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You drive into the parking lot 5 minutes late for work and notice someone has taken your parking space.
anger, apology & forgiveness

You drive into the parking lot 5 minutes late for work and notice someone has taken your parking space.
You have to drive around in circles looking for one.

Your partner announces they want to end your relationship when you want to continue.

Your partner announces they want to end your relationship when you want to continue.
You didnt get the long term relationship you desired.

You go to the grocery store closest to your house to get medicine for your child and they are out of it.

You go to the grocery store closest to your house to get medicine for your child and they are out of it.
Then you have to drive across town to another store looking for it. You have less time to care for your sick child.

Your friend cancels three nights in a row because of a new boyfriend.

Your friend cancels three nights in a row because of a new boyfriend.
You miss your friend and end up feeling lonely. Your friend didnt treat you the way you think she should.

Do you have a model for how to live your life? In this model, are you a victim or do you live a life beyond the drama of the day-to-day and tap into the bigger picture? Is your way of life based on fear, control & abuse of power or on true forgiveness, unconditional love & peace?

Psychologists recognize that there are 3 types of anger: The 1st is HASTY & SUDDEN anger. Its connected to the impulse for self-preservation & its shared between humans and animals & occurs when tormented or trapped.




The 2nd type of anger is called SETTLED & DELIBERATE. This is a reaction to perceived deliberate harm or unfair treatment by others.

The 3rd type of anger is called DISPOSITIONAL. Which relates more to personal character traits like irritability.

Think about a recent episode where you experienced anger. Now find the fear, hurt or frustration that is really behind it. Identify this primary emotion which is often the one that goes unnoticed & write steps on how you can acknowledge this primary emotion (the cause) before it manifests into anger (the effect).

By shifting your perspective, you dont have to identify with your emotions. You simply have to observe them and assume a higher-level perspective.

The primary cause of unhappiness is often not the situation but your thoughts about it.
Holding people accountable for their actions is not the same as blaming them for how you feel.

1. Acting Loyal: It means complying silently or cooperating without complaining. But if youre legitimately angry its a doomed strategy. Eventually it will sour your emotional connection with others in the name of keeping peace.
2. Expressing Anger (voice): Its more difficult but its a productive alternative. You must not only define exactly whats bothering you but willing to help solve the problem.

3. Exit: Exit is the best option in severely dysfunctional relationships. Anger is a good friend that urges us to leave these situations and wont let us feel comfortable enduring this treatment.

Write a specific incident or experience that has caused you pain. Where are you placing blame and are you playing the role of victim or can you see the opportunity for growth in the circumstance?
How many of you give away your power to relatives that dont care for you? Or business associates out to harm you? Or lovers who cheated on you? Do you spend time thinking about pain & disappointments inflicted on you? How many of you look backward more than you look forward? Do you find your problems more compelling than your blessings?

Many have gone on a journey to forgive.

MY MOTHER
MY MOTHER MY FATHER
MY MOTHER MY FATHER
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R E H C A E T
MY MOTHER MY FATHER
passive aggressive co-worker
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R E H C A E T
MY MOTHER MY FATHER
passive aggressive co-worker
E M T U C O H W N MA THEMany have gone on a journey to forgive. OFF ON THE FREEWAY
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GRIEVANCE STORIES describe the painful things youve endured but not healed from.
QUIZ
1. Have you told your story more than twice to the same person? 2. Do you replay the events that happened more than 2 times a day in your mind? 3. Do you find yourself speaking to the person who hurt you even when that person is not there? 4. Have you made a commitment to yourself to tell the story without upset and then found yourself unexpectedly agitated? 5. Is the person who hurt you the central character of your story? 6. When you tell the story does it remind you of other painful things that have happened to you?

QUIZ
7. Does your story focus primarily on your pain & what you have lost? 8. In your story is there a villain? 9. Have you made a commitment to yourself to not tell your story again & then broken your vow? 10. Do you look for other people w/ similar problems to tell your story to? 11. Has your story stayed the same over time? 12. Have you checked the details of your story for accuracy?


Traffic is bad

Shopping takes longer than it should.

Theyre out of all your favorite foods.

This is the last place you want to be.

long line

people on cell phones

children fighting

the lady with the stack of coupons who is also paying with a check
The way I behave towards the world & others is how the Light of the Creator behaves towards me.
The history of errors of mankind, all things considered, is more valuable and interesting than that of their discoveries. -Benjamin Franklin
To forgive is to set a prisoner free & discover that the prisoner was you. -Louis B. Smeeds

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anger, apology & forgiveness

You have to drive around in circles looking for one.

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

You didnt get the long term relationship you desired.

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

Your friend cancels three nights in a row because of a new boyfriend.

anger, apology & forgiveness

Your friend cancels three nights in a row because of a new boyfriend.

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

Many have gone on a journey to forgive.

anger, apology & forgiveness

Many have gone on a journey to forgive.

Kabbalah Centre International All Rights in Media Reserved

Many have gone on a journey to forgive.

Many have gone on a journey to forgive.

anger, apology & forgiveness

Many have gone on a journey to forgive.

anger, apology & forgiveness

E M T U C O H W N MA THEMany have gone on a journey to forgive. OFF ON THE FREEWAY

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

Shopping takes longer than it should.

anger, apology & forgiveness

Theyre out of all your favorite foods.

anger, apology & forgiveness

This is the last place you want to be.

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

people on cell phones

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

anger, apology & forgiveness

blog: askmonicaberg.com twitter: @monicaberg74 Have questions? email askmonica@kabbalah.com

anger, apology & forgiveness

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