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Table Of Contents
Foreword Chapter 1: Gambling Wont Fix Debt Chapter 2: Why We Get Into Bad Gambling Habits Chapter 3: What Occurs Chapter 4: Abstention Or Command And The Journey Chapter 5: Steps To Overcome The Habit Wrapping Up

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Foreword
Congratulations on taking this big step of reading this if this is your first book about stopping troubled gambling, if all the same like me, this is among several books you've read then well done once more, you know youre becoming stronger. The aim of this book is to be for both sexes, all ages, all colors, creeds and faiths. It matters not if youre a adolescent that has got carried away, a middle aged woman whos simply spent her life savings or a individual sitting in his prison cell doing a long stretch for a problem gambling related condemnable offence. Im not worried with whether the debt you discover yourself in is 1000, or one 1000000000000, our journey is more or less the same - you have to change. In my eyes the past may stop here and the future may begin here.

Get Rid Of Gambling Overcome One Of The Most Difficult Addictions Today.

Chapter 1:
Gambling Wont Fix Debt

Synopsis
Living in this world with ever increasing pressures from a assortment of sources may leave us perpetually having to juggle income to make ends meet. We all dream about winning the lottery so that all our financial concerns may be solved in one fell swoop. All the same for most of the population that's where it remains - as a dream. Then along come the problem gamblers and they attempt to make that dream into a reality by actively pursing those long odds. Rather simply they're chasing a dream that may never become a reality and that's why you'll perpetually find them trying gambling to get out of debt.

It Wont Help
Prolonged problem gambling has brought you to this place prolonged problem gambling won't get you out! The above statement would appear so commonplace in a non-problem gamblers brain that it borders on being rather an absurd one. To the nonproblem gambler the same may be said of any statement that to the sound mind would be so totally obvious, like If you cuff yourself to a post, it will be hard to walk away. Or placing your shoes on opposite feet would make walking uncomfortable. And all the same all problem gamblers believe that prolonged problem gambling provides them a chance. A chance that they might get out of debt with that ever elusive one big win. This erroneous belief is one that a problem gambler has to drop from a great height if they're to have any chance of success. The fact that I'm writing this book - the fact that gamblers anonymous is a universal organization that helps problem gamblers - the fact that there are a lot of different worldwide organizations providing help - the fact that there are 1000s of other books about problem gamblers whose worlds have crumbled - the fact that individuals have committed suicide due to gambling - the fact that 1000000s and 1000000s

is poured into research around the world into the problem gambling phenomenon - the fact that a lot of individuals are sitting in cells around the world because of gambling related crimes - sorry to be carrying on a bit here, but the fact is, that all the facts add up to the fact that: Prolonged problem gambling won't get you out of debt - it will only make it worse Okay, for the individuals out there who still doubt - think about this. Even if a problem gambler gets that big win - prolonged problem gambling would mean, it will only be a matter of time before they're back in debt. Your new belief in this area ought to be that no matter if I won the huge one, prolonged problem gambling will put me back into debt.

Chapter 2:
Why We Get Into Bad Gambling Habits

Synopsis
This is a tricky question that will be hard to answer because all problem gamblers have a different hereditary make-up, their situations will all be different and the amount of loss of control they've experienced will deviate. On this one Im going to let you develop your own ideas as to why you've had an issue with gambling.

Look At Yourself

A fast example: Maybe you have a mild sort of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) and as well as additional things I go over and over the same thing time and again. i.e. A damaging thought. Occasionally it truly is nice to take a break from yourself. Gambling may supply a sanctuary for you Maybe you have felt stressed and would gamble to escape Maybe you have been depressed you would gamble Maybe you have been happy you would gamble Maybe you have been unhappy you would gamble Maybe you have Sub-consciously I felt like you had under-achieved in your life Maybe you have been angry toward your parents for kicking me out of your home when you were younger Maybe you have been angry toward your parents for not supporting you, or giving you any good advice, or any advice at all. Or helping you to get a university education, or go to college Maybe you have gotten bored and liked to gamble Maybe you have liked the buzz you got from gambling Maybe you have a fixation with numbers and figures Maybe you have thought you could beat the house odds because in some way you were special

