Breaking Your Negative Patterns

Healthy, Wealthy & Wise with Ogbo Awoke Ogbo TV Speech Transcript Email: coaching@giantthoughts.com

Good morning everyone! Welcome to HWW Today on STV. My name is Ogbo Awoke Ogbo. Family and friends call me Ogbo the Great but my only my wife calls me Sweetheart. Today, I will talk to us about breaking the negative patterns that hold us back. But before then, mark May 11 on your calendar - the date for our next executive session!. I hope to see you there SMS the number on the screen for reservation details. Theres an Igbo proverb that says: What killed the grand father? Mushroom. What killed the father? Mushroom. Where is the son? He has gone to the forest to look for mushrooms. If you are not aware of the patterns in your life, the same thing that hurt your father will hurt you. The udara fruit does not fall far from its tree. Two years ago, I counseled a family with an unusual history. There are 4 girls born to that family. One by one, each of these girls got pregnant while in school in almost exactly the set of circumstances. It was like an unbelievable movie. The only son in the family told me how he had hoped that the last girl would be different because she appeared academically promising. He was happy that the jinx was nally broken but almost committed suicide the day he got the news that their youngest girl had also gotten pregnant in school. Today, none of them is married and some have had additional babies out of wedlock. To complicate the mystery, two of their nieces also became pregnant out of wedlock. Being aware of both the positive and negative patterns operating in your family or in your personal life is the beginning of greatness.You reinforce the positive patterns and break the negative ones. In emotional intelligence, this is referred to as self awareness. Man know thyself is the rst commandment of greatness. We are creatures of habits and patterns. Therefore it is of utmost importance to be aware of those habits and patterns that are stunting your development as a successful human being. You cannot manage what you cannot measure.You must know yourself very well.

 Let me give you an example of the negative patterns that operated in my life. I realized as a fresh graduate that each time I was at the verge of stepping out for something big, I became very unsure of myself and always needed someone to validate me. Each time, the people I turned to told me that my ideas were bad. They would discourage me and I would chicken out of the idea. It happened again and again. I wasnt my own man. I couldnt take decisions about my life. I depended entirely on other peoples opinion about me. Now, this doesnt mean that one should not ask for advice but I discovered that I had covenanted myself to a pattern get a good idea, seek for peoples opinion, people say no, then drop the idea. With this pattern running in my life, I wasted the rst two years of my life after my youth service hustling on the same spot. This is one thing that negative patterns do to you. It wastes your years and wastes your life. If you have been marking time on the same spot for years - no promotion, no new experience, the same frustration year in year out, going in circles, never moving forward, I can assure you that there is a negative pattern at work in your life. When I discovered this negative self referenced pattern in my life, I decided to break it. Later, I will tell you how how I broke that negative pattern in my life. But lets come back to you. What are the signs of negative patterns in your life? There are many signs and I have enumerated them in my new book soon to be published but let me mention only 3 because of time. During our May 11 coaching class I will give the remaining 7 signs and go in details about how to break them. (1) The rst sign is Stagnation. You are as stagnant as the economy. In my wifes home town they say, Oba no dey go leave, e no dey go transfer. Your life has not added any value in the past 5 years. Instead, youre going down in age, in money, in respect and in inuence.You have stagnated in your career.You have stagnated in your nances and business.You have stagnated in your relationships. This is a sign of a negative pattern. (2) Near success syndrome is another sign. Just when youre about to succeed something happens and you drop to zero level again.You are almost always getting a good job but never getting it.You are almost always getting married or passing your exam, but it never happens. (3) A cycle of depression. Youre always getting in and out of depression. Youre supposed to be a happy person but something about your marriage or about your career is always plunging you in and out of depression. These negative patterns in our lives are like a computer program. Once something triggers
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it, the whole program runs. Common triggers include our environment, fear of the future, anxiety, feeling of insecurity, poor self esteem, anger and other negative emotions. Finally today, how did I break the negative pattern that operated in my life? Did I go to prayer houses? Did I go for a spiritual bath in the river? Did I light red and blue candles at midnight and chant incantations? Did I go for deliverance? No. Heres what I did: I decided to quit. Let me tell you one of my greatest discoveries in life: Choice is more powerful than prophecy. The greatest power that God has given man is the power to choose. Man can choose what he wants to become. Man can choose his own destiny and even God cant do anything about it if you choose to destroy yourself. God, through Moses, told the Israelites, Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. God has given you the power to choose your destiny but you are waiting for Him to choose for you. Keep waiting. Anyway, I chose to break this pattern. I decided to simply stop asking for opinions before doing something great. I wanted to own my decisions and the consequences. I had a big opportunity when I saw the girl I wanted to marry. All the people who used to give me their respected opinions told me that I shouldnt marry her because it wont work. Once of them said, Ogbo, women from that part of the county only give birth to baby girls. There was nothing I didnt hear. Its a fearful thing to run your ife 100% on other peoples opinions, including mine. But guess what? today, Ive been married to this same girl for 18 years. The opinion givers told me that she would never give birth to a boy but guess what, she gave birth to 3 boys! I broke that pattern forever. I ask for advise but I take a decision and I stand by it. Will you be interested in learning the various tools and techniques for breaking negative patterns in your life and family? Join us in our executive coaching class on May 11. Send your name and email to the numbers on the screen (+2348087999777) for registration and payment information. Until same time next week, I am Ogbo Awoke Ogbo. I love you. Whatever you do, be Healthy Wealthy and Wise!