What does EFT work on? How will it help me?

Users of Tapping have reported relief from chronic pain, emotional problems, addictions, phobias, post traumatic stress disorder, limiting belief and blocks to success, weight loss, athletic performance and much more. Recent Clinical Research Results with EFT are Proving Impressive Results Here are a few of the most recent studies' headlines:

Anxiety/Depression/Emotional Challenges
Efficacy of EFT inReducing Public Speaking Anxiety: A Randomized Controlled Trial Psychological Trauma in Veterans using EFT: A Randomized Controlled Trial The Effect of a Brief EFT Self-Intervention on Anxiety, Depression, Pain and Cravings in Healthcare Workers Psychological Symptom Change in Veterans After Six Sessions of EFT: An Observational Study The Treatment of Combat Trauma in Veterans Using EFT The Effects of EFT on Long-term Psychological Symptoms Psychological Symptom Change After Grouspan Application of EFT Self-administered EFT in Individuals with Fibromyalgia: a Randomized Trial Pilot Study of EFT, WHEE and CBT for Treatment of Test Anxiety in University Students Assessment of EFT: An Alternative Treatment for Fear Psychological Symptom Change After Grouspan Application of EFT

Athletic Performance
The Effect of EFT on Athletic Performance: A Randomized Controlled Blind Trial A Re-Examination of Church's (2009) Study into the Effects of EFT on Basketball Free-Throw Performance

Pain & Physical Symptoms

EFT as an Effective Adjunctive Treatment in the Neurotherapeutic Treatment of Seizure Disorders Self-administered EFT in Individuals with Fibromyalgia: a Randomized Trial Neurophysiological Indicators of EFT Treatment Of Post-Traumatic Stress

Phobias
Evaluation of a Meridian-Based Intervention, EFT, for Reducing Specific Phobias of Small Animals EFT Reduces Intense Fears: A Partial Replication and Extension of Wells et al. (2003)

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A Controlled Comparison of the Effectiveness and Efficiency of Two Psychological Therapies for Post-traumatic Stress Disorder: EMDR vs. EFT Efficacy of EFT Provided by Coaches vs. Licensed Therapists in Veterans with PTSD: A Randomized Controlled Trial Single session reduction of the intensity of traumatic memories in abused adolescents: A randomized controlled trial Six Trauma Imprints Treated with Combination Intervention: Critical Incident Stress Debriefing and Thought Field Therapy (TFT) or EFT

Weight Loss & Cravings

A Randomized Clinical Trial of a Meridian-Based Intervention for Food Cravings with Six Month Follow-up The Effect of a Brief EFT Self-Intervention on Anxiety, Depression, Pain and Cravings in Healthcare Workers

While EFT is newly set to revolutionize the field of health and wellness, the healing concepts that it's based upon have been in practice in Eastern medicine for over 5,000 years. Like acupuncture and acupressure, Tapping is a set of techniques which utilize the body's energy meridian points. You can stimulate these meridian points by tapping on them with your fingertips - literally tapping into your body's own energy and healing power. Your body is more powerful than you can imagine... filled with life, energy, and a compelling ability for self-healing. With EFT, you can take control of that power. Female EFT Tapping Points Width x Height 33006000 .png 33006000 .gif 5501000 .gif 440800 .gif 330600 .gif 110200 .gif

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- What does it mean to be energetically grounded? Briefly, it means to feel connected and present in our body, HERE NOW. Strong and balanced on the earth. Wed like to cover some basic grounding techniques. When we start reconnecting with the body, sometimes we can find triggers that feel overwhelming. Here are some techniques that help us ground and regroup.

If youre calm enough just keep tapping. You are obviously very connected to the feelings. If the feelings are too intense, see if you can put the issue aside for now. Some people imagine putting the emotions or issues in a box and closing the lid. This tends to work short term until you can get help or support to work through it. It can also help you to use the other techniques listed here. EFT is not necessarily grounding (especially with the tapping on the head and upper body). If youre feeling less calm, regrounding with your present day surroundings is critical. Open your eyes and look around.

Draw your attention to body sensations, temperature. How cold are you? What do you feel? Stomp your feet, or clap the insides of your wrists and ankles to draw energy and sensation there. Shift of focus to HERE NOW. What color is your couch? Can you feel the texture? How are you sitting on it? Which side? (spatially orient yourself). Use your intellectual mind. How much did this chair cost? Think about a technical question from work. Distract yourself How about those Cowboys!? Wash your face and hands with warm water. Get something (preferably warm) to eat. It helps reset the primitive brain. After all, we didnt have time to worry about washing up or a warm meal when a saber tooth tiger was after us! Laughter often helps. Do you have something funny on DVD or TV? Give your body some choices about what might help it feel safer Sit here or there, warmer or colder, go for a walk or lie down. This engages the cerebral cortex, helps you feel safer. Remind yourself you are currently in a safe place, right here, right now. Imagine youre a tree and send roots into the earth, drawing stable energy to yourself. Acknowledge the feelings you have right now: I am very angry right now. Its ok. Once you stop fighting an emotion, it often dissipates more quickly. If you are with someone you trust, gentle safe touch can help you ground. Just staying present does help. Our bodies rarely can sustain those intense emotions very long. Follow your breathing in and out. Constricted breathing exercise (see link for audio and tapping script). Pet an animal. You might keep a list of safe people to call near the phone.

Id like to introduce you to EFTEmotional Freedom Techniques. It is a simple and effective form of meridian energy therapy. Some call it emotional acupuncture but without the needles. You may not have heard of it, and it looks weird. The good news is it works! We will be tapping with our fingertips on certain key natural comfort points on the body. While tapping, we will state a truth about how we feel along with a positive affirmation. I call this The Power of Positive Tapping. If you are new to EFT, look at the chart below and follow along as I walk you through each point.

We start by tapping on the karate chop point. I use the tips of all four fingers of my right hand to tap the outside of my left hand. Use the same pressure you would use if you were tapping on a table to make a drumming sound. Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap. If you have long fingernails, use the pads near the end of your fingers to tap. Next, we move to the top of the head and then well work down the body, making the points easy to remember. Use the fingertips on one or both hands to tap the top of the head. Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap. The eyebrow points are located at the beginning of the eyebrow, nearest the center of the face. I use the index and middle fingers together, on both hands, to tap the two eyebrow points. Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap.

