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The Simple Formula:
Be courageous and considerate, while qualifying (or disqualifying) throughout the interaction. Courage + Consideration + Qualify Thats it. Thats my entire formula. Probably the MAIN REASON you are visiting seduction websites to begin with, and have yet to get this part of your life handled is because you tend to qualify women based on their looks, and you are afraid of disapproval. It is time to take it up a notch and into the heart. You will stop fearing their disapproval the moment you stop disapproving of YOURSELF. When you stop judging yourself because you are not yet perfect, only then will you stop being shy and worried about what others think of you. You need to internalize the following: I accept myself fully as I am. I am enough. I own my own strength.

I have found that, on SOME LEVEL, most people feel they are not enough. But my friend, that is a fear-based illusion. You have three main things to offer a girl, and believe me, it is more than enough: 1- You have a sense of humor. Otherwise you wouldnt like my newsletters. 2- You have a DICK. 3- You have a good heart. Again, you wouldnt like my newsletters if this werent true. Thats all you need! You dont need to trick women into liking you. You dont need money, or looks, or any of that materialistic garbage unless you want to attract materialistic people into your life. You just need to realize that YOU ARE ENOUGH, JUST THE WAY YOU ARE. Oh, and you need to shower with soap Now, I know that theres always room for improvement, but to me, thats what relationships are for to find women who will help you improve yourself (and who will improve herself as well). Relationships are about ACCEPTANCE AND SUPPORT.

Stephanes Easy Pickup And Seduction Routine:

While I demonstrate this several times in the video, I thought that Id write it down, word-for-word, for those of you that want to memorize it. I dont wish to make clones of myself, and Im sure you will take this routine and streamline it to make it fit your personality. As long as you use the formula Courage + Consideration + Qualify you will enjoy massive success! Here it is: Hey there, I want to ask you an indiscreet question? But please -- if this makes you uncomfortable in any way, just give me the finger, and Ill know what to do. That is a GREAT opener, for several reasons. First, you have the courage to ask her an indiscreet question. And the very word indiscreet serves to hook her attention and make her feel curious. Second, you are being very considerate by letting her know that you do not wish to make her feel uncomfortable. Third, by saying, Just give me the finger it should make her laugh. And if she doesnt laugh at this, chances are she is very insecure and therefore lacks in the

sense of humor department. So right away you are qualifying her based on her sense of humor. Next, once she laughs and tells you that it is okay for you to proceed to ask her your indiscreet question, you start blatantly qualifying her: Are you single? She absolutely MUST be single for me to continue pursuing her. Now, you will usually get one of three answers to this question: 1- Yes. 2- No. (She is seeing someone) 3- Why do you ask? IF SHE RESPONDS, WHY DO YOU ASK? I highly recommend that you say, Im just curious. Once you do, she will usually calm down and feel comfortable again. Then she will answer the question. IF SHE RESPONDS, NO. Shes either seeing someone, or lying. If shes lying, you can pat yourself on the back. You might have dated a liar! My typical response is to say, Oh cool. Well, Im sure that your boyfriend or girlfriend is a very lucky guy or gal. Nice meeting you. This line is damn funny. It isnt meant to seduce her, its just a smooth way of ejecting and saying goodbye. IF SHE RESPONDS, YES. Its on! Great So when are you going to ask me out? This reverses the typical Barbie and Ken gender roles. I do this for several reasons. First, Im testing to see if she has a sense of humor. Second, I am testing to see if she has too much pussy power. Because if she responds, It is the mans job to pursue the woman and blah blah blah then she

is disqualified immediately. I have no time for Barbies for shallow, empty women that need to control men from the crotch because they are so pretty. Another response youll sometimes get is, I dont call men or I dont ask men out. Well excuuuuuuuuuuse me Oh Mighty One! These women are disqualified immediately in my book. On the other hand, MANY women will laugh. Just my type! Theyll usually laugh and go, I dont know and start fidgeting around, being cute and shy. I love those! So I continue seducing them You know, a lot of women are really just looking for a Ken Doll As in, Barbie and Ken. You know, like they want him to be doctor or an architect so they can say, Look Ma, hes a doctor! (Here the girl will laugh, typically.) Or they want a good-looking Ken doll so they can show him off to their friends and get their validation. You know what I mean? (She should know EXACTLY what youre talking about and be laughing pretty hard at this point.) But you seem like you might be different You seem like you might be open to exploring wonderful things. Very often they will laugh their heads off as you deliver this routine. Perfect! They will usually open up to you, and be VERY into you at this point. However, some women JUST WONT GET IT. My explanation for this is because youve hit a glitch in their programming. In NLP terms, youve meta-commented on their reality. Youve called them on their bullshit. You hit the nail on the head, and youve described who they are perfectly: Validation Seekers who choose their mates and lovers based on what they think the world expects of them (rather than following their heart). So As you deliver this routine, if you notice they become very confused, and you find yourself needing to explain it and even defend your actions, I want a voice in your head to say, Disqualified! LOL. The good news is that MANY women will be in love with you and ready for you to close the deal at this point. I like to stick out my arm and go, Come along! or simply, Lets go for a coffee and get to know each other.

