feelings. Man must transform his feelings with lots of sweetness; to extract those sweet words from his heart and shower those smoothening statements upon women. This way man can get hold of the feelings of woman which depicts the behavior of woman towards her man. Man should talk to his wife with at most respect, giving compliments always and encouraging her. This way, the emotional chemistry augments in her mind making her to love and care her husband a lot. Recalling the likes of his woman, man should always remind about her sweet nature praising for her beauty and elevating her self-confidence which makes her feel herself on cloud 9. Woman loves her man to take her to shopping and spend time with her while she shops. Recommendation to the man is to stay with her while she shops, reminding her about her favorite colors and design embroideries, which he might have noted in his remembrance list. This makes her feel that her husband cares and gives importance more than anyone else. The most significant aspect in a relationship is conversation. Even though a husband is too busy in accomplishing his goals and aims professionally, he got to see that he has some conversation time with his wife knowing about each others work and also happenings in each others lives. Best place and time for walk and talk would be a stroll on terrace or on a walk way around the house after dinner. Husbands should keep one thing in mind, asking about the womens family very often about how they are doing and how their health is. This really makes wife so happy for his concern about her family. Its not at all a bad idea to visit her family very often and spend some time with them. After being fostered by her dad and brothers in her teen and adolescent ages, women try to compare her husband and try to draw the differences between her man and her dad and brothers. She expects her husband to be same as her dad. Hence, Its a good idea for a husband to know the Qualities of her dad and try to imbibe some qualities from him due to which a husband can make his wife very comfortable by not making her feel the difference. A wife expects her husband to be a good friend, trying to make her feel the density of friendship. There is a saying that If you are so happy, laughing and smiling from your heart, it depicts that you are with your loved ones whether its family or friends. Husband has the obligation to make his wife feel that she is with one of the most trust-worthy and loving man. Woman expects compliments and laurels from her man when she does something special. For instance, Wife wears a beautiful dress which she bought recently, the first time she wears it, she expects some compliments on her costume. Husbands should catch that pulse and her intention of receiving some good comments upon her attire. Women love to be addressed with some romantic enthusiastic names like dear, darling and honey by their men when they are not in a gathering. Such sweet words are really required by a husband to stimulate the grain of heartfelt love in his wife. A wife expects her husband to stay with her while she is in worries. Her man must hold to her expectations and make her feel that he is going to be with her what so ever happens. Never ever should a man talk with an inferior feeling about his wife; it really hurts his woman. No girl is the same, hence its advisable to a husband to take his time to understand his girl for the first few months after marriage and then start up turning her likes into his likes and interests.

