Super Approach Power v1

Super Approach Power
CR James
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Welcome to Super Approach Power. The primary mission is to provide you with an easy and effective method for approaching women. The secondary mission is to give you a powerful step by step strategy that you can always use for getting better at approaching women. So it doesnt matter what your current skill level is, you can use SAP as a tool for constant improvement. In fact, it was designed specifically to make sure that the few that experience this information will improve dramatically in a very short amount of time. SAP breaks down the entire process of approaching & meeting a new woman into 3 phases. And the idea is this: If you want to get better at approaching & meeting a new woman, then your success will be based on how well you succeed at the 3 individual phases. And you are about to learn exactly what you need to do to be extremely successful at the 3 phases. Lets now talk about the 3 phases of approaching. The best way to explain each phase is to imagine being in a movie theater. So if you can imagine yourself sitting down in a movie theater, but instead of watching a regular movie, you are watching a video clip of yourself approaching a new woman for the first time. As you watch the movie (while eating buttery popcorn), you are seeing yourself out somewhere (specifically, where you are likely to see an attractive woman that catches your eye) and you have spotted an attractive woman for the first time. Oh yeah, when I say attractive Im referring to your ideal type of woman. A woman that has the: type of lips you like the type of figure the type of style the type of smile the type of eyes and so on
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If you ever spotted a woman that was so attractive (and compelling) that you are literally stopped in your tracks and entranced by her beauty, then thats what Im talking about. The type of girl that makes you say something like Damn! or Wow! She is hot! (either out loud or to yourself). Ok, you get the point. Lets talk about the 3 phases.
[First Phase] The first phase begins the moment you first spot her or when you first make eye contact with her - up until the point where you are seconds away from saying something to her [Second Phase] The second phase begins the moment you first start talking to herwhen you first make verbal contactwhen you first say hello or whatever you say [Third Phase] And the 3rd and final phase begins immediately after her response to your opening comments and ends with the last words. Basically, its the ongoing conversation that takes after the initial greeting.
So is it pretty clear what the 3 phases are? Great! Because now that you understand exactly what the 3 phases are, we can immediately start talking about what it takes to be extremely successful at each of the individual phases. Because its very simple:
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If you want to get better at approaching women, then all you need to do is: Get better at the first phase (which well refer to as the Pre-Approach Phase) PLUS Get better at the second phase (which well refer to as the Approach Phase) PLUS Get better at the third phase (which well refer to as the Post-Approach Phase) [This is the core philosophy of SAP] Because when you do that boys and girls, youre going to get better at the whole process of approaching and meeting women whether you like it or not! Makes sense? Good. Lets talk about the main reason why SAP is structured into these 3 phases. The main reason is based on one simple belief that resulted from a discovery. And that discovery was based on an observation which well get to in a second. Heres the deal Basically, I spend the majority of my time researching and thinking of new breakthrough ways for helping guys in relationships. Particularly, I work hard at finding breakthrough and new ways for getting results with women. And since Ive been asked by hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of single guys to help them approach women I began to ask them: What are you currently doing? You see, most guys assume they are doing everything wrong. Even if a guy isnt approaching women, he still has basic skills that could be working for him. Approaching Women is not a really a skill. Approaching Women is a combination of basic skills.
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Also, while helping guys get more sex in their relationships, I sometimes do a bad job of making my intentions clear and my intention is to make sure the guy has a successful sex life . Because I truly believe that it affects your overall happiness, confidence, and quality of life. Most of my customers believe that my objective is it make sure he has a successful marriage. When you attempt to improve a marriage, you presuppose that she is the right woman for you. However, I believe that some wives are bad wives. And as far as Im concerned, you cant have a good marriage with a bad wife. And part of increasing your sexual value (which is the fuel for having a good sex life) involves having the courage to exit the relationship. Basically, sexual value is an extension of your Strategy For Success (in the specific way in which you are seen as sexually desirable). So that brings us to the guys who have successfully exited the bad marriage and are now faced with trying to figure out how to approach and meet new women. And it brings us back to the single guys who want a strategy that works. Ok, so what was the simple observation that I was referring to earlier? It was that MOST guys who believe they are bad at approaching women (or have somewhat of a fear of approaching woman) arent nearly as bad as they believe. And I dont just say that for the purpose of creating the feeling of hope. The only basic requirements are: - The ability to walk up to her - The ability to talk In most cases, guys are just bad at one of the 3 phases. And because that prevents him from getting the result that he is looking for, it creates the appearance of just being flat out bad at approaching and meeting new woman. For example, a guy can be good at the Pre-Approach Phase, but bad at the PostApproach Phase
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For example, have you ever seen the guy driving in his car making vulgar cat-calls at a woman who is innocently walking down the sidewalk? Some guys will even do the walking up to her hand-delivered version of the out the window cat-call. Regardless of whether this guy ends up getting ignored, slapped, or sprayed with mace, you cant argue with the fact that he is not afraid to say things to a new woman. (while many guys are afraid to say things to a new woman ) In terms of moving through the phases, he is successful at some parts even though overall he is probably getting bad results (i.e. getting ignored, slapped, or sprayed with mace)
And lets say we graded him on each phase.

He would get an A at the Pre-Approach Phase because he is actually confident enough to take action. He would get an F at the Approach Phase - because he didnt successfully start the conversation the right way. And of course he would get an F at the Post Approach Phase - because he clearly didnt have the right impact on her during the ongoing conversation. So his Total Approach Score is: A F F
Some guys are equally ineffective, but their Total Approach Score looks much different. For example, I had a guy tell me that he has no problem with talking to a woman. He has a few female friends and unlike the frustrated Cat-Call Guy, he has had many conversations with women all throughout his life. He told me that women normally find him funny and likeable. But for some reason (when he notices an attractive woman), he does not approach her. So I asked him, why dont you approach women? He said because he is afraid that shell have a boyfriend I said So let me get this straight. You dont approach women because some women statistically are going to have boyfriends? Why? Are you waiting for someone to invent magical glasses that allows you to tell exactly if a woman is in a relationship or not?
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He said No, not at all. I said Well, what do you think is going to happen if you approach a woman and her response confirms the reality that some women statistically will have loving boyfriends or incredible husbands that they are loyal to? And he was honest enough to admit that he believes nothing bad would happened And I would have to agree with him. I personally do not believe that anything bad (or painful) would happen if the woman has a boyfriend or husband On the flip side, I also dont think anything evil, painful or destructive would happen if a guy approached what he believed to be a Down-to-Earth Woman, and her response confirmed the reality that statistically some women are going to be Evil Ass Bitches! It doesnt make a lot of sense to never approach women just because there exists the possibility that she could be an angry bitch. You see thats what most guys are afraid of the irrational emotional wreck! They are not afraid of the kind gentle-hearted woman.
Initially he didnt understand the reality about approaching women. And as a result his Total Approach Score was an: F F A So Right Now, I want you to think about your Total Approach Score.
At the Pre Approach Phase (your ability to remove fear and get yourself in a confident mind state) would you score an A, B, C, D or F? At the Approach Phase (your ability to smoothly say your opening words) would you score an A, B, C, D or F? At the Post Approach Phase (your ability to quickly project desirable signals) would you score an A, B, C, D or F?
Hopefully you see the simplicity. Hopefully you were able to determine your Total Approach Score. (Repeat it to yourself a few times, because it will improve)
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Another thing, you are going to receive Customer Only reports in the very near future.
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In fact, heres what you can do right now.
Go to http://SuperApproachPower.com/tas.html
[Please do not share that page because Im going to use that information to create free customer reports based on those scores. I think this will be a much better solution than guessing.]
Your success at approaching is based on these 3 phases. So now lets get ready to learn exactly what it takes to be effective at each of the 3 phases of approaching and meeting new women. You are about to learn: The 3 keys to being effective at the Pre-Approach Phase. The 3 keys to being effective at the Approach Phase. The 3 keys to being effective at the Post-Approach Phase.
Pre Approach Phase ??? ??? ???
Approach Phase ??? ??? ???
Post Approach ??? ??? ???
So lets now get to the good stuff!
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The Pre-Approach Phase: Mind State

So lets immediately look at the 3 things required to be effective at the Pre Approach Phase.
Pre Approach Phase Mind State Access Preparation Approach Phase ??? ??? ??? Post Approach ??? ??? ???
The 3 Key Factors

