This post is broken into four parts.

I Overview II Paradigms III The 16 Daily Rituals IV Implementation

I Overview
For a long time now I have been ruthlessly attacking the question of what it is I do with my days. I began a project where I tracked my daily endeavors to see what I was doing with my time (see part IV). I have been keeping this up every day for the lesser part of a year now and I discovered that a large portion of my time was, regrettably, wasted away. I also evolved a system of growth that I want to share with you today. Your daily habits are HIGHLY correlated with success or failure. By doing something every day you can achieve goals that would be otherwise impossible. By doing something every day you can make yourself process oriented. By doing something every day you can give yourself the abundance mindset. I cant talk this up enough. For the last year I have been scrutinizing my days and how I appropriate my time. This post proposes 16 things that anybody can do to begin changing themselves and their life. Ive gone through quite an evolution and am sharing the results of my experiment with you here . Its a long post, but I encourage you to read through it you will likely find some value in it. ************************************************************************************* ********** UPDATE JUNE 14, 2013 ************************************************************************************* ********** For the past two years Ive been comprehensively tracking my performance and progress on over 16 different metrics (diet, exercise, various projects etc) A year ago I wrote a long post about the experiment. That was almost a year ago exactly - I'd like to update that post and conclude the experiment. Ive summed up what Ive learned into this chart (below) After all my experimentation this is how I would sum up daily habits, their relative importance, and how they relate to other goals and projects. One of the most important takeaways is that some habits literally increase the reservoir of energy that you have to expend. Build up your energy first then focus on spending it. Getting good at pickup, excelling at your job, learning a language/instrument, running a business all of these worthy goals are literally ENDLESS VACUOLES FOR YOUR ENERGY, meaning there is no limit to how much you can give. More energy and focus = more progress and more results. Dont viciously flog yourself or get depressed because youve been apathetic start at the bottom of the pyramid and begin fixing things all the way to the top.

Bottom of the Pyramid

Take full responsibility for all things in your life and decide to take

action to improve them This means your health, finances, relationships etc. No progress is possible until you acknowledge your situation (bad or good) and resolve an intention to change

Middle of the Pyramid

Four primary habits of rejuvenation Exercise, sleep, correct nutrition,

and freedom from carcinogens. If youre drunk, bloated, tired, have a messy room, or are in a la zy sluggish state you need to fix that first. Actually the first step is to LEARN PROPER NUTRITION AS IT PERTAINS TO THE CAUSE AND EFFECT OF YOUR OWN BODY (aka experiment on your own, dont just read an article) the same goes for sleep, exercise, and your environment. Its your responsibility to learn how your body and mind respond to different triggers. Its your responsibility to learn the cause and effect reactions you have to your environment (What environments do you work well in? What people help you and what people slow you down? etc

Top of the Pyramid - Meditation. For gods sake people need to learn how to meditate. Not woowoo shamanistic Buddhism or anything of the sorts Im talking about basic mindfulness meditation. Its on top of the other habits because without proper sleep/food/exercise meditation becomes very difficult and the positive effects are marginalized. The specific parts of meditation most useful: 1. EXCERCISING YOUR PREFRONTAL CORTEX AND STRENTHENING YOUR ABILITIES OF FOCUS AND ATTENTION Like lifting weights you train your mind. You literally do this by sitting still for 10 30 minutes and attempt to focus on one thing. THATS IT. You can be staring at the light switch, a candle flame, or you can have your eyes closed and focus on the feeling in a part of your body. You lose focus and once you become aware of this you return. Do this over and over, day after day, for years and years. You will be unstoppable. 2. GAINING CONTROL OVER YOUR PARASYNHETIC SYSTEMS INCLUDING YOUR RELAXATION RESPONSE The relaxation response counters the stress response. I wont get into it but look up the effects of cortisol. Also read Maxwell Maltz, Phsycocybernetics as he has some very interesting things to say regarding the relaxation response 3. ACTIVELY CHANGING YOUR STATE OF CONSCIOUSNESS. Once you know what youre doing meditation becomes a tool to clear your head and hone your focus onto whats important. Petty distractions, conscious or unconscious, will cease to interrupt you.

