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In this seminar we will explore ways in which we can become better leaders.
If the best definition for leadership is “influence,” then how does one learn to become influential?
This will not be a discussion on some of the tactical things that you can do to be a better leader
like, time management, effective meetings, etc. This will not be a motivational seminar where I
will attempt to pump you up, but rather a time of self-reflection.
This will be a discussion about how our personal character contributes to our influence on
others. After the introduction, we will look at three principles for effective leadership.
I. INTRODUCTION:
Everyone always wants to be a better leader. Yet, many of us feel guilty and discouraged
about our leadership abilities.
Bible always sees men as leaders, but most men are not remembered for being leaders.
How many leaders can you think of that have impacted your life?
How many leaders can you think of that have changed history?
In order to become a better leader, you’ll try seminars, books of all sorts, and even try to
be like other great leaders. Most of us will fail at being like other leaders. I have many
times. I don’t remember what I read or hear. It is not natural for me to try and be like
someone else.
I’ve changed my whole thinking on what it takes to be a leader. The focus here is not on
modifying your behavior for the benefit of short-term or external change but rather
improving your character for a life-time of impact.
My opinion is that most of us have the wrong view of how you become better leaders.
Most of the training you will get is designed to show you:
What a leader does or doesn’t do. Be like some other guy!
What a leader has to do to get to the top. Be assertive, take charge.
What skills are needed; for example, organization, time management, delegation,
etc.
How many books on leadership were published 10 years ago? 200, now three times that
amount are published yearly. Harvard Business Review lists the 100 top books in the last
75 years. Society multiplies books on leadership.
In other words, becoming a better leader is not about a leadership strategy and is about
developing Christ-like character. This character development will focus on our capacity
to influence other for God’s purposes.
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What I have learned is that leadership is not what you think it is!
If you have been just moderately influenced by all of the external literature on leadership
you would tend to think that this process is all about:
1. Effectively using my power: “I have all the authority but I am not using is correctly.”
2. Effectively understanding people: “They are not responding because I have not yet
found the right buttons to push.”
3. Effectively using my strengths: “My strengths will always overcome my
weaknesses.”
F. Leadership defined.
Before we begin to look at three principles for biblical leadership, let’s define leadership:
Notice that my definition indicates that leadership is a skill and that it is all about
influence. How does one learn to have more influence?
T. Boone Pickens,
“Leadership is hard to define. You know when you are around it. You know when you
see it. We love a leader! I’ve learned that it is what you do to yourself, not what you do to
others!”
So leadership is something that first happens inside of the leader. In other words,
leadership occurs first in the heart of the leader and is not first evidenced in getting others
to do his bidding. This inner focus is something that we don’t like to spend much time
thinking about. Introspection can be painful. We prefer to focus on the externals: all of
my power, all of my strengths, and all those problems that other people have.
T. Boone Pickens is right. It is what you are willing to do to yourself that ultimately
determines how effective you are as a leader, how much influence you have.
Let’s see if we can discover together the key ingredients to becoming a better leader.
All that we have said so far was intended to get all of us to point the finger at our own
lives and to put the responsibility on our shoulders for leadership improvement.
II. THE FIRST PRINCIPLE: LEADERSHIP IS NOT ABOUT POWER BUT INFLUENCE
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A. Great leaders are remembered for their influence, not their power.
Influence is getting people to follow you and do your will.
Power is forcing/coercing/intimidating to get something done.
Often people of influence have no power.
Examples:
Mother Theresa
M.L. King Jr.
Jesus
A leader is known for the relationships he has. That’s how the effective leader leads.
Power is hard on relationships. Ultimately it will destroy them. Do not wield power
unless you are willing to break down a relationship.
Examples:
In working relationships
In marriage
In our family
Some say, “Don’t I have to use my power to make the tough calls in life?”
The problem with power is that it is easy to abuse.
Mark 10: 42-43 Jesus says, “You know that those who are considered rulers over the
Gentiles lord it over them, and their great ones exercise authority over them. Yet it shall
not be so among you; but whoever desires to be great will be your servant.”
Jesus emphasizes that in relationships power destroys. “Lord it over” involves, among
other things, intimidation or manipulation and Christian leaders are to lead through their
humble influence. Combining Jesus’ words and our point here, “Do not use your
authority and power, but gain influence through service.”
If you want to have influence on kids, wife, friends, employees, use your power with
great caution. Ever notice that when you use your power you normally regret it. People
know when they are being bullied.
How long does it take to restore a relationship? Proverbs exhorts us strongly; “It is more
difficult to win an offended brother than it is a fortified city” (18:19). There is little if
any influence during this time of relationship repair!
Why do we do tend to abuse our power? Easy, it is simple. You get lazy. Feel threatened.
We also tend to use our power because we believe that it is our power. In our pride, we
forget that it is God’s power that He has given to us to use for His purposes and not our
own.
