INTERVIEW Lived experiences of a single working father, his struggles in life,values in life.

Background of the story: Mr.Emmanuel Caya ya ,a !" years old,a separated,has one son in his custody,living in Cavite city.#he researcher would like to know how he experienced struggles, re$ection,frustrations of a single working dad

%Excerpts from an interview with Emman& 'esearcher: (lang taon ka na) %*ow old are you& Emman: !" years old

'esearcher: +nong natapos mo) %,hat course did you finish)& Emman: Bachelor of -cience in Computer Engineer and Masters in (nformation and #echnology 'esearcher:Bakit yon ang kinuha mong course) %,hy did you choose to take up those course& Emman:.asi that time konti pa lang ang kumukuha ng ganong course at konti lang ang pumapasa sa course na yan. %Because that time there are limited person who take up that course and there/s only few who passed in that course&

'esearcher:+no ano naman ang naging tra aho mo) %,hat kind of $o did you do in the past) Emman: Madami,0aging technical support assistant ako,#apos naging programmer ako sa a road,#apos pag alik ko sa 1ilipinas,programmer uli ako,naging analyst,consultant at saka naging professor sa mga different universities sa manila.#apos,nag work uli ako sa a road as Computer Engineer,pag alik ko uli sa 1ilipinas,naging entrepreneur ako and consultant %#here/s a lot, (/ve een a technical support assiatant, then i/ve ecome a programmer in a road, then after ( go ack to the 1hilippines, (/ve een a programmer again,ive een an analyst, consultant and (/ve also work as professor in different universities in manila, #hen, i/ve work again in a road as Computer Engineer, then i go ack again in the 1hilippines, ( then ecome a entrepreneur and consultant. 'esearcher: -a lahat ng mga naging tra aho mo,anong gusto mong alikan %2f all your work in the past,what do you want to go ack in)& Emman: Being a teacher,gusto kong ipasa lahat ng natutunan ko %Being a teacher,( want to pass all my knowledge& 'esearcher:0gayon,anong pinagkakaa alahan mo) %,hat keeps u usy nowadays& Emman: Managing my usiness and the same time, (/ve een taking care of my son

'esearcher:-o,masasa i mo a na fulfilled ka na sa uhay mo) %-o,you think you already fulfilled) Emman:3inancially,oo pero sa personal life ko,hindi kasi wala sa akin yung asawa ko %3inancially,yes ut not to my personal life,my wife is not here with me&

'esearcher:Bakit nawala sayo ang asawa mo) %,hy,did you loose your wife)& Emman:Marami kasi kaming difference,(/m !".she/s 4! %#here/s a lot if things that we do not agreed,may e it/s ecause of our age difference,(/m !",she/s 4!& 'esearcher:*indi ka a nahihirapan na may inaasikaso kang usiness at the same time nasa iyo ang anak mo) %+re you not having a hard time that you run a usiness and at the same time do you have a son to take care)& Emman:*indi naman may kinuha naman akong tagapag alaga ng anak ko %0ot exactly,( do have a nanny to take care of my son& 'esearcher:(lang taon na yung anak mo) %*ow old is your son)& Emman:"" months old 'esearcher:.ontento ka na a sa uhay mo ngayon,kaw lang mag isa nagpapalaki ng anak mo) %+re you contented in your life right now that you/re the only one who is raising your child)& Emman:*indi,mahirap mag isa.1akiramdam ko may kulang %0o,(t/s so hard to e alone&( feel there/s something lacking 'esearcher:+no yung mga kulang na yon) %,hat do you think what/s lacking)& agay na hindi napapagkasunduan dahil siguro sa age

Emman:5ung pakiramdam na may nag aasikaso sayo,yung may pro lema ka meron kang karamay %#he feeling that there/s someone that taking care of you,that when you have pro lems,you have someone to shared your pro lems& Despite of being financially stable and quite impressive on what he has achieve in his carrer, he is still not happy because he said that theres lacking on his life, he said that he is not contented with his life and feels that there are missing piece in his life. As he said in the interview ,one of the reason why they have many arguments is their age differences. Probably because Emman is already ! years old and her wife is !" years younger,and because of this, they have different likes and dislikes, they have different outlooks in life. #e is tend to be matured enough to his younger wife.And that results to many arguments on their side.And hes longing of his wife and he wants someone to tale care of him.