Mind State Your ability to project an attitude that reveals that you are comfortable with being you. Access Your ability to put yourself in a situation that creates the opportunity to meet new women. Preparation Your strategy for what you are going to say, what you are going to be looking for and what you are going to do.
Those are the 3 factors. If you want to improve the first part of your Total Approach Score (a.k.a. Your Pre Approach Score), then youll need to understand and improve in those 3 areas. Now were going to put a magnifying glass over each of the 3 keys (of the Pre Approach Phase), so that you know exactly what it takes to be successful at the first phase of approaching which will affect your overall success of approaching women And once you understand what it takes to be great at the Pre Approach Phase, the more energy and momentum youll carry into the next phase (the Approach Phase) Some guys make the false assumption that everything begins the moment you begin talking to her. In terms of taking action, they are correct, but in terms of being effective, they are completely wrong. In reality, your mind state (or your state) has a huge affect on your success. Most guys realize this. So its important to know that your state changes the moment you spot an attractive woman (especially, an attractive woman you are thinking about approaching).
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And what follows this experience determines whether the guy is using a good preapproach strategy or a bad pre-approach strategy at least in terms of the Mind State part of it. So your success is based primarily on your thoughts and how those thoughts affect your current state (i.e. your confidence level, your comfort level, etc). And specifically, its based on what you have a habit of thinking about once you enter into the experience of seeing a woman you would love to meet. Lets pretend for a second Lets pretend that you are a decent and respectful guy with no intention of harming a woman. Its a sunny day, and you are feeling incredible about yourself. Suddenly you spot a very attractive woman and she catches you by surprise even though she hasnt seen you yet. Let me ask you a question. Is your currently level of confidence likely to decrease? if you were to say things to yourself like: She probably has a boyfriend. Im not in the mood for approaching women today. If I approached her it would be awkward. Shes out of my league [or anything that suggest that she is a better person than you] If you answered YES, then you would be right Ok, tougher question Is your currently level of confidence likely to increase? if you were to say things to yourself like: I wonder if she is good enough for me. I feel incredible about myself today. I wonder how quickly shell discover how amazing I am. I wonder if this woman is smart enough to detect how amazing I am She seems like a down to earth girl who enjoys meeting friendly people [or anything that suggest that she is on your level] If you answered YES, then you would be right again!
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Assignment #1: Take out a piece of paper right now and quickly write down 2 phrases you could say to yourself the moment you spot an attractive woman. Hint: You can include things that make you feel good about yourself, things that make you feel good about her, and things that make you feel good about the opportunity.
After you have done that, youll want to practice recalling the items on your list every time you see an attractive woman. (feel free to continue to add and refine the items on the list) The second part to having the right mind state is your charisma level. There simply is no limit to how charismatic you can become. (Read that again if you have to) There are so many examples of pure energetic charisma that appear magical until you understand the simple recipe. One story that comes to mind is a guy who told me about a time when he was 15 years younger. He went into a restaurant and locked eyes with an attractive woman. They ended up getting closer and closer to each other until they immediately began to kiss passionately. Afterwards, they snapped out of it and were both shocked about what just happened. He said this happened on 3 separate occasions (with different women) - with 2 of the times resulting in sex. He wanted me to explain to him how this could have happened because in each case, no words were exchanged until after they kissed. He aggressively wanted me to assist him in regaining this power so that could do this more often. LOL. Needless to say, I saw the obvious issues associated with using that approach as a way of meeting women. Even still, you have to appreciate the core of what took place. While this may seem weird or magical (or potentially whore-ish), its really a matter of understanding that fact that your energy (your state of mind) contains information.
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Information that determines how desirable you are or how undesirable you are. So lets decode exactly what it takes to have Magnetic Charisma. Remember, in order to have Magnetic Charisma, you need the following ingredients: Confidence Specifically, being comfortable with who you are (very important) and seeing yourself as being uniquely amazing. Remember, no one can stop you from being happy & comfortable with being yourself. And if a guy cant get addicted to being happy with himself, how can he expect women to feel that way about him. Compassion Sincerely seeing value in other people. Engaging Taking action to initiate conversations with different types of people (men and women). Comedy Having fun and enjoying yourself. Having fun and enjoying life.
If you have ever tapped into your Magnetic Charisma, one of the things youve noticed is that people are instantly in love with you. And you can tell that they enjoy being in your presence. Interacting with you puts them at ease because you can tell that you have made them instantly happier. If you ever tapped into your Magnetic Charisma (accidentally or on purpose), you were projecting 3 or 4 of these ingredients. If you havent then you can engineer it (create it out of thin air) by doing what it takes to have those 4 ingredients.
[Note: If you need to understand what to do specifically, then be sure to read Magnetic Charisma (one of the bonuses that you will receive)]
Lets now move on to another aspect of having the right mind state. Making Sensible Objectives This is a simple strategy that could turn things around for you fairly quickly. just by making this one little change. Some guys are able to succeed at instantly and effectively getting themselves in a powerful frame of mind once they spot an attractive woman.
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In other words, they dont do dumb things like visualizing the woman rejecting him. They dont do dumb things like saying to themselves she probably has a boyfriend. They dont do dumb things like saying to themselves now is not a good time to approach women. In other words, when then spot the woman, they instantly get in a comfortable with self state of mind and they say things like Life is great! She seems like a down to earth girl who enjoys meeting friendly people. I wonder how quickly shell discover how amazing I am. They do things like that, BUT they make one silly easy to avoid mistake. They create weird, self-minimizing, or bizarre goals. Lets say you spot a woman for the first time. And you have successfully made yourself comfortable. What would happen if you made it your goal (as you approached and talked to her) to sleep with her within 5 hours? Do you think that would affect your effectiveness? Do you think that would affect what you would say to her? What would happen if you made it your goal as you approached and talked to her to sleep with her within 5 minutes? What would happen if you made it your goal as you approached and talked to her to get her phone number within 5 minutes? What would happen if you made it your goal as you approached and talked to her to get her phone number within 5 seconds? What would happen if you made it your goal as you approached and talked to her to get her so horny she would rip your clothes off within 5 seconds? Do you see where Im going with this? Heres how it works, when you are really being effective, then she will see you as someone valuable. And thats it. And that is very easy to do. (very easy)(especially when you learn some really cool tricks that youll get to much later) And psychologically, that observation forces her to evaluate herself so that she is doing what it takes to impress you.
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Whenever a guy has made it his secret mission is to impress her, get her phone number, sleep with her, before he has said one word to her, he will always sacrifice overall effectiveness. He may think hes cool and he could even be effective at times, but he is only operating with a very small fraction of his potential! A woman needs to feel as though you care about her as a person (if you want to be successful with a quality woman). And I dont necessarily say that because its nice, warm & fuzzy and its the right thing to do.
[99.9% of the time] When a guy approaches her, heres what she has already experienced (and what she currently experiences) - The asshole guy who thinks hes cool - The guy who transparently trying too hard to be cool - The scared guy who thinks she will kill him with her wolf claws if he offends her
[Very Very Very Rarely (if not ever)] When a guy approaches her, he will be: - The guy who respects her PLUS he does not show an immediate interest in her
You must send those two signals at the same time. Women need know that this new guy who she is currently talking to hasnt automatically accepted her just because she is attractive to him. Besides, what would that say about him? [Answer: That it doesnt take much to impress him] How desirable is a guy who instantly falls for a woman just because she is attractive? [Answer: Not desirable at all!] So when a guy makes it his goal to get her number (or anything that presupposes instant approval) before he knows anything about her, then he will always end up sending unconscious signals to her about his level of desperateness. And women will immediately and effortlessly sense this!
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So dont get hung up with trying to achieve bizarre goals. And this has nothing to do with whether or not its possible. It has everything to do with what is more effective especially in terms of being confident and pushing yourself to new levels. Lets face it, desperate women sleep with desperate men. Would you rather date an attractive woman who has only been with 2 guys in her whole life or a slightly more attractive woman who has slept with over 200 guys? So do not make it your goal to get her number. Make it your goal to be comfortable with yourself as you talk to her. Make it your goal to enjoy life as you have fun talking to her. Make it your goal to decide whether this new woman is good enough to meet your standards. Make it your goal to just be comfortable with making friendly warm eye contact. Make it your goal to just be comfortable with however things turn out. When you take this approach, you are going to notice that everything becomes frightenly simple! I know for a fact (without a shadow of a doubt) that any man that focuses on understanding and applying everything mentioned so far will dramatically improve. So thats why Im giggling right now because we havent even got to the good stuff! Lets continue. Remember: Women respond (and can become addicted) to guys who have the right mind state and outlook. No one can stop you from displaying a comfortable with self attitude. No one can stop you from making it your goal to just say Hello and a few words while enjoying the process. No one can stop you from realizing how fun it is to just walk up to an attractive woman with just the purpose of being comfortable.
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No one can stop you from realizing how fun it is to just walk up to an attractive woman with the look in your eyes that say Its a shame that the last 20 guys that approached you were either perverts, rude, or extremely afraid of you. Thats what the No one can stop you from Mind State is all about. Your outlook is something that you structure. Your happiness is something that you structure. You can to change the rules for what will make you happy. For example, if you make the decision that you will be happy if this new woman decides to like you, then you have given power to a woman you know nothing about it. (This is what average guys do.) And you should see how silly that really is. But as you know, many guys foolishly set up this structure Its all about your Mind State: Saying the right things to yourself when you spot an attractive woman Being comfortable with being you Not making bizarre goals Making it your goal to just enjoy the process Making it your goal to be comfortable with however things turn out Not letting the woman control your definition of happiness Having Magnetic Charisma Being the guy who respects her PLUS not showing an immediate interest
Lets now discuss another part of the Pre-Approach Phase.
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The Pre-Approach Phase: Access

So lets review the 3 things required to be effective at the Pre Approach Phase.
The 3 Key Factors

So lets discuss two aspects of Access that you will need to understand. Much like Your Total Approach Score, you have a Total Pre-Approach Score - where the grades correspond to your current skill at each of the 3 key factors of the Pre-Approach Phase. For example, your Mind State grade could be a C. Your Access grade could be an A. Your Preparation grade could be an F. This would make your Total Pre-Approach Score a C - A F Does it make sense? So whats your current Pre-Approach score? (just make a guess) Lets now talk about the two aspects of Access. Once you understand what they are, youll know what it takes to get an A for the Access component. As you can see from the chart above, there will be a total of 9 factors (3 for each phase). In my opinion, getting an A for Access is the easiest out of the 9.
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And its the quickest thing to fix (overall). However, there are some guys (who are very intelligent) who struggle with this particular factor. Lets pretend you are still at the movie theater except this time, its not you on the movie screen, its a Guy Who Struggles At The Access Component of The Pre Approach Phase Youre eating your popcorn and you hear this guy make comments like: Its hard to find intelligent women. Its hard to find a woman that is compatible with ME. All the good women are taken. If you watch this guy long enough, youll quickly see how he is sabotaging himself. As you can see, he is forcing his own brain to think/operate from a Scarcity Perspective. Quiz Time: So what do you think happens when he approaches a woman (who he thinks or wants to be his type of woman)? He ends up subtly projecting a needy mind state. He ends up over-valuing her by default which makes him operate with the energy of a stalker. (Because stalking is the classic example of a person who has decided to extremely overvalue another person. And every guy remembers his 3 rd grade teacher writing this on the chalkboard: When you communicate (either directly or indirectly) the message that you overvalue a woman, it is impossible for her to perceive you as valuable. Specifically, the more you overvalue her (more than her own self-evaluation), the more value you lose (in her eyes). If you read Super Lust Buttons, then you already realize the power of talking to a new woman while secretly understanding than MOST women actually believe that a good man is hard to find (By the way, dont start giggling until you realize the power of sneaking in topics that are centered around this pre-existing belief that she has.)
Power Tip: The guys (and the women, actually) that are great at making their dates and lovers melt in the palm of their hands are the ones that focus on their personal value (and what they have to offer) along with the other persons scarcity mind state and/or ability to recognize value.
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So what do you think happens when a guy talks to a woman for the first time and somewhere during the conversation he says (as he is wrapped in the moment)(with the belief that hes being romantic) something to the affect of: Wow! Its not too often I meet a woman who is smart, good-looking, abc, abc, abc, AND xyz!!!!? So the first aspect of Access is understanding that there are tons and tons and tons of women who fit your type when you examine the things you really care about. Personally, I used to be extremely cursed with the belief that there were potentially 3 10 (Im just throwing out a number) women scattered around the country that fit my idea woman. There are two types of guys who suffer from Scarcity Thinking. And whether they realize how exactly it destroys their sexual value, Im still going to reveal who those 2 types of guys are. The Self Important Guy Hes not evil and he doesnt harm small animals. In fact, it would be wise to take a few minutes of your time to admire his ability to see his own value (because some guys havent developed this ability yet). However, this guy runs into a problem. While successfully seeing himself as uniquely amazing, something leads him to believe that there are very few women out there that would make him happy, basically because theres no one exotic enough or strange enough to get him. Some versions of this Guy actually want a woman who is like him in so many ways that statistically she would have to be non-existent. Even though this satisfies his desire to feel important, it automatically creates a second problem. It makes him see more in a new woman that is really there. In essence, he is the male equivalent of the woman who is in search for her Knight In Shining Armor. This puts him on a quest to achieve the unachievable (which by itself is healthy and normal). From a self-programming perspective, the more he talks about this rare chic thats out there somewhere for him, the more he gets the feeling of importance/value and the self-perception of complexity. In essence hes very simple. We are all very simple (in many ways). The best way to understand this guy is to talk to a group of teenage girls about their favorite movie star that they will marry some day. In reality, if you talk to him long enough he would break down and confess that he could see himself being very happy with a woman who was:
Attractive Kindhearted Loyal Who loved him for who he was (even if she had her own set of interests and hobbies)
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And do you realize just how many single & available women fit this profile? The real list would be 2 to 5 simple traits that fit the profile of millions and millions and millions of single women Lets talk about the second type of guy who suffers from Scarcity Thinking. The Refuse To Change Flaws Guy Hes also not evil. In fact, its kind of cool that he realizes his own flaws where many guys refuse to see their own flaws. However (and theres always a however with these guys), he somehow (for reasons that are unknown) interprets these flaws as personal characteristics . In other words, he still has many childhood behavior patterns that he should have outgrown years ago. For example, hell say something like I need a woman who can accept a guy like me who is impatient. Which isnt synonymous with I need to do what it takes to become more patient. But whats worse is hell list all of these things he should be trying to improve (as if they are genetic characteristics) and then hell actually expect to find a quality woman to put up with his bullshit. Youll hear him say things like I need to find a quality woman that will accept me for who I am (in which case, they are things that repel quality woman). You should be able to see how this guy is sabotaging himself. Notice how he subtly structures the mythical woman under the frame of I just want a woman to accept me for who am I (which of course sounds warm and fuzzy). In reality, it doesnt make any sense. Thats like hearing someone say: I need to find a self-respecting woman who accepts a guy like me who disrespects people. OR I need to find a woman who doesnt put up with bullshit to put up with my bullshit. So whats not bullshit? Things that makes sense. Things that are real. The truth. And the truth is this guy will quickly increase his grade in the Access component of the Pre-Approach phase if he doesnt do things that force a scarcity mind state. Men actually are simple creatures. And our real desires are simple. Once youre at a point where you understand that there are plenty of fish in the sea, you only have one (just one) other obstacle that can stop you from getting an A at the Access Level.
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And that is doing what it takes to put yourself in a situation where you have the opportunity to approach a new woman.
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Where can you find access to women?

