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Phone Flirting

The Secret to Amazing Phone Conversations with Women

By Steve Scott

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Table of Contents
Disclaimer ................................................................. 4 Introduction .............................................................. 5 The Goal of Phone Conversations ................................ 10 Getting Your Number (The Right Way) ......................... 16 The Timing of Your Phone Call .................................... 24 Phone Anxiety.......................................................... 29 5 Rules for Calling Women ......................................... 33 The Beginning of the Phone Call ................................. 40 The Middle of the Phone Call ...................................... 44 The End of the Phone Call .......................................... 49 Phone Call Roadblocks and Obstacles .......................... 53 Conclusion............................................................... 60

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Introduction
Have you ever felt like there is a set of rules and guidelines about talking to women on the phone that are written in a book that you have never seen or read. You notice your friends and other guys seem to know what the dating rules are but you are just left out in the cold. While you may not know what you need to do correctly when it comes to women, there is little room for doubt when it comes to breaking the rules. Either the girl will dump you, yell at you or never answer your calls again. The good news is that this is the book that you have been missing. This is the book that lets in on the secret of phone flirtation and rules. Let start with an example of what I am talking about. Here is a clip from the movie Swingers
Mike: So how long do I wait to call? Trent: A day. Mike: Tomorrow. Sue: Tomorrow, then a day. Trent: Yeah. Mike: So two days?

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Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days. Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard. Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think? Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious. Trent: Yeah, two's enough not to look anxious. But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you... Mike: Yeah, but you know what, maybe I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number. Charles: Then ask her where you met her. Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll ask if we f**ked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money? Trent: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party. Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies? Trent, Sue: Six days.

Can you see how complicated it can be sometimes. There seems to be confusion about calling. Talk to ANY guy and hell give you his proven rules for calling women. Some guys say call immediately; while others might say wait three to four days. 6 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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So when should you call? Be patient and you will learn the answer Even if you get it right can call in the correct amount of time and get a woman on the phone, what should you say? For many guys, calling women is a very nerve-wracking experience. Normally confident men dont understand how to handle the phone when it comes to calling a woman, nor do they know why its important for their game. game As you begin to understand this phone calling game, remember this: with women you MUST be proactive.

with women you MUST be proactive.

If you dont follow through with women, you might find yourself alone a lot and spending lonely nights alone with your cat. This is a sad, sad truth. If you wait for her to call you will be extremely disappointed, because she will NOT be the first to call. Waiting around for her to do so will amount to watching movies like 50 first dates alone. Your phone will remain silent. There are a couple of things to consider when talking about phone calling a dating. The phone is a tool to call the girl. It helps you to connect with the girl and so it is used more than just a simple appointment making device. Women place great significance on whether a guy calls them or not. If you only call to make the date and do not use it to communicate beyond that purpose, it can make you seem desperate. Mens view of calling a girl is a more 7 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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practical one in contrast to women who have a more emotional attachment to it. Another thing to consider is that many women, especially young ones, dont like making plans far into the future. They dont want to commit themselves far in advance. So calling about a date in two weeks is not usually very productive. You may get the response of, call day before to see if Im available. Some of the reasons that this occurs is because women want to be in control of the situation. They may be really interested in a guy but want to keep their options open. Planning too far in the future limits those options. These unspoken rules may seem frivolous or too complicated, but they are really easy to understand and are very important if you want to secure that girl for more than one date. And thats what were going to discuss! The RIGHT way to talk to women over the phone. Some of the topics that this guide covers are: Why its important to develop your phone skills The goal for any phone conversation How to get a girls number Rules for calling women How to overcome your nervousness before making a call How to turn phone numbers into dates

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Handling problems with your phone calls

Like anything else in life, if you have the right tools, you can accomplish anything. Knowing how to use a phone in the right way will give a tool that will help your overall success with women. Phones may come with instructions about how to use their functions, but they dont tell you what to say to the women. This book is the guide that teaches you the phone skills you need to succeed with women

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The Goal of Phone Conversations


As I mentioned in the introduction a phone has two distinct functions when it comes to calling women: Create attraction & rapport with a woman Set up dates

These may seem like easy goals but many guys forget them when they pick up the phone to call a woman. They have no idea what they want to accomplish as they are dialing and so when a woman answers there can be a lot of awkward conversation and silence. Men are aware that women like to talk on the phone. They spend hours on the phone, but never get done what they really wanted to accomplish. This is because they lack focus and a clear idea about what the goal of their call was. The error is thinking that hours on the phone are needed to build rapport and increase a womans attraction and attention. The reality is that a man can accomplish incredible results on the phone with only a few minutes of talking. The trick is that you have to be focused and know to what youre doing. In order to accomplish a goal you must have the end in mind. That is to say you must know what the goal is and what it will look like when you have accomplished it. In the beginning of this section I mentioned two goalscreating attraction/rapport with a woman and meeting her in person for a date. Lets look at each of these goals individually and in some more depth. 10 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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Recreating Attraction
Unless its a blind date or cold call, you have already made a connection with a woman. You already accomplished your first goal which was to get her number. You have already sparked some attraction with her. Since she gave you her number she expects to hear from you. Unless you called her from the parking lot of the bar you may have met her at, there is a lapse of time between when she gave you the number and when you actually call. (Its not recommended that you call her from the parking lot or she could think you some type of stalker.) During the period of time between giving you her number and you calling her back she has had stuff happening in her life, dating other guys, a busy social life, or sports activities.

