Lady Bugs Wisdom Series

25 Tips for a Happy Marriage

By Max Alina

These 25 powerful tips will help any man or woman who wants to have a Happy Relationship or Marriage

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Table of Contents:
Who is Max Alina. 5 Why Creating this e-book 6

25 Tips for a Happy Marriage:

1. Its Never Too Late8 2. Have Common Interests9 3. Respect Each Other Hobbies9 4. Always Find Time to Spend With Each Other10 5. Put Socks in The Right Laundry Bin10 6. Surprise Each Other11 7. Find the Time to Stop and Smell the Roses11 8. The masterpiece consists of many small sketches12 9. Learn to Zoom in and Zoom out12 10. Cooking Together13 11. Turn Off Gadgets When You are Together13 12. Importance of a Ritual14 13. Sleeping Naked is a Must14 14. Resolve Problems Together15

15. Trust Each Other16 16. Do Not Lie to Each Other16 17. Take Responsibility for Your Marriage17 18. Dont Panic18 19. Your Relationship is a Delicate Vase18 20. Forgive Each Other19 21. Inspire Each Other19 22. Do Not Measure Your Love with Money20 23. Accept Each Other The Way You Are20 24. Do Not Complicate by Over thinking21 25. Every Day is a Special Day22

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Who is Max Alina?

Max Alina is the author of Why Am I Alone in Marriage e-book - a step-by-step guide to a happy and healthy relationship. Also we created the 7 Circles of Relationship System an easy and practical reference guide to help you build and keep balanced relationship in your live. The e-book was co-authored by my wife and me in January of 2012 and the response thus far has been heart warming, to say the least. In addition to lessons learned in my own marriage experiences, the book is scientifically supplemented with our findings from studying psychology in relationships for the past decade. Our goal in writing this guide was to provide a road map for finding and maintaining happiness in love and life. We hope our readers will continue to embrace the teachings of our e-book and go on to re-discover passion and affection in their marriage each and every day.

Why creating this e-book?

Our research over the years in relationships is what led us to create this e-book, along with our well-known Why Am I Alone in Marriage e-book. Throughout the years, we have been fortunate to have been able to help thousands of men and women rebuilding their lives. We decided to create this free e-book as a token of gratefulness for all the life lessons we received on our path to knowledge and share with everybody. This is by no means a comprehensive guide that you have to follow. Rather, these tips are a reminder of what is important in our lives especially in relationship and how to stay focused on things that do matter.

25 Tips for a Happy Marriage

Remember please: Just because a tip has the number one it does not mean that it is the most significant. Every tip is equally important and valuable.

One word frees us of all the weight and pain in life. That word is love. Sophocles

1 Its never too late

Its never too late to change something in your marriage or relationship. There are no excuses. It does not matter how long youve been married: 1 day, 3 months or 10 years. Whats most important is that you realized something and you are willing to make a change in the situation or an attitude towards it. In realizing there is an opportunity for improvement in your marriage, youve already taken a step in the right direction.

2 Have common interests

When you share some activities together - you grow closer to each other. Things that unite you with your significant other, only strengthens the relationship and cultivates your happy marriage root system! Such activities can include cleaning your house together, swimming, Latin dancing etc.; anything that you consider a shared interest. Theres nothing better at keeping boredom out of your relationship than creatively collaborating on finding fun ways to clean toilets!

3 Respect each other hobbies

If you like football and your significant other does not, it does not mean that you dont get to watch Super Bowl anymore. The hobby should not obstruct your relationship; it should enrich it. Making an effort to participate in or enjoy each others hobbies will facilitate your finding the right balance, making you closer.

4 Always find time to spend with each other

Our busy lives provide many excuses for not having time to devote to each other, but a marriage is not a tangential relationship; it is our life blood. Be creative, spontaneous and improvise for no reason, call your significant other for a surprise lunch.

5 Remember to put used socks in the right laundry bin (Trust me on this one!)
Smile and learn to have fun in your routine. Have a positive attitude with your small problems. The situation already exists, and we have complete control over our attitude toward it. Understand the impact temperament, expression, and tone has on your marriage. A happy attitude = a happy home. Life is a series of small things. If you learn how to cope with little things; you wont have many big things, and if you do, you will be well prepared on how to handle them.