Maybe you have become addicted to the action of gambling Maybe you have thought I could gamble my way out of an eternally depressing financial situation Maybe you have wanted to be rebellious and not play by the rules of society i.e. hard work Maybe you have had trouble relaxing After nearly 2 years now of looking into myself I may come up with a list. I'm very proud of my list as it allows me to identify the negative emotions in my life, where they have been coming from and why in the past I've walked into the arms of gambling every time one of them popped up, which was pretty much all the time. So now well come more directly to you, come on, lets construct your list. Put a tick next to the line that describes you. Its going to be a pretty thorough list as I dont wish to miss any of you. I've a mild form of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) and as well as other matters I go over and over the same thing over again and again. i.e. a damaging thought. Occasionally it truly is nice to take a break from myself. Gambling provides a sanctuary for me Once I feel strained I like to gamble to break away Once I'm depressed I need to gamble Once I'm happy I wish to gamble When I'm distressed I wish to gamble When I was little I had a big win. I know that eventually I may win big again

Sub-consciously I feel like I've under-achieved in my life I'm angry toward my parents for something I'm angry toward my mate for something they've done/said If I get bored I wish to gamble I like the buzz I get from gambling I've a fixation with numbers and figures I believe I may beat the house odds as in some way I'm special I'm addicted to the action of gambling I believe I stand a chance of gambling my way out of an everlastingly depressing financial situation I wish to be rebellious and not play by the rules of society i.e. hard work I have trouble unwinding There's a past trauma/traumas in my life that I havent dealt with as its too painful. When Im gambling I dont have to consider such matters I dont feel like I have a desirable role model in my life I like to self hurt myself as I suffer from low self-regard so losing cash I don't have fulfils that need I've a mood disorder where I fluctuate between high energy and a happy mood one moment, then I find myself in periods of depression - it is at these times that I wish to gamble I've an attention deficit disorder which means I'm not able to center for long time periods. I find gambling hazardous enough to draw and hold my attention, temporarily alleviating me of my symptoms

I suffer from schizophrenic disorder I see gambling as a way to hike up my income I gamble because my acquaintances do and its a social thing There's a history of substance abuse and addictive traits in my family so problem gambling came by nature to me I've an addictive personality and do everything to the extreme. Not only do I problem gamble, but I take lots of substances, drink far too much and Im not unknown for gorging regularly. Once I gamble without me knowing my brain is releasing endorphins that have a morphine like impact on me. I'm in reality experiencing a high when I gamble and I like that feeling Ironically now that Ive just created that list to attempt and help you I have found a few more I may add to my own list. Did you note that out of these reasons above, that only one of them was linked to cash? Thats because problem gambling has got utterly nothing to do with cash and everything to do with damaging emotions. And if you quit reading this book right now and never read another word but you began to believe that was the case, then you would be well on your way to recovery and I would be as pleased as punch. Let us now have a look at what really happens to us.

Chapter 3:
What Occurs

Synopsis
Prior to, upon and following gambling.

What Goes On Prior to: An increasing engrossment with gambling, to the point where nothing else is crucial. This is frequently experienced as sense of craving A concern that you may miss an chance to win. How many times have we heard of the distressed individual whose lucky numbers showed up but who had forgot to purchase their ticket! Irrational confidence and illusions about winning Exhilaration in anticipation of placing a bet. Fantasizing what to do with the profits Aggravation, rage and mounting stress if something prevents them from gambling On gambling: A total centering of attention on gambling; all else passes in importance Exhilaration and physical arousal, demonstrated by increased pulse rate Irrational talk within their head: the next bet is the winner I've been waiting for. It has to be my turn for a large win, I just know it Superstitious conduct to increase the chance of a win

Following a successful session: Alleviation and anticipation of the following occasion Self-assurance (I knew I could do it) and a strong belief that winning was a result of skill Joyful mood Amplified ego, having beaten them at their own game Self-complacency at having cash and being able to impress a mate or spouse Following losing: Shame and remorse Dread of spouse or others finding out Worry over where to get cash to cover living expenses Thoughts of what prevarications to tell to cover ones actions Self-directed rage Conclusion never to gamble again-but at the same time, thoughts of where to ascertain cash in order to return to chase losses Want to forget issues through alcohol And why do you choose to put yourself through that After losing phase time after time. Its because of those superstitious notions

When a coin is flipped into the air it has a even chance of landing on heads. We all understand this. But if it lands on heads, then what is the chance that it will land on heads once more? i.e. 2 times in a row Now less likely to land on heads, or Still even If you selected A, and didnt think that the answer was still even then you have to put this book down, count slowly to 10 and then pick this book back up. If a horse tip from a dependable source comes your way and you back it and it wins, does this make you A brighter and better gambler than the rest Lucky this time solely If you picked A again Id like you to put down this book, ring up a neurosurgeon and ask him to be on standby for an surgical operation that may happen at any moment. Let us not forget that occasional wins merely reinforce our fallacies that we may win at gambling. If we all had these sure inside tips and they forever came in, then wed all be wealthy and there would be no bookies. If you win a hefty sum of money at the casino, say $10,000 what should you do now?

