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Emotional Competency - Primal Messaging

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Primal Messaging
Signaling our limbic systems
Why do so many people love their pet dogs so much? How does a dog communicate so profoundly with its owner? How does wagging a tail create such a strong bond of affection and attachment? The answer seems to be that the dog is signaling our emotional center in a very simple yet profound and powerful way. I call this messaging system Primal Messaging or Limbic Calculus Informally, people sometimes use words such as chemistry or vibes with a similar meaning.

Definition
Signaling between the limbic systems of two beings. This signaling is often non-verbal, and often takes place below the level of consciousness.

Semantics and Syntax:

We signal messages from our limbic system to the limbic system of others using a variety of symbols, including facial expression, non-verbal emblems, voice inflection, body position, etc. Most of these messages pertain to our most basic needs. Here is the basic vocabulary of those messages:
Need Exploration Syntax Smile Semantics Approach Semantics Syntax Dimension Distance Need Safety

Retreat

Relatedness

Smile

Like Authentic

Dislike Fake, phony Unsafe Disagree Puzzled Not Attractive Halt Unsure Bored Sad Displeased Submissive Weak Dont know Distrust Skeptical Fatigued,

Frown

Safety

Safety

Safe Optimistic Understand

Safety

Safety

Procreation Progress Competence

Hot (sexy) Continue Sure (confident) Interested Happy Pleased Dominant Strong Know Trust Believing

Selection Safety Confidence Competence

Judgment Power Strength Knowledge

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Rested, Vital Friendly Proud Aggressive Respect Defiant Thankful, Grateful Relieved Relaxed Procreation (Sexually) Available Empathetic, I care Sincere Warm Friend Fearful, Threatened Patient Urgent Important Approve Esteem Valued Helpful

Fatigued, Exhausted

Energy

Unfriendly, Hostile Ashamed Passive, Calm Disrespect Contrite, Apologetic No Thanks, Unappreciative Concerned, Anxious Stressed Unreceptive I Dont care Insincere Cold Foe Safe Impatient Casual Trivial Disapprove Worthless Hurtful Esteem Time Safety Safety Procreation Selectivity Esteem stature

Note that the signal may pertain to the self (1 st person), you (2 nd person) or a 3 rd person.

Quotations
Our brains are physically wired to develop in tandem with another's through emotional communication, beginning before words are spoken ~ Allan N. Schore We are designed to be emotionally entangled. ~ Marc Ian Barasch

References:
A General Theory of Love by Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini, Richard Lannon http://xenia.media.mit.edu/~kris/ftp/thesis/mdpir.pdf
Fear, Sadnes s , A nger, J oy, Surpris e, D is gus t, C ontempt, A nger, E nvy, J ealous y, Fright, A nxiety, G uilt, Shame, Relief, H ope, Sadnes s , D epres s ion, H appines s , P ride, L ove, G ratitude, C ompas s ion, A es thetic E xperienc e, J oy, D is tres s , H appy- for, Sorry- for, Res entment, G loating, P ride, Shame, A dmiration, Reproac h, L ove, H ate, H ope, Fear, Satis fac tion, Relief, Fears - c onfirmed, D is appointment, G ratific ation, G ratitude, A nger, Remors e, power, dominanc e, s tature, relations hips

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