The side of the eye points are located on the bone at the side of the eye. Its not so close to the eye that it feels like youre poking yourself, and not so far away that you are tapping at the temple. Using the index and middle fingers together, tap on both side of the eye points at the same time. Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap. The under the eye points are on the bone located under the eye about even with the pupils. Using the fingertips of the index and middle fingers, gently tap this spot under both eyes. Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap. Now tap under the nose with the index and middle finger of one hand. The spot is roughly midway between the bottom of the nose and the top of the lip. Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap. The chin point is not really on the chin; it is mid-way between the bottom of the lower lip and the chin, in that indentation area. Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap. The collarbone spots are located about one inch down and over towards the outside of where a man would tie his tie. I use four fingers together on each hand to tap the collarbone spots. Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap. An alternative is to pat both spots at the same time with the flat of one hand, with about the same pressure as you would pat a babys back to help it burp. The under the arm point is located about 4 inches below the armpit. I lift my left arm and use the four fingers of my right hand to tap under my left arm. Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap. These are the points in the short form of EFT that we will be using. Additional tip: I often find that returning to the top of the head helps the round feel complete. You can end repeated rounds at any point. You can start at the eyebrow or top of the head. You can leave out points, too. Remember that the energy system is connected; each point you tap resonates throughout the system. I also encourage you to learn to use your intuition early in your use of EFT

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Tapping (EFT) To Accelerate Pain Relief (Day 1 of 5) 5 Day Mini-Course by Cathy Vartuli and Rick Wilkes [This mini-course is being sent to you free as part of your ongoing subscription to our Pain Relief email list. If you are no longer interested in pain relief, you can unsubscribe at any time using the links at the bottom of each email. Also, be sure to read the disclaimer at the bottom of the email before you start tapping.]

Welcome to our Tapping To Accelerate Pain Relief mini-course. We are going to cover key topics to help you get relief from your pain and suffering over the next five days. Were going to get you started with some tapping that can bring relief right away, but first we wanted to give you a brief overview of the course. Day 1: Lets Use Tapping for Pain Relief NOW -- Thats today! Day 2: Trauma and Pain -- How old traumas (big and small) can contribute to your pain today, and what you can do to permanently free yourself. Day 3: Three Subconscious Beliefs That Could Be Hurting Your Life -- Well explore ways to identify destructive beliefs and show you how tapping can clear them so you feel better. Day 4: Help Your Body Feel Better By Shifting Your Emotional State -- When youre in stuck in overwhelm, suffering, or despair, your body becomes depleted. By tapping to reduce the intensity of the emotions, you shift your body into a state of self-healing. Day 5: What Does Your Pain Have to Say? -- Well show you how to tune into your body and get the best and most accurate guidance available... that which flows from your own inner truth your own Inner Healer. Feel free to tell your friends about this mini-course (it's free!). You can send them this link: http://www.thrivingnow.com/painreliefmini Day 1: Lets Use Tapping for Pain Relief NOW When youre in pain, you have less patience and focus. Your enthusiasm for life is diminished. You DO NOT feel good. While you have very good reason to feel how you do, these stressful emotions cause tension that makes the pain worse.

You were probably taught (like we were) to tough the pain out, force your way through it, or mask it with meds. Didnt work for us! Hows it working for you? WHAT IF... you were honest with yourself about what you were... feeling emotionally... your negative self-talk... the horrible things that happened to you in the past? WHAT IF... you could release the negative energy... with just your fingertips... and some honest self-expression? We do this with Tapping. Well explore more about how emotions, beliefs, and traumas intensify pain and suffering in the upcoming days. But if you are suffering, you want relief... and you want it NOW! So lets get tapping. If you are new to tapping or need a reminder where the points are located, our free Quick Start Guide to Tapping is here: http://www.thrivingnow.com/tapping What Can You Do to Find Relief? Try this tapping and see how you feel. Go to a quiet place where you can be alone for a few minutes. Focus on the pain in one part of your body: low back, left wrist, right knee... Notice how intense the pain feels and give it a number from 0-10 (where 10 is excruciating). Then take a comfortably deep breath in. Let it out. Tap continuously on the Karate Chop point while you say the following three statements aloud: Even though I hurt right HERE, and I HATE that I hurt... I am still a good person, and I am open to relief. Even though I am MAD that I am in pain... I accept my anger and all of my emotions, and I ask for clarity.

Even though I resent this pain, and I want it to go away... it is here right now, and maybe it has something to tell me. Top of the Head: This really hurts! Eyebrow: I HATE this! Side of the Eye: It makes me mad. Under the Eye: I am so frustrated. Under the Nose: Why me?! Chin: I want this pain to go away! Collarbone: Im tired of hurting. Under the Arm: What if I could accept myself just a little? Top of the Head: This remaining hurt. Eyebrow: What if I am ok, even though I hurt? Side of the Eye: I am SO open to relief! Under the Eye: Letting go of a bit of this anger does feel good. Under the Nose: Can I be calm and confident, even when Im in pain? Chin: Maybe I can let go of just a bit of this frustration. Collarbone: And care about myself no matter how I feel. Under the Arm: Maybe my body and I can get through this, together. Take a deep breath. Do you notice any change in the painful area? How intense does it feel now on the 0-10 scale? Do you feel a little bit better? ANY change, no matter how slight, is an encouraging sign that your energy system is responding to the tapping. Would you like to try another exercise? Here is our very popular Anxiety Constricted Breathing tapping audio: http://www.thrivingnow.com/breathing Tapping on the different thoughts, beliefs, and emotions that create and intensify pain can give you a sense of empowerment. Tapping regularly also improves your resilience and your health. But when you are in pain, it is hard to do this alone. Clarity is the first to go when pain rears its noisy head. It is so helpful to have someone

else do the talking and lead the tapping rounds. If that sounds appealing to you, the Pain Relief with EFT audio coaching program by Carol Look and Rick Wilkes will help.
Day 2: Trauma and Pain today?