Accompany a woman always

Marriage is a bond where the commitment is taken to stay with each other physically and mentally. The oath of commitment is taken in different ways in varied religions, caste and creed. The obligations, priorities and goals automatically change after wed-lock.Thats when the dependency between a husband and wife is commenced. Love pitches in and makes each other to stay together and care for each other. After the dependency is developed, a man and woman if try to stay away, makes each other paralyzed and think that they are missing something important. These days, due to reason that both husband and wife working, and each of them moving to overseas individually in distinct times on short term basis became very often due to the work requirement, leaving each other alone for months. Its really tough for them to stay alone especially after the dependency for each other is germinated. Recommendation to men is that he must accompany his woman always. After private sector has occupied the market and giving job opportunities to young people, the numbers of hours of work and expectations have also been increased hence putting people very busy during weekdays. All weekdays are common for men and women but not weekends because men love to spend time at homes watching movies and relaxing with the home made food .On other side, woman love to relax by shopping, going out with her husband. This is where an adjustment has to be made again and changing the mode of interest of a man by taking his wife out on a ride. Woman after marriage wants herself to be closer to her husband and wishes her skin to be touched and sensed all the time. Thats the main reason, a wife always focuses on touching her husbands skin in many ways- holding her mans arm while walking , tickling his ears while they sit together on a couch watching a movie. Hence, its the primary action of the man to understand the sensitivity of his wife and should proactively make her satisfied by staying in touch with her skin. The concept of Touch the Skin is never a complex task. Let me illustrate some scenarios: A man must hold his wifes hand whenever both of them walk side by side. A kiss on a forehead implies a Caring Kiss. Hence a man has to kiss his wife on her forehead at least thrice in a day in multiple circumstances probably while leaving to work in the morning, when they meet after their hectic work , in the evening and a good night kiss before they retire to bed. This stimulates the feeling of caress in a woman from her man, massaging her feet after she comes home from a daylong work, embracing her with a kiss are kind of relaxations a wife should be given by her man very often. When a man is asked by his wife for a visit to her parents house, its better to say Yes because husband gets two accolades in one visit for accompanying his wife and also his concern for her family. However workaholic a man is, he must change his priorities after marriage by holding up his wifes expectations and spending most of the time with his wife at least till the time she has kids to keep herself busy. The custom in some religions and caste specifies that a husband must eat his meals prior to his wife taking the meals for some reason which I dont want to know or rather mention it. But Probably, I would say to have at least one meal together in a day, where in a man can take an opportunity to serve the food and dishes in his wifes plate and praising her for the food she prepared if its good or encouraging her that she could cook well the next time if the dishes are not so tasty. Serving the food to each other while having meals together everyday raises the Intimacy of Serving in a relationship which is a vital aspect. Women have some petty and do-once desires in their life, for instance some of them love to fly kites, some other might love to taste a beer and go to a discotheque or a pub .Though they

are not so expensive desires but due to some constraints and restrictions they pile up in the pending list of the woman. Husbands, If possible can help them to fulfill those desires.

Respect her for what she is and for who she is, let her be as she wants.
Being fostered in a family by her parents on par with her brother(s), a girl grows with lots of freedom and enthusiasm with all the glory and fun she wishes to have, and her thoughts and goals flying high to reach pinnacle some day. Competing with the guys in studies and sports, by showing to the world that they are not inferior any more. After struggling and travelling this long journey of life in the hands of the loving people Parents, girls dont wish to crush their thoughts and ideas which they have built all these ages just because her husband doesnt want her to. Probably, while some women might be open to say to their men about the life they want to lead, other women might not have the courage to talk about this to their men due to some external forces. Even though, a woman doesnt dare to tell about her aims and goals, its obligation of a man to know and encourage her to let him know about her future goals and aims and support her for what she wants to accomplish. Women wish to be loved by their men for what they are. She loves to be accepted as she is. Husband should not enforce his wife to change her lifestyle a lot as she is owned by him. Though asking her to change a bit is acceptable in some situations, but its better to let her live as she loves to be. As a matured lady, a wife also knows about her adjustments and compromises she has to make herself after marriage. Hence, its good on a part of a husband to just accept his woman and love her for what she is. Man shouldnt scrub his interests upon his wife and ask her to love what he likes and force her to change her style of living. This might hurt his wife and makes her decline the love upon her man. All women are not alike, while some love white color others love black. Its a primary part on a husband to note what his wife likes and based on her interest, he has to let the life move forward. After all relationship is all about compromises and understanding. Another vital aspect to be followed by the husband would be Never repeatedly keep saying or pointing out some mistakes/goof-ups she has done in the past, lest encourage and elevate her with your expressions and words to make her feel always on the top of the world. Women have lots of self-respect and they want to be identified for their uniqueness. During the initial days of marriage, a wife and husband tries to somehow show kind of domination upon each other in some or other way afraid of being suppressed in the later part of the life. Though nobody wants to mention this, its a bitter truth. Never ever allow the word of domination into the relationship. Its a slow poison which kills the relationship in the long term. Just love as much as one can and make each other feel the love, basically, men should remember a thumb rule: Love, love and love till the woman feels that she is being loved more than she giving love to her man. This thought is the threshold point of love-trigger in a woman. Husband should never be a hypocrite. Wives are very intelligent in finding the falseness. Never ever should a husband comment upon his wifes appearance. If he is willing to give good compliments, its highly acceptable, but never speak ill about the womans appearance because women are very particular about the looks and physical appearance .It means a lot to them. A husband should accept her for how she is because its he who has chosen her. Never draw comparisons among women, loving and accepting a woman as a whole is the secret of healthy and hygienic relationship.