During the period of time between giving you her number and you calling her back she has had stuff happening in her life

When you originally met her, she was excited and interested in you. By the time you decide to call her she may be distracted by other things. So your first goal upon calling her to is to recreate this attraction she initially had. You cant assume that a great first meeting will lead to her falling madly in love with you and she has been laying next to phone just waiting for you to call. In that initial call, you have to work just as hard to rekindle that attraction as you did when you first met. This is called 11 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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re-attraction. As you pick up that napkin with her number scribbled in lipstick on it you must remember that your goal is recreate that spark of interest that was created when you first met her. You definitely want to spark that interest before going out on a date. Re-attraction can come in many forms. First you have to fan the flames of attraction into life. At this stage you want to make her comfortable with you. You can tease her in a familiar manner and make her laugh. If you can make her smile and laugh, you have caught her attention. You also want to establish your high value. Being high value is directly related to being a catch. In essence, you know you have a lot to offer the world. It is for this reason that you never give away your time or company for free. It has to be earned. In other words, youre doing the same FLIRTING routines that you would in person. The next stage of reattraction you will want to work at is making her work for YOUR attention. Instead of being at her beck and call, you should act like youre the prize. SHE has to make an effort if she wants YOUR attention. By subtly demonstrating that youre the catch and she has to work for you, youll literally have a woman doing everything she can to make a good impression with you. While this might seem a bit Machiavellian, this is exactly the thing that women do when they meet a guy. They get them to buy their drinks, give compliments, or establish physical contact. Youre just turning the tables to your favor. In a relationship, no matter if it is a first date, or a couple that has been married for 40 years, one of the partners is pursuing the other. Now this may change from time to 12 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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time when pursuer becomes the pursued, but there is always a chase. This is a natural order that keeps things moving in a relationship and keeps it alive. Once the pursuit is over, the relationship will wither and die. I have been in relationships where I really wanted a girl. I pursued her, dated her and then finally slept with her. Once this occurred it was like something died. I was not as attracted to her and she was not as attracted to me. This is because the chase had ended. The hound finally caught the fox. The excitement was no longer there. So its important to fan those flames. Have the girl in hot pursuit of you and she will not stop. If you make yourself the prize and dangle that prize just beyond her reach like a carrot, you will drive her crazy trying to get you. One great routine that Ive discovered and implemented into my own dating life is to steal their frame. When youre in an interaction with a woman, assume the role of being the one that is pursued. Have the mindset that all her actions are done in an attempt to get you to notice her. In fact, shes trying to get a date with you. Another great trick is to accuse her of hitting on you then try to move things forward towards a seduction. Sit down and think of all the ways that women brush you off or try to establish dominance, and start using them yourself. Most quality women are used to guys vying for their attention. But its rare to encounter a man who knows what he wants and isnt afraid to screen women for these qualities

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And believe me; women do want a guy who demonstrates that he is confident and one that has options. Once you have recreated the attraction you will want to work on your rapport with her. Keep in mind that meeting a girl for a 2nd meeting or date is difficult. You may be faced with competition from other guys. You are asking the girl to set aside time for you which means that during that time she is turning down guys that would be less interesting. Plus, theres the safety issue: She has to trust that youre a normal person and not some crazed maniac.

With rapport, you establish a sense of familiarity and comfort with a woman. Your goals when talking to her over the phone is to develop a connection that she doesnt have with other guys. You may need to take your time during this stage and develop a sense of trust with her. With women, its actually better to move too slowly than too fast. After all, who likes to be smothered? As long as youre initiating the next step, its never too slow. If you noted carefully the things you can do to maintain her interest, then shell naturally pursue YOU. And if she doesnt, dont take it personally.

She has to trust that youre a normal person and not some crazed maniac.

The important thing to do is look long-term into the future. Think of practicing the mating ritual as a stock that grows and develops over time. Practice truly does make perfect, but you must commit to the cause. Most people fail because theyre not willing to put in the time or effort.

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The Date
Setting up a date should be the end goal of your phone conversation. This should come after the reattraction and rapport building. If you go for the date up front, you may blow it. You want to build the sexual tension until she will be literally begging you for a date. Sometimes itll take one call to make a date but with some women, it might take a few. Remember take it slow. If you look too eager or desperate, then you will look like the one pursing and she will be less interested in you. No matter how long it takes, you want to maintain the sexual tension that was created in person and over the phone. This is the only way youll be able to set up a date To get to the point of setting up a date you must create that sexual tension and rapport that will put her in the RIGHT mindset to meet you. Later in this book you will learn the RIGHT way to ask for the date. So be patient, its coming. But here are some helpful pointers to consider along the way. You must try to get her on the phone as soon as possible. (Not in the parking lot, but maybe the next couple days after you get her number) You dont want to lose the sexual tension. Its up to you how long to wait, but the longer you wait, the more you risk losing the attraction. Remember there is competition from other guys to consider. You

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do not want her to move on before you have the chance to land a date. Dont fall for the wait to build interest game. Have the mindset that they ARE interested and youre losing nothing by calling them. You are competing for her time, so you have to stand out.

Most first-time conversations get off to a boring start, but you want to begin seducing her from your very first words. Demonstrate through your choice of words that you have an interesting life, and tease her by saying that she could be a part of it. If she asks how your day went, tell her it couldnt have been better. Maintaining a busy lifestyle (or the illusion of one) is exciting to women, as it poses you as being a challenge. When asking her about her day, be choosy in how you respond to her answers. If she says shes not bad or okay, tell her (jokingly) that shes lame or boring. This raises an immediate question about your life, making her curious about what you do thats so exciting. As a result, shell desire to be part of your adventure. Just remember that there are no free passes. She has to earn her right to tag along.

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Getting Her Number (The Right Way)


Getting a girls number opens the door to relationship. It her signal to you that she is interested and that she would like to meet and talk with you again. Remember this about phone numbers: the purpose is to set up a date. A girls number is not a commodity, yet guys treat it this way.

the purpose [of phones] is to set up a date.

Getting a girls number is a chance to take your introductory relationship to the next level. Unless you are one of the lucky few, you wont be able to physically progress the relationship anywhere when you first meet. The phone number is a CHANCE at a date; it should not be seen as a foregone conclusion. She is handing you a tool in order to meet her again in person. The fact is that could lead to date OR it could lead to NOTHING at all. Its all about how you use your chance and whether you can rekindle that spark of interest.