Are past traumas causing the painful suffering you feel

Sure, it makes sense that past traumas contribute to pain we experience now if the past trauma caused physical injury that has yet to heal. But what about emotional trauma when we were a child? And what past experiences that have left us feeling scared and suffering even decades later... long after the injury should have healed? We now know from decades of research that trauma relief is key to pain relief. They are intertwined, even though most people are not aware of the connection. The Subconscious Stress Connection

Leading edge researchers in the field of trauma and neurology have found that our bodies become preconditioned by early traumas. Even small upsets that are not addressed can make the body more susceptible to future illness, addiction, and pain. These unresolved traumas trigger the body into a perpetual stress response that affects every part of us... from the chemical mix in our bloodstream to the how our brain responds to every stimuli. If during childhood a person was exposed to four or more negative, traumatic experiences, theyre twice as likely to be obese, twice as likely to have a heart attack, four times as likely to have emphysema, four times as likely to be depressed, and ten times as likely to have turned to addictive drugs like heroin. [ACE Study as reported in Time] That kind of evidence leads us to ask questions: What is trauma demanding of our body and energy systems on a moment-by-moment basis? What kind of underlying subconscious stress is always present in the body when someone has had unresolved trauma? Experts in this field like Dr. Robert Scaer have noticed that trauma by its nature is a shock to our system, and part of us freezes in that state. Trauma makes us feel helpless and out of control. It floods our body with certain powerful chemicals. And if we havent released the trauma, every time were reminded of it, our body gets a dose of those same feelings and stress chemicals. Some of us, unfortunately, had childhoods with trauma after trauma after trauma. But it really only takes one unresolved trauma for us to experience long-term: - Patterns of emotional imbalance - Physical holding patterns leading to chronic pain and - Disconnection and disassociation from the body You may not even feel yourself anymore... dis-ease

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Trauma isnt just car accidents and war. To a small child losing her mother in the grocery store may be traumatic. So can being teased by a teacher. Whether a negative experience has a big impact or small one depends on many, many factors that are outside of our control (...at least until we empower ourselves with an effective trauma relief technique). So if you are looking for pain relief, its important that you look at the traumas in your life that caused fear and suffering THEN so you can bring relief to yourself NOW. How can you tell that an old trauma still impacts you? When you focus your attention on the experience, your body responds with either intensity (anxiety, fear, nausea, increased pain, rigidity, anger, desire to run, etc.) or... you feel yourself disconnect from your body, like youre not there anymore, or dont want to be. How do old traumas feel once they have been resolved? Like turning on an old movie that you really didnt like the first time but you know you can just flip the channel. Or hearing an old song that might make you say Ick but doesnt cause grief, guilt, shame, or suffering anymore. Resolved traumas are like remembering the smell or taste of something that once made you get sick, without you feeling sick to your stomach NOW. Meaning, you dont forget ...you just are not affected painfully by them anymore. Youd describe the feeling as more neutral than upsetting anymore. Wouldnt that be nice!!

The really great news is that Energy Tapping techniques like EFT are a powerful and effective way to release old traumas and to help our body release chronic stresses. Tapping helps us to establish new, healthy energy patterns. And its been used by thousands and thousands of people to bring deep, permanent resolution to old traumas (including ones from this morning!) If you are new to tapping, there is a free guide http://www.thrivingnow.com/tapping Because many traumas resulted when we felt alone and unsupported, having the help of a strong, caring coach or tapping buddy can make the process much quicker and easier. The group coaching program at Thriving Now is a great option for this: http://www.thrivingnow.com/team We also have some free resources about how to do some inner tapping and the effect of trauma on the primitive brain. You can find our Trauma Relief Center here: http://www.thrivingnow.com/trauma Lets do some tapping on trauma in the body. (Please note that this can often bring up strong here:

emotions, so if you feel in your gut you need support for the process, we encourage you to get it before continuing). Where are you feeling pain right now? Place your hand softly on that area, and close your eyes, take a breath, and just feel into (gently probe) the area. What does it feel like? Does it feel cold? Does it feel angry? Does it feel hurt or sad? Just make your best guess on what the emotion might be, and lets do some tapping. Karate Chop: Even though this part of my body hurts, and there may be some old trauma stored right here... I deeply and completely love and accept myself, and this part of me. Even though Im not sure what the trauma is... I am open to clarity and understanding. I do want to feel better. Even though there may be trauma in my body, and that makes me feel scared... I send love and comfort to this part of my body, and ask it to help me release these old feelings so I can feel better. Eyebrow: This pain in my body. Side of Eye: This trauma in my body. Under Eye: I am ready to release it. Under Nose: My body has been holding it all this time. Chin: Waiting for me to notice. Collarbone: Thank you body! Under Arm: I send you comfort and love. Top of Head: You have been strong for me. Eyebrow: Im sorry you hurt. Side of Eye: Please give me clarity on what you need. Under Eye: It is ok to let go of the past. Under Nose: It is ok to feel better. Chin: This trauma has been frozen for a long time. Collarbone: But I am safe now. Under Arm: I thank my body for all it has done for me. Top of Head: And I invite it to help me release this trauma

now.

Take a deep breath. Notice how your body feels, and any thoughts or memories that might be coming up. It might be good to jot them down so you can tap on them when it feels right. By paying attention to your body and sending it comfort, you can begin to release old traumas and pain. Using Tapping (EFT) To Accelerate Pain Relief (Day 3 of 5) 5 Day Mini-Course by Cathy Vartuli and Rick Wilkes here:

Missed any? Links to previous days can be found http://www.thrivingnow.com/painreliefmini-3-cdc/

Day 3: Three Subconscious Beliefs That Could Be Hurting Your

Life

Do your beliefs effect how your body feels? Yes! Experts say that as much as 50 to 85% of our pain is caused by emotional distress. And our beliefs have a BIG impact on the negative emotions we chronically feel. Our bodies naturally want to be healthy, but negative emotions and beliefs intensify our stress levels, flood our body with the chemicals of fight-flight, and send disharmonious vibrations to every cell. Lets test this. For just a minute, remember a time that you felt guilty... Maybe you made a big mistake or hurt someones feelings. Notice how your body feels. Is it tense? Heavy? Are you suddenly noticing EVERY ache and pain??? Could you POSSIBLY feel good when focused on guilt? NO WAY!

When negative emotions and limiting beliefs crop up, they tune us to The Suffering Channel. Nothing we really want to see or hear is on The Suffering Channel.... So lets change channels! Take a deep breath. Shake your hands out. Feel your feet on the floor.

Now, remember a time that you felt peaceful and happy... a time when life just flowed and you did something you are really proud of. How does your body feel now? Lighter? Happier? Does it have a bit more of a healthy glow? Do you think it would be easier for your body to heal when it feels happy or when it is weighed down with pessimistic thoughts? Obviously, we all would choose to feel happy if we could. But theres something weird going on. And it doesnt make sense... UNTIL you understand how and why the subconscious holds onto these negative energies. Many of our beliefs are subconscious. We learned them when we were young and never questioned them. Our subconscious holds onto these beliefs until we look at them consciously and shift them. But our subconscious can literally BLIND us to those beliefs if it feels we need them to: keep us SAFE... or that it's just the way it is. Let's look at three common subconscious beliefs people hold about pain and illness. 1) I Don't Expect To Get Well

This may seem ridiculous to you. "Well, of course I expect to get well! Why else would I be reading this?!?" But if part of you has learned this belief, it may be hindering your progress. Try saying it out loud and see if there is any feeling of truth to it... anywhere in your body. If it seems true at any level, ask yourself where you learned this. Did you see someone fail to get well when you were young? Do you feel like you aren't strong enough? Are you too old to heal? By doing some tapping on this limiting belief, you clear the way to allow more relief. 2) I Deserve To Be Punished

If you feel like you've done something terrible, you may believe that you need to be punished. How better to punish someone than with pain? Pain prevents you from doing the things you love, or connecting to the ones you care about. Try saying aloud, I deserve to be punished and see if it feels true in your body.

