Focus On Me New

SPECIAL REPORT
FOCUS ON ME
Merkley Map
Whats the IT You Want to SHIFT?
Create The Future You Really Really Want.
The SHIFT-IT Graphic Coaching Process

Produced by:
Christina Merkley, MA SHIFT-IT Coach, Inc.

Toll Free Phone/Fax: 1.866.925.2351 (U.S. & Canada) info@shift-it-coach.com | www.shift-it-coach.com Victoria, British Columbia, Canada
2005-2010 Christina L. Merkley www.shift-it-coach.com
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Table of Contents
Standing at the Crossroads ............................................... Who Is Christina Merkley .................................................. Whats the It You Want to Shift? ...................................... The Focus on Me Map ...................................................... Why Graphics? ................................................................ Law of Attraction Influences ............................................. Lets Go To It .................................................................. Whats Your Satisfaction Look Like? ................................... Create Your Focus On ME Map - Quick Summary .................. Overview of Map ............................................................. Step By Step Directions - Step 1: Create Your Inner Work Zone ...................... - Step 2: Rate Health & Fun & Recreation .................. - Step 3: Rate Finances & Career .............................. - Step 4: Rate Personal Development & Relationship .... - Step 5: Rate Family/Friends & Environment .............. - Step 6: Harvest Overall Insights ............................. Video: Demo Focus On Me ................................................ Case Studies ................................................................... Now What? ..................................................................... Get More Clarity & Guidance in 45 Minutes ......................... Next Maps ...................................................................... Products & Services ......................................................... Colour Map ..................................................................... page 17 page 20 page 22 page 24 page 26 page 29 page 31 page 32 page 34 page 39 page 40 page 41 page 42 page 3 page 4 page 5 page 6 page 7 page 11 page 12 page 14 page 15 page 16
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STANDING AT THE CROSSROADS: Who to Become Next?

Are You Standing At A Crossroads? Not Sure Which Way To Go? Or How To Get There? Life has an amazing way of bringing us repeatedly to this place of confusion and dissatisfaction. Its confusing, yet its also a place rich with possibility. Cause if you can navigate your crossroads well, you can successfully manifest what you next really ,really want. In essence, Become Your Next Self.
What you hold in your hands now is a Graphic Coaching tool that will start to activate your natural ability to attract what you do want (as opposed to what you dont). A guide that will begin to bring your natural problem and ambiguity solving abilities to the forefront. YOU REALLY DO HAVE YOUR OWN BEST ANSWERS INSIDE OF YOU This Special Focus on Me Report will help you literally SEE the world you have currently created and help you jumpstart the process of creating what you next want from here. I strongly suggest that you print this document out right now and read it immediately. Plus there is a special Visual Map on the second to last page that youll want to separate out and work with --- the custom Focus on Me map cause in your world it really is all about you!
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But before we get totally into you, let me tell you a little bit about me and about the process you are about to enter into
Who Is Christina Merkley?

Hi. Im Christina Merkley . Most people know me as The SHIFT-IT Coach because for years Ive helped people just like you SHIFT Your Life for the better. I work in a special little niche Ive coined as Graphic Coaching which means I literally DRAW my clients desires out of them!. I have a rare and unique background as both a visual facilitation expert (over 600+ meetings in corporate, government and not-for profit settings) and as a Coach and Law of Attraction teacher two methodologies that weave beautifully together. In this Special Report , my gift to you, you are going to experience these two extremely powerful methodologies for yourself and you are going to experience a shift in your energy about your life no matter what shape it is presently in. It is my bold promise to you, that if you do exactly what I instruct you to do in this guide, you will look at your life in a more informed manner and will sense more clearly what exactly is next brewing for you. You will define the IT (or its) that you want to SHIFT!
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Whats the IT YOU Want to SHIFT?!
Different people have different things that they want to SHIFT in life. Some people are doing well in their business or professional life, but want to shift their personal realm. Others are the opposite: theyve got their personal life in order but their professional sides could use some focus. People come to SHIFT-IT work, like they come to most coaching work, when they are experiencing some level of angst or dissatisfaction. It might be in the area of money, prosperity or abundance. Or, in the area of health, body or fitness. Or in their desire to create better relationships or more satisfying and creative work for themselves. Whatever it is, there is a desire to have more, be more, or change your life in some way. Often its a combination of ITS: many things are coming together to form a chronic, perhaps low grade sense of unhappiness or boredom. And, in other cases, dramatic events have culminated in an intense need and desire to make shifts and make em quick! Whatever your particular circumstance I know that if you have found your way to me and you have downloaded this Special Report , your timing is such that you are ready to SHIFT one or several things in your life. And Im going to help you do exactly that!
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THE FOCUS ON ME MAP: One Step Of The Shift-It Graphic Coaching Process
The tool you are about to use is part of a larger structure called the SHIFT-IT Graphic Coaching Process . SHIFT-IT is my seven-stage process to assist individuals in doing their own personal visioning and planning work. There are 17 visual templates in the process (called Merkley Maps). These tools can be used in order, or separately to supplement other coaching or personal growth work. The Focus on Me exercise that you are about to do, is part of the Investigate Your Now stage of the larger process.
1. 2-5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17.
At the Crossroads Life Maps Catch & Release Focus on Me S.E.L.F. Inventory Essential Extracts Future Self Visioning Magnetism Flip It, Flip It Good Inner Alignment Archeology of Beliefs Big Picture Plan Take Action! Declaration of Intention
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Why Graphics?
As discussed, SHIFT-IT is a visual based process made up of 17 graphic templates. As a consultant, facilitator and coach, Ive come to appreciate the many benefits of working visually --and have gone so far as to develop the SHIFT-IT Process around this effective way of working.
I have been exposed to a lot of techniques and approaches over my career and I have made a very conscious decision to primarily work in the graphic facilitation medium. Ive made this decision because working graphically is so effective. Brain researchers and learning specialists have identified that different people learn in different ways (called learning styles). A learning style is the manner in which a person best receives and processes information. Most learners fall within one of more of the following styles: Auditory, Visual or Tactile.
Auditory: Auditory learners receive information best by listening; they tend to learn best during lecture and audio-based instruction. Visual: Visual learners tend to learn better when a variety of visual aids, such as blackboards, overhead projectors, and films, are used during instruction. They often use imagery to learn complex subjects. Tactile: Tactile learners prefer to learn by doing. They usually learn best when they are allowed to use their hands and sense of touch to learn new information and apply new skills. An extension of this style is a kinesthetic learning style. Kinesthetic learners enjoy not only using their hands in the learning process but benefit from all types of physical movement while learning.
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Visual Learners Tend To Prefer Books Or Videos, Tend To Speak Quickly And Somewhat High Pitched, Stare Up When They Are Thinking And Use Language Like I See What You Mean. In The Us, 60-72% Of The Population Prefers To Learn This Way. Auditory Learners Tend To Prefer Speeches, Discussions, Tapes, Tend To Speak Slowly And Quietly, Stare Straight Ahead When They Are Thinking, And Use Language Like I Can Hear What You Are Saying. They Make Up 12-18% Of The Population. Finally, Kinesthetic (Tactile) Learners Tend To Prefer To Try Something First, Speak Quickly And With Great Changes In Intonation And Body Language, Stare Down When Thinking, And Use Language Like I Get It. Across The General Population, 18-30%.
The Majority of Us Are Visual Learners:

As the quote above demonstrates, the majority of the population, up to 72%, is estimated to be visual learners! Followed by kinesthetic/tactile and then auditory learners. This means that the majority of people learn best when some sort of visuals, graphics or shapes are used:
The Visual Learner (the observer):

Scans everything; wants to see things; enjoy visual stimuli Store visual images and good at recalling visual images Enjoys shapes, colors, patterns, maps, pictures, diagrams Can recall words after seeing them a few times Not pleased with lectures
The beauty of SHIFT-IT and its graphic templates is that not only does it benefit visual learners (the majority of us) it also benefits kinesthetic (tactile) learners (by writing and filling the templates out), and even auditory learners (if you share your work with others by talking, showing and explaining your maps to them).
The Tactile-Kinesthetic Learner:

A toucher / hugger In touch with self and feelings Needs to touch, handle, and manipulate materials, especially while studying or listening Good at drawing designs Often doodles while listening
The Auditory Learner (the listener)

Prefers lectures to reading assignments Good at remembering oral directions / instructions even if they are written down Likes to listen to stories, poems, music and tapes. Seldom takes notes or writes things down Often repeats what has just been said, talks
The SHIFT-IT maps, while attractive and fun to use, are also deceptively simple learning tools that benefit ALL the types of learners. So much more user friendly than the majority of typical coaching methods, which are almost exclusively auditory (the smallest group in the whole population!).
And, the SHIFT-IT tools also use both sides of the brain (both logical and creative), as they incorporate both visuals and words. Resulting in a product that works for everyone and how they most easily receive and process information!
There Has Been A Great Deal Of Research Done On Brain Dominance, Which Includes Right And Left-brain Behaviors. Your Left-brains Job Is Words, Language, Analysis, Order, Logic, Numbers And Sequence. Your Right Brains Job Is Music, Rhythm, Imagination, And Patterns, Challenging Mental Models, Appreciation And Synthesis. Different People Prefer To Reside Predominantly On Different Sides The Real Power Comes From Combining The Two, When The Right And Left Brain Are Combined, The Most Long-term Learning Occurs.
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FYI: If you are a Visual Learner who is attracted to the graphic way of learning might I recommend a few of my favorite resources:
www.makemark.com This is my original site, back when I was a busy graphic recorder and facilitator. Its chock full of oodles of information, articles, mp3s, images, etc --- particularly around working visually with groups and organizations in business and community meetings.
www.grove.com My former employer my style has a distinctively Grove look to it and I am indebted to David Sibbet and his merry band of Grovesters for the time I spent with them early on in my career. Grove has excellent learning materials, I highly recommend their Strategic Visioning Process.
www.ifvp.org Check out this site for information on the International Forum of Visual Practitioners a loose, grassroots organization that links all sorts of graphic professionals form around the world. IFVP has a yearly conference and a list serv that us graphic folks communicate to one another with. Geographical index for finding professionals in your area.
www.imindmap.com Site for Tony Buzan, the originator of Mind Mapping the handy notes and learning strategy employed throughout the world. The freedom to roam the infinity expanses of your brain.
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LAW OF ATTRACTION INFLUENCES:

Embedded in SHIFT-IT are several universal principles that I guide my work and life by, particularly the Law of Attraction. In order to manifest an improved, better feeling future it is my belief that one must first envision the changes they want and allow them. The trick is to truly SENSE and FEEL what it is you want --- basically touch in and take on the vibration of that particular essence (before you have it). Feel yourself in it. Swim around in that experience in your mind. Take on the stance, attitude and posture of having and being in that new realm. Recalibrate or SHIFT your vibration so that it matches what you want, as opposed to what you dont want. So you become a vibrational match to it and attract it into your experience. SHIFT-IT (and this Focus on Me Map that you are about to do) is very much a linear or rational process. However, it also has a non-linear and non-rational side to it as well (intuitive and even spiritual). A balance or marriage if you will of both the left and right sides of your brain and being. My understanding of what is really occurring in good personal visioning and planning work stepped up a whole level when I learned Law of Attraction principles. I give a huge shout out to the inspirational and practical work of my favorite LOA authors and teachers, Jerry and Esther Hicks and The Teachings of Abraham www.abraham-hicks.com Their work is phenomenal and I am very grateful for all I have learned from them over the years and how their wisdom has impacted me in my own life and what I have witnessed in the lives of my clients.
Christina With Some Of The Abraham-Hicks Material Shes Studied.
So if you are a fan of this particular philosophy, you will most likely recognize some shared beliefs in my SHIFT-IT approach. If you are new to Law of Attraction principles, check out the Abraham site --- and youll learn some of it by osmosis as you explore SHIFT-IT more fully.
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LETS GET TO IT: TIME TO COMPLETE YOUR FOCUS ON ME MAP
PURPOSE OF MAP:
To determine how satisfied you currently are in the eight major areas of life. To gauge which areas of life are currently working for you and which areas are not. To identify the main areas where improvement is desired; and begin to identify what you want from here!
DESCRIPTION:
Great, now you have a sense of the overall context of this work. Now without further adieu, lets dive into the actual Focus on Me tool, which is the meat of this Special Report. A tool that is going to help you identify and begin your own SHIFT! If you look at the Focus on Me graphic, it actually looks like a large set of eye glasses or binoculars. Through this map you will literally look at yourself and your present circumstances and it can also be used in another way (which Ill tell you about later). This map helps you SEE what areas of your life are currently satisfying to you and which arent, in a very visual, tangible way. Cause in order to SHIFT your life, you first need to accurately SEE what you are starting with!
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Dissatisfaction Is a Natural Manifestation Process My SHIFT-IT Graphic Coaching Process (which Focus on Me is a part of), is a seven stage coaching process that expertly guides you through own personal manifestation process. The first stage of the process is called Satisfaction Interrupted its the first S in SHIFT-IT as the name is an acronym.
In your first use of the Focus on Me map you are identifying where your particular satisfaction is interrupted in your life right now.
Dissatisfaction (as you will come to understand and appreciate) is a wonderful thing. Through dissatisfaction you get very clear what isnt working with you and if you harvest that properly, you will learn to FLIP that dissatisfaction and identify from it what it is that you really do want.
Jerry and Esther Hicks of Abraham-Hicks, call this process contrast and rockets of desire. Through the contrast of your life you get clear about what you do want from here and launch rockets of desire out in front of you (pre-paving the way for future manifestations).
This manifestation process (dissatisfaction-rocket of desire of new want-manifestation of new want) is an ongoing, ever evolving thing. Its the nature of life. The nature of evolution. We never really get there its a process as opposed to a destination. Knowing that can sometimes take the sting out of dissatisfaction --- accepting dissatisfaction and reframing it as a natural and good part of life.
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Whats YOUR Satisfaction Look Like?

What does YOUR overall satisfaction in life look like? What is currently working for you and what is not? Noticing where you are satisfied and where you are not leads to greater self-inquiry and awareness. Use your dissatisfaction as the guidance that it is its telling you things arent quite right in your world and is giving you hints about what shifts need to be made. Listen to your dissatisfaction your inner guidance is communicating with you! Rating the Eight Main Areas Of Life: This template breaks life into a model of eight distinct areas. The eight areas (in no particular order are): 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. Health Relationship Family/Friends Finances Career/Business Personal Development/Spirituality Fun and Recreation Physical Environment
The purpose of the Focus on Me map is for you to rate your satisfaction level in these eight areas of life, on a scale of one to ten (with one being very low satisfaction and 10 being very high satisfaction). What, currently, is your state of satisfaction in each of these areas? Some of these areas you will probably be pretty high and others may be low. For example, you may be really satisfied with your health but feel low on your physical environment. Or, like some entrepreneurial clients, you may be really satisfied with the state of career/business and finances, but are realizing that health and personal relationships arent what youd like them to be. Find out what your own unique blend of satisfied and dissatisfied areas of life are by completing the Focus on Me Map.
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CREATE YOUR FOCUS ON ME MAP:

Quick Summary of Steps:
1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Gather Materials & Create Inner Work Zone Rate Health and Fun & Recreation Rate Finances and Career Rate Personal Development and Relationship Rate Family/Friends and Environment Harvest Overall Insights
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OVERVIEW OF MAP:
Record Square:
1-10 score in.
Career:
Fun & Recreation: Health:
Work, right livihood, business ownership, job.
Leisure, sports, enjoyment. Physical, mental, emotional.
Finances:
Money, salary, dividends, debts, savings.
Graphic of 1-10 Scores:
Graphic of 1-10 Scores:
Environment:
Physical environment, space, geography, land, country, building, commute, living area/home.
Friends:
Friendships and social life.
Personal Development:
Family:
Self awareness, spirituality, sense of self, sense of meaning, connection, purpose.
Insights:
Overall insights after completing ... awareness.
Creation of own family and relationship with family of origin.
Relationship:
Love, intimacy, romance, companionship, significant connection.
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STEP BY STEP DIRECTIONS:

STEP 1: CREATE YOUR INNER WORK ZONE:
First off, Im not termed a Graphic Coach for nothin I am going to get you to use the actual Focus on Me map that is included in this booklet (see last few pages). Dont worry, you will not have to draw (unless you want to) the drawing is all done for you. However you will need to add in your own specific content as we work through the tool. Basic handwriting or printing will do (as messy as you like as you are the only one who is going to have to read it, unless you want to eventually share it with someone else).
Print Two Focus on Me Maps:

As preparation for our work, please print off two copies of the Focus on Me map you can print in it black in white or go full color (come on, you are worth it!). The full page maps (designed to print off landscape sideways) are at the back of the e-workbook.
We All Have The Extraordinary Coded Within Us Waiting To Be Released. Jean Houston
Get a Writing Instrument:

And, while you are at it, grab a pen, pencil or a few markers or something to write with.
Set Aside 30-60 Minutes:

This work is deep and special. In essence, you are conducting a mini SHIFT-IT Retreat by following this e-workbook. As such, I recommend you create a quiet zone for yourself, so you have a bit of you time to think and feel your way through these two exercises. It should take you somewhere between 30-60 minutes to complete them (depending on how quickly you process).
Minimize Your Distractions:

Shut the door, turn off the phone, kick the kids (or employees!) out of your space. Its important that you slow down just a bit so you can really notice your thoughts and feelings as you do this important work. A little bit of vibrational alignment work can go a long, long way. And that is what you are doing with this map you are aligning your vibration. Again, dont worry, its not going to hurt. In fact, Im betting on you really, really liking it. ;)
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Satisfaction Not Existence or Amount / Volume:

Remember when you do this exercise that you are identifying your levels of satisfaction, not whether or not you have something in your life or what volume of it you have in your life. You might have nothing in one area, and be perfectly satisfied with that so your satisfaction score would be very high despite the non-existence of what you are measuring. For example, you might not have a primary relationship (romantic partner), and you could be 100% satisfied with that. Or, you might have what some consider scarce financial resources, but are perfectly satisfied with the state of finances in your life. Same goes for fun and recreation. Or family and friends. Or any of the eight categories of life categories. It is not if you have them. Or to what extent you have them. Only how satisfied you currently are about the state of these things currently in your life. Right now.
How to Mark Your Scores: The Satisfaction Scale and Vote Box:
Before you begin your scoring process, it is helpful to know how to mark them.
Score Each Section:

With each area of life you will consider your satisfaction level in that area and decide upon a number (1-10) that represents it. With a score of 1 being low satisfaction (very dissatisfied) and a score of 10 being high satisfaction (very satisfied). A score of 5 is medium satisfaction. There Is A Little Box In Each Life Area. Record Your Score In The Box For That Section. Record Score
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Shading the Circle Wedge:

After scoring each area, color in the circular scale (in the center of each loop). This scale has markings to guide you. By coloring in this scale, you will get a visual representation of your score. After you complete all eight areas, it will become very clear which areas are your lowest and therefore require the most of your attention moving forward.
Learn To Love And Accept Yourself For Who You Are Right Now. Love All Of The Things You Have Already Created. You Do Not Need To Be Perfect Before You Do Your Lifes Work; Accomplishing Your Lifes Work Will Help You Grow And Evolve. As You Love And Accept Who You Are Right Now, You Make It Possible To Move In New Directions. You Have Been Doing The Best You Know How. Sanaya Roman
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STEP 2: RATE HEALTH AND FUN & RECREATION:

Begin by focusing on the areas of Health and Fun & Recreation.
Health:
Define health in the fullest sense of the word: physical, mental and emotional. To figure out your satisfaction score for the area of health, consider the following: How Satisfied Are You Currently With The State Of Health In Your Life? Physical, Mental, Emotional? Do You Exercise? How Fit Are You? How Is Your Relationship To Your Body? How Satisfied Are You With Your Weight And Physique? Any Illnesses Or Conditions? How Is Your Outlook On Life Overall? How Is Your Energy Level? Your Mood? How Comfortable Do You Feel In Your Skin? Movement? Flexibility? Stamina? Activity? Sensuality? Sexuality?
If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction
Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Health Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
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Fun and Recreation:

Repeat the same process with the area of Fun & Recreation: How Satisfied Are You Currently With The State Of Fun & Recreation In Your Life? Do You Know What These Words Mean? Are You Having Fun? Do You Relax? Do You Have Enjoyable Activities? Hobbies? Travel? Activities Outside Of Work Or Income Earning? Nature? Socializing? Sports? Clubs? Vacations? Games? Play? Laughter? Enjoyment? Joy?
If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Fun & Recreation Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
We Must Be Willing To Get Rid Of The Life Were Planning, So As To Have The Life That Is Waiting For Us. The Old Skin Has To Be Shed Before The New One Can Come. Joseph Campbell
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STEP 3: RATE FINANCES AND CAREER:

