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For instance, Swedish calls your mothers brother morbror and your fathers brother farbror, where Danish has onkel for both, and English has uncle. (In Latin they were avunculus and patruus.) On the other hand, English makes some distinctions that other languages do not. Yourdaughter-in-law and your stepdaughter are both your belle-fille in French. And according to the Encyclopdia Britannica, Polynesian languages use the same words for male and female cousins as for brothers and sisters. Even native English speakers can be confused by some of our relationship terms. A friend asked me to help him figure out what relation he was to his mothers aunts greatgrandson. After we had worked that out (see Example 2), he suggested others might be interested. What follows is an expanded and more general form of our discussion. In English, three sets of terms seem to cause the most difficulty: cousin, in-law, andhalf or step relations. Just to make things messy, each of these terms can correctly be used for several different relationships. Vocabulary: In discussing relationships, phrases like brother or sister and son or daughter come up again and again. Here are standard gender-neutral terms that Ill use to shorten the following discussion: sibling = brother or sister (Some dictionaries call two individuals siblings if they have one or both parents in common. This would include the relationships of half brother and half sister as well as full brother and sister. In this document, Ill use the word sibling in its more restricted meaning: an individual who has the same two parents as you.) spouse = husband or wife child = son or daughter (even if an adult) parent = mother or father
The Basics
Before getting into third cousin once removed, its good to understand the common terms. Please have a look at the following table.
H and W (a husband and wife) are the common ancestors of this family. B0 and C0 are the son and daughter (children) of H and W, and H and W are the father and mother (parents) of B0 and C0. B1 and C1 are the grandchildren (grandsons and grand daughters) of H and W, and H and W are therefore the grandparents (grandfather and grandmother) of B1 and C1.
Godparents
Many children have godparents chosen for them by their parents, for example in Christian denominations at the time of baptism. While the godparents are not necessarily relatives, in some families they stand in the position of relatives to the child, and may even be addressed as aunt and uncle. The godparents, in turn, may speak of their godson or goddaughter, and collectively godsons and goddaughters would be godchildren.
If I want to refer collectively to the blood relatives of my spouse, I can call them my in-laws". Sometimes this term means just my spouses parents; other times it can mean any group of my spouses relatives. In-law relationship terms are always written with hyphens, by the way. And the plural is formed on the part before the -in-law; for example, brothers-in-law and not brotherin-laws. The only exception is the general term in-laws, which is always plural.
Brother-in-Law, Sister-in-Law
These are the only really tricky in-law terms. Brother-in-law and sister-in-law each have two or three meanings. All authorities agree on the first two meanings, but there is some controversy about the third (and I personally dont accept it). My sister-in-law could be: 1. the sister of my spouse, or 2. the wife of my brother, or 3. the wife of my spouses brother. (This meaning is accepted by The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language (Third Edition, 1992), but not by all authorities.) Similarly, my brother-in-law could be 1. the brother of my spouse, or 2. the husband of my sister, or 3. the husband of my spouses sister. (This meaning is accepted by The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language (Third Edition, 1992), but not by all authorities.) Consider the following example: Al marries Betty; Betty has a sister Bonnie, who marries Calvin.
The siblings-in-law: Al is Bonnies brother-in-law (definition 2), and Bonnie is Als sister-in-law (definition 1); Betty is Calvins sister-in-law (definition 1), and Calvin is Bettys brother-in-law (definition 2). So much is agreed. The question is, are Al and Calvin brothers-in-law (definition 3)? Someone once wrote to Ann Landers, the advice columnist, describing this situation. Ann replied: You are no relation; you are just two men who married sisters. Though I agree with Ann on this one, I admit that its awkward for Al to refer to Calvin as my wifes brother-in-law or my sister-in-laws husband. Probably thats why Al might refer to Calvin as my brother-in-law.
B0.......siblings......C0 | |
B1....first cousins....C1 | |
B2...second cousins....C2
B3....third cousins....C3 | |
H and W are the common ancestors (husband and wife); B0 and C0 are their children, B1 and C1 are their grandchildren, B2 and C2 are their great-grandchildren, and so on.
Ed = Felicia | Jack
Jacks first cousins can be categorized as follows: Jill is Jacks patrilateral ortho-cousin (related through Jacks father Ed and Eds brother Abe). Jack is also Jills patrilateral ortho-cousin because the relationship goes from Jill, through her father Abe, through his brother Ed, to Jack. John is Jacks patrilateral cross-cousin (related through Jacks father Ed and Eds sister Cassie). But Jack is Johns matrilateral cross-cousin because the relationship is through Johns mother and then through her brother. James is Jacks matrilateral ortho-cousin (related through Jacks mother Felicia and Felicias sister Georgina). Jack is also Jamess matrilateral ortho-cousin. (This section was adapted from Cousin Marriage in the 1967 Encyclopdia Britannica.)