Do any thoughts or memories come up? Why do you deserve to be punished? If your best friend did the same thing, in the same circumstances, would you hold her accountable to the same degree? By tapping on the reasons you deserve punishment, you will get clarity and understanding (and even a dose of self-forgiveness). 3) Its Not Fair!

If part of you is very angry and frustrated that you are suffering and are unable to do what you want, you have too much energy tied up in destructive emotions. Constantly fighting the feeling of unfairness stresses the body and makes it harder to heal. You might say, Of course Im angry! It isnt fair! Were certainly not here to tell you that you deserve the pain! But tapping on the anger and unfairness of the situation can soften the feelings and reduce the stress on your body and mind. When youre not fighting the feelings, you can often find new ways of looking at the issues, and you may find relief is closer than you thought. At the very least, relaxing can help your body feel calmer and use its energy for getting better rather than resisting the experience. These are just three common limiting beliefs. Humans are capable of any number of them. One of the big problems with subconscious beliefs is that we may not even know theyre there! Thats when a coach, a tapping buddy, or listening to recordings on the topic can help. By tapping and releasing your limiting beliefs, you open the door for your body to clear out the aches and pains, and move toward a healthier, happier you. Using Tapping (EFT) To Accelerate Pain Relief (Day 4 of 5) 5 Day Mini-Course by Cathy Vartuli and Rick Wilkes here:

Missed any? Links to previous days can be found http://www.thrivingnow.com/painreliefmini-4-ded/

Day 4: Help Your Body Feel Better By Shifting Your Emotional State Anxiety increases sensitivity to pain. Its also true for most of us that as we feel more pain, we get more anxious. As we get more anxious, we worry and feel less hopeful about our future. Our thoughts become tuned to The Suffering Channel. Unfortunately, research shows those anxious, depressing thoughts make our pain Now THAT is the definition of a vicious cycle! worse.

Energy Tapping (EFT) can break the cycle, calm the distressing emotions surrounding the pain, and actually reduce our sensitivity.

Each time we tap when were in a negative emotional state and bring ourselves some relief, we become more resilient. Negative emotions become easier to shift the more we practice. Regular tapping helps to keep us from becoming stuck in a bad place. Lets look at three common emotional states that often come up when we are suffering. 1) Im Taking Too Long to Heal Ignoring this feeling of impatience wont make it go away. Resisting it just saps your energy. But tapping on this emotional state can ease the intensity. Start out where you are... with whatever youre honestly feeling. Accept yourself where you are. As you release this state, you might be pleasantly surprised to notice that you are more aware of the ways you are changing and how frequently you do in fact feel better. 2) Im Ashamed of Myself

Lets face it, our society encourages us to tough it out and muscle through pain and illness. When we hurt, there is often a secret shame -- a thought that we should be braver, stronger, and have more willpower. But that very willpower may have driven us out of balance and into the painful place we are right now! What if what your body really needs is support? What if it hurts because its injured and stressed and needs care? What if you have nothing to be ashamed of? 3) Im Very Lonely

Being in pain can isolate you. When you hurt, you have less energy and enthusiasm for social events, less time and focus for making new friends and deepening the ones you have. Isolation is stressful to the body and the mind. We are social animals and while each of us may want more or less interaction, heart connection is healthy. By acknowledging the loneliness and tapping on the feelings, you can ease the tension around it. You can shift the loneliness from a hidden shame to a clear asking for more support. Being around people is also less stressful when you are in a calm, confident place. Karate Chop: Even though I am very lonely... I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though all this pain has isolated me, and I am very lonely... I am open to changing this, and I do accept myself and all I feel. Even though I am so very lonely, and that hurts, too... I am learning to release old beliefs and traumas and that leaves more room for people in my life. Eyebrow: I am very lonely. Side of Eye: The loneliness hurts my heart. Under Eye: I think I am ready to release it. Under Nose: I was stuck. Chin: But now I have new support. Collarbone: And I am healing my emotions... Under Arm: and my beliefs. Top of Head: Releasing old traumas.

Eyebrow: I have been very lonely. Side of Eye: I haven't had the energy to connect. Under Eye: But that is changing. Under Nose: And I ask the universe to help me notice new Chin: and re-connect with old ones. Collarbone: I am taking care of myself at a new level. Under Arm: I am open to a new circle of support, Top of Head: As I help my body feel safe and loved.

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Take a deep breath. Notice how your body feels. Jot down any thoughts or memories that might be coming up so you can tap on them when it feels right Using Tapping (EFT) To Accelerate Pain Relief (Day 5 of 5 Day Mini-Course by Cathy Vartuli and Rick Day 5: What Does Your Pain Want To Say? ilkes 5)

Were focusing on pain, but this technique can be used for anything. It can be used for your little red splotches on your skin, excess weight around your belly, a queasy stomach - anything that your body could use to signal you. It is easiest if you start by focused on a small pain or discomfort. If you have been struggling with back pain at an 8,9, 10 for two decades, that is not the best place to tart. Find a safe, quiet place. Focus on a place in your body that is uncomfortable, where there is a strain or tension. Close your eyes. Take a slow deep breath. Let your awareness go from the outside world to within your own body. Go within. Follow your breath into your body. Take another deep reath. If you can touch the location of the discomfort easily, place your fingertips or the flat of your hand (whatever feels right to you) on that spot. If you cant reach the spot, just focus your attention on t. Now, as if youre asking a friend, ask that part of your body: What do you want to tell me? Be quiet a moment and let any emotions or thoughts just flow. Your body may whisper at first if its not used to being heard. Your body may respond in different ways. You might feel some resistance. You may also hear the inner critic at first. The inner critic will sometimes come in hard and fast (and not sound very supportive). Acknowledge that, and go deeper within. Allow yourself to listen for a more supportive voice. If you had a voice there, who cared about you and wanted to give you some information, what might it say? You can also imagine that youre listening to a scared child tell you what frightened them. Try not to be demanding or impatient... just soft and compassionate: What would you like to tell me? This part of you may also give you a picture or give you a feeling that reminds you of something. Some people are more visual and may see rather than hear. Even if you just got silence, its a good start! Youre learning to listen... to bring your attention to the peaceful place beyond the noise and self-criticism... and to tune into your deeper intelligence. Whether you get an answer now or not, ask that part of your body: What do you need? See if you