Repeat the same process with the areas of Finances and Career:
Finances:
How Satisfied Are You Currently With The State Of Finances In Your Life? Do You Have Cash And Money? Access To It Somehow? Are You Able To Purchase Or Acquire The Things That You Like And Want? How Is Your Stress Level Where Finances Is Concerned? Debt? Liabilities? Bills? Credit? Mortgages? Rent? Revenue? Income? Salary? Assets And Investments? Savings? Dividends? Trusts? Employee? Self Employed? Business Owner? Investor? Financial Management? Habits? Shopping And Spending? Retirement? Older Age? Gifts? Helping Others? Giving? Donations? Tithing? Abundance? Having? Feeling Full? Scarcity? Lack? Feeling Empty Or Not Enough? Satisfied? Dissatisfied? Content? Fine?
If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? Remember, this has nothing to do with how much or how little you have, only with how SATISFIED you are with what you have. 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Finances Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
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Career / Right Livelihood:

Consider the following: How Satisfied Are You Currently With The State Of Career In Your Life? Job? Self-employment? Profession? Entrepreneur / Business Owner? Purpose? Meaning? Contribution? Expression? Stimulation? Advancement? Earning Trajectory? Opportunities For Advancement? Suitability To Your Temperament And Personality? Enjoyment Factor? Talents? Gifts? Aptitudes? People You Work With And Interact With? Co-workers? Colleagues? Clients? Customers? Employer? Employees? Partners? Vendors? Recognition? Validation? Freshness? Sparkle? Calmness? Excitement? Hours? Location? Stress Level? Output? Results? Sense Of Accomplishment? Stability? Variety? Role? Function? Return On Investment (In Education, Training, Etc)?
If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Career Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
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STEP 4: RATE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT & RELATIONSHIP:

Personal Development / Higher Meaning:
Personal development is all about your connection with yourself and your development and your philosophy and/or connection to life in general. How Satisfied Are You Currently With Your State Of Personal Development? Growth? Learning? Evolution? Development? Personal Pursuits? Self Awareness? Spirituality? Sense Of Meaning And Purpose? Faith? Religion? Belief In Larger/greater Meaning Of Life? Meditation? Contemplation? Prayer? Connection To Nature? Understanding Of Family Lineage? Therapy? Counseling? Personal Development Workshops? Coaching? Mentors? Mastermind Groups? Goals Buddy? Relationship To Self? Relationship To Life? Bigger Picture Perspective?
(again, this is how satisfied you are with this area of life, doesnt mean you have to have any, only how satisfied you are with this ). If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Personal Development Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
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Relationship / Romance:
This is the section in which to consider the role of relationship in your life: in terms of romance, love, partnership, significant connection, etc. How Satisfied Are You Currently With The State Of Relationship In Your Life? Primary Relationship? Mate/marriage? Partner? Significant Other? Girlfriend? Boyfriend? Companion? Sex? Touch? Intimacy? Closeness? Love? Connection? Conversation? Dates? Events? Activities Together? Quality? Quantity? Time? Roles? Expectations? Negotiating? Housework? Division Of Labor? Children? Trust? Confidence? Friendship? Support? Understanding? Commitment? Freedom? Ability To Be Self In Relationship? Like Partner? Love Partner? Want To Be With Partner?
Please note: It is not necessary for you to have a partner in order for you to score high satisfaction in this area. You may not have a partner and be very satisfied that you dont. Again, your score is to represent what your current state of satisfaction in this area is.
If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Relationship Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
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STEP 5: RATE FAMILY/FRIENDS AND ENVIRONMENT:

Family / Friends
Depending on your situation, you may want to split this section into three zones: original family (family of origin), created family (your own children and mate), and friends. Score the three areas, and then create a combined score from the three to arrive at your overall number for this area. How satisfied are you currently with the state of family in your life? Family of Origin: How satisfied are you with your parents or original caretakers? How satisfied are you with the way you grew up? Brothers? Sisters? Relationships with siblings? Your shared past? How you all are in the present? How you interact together? What you are like together? Amount of time together? Frequency? Duration? Quality? Extended family relationships? Customs? Traditions? Your heritage? Lineage? Cultural roots?
1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction
Decide Upon A Score For Your Satisfaction Level Regarding Your Family Or Origin.
It Is Never Too Late To Be What You Might Have Been. George Eliot
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Created Family:
Do You Have Your Own Family? Have You Married? Created A Significant Relationship Arrangement? How Satisfied With What You Have Created? Or Not Created? Do You Have Children? Not? How Satisfied Are You With Your State Of Parenthood Or Involvement With Children? How Are Things Going? Currently? How satisfied are you currently with the state of your created family? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Decide Upon A Score For Your Satisfaction Level Regarding Your Created Family.
Friends:
How Satisfied Are You With The State Of Friends And Friendships In Your Life? Old Friends? New Friends? Friends With Common Interests? Interesting? Exciting? Supportive? Fun? Varied? Geographically Close? Far Away Or Scattered? Amount? Numbers? Quality? Quantity? Friends Versus Acquaintances Or Colleagues? Closeness? Trust? Dialogue? Communication? Authenticity? Ability To Do Activities? Interests? Sharing? Acceptance? Emotional Intimacy? Best Friend(S)?
How satisfied are you currently with the state of friends in your life? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Decide Upon A Score For Your Satisfaction Level Regarding Friends.
Combine Your Three Scores And Divide By Three: Write Your Final Score In The Little Box In The Family/friends Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
Physical Environment / Space

