Saint Paul University Philippines Tuguegarao City, Cagayan 3500

Disadvantages of Teenage Relationship __________________________________________ In Partial Fulfilment of the Requirements in English 102- Writing in the Disciplines ____________________________________________ Submitted to Mrs. Carissa Gacias School of Arts, Sciences and Teacher Education _____________________________________ Submitted by: Amid, Kuthe Gaylle Aquino, Azenith Rae Baligod, Hanna Battung, Ma.Michaela Dangoy, Marissa Gaano, Jessie Anne

March 2013

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INTRODUCTION

During the teenage years, the youth does not have a firm understanding of the role of dating. To teenagers, dating only consists of someone they feel attached to; spend time with, and/or a personified experiment. The lack of understanding of what a true relationship consist of, leads to disappointments. The teenagers these days are so distorted. Datings purpose is the first step to marriage that is it sole purpose. Teenagers dont, and shouldnt be thinking about marriage. This is why the teens develop a pointless definition of a relationship, because too few times do this meaningless relationship lead anything other sexual curiosity.

A. Background of the Study Teen relationships are common in today's world. Adolescence is the most important stage for youngsters to make their future colourful and to become responsible citizens in society. It is also an age where most teens are attracted to various relationships. Most people consider the word 'relationship' as love or sexual relationship. But a relationship simply means any connection between two or more elements, such as human beings. Teen relationships can be of many types; between teens of the same gender, between teens of the opposite gender, and the one linking teens and other persons of the same or different gender and age. Teen relationships give youngsters a chance to know and experience realities of life for the first time. Teen relations can vary into different kinds, but broadly come under two categories, teen friendships and teen love relationships. A teenage friendship can be developed with anyone, no matter what the gender or age. Teenage friendships have given way to many successful love

relationships. Teen love relationships contain more mutual expectations and more intimate emotions. They can go further into marriage and can be long lasting companionships in many cases. But one who goes into a teen love or sexual relationship should be aware about legally defined limitations. One of the large scale problems that occur in teen relationships is violence. It results in long term trauma and psychological damage. Various teen relationships have ended up in abusive relationships, leading to domestic violence. One of the major factors that occur in such relationships is bullying, including playground bullying, sexual harassment, gang attacks, dating violence and elder abuse. Many teen relationships have finally landed up in juvenile courts. Today, there are privately and publicly funded programs across the United States that educate the public about teen relationships. This is to ensure that relationship abuse does not reach criminal justice agencies. (As stated by Kent Pinkerton)

B. Objectives

To determine the disadvantages of teenage relationship To determine the insights of students towards teenage relationship

C. Significance of the Study

To present the effect of having teenage relationship while studying

D.

Statistical Researches/Facts

The material which will be used is in the form of a questionnaire. 50-70 respondents of Saint Paul University- Philippines with a ranging age of 15-17 will be asked.

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REVIEW OF RELATED LITERATURE

As the advent of internet exposes more and more teenagers to issues of love and sex, more and more of them are getting into relationships and dating at a young age. However, it has been noticed that teenage relationships are extremely susceptible to quick disintegration. Moreover, teenage relationships lead to numerous other damaging outcomes on the physical and emotional health of the youngsters. While sometimes it is circumstantially unavoidable, teenagers must try to not get into relationships at a very tender age on account of the following reasons ---

Disadvantages of Teenage Relationship Biological Under-development

First and foremost, teenagers are biologically immature to deal with relationships. A teenagers brain is not fully armed with the requisite experience and knowledge to be able to distinguish between the right person for them, and the wrong.

Teenagers are more driven by the push of hormones rather than logic and feelings. As a consequence, they often end up taking the wrong decisions and dating just for the sake of it or dating people who they are crushing upon, rather than those with whom they are compatible and comfortable. Furthermore, if a teenager gets physical with a person theyre dating, it leads to extremely detrimental consequences on their health and emotional state. A teenagers body is in the process of development and is definitely not ready for any physicality, much less sex.

Teenage pregnancies and how often they fail are glaring examples of the catastrophic fall outs of having sex at an extremely young age. Another important point is that teenagers are not completely aware of the precautions that must be taken and other details, and often end up taking the wrong steps which leads to sexual health disorders.