Bulb of the Pyramid - If you maintain an excellent practice of daily habits then you will find
yourself at the bulb. A State of being where you've the maximum possible energy, focus, & clarity of intent to achieve your goals From this point youre driven by passion and youll notice something amazing In this state working towards your goals no longer takes willpower, it happens effortlessly. And thats magic So man up, acknowledge where youre at, set some goals, and use what little willpower you have to get back on track. Soon youll be crushing it, if you arent already. Anyway, thats what Ive learned and I think Ill stop the experiment now. Keep in mind that I did this experiment entirely for myself - not for anyone else. The way I see it is significant to me because I became this way through the trial and error of first-hand experience. My point is that while this may help you - along with any other self-development text to which this is very similar - but the profitable use of this knowledge is not by reading it but by going through the process of internalizing it yourself. I hate gurus - and you should too. If you find yourself idolizing anyone, think of this quote, its one of my

favorites,
"Seek not to follow in the footsteps of the wise. Instead seek what they sought"

II Paradigms
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act but a habit . Aristotle
Before I get into the specifics of the rituals Ive integrated into my life I think its important to understand the paradigms Im operating under. The epiphanies and understandings Ive come to have allowed me to implement these habits and take massive action. If youre starting from scratch, Id guess it would take about six months to a year to develop the self-discipline required to sustain the regiment of habits Im discussing. The first paradigm and concept you need to understand is the lifetime approach.

Habits A lifetime approach When considering doing something every day for forever you obviously consider what effect it would have on you. Both in the long term and the short term. You will look at what it is you want to do every day, such as exercise and consider the short and long term effects. In the short term what gives? Well it makes you feel pretty good for one. A runners' high, a sense of pride and accomplishment, and also the rollover it has to other parts of your day. Its not like you exercise and then hit mcdicks and your couch. Generally this converts to momentum that you carry to other tasks. The benefits of exercising on any given day are obvious and realized immediately. Consider also the long term effects. As you maintain a regiment of exercise your body fat percentage drops, your flexibility and strength increase (less chance of injury) your lifespan extends, your immune system is bolstered, you maintain your youth longer, you carry over a sustained vigor to other parts of your life, your resting heart rate goes down, and you have a general feeling of well-being. Pretty sweet. Clearly exercising is very important; given both its short and long term benefits. This is the algorithm Ive used for proactively constructing my life. Take the activity, consider the long and short term effects and evaluate if thats what I want in my life. Many activities I regularly engaged in had wonderful short term effects but terrible long term effects on my health, well-being and prosperity. Follow me through a short aside and lets apply this algorithm to a different and arguably negative activity; drinking alcohol. Short term effects can be great (state, fun, makes game easier) but with a little more inspection you realize the rollover effects it has. Health-wise this is obvious. Drinking is bad for you, especially binge drinking. But its easy to overlook what else is going on its not just alcohol its the partying. The shitty sleeps when you drink, the wrecked immune system, the shitty food you eat drunk, the unprotected sex with random 7s that are sluts with stds, my increa sed likelihood of smoking cigarettes and doing drugs, and the long term damage of alcohol (by the time Im 26 years old that will have been a DECADE of binge drinking) Financially its obviously detrimental drinks at the bar can crucify a student budget. Youre productivity also takes a huge hit when you drink, the next day is a write off. Even if you have a lot of will power and momentum taking charge of your life, go at it a couple of days in a row and you set yourself way back. There are books to be read, weights to be lifted, laundry to be done but no hungover = DURR state.

By taking a step back and looking at the ecosystem of consequences your choices have you can better decide what things you do and dont want in your life.

Mastery The S Curve The next concept is derived from George Leanords book Mastery The idea is that progress with regards to anything skill related is not a liner equation, ie the effort you put in does not directly correlate with what you get out. The reality is that you spend most of your time on platitudes, putting in effort and not getting anywhere, until eventually you break through emerging better than before. I agree but would like to extend his model to include the exponential S-curve. The diagram below is fairly autobiographical.