Go out for recreation with her very often.

Women love to go on rides, set themselves high and wish to have the fun as if nobody could cease their enjoyment. They love to enjoy as if there is no tomorrow whether its a little baby girl, an adolescent woman or an adult. They have this recreational aroma in them but due to lots of personal and professional pressures, married women restrict themselves to be home bodies just doing their regular house hold chores and their professional jobs and tying up their lives with the family oriented architecture. A man should notice this petty point and find out ways to make his woman feel and sense this recreational odor in her life. Her hobbies, the way she loves to spend the time should be known to a husband to help her out in pursuing them. Taking his woman to the place she likes and relishing her with the food she loves and bringing her to some movie she can enjoy, marking this as a memorable day in the book of her life. Trust me; she remembers this for her life time. Based on her interests, husband must dedicate his time for her which makes her feel the importance of herself to her man. Most of the women in a survey complained that after long years of marriage, men dont love their wives the way they used to love during the initial years of marriage. They said men stop loving when the relationship gets longer. Honestly, men are love-givers always. They love their wives throughout the life, its just that men ignore their love-giving to their wives when some other priorities occupy them might be career oriented activities or aspects related to new professional up-growth etc. To strike off the statements in the survey above, a small adjustment is to be made my husbands. Every day, while he gets up in the morning probably, he could think of new ways of loving his wife perhaps this rejuvenates his thoughts refreshing his ideas every day by making him love his wife more than anyone else even though the age of the relationship crosses few decades. Most of the women after marriage are very sweet and loving to their husbands. Very few women, probably due to the force of their parents marry a man and start the relationship even though they dont like it. Obviously, this hatred from a woman is shown in her feelings and also in her day-to-day activities. This is really a sensitive scenario to be handled by the husband. Rather than getting mad upon her, its suggested that he should love her with sweetness and with his magnificent heart and give her that love till she is not able to hold that huge quantity of love. Thats when the love reflexes back to him from her. Its not all a bad idea for a man to take his woman to picnic spots, lake view sites or some recreational spots which includes a long drive, once in a month. The most recreational or relaxing spot for a woman would be her parents home. So, husband should ensure that he wholeheartedly ask his wife to visit her parents very often. If possible, its good to accompany her. Journeys are the source of conversation. After being very busy in work schedules, its a good thing to travel somewhere so that a couple can talk lots of things while travelling which can be a kind of refreshment. As the standards of living in most of the families have been increased, unlike old generation, the women of this generation expects and allot budget for recreational activities as a part of their monthly expenses. Hence, men should also take this up and compromise with their wives decisions on this. Based on the standard of living of a family, husband should plan his recreational activities and give pleasure to his wife making her the happiest woman in the whole world.