1. Gym 2. Bookstore 3. Club 4. Bar 5. Festival 6. Party 7. Gas station 8. Trade Show 9. Grocery store 10. Parking Lot 11. Jogging outside 12. Retail store 13. Park 14. Convenient store 15. Car shop (in the waiting area) 16. Any place that has a waiting area 17. Mall 18. Street 19. Work 20. A friend's job 21. Government establishments 22. Parks 23. An Art Show 24. At night at a Restaurant 25. At a Restaurant during lunch time 26. At her job (a place frequently visit) 27. Blindly through a friend 28. Blindly through a coworker 29. Blindly through a family member 30. Blindly though someone you see on a regular basis 31. Grocery store 32. Department store 33. Sidewalk 34. Coffee Shop 35. Any type of Group Setting 36. Convention 37. ANYWHERE you see women!
Once you are able to realize that women are everywhere, its only a matter of taking about 11 seconds (right now) and visualizing yourself being in an environment that provides the opportunity to access new women. Lets move on to the next component.
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The Pre-Approach Phase: Preparation

So lets immediately look at the 3 things required to be effective at the Pre Approach Phase.
The 3 Key Factors

So lets discuss the preparation component, which is your game plan. Once you are projecting the right mind state at the flip of a switch, and you understand how to access the many single women that are out there, the only thing left is being prepared (preparation). In essence, you are acting as your own coach. Pick any sport that has a coach, and what youll find (every single time) is that he is responsible for: 1. Motivating his players getting them in game mode (Mind State) 2. Making sure they show up for the game (Access) 3. Making sure they have a good game plan (Preparation) All of these things are a must and it takes place before the game begins! At this time you will utilize a very simple and powerful strategy that is like no other. It only involves 3 things.
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You will construct a basic strategy that involves:

Step 1 Your simple strategy for initiating contact (starting the conversation) Step 2 Your simple strategy for transitioning to an ongoing conversation Step 3 Your simple strategy for sending the right signals once the conversation has started
Thats it. When you look at it from this perspective, it should appear very simple. Frightenly simple! It would seem that the only thing left is actually knowing how to do all three steps. Well that is exactly what you are about to learn. And because the specific game plan must involve what you are about to learn (in terms of being effective at the Approach Phase and the Post Approach Phase) you will understand exactly what your game plan is once the upcoming information has been covered. In other words, even though Preparation is part of the Pre Approach Phase, it involves understanding aspects of the Approach Phase and Post Approach Phase. So this is the shortest section. Lets now move on to the next phase: The Approach Phase.
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The Approach Phase: Attention

So lets immediately look at the 3 things required to be effective at the Approach Phase.
Pre Approach Phase Mind State Access Preparation Approach Phase Attention Create Filter Transition Post Approach ??? ??? ???
The 3 Key Factors

Attention Your ability to get her attention (the right way). Create Filter Your strategy for filtering out the type of women you dont want once you start talking to her. Transition Your strategy for turning a hello to an ongoing conversation.
So now we will talk about Attention, which in some cases can be a very overrated process. Ironically, it gets more attention than any aspect of being effective with women. There have been entire books and programs created for the purpose of showing you how to get the womans attention. If you ever seen a book on Pick Up Lines, you know that the author is attempting to provide you with a enticing tool for allowing you to meet the women of your dreams. Its not an effective tool. What you will learn about getting a womans attention is top notch. Its beyond effective. Lets first discuss the importance of the Approach Phase. The Pre Approach Phase gives you the MAP (Mind State, Access, Preparation). In order to go get to your fun adventure, you need a MAP. In addition to that, you also have to ACT (Attention, Create Filter, Transition) because a map is completely useless unless you ACT (specifically, getting in your car and driving).
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Can you imagine going to visit a friend you havent seen in awhile? From what you remember, he was very knowledgeable and full of energy. He spoke with enthusiasm. Being excited about reuniting, you hop in your car and drive to his new home. You get lost a few times along the way, but you eventually arrive there. As you are pulling up to his driveway, you have a puzzled look on your face. You are surprised that he lives in a home that is very deep in the woods without any neighbors! Well, actually there are neighbors but they are miles and miles away. You then begin to knock on his door and he takes a while to answer. You keep knocking and eventually he answers greeting you with the warmest smile you have ever seen. Hes happy to see you. He invites you in and directs you to sit on the comfortable sofa with him. The first thing you do is tell him about how you got lost. And do you know what he does? He gets up and sprints towards a door. He quickly opens the door and sneaks into the room. Two minutes later, he exits the room holding a MAP. He then quickly explains exactly where you should have turned. You reply MapQuest sucks!. Your friend nods in agreement. Then he enthusiastically screams: Pick a city! You say Umm. Springfield! He then runs into the same room, and quickly exits carrying another map. He quickly pulls out a red marker and traces the path from his home all the way to Springfield. He then aggressively demands that you pick another city. You name another city. Within 90 seconds, he successfully replicates the whole process. Doing this 5 more times, you find yourself more confused than bored, but you still decide to go through the process because it seems to be making him extremely happy. He then screams Pick any country on Earth!!! Now he appears quite insane and hes definitely not the same guy you grew up with. Noticing a shot gun on the other sofa, you decide it would be very wise to play along. You shout out Singapore! He goes through the same process, except this time hes giving you directions to the airport. And this time, he is providing amazing details about the 5 closest hotels near the airport in Singapore - everything you would need to know. Now, you are somewhat impressed. The depths of his knowledge about a randomly selected country actually appears magical. Observing your amazement, he says Follow me! He then leads you into the room where he has been retrieving the maps. And what you see next catches you completely off guard. Its a gigantic room with actual maps as wallpaper. There are bookshelves filled with just Map Books. This room is literally a museum of maps. There are at least 100 globes finely displayed in his special room! Youre speechless. One thing that hasnt changed is his enthusiasm. He calls his parents 5 times a day. They love him and his bizarre passion. Last week they sent out emails to all his friends with the subject line that read: WARNING: Never ask John the forbidden question!!!!!!. Everyone received this email except you. You are now looking around at this Map Infested Room. And even though the maps are displayed with museum-like quality, your friend seems quite insane. And because of his irrational euphoric persona, you are now ready to cut the visit short. Plus he has a huge shotgun in the living room just lying on the sofa. But you never received the email from his parents and your curiosity gets the best of you. So you ask him: Why do you have so many fucking maps when you dont ever go anywhere!? (That was the forbidden question!) But you dont stop there.
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Why do you have so many damn maps when it doesnt seem as though you will ever go anywhere? Whats the purpose of being so enthusiastic about these stupid ass maps! [Hes no longer smiling by the way.] How much money have you spent on these maps? You are probably going to go your entire life without ever going on any fun adventures! You are nothing but a crazy Map Collector! I gotta get the hell out of here. Bye!
Well end the story right here - with him walking towards his shotgun. There are multiple endings, but none of them are in your favor. Besides, at this point Im disappointed in your emotional cruelty. Give the poor guy a break. He collects maps, big deal! Being rude gets you nowhere in life my friend. With that said, I do agree with your analysis because it does appear very silly to take the time to acquire a bunch of maps when theres no plan to use them for fun adventures. Even though you used MapQuest (which sucks in your opinion) at least you used it to go on a potentially fun adventure to see your old friend. Lets face it, somewhere out there on this planet is a guy who has so many seduction books, sex books and dating books that he could use the pages as wallpaper to fill an entire room! Lets move on. Lets now discuss a brilliant way to start conversations. Its a system that is designed to improve your skill for starting the conversation. The more you understand it and practice it, the better you will get. The good news is it can be mastered in one day; in fact in a matter of minutes. Lets look at Entry Points.
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Entry Points There are 4 easy ways to start any conversation:

[Conversation Starters] 1. 2. 3. 4. State your opinion State a fact Ask for her opinion Ask her about a fact
And with that there are 6 basic topics

[Basic Topics] A. B. C. D. E. F. You Her Someone Else Something The Situation The Environment
So with these 4 Conversation Starters and these 6 Basic Topics, you can easily form: 24 Ways To Get Her Attention: In other words, you can create 24 Entry Points . 1. State your opinion about You
2. 3. 4. 5. 6. State your opinion about Her State your opinion about Someone Else State your opinion about Something State your opinion about The Situation State your opinion about The Environment State a fact about about You State a fact about about Her State a fact about about Someone Else State a fact about about Something State a fact about about The Situation State a fact about about The Environment Ask for her opinion about You Ask for her opinion about Her Ask for her opinion about Someone Else Ask for her opinion about Something Ask for her opinion about The Situation Ask for her opinion about The Environment Ask her about a fact about You Ask her about a fact about Her Ask her about a fact about Someone Else Ask her about a fact about Something Ask her about a fact about The Situation
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24. Ask her about a fact about The Environment Note: You can also use common Entry Points, like Hello and How are you doing? ] Let's explore an example.
The 1A entry point [ State your opinion about You ]
For example, you see her in a club

