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Kentucky Chapter
4th QTR 2012

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C.O.P.S. 101
Laurie Sticklen Surviving Spouse y husband Jim Stumpy Sticklen died March 4, 2011 while attending a training course. At our rst C.O.P.S. meeting February 2012, Julie Schmidt had Hershey kisses as the centerpiece so we immediately knew we were among friends (conrmed by pizza lunch to follow!). This was our rst experience meeting other survivors and we felt surrounded by empathy and understanding from those who had been there and we left with a sense that this was a special group. Thanks to advice taken from that meeting and support from Kentucky C.O.P.S. we decided to y to National Police Week and attend all the activities. After arriving at Reagan Airport, the walk through the rows of saluting ocers, the escort to baggage claim and the bus, and the motorcycle es-

LODD/Traumas of Law Enforcement/ C.O.P.S. Walk 2012

Scholarships Available to Survivors

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Message from the President/ Obit/Holiday Party

Getting Through the Holidays


cort to the hotel allowed us to experience rst-hand the dedication to the fallen and we were honored by their respect. At the hotel we were met by a slice of home in Julies smiling face and her KY C.O.P.S. backpacks. These backpacks were armed with everything you could imagine. Suce it to say, we did not lack for Kleenex, sunscreen, umbrellas, hand sanitizer, T-shirts, writing materials, rst aid kits, snacks, snacks, and did I mention snacks. Our police week experience was something we will always treasure. We were honored to meet the Minnesota LEU ocer who represented us with the ag and bracelet he bicycled with 250 miles with in honor of Jim. The Candlelight Vigil was incredible and something one has to experience to fully appreciate. Emily (age 18) and Continued on PAGE

MISSION STATEMENT Concerns of Police Survivors,

Inc. and the Kentucky Chapter of Concerns of Police Survivors (C.O.P.S.) provides resources to assist in the rebuilding of the lives of surviving families and affected co-workers of law enforcement ofcers killed in the line of duty as determined by Federal criteria. Furthermore, C.O.P.S. provides training to law enforcement agencies on survivor victimization issues and educates the public of the need to support the law enforcement profession and its survivors.

Kentucky C.O.P.S. News

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Andrew (age 16) attended the Kids/ Teen program at the FBI Academy where they participated in fun activities with amazing kids with whom they felt at ease right from the start. Through talking with other survivors, Mary (age 21) and I discovered that although everyones story is dierent, the similarities drew us together. In various sessions I often thought I felt the same way or I experienced that. To know others are or have been where you are, that what you are experiencing is normal that is an invaluable gift. At the Memorial Service the honor and respect for the fallen ocers and their families was experienced throughout the day. In talking with other families, I was stuck that those being honored had many things in common including love for family and community and dedication to service. I felt these ocers would be humbled by the tribute, but so grateful for the support shown to their families. National and KY C.O.P.S. have also made it possible for us to attend tremendous Hands On Programs. In August, Andrew attended Outward


Bound white water rafting through Utah with 60 other 15-20 year old survivors. Andrew found this an incredible experience in no small part due to the young ladies on the trip! Andrew felt this summer experience championed that of Andrew, Mary, Matt Ottara, Emily & Laurie Sticklen after the anyone in his class Road to Hope Reception. with a possible honorable menChester) horseback ride through the tion for the girl who spent two weeks Missouri woods and my rst ever pissinging throughout Europe. tol target shooting adventure. I came In September, at Spouses Getaway away with a whole new support group in nowhere (Potosi) Missouri, I met of not only survivors, but thrivers. a group of upbeat women many The C.O.P.S. support and opportustories, ages, time frames bonded by a nities have been life changing for us. past loss but not defeated by it. Once Everyone has their own way to naviagain was the opportunity to talk gate through the grieving process, surrounded by the comforting feeling but I know if you reach out for the of being with those who truly underC.O.P.S. healing hands they will be stand. My activities included a peacethere whether tomorrow, next month, ful (well, except for occasional hilarnext year or 20 years from now. ity from Trina Scott and her horse

From left to right: Mary & Emily stand in front of the NLEOMF wall during NPW. President Julie Schmidt, Mary Sticklen, Katherine Thacker (c/98), Andrew Sticklen and Laurie Sticklen at NPW conference. Children of fallen ofcers, Mary Sticklen, Emily Sticklen, Katherine Thacker and Andrew Sticklen bond during NPW.