HOW you close the deal doesnt matter. You dont need a magical trick. It should be smooth and natural and EFFORTLESS at this point. Otherwise they arent ready and you might want to talk to them a little more to build comfort, OR just do what I do and say, It was really nice meeting you. Because there are too many woman out there that are more than happy to go for coffee with me, and who trust their intuitions enough that they arent scared shitless over such a simple thing like going for coffee. I need insecure women like I need an infected scrotum Then again, if going for coffee isnt an option because you or the woman you are seducing is busy, thats fine. Hand her your number. I rarely, if ever, ask for their phone number. Why? Because Im not a chaser. Also, it makes women uncomfortable to give out their number to a guy theyve just met. They are so used to men who make them uncomfortable, constantly trying to get sex from them. I also need to know that they are mature enough to actually call a guy! Imagine that! LOL So its a way of screening for women who are mature, and ready, to start a friendship or relationship with someone. You will find that the women who call YOU tend to be women of heart. They will be receptive, and open, to your advances.

Qualifying/Disqualifying:
There are 7 major categories by which I disqualify women immediately. I do not wish to impose my values on top of yours, but I want to tell you what my 7 main disqualifiers are, to give you an idea. The moment the woman has disqualified herself (by displaying that she has no sense of humor for example) is the moment that I politely excuse myself. I dont sit there and try to change her I leave. 1- No sense of humor. This can mean that she is simply having a bad week (Her cat died, or her boyfriend cheated on her for example) so its important to never be judgmental. Still, I want a woman who is at the point in her life that she can enjoy laughter. The way to find out if she has a good sense of humor is to simply tell jokes, and gauge her reaction to them. Its that simple.
You know why a shepherd, when he fucks a sheep, does so at the edge of a cliff?

No, why? So the sheep will push back.

I like to tell them a dirty joke or two, in order to determine if they have a sense of humor, and also because I want to know if they get offended easily. Only the Ego can get offended. If a dirty joke offends them, well then I honor their right to be judgmental (and I move on). Again, these are just MY CRITERIA. Also, some women will deliberately not laugh at your jokes. They will act aloof, and you will start to feel like a loser. But my friend, it is THEY who are the losers. More on these aloof types in a moment See number 5. 2- Not a pleaser or giver. There are plenty of women (and men) out there who take take take, and it strokes their Ego to be that way. For example, MANY women go to bars simply to count the number of men who buy them drinks, and the number of drinks they can get out of those men that they refer to as suckers. Its called RUDE, and I avoid these types of women (users) like the plague! A great way to find out if shes a taker is to simply give something to her, and notice how she responds. For example, Ill offer to buy her a drink. Would you like a drink? Then I stand back and gauge her response. Does she offer to pay? Does she at least offer to buy the next round? When she says, Thank you does it look like she really means it, or do you feel like a sucker? After you buy her the drink, does she become more distant? Trust your intuition. So it only cost me five dollars to find out if shes nice or not. Cool! 3- Not openly bisexual. This is a criterion that youll begin to see a need for, with experience. It is not always obvious to less experienced men why this is so important. Again, I dont want to impose my values. These are simply MY criteria. There are many reasons why I ask them if they are bisexual. Many women will become uptight when you ask them this, or defensive, or offended, and even angry. They will start interrogating you, demanding an explanation. This lets me know right away that they are what I call Barbies. They are typically miserable, sexually repressed, jealous and possessive, HORRIBLE in bed (as in dead lay) and they will lick your penis as though it was an ice-cream cone! Deepthroating will not be an option! I have found that straight women tend to be NEUROTIC.