Be a Real Person
To get a girl to give you her number, you have to establish yourself as a real person who she would want to see again. Your first conversation should make her see you as a real person who can be part of her life. You must make her see you as either as a potential lover OR a potential boyfriend. 17 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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Before giving you her number, she has to imagine what it would like to spend time with you. Its not just about physical attraction; you must have an emotional attraction to you as well. If you can create a positive emotional attraction and significant sexual tension, then it becomes easy to set up a follow-up date. This is important because of what I like to call chick psychology.

Chick Psychology
An attractive woman meets guys ALL the time. If shes even remotely polite, shell give out their number to lots of guys. It is a game of chance. She increases her chances of a date just by the sheer number of guys that she gives her number to. The downside is that because an attractive woman has lots of guys on the hook, she has trouble remembering who shes talking to. Its hard to stand out from all the other guys shes met. Unless youre extraordinary, youll have a hard time standing out in her mind. And at any given moment, theyre probably dating (maybe even sleeping with) a couple of guys This means she has a lot of options. Unless you stand out, youre going to have a hard time igniting a spark and getting her attention. You will be a face in a large crowd. 18 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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There are also biological aspects to attraction that you need to be aware of. Even though you dont want to get a girl pregnant, the biological and psychological aspects of attraction and dating are about procreation. A girl will be attracted to a guy that presents the best stock for having a child with. That is to say, it is a strong guy that will produce strong and healthy babies. It all begins with physical attraction: What a guy looks like. Different girls have different definitions what is sexy. You dont have to have bulging arms and a six pack to get a date or even get a girl in bed. You just have to make the right connection. Physical attraction is the first thing that gets a girl to notice you. The next step beyond the initial physical attraction is whether a guy is a good match for them on an emotional level. This has to do with child rearing. Does a man have the potential to be a good father? If a girl can connect on an emotional level with a guy and feel safe with them, they will definitely pursue them. Again the goal is not to have baby with every girl you meet, you just need to be aware of what is going on biologically with a woman and what makes them attracted to a certain kind of guy. (These thoughts will ALWAYS be presentAt least on a subconscious level)

Call-Back Humor
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When you meet a girl for the first time and get her number you may know shes really into you. There are signs like eye contact and physical touching. If a girl touches you while they are talking or giving you her number, you have a keeper. Other times you might call a girl and she might not remember who you are. She could have met a lot of guys that night, or even had too much to drink. Thats why its important to stand out. To increase your overall success with women, you have to create a special bond with EACH girl you meet. One way to accomplish this is what I like to name Call back humor.

To increase your overall success with women, you have to create a special bond with EACH girl you meet.

Call-back humor is where you create a funny routine during the first time you met. This can be nickname you give her, or it could be a funny role-playing routine you created. This is follows the basics of mental philosophy and system called NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). In this system you are creating an anchor in her mind. This is a word or situation in which unlocks memories, feelings or even actions. By accessing this anchor, shell remember the good feelings she had when you first met. You can make her laugh and feel at ease to triggering this memory. For instance, a couple of weeks ago, I met a girl who was originally from Eastern Europe. (I forget what country she told me)

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What was humorous was she had a funny little accent and said Very Nice a few times. So naturally, I gave her the nickname of Borat, which referenced a movie that came out in the U.S. a few years back. I teased her and asked if she wore suits like Borat. And knowing that she saw the movie, I ask if she was the #4 prostitute in all of Khastakstan. I spent a lot of time teasing her and it made her laugh. I created an anchor in her mind with the name Borat. This name connected me to her feeling at ease and laughing. Now this was important because when I called her back, I made references to this Borat nickname. By using the word Borat once I reconnected to her on the phone, we went QUICKLY back to the fun, teasing conversation we had when we first met. With call-back humor, you want to create a fun interaction that is unique to the two of you. You can easily create an anchor to start your phone conversation by giving her a nickname. Call-back humor is designed to put her BACK into the state where shell feel RE-attracted to you. So its YOUR job to create that special, FUNNY connection during your first meeting.

Reference an Event
Ive found that the BEST way to get a number is to have a busy life and appear to have many options. This puts the girl in pursuit by making it seem that she needs to get you

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to call her because she is important enough in your busy life to pay her some attention. You want to talk about the things you do. Then use an upcoming event to get her number. This gives her a reason to want to give you her number. This beats asking for her number WITHOUT a plan.

use an upcoming event to get her number.

Its easier to get a girls number if youre following up with something shes agreed to. An example is that you know about a fun party thats happening next weekend. So when talking to her, discuss your week. Make it seem interesting, but dont invite her too quickly. Dont make it seem like some planned line youre trying to serve her. When you get to the part about an upcoming event, make it seem like you had just thought about it and the fact that you would like to invite her. Describe how much youre looking forward to the event and how much fun it will be. The goal is to make her want to go with you. Then as youre ending the conversation, act as if you had a sudden thought and invite her to this event. You can then ask for her number as a follow up and you have already set your first date. Tell her how exciting it will be and continue to build trust and rapport. You want to make her happy for giving out her number, and that you were NOT only concerned with getting her digits.

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Another way to get a girls number is to simply tell her that you enjoyed her conversation and want to talk to her in the future. But for now, were going to assume that you got her number on the pretense of inviting her out to an event Once you have her number, how long do you wait to call? This is a question that plagues many guys. In the next section, were going to cover when you should make the important first call.

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The Timing of Your Phone Call


As you read in the introduction the timing of phone calls is a favorite topic for many guys. EVERY guy has his own personal theory on the subject. Some say wait 3-4 days, while others may suggest that you call immediately. Many of these theories stem from fear of appearing too desperate. The guys who say wait a few days are the ones who think calling too early makes you seem needy. So are they right? In my opinion, I think the length to call really depends on how SOLID the connection was when you first met the girl. If you know you REALLY hit it off, then you can afford to wait a few days.

the length to call really depends on how SOLID the connection was when you first met the girl.

If however the connection wasnt that strong, then you should call as soon as possible. With this phone call you should focus on building more interest and attraction. My personal technique is to call a girl somewhere in the 48 hour range. I try not to wait too long to call her. I have just found this is a good time frame to call in. This goes back to our conversation about other guys talking to this girl. You ARE in a competition. If you allow TOO much time to elapse, then she wont feel that connection she felt when you first met her.