National/State C.O.P.S. News


Hodgenville Police Ofcer Dies in Trafc Accident

From ODMP Police Ofcer Mark Taulbee was killed in a singlevehicle crash while pursuing a vehicle along Campbellsville Road, in LaRue County, at approximately 3:25 am. He had responded to a domestic disturbance and, upon arriving, was informed that a male subject had just taken a vehicle without permission and left the scene. Ofcer Taulbee pursued the vehicle at high speeds until his vehicle left the roadway and crashed. The subject continued to ee but turned himself in later in the morning. Ofcer Taulbee had served with the Hodgenville Police Department for 13 months and had previously served with the Morgan Police Department and the Butler County Sheriff's Ofce. He is survived by his wife, son, and daughter.

Hodgenville Police Ofcer Mark Taulbee EOW 9/16/12.

Traumas of Law Enforcement 2013 to be held in Louisville

Concerns of Police Survivors has presented on average, 7 segments of the Traumas of Law Enforcement at various locations across the country since 1996. This 3-day training dedicates 1-day to preparing and handling lineof-duty death, 1-day to the cumulative stress on an ofcer, day to police suicide, and day to the traumatized ofcer. C.O.P.S. has presented this training to over 10,000 individuals from law enforcement community. The Traumas of Law Enforcement training will be in Louisville February 11-13, 2013 at the Holiday Inn Louisville East, 1325 Hurstbourne Parkway. If you are interested in attending this training, go to www.nationalcops. org to register. There is no charge to attend but seats are limited. Registration deadline is January 25, 2013. The Holiday Inn Louisville East is offering a hotel room rate of $99 plus 15% tax. An airport shuttle service is available through the hotel to and from the Louisville International Airport. You may call the hotel directly to be picked up from the airport. If you have questions about the training please contact the National C.O.P.S. ofce at 573.346.4911.

C.O.P.S. Walk 2012

Jennifer Thacker KY C.O.P.S. Benet Coordinator October 10 & 11, Katherine and I were able to enjoy the autumn beauty of the C & O Canal Towpath while also supporting Concerns of Police Survivors (C.O.P.S.) during the 8th Annual COPS Walk. This years walk was particularly special because Katherine was recognized for 100 miles walked and I was recognized for 200 miles walked for C.O.P.S. I encourage people of all ages to walk in the COPS Walk in October 2013 or COPS Walk Southwest in March 2013. 25 miles in two days may seem like a long distance, but when walking with friends and making new friends, sharing stories of our ofcers with tears, laughter and great support, the time and miles really pass quickly! All you have to do is gather $1000 in sponsors, which will support C.O.P.S. programs. Special thanks to the Kentucky Law Enforcement Memorial Foundation for generously sponsoring Katherine and me and to the KY C.O.P.S. Chapter for paying our travel expenses so we were able to take part in this rewarding and fun lled weekend!

Jennifer & Katherine Thacker, survivors of Investigator Brandon Thacker, EOW 4/16/1998, are all smiles after walking 25 miles in honor of Brandon.