In my limited time on earth I have found this to be true. Lifting weights, picking up girls, learning calculus, playing piano, meditation, carpentry, programming, writing, painting, gardening, using chopsticks, chess and checkers; They all follow this formula. Everything you do will have a discouraging period of slogging through with little to no progress (I refer to this as sucking shit) Its important to understand this because it can help prevent you from getting discouraged. Knowing that when you break through a plato it will be with a bang and it will be glorious. This is how its going to go. You make the decision that youre going to walk the path. Youre going to learn to pick up girls or play the piano. Now you begin putting in a force, a consistent sustained effort. You will do this every day. Now you can begin the process of advancing along the mastery curve. If you put in no effort you make no forward movement - obviously (*In my experience when you give up on a skill you dont lose it entirely you just kind of accumulate rust.)

Exponential Growth and Spillover Two things happen as you move along the mastery curve, and understanding these can help motivate you. For one, you will eventually gain exponential progress. Learning is exponential. You start to see compounding returns as you put the pieces together. You pick up a momentum. Your results are fuel for your motivation and it puts you into this self-fulfilling cycle where you gain results, which give you motivation, which gets you to push harder until you get more results. This doesnt really happen if you suck though How do you hit that exponential growth - the cycle of improvement? Youll do it through sheer FORCE OF MOTHERFUCKING WILLPOWER. Thats what it takes to break through . The second thing that will happen is you begin to accumulate spillover effects. For example, as you play more chess your critical thinking develops or maybe as you learn to pick up girls your social skills sharpen and your performance at work improves. As you begin to cultivate willpower and self-discipline in your life the probability that you will succeed when you pick up a new skill is much, much higher.

Meta-meta-cognition Cognition is your ability to read something and understand it. Meta cognition is your ability to evaluate your comprehension as you read it. Meta meta cognition is thinking about the process of evaluating your comprehension. Every level is a higher order of thinking. Basic cognition is purely operational - it may get you through life from paycheck to paycheck. Taking a step back and thinking about how youre living your life is meta cognition, this can help you manage your life as you introduce an element of proactivity into it. Metameta cognition is taking one further step back and assessing the very values that you decide to live your life by if any of that makes sense. Meta cognition will help you manage your life, finances, relationships, business, and learning. Meta meta cognition is thinking about your values, purpose, and

direction in life. They say that meta cognition is associated with intelligence, then meta meta cognition is associated with brilliance. It is a very powerful tool. (expanded on in habit 16)

III The 16 Daily Rituals

1 Exercise Exercise is huge. I briefly touched on what happens to you in the short term but consider also the long term effects of regular exercise. As you maintain a regiment of exercise your body fat percentage drops, your flexibility and strength increase (less chance of injury) your lifespan extends, your immune system is bolstered, you maintain your youth longer, you carry over a sustained vigor to other parts of your life, your resting heart rate goes down, and you have a general feeling of well being. Pretty sweet. Clearly exercising is very important; given both its short and long term benefits. But do you have to do this every day? That seems strenuous. Try expanding your definition - You dont give it your 100% every day. Some days may be 10 minutes of simple light stretching, just to keep the habit. Other days may be 2.5 hour monster gym sessions. I use this habit to help me accomplish two other things very important to me, mediation and getting in nature. Often times my physical exertion is a one hour walk through the park or along the water front. Practicing a walking meditation is a great way to center yourself and help carry the skill over to everyday life. Being in nature has a similar balancing effect on your well being. But you dont need me to tell you to work out. The benefits are all clearly documented by scientists and people. There are networks and resources for support and endless sources of inspiration to motivate you. 2 Meditation This habit is fucking HUGE. You need to meditate. Think about what part of the human experience spirituality addresses the ego and fear two concepts that are SO tied up with hitting on girls. I think a lot of people get messed up here because the benefits are very intangible at first. The S curve of Mastery that I described above has a very looong period of sucking shit. If youre not experienced then your image of what meditation should be like is wrong. Fighting your expectations will be a constant battle as you learn to meditate. Here are some resources to help you learn. Reddit Article Very concise introduction to meditation Mindfulness in Plain English Amazing book that covers the topic clearly and in depth Meditation Retreat 10 day intensive mediation retreat Holosync Tapes that induce a meditative state (great training wheels) A fortuitous person may discover means of acquiring the audio. (make sure its .flac and not .mp3 format + listen with good headphones) Practice Hurr durr. Start meditating everyday. The evidence is in by a landslide, both anecdotally and empirically. Meditation will change your life so start today, any reason your not is an excuse. Once you get the hang of it you will leave your meditation sessions feeling centered, calm, and relaxed. It has an ego-lessening effect and awareness increasing effect that spills over to your everyday life. If you keep up the practice youll notice that your focus and attention span increases dramatically, as does your sight and sound sensitivity (think of the most visceral things you do sex, eating, sports etc.) Brain regions associated with attention, interception and sensory processing will literally [url=http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1361002/ ]become thicker[/url].