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6 Surprise each other

This isnt about expensive gifts. Being overly leveraged and having to work two jobs to pay for it violates tip #4 and will destroy your relationship. Create a nice note on your laptop, add pictures of teddy bears and hearts, and leave it on her mirror for her to find in the morning. Get up a little early and bring him coffee and the sports section of the paper to bed. Fill up the bath tub with hot water, rose petals and aromatic oils or candles and invite your love to take a bath with you.

7 Find the time to stop and smell the roses

Even when you are running like a hamster in the wheel, find the time to stop that mad rush, dial your honey and say how much you Love him or her. And when they call you at work, let the phone ring a couple of times take a deep breath and get your mind totally focused on them, not on the project you were in which your head had been buried.

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8 The masterpiece consists of many small sketches

The masterpiece is your happy marriage and sketches are the good vibes and actions that create this masterpiece. You are the artist. The brush is in your hands. Sketch carefully and always from the perspective of love. Begin each day by making a point of saying something nice (complementary) and being appreciative.

9 Learn to Zoom in and Zoom out

Zooming in is your concentration on daily situations. For example: He does not clean the dishes after himself. You have two choices: zoom in (criticize, sleep and dream about how he does not wash the dishes), zoom out (abstract from the situation and not create a tragedy). It is completely your choice. By zooming out, you will maintain an easier, lighter attitude in your relationship, allowing you the proper perspective in which to find a softer response; perhaps you will even find some humor in the circumstance? Seize the moment and define the discussion. Tell him, honey, I need your big strong hands to scrub attack the stuck food on this pan, will you help? Then as he scrubs, you keep
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feeding him dishes and tell him how sexy he looks, rub his shoulders, and tell him you love him. This positive reinforcement will make him want to help at the sink! Youve successfully neutralized any argument, built a positive behavior, and turned a chore into creative fun, bringing you both closer. A negative response generates negative energy. A positive approach will attract a positive result. Rome was not built in a day, so be patient.

10 Cooking together
If you dont cook everyday, at least do it once a week for an entertainment. There are many positives: you spend time together opens your internal creative possibilities you learn how to work together as a team create a game or competition to see who can peel a potato the fastest food fights! A mess to clean up, but can be fun. When you cook, the food absorbs your energy. It is that taste of love that makes her/his cooking better than any other kind of food.

11 Turn off your gadgets when you are together

We are living in the world of technology invasion and radiating devices that became part of our lives. Unfortunately, such devices

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destroy private discussion and the free exchange of energy, preventing you from focusing on one subject for very long. Cell phone calls have no right to interrupt you just as you were getting into a meaningful discussion with your significant other. Just as you were remembering something great about your life together you get distracted by a text message. Examine the people around you on the street, in the restaurant, working out, even driving their cars; they are constantly checking their emails, Facebook, browsing pictures, talking, etc. when they should be contemplating the blessings of their love and looking into each others eyes; having human interactions. If we continue like this, we will all become like my brother and his wife, who instead of talking while seated in the back of my car, are texting each other.

12 Importance of a ritual
What is a ritual? It is an event that means a lot for your private life. It could be a picnic trip, visit to your favorite restaurant or an escape from everything (dinner with candles). Its important that this ritual is repeated; make it a part of your normal routine, and dont compromise it; be consistent.

13 Sleeping naked is a must

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You are spending one third of your life in the bed. The most important reason for sleeping naked is to allow the free flow of energy and spiritual exchange between the bodies while you rest. The physical body sleeps, but your love never rests! I cover this topic in depth in my full 7 Circles of Relationships Program.

14 Resolve problems together

Change the perception of the situation. The problem is not the problem at all, but rather an opportunity for improvement. Understand the small parts of that make up the problem. Remember from tip #5 Life is a series of small things. Solve the small things, and you no longer have a big thing. Even if you do not understand it, think it is completely illogical and irrational, approach the issue from the perspective of the other person, never using the word you. We attract what comes to us. If his actions irritate you, perhaps you need more patience? We need to enjoy the beauty of each tree before we can appreciate the forest. I had a good friend tell me once to always approach each situation by asking Is this one thing (tree) worth fighting about? 99.9% of the time, you will say no, and the problem simply goes away. Trust in yourselves. No counselor, lawyer or private detective should stand between you and your life partner. You know your situation better than anyone; keep it to yourself, and trust in your love.