Teenage is in fact, the stage of preparation where a person undergoes important biological metamorphosis and the body readies itself for adult experiences. If love, sex and other relationship related issues come before time, naturally the body and the mind goof up and retaliate on account of lack of preparedness. Emotional Instability

Teenagers are prone to extreme emotional instability, mood swings, contradictory feelings and reckless actions. Emotional maturity is a matter of time, age and experience. While some teenagers are definitely more mature and serious about life than others, there can be completely no denying the fact that none of them whatsoever are completely ready to handle the emotional stress and responsibility that a relationship entails.

As a consequence of their emotional ineptitude, they are unable to deal with the many problems associated with a relationship. They feel possessive, they get hurt easily, they are prone to fall into depression post break-ups, they become completely dependent on their partners for their happiness and wellbeing, and they begin to circle their existence solely around them, ignoring other healthy parts of life like family, studies, and quite often, even friends. Teenagers are emotionally unripe and any majorly hectic experience, like a relationship, can do severe harm unto them!

 Life-long Scars

Teenage is an extremely sensitive territory. Every experience, good or bad, creates a deep and irascible imprint on the mind of a youngster. Every incident in a child and a teenagers life accounts for numerous takeaways and memories.

More often than not, teenage relationships backfire completely and leave irrevocable scars of the emotional make-up of a person. Many teenagers are known to develop unnatural behavioural tendencies like permanently being put-off relationships, commitment phobia, continuous one night stands etc. Thus, teenage relationships often scar you for life. They create a lot of negativity in a person and make him/her age much before time. Other Things Side-lined Ideally, a teenagers life should be spent in making good friends, having great times with them, studying hard, crushing on a lot of people and other pleasant things. A relationship at such a tender age basically exposes them to the kind of anxiety and trauma that married people go through. Falling into a relationship erases the brighter and the more important aspects of a teenagers life.

They begin to side-line issues that are more important. Although some people do manage to retain dedication towards studies and career, most of them become distracted and disinterested. This inevitably leads to regrets and problems later on in life. Moreover, teenagers often waste their hobbies, skills, talents and aptitude by investing all of their time and energy in their hypothesized bubble of love.

Teenage dating also makes a person more and more distant from their friends and family. They center their social existence completely on their boyfriend/girlfriend. Very often, they hide their activities from them and create unnecessary complications in their lives.

Sometimes, teenagers even end up permanently damaging their career and their filial and friendly relationships, which naturally causes a lot of unhappiness and distress in the long run. Over-all View

However, it is important to note that not all teenage relationships are disadvantageous. If they are lucky, teenagers may find true love at their young age and hence enjoy a consistent support system from their partner.

Teenage relationships, even when they go wrong, provide a lot of experience to the youngsters and make them stronger, more mature and more armed to deal with relationship issues in future. They also help them decide about what kind of man/woman they actually want in their life. A successful teenage relationship can do wonders for the self-assurance of a person and make them feel much happier and positive about life.

As a matter of fact, the entire issue is extremely subjective and boils down to the attitude and nature of the teenager. If the teenager can intelligently take decisions about such important issues, handle problems with calm and composure, and multi-task and devote time to every aspect of life without side-lining any, then a teenage relationship shall cause none of the above mentioned problems. However, such a situation is very rare and most teenage relationships are, regrettably, plagued by many teething troubles, and hence, must be avoided as far as possible.

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Methodology

The researchers conducted a survey about the topic Disadvantages of teenage Relationship, among the secondary and tertiary students ages 15-17 of St. Paul University Philippines, school year 2012-2013. Descriptive qualitative nature of research will be used for the results and discussion.

IV.

Conclusion

Based on the results, we found out that there were many teenagers who strongly agreed that early relationship serves as an inspiration to them. They also agreed that their parents should know about their relationship and courting should be done in traditional way instead of modernize way. They strongly agreed that early relationship causes depression because of their separation to their partners. Neutral in the idea that having a relationship is helpful in studying and gives bad effect on the personality. They dont agree that relationship makes them feel at ease. Moreover, they strongly disagree in the idea that after breaking up they should immediately enter into a new relationship. These are the insights of the students from the question Does teenage relationship gives good or bad effect? Yes or No? It is bad because it causes pimples, sleepless night, stress and obligation. It is bad because it affects our studies. Instead of reviewing we give more time and attention in texting with your partners. Based on the statements above, we found out that there were many teenagers who strongly agreed that having an affair with early age can gives bad effects especially on studies. Instead of reviewing they will focus on their partners.

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Recommendation

We recommend that the study should expand the scope to get prcised and detailed answers for better results. We also recommend conducting some seminars for teenagers for them to know the disadvantages of engaging their selves in an affair with their early age.

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Bibliography

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