You: Did you know that I'm a professional dancing machine. And since this club has opened, no woman has ever been about to hang with me on the dance floor. Her: Oh really (smiling)
As you can see, you are stating your opinion about you (i.e. You believe that you are a great dancer) It's important to note that for the 1A entry point, it's best to use as a humorous opening or to set up a playful challenge. Heres another example using a 1B entry point [ State your opinion about Her ].
You: I don't believe you have the dancing skills to keep up with me. Her: Oh really (smiling)
The 1B entry point is also great for playful or humorous openings. As you can see the message is just about the same as the 1A example, but there is a subtle difference. In this example, the 1B example is designed to get her to impress you. But it only works for women who have a playful side. Personally, I love a woman who has a Silly side. And if you do too, then youll know immediately if she has one with a 1B entry point that follows this structure. Women who are serious all the time, would not get it. Their Overly Serious Brains is not equipped to process humor. This is great because you can instantly filter out these women with Playful Entry Points. Again, its a matter of preference. A woman with a playful side is likely to smile and play along.
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Lets look at another example. The 1C entry point [ state your opinion about Something ] Lets pretend you are in a bookstore.
You: If you like that book (referring to the one she is scanning through), then you would really like this one (pointing to one of the shelf) Her: Oh really? You: Yeah the author does a great job of blah blah blah
Do you see how simple that is? Its frightenly simple! As you can see, you are stating your opinion about an object (the book). Also, you are saying something that is fitting with the environment and what is going on with her. Ideally, you want to do both (if possible): Say something that is fitting with the environment. Say something that is fitting with what is going on with her. An Entry Point is smooth and calm. Lets face it, if you see an attractive woman alone in a store looking at computer monitors, it just makes sense to say:
You: I think you should get this one (pointing to one of the monitors). Its has a dual-blah-blah-blah which means it can blah blah blah plus it can blah blah blah a whole lot better. Her: Thanks. Well is it good for ABC..
[This is an example of a 1C Entry point Stating an opinion about Something] As you see this is a little more effective than saying something like:
Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again? What do you say we go back to my room and do some math: Add a bed, subtract our clothes, divide your legs, and multiply. The only thing your eyes haven't told me is your name. Do you know the essential difference between sex and conversation? (No.) Do you wanna go upstairs and talk.
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At best the women might laugh, but the guys who use them are displaying an immediate interest without really knowing her. (Just like a stalker) And that secretly gives her information about him:
Hes cheesy He has no imagination He says this to all women. He values women based on appearance alone
Among other things
I want you to imagine seeing a woman looking at different Laptops in a store. Shes dressed professionally. Shes writing down different specs. And then you see some guy walk up to her:
The guy: Whats up Sweetie! Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?
Again, an Entry Point is smooth. Its real. It makes her feel like a person. Again, it should do two things (if possible): Fit in with the environment. Fit in with what is going on with her. Some guys have the Fear of Bothering a woman. It is impossible to bother someone you are rescuing. Imagine seeing a woman drowning in a lake. A guy pulls up in a boat and says grab my hand. Ill pull you in. What do you think she is going to do? Is she going to feel bothered? Is she going to say Leave me alone creep. I dont even know your name? Every time you approach a woman you are potentially rescuing her from a Dirt Bag Loser Guy. The key to making liquid smooth opening comments is about - Making observations (what is going on with her)
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- Quickly selecting one of the 24 entry points. Thats it. Practice making observations very quickly. This is a skill you should master. This is something you can do before actually approaching a woman. When you are out at various places that has women, mentally select one in your mind:
Notice what she is doing Notice what she is about to do Notice what she could be thinking about Notice what she is wearing Notice her emotional state Notice her mood Notice anything unique that she is wearing Notice anything unique that she is doing Notice anything about the people she is with Notice her car (if possible) Notice her body language When she is in her car driving home, how fast is she making her turns? (that was a joke)
Do you remember when we discussed the Total Approach Score and the Total PreApproach Phase Score? You also have a Total Approach Phase Score based on the 3 components of the Approach Phase:
Attention Creating the Filter (which we will discuss later) Transitioning (which we will discuss later)
In order to Get an A at the Attention Component , all you need to do is: make quick observations (This gets better with practice) select an entry point (This gets better with practice) and taking action! (Dont be a Map Collector!) Its that simple. Because if you can do that, it doesnt matter if she slaps you after you make your friendly comment, you will still get an A because you took action. It doesnt matter if she pokes you in your eyes (Three Stooges Style) you after you make your friendly comment, youll still get an A because you got her Attention on a verbal level.
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You simply can not control the statistical reality that some women are going to be violent as hell when you approach them. Lets now look at the next factor.
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The Approach Phase: Create Filter

So review the 3 things required to be effective at the Approach Phase.
The 3 Key Factors

Attention Your ability to get her attention (the right way). Create Filter Your strategy for filtering out the type of women you dont want once you start talking to her. Transition Your secret slick strategy for turning a hello to an ongoing conversation.
Out of the 3 factors, this is the one that requires very little energy to master. In fact, all you would need to do is decide beforehand what type of responses are unacceptable and which ones are not, and you will get an A for this factor. Its an easy A my friend. Heres what I mean. If you approach a woman and she gives you a rude response, then its best to decide beforehand whether you consider that acceptable or unacceptable. If you consider it acceptable, then its part of your overall game plan. And even before you say a word, youre fine with the fact that she may react in this way. Which means you already have a strategy for neutralizing (or addressing) a possible rude remark. If you consider it unacceptable, then the moment you get that type of response, you are instantly prepared to offer your greatness to another woman. Its really a matter of strategically selecting your type. Ive used persistence tactics (if you want to call it that) several times with mildly rude responses and successfully ended up helping the woman see things a little differently. These women ended up being nice and respectful. However, I would tend to think that a dramatic excessively rude response would say A LOT about that woman (not you).
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Many guys (for whatever reason) seem to think that the intensity of the rudeness reflects just how much she doesnt want you. And while that is possible, its not always the case. As you know, some women are drama queens. So any opportunity that gives them a reason to perform is golden. Some women could be experiencing a bad day and they dont know how (or havent learned how) to cope when things arent going their way. Some women (and people, actually) make snap decisions/assumptions based on very little information. All you have to understand is that the reaction is emotionally based it doesnt mean that she is using a strategy that will help meet quality men. You have to remember that their of tons of dating books & guides designed to help women. Always put things in perspective. If someone approaches a woman and he gets an excessively rude response, that is a reflection of her (and he should realize that). And as a result, she has very little Attraction Value because of that. And even if she has the belief in her mind that she rejected him, its still a win for him. Remember, it is always a win-win situation. If she is able to see the valuable qualities about you, then you win. If she is not able to see the valuable qualities about you, then you win. And the real point (the more meaningful point) is you want to decide what response is considered acceptable and unacceptable beforehand. Lets move on to the next factor in the Approach Phase.
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The Approach Phase: Transition

So review the 3 things required to be effective at the Approach Phase
The 3 Key Factors