Bank some, but take a serious sized stake back again really soon. Keeping a winning streak going is imperative to effective gambling Bank the lot, treat your family to something special and be thankful for your luck. Don't go back any time soon and apply them a penny of your money back Please dont tell me youve picked A once more. Youre truly not getting the hang of this game, are you? Im afraid youre going to need to pick up the telephone and tell your physician to get the operating room ready; you're on your way over there right now. Okay so youre in your auto, or on the bus, on route to your physicians house. Here you'll have the top of your head sawed-off and the small part of your brain that keeps getting these answers incorrect is to be replaced by a non problem gamblers part, who's just died and quite lovingly, and knowingly, donated this part of their brain particularly for individuals like you. But I'm feeling in a generous mood and so Ill give you one more chance to prevent going under the saw. If a fixed odds betting depot that works by a random number generator, which commonly reside in betting shops around the world, and it's just gleaned 1000 dollars off a fellow better, do you? Continue walking, that bears no relevance on any future outcome. Got to give it a try, the machine is due a payout.

I tricked you. I cunningly switched from A to B being the wrong answer. B is the answer that I held close to my heart for a lot of years and it caused monumental amounts of self-annihilation. As did all the other fallacies keep me buried in a world of anguish. All these wrong notions are what have pegged you and me down all these years, but we wish this to change - dont we? All these notions and many more beside, that are not based around reality or reason, go to the very root that make us act in this curious way at times. In order to advance we need to bury all of these superstitious notions.

Chapter 4:
Abstention Or Command And The Journey

Synopsis
Gamblers Anonymous says that you ought to never have a gamble again because if you have one, then the path to devastation has been returned. All the same, a lot of studies carried out in academia have demonstrated that some problem gamblers may return to controlled gambling without slipping back into their old ways. I believe this is a matter for the person and you ought to make your own mind up on this one. All I'll say is that for the immediate future everybody believes that complete abstinence from gambling is the best way onward.

The Course

As it has already been stated, problem gambling isn't about the cash and everything to do with your damaging emotions. You will not be able to deal with clearing up all of those while you're gambling. So, complete abstinence from now on till you are able to find better, less destructive ways of dealing with your damaging emotions. In time, should you select to return to controlled gambling then that's up to you. But if you discover that youre slipping back into old ways then you have to quit completely again and re-start your negative emotion analysis and find better ways of dealing with tension and so forth. In order to ever return to controlled gambling you have to first master the following strategies: 1) You must be able to cut back your urge to gamble when it bobs up. 2) You have to correct all inaccurate beliefs you previously held about gambling. 3) You'll have to learn to identify sets off that will provoke your urge to gamble in the future, like damaging emotional states. 4) You'll have to discover alternative ways of dealing with tension, anxiety and depression. 5) You'll know how to avoid gambling-related cues that will fuel your want to gamble. 6) You'll have to become vigilant that you dont slip back into the old way

What you might well find is when you become a master of all these strategies that you truly dont fancy ever gambling again. The question now Do you wish to make the journey? I know you wish to make this journey. I know you do. I know you are able to make this journey right to the very end and I wish to meet you there, nod to one another and then proceed with our lives to the fullness of our power and beyond. For X sum of years, each time we placed a bet we have been placing layer on layer on our habit-forming trunk that's formed us into the individuals we have become; individuals with a gambling issue. Gambling has become as crucial as eating, sleeping and breathing and from time to time more crucial. This thick layered trunk that's commanded our thoughts and actions has been accumulated in that X amount of years, and there's no giant on/off switch that anybody may give to us that will make it disappear in an blink of an eye. Make no doubt in your brain that what lies ahead is nothing less than a journey. The length of this travel is undetermined, it will differ for each of us, but there's no misinterpretation that it can't be accomplished in one leg.