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Another thing I have found effective is to send a text message to a girl within a couple of hours of meeting a girl. This will be brief message, usually in some form of teasing. The messages dont seek value. In other words, youre not asking her questions NOR does it say anything like It was nice to meet you. It is just a simple flirtation. Going back to my earlier example using the nickname Borat, I sent the following text to that girl: Holy shit, I just met another person with a crazy Borat accent. Do you people travel in packs?!?! This is a subtle message because it uses call-back humor AND it references my status as being a guy who is out meeting OTHER people.

Dont Be The Creepy/Stalker Guy


Let me begin with another scene from the movie Swingers
[It's 2:32am, and Mike decides to call Nikki, a girl he met just a few hours ago] [Nikki's machine picks up: Hi, this is Nikki. Leave a message] Mike: Hi, uh, Nikki, this is Mike. I met you at the, um, at the Dresden tonight. I just called to say that I had a great time... and you should call me tomorrow, or in two days, whatever. Anyway, my number is 213-555-4679 [the machine beeps] Mike: [Mike calls back, the machine picks up]

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Mike: Hi, Nikki, this is Mike again. I just called cuz it sounded like your machine might've cut me off when I, before I finished leaving my number. Anyway, uh, and, y'know, and also, sorry to call so late, but you were still at the Dresden when I left so I knew I'd get your machine. Anyhow, uh, my number's 21 [the machine beeps] Mike: [Mike calls back; the machine picks up again] Mike: 213-555-4679. That's it. I just wanna leave my number. I didn't want you to think I was weird or desperate, or... we should just hang out and see where it goes cuz it's nice and, y'know, no expectations. Ok? Thanks a lot. Bye bye. [hangs up] Mike: [Mike walks away from the phone... then walks back and calls again; once again, the machine picks up] Mike: I just got out of a 6-year relationship, Ok? That should help explain why I'm acting so weird. I just wanted you to know that. It's not you, it's me. I'm sorry... This is Mike. [hangs up] Mike: [Mike calls back, the machine picks up again] Mike: Hi, Nikki, this is Mike. Could you just call me when you get in? I'm gonna be up for awhile and I'd just rather speak to you in person instead of trying to fit it all into [the machine beeps] Mike: Fuck! [Mike calls back, gets the machine again]

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Mike: Uh, Nikki? Mike. It's uh, uh, it's just, uh, this just isn't working out. I think you're great, but maybe we should just take some time off from each other. It's not you, it's me. It's what I'm going through, alright? It's uh... it's only been 6 months ... Nikki: [picks up] Mike? Mike: [very cheerful] Nikki? Great! Did you just walk in or were you listening all along? Nikki: Don't ever call me again. [hangs up] Mike: Wow. I guess you're home.

This additional quote emphasizes another key point I want to make about WHEN to call women and how often in a short time span. In a later section, were going to discuss how to handle non-responsive women, but for now, I want to mention that you should NEVER call women more than once or twice ever OTHER day. Remember, youre the HIGH value guy. You have things to do and people to see. If you are calling all the time it shows you a desperate and alone with nothing to do. Guys with LOTS of stuff going on are NOT calling women 47 times a day. So dont call her several times in a day. If she didnt answer, dont call again for a day or so. Calling too much makes you look like a desperate and pathetic. You CAN call and if you dont leave a voice mail, then contact her a little bit later with a text message. As Ive said, dont overwhelm her with phone calls. 27 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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You should be proactive, NOT needy. Its a delicate balancing act. Its normal in the beginning to do TOO much of either. With some experience, youll learn WHEN to call and when NOT to call. Now that youve gotten her number and youre about to call her, how do you handle nervousness? In this next section, were going to cover a few points about how to avoid the anxiety that happens before calling a woman

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Phone Anxiety
Using a phone to call a girl can be a source of anxiety for guys. They focus on NOT doing the wrong thing because all she needs is an excuse to not see you again. Many men have anxiety for no particular reason, even if they know a woman is interested. Even worse, theres that panic you feel where you simply want to hang up before she even answers the phone. The fear can be paralyzing. Sometimes you may discover that shes NOT in the fun mood she was when you met her. Shes suddenly cold and unresponsive to your questions. Its like shes a completely different girl. This can terrify a guy. The root problem of phone anxiety is placing TOO much emphasis on one girl. No girl is worth getting nervous and anxious over. Dont ever think that she is your ONLY chance for dating. If you do youll convey a desperate vibe in your voice. On the other hand, if youre meeting and calling LOTS of girls, youll give off a relaxed vibe. This calm demeanor comes with experience from talking to different girls. Youre not so concerned with the outcome of one conversation because youre talking to lots of different people. Your goal is to NOT impress her over the phone. Youll only end up looking like youre trying too hard. You need to be casual, relaxed and a little aloof. Have the mindset that you have options. 29 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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Here is a quick way to eliminate the anxiety caused by calling a girl Beforehand, its important to have a little material ready to talk about. Keep a notepad nearby and think of a few points to talk about. This helps for when you get stuck with what to say. She wont see your notes and so you will feel more in control. The trick is to act; not react. If you have a plan and material, you will be in control and your confidence will be evident in your voice. Talk a little slower and lower your voice. Having options in your dating life is a quick way to project a confident attitude over the phone. You wont worry about being a screw up; instead youll naturally let the conversation flow over the phone. A good thing to have in your dating life is different women you can call. This may seem counterintuitive, but when you have LOTS of women in your life, it becomes easier to attract a specific one.

...when you have LOTS of women in your life, it becomes easier to attract a specific one.

It helps develop confidence and a positive self esteem. These characteristics are essential in attracting the right woman. Youll be more relaxed over the phone because you know that the girl you are talking to is not your only option. If it goes badly, then you can move on to the next girl.

