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The 10 top tips for better conversation listed are from people living with aphasia who have attended Connect roadshow day events in Bristol and Cornwall. These roadshow networking and information events were set up in response to a consultation with over 100 people living with aphasia in the South West of England.
The 10 top tips for better conversation listed are from people living with aphasia who have attended Connect roadshow day events in Bristol and Cornwall. These roadshow networking and information events were set up in response to a consultation with over 100 people living with aphasia in the South West of England.
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The 10 top tips for better conversation listed are from people living with aphasia who have attended Connect roadshow day events in Bristol and Cornwall. These roadshow networking and information events were set up in response to a consultation with over 100 people living with aphasia in the South West of England.
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aphasa who have attended onnect or a day events n Brsto and ornwa. These roadshow networkng and normaton events were set up n response to a consutaton wth over +oo peope vng wth aphasa n the South vest o Engand. There were about o peope wth aphasa at each o the events as we as reatves and rends. Here are some o ther top tps or better conversatons... vth thanks to a the peope wth aphasa who came to the events and shared ther stores and deas. Nore about onnect or a day events at www.ukconnect.org or phone aroe ross on oo; ; o8(. 5. Make a life book Conversations are so much easier when people know who you really are and what you are interested in. Making a life book can be a great way of working on communication skills like writing and talking. It can help you to talk about yourself and your past - to make relationships with new people and talk about past experiences with old friends. Even close friends and family can find it hard to have and develop conversations, so a book about your life and important events, people and achievements can be a starting point for conversations and sharing stories. Lots of people talked about having but not using com- munication books they had worked on with the speech and language therapist. Some people with aphasia and their relatives described them as boring, childish and not very helpful in talking about real, everyday topics and issues. So its important to choose carefully what you want to put in and what you really like to talk about with different people. Beyond Aphasia has a chapter on developing and using communication books and a chapter on identity and developing personal portfolios - see Pound, C., Parr, S., Lindsay, J. & Woolf, C. (2000) Bicester: Speechmark ISBN 086388 347 9. MY TOP RESOURCES 1. Put on the brakes Typically people talk too fast and too much. Everyone always seems in a rush. This is particularly the case on hospital wards and in nursing home settings but also with friends and family. People who remember to slow down and give you time to think, time to join in and time to reply are a very, very valuable resource. Although this seems quite straightforward, many people find slowing down exceptionally difficult. Tell them how much slowing down helps and what a difference it makes - and remind them when they forget. 2. Demand respect The does he take sugar? syndrome is still alive and kicking. Being treated as if you were stupid or just plain ignored is still an everyday experience for people living with aphasia. You have opinions, interests, ideas and the ability to be involved. You dont have to put up with people who shout, who finish your sentences, or who pretend to understand you. Treating you as a person and remembering to listen to you is all it takes to make a huge difference. Silence really can be golden! 3. Spread the word Aphasia is hidden and aphasia is complex. People dont know what it is and they dont know how to react, so you have to teach them. There are lots of sources of information to help. The Aphasia Handbook has information in an easy to use style and there is a new website along similar lines at www.aphasiahelp.org. The Stroke Association and Speakability also produce useful information to tell others what aphasia is. The Aphasia Handbook by Susie Parr, Carole Pound, Sally Byng and Bridget Long is published by Connect Press, ISBN 0953604209. Available for 12.75 inc. p+p from Ecodistribution, tel/fax 01239 891431. www.stroke.org.uk www.speakability.org 4. Understand about good days and bad days Nearly everyone with aphasia has good days and bad days. People talked about how confusing and frustrating this can be. People with aphasia have different ways of dealing with this - not pushing yourself, leaving the tough jobs and going shopping, telling people you are having a bad day, asking for a bit more help than usual, going to bed. Another important tip is recognising and remembering when the good days are getting more frequent and the bad days getting less. 10. Be positive People with aphasia talked about remembering to cele- brate your successes no matter how big or small, about relaxing and having a laugh, about doing things with friends that you both enjoy. Things may be hard but remember to go for it! Another side of a positive attitude is to forgive others and dont hold on to your angry feelings. Try to forget it and move on - though dont be afraid to show your feelings either. And finally, remember there is always room for improvement. Change doesnt just happen in the first six months, it can go on for many, many years. Time and again people gave examples of life and conversation improving years and years after their stroke - like one woman who has just got married and found love, happiness and better conversations 10 years after her stroke. 6. Make aphasia visible Communication disability is very often invisible. If people cant see or dont know you have communication difficulties they wont cut you any slack. When other people do realise theres something unusual about your speech, their own embarrassment or fear of getting stuck may immediately become a further barrier to good, two-way conversation. So take the initiative and tell people about your difficulties and what helps you. Lots of people use credit card size explanations that they have had a stroke and have aphasia. Some people rarely get them out but just having them in their wallet or purse is a way of feeling more secure about explaining if they do get stuck. Not everyone feels comfortable about saying they have had a stroke or head injury because they might then be labelled. But for some, a Stroke Association or customised card (or set of cards) about why they have aphasia and what helps them is a handy way of making the invisible more visible. 7. Be prepared Dates, times and places are some of the hardest things to remember and use. Always having a calendar, diary and maps to hand can help you feel confident that arrangements have been understood by both parties. Whats more they are part of every day life for all people, not something different and unusual or stigmatising. 8. Pick up the phone Many people with aphasia talked of their difficulties with and tendency to avoid using the phone. This can be yet another source of feeling excluded and cut off. One ingenious solution for people who dont feel confident enough to talk but who want to be involved is to listen in on an extension or speakerphone. Other people talked about using voice activated messages on mobile phones as a useful alarm system for emergencies - speaking a single familiar word into the phone will automatically dial your emergency person. And for others, using a fax rather than a phone lets them see the number to dial and to send and receive messages - they keep in touch without the fluster associated with voice-only calls. 9. Put pen to paper When other people write things down it can be so much easier to follow and remember conversations. People dont naturally do this so you have to tell them to write it and what exactly is helpful to you - for example just the key words rather than long sentences. Always having a pen and pad to hand means that writing just becomes a natural part of the conversation rather than a big inconvenience.