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Love in the time of
the Internet
Chei Billedo
Dept. of Psychology
University of the Philippines, Diliman
Feb. 15, 2011
IsychoIogy
IsychoIogy is lhe scienlific sludy of human
behavior and lhoughl rocesses (Sanlrock, 2007).
Cyber-IsychoIogy
- lhe sludy of sychoIogy in lhe conlexl of
cybersace
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Why is lhere a need lo sludy
sychoIogy in lhe conlexl of
cybersace`
There is a need lo undersland and
exIain a vide range of human
exeriences in cybersace, from
crealing idenlilies lo forming
reIalionshis.
Whal is LOVI`
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LOVI
LOVI is a conslrucl
Conslrucl
An abslracl lheorelicaI variabIe lhal is
used lo exIain some henomenon
vhich is of inleresl lo scienlisls
OeralionaIize!
InlerersonaI Allraclion
A erson's desire lo aroach
anolher individuaI
Iosilive evaIualion of olhers
There are severaI faclors lhal
delermine lo vhom ve gel allracled
lo and hov slrong our allraclions are:
aiiraciicn cucs
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Allraclion Cues
Characlerislics and ehaviors of lhe
Iersons invoIved
IhysicaI allracliveness
AcluaI simiIarily
Ierceived simiIarily
Mimicry
Recirocily
Gain-Ioss hyolhesis
Allraclion Cues
Characlerislics of lhe Silualion
IamiIiarily
Iroximily (lhe Iocalion of lhe eoIe
reIalive lo one anolher)
Iroinquily (lhe acluaI conlacl belveen
individuaIs)
Silualions inducing emolionaI arousaI
NoveI and unusuaI Silualions
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TrianguIar Theory
Slernberg, 1986
3 imorlanl comonenls
Inlimacy: lhose feeIings lhal romole cIoseness,
bondedness and connecledness
Iassion: a slale of inlense Ionging for union vilh lhe
olher, molivalionaI and olher sources of
hysioIogicaI and emolionaI arousaI (sexuaI feeIings)
Commilmenl: decision lhal one Ioves a cerlain olher
(shorl-lerm asecl), lhe commilmenl lo mainlain lhal
Iove over lime (Iong-lerm asecl)
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Psychologyplays a
crucial role in describing,
explaining and predicting
human experiences in
cyberspace.
What is the Internet?
A set of numerous interconnected networks that enable
communication between or among computers.
What is the internet for?
What is the Internet?
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What is computer-mediated communication (CMC)?
The convergence of computers and telecommunications has led to a new
medium for communication called computer-mediated communication (CMC).
Narrow bandwidth does not transmit much of the information available
In-person communication is considered as wide bandwidth people
communicate in real time (i.e. at the same time) using multiple modes
simultaneously
Multi-modal CMCs webcam, headset, etc.
3d chat?
What is computer-mediated communication (CMC)?
CLASSIFICATIONS OF CMC
Asynchronous communication is not
simultaneous; time lag
(e.g., e-mail, forum, blog, social
network sites, microblog)
Synchronous communication occurs
simultaneously between two or more
users; real-time (e.g., im, chat,
videoconference, 3D Chat, SMS)
CLASSIFICATIONS OF CMC
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WHAT IS CYIRSIACI`
Cyberspace was a
term coined by science
fiction writer William
Gibson in his novel
Neuromancer (1984).
CYIRSIACI
HALLUCINATION
is a psychological experience
a consensual
hallucination
-altered state of consciousness
- individual experience
- not under voluntary control
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ConsensuuI
HuIIuclnutlon
-Currenl avareness
-Shared exerience
-Under voIunlary conlroI
Cyberspace is a psychological state.
COMMUNICATING ONLINE
COMMUNICATING ONLINE
Emoticons
PUNCTUATION MARKS AND CAPITAL LETTERS???!!!
Ahhmm..aaahhhparalinguistic markers
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Deliber8 mizzpelling
Acronyms
GTG HB
ILY WOMBAT
TTYL
Blackhole experiences
THE SELF ONLINE
THE SELF ONLINE
Self description
Pictures
Behaviors
Avatar
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Me onIine!
We engage in selective self-
presentation.
The self online is a little more attractive
and exciting than the self in person.
Is the online self similar to our
in-person self?
Do we lie?
Meeling olher eoIe onIine!
PROFILE
IDUCATION:
UI CSSI
UI CoIIege of Lav
INTIRISTS:
Sorls, Ioelry
STATUS:
SingIe
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Hc is Irnm UP, hnw
can I nnt !ikc him?
Hc's prnbab!y prn-
RH bi!!!
Hc has a pct!
FUHU
matcria!!
Social Identity Model of
Deindividuation Effects
(Lea & Spears, 1991)
Hyperpersonal Theory
(Walther, 1996)
selective self-presentation
+
idealized perception of the
other

*
=
*hyperaccelerated, idealized relationship

The lntenslflcutlon of uttructlon Ieudlng to u

romuntlc reIutlonshlp
IxcIusivily, ReguIarily, Ienglh of lhe
inleraclion
High LeveI of discIosure
Olher forms of communicalion (lexl,
hone, e-maiI, vebcam) ack-
channeIing
Terms of Indearmenl
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(conlinualion)
Long-lerm Ians/meeling in erson
VerbaIizalion of feeIings lovards each olher
(asakaIye haIabsyu, vuv you)
VerbaIizalion of lhe hysicaI asecl of
inlimacy
(mvah, cyber foreIay, hone sex)
Chci Bi!!cdn is in a reIalionshi.
aboul an hour ago
Chei Billedo Is this relationship real?
The feeling is as genuine and as real as any of
our in-person relationships.
Chei Billedo Human motivations are the same
online and in-person BUT the medium limits
self-presentation and distorts our perception of
others.
Chei Billedo likes this.
Comment Like
Relationship status: EPIC FAIL!
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Attraction Cues Attraction Cues
Computer-mediated
Communication (!RC)
In-person
Communication
Lack of
!ntimacy
!ntimacy
Intimacy
Lack of
intimacy
Friendship Romantic
Relationship
Romantic
Relationship
Friendship
Acquaintance
Acquaintance
Long-term
Commitment
Termination of
Relationship
Termination of
Relationship
Decision
to meet
!n-
person
IN-PERSON INTERACTION ONL!NE !NTERACT!ON
THE FORMATION OF INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION AND ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP ONLINE
MeaningfuI reIalionshis are formed lhrough
onIine inleraclion.
The queslion is nol vhelher lhe reIalionshi
is reaI or nol, bul vhelher lhe reIalionshi is
comIele or nol.
Iriendshis, vhich reIy soIeIy on inlimacy,
may be comIele onIine.
A romanlic reIalionshi, on lhe olher hand,
demands hysicaI comonenl. This becomes
lhe imelus for couIes lo move from onIine
lo in-erson inleraclion.
The lheories of allraclion based on in-erson
inleraclions are aIicabIe lo onIine
inleraclions vilh sIighl modificalions.
(AND THI INTIRNIT IS NOT }UST IOR
IORN!)
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