In the long term, meditation offers a profound transformation of how you experience reality It will bring you joy, peace, and happiness. This is real and you need to be doing it.

3 Reading - If you read the right books you will be moved, inspired, and motivated. Think about what you expose yourself to. Theres a million shitty blogs on the internet written by whoever. But then there are books out there that will change your life. Books that the most gifted human beings on earth have spent years writing. A lifetime of experience, insights, and lessons learned given to you in a nice handheld easily digestible form. :) I started this habit at a half hour a day. Recently Ive started reading about an hour a day and am burning through books. With a constant flow of information in you increase your ability for information to flow out (applying knowledge to your life) Reading is an easy habit to put off and you need to make it a priority. If youre not regularly reading then you may start to fall asleep as you pick up a book. Your mind is not conditioned properly and you need to force yourself through that period. Your reading speed and comprehension do pick up over time just stick to it. 4 Creative Recreation - People are going to approach this one very differently but if there is something you can sit down and do purely for your enjoyment than thats awesome. Think of a flow state activity that you can put your full expression into. For me its playing an instrument. If youve ever seen someone play the guitar or piano at an extremely high level in a non-performance setting then youll know what Im talking about. The S curve of learning an instrument is very, very, very long. But you get out what you put in. Your amusements will leave you feeling rejuvenated and can often break up and lighten the day. As you invest in your hobbies you will get more and more out of them I generalized this habit as creative recreation because I want to emphasize the fact that recreation is not a spectator sport. Vegetating on the couch watching commercials is not recreation. 5 Nutrition - As you build a productive life your ability to stay focused and have energy becomes very important. What you eat has a huge effect on how you feel. If you eat right you can avoid energy crashes, fight off sickness, and generally just feel good . I know that Im definitely not the best person to give nutrition advice but the resources are out there. It should be obvious that what you put in your body is very important. Do yourself a favor and learn how your body works. For me, I dont eat sugar or processed food. I drink 1.5L of water a day and I make an extra effort to eat more plant based foods. I supplement my diet with fish oil etc. I think whats most important though is that you proactively decide what you put in your body. Make the time to cook your meals, keep your fridge stocked, and dont buy convenience food.

6 Reasonable Spending - Like nutrition, this habit is more of a choice you make rather than an active

investment of your time. Its pretty straight forward, every day I try to manage my money reasonably. Apply the concept of reactivity/proactively to your spending and you have an excellent framework for managing your money. Did you plan on making this purchase? If not then dont do it. The nature of planning a purchase is that it is in line with your goals and budget. The nature of making an impulsive/reactive purchase is quite the opposite, it is right here and will satisfy me right now (mostly consumer/convenience items )

7 Brain Buster + Current Events - Part of my morning routine is to check out the economist, my local news site, or the new york times and read two or three articles. Given my background and where I want to go in life it is going to serve me well to be informed and have the ability to notice trends and understand the complexity of global issues. I also work very hard to develop my critical and lateral thinking. Every day I challenge myself to solve one extremely difficult problem. Actually I only figure them out about 30% of the time. On my computer I have a repository of IQ, Mensa, brain buster type books that would take a lifetime to work through. Some problems I solve in five minutes others take me thirty until I break down and look at the solution. If you run a business or are any kind of decision making authority (or eventually want to be in that position) then I cant vouch enough for this habit. You need to be sharp and informed. Period .