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Planning Out Your Call


Another great way is to have a plan of what youre going to say before the phone call. Make a brief script of your talking points. Remember shes not going to see them, so dont be afraid to jot down the important things you wish to discuss. Just like anything in your life, having a plan of action can do wonders for your success. Before you make a call, plan out a detail of what youll say. Some things you can talk about can include: A funny story of something that just happened to you A few questions to ask her to get to know her better and stimulate conversation Backup stories, anecdotes or openers to use if the conversation gets slow A few teasing/funny comments that has worked with other girls A reminder to discuss the date idea you discussed when you first met A high status way to handle the conversation if she suddenly has other plans Second date idea (Use as a last resort) A closure to end the conversation on a high note

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the next section, were going to cover what I consider to be those important rules

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5 Rules for Calling Women


Rule #1 Have a Purpose
Most of the time, calling a girl will be done during the comfort stage of your interaction. Remember that this is the point where shes ALREADY attracted to you and has interest. So your goal is to re-attract her while continuing the sexual tension that you created when the two of you first met. So the purpose of your phone call should be twofold First you want to continue sexual tension which means teasing her, building attraction, while establishing comfort. Typically this involved getting to know her more. Telling a few stories and doing openers. The second purpose for the call is to set up a date. In fact, I would consider this to the most important step of the process. In order to establish a sexual connection, you have to get her in person. This means the phone should be used to reestablish the connection, and then firmly nail down a date. There may be times you might ONLY want to focus on reattracting her and NOT going for a date. You may wait for the second or third call to establish the date. Its important for YOU to know whats needed for the particular girl you are talking to. Basically you have two options: 33 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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Re-attract without going for the date Re-attract and then set up the date

BEFORE you call, you must figure whats the purpose of the call. Is it for re-attraction, setting up a date or both? That way, you can steer the conversation towards the things that will accomplish your ultimate goal which is seeing her in person again.

Rule #2 Be Fun & Energetic


If you did your job right, you met her with high energy and fun. This is the exact same state that you want to replicate when you first start talking to her. Women make a connection between a guys demeanor and what hes like in the bedroom.

When you act like a fun guy, youll make her realize that you could possibly be fun in many other ways. In other words, an exciting personality directly taps into the pleasure side of a womans brain, and yesthis is a good thing! One of the major problems I see in conversations between the genders is what each sex discusses. The mistake that guys make is to converse with women in a logical manner. They think a woman prefers to know only background information about a guy,

Women make a connection between a guys demeanor and what hes like in the bedroom.

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so they steer a conversation towards topics based on facts (i.e. job, hometown, background, hobbies, etc.) While these are useful topics for rapport, they do nothing to build attraction. As you know, a woman is an emotional creature. When she meets a guy, she enjoys that tingly feeling of sexual tension. The guy who can engage the emotional side of her brain is the one shell be attracted to, and one of the best ways to trigger this response is to display a fun personality. When youre a fun guy, your goal is to avoid all boring conversations. Instead, focus on being the man who can bring a woman on an emotional roller coaster. One minute, shes laughing and having fun, and the next, shes turned on and wondering if youre into her. Being a fun guy can be accomplished in a number of ways: Through hobbies: I cannot stress this enough have passions other than women! This not only makes you more interesting, but it also provides for some great stories. Through humor: You dont have to be a stand-up comic to be funny. Learn to laugh at yourself, and pick innocent fun at the things around you. Through stories: Whats the craziest thing youve ever done? Why did your friends give you that particular nickname? Think about your life and what others might find entertaining about it. Through a fun routine: This kind of goes along with the first point about having hobbies. Dont be the guy

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who goes to work, comes home, and repeats it all over again. Have other things going for you as well. Through people you know: Do you know (or have you met) any celebrities? Even better, do you and the girl have any mutual friends? Use that to your advantage by letting everyone (not just the girl) know what a fun guy you are!

A useful trick is to immediately launch into a story from the moment that you call her. That way, youve immediately created a context of fun and excitement when youre talking to her. This brings her back to the fun point that you were having when you first met. Another technique is to use your call-back humor. Start with her nickname and tell a story about something that happened during your day that relates to your shared moment Bottom line is you want to the fun guy whom she met.

Rule #3 Never Bore Her


You shouldnt be talking for hours on the phone. Keep conversations to the point. You are a high status guy and have lots going on in your life. High status guys dont spend HOURS on the phone. Theyre busy living their lives. Out of nervousness, some guys tend to ramble for hours on the phone with women; they talk about everything thats going on in their lives and want to be more intimate. When youre talking to a woman, you want to keep her interested, without boring her to tears. 36 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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If you want to talk about yourself, do so ONLY in the 10-20 minute time frame. Keep the rest of the conversation for being in person with her. I suggest staying on the phone for NO longer than 20 minutes. This is the optimal time for creating attraction and showing the fun side of your personality. Work off HER mood. If shes low or you know its not working, try to change her attitude with the stories that youre telling. This basically bypasses any initial hesitation she has by steamrolling her negativity. As long as youre vibing, you can stay on the phone But once its winding down, you should either go for the date or END the call. Dont stay on the phone for hours talking about nothing in particular. Try to stay focused on your goals. Save these other conversations for when you meet in person.

Rule #4 Avoid Relationship Conversations


Dont treat her like youre already in a relationship. You just met her. This even goes if you felt a special connection OR if you had sex the first night. Just because you were intimate does not mean that you own her now. This means the phone isnt the time to probe her for her dating lifestyle. You shouldnt ask about the guys she is seeing during her free time, nor should you grill her about other relationships she has had. If shes a confident woman, she will NOT allow you to control her life. So asking about what shes doing will only serve to repulse her. It will feel like you are trying to control her. 37 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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You dont want to ask her what shes looking for in a guy or a relationship. It shows your own insecurity. Youre showing that youre concerned with how you measure up to the competition. Confident guys dont show this sign of weakness. They act as if they are large and in charge. A high status guy KNOWS he is the prize that women have to work hard for. A high status guy is not concerned with her dating habits. You have to ASSUME that shes going to be attracted to you. ALSO, you want to avoid QUALIFYING yourself with your phone conversation: Many guys focus on winning a girls heart over the phone. They start with rapport and seek to get her affection through revealing his inner-awesomeness. A phone conversation is neither the time nor the place to win a girls heart. This should be done when you see her, not over the phone. Women are drawn to high status guys. These are the men who dont care about what a girl thinks. They are confident and know that they are attracted to them. Dont talk about all the traits that you have which make you a wonderful boyfriend. If you do your job right, shell intuitively pick up on these through your stories and personality. Dont be concerned with trying to be her Perfect Guy. This moves you back into the controlling and desperate territory. In other words, when a girl discusses what she hates in a man, dont quickly agree and qualify yourself. This shows 38 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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that youre trying to fit HER ideals, instead of qualifying her.