Transitioning is about going from the initial contact (Entry Point) to a more extended conversation for the purpose of getting to know her enough to decide if you want to see her again (filtering) and doing things to quickly increase your desirability. If you cant successfully keep the conversation going, youre not likely to have the needed time to properly shape your perception. Saying hello or how are you doing to an unfamiliar woman isnt that difficult for most men, but going from the hello (or whatever Entry Point you use) to an ongoing conversation requires more skill. When we discuss the factor of transition we will not discuss any strategies for making yourself appear desirable during the ongoing conversation. All of the increasing desirability stuff well be discussed in the Post Approach section. In order to transition smoothly, you need to really understand her likely responses based on your Attention Skills (or your ability to smoothly start a conversation).
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Lets look at a simple example just to make sure you understand likely responses. You: How are you? Likely Responses: Her: How are you? Her: Im fine, how are you Her: Hello Her: Im doing ok Un-likely Responses: Her: The red car drives very fast Her: The baby tiger in chewing on his own tail Her: The Map Collector threw away a handful of expired condoms Pretty simple? If you structure your entry point (opening line) in a way that predictably makes her ask How are you? then its easy to prepare (ahead of time) a response to that. But lets take it a step further. One thing that is pretty interesting is that certain topics allow for ongoing conversations. In other words, it takes more explaining and more talking to cover the topic. And certain questions or statements naturally lead into those topics. There are basically 3 types of responses. (to your question or statement) Type 1: One Sentence Response Type 2: Possible Ongoing Response Type 3: Ongoing Response A successful transition is a response that you make (following her response to your Entry Point) that leads to a Type 3 Response (or at a minimum a Type 2 Response). In some cases you will need to link 2 4 of your responses to get to the Type 3 or Type 2 Response. Note: The slick part about this is that you can practice with people you currently talk to on a regular basis. Lets look at some examples of these types. Examples of questions/statements that create a Type 1 Response What is your name?
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What time is it? (Any question that doesnt allow for much follow up talk) (Any question that requests 1 bit of information) Unless the person is a chatter box, theyll normally just respond to that question. Examples of questions/statements that create a Type 2 Response So do you come here often? Did you like living there? As you can see, the person could just respond with a short answer or they could provide details. If she is a skilled conversationalist and/or she has an immediately interested in you, youre likely to get a more extended response. Examples of questions/statements that create a Type 3 Response Oh thats pretty cool. I heard Springfield is a pretty happening city. Oh youve been there? What was it like? (Any question or statement that silently says Tell me all about it) So if your question or statement says Tell me all about it then its a good idea to have topics that predictably contain stories and memories. Does all of this make sense so far? Ok, so what are some stories and memories that most women (that fit your type) would have? (Create a general list)(Create a specific list for your type) Most Women high school/college memories first boyfriend first kiss growing up as a small child growing up as teenager being crazy about boys her first crush
Specific Type (for example lets say you are a CEO of a billion dollar company, and she is too) - acquiring your first company - firing your first vice president - going public
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Even if you are targeting a type of woman that you havent directly experienced what she has experienced, you can easily & quickly make assumptions just as I did above (being that Im not a CEO of a billion dollar company). Power Tip: Have her recall memories that are predictably exciting, because if a person is telling you a series of exciting stories, they are unconsciously (in a way that have no control over) forced to experience that excitement. In order words, Sue is actually experiencing real sadness when she tells you about the tragic experience of watching her twin sister get violently shot in the head by a guy by the angry man. She wont be laughing as she tells you the story. (At least I hope not) So it makes sense to avoid emotionally painful stories & topics. If you unknowingly stumble onto one, smoothly change the subject. Unless, you are extremely skilled and your strategy involves purposely eliciting these types of responses, its normally best to avoid them. Speaking of school memories, I personally believe that many teaching strategies are ineffective and outdated. However, if you forced me to name a part of the teaching process that is highly effective, it would be the process of getting the students involved. Im not sure if its possible to effectively learn without doing exercises. You will notice an exercise section for this course. You should be able to notice by now, that this system is structured in a way where the guys who do the simple exercises are the ones who will Get Super Results! So with that said, lets go through a trial run (meaning we will pretend that we are seeing an attractive woman and we are prepared to approach her USING everything we know so far) But first lets add one more thing before we get to the trial run. Getting a sensible reaction The problem that many guys have is their introductory words are trying to accomplish too much... Let me ask you a few questions: What arrangement of words (as an opening line) could you say to a new woman that would have such an impact on her that she says to herself: Wow he's the greatest guy I ever met in my life! or Wow I want to have his baby right now! or Wow! He's so amazing I hope he asks me to marry him! Those words probably dont exist.
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And if they do, you have to question the type of woman that is capable of feeling that way in a very short amount of time. So its not likely to happen, right? Yet soooooo many guys try to make a huge overwhelming impact as soon as they say their first words to her. The only thing they end up doing is displaying the huge antiseductive signal that they are trying to impress a woman they know nothing about. So instead of trying to achieve the impossible & foolish by having a huge overwhelming impact, focus on achieving the sensible. So the question you need to ask yourself is: Is it possible to say hello (or whatever your Entry Point is) in a way that makes her say to herself: This seems like a respectable guy or He seems pretty interesting or He seems cool or I've been approached by 3 rude assholes today, finally a normal guy! Why is holding a baby tiger in his arms? ( joking ) Do you think those "affects" are possible? (excluding the last one, of course) Your opening line (Entry Point) serves 1 main purpose: It allows you to have a reasonable impact, while allowing you to evaluate her response (remember, your filter). So by reasonable, we are not talking about saying anything that makes it seem like you are trying to impress her. You will not try to impress her. You will say things to let her know that you are a reasonable guy. Big difference. Heres what I call the basic Thought Flow . Its based on a few things that were covered. Basically you start off talking to her as if she was a regular nice person. The same way you would talk to any stranger male or female.
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In fact heres the flow of messages which communicate the thought, its not what you would actually say.
On Your End Youre a cool person and Im cool person. (this might last for about 1 3 minutes) Wait a minute, you are starting to impress me. Keep talking. (1 3 minutes) You are still impressing me. Im a guy with standards and you are part of an exclusive club because I dont get impressed easily (1 3 minutes) On Her End: Hes a cool person and Im cool person. Wait a minute, I think hes impressed by what I just said. This feels good to me. Hes not a loser. Hes a quality guy. Im still impressing him. Hes a guy that understands me. This feels good to me.
In case you are not able to see it, this structure works because its not hard to identify something that she is proud of or something that she feels good about. Everyone feels good when another person enthusiastically acknowledges something they are personally proud of. But the real power is this. The process of trying to impress someone forces our brain to unconsciously assign them with VALUE (or more VALUE). Read that again. (I changed the font to Courier, my friend. That means its important) So by making her run down the Neural Path (inside the Forest of Attractive Guys) shell suddenly begin to see you as desirable even though it wasnt part of her plan! Does that make sense? Ok, Ill try again: So by making her run down the Neural Path (inside the Forest of Attractive Guys) shell suddenly begin to see you as desirable even though it wasnt part of her plan! Hmmmmmmm Its very powerful. In fact, its beyond logical explanation.
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If you haven't read or seen the video clips of the Stanford Prison Experiment, you need to do so very soon. You can go to: http://www.prisonexp.org and/or http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanford_prison_experiment You can also search on YouTube [type in "Stanford Prison Experiment"] and actually watch a documentary on it. You dont have to do it right now, because there is a point to understanding what actually happens from a psychological point of view. Basically, the findings were shocking and it blew everyone away. If you read the wikipedia page, it says (according to "Tom Peters and Robert H. Waterman Jr) "the [psychological] experiments were frightening in their implications about the danger which lurks in the darker side of human nature." If you are able to see the connection between the experiment and how a woman can find themselves really being strangely attracted a guy she just met (even though things dont always make sense to her), then you should be smiling right now. What do you think happens when you strategically direct the conversation down a path that forces her impress you? [Answer: She begins to try to impress you] So what does that mean? Well what if someone told you to pick up a hot slice of pizza and move it towards your mouth as if you are about to bite it, because they wanted to see how you moved your arm when you lift objects. You are thinking Ok No big deal. But because you have a Neural Path in you brain that is labeled Eating Pizza, you suddenly find yourself wanting to eat pizza simply because your brain recognizes the incomplete pattern. It tells you: What the hell are you doing? You just put that pizza near your mouth, but you are not eating it. And suddenly your brain makes you have the urge to eat the pizza. You brain does not say: Oh I get it. This is all about seeing how you moved your arm when you lift objects. The unconscious mind recognizes patterns. The unconscious mind controls your urges.
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That is why conversationally doing things that get her to impress you is imaginably powerful. Lets link it together, because it gets better my friend. In other words, every woman is proud of something about her. We (as humans) are programmed to want to feel good. For now, we are not going to discuss any of the slick stuff. I only brought up the getting her to impress you stuff because its easy as pie to do especially when your Entry Point (opening line) basically communicates that you are a cool down to earth guy. In other words you do not have to do a bunch of weird stuff just to talk to a woman. In fact, you shouldnt. Do not do anything that is going to communicate to yourself that talking to her is a big deal. Youll hear some guys say stuff like before I approach a woman, I do 200 jumping jacks. I then do a series of air punches. I get fired up! I get pumped dude! Hell yeah!!! Bring it on baby!! Whoooooooaaaaaaa! [air punches to invisible punching bag] First of all: Calm down. Secondly: Its not that big of a deal. Just talk to her like she is person. Just talk to her like she is on your level. Assume that she is an emotional being with flaws. Assume that she has good days and she has bad days. Assume that she enjoys meeting new people (if they are cool and down to earth). So as a basic structure, you can easily demonstrate that you are a cool and relaxed guy and then wait to see if she is also Down To Earth. If she is (and many women are), then you do the stuff that you will learn to get her to impress you (and see you as valuable). And in no time, you will see for yourself that everything you are learning is easy to do and highly effective. You will get results (whether you expect it to happen or not)!
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In other words, a woman doesnt say It was my plan to talk to him for a few minutes and first see him as a cool guy, then afterwards it was my plan to gradually find him more desirable. The structure is very predictable. Lets now go through a trial run. (Its my job to make sure you really see it.) (And by the way, we havent even got to the good stuff! Even though right now, Im convinced that everything you know so far puts you miles a head of 99.9% of guys, we are still going to insanely cover more overlooked micro-details. Everything well be puzzled together.) Youll have the complete MAP! Here is the Trial Run Lets pretend you are in the bookstore (continuing from the previous example a few pages back).
You: If you like that book, then you would really like this one (pointing to one of the shelf) (Using a 1C entry point) Her: Oh really? You: Yeah the author does a great job of covering the main points. Hes a respectful guy and he makes sure that everything makes sense. Her: Ill have to check it out (utilizing predictable responses) You: Do you read a lot of these types of book?
[Option 1 No] Her: No. Not really You: Oh you dont read too often? (allowing you to transition to a joking/playful level) Her: (laughing) Well I normally read [another type of book] You: I kind of figured you read those types of book. Her: Really? / How could you tell? / Are you saying that Im predictable?
--- OR --[Option 2 Yes] Her: Yes, actually I do You: I kind of figured you read those types of book. Her: Really? / How could you tell? / Are you saying that Im predictable?
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Well stop it there. Hopefully, you noticed how this strategy allows you to easily transition the conversation past the initial greeting (Entry Point). And Im sure you realize how this game plan allows you to drop in other messages and move the conversation in whatever direction you want. (You could end up coming off as a respectful guy, because you demonstrate that you recognize respect in the author + you demonstrate that you care about helping people + you demonstrate that you share something in common with her.) At this point, we are not going to discuss any more details about creating attraction during the ongoing conversation, because we will cover that in the next section: The Post Approach Phase. But when we get to that point, youll see other powerful things you can do. Being skilled (or getting an A) at the Transition Factor involves your ability to: continue the conversation past the initial greeting smoothly guiding the conversation to Type 3 Responses (ongoing responses) smoothly guiding the frame of the conversation (i.e. a playful/joking frame, a serious frame, an enthusiastic frame, any emotional-rich frame, etc) smoothly guiding to strategic topics (i.e. topics that predictably get her to impress you) smoothly guiding to topics that allow you do other things that will be discussed later
If you were to create a Transitional Game Plan, you would simply go through a trial run based on information about her (remember the examples that we talked about earlier) These are things you would notice about her. Notice what she is doing Notice what she is about to do Notice what she could be thinking about Notice what she is wearing Notice her mood Notice anything unique that she is wearing Notice anything unique that she is doing And in the previous example, you noticed that she was reading a book.
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So you would go though the 24 entry points - in the previous example we used the 1C entry point [ state your opinion about Something Else ]. Are you seeing how everything fits together? Lets now move to the Post Approach Phase.
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The Post-Approach Phase

So lets immediately look at the 3 things required to be effective at the Post-Approach Phase
Pre Approach Phase Mind State Access Preparation
Approach Phase Attention Create Filter Transition
Post Approach Gather Information Establish Value & Connection Throw In Feel Good Signals
The 3 Key Factors [Pre-Approach Phase]

The 3 Key Factors [Approach Phase]

The 3 Key Factors [Post-Approach Phase]

Gather Information Your ability to get information about her (the right way). Establish Value & Connection Your strategy for creating desirability and creating the perception of a connection. Throw In Feel Good Signals Your secret slick strategy for making her Feel Good (increasing your Addiction Power)
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Lets do a quick review: The Pre Approach Phase gives you the MAP (Mind State, Access, Preparation). In order to go GET to your fun adventure, you need a MAP. In addition to that, you also have to ACT (Attention, Create Filter, Transition) because a map is completely useless unless you ACT (specifically, getting in your car and driving). While you are in the ACT, its now time to GET (Gather Information, Establish Value & Connection, Throw In Feel Good Signals) the excitement from the adventure. So youll either GET the excitement of interacting with a Level Headed Woman or youll GET the understanding (along with the laughter) that youre dealing with an emotionally unstable woman. Either way, you will GET something valuable out of it.
Now we are going to do things a little differently, in the other phases, we discussed the factors in order. This time we will work backwards because its better for you to first understand how to make her feel good, how to quickly build value, how to create a connection before you learn strategies for getting information from her (for the purpose of understanding her better). Once we get to the section that reveals how to understand her, youll be provided with more examples that feature the feel good stuff, the value stuff, and the connection stuff. So lets start with throwing in feel good signals
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The Post-Approach Phase: Throw In Feel Good Messages

