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By Colette Caddle
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nWORK IT OUT: You deserve not
to have your self-esteem destroyed
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MOIRA HANNON
THE IRISH DAILY STAR, Wednesday January 30 2013
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MAGINE TWO little children growing up side by side in Northern Ireland. Sean and Eddie are best pals who do everything together, including going to the local Montessori three mornings a week.
He was the victim of bullying and as he made his way to work that morning hed been wondering in what way his boss would manage to humiliate him today. As he drove along the quays of the Liffey in Dublin he thought, momentarily, how easy it would be to just drive into the water and end it all. Thoughts of his wife and children stopped him but the shock that it had seriously crossed his mind prompted him to call in to the radio show. I often wonder what happened to him and if he dealt with his problem; lets hope so. Usually when we think of bullying we think of children but it is just as common in the workplace and men can be on the receiving end as much as women. My new book, From This Moment On, opens after an employer settles a case out of court with a girl who has been bullied by her boss. Despite having been vindicated however, she finds it hard to move on. When I was researching this subject, I found that this was often the case. Many adults feel like failures because they werent able to cope with the situation and sometimes blame themselves more than the bully. SUBJECT: One woman told me that she found it so Colette Caddle difficult to explain, even to herself, what (right) touches was going on that she waited over a year before finally reporting it to her HR on the topic of department. When she did, their solution workplace was to move her to another department bullying in her away from the job that she loved. She finally left but it took another year of new novel counselling and anti-depressants before she From This got her life back on track. Moment On This all happened some years ago but (cover above) bullying in the workplace seems as prevalent now as it was then. But its not always easy to identify the problem and even the professionals have struggled to come up with a definition of work-place bullying. The best I could find was from Washington psychologists, Gary and Ruth Namie. repeated, health-harming mistreatment, verbal abuse, or conduct which is threatening, humiliating, intimidating, or sabotage that interferes with work or some combination of the three. But what makes a bully? Some may well have psychological problems including feelings of inferiority or inadequacy and difficulty in relating to others.