Rule #5 YOU are the Qualifier


Women approach dating as a way to qualify guys and will look for ways to eliminate them from their lives. You should do the same. Make the call with the mindset that youre actively looking for something where she will disqualify herself from your life. ONLY if she proves herself will you want to go on a date or see her again. (To be honest, MOST girls will NOT be the one for you) By being the one who makes the decision, youll have the power in the relationship. MOST of your phone numbers wont lead anywhere. Think of them as sales leads. They could lead somewhere, but you have to do some work to turn them into dates. You must use your phone skill to make the correct determinations.

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The Beginning of the Phone Call


The way you begin your call sets the tone for the rest of the conversation. You want to continue the positive emotion that you created when you first met her.

The way you begin your call sets the tone for the rest of the conversation.

At the beginning of the call you are doing a mini- Reattraction. Youre using your phone skills to engage her interest. Try to be the guy who makes her laugh and lifts her mood. Most guys start off really boring with their conversation. Dont get into this conversation trap. This is where you provide NOTHING for the first couple of sentences. You might say things like Hey whats up, then How are you then Thats great. This does nothing to build attraction, it will only bore her and create awkward silence. To illustrate this point, here is a sample of a boring conversation:
Dave: Hey Tracy, this is Dave. I met you at Pats Bar the other night Tracy: Oh yeah, hiHow are you doing? Dave: Good. Busy dayI didnt call at a bad time, did I? Tracy: Ummmactually Im kind of busy now Dave: OhOk. Maybe I should call back some other time. Or can you talk right now? Tracy: Wellhow about you call me back in a few hours,

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Blah, blah, blahconversation ends!

Just from the tone of the conversation, you can tell that Dave will get NOWHERE with Tracy. Hes not acting like the fun, exciting person she met. Instead, hes acting in a boring, predictable manner. She is probably hoping he will lose her number. Maybe she will be lucky enough to have caller ID. When you get a woman on the phone, dont ask what shes doing or if shes busy, dont talk about how you met, and dont go into a long introduction. If you did your job right when you got her number, she should immediately recognize who you are. The key is to NOT ask what shes doing OR how shes feeling. If you do this you will provide the perfect excuse for her to get rid of you. Instead, you instantly taking over the power of the conversation. From the beginning of the conversation use call-back humor to reconnect with her. Start by greeting her nickname or some other related call-back humor. Then launch into a story. This shows that youre not a stranger and quickly helps to re-establish that connection you had. For instance, Ill paraphrase a conversation from that Eastern European girl: Hey BoratI JUST saw something that totally reminded me of my favorite #4 prostitute in all of Khasakstan Then I immediately launch into a story thats funny and related to our previous interaction.

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Ditch the awkward pauses. Start telling a story from your life or something interesting that happened during the day. Dont run out of things to say. Have a plan and notes if you need them. Simply launch into stories from your life, or start asking her about related topics. Keep an eye on the time and dont lose your focus. Give her a reason why youre calling. Tell her something reminded you of her and made you call her. This makes it seem like the call was more spontaneous. If you feel nervous beforehand, call a good friend and use him or her to warm up in a positive mood. Your voice matters. Speak in a deep, calm voice that radiates an upbeat energy. Dont speak in a cracked high pitched voice. The beginning is about setting the tone and emotion of the conversation. You want her to start thinking of a strong emotion. Get her talking about what shes passionate about. Make her discuss positive emotions. Avoid bad emotions. Think about her emotions. Remember how it was when you first met, and she was having a good time. She WANTED you to call her. Now is your opportunity to recreate that strong sense of a connection. When you call her, she might NOT be feeling that social feeling. You have to get her back to the state when she first talked to you. Thats why call-back humor is so important, and why you have to take control of the conversation from the moment you start talking. Finally the 80/20 rule applies to phone conversations. YOU will be doing most of the talking at 42 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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first. If youre expecting her to carry half the conversation, then the conversation will go nowhere. Your job is to lead the conversation. Like every other aspect of your game, you have to be willing to lead. After a few minutes of stories and call-back humor, youre going to switch over to the middle part of the phone conversation which we will discuss in the next section

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The Middle of the Phone Call


Before we discuss middlephone game, I want to remind you of something. Your success with the phone is in direct proportion to the connection you made during your first meeting.

Your success with the phone is in direct proportion to the connection made during your first meeting.

The better your in-person game, the less youll have to work on the phone. The phone is ONLY used to build rapport and set-up dates. You have to do the work on the front end to initiate the attraction between you and the girl. With enough practice, youll learn when shes ready to meet up. (Actually, when youre good at talking on the phone, youll typically get women asking YOU for dates) If you barrage her with date requests, you only look like you have nothing going on with your life. Women want guys who arent needy. Now once you get past the introduction, you want to spend about 7-10 minutes re-creating that initial attraction you had when you first met. Here are a few techniques for creating that positive emotion she had when she first met you:

#1- Tell Stories

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These are stories and routines that make her interested in you and your exciting life. The idea these conversation pieces should sub-communicate ALL the traits of a desirable male. You need to accomplish this without coming on too strong or bragging. With your stories you want them to know the following about you: Youre a prize Women like you You have options You live a busy and fun life You have a wide social circle

So on one level, youre telling a story or something funny that happened, but youre actually communicating that youre a high status male. Once you know the conversation is vibing and shes interested, you can start establishing rapport and deeper emotional connection. Dont overdo this, but subcommunicate that you have options in your life.