So lets review the 3 things required to be effective at the Post-Approach Phase
The 3 Key Factors

Gather Information Your ability to get information about her (the right way). Establish Value & Connection Your strategy for creating desirability and creating the perception of a connection. Throw In Feel Good Signals Your secret slick strategy for making her Feel Good. (increasing your Addiction Power)
Im personally not addicted to any drugs. However, it is my belief that drug addicts continue to use those drugs over and over again, because it makes them feel good Theres many drugs out there where as soon as you try it, you are instantly addicted! In those cases, you have this person who has entered in a new world where they are experiencing the drug for the first time. If that person ends up becoming addicted meaning that afterwards they have a strong craving to experience that drug again, it is ONLY because that drug made them feel good. They want to re-enter that new world. It doesnt matter if they are embarrassed about the drug. It doesnt matter if they tell themselves they shouldnt be with the drug. If doesnt matter if other people tell them they shouldnt be with the drug. It doesnt matter if they had a silly rule that says you shouldnt be with the drug. Do you see where Im going with this?
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I want you to imagine that every time a drug addict is engaging and experiencing the drug, there is a green bubble that surrounds him. (a transparent bubble with a green tint so you can see him inside of the bubble). So every time he is using the drug and feeling good, there is a green bubble that surrounds him. This is his new world. The moment he is no longer using the drug, the bubble breaks. There is no more green bubble. I want you to imagine that every time a cat is engaging and experiencing some catnip, there is a green bubble that surrounds him. The moment he is no longer snorting the catnip or injecting the catnip into his little cat veins, the bubble breaks. There is no more green bubble. I want you to imagine that every time a woman is engaging and experiencing a chocolate cake, there is a green bubble that surrounds her because she loves chocolate cake. The moment, she is no longer smiling and giggling with chocolate all over her lips, the bubble breaks. There is no more green bubble. Do you see how the green bubble works? The green bubble represents a special and unique world where things feel good. Heres how it works: People (or animals) experience something that feels good and shockingly at some point in the future, they find themselves craving to do it again. Its always funny when a guy asks how should you ask for her number? Which implies that if he succeeds at asking the right way that is equivalent to going through a strategic process of building desirability. This is a guy who believes that the green bubble is successfully created once you ask for her phone number the right way. And when you look at it from that perspective, it makes no sense at all. I want you to imagine a 3 year old kid walking up to a hot stove and touching it. It burns his little hand and he immediately starts crying because it doesnt feel good. And as long as he is able to remember that the stove is hot he will not touch it. So in cases of pain and things that dont feel good, a red bubble surrounds the person. And normally, there is a tendency to avoid pain. Heres the big point. There are things you can say that is guaranteed to make her feel good.
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Just like as you can imagine, there things you can say that is guaranteed to make her feel bad. There are topics you can talk about that is guaranteed to make her feel good Strategically, your game plan should involve methods to make her feel good. Thats why you are able to learn techniques for making her feel good. But first your ability to make her feel good is based on: Your knowledge of what makes women feel good. Applying that knowledge Your ability to get information about making that specific woman feel good Applying that specific knowledge
If that makes sense to you, then you will be one of the few guys who will quickly become Masters At Making Women Feel Good. (emotionally) It is my job to make sure that you become that Master! Lets now look at 5 specific ways to make a women feel good. The feeling that she is valued & important The feeling that she is unique The feeling that she is supported The feeling that she is powerful Do you see how this works? Increasing your Addiction Power is easy as pie. Imagine talking to a woman, and at some point she started saying things like my exboyfriend wouldnt let me do this and he wouldnt let me do that At that point, you would say to yourself hmmmmm.so he made her feel powerless.) And then later on you are going to compliment her on being a Powerful Woman (because you know for a fact, that the feeling that she is powerful is something that she is craving. And presto, the green bubble has formed) Other feel good tricks: Make her feel good about her HIPS Ill explain: Her Hobbies
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Her Interests Her Passions Her Spare time activities Lets go through an example of making her feel good about one of her Passions: For example, you can do the CUP technique. [Completely Understanding her Passions] Tactic #1 Making it out to be more than it is. You can do this by showing an appreciation on a level that shes never experienced before. When you do that, it forces her to see you as someone who understands her passion on a deeper level. The only problem is that its easy to do. The purpose is to get her to experience the powerful feeling of finally someone understands me kind of mind state. If you really do a great job, youll get the raised eyebrow effect. Keep your eyes on her eyebrows. Lets give a crystal clear example of how this works. [Lets say she enjoys tennis]
Her: I really enjoy tennis. You: Tennis is pretty interesting. Tennis is an art form. I always thought it was much more than a sport, because its the little things like reaching out for the ball. In life you have to reach for the things if you want to succeed.
The formula is: [Whatever] is pretty interesting . [Whatever] is an art form. I always thought it was much more than a [broad category], because its the little thing like [a basic action that takes place]. In life you have to [repeat the basic action as it relates to life] if you want to succeed. This tactic allows you to send her a powerful TRI-SIGNAL (A feel good signal, A connection signal, and a value signal) also, as you are metaphorically sending the message, you also indirectly communicate that YOU are ambitious. You can do this with anything. All you need is: [whatever the hobby/interest/passion/spare time activity] [the broad category] [a basic action that takes place] [repeat the basic action in the life format]
Version 1: In the previous example, it was: Tennis
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Sport reaching out for the ball reaching out for the things Indirect Message: YOU are ambitious Version 2 [Using the same passion] You could have also used: Tennis Sport Battling head-to-head with a competitor Battling head-to-head with competitors
Indirect Message: YOU are competitive
(Lets take a step back for a second so that you can clearly see how this puzzles in with the whole Game Plan. Because if she is telling you things that show that she is ambitious, then you would admire her passion (tennis) because of its ambitious qualities for the purpose of indirectly communicating that you are ambitious.)
Her: I really enjoy tennis. You: Tennis is pretty interesting. Tennis is an art form. I always thought it was much more than a sport, because its the little things like battling head-to-head with a competitor. In life you have to battling head-to-head with competitors if you want to succeed.
You modify it, because you know that she values ambition. (which means she gets addicted to ambitious guys) Its that simple. Lets rewind to the dialogue in the bookstore. You suggest another book to the young lady which smoothly gives you a reason to ask what other books she reads. And in the process she tells you she likes stories that feature a resilient character. You would silently make a mental note. You would not blurt out Im a resilient guy! You would however, let the conversation develop. And then, later on when she mentioned that she liked tennis (for example), you would create an appropriate version.
Version 3 Tennis Sport Deflecting away the ball that come at unexpected angles
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Deflecting away problems that come unexpectedly Indirect Message: YOU are resilient
As you can see, this covertly builds your value because you are implying that you See Value in something she is interested in. Its simple. Its powerful. Its fun. But most of the power is how it makes her own interest/hobby/passion seem just as big as life itself - which is the reason why you are going to compare it with life itself. So what kind of affect does this have on her? If done right: Youll end up giving her the feeling that her moment of goofing off somehow means she has an extreme advantage in life! More importantly, the side affect is that youll inspire her to achieve and feel amazing about herself.
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Basically what youll notice is that all of her HIPS will fall in two categories. [Exciting] things she is proud of [Not so exciting] things she is embarrassed/shy about (possibly because of popular negative view points) So in the previous example, theres no need for her to feel embarrassed so you can assume she is proud of playing of tennis. On the other hand, there probably have been times when you asked a woman what she enjoys doing and she appeared to be shy about it. She might say something like I just enjoy watching movies at home (in an embarrassed tone of voice). So lets take a different approach Because it would be silly to say: Her: I really enjoy just staying at home and watching TV You: Watching TV is pretty interesting. Watching TV is an art form. I always thought it was much more than laying on the couch, because its the little thing like flipping the remote. In life you have to push the right buttons if you want to succeed in life That wouldnt work In a playful setting, you could pull it off because it could be humorous. However it doesnt accomplish the same things. So youll want to take a different approach You: Thats cool (great), theres nothing greater than taking a moment to relax. Another thing you can do is take the opportunity to attack the people who are misinformed. This is great when you can assume that many people in her life give her grief about it. Her: Actually in my spare time, I just watch TV (in an embarrassed tone) You: There is nothing wrong with that. For whatever reason a lot of people tend to think that [whatever] is [a misconception], but in life you need to [an aspect of whatever]
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Note: Anytime she is embarrassed, its an opportunity to attack the misinformed. Make her feel great about her perceived inadequacy. You will always create a powerful connection when you demonstrate a deep understanding. Note: Anytime she feels proud, its an opportunity to make her feel blushingly incredible as you build your value (and become her hero). You are basically feeding off of the situation. Heres where things get exciting. Have you ever noticed that in terms of hobbies and interests theres not a lot of new information youll hear. And because of that you can start pre-sorting. With women, theres The adventurous/active type. The book worm The working/business/ambitious woman The homebody (the stay inside girl) The crafty/artsy/creative woman (and maybe a few others)
After a while, do you think it would be possible to identify these women with very little information and with laser precision. In fact you can probably tell with reasonable accuracy the difference between these types just by looking. And you can expect very predictable responses when you ask about her HIPS [Active Girl] Tennis -> Deflecting away problems that coming at unexpected angles [Homebody Girl] Watching TV/Movies -> taking a moment to relax [Crafty Girl] Sewing -> Putting things together in this world [Party Girl] Partying -> Life is about having fun You get the idea. Now we have discussed how to make her feel good, its important to see that the moment you start the conversation (using your Entry Point), you create a clear bubble that surrounds you and her. And once you create that clear bubble, she enters into a new world. Your job is to make it green. You want to turn the clear bubble into a green bubble. And you do that by making her feel good.
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Making someone feel good is a skill that everyone has. Its a basic skill. Along with your current strategies of making women feel good and the techniques that you just learned, you have more than enough skill needed to make any new woman you meet feel good in a very short amount of time. We are now going to add 2 more components that can make women addicted to you in a very short amount of time. (But of course thats not the goal) First, lets understand that just making a woman feel good is not enough. Theres a millions and millions of women on this planet that have male friends that they care about. In fact, they love these guys! Theyre addicted to being around these guys. They call these guys twice a day But the moment he expresses that he is romantically interested, she is ready to gag! Why? Because he has no sexual value. You should already know the importance of sexual value. Once you are able to conversationally make her feel good (with the new woman you are talking to) + you are able to build sexual value, then you are now able to create a 2layered green bubble! But it gets even better! Lets make the bubble more powerful and more addictive! What if you built sexual value PLUS you made her feel good PLUS you did things to create the perception of a connection? [Answer: You would have successfully created a 3-layer green bubble.] Lets make sure you really see whats going on.
If you can make a woman feel incredible about herself during a brief conversation (which was just covered in the feel good section) PLUS you know how to get her to believe there is a strong connection (which can be done using the techniques that you are about to learn) PLUS you know exactly how to conversationally build sexual value (which can be done using the techniques that you are about to learn) then you will be able to smoothly have a predictably incredible affect on a woman with unimaginable precision!
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For now on as you approach a new woman, you will not do what most guys do. You will not do all of the garbage & backwards stuff out there that is being taught. Youre going to focus strictly on:
Building Value Building the Connection (or Perception of Connection) Making her Feel Good (about being in your presence)
With that said lets now look at how you can Establish Value and Establish a Connection
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The Post-Approach Phase: Establish Value & Connection

