HAVING CHILDREN OR NOT?

(for) The population of the world is getting bigger and bigger due to the need of people to have babies. Most people want to have babies, they even worry about whether they will be able to have any children, but it is interesting that some of them do not like to have children. Although a minority of people see children as a burden financially and psychologically, and do not want to bring children to a world full of uncertainty, danger and chaos, having children brings happiness and meaning to ones life and it is in human nature to procreate. To begin with, we cannot deny that children bring happiness and meaning to our lives. Maybe we cannot know this before we have children, but all the same, we hear about that happiness from our parents. I think having a baby is similar to having an aim in our lives. Most of us have targets in life such as graduating from university, doing a masters or doing academic career because reaching these targets will satisfy ourselves and living will be more meaningful. Raising a child can be an aim like these, because bringing up a human being from our own blood and flesh, and sacrificing our own will and desires for his good will be more satisfactory than anything. Thus, it is impossible to see our child as a financial and psychological burden since we do not think he is different from us. On the contrary, we would have fun giving him everything he needs. Secondly, it is instinctive to procreate, forming a new living being from our own genes. It is in human nature and we cannot prevent the urge to have a baby because it is in our hormonal system and nature. Some people assert that it is selfish to bring children to a world full of uncertainty, danger and chaos but this world is created for humans to live and we have to procreate, continue our daily lives. The real selfishness is getting afraid of losing our comfort for having a baby. Taking everything into account, having a baby must be enjoyable and must bring happiness to our lives although we have to sacrifice from ourselves. They will be a part of our bodies and we will not regret bringing them to this world.

agaist Most people want to get married and have children. Perhaps they want to leave a trace or offspring after them, so that they become somehow immortal. And it is commonly said that children are the ultimate bliss in our lives. Although many people agree with this statement, to my mind, it is not true. Firstly, it is always claimed that having children brings happiness and meaning to ones life. To raise them well becomes an ideal for parents. However, I think that although this may be true, children are also a financial and psychological burden for parents. To have children is to have responsibility. Parents spend all their time and money on their children, for their education, clothing and other needs, and do not have much time or money left for themselves. Secondly, many people assert that it is in human nature to procreate and to see a part of them continue to live. However, I do not believe that it is necessarily instinctive. There are a lot of people who do not have any children and they do not have a tendency to see a part of them continue to live. I think having children for this reason is very old-fashioned. We can have other accomplishments in life for our name or fame continue. Finally, it is commonly stated that children are our insurance for our old age and that when we get older they will take care of us. Although there are many people who think so, I believe that they are no guarantee against loneliness in old age. Usually children, whether they are married or not, leave their homes. Besides, it is very selfish to have children for insurance. If you have a child, you have to accept the fact that he/she is also an individual and has his/her own needs, and will eventually have his/her own life separate from yours. To sum up, for most people it might be the biggest happiness to have children. However, I firmly believe that to have children is not everything in life. People can also live full and accomplished lives without children.