#2- Be Funny
While youre telling stories, you want to keep up the funny tone you had when first met her. Tease her and try to be cocky and funny. As I discussed in Flirt Mastery, humor is one of the classic traits that REALLY attract women. This is equally true of talking to a girl on the phone.

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With that being said, there is a danger to using humor the wrong way. Some guys think that they HAVE to be funny over the phone. But if you try to hard, its another way to come across as overly needy or even creepy. Women intuitively know when a guy is using humor as a way to win over their approval.

The guys who BEST use humor are not concerned with trying to win a girls approval; instead they are talking primarily to amuse themselves. It lightens the mood and keeps a girls interest.

#3 Be The Prize
This is a funny attitude to have, especially since YOU are doing the calling. Your phone conversation should revolve around subtly communicating that you are not like ordinary men. You are someone they should covet. While on one level youre talking about your life, youre telling her: Im a great guy who has lots of options and lots of fun. YOU will have to prove yourself in order to get my attention Your goal is to get her to chase YOU. You want to be the prize she is after.

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But with the being said, you have to be the one to make HER chase you. Take the initiative and set up the instances where she WANTS to be part of your life. (Well cover how to do this in the next section)

#4 Qualify and Build Rapport


As I mentioned before, you will be doing most of the talking at first. You use the ratio of 80/20 where you are doing 80% of the talking. After a few minutes, your stories should spark her interest. Shell probably feel re-attracted and will remember WHY she gave her number to you. At this point, you will want to back away some allow the conversation to become more 50/50. This is where you stop pushing the conversation to get her to open up a little. Allow her to talk a little about her day. Ask her questions. Qualify and see if she matches your ideal of a quality woman. Ask her stuff like What are you passionate about?, What do you like to do for fun? Just dont ask things that put her on the defense. Just keep it fun and interesting. For this part of the phone call, I found that its important to write a few notes about our previous conversation. Get information on her. The more information she yields, the more of a connection shell feel. Listen to what shes saying and get the important details.

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Use the questions that you wrote down ahead of time to get her to fill in the blanks about her life. Make them open ended questions, not yes or no questions. This encourages her to talk more.

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The End of the Phone Call


As I mentioned before, you want to keep conversation in the 10-15 minute range. Towards the end, you want to determine if youre going to ask for the date. Dont call her up and immediately start asking for a date. This makes you look aggressive or too desperate. Use the beginning and middle part of the conversation to connect and make her want to see you again. THEN you can go for the date. If the time and circumstance is right, dont hesitate- ASK.

Calibrating the Phone Call


Calibrate your phone calls. Look for the indicators that shes interested in seeing you again. Then tell her that you would like to see her during the week for a drink or a cup of coffee. Dont make it a big deal. Make it seem like you just thought of it. Use the phone call as the basis for your decision to see her. This is the illusion that you werent originally interested in setting up a date only to chat. In essence, youre screening her. This is the essence of being a challenge. It will make her wonder about you. One of the keys that youre doing well is when a girl starts listing what shes doing in the evening or later in the week. It is her way of communicating that shes looking for you to initiate the conversation about meeting up. She wants you to ask her out.

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If youre getting the vibe that shes ready to be asked out, then you should set up the date. Dont be too anxious, be very cool about it.

Setting Up the Date


If the timing is right as the conversation ends, go for closing the date. Say it in a casual tone like Hey, we should meet for a drink this week. Then shut-up. Let her describe her schedule to you. Pick out a day that works for you. A different technique you could try is to turn it around and tell her what days youre busy, then set up plans on a specific day. Invite her to something fun that youre doing. Try not to frame anything as a date. Dont say something lame like, We should go on a date? Thats high school dating at a soda shop. Instead say something like You should come hang out or Im about to go to the mall, you should join me. You dont want to detract from yourself by trying to lure her with something like a fancy restaurant. Instead you want to BE the value to the interaction. You goal is to make her want to be around you, not use you for an expensive dinner. Call her up and talk about what youre doing. Make it sound interesting even if it is just shopping in a mall. Then invite her to join you. Turn what could be a mundane list of stuff into something interesting.

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What If She Says No or Maybe?


If a girl says Im not sure, call me the day before and ask me, tell her NO, you need a few days advance notice to schedule things. Dont let her make you chase her. Let her know about your busy schedule. Then say that you can always do something when shes less busy. Be firm and communicate that its important to keep up commitments that people make with you. Sometimes youll get the excuse that shes busy or cant do anything. If shes busy, then talk about ONE other thing that youre doing. If she seems REALLY interested, then you can set up plans, otherwise, tell her youll call back to set something up. One tactic I like to do is act like I didnt hear her No response. I quickly return to the re-attraction material. Then I go for a different close like doing something spontaneous or easy to say yes tolike, lets grab some ice-cream now. That tactic usually works to get to meet with the busy women. This leads to something that Ive started to do which is VERY successful

Be Spontaneous
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If shes actually doing something, then talk about what you have going on in the evening. Make sure that its something that you would NOT ask her to come to. [Like youre about to go running or to the gym] If she says nothing much, then you could suggest something to do. Have something ready before you call. This sharply decreases her ability to say no and will get you a date quickly.

Ending the Phone Conversation


Regardless if you did or didnt set up a date you shouldnt hang up after talking about the plans. This can make it seem that was all you were after. Your game will be revealed. Instead, continue for a minute or so. Playfully banter, tease and share another story. YOU should be the one to end the phone call. You must know when to end the conversation. DO this before the conversation lags into stale territory. Demonstrate value by ending first and having a reason to get off. An example would be I have to go. I promised my buddy I would help pick out furniture for her new apartment Remember you are a busy guy who has stuff to do. Convey this as youre ending the conversation. No matter what, end on a high note. Show the same level of energy that you did from the moment you started talking to her.