The 3 Key Factors

Gather Information Your ability to get information about her (the right way). Establish Value & Connection Your strategy for creating desirability and creating the perception of a connection. Throw In Feel Good Signals Your secret slick strategy for making her Feel Good.
Establish Connection The reality is the more you actually have in common with her, the simpler this will be. On the other hand, if you dont have a lot in common with her, you get use more skills (which is fun in my opinion). As stated before, one of the objectives during the Post Approach Phase is to Gather Info so that you can make her feel good [FG], build value [V] (desirability) and the connection [C]. FG + V + C Also, as stated in the Approach Phase section, its important to keep the conversation going. Keeping the conversation flowing is your primary task. Sometimes there are moments of awkward silences. To me, many people make a big of deal over them. If youre one of these people who thinks its the worst thing in the world, dont worry its not. Hopefully, you already realize this. It happens with everyone from time to time. Its better to have some air between topics, then to be a non-stop motor mouth.
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Its best to let her do 65 85% of the talking anyway. Depending on the woman, it will vary, but you should know by now that women love to talk. The more she feels good about the conversation along with a sense that there is a connection, the more comfortable shell be and you can expect the chattiness to increase in a very natural way. Even though you have the objective of creating FG + V + C, that shouldnt saturate the entire conversation. In other words, every sentence should not have the purpose of creating FG, V or C. In fact, as you keep the conversation flowing creating a comfortable experience should be your primary objective in the beginning. Youll want to be using the natural flow of topics as part of the passive information gathering process. As you talk, shell give you information about her, without any of your pre-planned tactics. Another thing that will naturally happen is the initial level of FG + V + C. Heres an example. Imagine being in the line of a book store and an attractive girl is wearing the same T-shirt that you are wearing (a T-shirt of a particular music group). You also notice that 2 of the 3 books you are getting ready to buy are exactly the same as 2 of the 4 shes getting ready to buy. You make eye contact and jokingly ask Are you trying to copy me? She laughs and then replies Actually, I believe you are trying to copy me. You point to her shirt and ask Did you get the latest CD that came out on Monday? The conversation has started. [The clear bubble has automatically been formed.] And the approach was done in a very natural way. And if you can tell that there is strong connection from the very beginning, it dont make it your goal to build more connection just because that was your plan. You Game Plan should be adjustable. Once you create a green bubble around her, it is a special bubble that she can only get from you. Lets move on Lets say you start talking to a woman and she begins to get a bit flirty. At that point, theres no need to really build any more sexual value (at least during this first interaction). Save it for later. Use your value building skills as a tension builder later
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on. Pace yourself. Remember this: Timing is either good or bad. Good timing + average execution is better than bad timing + excellent execution. Does that make sense? Lets say you were trying to get a particular woman horny. You end up talking to her on the phone and you successfully got her extremely horny [excellent execution] but it was a situation where you couldnt visit her that night [bad timing]. That might boost your ego a little knowing that you were able to do that, but wouldnt you prefer to get her kind of horny [average execution] while shes alone at your place [good timing]. Obviously, your goal is to have excellent timing + excellent execution. The point is to show you the value of timing. Timing is everything. So with that said, dont be in a rush to over-blast her with a bunch of strategies. I refer to that as strong-arming and it always backfires regardless of how skilled you are. Lets illustrate this. One day, I went fishing with my younger brother and his friend. My brother was catching fish like crazy. I was impressed. But his friend and I werent doing so good. So I looked at what his friend was doing (because I wanted to make sure that I didnt do that). And I noticed that whenever he got a fish biting on the bait, he would start reeling as fast as he could. Needless to say, he didnt catch anything! So I watched what my younger brother was doing. And as soon as he had a fish biting on the bait, he started to reel pretty slow at first, then he would gradually speed up. And that worked like a charm. So when I started doing that, I suddenly I started catching more fish. Building your desirability is based on timing. You have to know when to sprinkle in a bit of the right signals (FG + V + C) and you have to when to pour it on heavy. You also have to know when to do nothing at all.
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So getting back to the example, if the approach presupposes a connection, then dont start searching for every possible thing you have in common with her. Its a very common and destructive mistake. And when the guy fails as a result of doing this, he never sees it coming. That brings us to how you should handle connection building. If you mess this simple part up, you could blow everything - and I mean that in a bad way! Dont ever be the Me Too Guy! For example, lets say she is talking about watching a popular Cooking Show. She is wrapped up with what she is saying and she is enjoying the process of explaining it to you. Lets also suppose that you watch that show, too. As soon as she mentions it, dont say Wow! I watch that show, too! Just let her talk. Remember you are a Skilled Information Gatherer. So let a few topics go by or even a few days before you utilize the information. So a few days later, you could casually bring up how Chef TV Guy from the Cooking Show was talking about blah blah blah. And it reminded you of XYZ. And you say it in a way where XYZ is the topic of the conversation not the fact that you watch the Cooking Show. Let her be the Me Too person. The connection will be built the right way when you follow that structure. Just like earlier when we talked about being the guy who gets her to impress him rather than the typical guy who (very ineffectively) attempts to impress her. I was out somewhere one day and I heard what appeared to be a fresh interaction between this guy and girl. Every time she was saying something that he identified as a common thing, he would excitedly announce ME TOO! then we would cut her off and go into supporting stories and conversations that confirmed that he really did share this common interest. Then when he would run out of conversational gas, she would attempt to pick up where she left off only to be cut off again and bombarded with a rapid fire series of ME TOOs (which always was the start of a long-winded supporting story) Dont be the ME TOO Guy! So lets talk about a simple way you can build the connection. Building The Connection Fast Through Strategic Stories and Personas Step 1: Get her to tell you about her closest friends and family members. Find out all the people that she is drawn to, respects, looks up to and admires. Find out the famous people that she admires. Find out her heroes. Note: You can also do the opposite and find out the people who turn her off.
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Step 2: For her friends, find out why she is close friends with them. For famous people she admires, find out why she thinks they are so great. Note: You would also want to know why she is turned off by certain people. Step 3: Even though you could be wrong, try to determine the esteem need that she is getting from that relationship. It might not be obvious. And you might not pick up on it right way. Sometimes its easy. Sometimes its not. Heres an example: Lets say you successfully get her to tell you all about her friends and the people she admires, and you notice that all of them appear to be strong minded and decisive people. At that point, you would make a note, and at some point during the interaction you would indirectly send the message that YOU are strong minded and decisive (since she has already proven that she is connected to these people). From Step 2, she may even tell you directly that she likes people who strong minded and decisive. Step 3 has more value because it represents the deeper need. For example, she may tell you that she admires her friends because they have courage, but every time she talks about them the story is about something silly they did. And all of the famous people she admires are comedians. Obviously, the more playful you are, the easier it will be to create a strong connection with her. So thats one way to build the connection very fast. Heres another technique Building The Connection Fast Through Realization Step 1: Get her to tell you about her closest friends and family members. Find out all the people that she is drawn to, respects, looks up to and admires. Find out the famous people that she admires. Find out her heroes. Note: You can also do the opposite and find out the people who turn her off. Step 2: Ask her: When did you realize that you and [the person] were close? As in closer than you are with most people? For example:
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You: Your friend Brenda seems like a good friend. How long have you know her? Her: About 7 years. We started working at the job around the same time. You: When did you realize that you and Brenda were pretty close? Her: I guess it was when she was over my house one day and we were sharing a lot about our life You: Thats cool. I tend to not to be so quick with sharing my life with people Her: ME TOO! (predictable response) You: What made you open up with her? Her: She was a good listener. And she didnt seem to be judgmental Do you see what just happened? Do you see the information that was provided? So part of the Game Plan in the future: Make her feel OK about her faults Tell stories about how your pet peeve is over-critical people Tell stories about how your pet peeve is awful listeners Dont judge her You can make sure you are utilizing good listening skills
And the result is she is going to feel a connection to you in a very predictable way. As you can see, the first question (in green) is designed to elicit an experience. That way you know what kind of impact you want to have on her (sharing life experiences). You can also tell her stories of when you shared life stories with others as a way to get her to experience that feeling. Once you execute your Game Plan, she is going get the perception of a connection. And it will be obvious, because shell make comments that suggest that you have a lot in common with her. In reality, you are just strategically (and timely) repeating back things she has said to you. Lets now look at how to establish value.
Establish Value If you are talking to her, either one of these 3 things is happening: 1. You can tell she is attracted to you 2. You cant really tell she is attracted to you 3. She appears bored and/or annoyed
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For Case 1, you shouldnt do anything to build value. For the other cases, you want to do it very subtly and gradually through a combination of the methods below (or any sexual value techniques taught in other products). Although you are sprinkling in things that increase your value, its important to know that it can build very quickly. Although, thats not the goal. The goal is do these things because they will increase your value. Way #1 The Approval and Disapproval Messages. If you haven read Super Lust Buttons (or its been a while, since your read it) Download it here: http://superlustbuttons.com/yyyyyyy.html Based on what you learned so far, SLB will make even more sense. And it may even seem like a totally different book. Way #2 Accessing her boy crazy mind state Brace yourself. This is powerful. Get her to talk about a time when she was a teenager or the first time she was crazy about boys. This is the time when she was experiencing the feelings of being crazy of boys (or a particular boy she had a crush on). When you do this, you want to find out things like: How did she get boys attention? What type of boys did she like? The type of girls she didnt like (like the ones that stole the boy she had a crush on) Does she remember the feelings of having a crush on boy for the first time (of course she does!) Competing with the other girls
Of course, if you are using this while your sexual value is low or uncertain, then you may need to Topic Map a few levels In other words, take the current conversation and create a chain of related topics that end up with you talking about what you plan to talk about.
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If you are talking to a new girl, this topic controlling skill allows you to guide the conversation wherever you want. And it will seem like it just naturally flowed there. This is important because it allows you to discuss certain topics that are normally too early for a guy and girl who are just meeting.
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For example: Lets say you were talking about a current event involving the serial bank robber and you want to eventually talk about the first crush she had on a boy [Starting Topic] The topic of: the serial bank robber [Link #1] The topic of: if a bank gets robbed, do you lose the money in your account? [Link #2] The topic of: the bank teller at your bank looks like the first girl you had a crush on (and you were wondering if it was her) [Link #3] The topic of: the first girl you had a crush on [Final Topic] The topic of: her first crush Do you see how it works? You should be able to link any two unrelated within 2 4 links. This example has 3 links. Lets continue with the technique... Heres an example of accessing her boy crazy mind state You: When you were a teenager did you ever use to wear those legwarmers? [What you are fishing for is something that was fashionable during the time when she most likely to be interested in boys for the first time. But so far, you are not mentioning anything about being interested in boys, so if you were to Topic Map, the Final Topic could be Things that were fashionable when she was a teenager] Her: No I never wore those. You: Really? So what was fashionable when you were a teenage? Her: The XYZ Pants (or the XYZ shoes)(or the crazy XYZ bracelets)(or the XYZ hairstyle) YOU: Oh yeah, I remember those. Speaking of And I have to ask. Did girls wear those to attract boys? Her: Not really. We just wore them because they are in style. You. Oh. So what did you wear to attract the boys? Im sure you can remember your first crush. Her: I cant really remember. *** pause *** Because its important that we get her to mentally dress herself up and see herself wearing something. If not, you are going to have to create something . Keep reading youll see one method you can use. You: Well did you put on a bunch of make up to attract the boys? Her: No You: Oh ok you were a nude face girl Her: I guess
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You: I had two buddies that would have drooled if they saw you. They were in love with the nude face girls. Most of the girls during that time wore make up if you can believe that. As crazy as it sounds, I liked the girls who wore make up and I ignored and teased the nude face girls. Basically you want to un-invitedly insert yourself into her memory as the character she had a crush on by exhibiting the same behavior patterns. You can assume that she was ignored and teased by this guy. To make it more powerful, you could ask her all the details of what this boy did and how he treated her. If she said he was slightly older and he teased her, then you would remember that and at a later time you would under the frame of what you used to do as a kid would talk about the fun things (as if that was the topic) you use to do. For example: You could say we used to climb trees, tease the younger girls, and ride our bikes. And as she hears that, shell connect with the girl in your story. Lets say she responded yes You: Well did you put on a bunch of make up? Her: Yes You: Oh ok. Its shame little girls back then couldnt afford make up specialists (laughing) Her: Yeah, I know. You: I had two buddies that would have drooled if they saw you. They didnt care. They were in love with any girl that had make-up on. Even as a kid, I always preferred a nude face girl. I ignored and ran from the make-up queens. So thats how it works. If you remember the implications from the Stanford Prison Experiment, youll see how this builds your value in a very unique way. For the most part, the bulk of your value building will piggy back of the information you get from the Gathering Information phase. And thats what you are about to learn next.
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The Post-Approach Phase: Gather Information