This category looks at your satisfaction with environment and space. How Satisfied Are You Currently With Your Environment? Your Surroundings? Your Home? Neighborhood? Locale? City? Country? Geography? Commute? Buildings? Structures? Office? Rooms? Dcor? Style? Color? Furnishings? Where You Spend The Majority Of Your Time? How You Feel There? Does It Fit You? Suit You? The Tone And Atmosphere Of Your Surroundings? Your Comfort Level With Where You Are? Closeness To Nature? Beach? Mountain? Desert? Seasons? Weather? Warmth? Coldness? Rain? Sun? Energy Of Where You Live? Vibrancy? Remoteness? Cultural Events? Music? Restaurants? Food? Shopping? Proximity To Activities You Like To Engage In? Kinds Of People You Like To Associate With? Close Or Faraway From Family Members And Extended Family? Economic Climate? Jobs? Industry? Population? Politics? Local? Regional? National?
If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Physical Environment Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
STEP 6: HARVEST OVERALL INSIGHTS:

Step back and look at the Big Picture of your work. What Does This Exercise Tell You? What Information Do You Get From Looking At Your Circles? If The Circles Are Wheels --- Wheels That Get You Through Life --- How Bumpy Are Your Wheels? What Is Your Lowest Score? What Is Your Highest? Surprises? What Do You Have Working Well For You Right Now? What Do You Need To Improve On? What Does This Tell You About Your Priorities Moving Forward? What Needs The Most Attention?
Write Your Answers In The Insights Section Of Your Template And On The Following Page.
To Have Different, Feel Different. Look Less At What Is. Look More At What Is Becoming. Abraham-Hicks
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Collect Your Thoughts In The Insights Section Of Focus On Me In The Lines Below:
Use the Focus on Me exercise repeatedly:

This is an easy exercise to do to quickly see where you are in life. Do several of them over time. See how your satisfaction level shifts and morphs. See what happens with your low areas: are they chronically low or do they fluctuate or improve over time? Is your coaching work or other self-creation work having an effect? Notice how you develop satisfaction in one area, only to have another area dip down. That is natural. It is the nature of life. You are never done. It doesnt stay static. Be light with this. Gentle. It is ok for it to morph and shift. It is a great tool for gauging where you are and what you now want. Write Todays Date Somewhere On Your Template. So you can compare improvements over time.
Video: Demo of Focus on Me

FYI, there is a demo of me facilitating a client (Alan) through this basic application of the Focus on Me Map on Google video. Watch this video to help you create your own Focus on Me map.
http://video.google.ca/videoplay?docid=1713779891137084603 Also, heres Alans Focus on Me Map, the one created during this video:
Click for Larger View: http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1020/543481781_0ddd54cd99_o.jpg

Case Study One: Focus On Me
CASE STUDIES:
This Focus on Me Map is from a Canadian man in his forties who recently made the leap to self-employment. B main concern, followed by desires to be in a relationship and to bring more softness and beauty to his environment (having relocated to a new residence after separating from his girlfriend).
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Case Study Two:
Focus On Me
A Focus on Me Map from a self-employed American woman in her fifties: while Fun & Recreation, Career and Personal Development were ranked high in satisfaction, her lower scores were in Family and Health. After stepping back and looking at her rankings she realized Im really unbalanced and It is a sad contrast between how I feel about my friends versus my family (friends being so much higher on the satisfaction scale). And recognitions about her emphasis on leadership and involvement taking a toll on her overall health and well-being.
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CONGRATULATIONS!
YOUVE COMPLETED YOUR FOCUS ON ME MAP NOW WHAT?! Further Recommended Resources and Next Steps
If you have fully completed your Focus on Me map, you should have a pretty darn good idea of where you currently stand. You can LITERALLY SEE which areas of your life are satisfying you and which arent. Very valuable information! Even this simple act of listing out your current state can bring relief and get your SHIFT-IT ball rolling. Sometimes just seeing things as they really, truly are can be the inspiration you need to start doing something about it! Kind of like really looking in the mirror after a year (or years!) of not exercising or letting yourself go. What you see can really snap you into action - big time! Other people though take a look at where they are and just use it as an excuse to continue to feel depressed, powerless or overwhelmed. Stuck in their status quo with no real shift having occurred. If this is the case with you, then you need to not stop here you need to get your mind off of what is and onto what you want it to be. Use your now as a springboard to help you identify what you do want. Develop a vision of the life you really want to be living.
Second Application of the Focus on Me Map:

I have many different ways of helping my clients figure out what they want next and how to get there. A quick and dirty way to create a beginning Vision of what you next want is to use the Focus on Me map again --- but this time, instead of using it to gauge your reality fill it out like how you want your life to be --complete it like everything is already a 10! Or, if you are a person who thinks 10 out of 10 is unrealistic or something you just cant allow go for as high a score as possible (come on, stretch a little, its ok for you to at least make it a 9!).
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Go to that second map I had you print out and spend some focused time writing down and envisioning what a nice plump score would look and feel like in each of these areas. What does a 10 in Health for you? A 10 in Fun and Recreation? Finances? Career? Etc. Work your way around the eight different areas and have fun imagining what a full score would be for you. And full scores right across the board.
Notice Your Reactions:

So what comes up for you when you do this? Can you just let loose and have fun with the dreaming? If you can, you should be able to really enjoy yourself with this. Having fun. Imagining. Dreaming. Going for it. Perhaps giggling away with what you come up with and getting your energy revving as you consider all of the different things that make you feel good and turn your crank so to speak. If so, that is what all this vibration stuff is about in Law of Attraction. You have just aligned yourself and gotten in the flow with things that really matter to you. There are lots of ways to get into this flow (Abraham-Hicks lately has been calling it going downstream) doing visioning and virtual reality work like this is just one of many ways to align your energy. But unfortunately I cant cram everything into one little ol Special Report. But what you have just done is a good beginning step! Trust me, you have just done very important inner work well done! Dont worry about the logical side of things right now. You know, the how and all of that. That comes later (in fact, when you line things up right in your mind, what almost instantly follows are some ideas about next steps this is called aligned action). To begin with, the most important thing you can do is to get into the flow of what feels good and fun to YOU get that coursing through your system.
Negative Reactions:
If you couldnt get into the dreaming of this and you had a hard time figuring out what a 10 would look in all or certain areas (or after dreaming a bit your mood came crashing down) well, I hate to break it to you, but you have a Trouble at the Border problem. For whatever reason (and there can be many) you are chocked up on your asking, dreaming and allowing abilities. I can guarantee that this is part of the reason you are dissatisfied with your life right now and are seeking out help.
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Somehow you are going to have to give yourself permission to dream a little bit more and learn how to get more comfortable with what you desire. The answer is not to subdue or try to obliterate your wanting (some awareness paths preach this approach it doesnt really work - we are wanting beings and trying to shutting down your wanting is like trying to kill evolution). The better approach is to deal with your resistance and find ways through and around it. It can be done!
THOUGHTS TO LEAVE YOU WITH: Preserve Your Materials:

The Focus on Me work that you have done is important work. I invite you to preserve it somehow create a file folder for them, scan or laminate them or somehow otherwise preserve them. We have started a chain reaction in your system the work that you have done with these documents will percolate throughout your mind and life afterwards even if you are consciously aware of its influence. Do not be surprised when certain things that you focused on begin to show up and happen somehow. Its nice to keep your maps on hand so you can refer back to them when these sorts of synchronicities start happening.
Intuitions and Calls to Action:

Secondly, be aware of your urge to do things. When you start strategically mucking around with visioning like this it is not unusual for you to start to get sudden inspirations and inklings to take certain actions. You might feel the urge to call a certain person. Research something. Do something. This is in reaction to the visioning work you have done. Follow the breadcrumbs (so to speak) that start to emerge. Because of the work you have done with these tools, you are now aligned and open in at least a slightly different way than you were before you did them. So different ideas and guidance will now to available to you. Dont slough these ideas off. Follow them! Do them! Take Action!
Learn to Reach for the Better Feeling Thought:

Im not suggesting you become a Pollyanna overnight but learning to have a more positive attitude about your future and your ability to effect it is really going to serve you. I have already come out of the closet around my meta-physical beliefs around The Law of Attraction with you at the beginning of this booklet. LOA has experienced quite a bit of backlash recently with the more simplistic vehicles that are touting it due to the mainstream success of things like The Secret, etc. I would invite you to not throw out the baby with the bathwater. I think, if you are open to them, that learning more about Law of Attraction principles will really serve you. As stated, my favorite Law of Attraction teachers are Jerry and Esther Hicks, and the Teachings of Abraham. Again, I invite you to check out their website (I dont get any benefit from suggesting them to you I just love them and think their stuff is the best out there!). They have free resources available, including several downloadable mp3 files that are a good beginning place. I also recommend their DVD, The Secret Behind the Secret as a good starting place. Also, Ask and It Is Given is my favorite book by them chock full of processes you can do and be sure to learn how to work yourself up their emotional scale (its refreshingly not all about peace, love and granola sometimes anger is moving in the right direction!). http://www.abraham-hicks.com
If You Knew Everything Was Really All Right, And That It Always Has A Happy Ending, Then You Would Not Feel Trepidations About Your Future. Everything Is Really So Very All Right! If You Could Believe And Trust That, Then, Immediately Everything Would Automatically And Instantly Become All Right. Abraham-hicks
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Other LOA Sources:

Some folks understandably dont resonate with Abraham. I get that (it is a channeled source and it took me and my linear/rational mind a few years to come to terms with that myself). If wisdom from non-physical intelligence freaks you out, then here are a few other good LOA resources:
Bill Harris, Centerpointe, Life Principles Course (very good at explaining the cognitive ways we literally create our reality) www.centerpointe.com
Michael Losier, Law of Attraction book, a simple concise explanation of LOA concepts and principles: www.lawofattractionbook.com
Lynn Grabhorns book: Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting (Im not a huge fan of this book or this author myself (she kind of cracked up) but clients who are more practical of nature seem to resonate well with her interpretation of LOA which was highly influenced by A-H but not properly cited in my opinion).
Sheila Gillette and The Teachings of Theo are another favorite source of good Law of Attraction and manifestation information. Sheila is the woman who helped Esther Hicks tap into Abraham. Be sure to check out the Soul Integration Process as well as the book Soul Truth. Theo also has a weekly radio show and mp3 archives (see March 16, 2010 for a show I hosted for them). www.asktheo.com
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HOW TO GET MORE CLARITY AND GUIDANCE IN 45 MINUTES GUARANTEED!