8 Social - Every day I make an effort to advance my social skills. Your ability to communicate effectively with human beings has so many implications in your personal and professional life. Ive gone through experiments with this habit and I think the less your around people the more you need to make it a priority (my lifestyle right now has me around new people ALL the time, but there have been other times in my life when I actively had to make that happen) Ive tried a few different things. For a while I really focused on listening to people with the intent to understand, pushing the urge to get my point across aside and giving other people the floor when they were expressing themselves. Ive done different experiments with eye contact and physicality while communicating as well. Regardless, going out and approaching trumps all when it comes to developing your social skills.

9 Personal Management - This is the easiest of all habits to implement. Just 10 minutes a day and your bachelor pad are looking clean and fresh. Not many long term benefits here except maybe you dont lose your possessions as often and they have and increased lifespan. In the short term doing your laundry, not letting your dishes pile up, and making your bed can offer you a peace of mind and allow you to work unfettered on other projects.

10 Project 1, 2 or more times a week - For me I set aside a two hour block twice a week to work on a personal project. This could be fleshing out a business feasibility plan, recreating my weightlifting routine, catching up on some reading, creating a budget, doing research, or writing a mega post for rsd

:) At the beginning of each week I choose what two projects I plan to work on and within the week I find time to fit them in. Use this habit as a way of revitalizing old projects that are collecting dust or to begin something new that youve been thinking about but havent got around to. The effects this habit has on your short and long term productivity are huge.

11 Podcast/TED Talk/University Lecture - If youre a thinking human being with a desire for knowledge then you should be listening to podcasts, watching ted talks and viewing the thousands of lectures professors and researchers have on the internet. This is a habit I integrated for both its short term and long term benefits. In the short term I find it interesting to learn about new topics. A lot of times its on a subject Im interested in at the time, other times its something completely new. Either way Im exposing myself to the best and brightest minds of today and expanding my understanding of the world. If you engaged yourself with this material every day, what would the long term effects be? Besides a vast and varied wealth of knowledge you would begin to draw disciplines together. Your understanding and awareness would grow so large that the value and wisdom you could offer other people would be incredible. *For a practical tip, throw a queue of talks youre interested in on your ipod and listen while exercising.

12 Language - Every day I spend thirty minutes learning a new language. This is an ongoing task that I struggled to integrate. You realize almost no immediate benefit and that makes it exceptionally difficult to do every day. The S curve of mastery is very, very long (years) . But alas, the benefits in the long term must be exceptionally rewarding. I can only speculate as I currently only speak one language, but from my time studying in Italy I can tell you I would have got a lot more out of the experience had I spoke the language. Coming from a business perspective being bi/multi-lingual would likely be a huge advantage. For me, I intend to spend a large part of my life travelling. If you expect to live another 50/60 years of life on this earth then imagine the lifetime of opportunities and experiences other languages may open you up to. Dont cut yourself off. For some practical advice getting started I recommend the rosetta stone. Its a visual program that is a great way for getting you started. Listen to talk radio (via internet) and get a language book with exercises to help you practice. Get a women your seeing to join in. It accelerates the process so much if you have someone to practice speaking with. We are the first generation with ready access to the internet. The resources to help you pick up a language are out there and they are free use them.

