Alexander 1 Lamarr Alexander Threaded discussion 5-14-13 Society and Victimhood According to Webster dictionary Victimhood is the state

or perception of being a victim. For today society victimhood can be looked at, as two people blaming each other for their emotion and the trauma they could be experiencing from victimhood at this point in time in their lives. Emotional people tend to carry their emotions until they ready to let them go. Victimhood has many different way of expressing their emotions. People tend to show their emotions with anger and fear. Usually both individuals want to come to agreement to end their dispute. But normally both people need to want to come to that decision. Victimhood is a tough process and takes a lot of work from both people to want end the dispute. But they never know the right time, because you never know when people are really willing to put an end to their differences, and move forward with their lives sometimes putting an end to they dispute work for some people in society and other there just isnt an end to dispute.

I would agree with the article. People tend to argue without putting themselves in the other parties shoes, which can make dealing with victimhood harder, to come up with a concrete solution between both people. They both can come to an agreement to end the argument but usually dont because they dont want to be seen as the loser in the dispute. Searle White explains, Victimhood is the insistence that people see us through the lens of our perceived hurt, injuries and traumas (30). A victim is a person who is seen as feeling sorry for themselves. Furthermore, usually when people feel like a victim. They let their emotions get the best of them. People tend to have way of showing they are part of victimhood. They tend to show through expression their whole attitude changes. For example if a person usually carries themselves as

Alexander 2 complacent, and now he or she is showing they are angry and mad, In today society people also express victimhood with anger with fighting. Often times that the only way they can get there point across. These are emotions that come up in dispute when youre dealing with victimhood. Part of the feeling of being a victim is being emotional and giving oneself reason the justified those feeling until they feel youve got what was wanted or got the point across. Like Searle White said from the article, I have the right to be angry (30). No one can tell them any different, when youre angry those emotions your feeling have a hard time making the right decision about a tenacious dispute. Although society tends to feel that part of the feeling of being a victim, is the way others form their opinion on them, at many different levels for being a victim. People in today society can feel sorry for a victim and want to offer support and possible the two in the dispute could want to find a way to settle the difference. But others in the world can just be plain cruel to a victim for just being a victim. Sometime people feel that being a victim can just be an opportunity of one victim to get what they want, that quoted from the article, Joshua Searle, White}( pg31) said but on a deeper level, victimhood is actually a powerful attempt to control others and get what they want. People in many ways in today society play victim, when in reality they just doing it for alternative motive of getting what they want. Many times people who play victim want money, or to ruin the reputation of the other person in the dispute. People should use better ways of solving their issue in victimhood when dealing with tenacious dispute. People tend to act now. When they should wait until they both calm down and set up a good time where they could meet and talk victimhood over. This way theyre not speaking on the emotional part as much, People with angry emotions usually arent ready to reach an end to their disagreement. Often they only see their-side Joshua, Searle again dealing with victimhood take time, patience and nonjudgmental but honest assessment of how the disputants are experiencing their conflict (32). People tend to hold on to their own emotions in a dispute, which makes it harder to end the argument. For

Alexander 3 example especially if he or she had their feeling hurt. Coming to an agreement between the two take efforts from two people and patients on both end.