get an answer. See if it tells you: Id like some rest, or, I need some love. It might ask for something strange. You never know. Each time you get answer, wonderful! Thank your body for communicating with you. If you can, give your body what it asks for or do some tapping on the emotions around whatever is coming up. If you didnt get clarity, try to gentle with yourself. Your body may be in shock that youre actually listening to it! The good news is that, with a little practice, the skill will develop. You might also be having some resistance about tuning in, especially if youre afraid about what your body might say or want. This technique can take a little time to learn, but it is well worth the time and focus. Your own personal inner guidance is the absolute best way for you to know what is best FOR YOU... what YOUR body needs NOW (even at 3am in the morning). Youre also changing the relationship between You and Your Body. When were in pain, we can feel like the body is working against us (perhaps is even our enemy). By treating the body like it is a friend-in-need, the whole energy dynamic changes from conflict to partnership, from discord to ealing. Lets do some tapping to help us clear the blocks to learning this new approach. Karate Chop: Even though Im really resistant to listening to my body, and Im not really sure I want to hear what it has to say, I am still a good person and maybe this is worth trying. Even though Im not getting this right away, I didnt hear a thing, and that really frustrates me (or I heard it, and I didnt believe it, or I heard it, and its confusing - feel free to change the words to whatever fits for you), I am still a good person, and Im learning to love and accept and listen to my body. Even though Im really resistant to hearing what it has to say, Im open to establishing a better relationship with my body. Top of the Head: Im not sure I want to do this! Eyebrow: What if my body says what I dont want to hear? Side of the Eye: What if it says something I cant do? Under the Eye: Im scared. Under the Nose: I guess I could just listen a little bit. Chin: It cant be any worse than what is going on right now. Collarbone: I havent been listening to my body for awhile. Under the Arm: I can always stop listening... Top of the Head: And I dont have to do what my body says. Eyebrow: It might be nice to know what would bring relief. Side of the Eye: I cant be any more lost than I am right now. Under the Eye: Maybe it will ask me for something nice. Under the Nose: Maybe it will give me good insight. Chin: What if my relationship with my body improves. Collarbone: Id like to feel better. Under the Arm: Im open to giving it another try. Take a deep breath and notice how you feel. Does your body feel more alert? More open? More curious?This inner guidance can be used for much more than pain relief. And learning it can open

many doorways. If you find yourself struggling with the process of learning to listen to your body, it is ok to ask for help Flight, Fight, or Hi ioleta! reeze

In the Trauma and the Primitive Brain video, we talk about Flight, Fight, and Freeze responses. Let's go into a bit more detail ere. Say you are a 5-year-old kid on the playground swinging. You're enjoying the day and the warm breeze. You are all alone, lost in your own daydreams. Suddenly, the 8-year-old school bully pulls you off the swing and threatens to hit you. You have three instinctive responses. You could try to escape (Flight). Running away makes a lot of sense if someone is bigger than we are! We are often surprisingly strong and fast when we feel threatened. The primitive brain pumps adrenaline and other chemicals through our body, giving our muscles lots of power. The chemicals also cause us to be more resilient to pain so we can function, even if we're wounded. If you escape, your primitive brain will define your successful flight as "proof" that you can take care of yourself... that you are empowered and capable... that you can handle what the world throws at you. While you might be appropriately wary of going to the playground by yourself now, you most likely will not have developed a strong negative associations (fears) with swings, daydreaming, or being lone. Because you were "successful," the details of the event do not get "trapped" in the primitive brain and get passed to the cognitive brain (our modern "thinking" brain). That means you can make logical decisions about what happened and decide how to keep yourself safe in the future. If flight is not an option, you could attack the bully (Fight). Again, the chemicals surging in our bodies when we are threatened give us increased strength. You might win, or at least startle him enough so that you can get away. If you do fight and get away, the primitive brain sees a positive outcome, and the cognitive brain processes the experience in a way that is likely to leave you more resilient rather than "irrationally cared." If you can't get run away, and you can't fight, (or you had previous traumas that precondition you not to even try!), your primitive brain will cause you to reeze. Freezing is a useful survival mechanism. Just as the bobcat might lose interest in the frozen rabbit, but kill it if it sees it moving around or struggling, a frozen child might be boring or frightening to the bully. He might just decide you're not worth it and leave you lone. Whether freezing causes the bully to back off, or you receive some swift kicks while frozen, you still have an overload of survival chemicals in your system that must be purged! How? Wild animals will normally shake, tremble, run in place, or do other activities that discharge the effect of these chemicals on their body. The natural human process is to do the same thing. We also have the option of receiving comfort and support at home (which releases counteracting chemicals). Unfortunately, of us are trained out of allowing our body to release this energy in a natural way. We

are told to "calm down," "pull it together," "stop overreacting," and the ol' favorite, "big boys don't cry." And for many frightening experiences, "home comfort" is not available because it was at home the trauma occurred! Or, our response is trivialized. We are told to "get over it," "it's not a big deal," and another ol' favorite, "it's your fault... you should have known etter." When we naturally purge the survival chemicals, it shows the primitive brain that we did survive, and we are safe and resilient. This allows the cognitive brain to start processing the information and throwing out the irrelevant associations. Studies show that you can actually feel more empowered and capable after you've faced challenges and survived... as long as the trauma is discharged in a healthy way. However, if we do not discharge the trauma, the primitive brain never releases the event. It stays frozen. Since the cognitive brain doesn't get to process what happened, strange associations may occur. We might become terrified of daydreaming, swinging, or being alone out in the open... whatever the primitive brain grabbed onto as the "cause" of the helplessness. Since helplessness and disempowerment are intensely frightening emotions, we may go to extremes to avoid those feelings. If we never unfreeze, the primitive brain may also decide that we are not good at handling life events... or even that the whole world is unsafe. This leads to an underlying feeling of fear and inadequacy. When we are not sure we can survive, we feel more insecure in our skin... whether we show that by walking around with shoulders slumped or hiding it behind false bravado. So how do we release old frozen memories? How do we allow the primitive brain to relax and feel good about life and our apabilities? We tap on the memory. This seems to allow the primitive brain to "update its files" and realize that the event is truly over. The part of our energy that was frozen and trapped in the event can finally be released. Strange associations are cleared out. We get relief, and this relief gives us a sense of renewed well-being and re-empowerment.