Scholarships Available to Survivors

KLEMF Scholarship p
The Kentucky Memoorial Foundation will be granting up to twentyve scholarships this year. The award is limited to a maximum of $1,000 per year, except if the award recipient is a family member of an ocer who was killed in the line of duty, in which case the amount will be $2,000. These scholarships will be restricted to law enforcement ocers and law enforcement telecommunication personnel (current, retired, or disabled) and their survivors and dependents. The scholarships may be used at any accredited college or university, including two-year and community colleges. It may also be used for a recognized or certied vocational or trade school. Eligible persons may submit scholarship applications for pre-approval prior to admissions if this source of funding will be the only available external funding for them. Awards for the pre-approved applications will only be awarded after verication of acceptance into the program. The application deadline is March 31, 2013. For more information visit, call (859) 622.8081 or e-mail study. Scholarships are not awarded to survivors who are entitled to a tuition-free education as a state death benet. C.O.P.S. scholarships are awarded three times per year. The deadlines are September 30 for the winter semester, February 28 for the summer semester and March 31 for the fall semester. Applicants seeking nancial assistance for education purposes are limited to the receipt of not more than $1,500 per semester, and total scholarship awards shall not exceed $12,000 maximum lifetime. For more information visit www.nationalcops. org, or phone (573) 346.4911 class attendance. (All award amounts are proportionately less for part-time students.) All PSOEA awards must, by law, be reduced by the amount of other governmental assistance that a student is eligible to receive. For more information visit

Kentucky - KRS 164.2842

Free tuition at state-supported schools for survivor of a police ocer, reghter, or volunteer reghter permanently and totally disabled in line of duty -- Free tuition at statesupported school for survivor of other state-administered retirement system participants disabled as a result of duty-related injury. For more information visit krs/164-00/2842.PDF

PSOEA Scholarships

C.O.P.S. Scholarship Program

C.O.P.S. scholarships provide nancial assispr tance to surviving chilt dren and to surviving d spouses of law enforces ment ocers killed in m the line of duty (according to Federal government criteria) who wish to pursue a course of study beyond high school. Scholarships are also not awarded for post-graduate

The Public Safety Ofcers Benets (PSOB) Program includes the Public Safety Ocers Educational Assistance (PSOEA) Program, which (P E-MAIL ADDRESSES NEEDED expands on eorts started under the To be informed more frequently on the Federal Law Enforcement Depenissues and events that affect our chapter, dents Assistance (FLEDA) Act (Public and to save on printing and postage cost, Law 104-238 of 1996). The PSOEA please send your name and e-mail to rnlinProgram provides assistance for higher education for the spouses and children of federal, state, and local public safety ocers who have been NEWS TO SHARE killed or permanently disabled in the Do you have news or pictures to share? To line of duty. The act was amended in 1998 to include educational assistance share news about weddings, graduations, births, surgeries, trial updates, etc., send to spouses and children of state and to: Rachel N. Lingenfelter at local public safety ocers. The educational assistance may or call be used to defray relevant expenses, 859.582.4130. including tuition and fees, room and board, books, supplies, and other education-related costs. As of October 1, 2009, the maximum award for a fulltime student is $925.00 per month of

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Gone But Not Forgotten

1st Quarter: January - March
Each quarter, we will list the ofcers from Kentucky honored on the Kentucky Law Enforcement Memorial Foundations memorial in Richmond, Kentucky. If your ofcer is not listed, please pardon the omission, and let us know so that we may properly acknowledge your ofcer. GREEN, SAM L LEWIS, WILLIE SR WELLS, JASON

1/1/62 1/1/57 1/1/47 1/1/38 1/1/30 1/1/29 1/1/25 1/1/20 1/1/03 1/2/87 1/03/1893 1/3/05

Rowan Co. Leslie Co. Leslie Co. Lebanon Junction




Glasgow Leslie Co. Leslie Co. Lebanon Junction Louisa

Magon Co.