13 Plan the next day - This is so huge. Note that there is a small learning curve to this as you figure out a system that works for you. Maybe you like to manage your timetable through your phone, or maybe you just pencil out what you do on a list. Whatever the method it must satisfy two requirements: 1) The document must be easily accessible to you throughout the day, and 2) it must specify approximate times when you will complete each task. Its pretty simple. When you have some time to think with a clear mind you plan out what you want your next day to look like you do it. The time you know you have to yourself (mornings usually) you can set a more rigid structure than the times where there are many variables as to what you may be doing. The plan is your servant, not your master. Never get upset if things dont go the way you thought its just a guideline to keep you on track. Lost time, interferences, failing to execute out of laziness or apathy, unforeseen events, all of this will happen. Dont be worried, the element of proactivity you introduce into your life by planning your days out already places you way ahead. Another thing to keep in mind is that your primary goal is not to be efficient. It is to be effective. Dont be so worried about having some intense schedule that will burn you out quickly. Allow a good amount of time for transitions and even more for other forms of time you will use organically. If you have in your head a picture of someone ruthlessly triaging priorities, feverishly executing tasks and running around from one item to the next then you should rethink your understanding. As you go through your day you will apply yourself to each activity wholly and with everything youve got. You will take things slow and execute with passion, care and effort not with haste or carelessness. 14 Sleep - Your either plugged into the matrix or youre not. If your plugged in youre a spectator you watch TV, you kill time on facebook, you days slip by as you wander through in lower consciousness. If your unplugged youre a player You are taking consistent and massive action, you are constantly ingesting new information, you are pushing your boundaries and limitations, you are growing. So naturally if youre living your life fully engaged you need a good nights sleep. The amount of stress you experience by pushing yourself, the information your internalizing, and the focus and stamina you need to keep going can all be facilitated by a good nine hours on the pillow. Take this shit seriously you will notice a difference. If youve ever studied sleep you know that your body goes through approximate 90 minute cycles (from deep sleep to REM sleep), you know the amount of light you are receiving effects your bodies melatonin production, you know that what you eat before bed can affect your sleep, and you also know that sound can disrupt your sleep. You know that sleep plays an integral role in learning and memory. You are also aware that the human body associates certain surroundings or conditions with sleep (think when you walk into a bathroom you feel like you have to pee. The same thing when you are in your bed you get sleepy. Therefore only use your bed for sleep and sex). I sleep in total darkness, in a cool room, with a fan for white noise (drown out traffic and creaks in house

that would otherwise wake me up). I have comfortable mattress and I wake up to an alarm clock that gets brighter instead of making noise (simulates the sun rising) I dont set my alarm for the same time every morning, I set my alarm either 7.5 or 9 hours from when I fall asleep (so I dont wake up in the depth of a sleep cycle you may have to tinker with the times but you will learn your body). Try some of this and you will be amazed with the effects on your energy levels, retention of information, and how you enter your days in the morning.

15 Professional Development - Youre either working in the industry you want to be in or youre not. Either way you should spend some of your day developing the skills necessary to succeed in the industry you want to be in. If youre stuck in a job you dont like then this daily ritual is the key to breaking through. You will develop yourself in the area of your interest until you have the credentials, credibility, or opportunity to move permanently. Maybe youre stuck working as a bank teller, but you want to get into internet marketing. You should begin to spend a part of your day learning the skills you are going to need to be an internet marketer. Think of it this way, most people are reactive. Most people land a job through connections or convenience and after they have that job they then learn the skills necessary to succeed. You are not that person. You will do the reverse. You will gain the skills through your own force of will and then land the job. This is the formula to carve a life of your design and live your dreams . If youre already in the industry of your dreams then you should never stagnate. Constantly focus on learning new material, keeping up with trends, observing competitors, or expanding your professional reputation. Focusing on this will allow you to offer more value in whatever you do and will facilitate success.

16 Journal + Research - Keep a journal and update it every day. What is a journal? A journal is a place where you write out your thoughts and then look back at them and ponder. You then write about what you thought of your thoughts and think about that. (meta-meta cognition) Do you see how this can be a valuable tool for personal insight and growth? This isnt a high school dairy. Its a tool you use to track your thoughts, expand on insights, accelerate your growth, and look back on your progress. Shits happening? Write about it. The very act of consciously creating syntax to your thoughts can help you become more rational and can facilitate problem solving in your life. There is a second part to your journal writing ritual that you need to engage in. Research. As you make discoveries and insights you should seek out truth and guidance. We have the internet and it is an amazing tool for feedback. Our parents generation had to live with misinformation their whole lives. Our generation enjoys the

luxury to with incredible ease - access the forefront of human knowledge in the snap of a finger. Use this luxury to fuel your growth.