My travel, which is nearly 2 years, still carries on. I genuinely dont feel as though I am at the end, but much water has passed underneath me since then and I feel great about my problem gambling as I compose this line. Like any journey of a capital length we have got to realize that its not all going to be clear sailing, occasionally you may have to take a step back in order to make another 3 forward. This isn't failure. If you discover that you have a lapse this doesn't mean the ship is going down and the journey is over, it more likely implies that a different part of the ship needs repair in order for you to continue. Your emotions will act as your compass and they'll inform you when something isn't correct. Dont ignore them; remember it was ignoring them in the first place that got you here. Remember, problem gambling isn't about cash; it's about not dealing effectively with your damaging emotions. In order to begin this journey we have to decide whether we wantJoy or anguish in our lives. I've assigned monumental amount of anguish to problem gambling, such so that I dont gamble the least bit. Consequently Ive assigned a good deal of pleasure to not problem gambling, and hey presto, this hypothesis appears to work.

If you're yet under the delusion that problem gambling brings you joy then you can't and won't succeed in your quest. The reason being, our mind loves to do things that give us joy. Remember when you were a youngster and you wanted to consume sweets and chocolate all the time. Never entered your brain that they may actually be doing you any damage; they tasted and felt so great. A big bag of sweets was the monthly pay check for a youngster and we all couldnt await payday. Then we began to visit the dentist and we viewed pictures of dental caries and we discovered that sustained problem sweet-eating, while temporarily made us feel great, it was demolishing our teeth and was unhealthful for us. What did we do? We quit eating as many, gave ourselves the occasional treat and smiled for each photo op that came our way. The similarities to what we face today and back then are frightening, but the precepts are the same. We assigned long-run anguish to eating too many sweets and so we have to assign too much anguish to sustained problem gambling. As a matter of fact I think it's safe to say that too much of anything will come back to stalk us. Take a moment out and decide which of the following statements appeal to you the most today.

I wish to continue problem gambling so that I may temporarily feel great but for the rest of the time I feel nauseated with myself and see my health, looks, relationships and finances slide down the sewer. I'm currently problem gambling free, I'm making restitution for my past, and am loving sleeping, eating, conversing with my loved ones. Life feels shinier and lighter and I likewise seem to have a few bucks in my pocket, so I wonder how I may treat myself?

Chapter 5:
Steps To Overcome The Habit

Synopsis
Your mind is capable of processing thirty billion bits of data per second and it boasts the equivalent of 6,000 miles of cabling and wiring. Your nervous system has about 28 billion neurons (nerve cells designed to conduct impulses) and these are all required to interpret the data we get through our sense organs and pass it on to the brain. Each of these neurons is a tiny, self-contained PC capable of processing about one million bits of data. Now that we have the worlds most powerful PC at our disposal, lets see what it may accomplish.

Some Tips
Discover what anguish and joy you want. First of all, I'd to like offer that while you're reading this book your problem gambling is like a tiger outside the door, doing press-ups. So even if you believe youd like to change, or ought to change, or will change soon, but not now, then as soon as you put this book down and walk out that door, that tiger will go with you wherever you go and might tear you from limb to limb at anytime it selects to do so. Not a pretty sentiment, but we have to be clear-cut here, problem gambling is no beauty contestant fighting for world peace and this isn't a beauty pageant. Problem gambling is the demon, in the form of a tiger, that's working out, right now and tapering its claws and teeth awaiting the un-motivated, or, the somewhat motivated to venture out. That's its sustenance. The one and only beast they fear is the wholly motivated. I, like you had stated to myself 100s of times before that I wanted to stop gambling but I never did. I now know the formula to stopping problem gambling and if I stick to it, like you, it may become a thing of the past. If you may successfully complete all of the following steps then your want to becoming problem gambling free may be a living, breathing truth.