1/3/67 1/4/98 1/4/83 1/5/79 Warren Co. ARNSPARGER, CLIFTON 1/5/41 Bourbon Co. MAZZIE, WALTER D 1/5/39 Louisville Covington LAW, BENJAMIN F 1/5/25 RUGGLES, JOHN 1/07/1878 Lewis Co. STRONG, CLAUDE 1/8/52 Hickman PURSIFULL, SEAN 1/10/08 Bell Co. PYSHER, FRANK W JR 1/10/89 Jeerson Co. DEAL, WALKER 1/10/21 Pike Co. SMITH, HIRAM 1/14/42 Breathitt Co. RUST, BENJAMIN S 1/15/1862 Louisville TIPTON, NOAH J 1/16/32 Rockcastle Co. WEST, SILAS 1/16/28 Somerset PATRICK, ELVIN 1/17/59 Whitley Co. ESTES, J J 1/19/27 Lexington KIDWELL, GARY E 1/20/91 Stanford PICKARD, WILLIAM 1/21/76 KSP HAWTHORN, JOHN H 1/22/47 Louisville GREEN, MICHAEL R 1/26/86 Corrections


Henderson Co. Lexington Covington Perry Co.

1/27/94 1/27/81 1/27/30 CLAYCOMB, LAWRENCE 1/28/37 BENNETT, STEVE L 1/30/92 BRISCOE, ARTHUR C 1/30/92 WRIGHT, WILLIAM S. 1/30/00 BOYER, H D 1/31/31 OFFUTT, BASIL D 1/31/31 MARTIN, BEE 1/31/30 RICHARDSON, JAMES 2/1/88 RAY, HERBERT 2/2/35 HEDGEPETH, JAMES 2/2/42 KINNEY, THOMAS W 2/2/42 COMBS, JERRY 2/5/40

Rowan Co. Louisville Louisville Louisville Powell Co. Powell Co.

Letcher Co.

Louisville Louisville Floyd Co. Pulaski Co.

U S Marshal


2/6/67 2/7/46 2/8/15 2/10/23 2/11/37 CUNNINGHAM, CLINTON 2/11/79 WEISS, JOHN R 2/12/86 BARKER, LEE 2/14/12 MILLER, ROBERT R 2/14/51 BROWN, HENRY 2/15/1896 YELENOSKY, JOHN 2/15/49 ABELL, FRANCIS L 2/16/29 DOTSON, AUTHUR 2/16/66 WALKER, ROBERT T 2/16/86 FOW, JOHN 2/17/17 HAMMOND, LUTHER 2/18/57 PETTIT, ASA 2/19/13 SANSBURY, JAMES 2/21/65 BANAHAM, JAMES 2/23/35 COX, JONAH D 2/23/74 PERKINS, J WES 2/24/30 WAINSCOTT, ETHELBERT 2/24/90

Louisville Louisville Breathitt Co. Adairville Covington Graves Co. Univ of KY Louisville KSP Shively


Co. Eminence LaGrange Covington

Corrections Grayson Co.

Wolfe Co.
Clinton Co.

Graves Co.
Jeerson Co. Jeerson Co. Jeerson Co.

Breathitt Co.
Johnson Co.

KSP Frankfort Lynch


Russellville Irvine Louisville


Marion Co. Fish & Wildlife CASTEEL, BERT 3/21/03 Laurel Co. ARVIN, JESSIE 3/22/1857 Estill Co. LAND, JAMES M 3/22/1857 Estill Co. GRIGNON, PETER A 3/23/05 Louisville WILKE, FRANK H 3/24/28 Louisville KENNEDY, GROVER 3/25/49 McCreary Co. HENSLEY, ROBERT 3/27/54 Owsley Co. TAYLOR, CLARENCE 3/27/54 Owsley Co. WALKER, KELLY 3/28/23 Leslie Co. CONOVER, MARVIN 3/29/04 Corrections TRINKLE, ORVILLE C JR 3/29/60 R Louisville SLUSHER, FLOYD 3/31/1892 Leslie Co. HATFIELD, CHARLES 3/31/19 Ashland

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Chapter News
President Julie Schmidt



Jansen came to mind. Tony is a police ocer in Highland Heights Kentucky and surviving son of Anthony E. Jansen, EOW 12/30/84. Tony has shown great interest in KY C.O.P.S. from the rst time I met him. He has a wonderful new wife that completely supports him. I spoke with Tonys mother at the KY C.O.P.S. annual picnic this year. She was extremely supportive and advised me that she had encouraged Tony to take the position. I would like to welcome Tony to the position and I look forward to working with him! It is important that I let you know that in June 2013, we will be having elections! Please feel free to become involved and see what this organization is all about. We will have vacant seats that will need to be lled. Remember that this is a volunteer organization and we work very hard! Its very rewarding to help the best people at the worst times of thier lives!