Removed Cousins
Now consider B1 and C2. What relation are they? C2 is the child of C1, and C1 and B1 are first cousins. Therefore B1 and C2 are called first cousins once removed, the most common example of a relationship designated removed.. The once removed means that one of the two relatives is one generation removed from being a first cousin with the other. Continuing, C3 is the grandchild of C1, who is B1s first cousin, so B1 and C3 are first cousins twice removed. Each remove corresponds to going another generation down one side of the family tree. The word removed is used only when the relationship involves going down the family tree, to later generations. For instance, B2 and C4 are second cousins twice removed, not fourth cousins twice removed. Example 1: What relation to you is Joe, your mothers cousins great-grandson? Answer: In the chart above, the first cousins B1 and C1 must be your mother and her cousin. (If a relationship is just stated as cousin, usually that means first cousin.) You are then B2, the child of your mother. Your mothers cousin is C1, and her great-grandson Joe would be C4, three generations below her. You (B2) are second cousin to C2; Joe is twice removed, or two generations below C2. Thus your mothers [first] cousins greatgrandson is your second cousin twice removedand of course you are also his second cousin twice removed. Example 2: A friend asked me to help him figure out what relationship he was to his mothers aunts great-grandson. On the above chart, youd place my friend at B2, his mother at B1, and her aunt at C0. Therefore the aunts great-grandson is at C3. My friend B2 and his relative C3 are second cousins once removed.
Step Relations
When a parent remarries, the new spouse is the stepfather or stepmother of any children from the previous marriage. For instance, Harry is the father of Amanda and Amelia and stepfather of John; Sally is the mother of John and Amelia and stepmother of Amanda. The children from a previous marriage are stepsons and stepdaughters (generically,stepchildren). John is Harrys stepson and Amanda is Sallys stepdaughter. By the way, you are no relation to your stepparents previous spouse. John, who is Harrys stepson, might refer to Sue as my stepfathers ex-wife, or simply my stepfathers ex. (If he was hoping for Christmas presents, he might call her Mom!) You are my stepbrother or stepsister if we have no parents in common but our parents have married each other. There are two ways you could be my stepsister:
already has a daughter from a previous marriage, that daughter is my stepsister because one of her parents is married to one of my parents. If my father marries a second time, and his new wife already has a daughter, that daughter is again my stepsister. A similar rule gives the two ways for you to be my stepbrother. In the diagram, John is Amandas stepbrother and Amanda is Johns stepsister. They have no parents in common, but Johns mother Sally is now married to Amandas father Harry. Amelia is not stepsister but half sister to both John and Amanda, because she shares one parent with each.
If my mother marries a second time, and her new husband (my new stepfather)
Half Relations
You are my half brother or half sister if we have one parent in common but not both. For instance, if my parents divorce or my father dies and my mother remarries, her new husband is my stepfather. If she and my stepfather have a daughter, that daughter is my half sister because we have the same mother but different fathers. The same is true if my father remarries and has a daughter with his new wife: that daughter is my half sister. In the diagram, Amelia is Johns half sister and John is Amelias half brother, through their common mother Sally. Similarly, Amelia and Amanda are half sisters through their common father Harry. Do you see the difference? If you are the child of my stepparent, you will be either mystepsibling or my half sibling. Half means you are the child of my parent and my stepparent; step means you are the child of my stepparent and someone else (not my parent). Half siblings have one parent in common; stepsiblings have no parents in common. By the way, stepbrother and stepsister are always written as single words, without hyphens. Half brother and half sister are each written as two words (source: The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language [Third Edition, 1992]). Isnt English a strange language?
Collateral consanguinity is trickier, and in fact there are two main systems: The Roman method or civil law counts up from one person to the common ancestor, then down to the other person. On this system, B1 and C1 (first cousins) are related in the fourth degree (up from B1 to B0, to H and W, then down to C0 and C1: four transitions in total). B0 and C1 (uncle and niece) are related in the third degree. The Germanic method was used by Catholic canon law until 1983 and also historically by English and American law. It simply counts the length of the longer branch. On this system uncle and niece (such as B0 and C1) are related in the second degree, exactly the same as first cousins (such as B1 and C1). (The above draws somewhat on Franois Veldes Usenet article Degrees in alt.talk.royalty [28 Oct 2003, archived here], and the 1911 Britannica article Consanguinity. Recent editions of the Britannica go into computation of consanguinity on the basis of shared DNA. On that basis great-grandparent and great-grandchild are related in the same degree as first cousins, because statistically each relationship involves 1/8 shared DNA.)