Never Discourage her. Always Support a woman

Women have high self-esteem levels and self-respect quotient in them. They are pressure absorbers. They with stand lots of tough situations both in family and at work. They require some relaxation after working so hard every day. After burdening herself mentally, a woman wishes to get smoothening words and pacifiers from her man. Hence, its an obligation of a husband, never to even talk ill about her or scream at her for getting something wrong. Let the perseverance concept work here to hold the woman closer to her man. Most of the relationships have hiccups due to ego problems between the couple. Its good idea to wipe off the egos, alteast hide it in some cases. Encouraging ones wife for her deeds in day to day life is most important. A man should make his woman feel that she has the best husband in the world. When a woman is ill struck emotionally, her man must stay by her side and motivate her in all ways. For a woman, her mans positive motivation is much more important and it means a lot to her. Every woman expects compliments and encouragement from her man.A husband should make his wife understand the things properly if she fails to perceive them. Due to the corporate competency and privatization, women and men are considered equal in terms of work and remunerations. Hence, the work pressure is also the same for woman as that of a man. Long meetings, tough time lines have become very common in the private sectors. Women due to their sensitiveness, struggle during these tough phases of work by staying for more hours in office. During these times, a woman got to be supported and nurtured by her man for making herself feel relaxed. I would say that husband shouldnt feel hesitant to take up the role of his wife by cooking the food, taking care of kids and even its not a bad thought to hold her legs and massage them to make her feel relaxed drawing her into sleep. Though some religions oppose the scenario of a husband holding the feet of his wife to relax her, its not a taboo because its the mutual love being shown to each other. Its the same heart and brain of a woman which stays with her even after marriage. Its logical to think that her thoughts, goals and aims get carried with her after marriage. Hence, its more important to a man to listen to his wifes goals and support her as much as he can. Support to a woman must be given always in one form or other, a woman loves her husband to stay beside her during the worse phases of her life and during the moments of deep depression or worries. Probably, I would say, the pregnancy for a woman is like a rebirth to her. During this phase of life, a woman always wishes her husband to stay with her closely and expects him to care her a lot than anyone elses love. Hence, its really important for a husband to give a serious thought about it and ensure that he reaches his wifes expectations without any discrepancies. During the phase of pregnancy, a wife always wants to talk about the baby in her womb and tell how she is feeling to be a mom and also wishes to tell her husband about the moments her baby makes in her womb and also wants to discuss about the future of the baby and many more things. It might be a bit boring to a husband while his wife keep talking about it always but hold on, when a woman is carrying his baby in her womb by squeezing her flesh, cant her man at least make her feel relaxed and give her a moral support and make her feel that heres my man always beside me to look after me what so ever happens. Thats the confidence a wife must get from her man. Supporting and nurturing a wife during happy moments may not embark a spot in a woman, it happens only when a husband stays with her during the moments when the things are not getting right at her end.

Love her heart not her body

Women are emotional beings with lots of feelings and thoughts running in their mind always. The reactions of feelings get so complex in a woman that its tough for a man to perceive them. Women prefer to be complimented more upon their good nature and Qualities rather than upon her body. Respect her feelings and love her heart, thats when she loves the touch of her man and accepts him with her whole heart. Chemistry of love generates in a woman when her man is capable of giving care to her feelings. Feelings mean a lot to a woman. Her body gestures and talks are dependent on her feelings. Husband must know to hold the feelings and mood of his wife to turn her on by melting her with the sweet words and pampers. In good olden days during the male domination, women were just treated as humans without heart in the sense that their ideas, thoughts and feelings were not given importance. They were just used for making babies, but now generation has evolved and women have been getting the importance everywhere and their feelings and thoughts are valued a lot and their decisions are being considered, which is a good sign for the development of the society. Respect to a woman in a society should start from her person i.e. her husband. A womans heart is very fragile which must be treated with caress and love.

Remembrance of the special moments and times

Women are fond of remembering some special moments or some special days like birthdays and marriage anniversaries or some typical stuff like kind of dress or the color of the dress when she and her husband first met. When her man is not able to tell it when asked, the next minute she feels disappointed. Husbands should make sure to make note of all these typical things and answer them when asked by their wives. This is a kind of trick to court the woman and also to elevate the intensity of love in her. Women are strict about promises. Men must never make promises to their wives until they are sure that those promises made can be accomplished. Women are very tender humans with sensitive feelings and thoughts. Womens mind is just like the alloys getting transformed to some other metals, always transient in their pool of thoughts. The greatness of husband lies in holding those pools of thoughts and streamlining them. Woman love to recall the sweet moments of the past and tell her man about those glorious moments i.e. about her childhood days, showing and introducing everybody in some of the childhood pictures of her family and telling some exciting moments spent with her friends. Never lie to a woman. Though men might forget about the lie which they told few years ago, but a woman never forgets the Question & Answer, circumstance and the location which they were told years ago. Though, the truth may be quite bitter to tell a woman, its always better to be truthful.