On June 5, 2012 Mike Townsend resigned as the Kentucky C.O.P.S. Vice President. Mike advised that due to family health issues and numerous other commitments it would be best for him to focus on those issues at this time. Mike is staying on as a board trustee and we would like to thank him for his service! With that being said, I began a search for a new vice president to take Mikes place for the remainder of the term. Immediately Tony


Alice Belle Jones Parido, loving Mother, Grandmother, Great-Grandmother, Aunt and friend, passed away July 27, 2012, at the age of 88. She resided at Sayre Christian Village, and was a member of Northeast Christian Church, Lexington KY. Born September 17, 1923 in Mt. Sterling KY, she was the only daughter of Luther Robinson Jones and Mary Lina Hall Jones. She graduated from Centerville High School in 1941. Alice married James W. Parido, June 7, 1947 and they enjoyed 52 years, 5 children and many wonderful and happy times together until his death in 1999. She is survived by children: James Parido, Carolyn (John) Allison, Judy (Ed) Deja, Janie (Chip) Palmer, and Jeff (Karen) Parido. Also surviving grandchildren: Chris (Kristin) Walls, Brian (Jessica) Hiten, Erin Hiten, Michelle (Jack) Moreland, Phillip Allison, Megan Parido, Belicia Palmer, Veronica Palmer, Aja Palmer, Priscilla Walls, Sara (Jeff) Schrimsher, and Tiffany Peerson. She survives twelve great-grandchildren, numerous nieces and nephews, and many close friends. She was preceded in death by her husband, two grandsons: Billy Walls and Ricky Peerson, and all six brothers. Memorial contributions can be made to Sayre Christian Village or Northeast Christian Church building fund.

Nanny and Billy (EOW 11/13/01) on his wedding day to Priscilla (KY C.O.P past president) in .S. 2000.

KY C.O.P.S. Annual Holiday Party

(With Santa)
The Annual Holiday Party will be Saturday December 1, 2012. The luncheon will start at 11:00 at the Embassy Suites in Lexington. Come join us for food, fun, fellowship, and remembrance. Santa will be making a brief visit! Please RSVP to Rachel Lingenfelter at 859-582-4130 or E-mail at Please include the number of children (under 12) & names that will be attending with you.

Getting Through the Holidays
Surviving Grief During the Holiday Season
From Angela Morrow, RN


If you have lost a loved one, you might be wondering how to cope with your grief this holiday season. With the rst fallen leaf of autumn, we begin to anticipate the holidays ahead. Our senses are acute and take in everything: the smell of turkey roasting and freshly baked pies; the holiday songs playing on the radio; the sound of laughter from our loved ones who have gathered together. But for those of us who are experiencing illness, grief, or the loss of a loved one, the holidays can be a time of sadness, pain, anger, or dread. The ebb and ow of grief can overwhelm us with waves of memories, especially during the holidays. Grief will also magnify the stress that is already a part of the holiday season. How do we begin to ll the emptiness we feel when it seems everyone else is overowing with joy? There are some strategies to help you cope during the holidays and beyond. Strategies for Survival Oer Yourself Some Grace The best thing you can do this holiday season is be kind to yourself. Give yourself permission to feel whatever it is your feeling. Dont fall prey to the belief that you have to feel a certain way or do certain things for your holiday to be normal. If you feel sad, allow the tears to come; if you feel angry, allow yourself to vent some steam. Be Kind to Yourself Get the rest and nourishment you need. Dont take on any more than you can handle. If you need to be alone, honor that. If you crave the company and aection of others, seek it out. Do whatever it is that feels right to you. Ask For and Accept Help The holiday season is no time to feign

