ACCEPTANCE VS RESIGNATION

Topic 1: The power of Love

“The only cause of suffering is the inability to accept what is happening”

Gerardo Schmedling T.

If we all human beings do not want to suffer anymore, then why suffering
continues to be the common denominator in human history?
One of the basic components of the human being is its beliefs system. It allows
us to establish relationships and create families, cities, countries, cultures.
As long as our beliefs system is aligned with our surroundings, everything is ok.
Nevertheless, this is not something that happens frequently. On the contrary, in
our daily lives we meet people from different surroundings, with different beliefs,
destinies, situations and experiences that confront us.
And why does it confront us?
As human beings, we all look for full satisfaction in our lives and eagerly strive to
create ideals.
Most people suppose that by reaching these ideals, they can reach satisfaction
and happiness. However, the result is that once the goal is achieved or even
about to be achieved, there are new challenges and new goals on the way.

We find ourselves in a permanent fight trying to accommodate the reality of life in

our own ideals.

If we can see the ideal on a major scale, we then realize that there is only one
Universal purpose: To learn to Love.

Topic 2: The power of Acceptance

“I shall never believe that God plays dice with the world.” Albert Einstein

Acceptance emerges from the understanding that all circumstances have a

purpose of Love.

Deep acceptance of the reality of life is understanding first, that the reality of life
has a fundamental purpose: the development of Consciousness through
recognizing the laws that govern the Universe. Second, the teachings presented
in each circumstance of the human experience, has a purpose: inner realization
that liberates us from suffering.
This deep acceptance of the reality of life will give us this wonderful quality of
Love: cohabitate with all beings in the Universe, express Love constantly and
value every circumstance in life.
If we can understand that every circumstance, which has some level of difficulty
for either the mind, feelings, emotions or controlling reactions of the instinct, is a
wonderful opportunity to learn and train ourselves in the cultivation of inner
Peace, only then are we ready to apply Acceptance and renunciation and be free
once and for all from mental conflict and interior suffering.

Topic 3: How to discern acceptance from resignation

“The first step towards change is awareness. The second step is acceptance”.
Author unknown

An interpretation can be misleading, but it can never be the reality of the result.
When we can not accept something, we obtain the same interior result of conflict
and suffering.

Resignation happens from believing that I am not capable of changing

circumstances.
Resignation leaves constant frustration in your mind.

Resignation is the dark part of the mind that is tired of useless fighting to
accommodate life for its own beliefs.
The person falling into resignation feels a huge impotence while dealing with
circumstances in life and feels incapable to fight any longer.
Nevertheless, when a person stops fighting, even if it is with resignation, he or
she has the possibility to partially recover his or her vital energy. This recovery
could eventually lead the person to understand that more important than
suffering is having inner peace. Consequently, in any given moment, the light of
comprehension will come to the mind and he or she will realize that the path to
be free from suffering is not out there, trying to change the reality of life but,
rather, inside ourselves trying to change the concept of life. Then the person will
be transcending the limitation of resignation and will be entering in the path of
acceptance as a way to get rid of suffering.

Acceptance brings total freedom in your mind

From Acceptance emerges understanding that all circumstances in life have a
purpose of Love.

Topic 4: Coaching questions and tools

A. How to recognize forms of not accepting.

RECOGNITION WHAT AM I NOT ACCEPTING

Refusing life The learning opportunities that difficulties offer

Overprotection The mission and destiny experiences that every person has
Perfectionism That there are different ways of organizing and managing
Worries That I can loose something that I don’t need anymore
Fanatism Other forms, paths, beliefs, options, different to mine
Anger What others do or say or what is happening
Condemnation Behaviours, attitudes different to mine
Rebelliousness The need of adapting myself to the place corresponding to me
Distress That I can live differently through loosing what I have
Sadness Others’ experiences and behaviours
Criticism Others’ habits, ideas and decisions
Resentment That others are not responsible for my own experiences
Judgment That everyone does the best with what he or she knows
Attachment That anything and/or anyone belongs to me and that I always have what I
need
Stress That there can be different outcomes and that I give only what I can
Fear The possibility of loosing what I have or not achieving what I want
Jealousy That I am not anyone’s owner and that only Love can unite us
Guilt That I am not responsible for others experiences

B. Look at the big picture

When facing any situation that confronts your mind, accept that it is only a
process of the Universal Laws of Correspondence and Evolution, making you a
part of the big Universal concert! Enjoy it!

C. Action

When facing any situation that confronts your mind, renounce trying to change it
and involving your concepts, beliefs, feelings and emotions. Do, with calm and
serenity, whatever you have to do and never react. Act!

D. Develop your full potential

Difficult situations that life is offering were specifically designed to be overcome

and allow you to develop your potential to the fullest. Take advantage of it!

Reflection and Application

1. How can you know that you are not accepting reality?
2. Which situations are causing you any kind of fear or suffering?
3. What is it that you are not accepting in each of these situations?
4. What do you need to understand about each of these
situations?
5. How would your life look like if you could fully accept each of
these situations?