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15 Trust each other

Trust comes from within. Do you trust you? When we are not trustworthy, it erodes our capacity to trust others. Let me tell you a story. There was man and woman who loved each other very much; however, the man was very jealous of his wife. He controlled almost all of her steps. One day he followed her to another house and he saw her in the room with another man who was drawing a picture. To make long story short, he decided she had cheated on him and left her for good. On his birthday, he received a parcel with a beautiful portrait of his wife with a note: Happy Birthday. This is your gift. I wanted to make a surprise for you. P.S. The man whom you saw was the artist whom I hired to paint for you.

16 Do not lie to each other

Everything starts small. No matter how hard you try to hide little lies, it will reveal itself at some point. Lies are like a disease. Once you get sick, it will be hard to recover. There is a saying, truth hurts. Sometimes that is the case, but it is always better to take

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the big hurt once than have hundreds of little hurts send you to a slow painful death. Consider this; there are 3,648 drops of water in a cup. So, would you rather have someone drip a drop of water in between your eyes 3,648 times, or just dump the whole cup on you at once? Lies are like the 3,648 drops lets not do that! Always remember, that all your actions bounce back to youyour significant other will start doing it at some time too. When you buy that hot dog at the gas station, why hide it? Is it not better to just tell her honey, today I will eat some garbage. You feel better by being honest, and overcoming your misplaced fear to share your decision with your significant other builds trust. Some memorable quotes

17 Take responsibility for your marriage

Dont blame the economy, neighbors, other people, mother, work, etc. When you point your finger at someone else, three fingers point back at you (Try it; point your finger and see what the middle, ring and pinky do.). YOU bear responsibility for your life. When devoting energy to finding someone or something to blame, you allow your situation to worsen, preventing you from attaining the results you desire for your relationship. You attract what you think. Put out positive energy, and it will come back to you with great force. Remember your wedding vows? You said I do, not I dont. Do whats right for you as a couple.

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18 Dont Panic
Dont let your emotions to be your guide in stressful situations. This is a definite recipe for a disaster. By doing so, you are likely to make a lot of mistakes that you wont be able to fix entirely. I agree that it is easier to say than to do. How many times have we heard that if you write an e-mail when you are angry, save it as a draft and rewrite it the next day (usually it just gets deleted!). Good managers are the ones who take a deep breath (to think) before responding. My friend used to be a police officer. He told me that in the academy, they said that when you walk into a domestic disturbance, first separate the parties, then take the one you are with, move to a chair and encourage them to sit. The physical act of sitting lowers the emotion of person who is upset, so too will lowering your voice. Remember this rule, and you will always be able to cope with your emotions and find good solutions out of tricky situations.

19 Your relationship is a delicate vase

Be gentle with it. Its easy to break itmuch harder to restore. If you are buying something gentle, you always protect it with special wrapping, and you put it aside away from harm. Do the same for your marriage. Its not only words. Look at the cup that you broke

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and glued together. You will always see the places where it was broken and it will never be like new. Reputations take years to build, seconds to destroy. A silly mistake and it will be hard to rebuild the relationship that you had at the beginning. Cherish the vase; defend it with your life.

20 Forgive each other

Remember that Love is forgiveness and compromises. The closest people hurt you the most by simply saying something that you may find offensive. Our usual reaction is to feel insulted; however, when it happens between you and your partner, it should be a different story. When you are a couple, there is no more you and the other side. You are whole piece together. So, if you are thinking of negative feelings towards the the other side think twice it is really feelings towards yourself. Attracting this negativity harms us. So, what is the solution? Learn to forgive. Let all your sorrows go and then find time to build a love bridge with the other side so positive energies can transcend your sorrows.

21 Inspire each other

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Love is a creative energy. It makes us better. It creates harmony from within and inspires us to do good deeds. Who else can see the best qualities in you, if not your significant other? Who else can show you direction in the development of your talents and who dares to say that Some Bull that is Red Gives you Wings? Its pure Love that helps you to fly, create and inspire other people.

22 Do not measure your love with money

Love has a spiritual beginning. Money is temporal and has nothing to do with such a special feeling as love. We all know the phrase that you can not buy Love with money However, many people try hard to prove the opposite. I agree that you can get clothes, a car, a house, jewelry from your partner as a token of love. But Love does not come after material pleasures, Love IS the ultimate pleasure. Dont fool yourself. It is better to have a genuine feeling - that is the biggest luxury you can get in our world realize the importance of it!