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Gather Information Your ability to get information about her (the right way). Establish Value & Connection Your strategy for creating desirability and creating the perception of a connection. Throw In Feel Good Signals Your secret slick strategy for making her Feel Good.
There are many different ways to get information. Since its very important that we get information extremely fast, Im going to provide you with 2 simple methods that is guaranteed to give you MUCH MUCH MORE information about her than you actually need (especially for a first time interaction). Method #1 - The Job Advice Technique This is a story or the explanation of a situation your friend is going through where the advice to what your friend (or someone else) should do, will provide information about her. Simply because her advice will always be based on her beliefs, her values, her outlook and/or her life strategies. For example, you could have a friend that is up for a promotion but he is unsure what he could do to make sure he gets it. Woman A may respond he should work very hard and keep quiet. And if Upper Management thinks he is qualified then hell get the promotion. Its out if his hands at that point. This response is secretly her strategy for going after what she really wants in life. So if she wants to attract a guy. Shes going to be the type that makes her self look really appealing and if the guy thinks she is attractive hell make his move. If he doesnt
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he wont. And its out of her hands at that point. Another woman could respond much differently to what your friend should do. Woman B may respond he should walk directly into the Supervisors office and tell him exactly how much he wants the job. This response is secretly her strategy for going after what she really wants in life. So if she wants to attract a guy. Shes going to communicate her desires directly to him. This is very easy to do. Then after you do that, let the topic flow naturally to what type of job is considered the prefect job? If she replies: A job that allows me to do different things A job that is fun A stable job Then you know that these are esteem needs on a personal level. She loves to experience the feeling of doing new things, having fun, and she stability. So what type of man will she consider valuable? In other words, what do you think would be an effective strategy for building your sexual value with her? Yep, you guessed it... telling your stories or indirectly communicating that you: Enjoy different things Like having fun Like stability in your relationship And magically, you will build value AND a powerful connection (very fast) with that particular woman. In a very logical way, she has no choice but to value you. Its also a great way of filtering out bad women. Lets say you dont like unmotivated women. Lets say you asked her what type of job is considered the prefect job?
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And she replied: Her: To be honest, I want a job where I dont have to do much work (she starts laughing). Me and friend Lisa goof off all the time. We have this thing we do where we surf the internet when the boss isnt looking and blah blah blah. You: (playing along) Thats awesome! What else do you sneaky little devils do? Her: Oh yeah. One time we(story that talks about how lazy she is).. Heres the funny thing. I actually ran into one of my ex-girlfriends and during the conversation she actually told me several stories about how she likes to goofs off at work. Although, most people arent super employees, the disturbing part was how much pleasure she got from being excessively lazy. Then later on during the conversation she discussed how she left her former job because they passed her up for a promotion. Interesting. According to her, the guy who got the promotion wasnt there as long as she was. That was the big complaint. It wasnt he didnt work as hard as I did. It wasnt he wasnt as qualified. Heres the crazy part. As I reflected back on our brief relationship, I thought about how she put zero effort into it even though she confessed how much she valued the relationship. According to her (not me) I was the greatest guy she had ever meet. And I knew it. (lol) Shortly into the relationship, I found her to be irrationally lazy . And she had an attitude as if she expected me to go above and beyond while she did nothing - which technically isnt a problem, except for the fact that I dont put up with bullshit like that. I broke up with her and that didnt make sense to her. Her former job passed her up for promotions and that didnt make sense to her. Heres the funny part, my current lady (now my wife) who I have shared 8 years together does many things to make me happy. And at her job, she has received awards and has been promoted 2 times. (plus she is working on her own business) She is far from being lazy. So use the information about her job as your secret strategy for understanding her.
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In fact, recently, a guy told me about 4 stories about how his wife physically assaulting him. He was trying to figure out it was wise to continue with the relationship. Later on in the conversation under the bragging frame of my wife doesnt take shit from no one he told me a story about how she physically assaulted a woman on her job. Lets now get even more information by looking at her hips. Method #2: Find her HIPS Her Hobbies (allows you to identify how she wants to feel important) (allows you to be impressed which gets her try to impress you more) Her Interests (allows you to identify how she wants to feel important)(allows you to be impressed which gets her try to impress you more) Her Passions (allows you to identify how she wants to feel important) (allows you to be impressed which gets her try to impress you more) Her Spare time activities (allows you to identify how she wants to feel important) (allows you to be impressed which gets her try to impress you more) Once you get the job information and her hips, youll have more than enough information. You can now refer to the Golden List
The Golden List of Ways to Make her Feel Good

The feeling that she is valued & important The feeling that she is unique The feeling that she is supported The feeling that she is powerful The feeling that she is competent The feeling that she is supported The feeling that she is loved The feeling that she is independent The feeling that she is womanly That feeling that she is a part of something special The feeling that she is a good person/ a person with integrity The feeling that she has a sense of hope The feeling that she is needed The feeling that she is appreciated The feeling that someone understands her The feeling that she is right The feeling that she is sexy The feeling that she is special The feeling that she is cool
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The feeling that she is in an exclusive group The feeling that she has an advantage The feeling that she is an exciting/fun person Heres where it gets too good to be true. Ask her why she likes anything that she mentions. Lets say during the conversation, she mentions her car. Ask her why she likes it. And shell say something. Her: I love my car. Its sporty. It makes me look cool. (Just make a mental note, and then later on you can wait for her to say anything about anything for the purpose of saying You know what, youre pretty cool. Lets exchange numbers because I like to talk to you some more.) -- OR -Her: I like my car because its safe. (Just make a mental note, and then later talk about an ex-girlfriend that used to stalk you.) -- OR -Her: I like my car because Im the only one I know with one. [feeling that she is unique] (Just make a mental note, and then use it later to make her feel unique)
Find out her esteem needs (ways to feel valued) by finding out the qualities of the perfect job. From the previous example, it was: A job that allows me to do different things A job that is fun A stable job (Just make a mental note, and then use those 3 things later.) Also if you have a copy of The Laughable Answer ( http://TheLaughableAnswer.com ) go back and re-read it, it should make even more sense to you especially how it applies to approaching women. Also: Lets say during the conversation, she mentions her dog. Ask her why she likes him.
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Her: I love my dog because he is soooo lovable. (Just make a mental note, and then use it later. Obviously, you wouldnt tell her you love her. Instead just keep making references to her dog (since it is object that makes her feel good when she thinks about it. Later on in the conversation: Do you ever let your dog ride in your car with you?) I remember dating a girl who told me that her cat understands her more than people do. She talked about her cat like it was strangely more intuitive than the normal cats. According to her, they shared an unexplainable connection, but when she explained to me what the cat actually does and how he understands her, Im thinking thats what all cats do. Her: When Im not feeling good, he jumps in my lap, looks me in the eyes and meows. And wouldnt you know it, she always pretended to be more complex than what she really was. She never made any sense. Basically she craved the feeling of no one understands me, because Im too complicated. So basically, ask her why she likes (i.e. gets good feelings) about anything she mentions. When the time is right: Ask her why she likes her job Ask her why she likes her car Ask her why she likes her dog Ask her why she likes her best friend Ask her why she likes reading a certain type of book Ask her why she likes doing what she likes to do Ask her why she likes anything she mentions In a very short amount of time, youll get a short list of things (ie she wants to feel like a caring person, she wants to feel independent, etc.) Then use those answers to increase your addiction power by supplying her with comments that suggests that she
CR James
If you cant think of a way to phrase it, just use a simple structure like: I get the impression that most people dont realize how XYZ you are. I get the impression that you are more XYZ than people give you credit for. [This is a very simple strategy for making her feel good and building the connection ] [If you want to use the information to increase your value, then tell her stories that portray you as XYZ.] That is probably one of the simplest ways to FG + C + V. Much success! Take Care Warmly, CR James
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