'esearcher:*indi mo a nami miss ang asawa mo) %+re you not missing your spouse)& Emman:0a mi miss %( miss her& 'esearcher:+nong nararamdaman mo kapag may nakikita kang mag anak na uo ang pamilya) %,hat do you feel when you see families that are together)& Emman:6usto ko ganon din kami,ako kasama ko yung ina ng anak ko, uo kami %( want us to e like them,( want to e with the mother of my son,that we are one 'esearcher:*indi ka a naiingit sa kanila)

%+re you not envy with them)& Emman:*onestly,2o %*onestly,5es& 'esearcher:0aniniwala ka a na may pag asa pa na magka ayos kayo) %7id you elieve that do you still have a chance )& Emman: -a tingin ko naman,meron %3rom the way i see it,there is& 'esearcher:1inapahalagahan mo pala ang pag aasawa) %5ou are valuing marriage)& Emman:2o naman,kaya lang may mga agay talaga kasi na di pa namin naayos na mag asawa.pero alam ko darating din ang araw magkaka ayos din kami %2f course, ut there are things that we are not yet done reconciling ut ( know that time will come that we can patch up our diffrences&

#ere, he is e$periencing problems being a single dad or separated because whenever he sees a complete family, he is envious and really wanted to have a complete family again.#e is being envious to other people who has a complete family. #e values marriage but admit that there are still things that are need to reconcile with his wife. %ou will see that despite of what happened to them, he is still hoping that one day they will be together again and eventually patch things up.

'esearcher:Bukod sa family pro lems,nasu ukan mo na ang matanggihan) %Except for family pro lems,did you experience that you are eing re$ected)& Emman:2o naman %5es,of course&

'esearcher:-a anong aspeto) %(n what aspect)&

Emman:-a tra aho %(n work& 'esearcher:Bakit anong tra aho yon) %,hy),hat kind of $o is that)& Emman:5ong makapag work sa a road as regional manager %#o e a le to work in a road as regional manager& 'esearcher:Bakit ka na re$ect sa tra aho) %,hy did they re$ect you)& Emman:.asi re8uirements nila don uo ang pamilya,dahil makakasama ko dapat mag migrate.+nd ( think im a failure to that %Because one of their re8uirements are that you have a complete family ecause we need to e together to migrate,and ( think i/m a failure to that. 'esearcher:0awawalan ka a ng pag asa) %+re you loosing hope)& Emman9*indi naman,life goes on %0ot at all. life goes on& 'esearcher:1atuloy ka ang lala an sa uhay) %,ill you still fight with life)& Emman:2o naman: %2f course:&

Eventhough he has achieved a lot in his carrer ,#e is also e$periencing some disappointments and re&ection in life because of his situation in one part of the interview he said that one company turned him down because one of the requirements is to have a complete family, because here you will see the &udgment of people or rather an employer that those people are not successful in their marriage, are not qualified on the aspect of having a good personal life, maybe because companies tend to think that unsuccessful marriage will not be qualified and successful to his &ob, because there is already a failure on the personal life of the employee. #e also admit on the interview that these aspects are his failures in life, %ou will learn that at this point in time of his life, Emman knows what his failures and hes trying to overcome his mistake and failures. Emman like one &ust the rest of us e$periencing pains in life but still dont want to give up. %ou will also hear to Emman that he will continue fighting with his life that he is still have a positive outlook in life despite of the re&ections that he e$perience in his career being a single dad.