III Implementation
We first make our habits, and then our habits make us. John Dryden
I am suggesting that you implement all 16 of the rituals listed above into your daily routine. I know this is hard - Ive walked the path and failed many times. I learned that this is very hard to do. It take s discipline, skill, and proactivity, BUT if you can do it the rewards are great. The capacity for you to outperform others is massive. In the next section I explain how I used technology to help track my progress. Now Im not suggesting you do this as intensely or for as long as I did but you can always experiment. We spend an amazing amount of on screen time, and I figured since I was on my laptop every day I would track my progress with a very simple binary system. I started small, 7 things I wanted to do every day. I opened up excel and made a spreadsheet with the dates on the x axis and my habits on the y axis. Fairly self-explanatory, If I completed the task I would color it green, If I failed I would color it red.

Ive kept this up now for the lesser part of a year and it has grown and evolved. I was always extremely honest with myself and I found the objective measure of progress to be very blunt. Your success or failure is right there, staring you in the face. No ego can manipulate the facts, only your interpretation. Part of the reason this helped me was that I could recommit. I would continually recommit to something until I gathered enough firsthand experience that the activity was something I should value. Your ability to stick with something for the long term is a function of intrinsic motivation (process orientation), not extrinsic (outcome orientation). If youre motivated by validation or external forces you will likely fail in the long run.

This is what my spreadsheet looks like now. All 16 habits I discussed are incorporated into my daily life. Keep in mind that I am in school full time, playing on pokerstars every day (for ~20$/hour), preparing for my gmats, dating multiple girls, and live an extremely social life you can fit it all in, even if you work a 40 hour week. If you dont think you can do it then you have limiting beliefs. Theres a lot of fat to be trimmed out of your daily routine, you just need to look. Again, Im not suggesting that you go full nerd like I did and track your progress every single day. But if you did do that you would definitely learn some very interesting things about yourself and how you operate. Im going to share some of my discoveries with you here and hopefully they can help you on your journey.

Falling Apart Four types No matter how hard you try, or how much effort you put in, you will at times fall apart. I would say

theres four ways this happens: Getting sick, apathy, short term mating strategy and consuming commitments. If you dont have a lot of self-discipline then the most common way you will fall apart is apathy. You need to understand that apathy is death. Apathy IS death. It will kill your growth and suck you into laziness. It happens as you slip into lower consciousness. Corollary displays in your behavior emerge: depression, apathy, negative and low self-esteem thought patterns, etc. There are so many things that can throw you off track and sink you into apathy: Loss of progress, negative feedback, feeling blue, vi deo games, addictions, poor diet, lack of sleep, fear, financial/family/social stressors. This is where taking responsibility is key. This knowledge helped me fight myself when my brain would come up with rationalizations and excuses for why I coped out on my duties. The rationalizations were pretty good sometimes (I didnt have enough time, I wasnt physically able, I was sick, it would be counterproductive etc (your brain is very clever)) but the facts were in. I couldnt gloss over the correlation betwee n my daily choices and how they affected my productivity. Eat shitty food, get poor sleep, and you will be less productive. When you fall into the gutters of apathy the only way out is to pull yourself up by your bootstraps. If you have ever taken the time to write out your values then they can be a key extremely helpful in this situation. Read them over, ponder them and commit yourself to them. The quicker you can recommit yourself to your values and get back on track, the better. You will go through this process many, many, many times The second way you completely fall of track is when you get sick. The average adult catches two to four colds a year. Thats two to four weeks of setbacks, suffering, and disruption. Not much you can do about it other than prevention (and as it turns out prevention is pretty effective! You dont ever have to get sick [drink water, avoid binge drinking, get all your vitamins and minerals, sleep, oral hygiene, washing your hands, and regular relaxation. Only anecdotal evidence but I found that when I got sick poor sleeps for many consecutive days was always a factor]) The third type of falling apart is what Tyler would call your short term mating strategy. To be honest with you, I dont think this is that bad. I look back at my excel chart of times where I was in this mode, nothing would be getting done. I would be drinking and smoking and doing drugs. Say a five day bender where I pull two or three times in that period. Retrospectively I wouldnt change a thing though because in those moments I was having SO MUCH FUN. I met so many people and developed so many relationships. When youre in this mode you are just on. Its so amazing to me that your brain has these two levels it can operate on. From my experience, the more resources you have (money, leisure time, lack of responsibility) the more intense the effects of the short term mating strategy mode can be. Think, if you have a job or no more money etc. external forces like that can FORCE you to get your shit together. B ut when youre in the mode youre sure fucking good at rationalizing away your money, time, and responsibilities but holy fuck does it help you pull girls. So I think the key is to take an element of proactively into this. Acknowledge that this is going to happen to you and that its OK. You know youll get your shit together eventually. Just be smart about your life and dont cop out on any major responsibilities. The fourth way I would consistently fall off track with my habits is when I had a consuming commitment