23 Accept each other the way you are

Lets compare a couple with two stoneswith its unique surfaces, sharp corners etc. Lets put them in the bag and shake them well There are two possible outcomes from such shaking: they

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will polish each other, making sharp corners smooth (changing character traits) they will stay the same way they were before with sharp corners etc., eventually causing a hole in the bag, out from which the rocks will fall. Our bag is a married life. Shaking is your life with its ups and downs. The results depend on how you accept the other human being and love him/her with all of his pluses and minuses. Another analogy is the Grand Canyon, a beautiful landscape first violently carved by the travels of glaciers, and then polished over thousands of years by winds sandblasting the edges.

24 Do not complicate your relationship by over thinking

Building your relationship requires efforts. But it has to be done with inspiration, a positive mood and in a natural way. So, instead of complicating your life and trying to foresee everything, ascribe to the KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid) theory. Remember that you are dealing with feelings, not some complex higher math problem. You cant calculate and forecast all possible situations and outcomes that you might come across. The heart is smart, the brain is stupid listen to your heart.

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25 Every Day is a Special Day

Who said that Valentines Day is the only day during a year devoted for loving people? There are more than 360 other days in the year. Are any of these days allowed to be celebrated as a unique day? Is there pleasure in being told that you Must Give flowers (red roses) on Valentines Day? Isnt the most pleasant symbol of love an unexpected surprise? If you have birds singing and beautiful tunes plying within your soul, then each day is a gift that carries with it the feeling of a holiday. Yesterday is History. Tomorrow is Mystery. Today is a Gift. They call it a present. Use it wisely.

The list of tips is infinite. Every one of us has his own opinion on how to build relationship, but the purpose of this list is to provide ideas and inspiration, to show you the possibilities that Love gives you. I hope that you find these tips valuable and apply them in your every day life.

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Thank You
Thank you and congratulations for finishing this e-book! I hope you enjoyed the tips Ive provided and how you can implement them to help you quickly regain the quality of your relationship or marriage. I hate to see people suffer in relationships, and that is the reason why I created this e-book, along with the Why Am I Alone in Marriage e-book . If you enjoyed this e-book, I highly recommend and encourage you to check out my Why Am I Alone in Marriage ebook , which is step-by-step program to help you have a happy and meaningful relationship - guaranteed. You can go to Why Am I Alone website now. This free e-book was designed to provide some simple and fast solutions. I wish I could say these 25 Tips are all you need, but trust me, there is more to it. I can confidently stand behind my 7 Circles of Relationship program because I have received so many amazing testimonials (click here to check them out!). Thats how I know it works and thats why I want you to go get it right now. The Why Am I Alone in Marriage Program doesnt cost much money. Whether you buy it or not isnt going to make a difference to my bank account. Ive decided to make it affordable for everyone. If you want to take the long-route to curing your relationship, I understand - Ive been through it and personally think youre crazy if you do. But I take it that you dont want that, and thats why youre here reading this e-book right now.
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Some of the things that I cover in my Why Am I Alone in Marriage Program are: You will learn how to play the "music of your life" and find out the Magical influence of number "7" (page 9) You will develop your own "book - GPS navigator" in relationships (17) You will attain a better understanding of yourself and your exiting relationships (23) You will verify that "Everything is Possible" (25) You will understand what is "divine energy" in a marriage (27) You will build your "Space of Love" (29) What kind of flower will be your child? (34) You will learn how to take care of the "family tree" (43) Lessons on how to live without trading life for money (55) You will find out how to recognize your best friend (67) You will Do what you like, like what you do (72) The Temperament Test - a better understanding of who you are (84) The Relationship Psychology Quiz - helping you reveal your inner world (101) The 11 Positive Psychology Exercises - improve relationship with your mate (106) Valuable quotes about Happiness, Love and Relationships that will make your life easier (111)

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That and a whole lot more! If youre ready to get it, click here to get your copy of the Why Am I Alone in Marriage e-book.

I appreciate you taking the time out of your day or evening to read this. If you have any questions or comments for me, I would love to hear them. I read each and every single email, so do not be afraid to say hi. Thanks again. I wish you and your loved ones the everlasting happy relationship. Max Alina http://www.why-am-i-alone.com/index.html mailto:maxalina7@gmail.comI appreciate you for taking the time out of your day or evening to read this. I bob@howtocureshingles.com

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