Introduction
Energy Tapping (also called Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT) can bring you quick, effective RELIEF from stress, anxiety, overwhelm, pain and suffering, distressing thoughts, disturbing memories, and limiting beliefs. It can help you connect with your inner power and transform procrastination and frustration so you can achieve your dreams. Tapping can remove the blocks to abundance, love, and vitality. To some, this may sound far-fetched. It sounded that way to us at first, too. After all, there are so many people promising miracle cures that just dont work. But were not promising

Were just inviting you to try it out for yourself and see. We are both engineers and we like practical approaches that work efficiently. Weve seen for ourselves and our thousands of clients that gently tapping on these acupuncture points can shift old beliefs and fears quickly and help you reach your desires. Weve seen incredible results and you can, too! (You can see some of the testimonials weve received at http://www.thrivingnow.com/testimonials).

What is Energy Tapping (EFT)?

We humans touch, hold, pat, and rub ourselves for comfort and always have. We naturally reach out to comfort others. We feel powerful emotions some that feel good and some that feel bad. And we talk to ourselves even though our self-talk is often critical rather than accepting and encouraging. Tapping is a simple and easy-to-use process where you: 1) tune into your body-mind, 2) speak a truth about how you feel right now, and 3) choose how youd like to feel 4) all while tapping on specific natural comfort points. This unique combination helps you shift your physical and emotional energy in the direction of relief towards feeling really good.

What Can You Use Tapping For?

Tapping gives you instant access to relief at your fingertips. It helps brings the energy of your whole being into alignment. Spending a few minutes tapping can bring intense negative emotions down to manageable levels and allow new insights and options to come to mind. It can allow you to connect more deeply with others and yourself. Tapping can help you change resistance and procrastination into insight and creativity with renewed inspiration and direction for your day. You can use Tapping to relieve physical pain as well. Most physical pain has an emotional component. By tapping on the painalong with any guilt, shame, anger, resentment, worry, or frustration behind itmany people find their pain decreasing or even disappearing entirely. With Tapping your body can finally stop holding onto the stuck energy and start moving towards natural vitality and health. Not only can Tapping bring relief from negative emotions, it can help you remove blocks to deep and abiding happiness. Tapping on long-standing fears, old traumas, and negative self-worth will open the door to more peace, love, and joy in your life. Tapping makes life easier. Instead of forcing yourself through your days with effort and willpower, you can find yourself flowing naturally and easily, without resistance or numerous distractions. Why not give it a try?

Tapping Points Diagram

Where Did Energy Tapping Come From?

Have you ever seen someone rub their forehead when they were stressed? Or clutch the base of their throat when shocked? Hold their heart when it is breaking? And of course, we pat babies to soothe them when they are upset. Touch is comforting. Were wired for it. Tapping is a gentle form of soothing touch. There are some key points where the flow of the bodys energy is more accessible. Such points were discovered and documented a long time ago. In fact, the Chinese have been stimulating these points through touch (acupressure) and needles (acupuncture) for over 5000 years! Its also from traditional Chinese medicine that we learned about the flow of vital energy (chi or qi) along meridian pathways. Since the tapping points are found on these meridians, EFT or Energy Tapping is also known as Meridian Tapping. Starting in the 1960s and 70s with George Goodheart and John Diamond and further refined in the 80s and 90s by Roger Callahan, Patricia Carrington, Gary Craig, Fred Gallo, Donna Eden, Carol Look, and many others, the benefits of tapping on the meridian acupoints has been extensively documented. Experience shows that tapping can shift our beliefs and thoughts quickly and with much less pain than conventional therapies. There are lots of theories on how and why it works, but no one can say for sure. (We just see the positive results.) Scientific studies do show that the electrical resistance in the skin at the meridian acupoints is much lower than the rest of the body. Brain wave studies show energy tapping affects the deep subconscious. However it works, tapping seems to activate our bodys innate self-healing intelligence and allows us to transform our lives. Case histories abound showing astounding changes in anxieties, fears, and phobias. Hundreds of thousands of people use it to improve their relationships, their ability to work, and how much they enjoy life.

Quick Relief
Some people report one minute miracles where long lasting changes occur in minutes. Weve had them ourselves personally and with clients. Theyre wonderful! Astonishingly rapid, permanent relief has sold many people on using Tapping for themselves and with others. Search the internet and youll find thousands of cases of quick, permanent relief for phobias, physical pains, and more all using Energy Tapping (EFT).

Rich Emotional Rewards Compounding Over Time

As exciting as such special cases are, they do not happen for everyone or every time which is okay! (It doesnt mean youre doing it wrong or that nothing will work for you.) Indeed, as experts in this field, what most excites us every day is seeing the way people deeply benefit from tapping over time.

- Anxious Annie becomes surprisingly calm and confident. - Blocked Bob discovers his inner direction and self-worth. - Lonely Lisa heals her heart and revels in new passions. - Selfless Sally starts taking care of herself for a change. - Timid Ted makes new friends and learns to dance. - Worried Wanda develops deep inner peace and strength. Isnt that what you want, too? To discover your own authentic strengths and develop them so they are strong and resilient to be able to see life from new, more empowering perspectives to love and co-create within healthy relationships? To us, thats true emotional freedom. And it is what Tapping is really perfectly suited to help you achieve. You can learn more about where Energy Tapping (EFT) came from in our History of Tapping.

Okay, How Do I Tap?

Getting started is very simple. It takes about 2-5 minutes to learn the basics. Children love this, too. It empowers them to feel better! Once you learn the points, you can start tapping on whatever is important to you. We include some examples to get you started, and you can find many more tapping ideas and help freely available on our website www.thrivingnow.com With two or three fingers of either hand, lightly tap with your fingertips on the locations shown in the Tapping Points Diagram (above). As you do, you will repeat a phrase to help focus on the emotional and physical feelings. Use the same pressure you would use if you were tapping on a table to make a drumming sound. You want to make contact, but not hurt yourself or cause discomfort. Tap roughly 3-7 times in each location. Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap. If you have long fingernails, use the pads near the end of your fingers to tap.