strength and independence. You will need the help and support of others to get through. Dont feel as though you are a burden. People get immense satisfaction and joy from helping those they care about. In times of need, other people desire to help but often dont know how. This is the time for you to speak up and make your needs known. If you need someone to help you with meals, shopping, or decorating, tell them so. They will be delighted to feel like they are helping you in some way. The same holds true for your emotional needs. Friends and family may feel uncomfortable when it comes to talking about your grief. They may think that you dont want to talk about it and dont want to remind you of your pain. Again, you will have to direct them in the best way to help you. If you want to talk about what youre going through or just want a shoulder to cry on, let your loved ones know. Find Support Sharing your feelings is the best way to get through them. You need people you can talk to. Friends and relatives can be a great support to us during times of grief, but they are sometimes full of their own grief or so immersed in the business of the holidays that they cannot be a support to you. Support groups for caregivers and the bereaved are plentiful during the holiday season. Check with local churches, community centers, and hospice agencies to nd a group that suites you. Support group members often make friends that end up being a source of support for years to come. Make a Dierence Most of us like to help others during the holiday season. Taking the orna-

ment o the tree at the mall, dropping our change in the charity basket, or donating to our favorite organization can help us feel like we are contributing to a greater good. Helping others in times of grief can help take the focus o yourself and your pain. Volunteering at a nursing home, hospital, childrens shelter, or soup kitchen can be cathartic in times of pain. Even helping a friend or family member in need can be healing. Stop the Comparisons Its easy to watch other families and compare them to your own. Seeing other families together and enjoying the festivities may make you feel deprived. Keep in mind that the holidays are stressful for most families and are rarely the magical gatherings depicted in greeting cards. Try to embrace what you have rather than compare it to what you think others have. Remember That You Will Survive As hard as it is for you right now, you will survive. You will make it through the holidays in one piece. It may be the most dicult season in your time of grief, but it will pass. And when it does, you will come out on the other side stronger than before. You dont have to enjoy the holidays. You dont even have to go through the motions pretending to enjoy the festivities. But, its also just ne to have a good time in spite of your grief. If happiness slips through your window of grief, allow it to happen and enjoy it. You wont be doing your loved one an injustice by feeling joyous. The best gift you can give anyone you love, even someone you have lost, is being true to yourself and living your life to the fullest.

Julie Schmidt (cw/03) 502-376-2891


Richard Bottoms, (cw/10)

Josh Masterson, (cw/10) 859-948-3677 Brandi Mundo (w/03) 502-589-3369 Brenda Nease (w/89)

Derran Broyles, KSP 502-867-9099 Sherry Bryant (w/03) 859-581-0639 Tim Davis, KY FOP Chaplain 270-836-9131 Chetallen Gentry, (cw/98) 502-777-9753 Joe Gilliland, KY Blue Knights

Vice President
Tony Jansen (ac/84) 859-393-0353

Jerry Powell, (cw/88 & 00)


Keith Broughton (cw/01 & 00) 859-509-1270

Paul Stewart, (cw/10) 859-684-6923 Mike Townsend (cw/07)


Rachel Lingenfelter (ac/89) 859-582-4130

Joe Hess, (cw 01 & 10) 859-948-5890 Ricky Lynn, (cw/10) 859-315-1029

Priscilla Walls, (w/01) 859-333-1655

Chapter Director
Dave Ernst (cw/88) 502-836-3687

Making Sense of the Letters to Identify Survivors

ac = adult child c = child cw = co-worker f = father fn = anc o = other m = mother s = sibling so = signicant other w = widow(er)

Benets Coordinator
Jennifer Thacker (w/98) 502-494-4246


December 1 - Annual Holiday Party - Embassy Suites, Lexington January 12 - Business Meeting - Lexington March 9 - Business Meeting - Shelbyville


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