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Phone Call Roadblocks and Obstacles


Not all phone conversations will go smoothly. In fact, with almost EVERY woman, youll encounter a few problems along the way. Its all HOW you handle these situations that will determine if you can turn phone numbers into dates or goodbyes. In this section, were going to cover a few different tactics to help out with your phone conversation problems

Voicemail
If you get her voicemail, leave a message. Just dont hang up and call back 23 times. Many people have caller ID and all of those calls will show up. You will seem like a desperate freak. Dont do it. Remember shes busy and might not have time to talk on the phone. Girls get busy just like guys. Dont get annoyed if shes never answering the phone. Ditch the mindset where you think she doesnt want to talk to you. She may not have the time. Most of the time, shell be VERY happy to talk to you. There are TWO types of messages you could leave on a machine: Teaser/Call to Action- Do a call-to-action to get her to return your calls. Give something thatll provide an opportunity for her to call you back. In fact, you can make it a teaser; something thatll emotionally prompt her to call you back.

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Here is an example, Hey this is DaveI just saw the MOST amazing thingyou have to hear this. A message like this will definitely make her call you back. The other option is to be straight to the point. This is where you simply use call-back humor and tell her to call you back, nothing more. Instead of saying, Hey Tracy, I loved meeting you the other night. We have to go on a date sometime. Simply say something like: Hey Borat, this is DaveCall me back. Simple but effective!

She Never Calls You Back


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Theres nothing to lose by being a little persistent. Vary the time that you could call her: Morning, or night or even the afternoon. Continue to pursue for a week on the schedule of every other day. If you cant get in touch, try texting her. Dont worry about calling a few times. If you feel you have strong internal game, then you wont look like you have low social value. If youre communicating value, it wont matter the amount youre calling, unless you cross over to being a stalker. Have the mindset that youre calling to entertain yourself, NOT her. If you dont hear from her by the end of a week, then its probably time to move on. Even if you stop calling her, keep her number around. You would be surprised at the response if you invite a couple of dead numbers to a fun event like a Halloween party. You can call the numbers in your phone book that youve lost touch with or you can simply send a happy Halloween text to the girls in your book. This can help you start talking to a girl again.

If Shes Always Too Busy


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HER criteria for someone she wants to date. Your job is to figure out what youre doing right when you first met her. Some of the reasons she may not be into you are: Not matching her dating style (Classic attraction archetype) You have low social value You appear too needy or desperate You were too quick to ask for her number She has a boyfriend

One of the major problems with getting a phone number is the good chance that she wont call you back or may not be really interested. My solution to this is simple. Make sure you built enough attraction when you first meet a woman.

make sure you build enough attraction when you first meet a woman.

If shes not calling you back, then its probably because of a mistake that YOU MADE when you first met her. If this is the case, no amount of cajoling or stalking her will make her call you back. Being busy is NOT an excuse If her perfect dream guy life calls up, she would IMMEDIATELY drop what shes doing. Your job is to convey that you have a HIGH enough status that she wouldnt hesitate to agree to do something with you.

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Flaking
Most men think girls flake out because theyre not attracted. This isnt true. What happens to most women when they meet an interesting guy is they get into state and honestly enjoy the conversation. But these feelings are quickly forgotten when the real world gets in the way. When a guy calls, they now have to fit him in with their everyday lives. They forget the positive fun, feelings they had with this guy. Think about your average attractive girl. She meets a cool guy and spends some time with him and gives out her number. At the time, she IS interested in him. And she honestly wants to see him in the future. But, the future is a general time frame When you call for a SPECIFIC date, she now is being asked to mentally locked into a real event. The hard part is that your date idea has to initially beat anything better than sitting around and doing nothing. This isnt very hard to do. It gets tricky, because shes meeting LOTS of guys. These guys are going to be asking her out just like you are. She does NOT have time to date 10-15 guys each week. Most of those potential guys are going to lose out. It gets especially difficult when shes nervous about meeting strange men. Shes not sure if youre a psycho who will 57 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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rape or attack her. If shes not comfortable, she wont want to date you. All of this can add up to her looking for reasons to NOT see you. Most women dont want to be in a socially awkward situation. Furthermore, she might take into account WHY youre interested in her. Are you desperate? Are you only after sex? Good looking women consistently get validation from the guys theyre dating. Many dont have those feelings of neediness that guys get. So its easy for them to ditch a few, because the have an abundance mentality. They know its easy to find someone else who will be pursuing them. Some girls will not respond to your texting/calling. This might make you angry. But, NEVER confront this behavior. Dont leave a message on her machine saying youre getting annoyed or if you see her, dont make her feel bad for not responding. This will kill a relationship before it has a chance to really start. When you contact her again, your best solution is to simply NOT TALK ABOUT HER FLAKY BEHAVIOR. Continue to flirt and have fun with her. Act as if you dont care that shes not responding to you. Never lecture her about not responding. Dont get angry and lose your cool. These actions only make you look weak 58 Distinctive Advantage Marketing

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and needy. And to be honest, she probably doesnt really care how you feel. The fault lies within you. If you dont create enough interest, then its YOUR fault that shes not following up with your plans. No matter what sacrifices you make, it really doesnt mean anything to her. If she knows you changed around your entire life just to meet her, then you have lowered your social status. As weve discussed, the high status guys have LOTS of women vying for his attention. He does NOT arrange his life around a specific girl, NOR does he get upset if one blows him off. He keeps living his life. The best reaction to a woman who acts flaky is to simply tell her its okay and youre going to invite somebody else. Getting angry for her flaky or fickle behavior never works. It makes her feel like shes being put on the spot, like she has to defend herself.

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Conclusion
As I mentioned before, the phone is ONE part of your game. Its a tool thatll help you stay in the touch with the women you meet. In order to turn numbers into dates, you have to know how to maintain that sexual tension. Remember you use the phone for two reasons: Re-attraction Setting up the date

If you follow the suggestions from this guide, itll be easy to spark the chemistry you had when you first met this girl. Then its easy to set up a date and work towards a physical relationship. With enough practice, youll quickly develop your dating skills. So even if you fail with a girl on the phone, youve at least gained some experience that you can use for the NEXT girl you call up! Good luck!

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