Imagine creating the life you envisioned on your Focus on Me map. Imagine breaking free from the things you currently arent satisfied with and creating different, better circumstances for yourself. Living a life that feels SO GOOD to you that plays off of your strengths and the things you most like to do and are good at. Living in joy, freedom and prosperity. If you would like direct, specific recommendations based of your particular unique situation and would like to work with me directly then your next step is to sign up for your 45 minute SHIFTIT Strategy Session with me. During this call, well review your Focus on Me work. Ill find out how able you were to create and believe your Vision and help you change, modify and update your perspective. Youll have direct access to my years of coaching, facilitation and change management knowledge so I can literally draw out your blocks, barriers and self-sabotage out of you and pinpoint the leverage points and resources that will help you to SHIFT Your Life! IF YOURE SERIOUS ABOUT GETTING THE LIFE YOU WANT FASTER and FINALLY BREAKING THROUGH YOUR BAGGAGE THEN SIGN UP NOW FOR YOUR PRIVATE STRATEGY SESSION A lot of people download this report and just stop there. And fair enough, they just arent quite ready for a real SHIFT. My SHIFT-IT Method works. With my tools and experienced coaching, you will get a SHIFT if you really want one. Yes, change can be scary, but isnt staying stuck in your status quo an even scarier thought! I think so. If you are serious, I look forward to meeting and assisting you getting you that SHIFT you really, truly want. Due to my busy schedule, sign up now so get you into the queue and onto my calendar as quickly as possible. Yes, Christina, I want access to you! Please sign me up for my SHIFT-IT Strategy Session and onto your schedule ASAP.
CLICK HERE TO RESERVE YOUR SESSION

To Your SHIFT!
http://www.shift-it-coach.com/packages/45_minute_strategy.php
P.S. Any questions? Comments? Just send me an e-mail at: christina@shift-it-coach.com Christina Merkley The SHIFT-IT Coach I look forward to hearing from you!
Next Maps in SHIFT-IT Process:

Previous Move: LIFE MAPS:
More Harvest Your History --Map out your own life-to-date. See your evolutionary story all in one place. Identify the events, people, places, thoughts, and things that have most impacted you. Harvest insights, appreciations and pinpoint what you want to release and let go of as you move forward.
Current Move: FOCUS ON ME:

Investigate Your Now --Create a visual representation of your now (a life wheel). Gauge and quantify your current level of satisfaction in eight main areas of life (what is working and what is not). Determine the primary areas you want to address and change.
Next Move: S.E.L.F. INVENTORY:

Investigate Your Now --Build an honest inventory of your Skills/Strengths, Evolutionary Inklings, Learning Areas, and Foundational Support. Acknowledge what you have to work with. The nudges you have been receiving about your future. The weaknesses and development areas you can own. And the assistance and supportive resources you can draw upon.
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http://www.shift-it-coach.com or Toll Free Phone/Fax: 1-866-925-2351 Direct: 310-295-1061 Graphic coach Christina Merkley helps you DEFINE and GET what you really, really want. An expert in visual thinking methods and a devotee of The Laws of Attraction, Christina literally draws your best thinking out of you --- helps you see, allow and manifest your desired future. Based in picturesque Victoria, the capital of British Columbia, Canada, Christina is the creator of The SHIFT-IT Graphic Coaching Process and its suite of graphic coaching tools. She works with business and life coaching clients throughout the world and teaches her methodology to a growing network of interested coaches, consultants and helping professionals. Christina Merkley, MA
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SPECIAL REPORT

Whats the IT You Want to SHIFT?

Create The Future You Really Really Want.

The SHIFT-IT Graphic Coaching Process

Christina Merkley, MA SHIFT-IT Coach, Inc.

2005-2010 Christina L. Merkley www.shift-it-coach.com

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STANDING AT THE CROSSROADS: Who to Become Next?

Who Is Christina Merkley?

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Whats the IT YOU Want to SHIFT?!

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1. 2-5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17.

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The Majority of Us Are Visual Learners:

The Visual Learner (the observer):

The Tactile-Kinesthetic Learner:

The Auditory Learner (the listener)

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LAW OF ATTRACTION INFLUENCES:

Christina With Some Of The Abraham-Hicks Material Shes Studied.

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LETS GET TO IT: TIME TO COMPLETE YOUR FOCUS ON ME MAP

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Whats YOUR Satisfaction Look Like?

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CREATE YOUR FOCUS ON ME MAP:

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Fun & Recreation: Health:

Work, right livihood, business ownership, job.

Leisure, sports, enjoyment. Physical, mental, emotional.

Money, salary, dividends, debts, savings.

Graphic of 1-10 Scores:

Graphic of 1-10 Scores:

Self awareness, spirituality, sense of self, sense of meaning, connection, purpose.

Overall insights after completing ... awareness.

Creation of own family and relationship with family of origin.

Love, intimacy, romance, companionship, significant connection.

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STEP BY STEP DIRECTIONS:

Print Two Focus on Me Maps:

Get a Writing Instrument:

Set Aside 30-60 Minutes:

Minimize Your Distractions:

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Satisfaction Not Existence or Amount / Volume:

Score Each Section:

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Shading the Circle Wedge:

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STEP 2: RATE HEALTH AND FUN & RECREATION:

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Fun and Recreation:

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STEP 3: RATE FINANCES AND CAREER:

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Career / Right Livelihood:

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STEP 4: RATE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT & RELATIONSHIP:

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