We start by tapping on the Karate Chop point where we typically make 1-3 Even though statements (to tune into your body-mind, your emotions, and give the energy a direction towards relief) while tapping continuously. This is the area of your hand that you would use to karate chop something. Tap with the other hand, using your fingertips. (Some people rub the Sore Spot as an alternative to the Karate Chop point. It is located about four inches down from the point of the collarbone and a few inches out from your heart. You can rub this area gentle with a few fingers. Either location will work fine, so use what is easiest for you.) Next, we move to the Top of the Head and use the fingertips on one or both hands to tap. There are a bunch of energy points here, and you can tap in the center, or find a spot or two that feels good to you. Some people even use the flat of their hand to pat the entire top of the head. Now well work down the body. (This makes the points easier to remember. The order is not crucial; dont worry if you skip one, and you can even do the points in reverse. Tapping is very forgiving.)

The Eyebrow points are located at the beginning of the eyebrow, nearest the center of the face. You can use the index and middle fingers together, on either or both hands, to tap the eyebrow points. (Some people start at this point rather than the top of the head; it does not matter.) The Side of the Eye points are located on the bones at the outside of the eyes. The points are not so close to the eye that you blink and not so far away that you are tapping in the softer temple area. Using the index and middle fingers together, tap on either one or both side of the eye points. The Under the Eye points are on the bone located under the eye even with the pupils. Using the fingertips of the index and middle fingers, softly tap this spot under either or both eyes. Be gentle here; it is a sensitive area. Now tap Under the Nose. The spot is roughly midway between the bottom of the nose and the top of the lip. The Chin point is not really on the tip of the chin; it is midway between the bottom of the lower lip and the chin, in that indentation area. For the Collarbone points find the start of one of your collarbones at the base of your throat and move about an inch down and an inch outward towards your shoulder. You can use two to four fingers together on either hand to tap the collarbone spots (or tap both at the same time). These are powerful points for stress and anxiety relief. Many people use the collarbone points all by themselves when they feel anxious. The Under the Arm points are located about 4 inches below the armpits (about mid-bra line on a woman). You can reach across to tap (for example, lift your left arm and use the four fingers of your right hand to tap under your left arm) or lift your arm up and use the hand on the same side to tap, whichever feels more comfortable. We often return to the Top of the Head and tap. This can help the round feel complete. Of course, you can end at any point. You can start at the eyebrow or top of the head. You can leave out points, too. Energy Tapping is flexible and accommodates many variations. You dont have to do it perfectly. Your energy system is connected so each point you tap resonates throughout the system. It can also be very helpful to tune into your body, see how it feels, tap where it seems to want to, and stop when it feels right.

These are the nine comfort points that are most often used in Energy Tapping (out of 400+ points that are recognized in acupuncture). They are also the primary tapping points used in Meridian Tapping Techniques (MTT) and in the short form of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT).

Lets Put It All Together

Well now combine the basic tapping sequence with tuning into your body-mind, speaking a truth about how you feel right now, and choosing how youd like to feel. 1. Tune-in. Where do you feel discomfort or distress? What does it feel like? Be as specific as possible. Ideally, include the location, the description of the feeling, and what the emotion is. (Worried is a bit too general. This tight knot of worry in my forehead is better.) 2. Note your starting intensity (0-10), with 0 being no intensity and 10 being very intense: ____. (If you dont know, guess. It helps you tune into the feeling and how it does or does not shift after the tapping.) 3. While continuously tapping on the karate chop point, emphatically say your set-up statement three times. This statement typically includes the first part that speaks a truth about how you feel right now (from step 1), followed by a choice about how youd like to feel. In this example, weve chosen a statement of self-acceptance: Even though _______________ (I have this knot of worry in my forehead), I deeply and completely accept myself. (Repeat 3 times.) 4. Tap on each of the points approximately 3-7 times, re-stating your issue (the reminder phrase) at each point: This _______________ (knot of worry in my forehead). - Top of head - Eyebrow - Side of eye - Under the eye - Under the nose - Chin - Collarbone - Under the arm - Back to the top of head 5. Take a deep breath! 6. Note your ending intensity (0-10), with 0 being no intensity (its gone!) and 10 being very intense: ______. If its above a 2, repeat the steps above. You can also make the following changes as you tap: - Modify the set-up statement in step (2) to Even though I still have some of this _________, I deeply and completely accept myself. - Change the reminder phrase to Remaining ________.

- Be more specific. What is the best way to describe what you are now feeling? The physical feeling or the emotion in the pain may move or change. Thats progress! Youve got your energy moving!

Tip #01: No "Wrong"

by Rick Wilkes, Thriving Now,

Words!
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"I just can't seem to come up with the right words." So many people new to tapping get wrapped up in having the perfect words to say. They learn the points, start listening to audio sessions, and have a pretty good idea of where they would like to use Energy Tapping to make improvements in their life. But they don't act. They feel so stymied about where to start and what to say that they don't tap. I'm here to tell you... there are no "wrong" words when they come from within YOU. How is that possible? Let me explain. Energy Tapping is based on the premise that all negative emotions are caused by a disruption in the body's energy system. We connect with those negative emotions by describing them. This description need not be articulate. It need not even strike our brains as particularly truthful or accurate! If they are YOUR words being used to connect with a feeling YOU are feeling, then they are PERFECT. They don't even have to be words. For example, if you have this feeling in the pit of your stomach, you can use the following Energy Tapping sequence. Start at the Karate Chop point and say three times: "Even though I have this feeling in my stomach, I deeply and completely accept myself." Then tap the points and make the noise (you can use the same phrase at all the points or change at each point, either way is ok): Top of the Head: "This feeling." Eyebrow: "This horrible feeling." Side of the Eye: "I hate this feeling." Under the Eye: "This feeling." Under the Nose: "I wish this feeling would go Chin: "This feeling." Collarbone: "This terrible feeling." Under arm: "This feeling in my stomach". Top of the Head: "This feeling." Take a deep breath....

away."

You can use a feeling, a feeling, a feeling, a feeling... you make the noise, and Energy Tapping will help. So... if you can use some weird noise and have Energy Tapping work, can you imagine that whatever words come up for you will also work?

The words (or the noises) are just a way for you to acknowledge what is present. If you feel "nothing" then tap, "Even though I feel nothing, I deeply and completely accept myself!" Energy Tapping is very flexible.