On the other hand, you will get girls that absolutely LIGHT UP when you ask them if they like women, and they will go into what I call Confession mode. They will be happy that you asked, and VERY intrigued; they will feel like youre the first guy that they can really talk to. THOSE are the girls that I want! Its not so much about getting threesomes. It is about comfort with their sexuality. In my model of the world, there are only two kinds of women: -Bisexual women (or bi-curious) -Repressed women Thats it! 4- Martyr or Poor me. Does she complain a lot? Does she whine about all of the assholes and bitches in her life? Well, if you start dating her, pretty soon YOU will be one of the assholes that she complains about to a random stranger at the bar. Do you feel guilty in her presence? Do you feel an urge to save her? Chances are that she is attempting to pull your heartstrings to manipulate you; because thats the only way she knows how to get attention and love. She doesnt yet understand the difference between blaming others and taking responsibility for creating her own reality. If you ask her, Why did you choose this struggle? she will typically draw a blank. 5- Aloof. While talking to this girl, do you find your mind racing to find something, ANYTHING that will hook her attention and get her to be more responsive? Do you start to feel like a complete loser while talking to her? Its the old, Look at me, Im so pretty attitude, or pussy power. It is a power play, or control game. In other words, she is ALOOF. Aloof means that she is PRETENDING that she doesnt care what anybody thinks. Trust me, shes JUST PRETENDING. This is the Whos cooler than who game. As in, He who loves least controls the relationship. Fuck that shit! Aloof is just more fear-based, attention-seeking bullshit. I have found that the best way to deal with these types is to be more aloof than they are (by walking away). Let em drain someone elses energy!

6- Interrogators. You will know that youre in the presence of an interrogator when they start bombarding you with questions (and making you feel uncomfortable). They are trying to break down your reality so it matches theirs. You will notice that when they ask you questions, it is NOT from a sincere, curious desire to know more about you. The questions that interrogators ask tend to be RHETORICAL. This person will often say, Let me play Devils advocate Um, NO. You will feel that this person does NOT accept you, just the way you are. They want to persuade you and change you and mold you into a clone of who THEY ARE. They desperately need validation, and this is how they attempt to get it. It is completely neurotic, and you will feel a tugging or pulling feeling in your solar plexus. At this point I usually say, Your opinion of me is none of my business and walk off. They HATE that 7- Intimidators. These are the AMOGS who use sarcasm to make you feel less than and who slap you on the back and say condescending shit like, Keep it up man! They see life as a game, or even as a war. These are the highly competitive Alphamale Jackoffs that youll see strutting their stuff, posturing and preening in locker rooms and bars all over the world. Of course, many women are like this too. Theyll yell at you, threaten you, and use all kinds of unimaginable drama tactics and temper tantrums to try to control you. I highly suggest that you avoid them. ======
To find out more about these types of passive-aggressive people, check out my newsletter titled, The Four Types Of Control. and The Celestine Prophecy by J. Redfield.

So those are the seven types of women (and men) that I avoid at all costs. And as a result, my relationships are like a DREAM. The women I date are cute, soft, loyal, giggly little cuddle-bunnies that go out of their way to please me on a daily basis. On a metaphysical level, cuddle-bunnies can be interpreted as follows: They have balanced the lower three chakras (Money, Sex, And Power) and relate to people from the fourth chakra, or HEART CHAKRA.

While not perfect, these women will make you feel extremely loved and do almost anything for you, provided you treat them as an equal. But if you dont reciprocate enough, or start taking advantage of their generosity, or condescend them, they will (and should) kick you the fuck out! If you decide to adopt my criteria, and to avoid these seven types, youre going to find yourself walking away from a LOT of women, especially at first. Eventually, youll get to the point where you can just sense it and you wont even approach them. You will feel their energy. Youll just KNOW, and youll feel stronger and more balanced than youve ever felt in your entire life. You will become a heart-centered chick magnet and women will either be completely intimidated by you, hate you, or fall all over you. That is my reality. When I go out, women approach ME all the time, because they can feel my heart energy. They can sense that Im strong but not alpha. Loving, but not a doormat. Generous, but not a sucker. I think what this comes down to is they can sense that I dont just use women as a masturbation tool or status symbol. They also know that I CHOOSE THEM, and not the reverse. I treat women as EQUALS, and walk away the moment they cant handle being treated in this way. Women in our society are used to being the choosers. But when a rare man with actual STANDARDS comes along, a rare man who their pussy power has no effect on, they will either run away in fear or be totally drawn in to me, almost like a magnet. And the seduction will be easy and natural, because the heart never plays games. It reminds me of an old quote that my friend always says: There are TWO kinds of respect FEAR, or ADMIRATION. Ill take what I can get!

Questions? Stephane@ideaGasms.com