Okay, so now Im going to make a list of all the things that will happen to me over the next 2 years if I dont give up\ quit gambling. You may follow me mentally or make your own list as we go through it. If I carry on problem gambling for the next 2 years Im pretty confident that I: Will be in more debt than I am in now Could lose my life mate who I love a great deal Will drink increasingly to deaden the anguish of my situation Won't progress my career any further Might wind up jobless and then homeless Might wind up in jail as an attempt to get funds so that I may gamble Might have more failed suicide attempts, or even Will see my wellness suffer Will see all my relationships hurt Will once more view the world as a dark and grim place If I may stay problem gambling free for the following 2 years Im pretty confident that I: Will have much less debt than I have today, I might even be debt free Will have become closer to my life mate who truly deserves it , and hey, I truly deserve it too

Won't have been seeking out drink or drugs all the time to help repair my mood. I'll just be happier all round as I choose not to problem gamble Wont be in jail Wont be dead or in hospital because of problem gambling Will have better wellness and my relationships will be in a better condition. I may have even gained many new acquaintances or one very good friend Will have experienced a lot of new things which will regenerate my vigor for life, the world and all its gifts and wonders Will feel empathy for anybody who's a problem gambler as I understand the anguish they're in Will be continuing to help any problem gambler that seeks my help, as by helping them I'll be helping myself further Will begin to feel more and more victorious about what I have accomplished over the last 2 years, but I'll never take anything for granted Utilize the list as motivational gas Now were both going to take all the those atrocious things that will happen to us if we dont change, or, for me, uphold the change, and were going to roll them all up into one huge ball called sensation of urgency flip open our heads and slam dunk it in. At the same time, we'll roll up all those joys that we wish to begin right now, label that with sensation of urgency and do the same once

more. If we discover ourselves labeling them with things to accomplish shortly or have get round to it then I believe you know what will occur. The following example Im about to provide might not be the best example given the circumstances but Im going to run with it anyhow to illustrate a point, please take it in the spirit it's intended. If somebody was to follow you around everyplace you go with a gun to your head, threatening to pull the trigger if you problem gambled, I believe we may safely say that you wouldnt do it. I know that's taking it to the extreme but in order to be totally motivated you have to apply a similar sense of urgency, albeit without any guns or bullets. So to you, you have to utilize your list, whether its a mental one that you keep repeating to yourself, or one that youve written down. Perhaps you could carry the list round with you in your top pocket, or keep it in your top drawer at home. By reading this list aloud to yourself, over and over and over again, it will keep your motivation levels at the necessary high and let you move on to the following step. Perpetually interrupt your old habit Even though you're now fully committed to change this doesn't mean that the tiger outside will disappear and give you an effortless ride - Oh no - It implies that when you venture outside you now have one of the tools essential that may beat the tiger if he decides to pounce. It means you

may be on your way to fuelling what you want in life, and not what you dread. But motivation on its own might be able to fight the tiger off each time it comes, but you truly need to get to the position where hes not waiting for you at all. For this to occur youre going to have to scramble and interrupt your old habit such that it becomes unrecognizable, and a new pattern of believing and acting towards problem gambling, is born. Take active steps to shifting Hanging out at the same gambling resorts but not gambling, or speaking to friends who gamble, about gambling related matters, won't help your cause. As well as interrupting, scrambling and reconstructing your thought and behavior patterns about gambling you have to ensure that other steps are taken so it will become less and less easy for you to drop off to your now, old ways. You're going to have so much more free time on your hands and brain and if you let it go begging, then guess who'll be waiting outside the door? My advice to you is:

Whatsoever YOU daydreamed about previously, accomplish it whatsoever YOU discussed previously, only never bore the cash to accomplish it, simply accomplish it (all right whenever it is fairly conceivable under your present state of affairs) whenever you utilize the same ardor to your fresh experiences as you once did to gambling, then I recognize the consequences will be astonishing, and the more of those you get under your belt and the more fun you have executing them, the less likely you will ever be of going back to the previous processes. Sustaining changes once they're made Recall your damaging emotions are nothing more than action signals. Take action today and for the rest of your lives and your shift will become permanent. You and I may condition any behavior inside ourselves if we do it with adequate repetition and emotional intensity. Failure to sustain your changes might lead to slippage. Picture yourself as a business and the fresh tools you've learnt are your customers. If you dont look after your customers, in time, your business will wind up in the toilet.

Wrapping Up

If you agree that your actions stem from the decisions you make, and that they're powered by your beliefs, then the more you are able to do to compound your fresh beliefs toward gambling the more successful your journey will be. I've discovered that the more I've read about the destructiveness of problem gambling, the more I've researched how the gambling industry operates and the more I read about how to deal more effectively with my damaging emotional states, the less I feel the urge to gamble. I hope this book has helped you in your journey.

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