Tip #02: I Keep Judging Myself!

by Rick Wilkes, Thriving Now, LLC What do you do if your self-judgment gets in the way of tapping? It isn't fun to do something when you are constantly feeling criticized! There is no judge here. No one is grading you. If you are grading you, now is a great time to learn to be gentle with yourself. You can't get it wrong! Your technique will become more to your liking over time and with practice. So sit back and enjoy the process, both the learning and the feelings. And if that seems as possible as flying to the moon, tap with whatever angry, judgmental thoughts come into your head. Tap about your discouragement that nothing has worked. Tap with your feelings that you will never get it right. Tap with your belief that, "This won't work, because nothing ever works for me... even though it works for everybody else!" Tap with whatever words show up. Tap with whatever noises show up. Or, Tap in silent fuming. Tap in silent distress. You may feel your faults and shame and guilt and failures make you unredeemable... make it impossible for you to heal or get this right. But you cannot say the wrong things when you tap. You cannot say the wrong things in prayer. And if a part of you finds it hard to say, "I deeply and completely accept myself" then try "I am in the process of learning to love and accept myself". Tap on the Karate Chop point: "Even though I feel worthless sometimes, I am in the process of deeply and completely accepting myself anyway." "Even though anyone who accepts me just doesn't know me, I am deeply and completely accepted." "Even though I feel so WRONG, I choose to know... somewhere inside me... some place still clean and untouched by pain... that I am deeply and completely accepted." Then Tap: Top of the Head: "I have felt so wrong." Eyebrow: "I have failed at times." Side of the Eye: "I have been guilty." Under the Eye: "I have done wrong." Under the Nose: "I have been wronged." Chin: "I have felt wrong". Collarbone: "I have known shame." Under the Arm: "And I am sorry." Top of the Head: "It is time for me to heal."

Eyebrow: "I accept my feelings." Side of the Eye: "I choose to heal." Under the Eye: "I'm okay." Under the Nose: "I'm feeling better." Chin: "I am taking positive steps." Collarbone: "I am relaxing." Under the Arm: "I am finding myself." Top of the Head: "And I deeply and completely accept myself. No matter what." And take a big, deep breath.... Notice what particular thoughts or memories might come up around this tapping. Those are great places to do some further work!

I Cant Ask For Help (But I Want To)... Hi Violeta! Did you learn you are supposed to do it all yourself... and NOT ask for help? Is getting help a sign of weakness? Many of us were taught these rules by the way the people around us acted. Mom was just really tired that night, but when she snapped at you when you asked for help, you got the message! When Dad looked at you like you like you were stupid when you said you didnt know how... it HURT. No wonder so many of us learn to pretend and fake it and feel inadequate and alone. And distrusting. Human beings need support in order to really thrive. Orphan babies that receive just the bare basics... food and clean diapers... often DIE when they are not touched... when their emotional needs are not tended to. No matter our age, one of the most overwhelming and frightening experiences a human can face is isolation and neglect. Have you been neglecting yourself? Do you tell yourself to figure it out on your own? Do you tell yourself you SHOULD ALREADY know how to do this? That you should have the willpower to get it done on your own without having to lean on anyone else? What if there is an easier way? (And yes, it is okay for it to be easy even if you were taught

otherwise a tapping subject for another time.) Practical, intuitive, responsive, and caring support can make all the difference in the world. Practical support honors your day-to-day reality (pain, finances, relationship and physical stresses) while it helps you clear your blocks and self-limiting beliefs. Intuitive support is crucial when those blocks and limiting beliefs are subconscious and based on hidden causes and old traumas. Responsive and caring support as part of a group helps our primitive brain relax which means it stops reacting and starts learning and growing. When you belong to such a circle of support, you naturally find it easier to stop repeating the same old patterns. You feel confident trying better approaches and moving forward. Were not talking about being dependent on anyone! There is a world of difference between support and entanglement. Find people who help you expand your choices and your freedom rather than those who limit your world and your options because they know best. Here are 2 good ways to tell if a person or group is empowering rather than limiting: 1) If someone insists on telling you what you should do, or what you must do... they are not compatible with freedom-loving individuals like us. If they encourage and help you to discover your own best options, to find your own truth such teachers and coaches are truly interested in your growth and your happiness. 2) If they say they are the ONLY one with the right information (you cant get it ANYWHERE ELSE!!!), you must follow their rules or else, and they disapprove of you working with any other professionals... they are not respecting your innate curiosity and independence. By contrast, if they know there are many doorways to healing and joy, and they are delighted when you discover the clarity of your own guidance, youve got a good match if you are looking for emotional freedom. For the past five years, the Thriving Now Team has focused on empowering our members to know their own guidance and inner strength. If you do not already have a supportive circle of support, we welcome you to ours. Join today: http://www.thrivingnow.com/team Allowing Yourself To Ask For Support If youre having trouble asking for help, thats okay. A lot of people do! Ask yourself where you learned this. - Did your family encourage you to be self-sufficient? - Did your teacher yell at you when you asked for help?

Knowing what experiences set this rule in place can help you shift it. Lets tap on this belief. The tapping points and instructions can be found here: http://www.thrivingnow.com/tapping Karate Chop: Even though I learned that I shouldnt need help, Im open to allowing more support into my life. Even though Im not supposed to ask for help, I am tired of struggling and hurting and I would like some support now. Even though Ive been trying to do it all myself, that just isnt fun, and Im willing to try something new. Top of the Head: I shouldnt need support. Eyebrow: I cant ask for help. Side of the Eye: That would mean Im weak Under the Eye: or that Im stupid. Under the Nose: Im supposed to figure it all out myself. Chin: But that feels overwhelming. Collarbone: I wish I could ask for help, Under the Arm: but I dont think thats allowed. Top of the Head: What if I could? Eyebrow: It wasnt safe back then, Side of the Eye: but it might be now. Under the Eye: I really want some support. Under the Nose: I want help figuring this out. Chin: Maybe Im smart if I choose to get help. Collarbone: Maybe Im strong. Under the Arm: I do want more success and happiness. Top of the Head: It would be easier if I had some support. Eyebrow: It would be faster, too. Side of the Eye: What if I could get help with this, Under the Eye: and feel good about it? Under the Nose: I am tired of doing it all alone. Chin: Im ready for caring support. Collarbone: Im ready for encouragement and new skills. Under the Arm: I can allow support into my life, Top of the Head: and still feel good about me! Take a deep breath. If youre ready for support for your goals, we invite you to join us. Were delighted to help, whether your dreams include financial abundance, better body image, more confidence, career or business success, releasing pain and old traumas, or finding more freedom and happiness in your life. For a limited time, to help you get a fast start, new members receive a free 20 minute telephone or Skype consultation with Rick, a $57 value!

Thriving Now Team Group Coaching Program http://www.thrivingnow.com/team The help you have given me has and will continue to transform me, my awareness of myself (body, mind, and spirit) and of those around me. I know this is lifelong and for that I will be eternally grateful. Your sensitivity and deep understanding is beyond anything I have ever known and what I take with me is a new understanding of my body and how to listen and understand. I have found that when I really listen the answers come my heart now and it is much more sensible than my inner critic! Helen