Using our power puts the responsibility of motivation on the shoulders of the one that we
have ordered to act/serve/etc. The use of influence places the responsibility of motivation
for the follower squarely on our shoulders. We seek to compel them to action by
modeling, teaching them, and our own example.
III. THE SECOND PRINCIPLE: LOOK IN THE MIRROR, NOT OUT THE WINDOW
If leadership is about influence, then we want people to willingly do what they have been
asked to do.
How do I do this? Power will destroy those relationships I want to have.
If influence is the key, how do I gain and maintain it?
I already said leadership and influence are skills. You can learn this but how and where?
Being influential is not determined by personality type. God calls all of His children to
have an influence on the world around them (Matt. 5:12). God would not handicap
people with a less influential personality than another. He has chosen that we will all be
influential in our own way. What we cannot escape is the reality that God wants us to
maximize our influence on the world for His purposes.
We want to spend all our time looking out the window reflecting on others and their
failures. It is true that the people that we are called to shepherd seem to have every
conceivable problem, but spending all our energy trying to figure them out and change
them is destined for failure. I can only really change myself!
We influence with our character. When our character reflects God then it is the power of
the Holy Spirit that works on our behalf (which is really on His behalf because we are
serving Him). Leadership is character in action.
The difference between being an affective leader and a poor leader is the difference
between how I ought to behave and how I actually do behave. That’s why we have to
look in the mirror. We must look at ourselves first.
Shaquille O’Neill. "Excellence is not an act but a habit. You are what you repeatedly
do." Think of character this way: Habits repeated.
The higher up we move in any structure (e.g. church, ministry, etc.), the more personal
change is required. This is the opposite of what you might think. The world thinks, “The
more power I get the less I am subject to any one else’s authority. I am more powerful
so I am less accountable. I have arrived and I can now rest and enjoy the fruits of my
labors.” The world’s perspective is wrong.
Gandhi said, “You must become the change you want to see in others.”
IV. THE THIRD PRINCIPLE: IT’S NOT ABOUT YOUR STRENGTHS BUT YOUR WEAKNESSES
If leadership is not about power but influence and influence is not about trying to change
other people but me, my character, then my character development is the main issue. I
must work on my character because the more responsibility I get, the more personal
change is required.
How do I do this? I cultivate my strengths, right?
It is important to remember that we are only as mature as the least mature aspect of our
lives. Our maturity is marred by immaturity. If we desire to walk in maturity we must
shore up the weaknesses in our areas of immaturity.
It is true that people are drawn to us and we have influence over them because of our
strengths. What is also true is that the closer they get the more our weaknesses show and
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the less influence we have. I can get you to agree that we all need to work on our
weaknesses but how do I know for sure what those weaknesses are?
God expects of the leader of His people to walk in integrity. Psalm 78:72 exhorts His
leaders to walk with integrity: “David shepherded them with the integrity of his heart
and with skillful hands he lead them.”
I thought I had a lot of strengths until I got feedback. Feedback is not for the faint of
heart.
You must have courage if you are going to ask (and be open to) honest feedback from
others.
D. The point: Leadership is not what you do, it is who you are.
The reason we lack influence as a leader can normally be traced back to our character
flaws. It is not what you do; it is how you do it.
Character is revealed in when we deal with our weaknesses not in trying to be like
someone else or conceal are weaknesses by focusing on our strengths.
Said another way, your bad habits reveal your true character and this determines your
influence.
Why is so important? You are what you repeatedly do. Repeatedly doing something is
called a “habit.” You have some great habits and some real bad ones.
The Bible insists that as leaders we must be examples in our conduct and in our character
1 Peter 5:2-3 “Shepherd the flock of God among you…proving to be an example to the
flock.”
V. AN ACTION PLAN
A. Feedback
Why is this so important? Blind spots are common. Obadiah 3 says, “The arrogance of
your heart has deceived you.” Many of us cannot see the weaknesses in our own lives.
It is rare for people to come to me for feedback. It is hard to give feedback. You are
responsible to make it easy on others to give you feedback.
An example of how not to do it: you go to Rick after preaching a message and say “Rick,
wasn’t that a great message that I just preached?”
This feedback process requires humility. Don’t think too highly of yourself (Rom. 12:3).
B. Friction
This is the heart of it. Why many don’t reach their leadership potential. Because there is
internal friction to change. This is the war within.
Everyone wants to change the world but no one wants to change himself.
What is the point: Leadership is learned behavior. You just don’t want to change.
Pride is the issue.
C. Follow through
VI. CONCLUSION
The goal: I can guarantee you that I can make you a better leader if I can get you
to commit to just one thing. For every minute that you spent in a class or reading
a book on leadership, spent the same amount of time getting some feedback and
working on correcting those weaknesses and character failures.