to honor. Maybe this was a family obligation or a travel day, or a big exam I had to prep for. Whatever it is you just do what you need to do and get back on track as soon as you can. When these kinds of things come up though I notice its a lot easier to bounce back as opposed to sinking into some apathetic hurr durr state thats the worst.

Rebounding Two Phenomena In my explorations I noticed two phenomena. The first is that you cant just focus on one area of your life. If you start seriously working on one discipline everything follows. You start fixing yourself in ALL areas of your life. The second phenomenon that I noticed when falling off the path is that you will come back stronger than ever before. I am not sure if this is because you have lessons learned from falling off or because your definition of what being on the path has now been expanded. Either way the process of growth is obvious, you fall and you get back up stronger that before. Keep in mind that falling off the path is an inevitability and will happen (a lot). Its how quickly you notice (awareness and higher consciousness) and recommit (take right action) that will determine your growth rate.

Streaking Looking back over my performance I noticed that my habits would streak. Theres an element of general momentum (Exercising in a day may give you momentum to complete other tasks) and then there is an element of discipline specific momentum (If you meditated yesterday it is more likely that you will today) On the flip side theres negative momentum. If you dont do something today then it will be harder tomorrow and even harder the next day. The result is that disciplines streak. You have runs where youll stick with it every day, but then you will have runs, sometimes for weeks, where it just never seems to fit in your schedule. For this reason extra effort has to be made to revitalize individual habits that are falling apart.

The Anxiety Response The anxiety response is so key to your growth. I left this section last for a reason this is such a POWERFUL concept. Your body comes equipped with the tools for your growth and that anxious feeling you get IS THE TOOL. When you realize you dont know what you need to know there is an uncomfortable anxiety. Your poor ego is exposed and your feel good belief systems are shaken. Do not run from this feeling of anxiety. It is SO human nature to suppress the feelings and rationalize them away. You look at your bank balance and you realize you barely have enough money for next months rent, an uncomfortable anxiety comes over

you. Maybe you got caught lying and an uncomfortable anxiety comes over you. Maybe you see an approach you know you should do and an uncomfortable anxiety comes over you. Your emotions are your feedback system. Do not let your ego get the best of you. Your ego will rationalize your life away, giving you all the reasons to be O.K. with your mediocrity and failure. When you feel that uncomfortable anxiety you need to ruthlessly seek out the cause and address it. Take full responsibility for what has happened to you. Maybe you realized you have been financially irresponsible. The ego response would be to justify your situation, I needed to get that stuff, I had to make those purchases This is unacceptable thinking if you want to grow. Consciously ponder the anxiety and take responsibility for your situation, Wow I was managing my money extremely poorly this last month. I need to figure my shit out, etc etc" By diving into that anxious response, figuring out whats going on and taking FULL responsibility for whatever is happening, you will facilitate your ability to CHANGE and GROW in the future. Do not sabotage your growth and buy into your ego. The key to your growth is your emotional system, and you would do well to get in touch with it (hint- meditation)